manage anger

8/14/2019 Manage anger

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ANG ERMA NAG EME NT

NEERAJ BHARDWAJ


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AN G ERMAN AG E M E N TAnger management does not

involve getting rid of all anger,

but using anger to enhance yourlife. We can look at the purposes

of anger in both a positive andnegative light.


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AN G ERMAN AG E M E N TThe positive aspects of anger

are that you have increased

energy, are able to communicateyour feelings, able to problem

solve and can take charge of thesituation.http://www.anger-management.net/question_show.cfm?selected=85
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AN G ERMAN AG E M E N TThe negative aspects of anger

are that you can have disruption

of your thinking, unnecessarilydefend yourself, become

aggressive and become knownas an angry person.http://www.anger-management.net/question_show.cfm?selected=85


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AN G ERMAN AG E M E N TAnger management would be

seen then as increasing the

positive aspects or functions ofanger and decreasing the

negative functions of anger.http://www.anger-management.net/question_show.cfm?selected=85


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AN G ERMAN AG E M E N T

So now,,, you have a

EMPLOYEE that is displaying alot of ANGER! Now What do you

do?


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T Skills needed in dealing with youranger:

.2 Identify a range of feelings including anger

.3 Identify aggressive acts by self and others

.4 Identify the potential consequences to self and othersfrom these aggressive acts

.5 Identify self-destructive behavior

.6 Identify thoughts prior to aggressive acts

.7 Identify internal cues to feelings of anger.8 Develop coping mechanisms for dealing with anger

.9 Express anger without loss of control


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T I am in charge

of my own

feelings:.1 I own my feelings.

.2 It is okay to feel angry.

.3 Anger is part of being human.

.4 I learn how to express my

anger in helpful ways.


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T Identify

aggressive acts

shown by self

and others:

Throw something

Kick someone orsomething

Get in someones face

Shoving, grabbing, hitting

Break something

Call someone names

Give someone a dirty

look Silent treatment

Get others to gang up

Spread rumors


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T I choose to feel

good about

myself through

expressing myfeelings.

1. I express angry feelings in ways

that are fair to others and me.2. I use fair wordse.g.

I feel when you


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T The more I learn to

take care of my

anger the more

powerful I become.

1. I need to control what I do

with my anger.

2. I control how I let my angerout.

3. I practice cooling off.

4. I watch my thoughts.


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T Know the difference between ANGER

and AGGRESSI ON. Anger is an emotion. It is ok to be angry.

Aggression is acting out inappropriately

and is not ok. Learn to check your

aggression and express your anger

appropriately.


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T Ways to Keep Cool:

2. Get exercise every day.

3. Eat right.4. Get enough sleep.

5. Learn to relax.

6. Know your feelings.7. Write about those feelings.


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T Ways to Keep Cool:

2. Find a quiet place.

3. Take a time out.

4. Find fun distractions.

5. Make good decisions about what you see and

hear.

6. Choose friends who make you feel good.

7. Learn to forgive and forget.


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T Identify potential

consequences of

your anger to

others andyourselfwhat

can that mean for

you?

Physical harm to

someone or self

Destruction of property

Loss of family/friends Loss of job

Loss of social privileges

Going to jail

Getting a bad reputation


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T Identify self-

destructive

behaviorHow

does that help orhurt you?

Negative self-talk

Blaming everyone else

Taking everythingpersonally

Assuming

Overeating, drinking

Driving recklessly

Taking drugs

Looking for fights

Feeling outraged


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T Identify thoughts

prior to

aggressive acts:

You did that on purpose

You wanted to hurt me

You deserve this

You never even asked me

Youre being unreasonable

You think youre so good

Ill show you

You started it

Theres no justice


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T Identify internal

cues to feelings

of anger:

Stomach gets tight/upset

Heart is beating faster

Clenching fists

Feel myself gettingflushed

Pressure on my temples

Sweaty palms

Clenched jaw


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T I dont have to

hold on to myanger.

2. I find ways to let it go

3. I talk about hurt andangry feelings.

4. I look for someone todiscuss my anger.

5. I discuss my words andactions that hurt others.


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T Steps to taming

anger

2. Know what pushes your

buttons.3. Know your bodys anger

signs.

4. Stop and think!

5. Cage your rageits yourchoice.

6. Decide what to do.


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T I take power.2. I stand up for myself and

others being hurt.

3. I learn to defeat negativeself-talk.

4. I feel good aboutlearning about myself.

5. I am strong when I usefair and firm wordsinstead of fists.


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T I remember that

people are

precious.2. I watch my thoughts, words,

and actions.

3. I stop hurting people with my

words and actions.

4. I take ownership of thehurtful things I do and say.

5. Bullying hurts everyone.


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T1. Calm down2. Name the problem

3. Find solutions

4. Pick the bestsolution

5. Congratulate

yourself

6. Evaluate the

solution

7. Make changes if

necessary


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T Can you identify any of the steps in

resolving conflict, controlling your

anger and avoiding aggressive

behavior?

Well(then click)


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ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T Calm down

Show mutual respect

Name the problem Find solutions

Choose the best solution

Congratulate yourself Review the solution that was picked


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When you are ANGRY and UPSET

remember

1-2-3 TURTLE


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1 Go inside your shell THINK before you ACT

Take a Time Out


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Time to RELAX

Calm yourself down

2 Take 3 Deep Breaths


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Think of a good solution

3 Walk Away


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