“… but be transformed by the renewal of your mind… romans 12:2 strategic pastoral counseling...
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“…But be transformed by the renewal of your mind… Romans 12:2
STRATEGIC PASTORAL COUNSELING
FORTHE SEXUALLY ADDICTED
‘FROM CHAINS TOCHANGE.’
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WHAT IS SEXUAL ADDICTION?OVERVIEW:
• A PROGRESSIVE INITIMACY DISORDER:
• COMPULSIVE SEXUAL ACTS AND THOUGHTS.
• THE NATIONAL COUNCIL ON SEXUAL ADDICTION & COMPULSIVITY DEFINES IT:
• (1) “PERSISTENT/ESCALATING PATTERNS OF SEXUAL BEHAVIOR;”
• (2) “BEHAVIOR ACTED OUT DESPITE NEGATIVE CONSEUQENCES.”
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SEXUALLY ADDICTED TRAITS
• SOME ADDICTS DO NOT…
• PROGRESS BEYOND COMPULSIVE MASTURABATION, PORNOGRAPHY,
• OR • PHONE/COMPUTER
SEX
• SOME ADDICTS ARE• INVOLVED
ILLEGALLY:
• 1. EXHIBITIONISM• 2. VOYEREURISM• 3. OBSENCE CALLS• 4. CHILD
MOLESTATION• 5. RAPE
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STATISTICS….
• 55%-CONVICTED SEX OFFENDERS-CONSIDERED ADDICTS
• 71% OF CHILD MOLESTERS-CONSIDERED ADDICTS
• 42% OF PEOPLE SEEK 1ST SPIRITUAL HELP
Problem Areas:MaritalLegalFinancialPsychologicalSocialHealth
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THE ADDICTION CYCLE
• FOUR STEPS:
• 1. PREOCCUPATION
• 2. RITUALIZATION
• 3. COMPULSIVE SEXUAL BEHAVIOR
• 4. DESPAIR (LACK OF HOPE/POWER)
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SEXUAL ADDICTIONTHE CRITERION:
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PROGRESSION
• ADDICTION PROGRESSES BY:
• 1. WIDELY PRACTICED SOCIAL BEHAVIORS.
• 2. SLIGHT ILLEGAL ACTIVITIES-• (VOYEREURISM, OBSENCE CALLS, ETC)
• 3. VIOLENT ACTIVITIES-• (RAPE, INCEST, CHILD MOLESTATION)
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COUNSELING APPROACH
• BIBLICAL & EXPLICITLY CHRISTIAN
• SPIRITUALLY FOCUSED
• HOLISTIC
• STRATEGIC
• BRIEF & TIME LIMITED
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THEENCOUNTER:Stage 1.
1. INITIAL MEETING
(Empathy, Respect, Authenticity)
2. JOINING & BOUNDARY SETTING
3. PASTORAL DIAGNOSIS
4. PRIMARY FOCUS
4.
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STAGE #2- ENGAGEMENT.
• EXPLORING FEELINGS:• Shame• Guilt• Nervousness• Denial• Hopelessness• Fear• Loneliness• Feeling Unloved, etc.
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ENGAGEMENT- Session 2.
EXPLORING THOUGHTS:• Insecurity
• Poor Self Worth
• Abuse
• Anger
• Violence
• Hurt• Dysfunctionalism
REINTERPRETATION
Security
Value
Wholeness
Joy Peace
Life
Healing
Owning Emotions
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ENGAGEMENT- Session 3
BEHAVIORAL PLAN:
1. CONCRETE
2. SPECIFIC
3. REALISTIC
4. ATTAINABLE
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KNOW THE BIBLICAL MANDATES:
• GENESIS 2: 21-25
• LEVITICUS 20: 7-24
• ROMANS 12: 1-3
• 1 PETER 1: 3-16
• HEBREWS 12: 14-15
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PLAN A BIBLICAL RESPONSE
• 1. OBTAIN THE BIBLICAL PERSPECTIVE ABOUT THE SITUATION.
• 2. WRITE THE PERSPECTIVE DOWN.
• 3. MEMORIZE IT.
• 4. PRACTICE IT.
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DISENGAGEMENT, STAGE 3
• I. EVALUATE PROGRESS /CONCERNS:• Review what was learned• Identify Anticipated Difficulties• Identify coping skills/mechanisms• Know Referral Sources
• II. DISCUSS RESOURCES/REFERRAL
• III. TERMINATE COUNSELING
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REFERRAL SOURCES
• CULTIVATING PURITY (Insight for Living)• CARE LINE: (972)-473-5097
• PURE INTIMACY- 800 A-FAMILY (232-6459)
• EVERY MAN’S BATTLE• NEW LIFE MINISTRIES-800- 639-5433
• NATIONAL COUNCIL SEXUAL ADDICTION & COMPULSIVITY- 770-541-9912
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BIBLIOGRAPHY
• Benner, David G. Strategic Pastoral Counseling. A Short Term Structural Model. Michigan: Baker Academic, 2003.
• Herkov, Michael, PHD. “What is Sexual Addiction.” Psych Central. http://psychcentral.com/lib/what-is-sexual-addiction (accessed December 17, 2013).
• A Biblical Perspective on Caring for People, Insight for Living Counseling Insights