dennis franck, coach/consultant/speaker franck insights [email protected]
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Mostly 30 - 55 yr old adults
REASONS FOR SINGLE ADULT & YOUNG ADULT MINISTRY!
1. Demographics demonstrate it!
44% of U. S adults are single or single - again
Why do most churches have less?
Why are we not retaining them?
Never married 64.5 M 27.5%
Divorced 25.0 M 10.6%
Widowed 14.3 M 6.0%
103.5 M 44.1%
Separated 5.5 M 2.4%
Source: U.S. Census Bureau, Current Population Survey, 2012Social & Economic Supplement
44 % U.S. ADULTS NOT MARRIED(AGE 18+)
Growth of Single Person Households
1900 5% of all households
1960 13% of all households
1970 17% of all households
2011 28% of all households America's Families and Living Arrangements: 2012 http://www.census.gov/Press Release/www/releases/archives/familieshouseholds/013378.html
UNMARRIED HOUSEHOLDS… MARRIED HOUSEHOLDS…
Married households 2005 2010 55.2 million………………49.8 percent 51.0 percent
Unmarried households 55.8 million …………..…50.2 percent 49.0 percent
14 million single women 5 million single men 36. 7 million single, “non family”- friends of same/opposite sex
Reported in 10/15/06 Yahoo News, Maxim KniazkovU.S. CENSUS BUREAU - 2005 American Community Survey http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20061015/ts_alt_afp/afplifestyleusscociety_061015170214
COHABITATION-U. S. 2012 – 7.8 million unmarried-partner households
(2000 - 5.5 million) America’s Families and Living Arrangements: 2012
Over half of all marriages are preceded by cohabitation
Half of 25 - 40 yr. olds have cohabitated
21 % of all unmarried-partner households include children
–Step Family Association of America
Median Age at First MarriageMen Women
2011 28.2 27.0
1990 26.1 23.9
1980 24.7 22.0
1970 23.2 20.8
1960 22.8 20.3-2011 census bureau demographics
Divorce/Remarriage
• 43 percent of first marriages divorce 1
• 60 percent of remarriages with children divorce 1
• 65 percent of remarriages with children from a prior marriage divorce 1
• 65 percent of simple stepfamilies (1 partner with a child) divorce 2
• 70 percent of complex stepfamilies (both partners have children) divorce 2
• 1 January 9, 2006, Newsweek, “The ‘Familymoon’” • 2 In her book For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered, Dr. Hetherington specifies the divorce rate
for step-couples to be “50 percent higher in remarriages with stepchildren” Specifically, then, the divorce rate is 65-70%. (p. 178).
THE FACE OF THE FAMILY HAS CHANGED! Nuclear Family
Single - Parent Family Step/Blended - Parent Family
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www.singleandparenting.org/startagroup
Phone: 800-395-5755
International: 919-562-2112*Children under the age of 18 who live with their own single
parent. Data from
the Population Reference
Bureau analysisof data
from the US Census Bureau
(2011), via the Annie E.
Casey Foundation.
THE CHURCH MUST REACH NEW TYPES OF “FAMILIES”
SINGLE PERSON FAMILY SINGLE PARENT FAMILY STEP PARENT FAMILY BLENDED PARENT FAMILY NUCLEAR FAMILY EXPANDED FAMILY GRANDPARENT FAMILY UNMARRIED PARENT FAMILY HOMOSEXUAL PARENT FAMILY HOMOSEXUAL/HETEROSEXUAL PARENT
FAMILY
REASONS FOR SINGLE ADULT & YOUNG ADULT MINISTRY!
2. People’s lives motivate it!
Many needs/issues of young adults/single adults not addressed from biblical & single adult perspective.
Where are they getting their information if not from the church?
COMMON NEEDS/INTERESTS MARRIED & SINGLE ADULTS
(almost any adult class addresses these)
SALVATION BAPTISM DISCIPLESHIP OBEDIENCE PRAYER LIFE COMMITMENT BIBLE TEACHING SPIRITUAL GROWTH
UNIQUE NEEDS OF YOUNG ADULTS/SINGLE ADULTS
WHERE IN THE CHURCH ARE THESE ADDRESSED?
Rearing kids alone Shared parenting Relating to my former
spouse Sexuality and singleness Money management Peer Friendships Learning to forgive my ex Accepting Singleness Dating/dating again Divorce Recovery Living with mom/dad Understanding emotions Grief recovery
Dealing with changes Learning to trust again Loneliness Humility Building an identity Singleness in a marriage
& family-oriented church Career choice Pre-Marital education Re-Marital education Blending families Relating to married
adults Adjusting to Widowhood
REASONS FOR SINGLE ADULT AND YOUNG ADULT MINISTRY!
3. People’s ministry potential validates it!
Impact of millions of young adults and single adults who are radical for Christ!
I COR. 7: 26-28 Paul encourages singleness
I Cor. 7: 8, 26-32 - Paul indicates for ministry it is better to be single than married
PEOPLE WHO MADE A DIFFERENCE!
JOSEPH-Fled advances of Potiphar’s wife LILLIAN TRASHER- Orphanage in Egypt CORRIE TEN BOOM-Survivor of death camps DIETRICH BONHOFFER-Writer/spiritual
philosopher GRIMKE SISTERS-First women to speak publicly against slavery in the
south MOTHER THERESA-Humanitarian IRENA SENDLER – Polish Catholic social
worker – smuggled/rescued 2500 Jewish children
PEOPLE WHO MADE A DIFFERENCE!
POPE BENEDICT XVI - Leader of the Catholic world
HENRIETTA MEARS - Gospel Light Publishing founder
EVANGELINE BOOTHE - Daughter of William Booth- helped to begin the Salvation Army
CLARA BARTON - Founder of the Red Cross
APOSTLE PAUL - Greatest missionary/author
JESUS-Savior of the world THEY WERE ALL SINGLE ADULTS!
REASONS FOR SINGLE ADULT AND YOUNG ADULT MINISTRY!
4. Jesus’ life authenticates it! 33 yr. old never –married adult The greatest, most influential single adult to
ever live!
Pattern your life after Him!
THREE SINGLE ADULTS WHO CHANGED THE
WORLD!OUR FAITH IS BASED UPON:
A Jewish single adult from Galilee
Whose ministry was preceded by a single adult named John the Baptist
And whose mission thrust was modeled by a single adult named Paul
Resources – DVD’s/Videos
Single Creek www.singlecreek.com Drawing Near – John Bevere Love and Respect – Emerson Eggerich Living Pure In An Impure World – (Dennis
Franck) Song of Solomon – Tommy Nelson Faith Lessons - Ray van der Laan 36 Parables Sermon Spice Nooma (13 minute videos on life)