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PrimeTimerhode island

MagazineThe Best Years of Your Life

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octob e r 2009

dollarsand sense

• stretching Yourfashion $• eating healthy on a Budget

We’ll show you how!• a Crushing Wave of taxesHow RI seniors are affected

Second Hand ShoppingAround the State

PrimeTimerhode island

MagazineThe Best Years of Your Life

december 2009

free

MeetProfessor

Claus

holiday

TradiTions

Problem Solved!

affordable

Gift GivinG ideas

• all aboard

for Christmas Collectibles

• the Gift of

GivinG baCk

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may 2009 free

survivors stories of Hope, Faith and Family

art Therapy • Celebrating Motherhood • living to 100

rhode island

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inside this issue...

wina claddagh ring!

HomeImprovementdiY

Betty Adler’s Tools for Success

There’s No PlaceLike Home

Home Modification

Habitat for Humanity

Going Feng Shui

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the magic of old hollywood

movies • actors • theatre • music

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inside this issue!2 contests!2 chancesto win!

endlesstravelPossibilitiesvacationsclose to home• enjoy the Great outdoors• tips for travelers

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secrets to a long & happymarriageSexy Bringing

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tips for abetter you• easy exercisesfor everyone• food for thought• Going for the Gold

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SpringiS in theForecaSt• Ghiorse factorsin retirement

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Cheers to 2010!

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In January of last year, my sentiments to you focused on New Years resolutions - what to accomplish, how to keep them and how we’d all benefit from them. I’m proud to say that I actually stuck to my resolutions last year, but as 2010 kicks off, I find myself less concerned with making rules and more interested in breaking them.

It’s been a tough year all around. The nationwide unemployment rate is about 10 percent, people are fed up with politics and most of us have had to cut back on the little extras to stick to a barebones budget.

So consider this a special dispensation from your “to do” lists for the New Year. When there’s so much anxiety going around, I for one think it’s time to celebrate the things we should be grateful for. The Bureau of Labor Statistics estimates that last year, close to 62 mil-lion people volunteered their time to help people and causes that are worse off. Charitable giving is down, but the National Philanthropic Trust says 89 percent of households give in whatever way, however little, they can. In a lot of ways, this recession is reminding us what’s important.

This year, get back to basics. Raise your glasses to the things that mat-ter most and give a toast to 2010. That’s what we did in this month’s Prime-

Time. We put our cares aside and celebrated. After all, that’s what New Years is all about.

Nothing makes a party like top-notch entertainment, and we’ve got a few characters in this issue. Meet Astrid Drew, who celebrates her heritage through song, or Ginny Loring Cook, who has been an entertainer since the age of 4. For theater-goers, Don Fowler has a great wrap-up of what the upcoming season has to offer.

For some feel good news, read about St. Elizabeth Community changing the way elder care is done and piloting a vacation program that they’re now advocating for at the state level. Lorette Dussault broke some rules of her own, and decided in her late for-ties that it was the best possible time for her to start a family. Then there’s Roberta Hum-ble, who is promoting her home state while giving families an affordable way to spend quality time together.

And in true New Years fashion, we pulled up a stool and picked the brains of two bar-tenders who have been serving up celebra-tions for a combined 40 years. They’ve heard a lot of stories and seen a few crazy things behind the bar - and they wouldn’t throw in the towel for anything.

Front to back, this issue is a feel-good look at Rhode Islanders who are looking on the bright side. Let them serve as an exam-ple of what positive thinking can bring. Take a cue from them and kick off your shoes. It’s time to celebrate 2010.

Happy New Year!

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NEW YEARIN THIS ISSUE

Sounds of the old country ..................................4Astrid Drew celebrates her heritage through song

An unlikely family ..................................................5Lorette Dussault celebrates building a family

Behind the bar .......................................................6Two Rhode Islanders serve up and celebrate 2010

Star for the seniors .............................................10Ginny Loring celebrates a lifetime of performing

The good ol’ days ................................................11Retirees celebrate easy friendships born of hard work

Take a ‘Rhode’ trip ..............................................20Creative businesswoman celebrates the Ocean State

fifty years out ......................................................24Don Fowler celebrates love longlasting

PLUSPROfESSIONAL PERSPECTIvEYour taxes ................................................................................................................................12 Senior Issues .........................................................................................................................16 Savvy Senior ...........................................................................................................................17

fOOD & DRINKSmart choices for the new year .............................................................................13

LIfESTYLESThat’s Entertainment .......................................................................................................18A vacation from the usual ...........................................................................................19What do you Fink? ............................................................................................................21

PEOPLE AND PLACESGlimpse of RI’s past......................................................................................................... 22

february will be a cold one, but things are still burning up with our issue on the trends and to-dos that are hot this year.

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Astrid drew

Sounds of the old countryMost days Astrid Drew tends to patients on the cardiac unit at Memorial

Hospital in Rhode Island. She has been a nurse for 30 years.On Tuesday nights, though, she sings.She joins with 11 other women to sing the songs that some remember

from their childhoods. Since 1984, the Scandinavian Women’s Chorus of Rhode Island has been keeping alive Scandinavian folk songs, traditional and modern, while at the same time incorporating American music into their repertoire.

Led by music director Stephen Moye, the women’s chorus practices on Tuesday nights at the Scandinavian Home in Cranston. (Their male coun-terpart – the Verdandi Male Chorus - has the same mission; they practice at the Scandinavian Home on the same Tuesday evenings.) Four to five times a year, the Women’s Chorus gives concerts, often in conjunction with festivals, like the Christmas festival at Bethany Lutheran Church, also in Cranston. The Scandinavian Women’s Chorus joins with the Verdandi Chorus several times a year as well.

“This is not a singalong,” Drew said.A committee selects the year’s music beforehand, choosing pieces to

accommodate a range of voices from soprano to alto. They aim for half the songs to be in Swedish, though Astrid explains that if a member who knew any of the other Scandinavian languages were to join the chorus, the group would add Icelandic, Norwegian, Finnish, or Danish songs to their repertoire. The chorus includes a few songs from the modern Swedish group ABBA, and audiences recognize the songs from Mamma Mia without necessarily linking them to the group or Sweden. The chorus also includes American songs, folk and modern, with a piano accompaniment.

The chorus members range from early 20s to age 70. Astrid is one of two

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members born in Sweden. Born in Karlshamm, she earned a nursing degree in Sweden, then, at age 28, anxious to see a new country, she came to the United States, settling with relatives in Connecticut.

She worked first as a nurse’s aide, then, when she got her American nurs-ing credentials, worked in a hospital emergency department. In Norwalk, she met her future husband. In time they moved to Rhode Island, where she raised two sons and a daughter, with the latter also singing in the chorus. And, to the delight of audiences who hear the Scandinavian chorus, Astrid resumed singing the songs of her native country.

In as polyglot a nation as the United States, ethnic music groups are common. Name an ethnicity – German, French, Italian, Armenian - and you will likely be able to find a group of singers. This chorus belongs to the American Union of Swedish Singers, an umbrella organization for 700 singers in 31 choruses.

Whatever their origins, Americans can enjoy Scandinavian music. Indeed, a few of the chorus members have no familial ties to Scandinavia. They simply love the music. As for the language, lyrics are written phoneti-cally, so everybody can learn.

“Säg det med en sång,” becomes “Say it with a song.” Yet the ethnic ties represent only part of the lure. For Astrid, as for most singers, the lure is the joy of singing.

“I just love singing. It’s good for your health,” Drew says. “It makes you happy.”

Prospective members need not audition. The group welcomes newcom-ers. If you are interested in learning more about the Scandinavia women’s chorus, contact Astrid Drew by e-mail at [email protected].? n

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An Unlikely FamilyLorette Dussault and her daughter Jess aren’t your typical mother-

daughter team. In fact, they didn’t meet until Jess was 12 years old. That was in 2001 when Lorette decided in her forties that she would adopt a teenager. “A while back I had let go of the concept of me having my own child,” Lorette said from her living room couch, an enlarged photo of her daughter commanding attention on the wall opposite her. “My intent was always that I was going to adopt an older youth. It seemed like a good match for me.”

Lorette has always been somewhat of a free spirit with her love of travel and thirst for independence. When the time seemed right, she began look-ing into adoption, taking classes and sifting through piles of photographs of potential children. Overwhelmed by the process, she began a visiting resource instead, which is essentially an adult mentor to children in the foster care system.

But when Lorette met Jess, it took less than six months for her to realize she wanted to make the relationship permanent.

“She was very sweet, just very open and really curious. There were always a lot of questions,” she recalled of the younger version of her daughter, who is now 21. “At the time she was very excited. She was all for it.”

With the support and assistance of Casey Family Services, she said the transition was an easy one. Jess was living in a group home at the time, so the possibility of being part of a family seemed too good to be true.

“I think in all kids there’s this ideal of what life’s going to be and then there’s reality. Generally they’ve gone through so many different families there’s no reason for them to believe this is a commitment you’re making,” Lorette said.

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That became the first, and perhaps largest, challenge in her new role.“The challenge was in helping her understand I would stand by those

words,” she said.In time, however, Jess came to realize that Lorette wasn’t going any-

where. She started to experience places and opportunities never before available. What’s more, with Lorette’s large family, Jess suddenly found herself with a vast support network.

Although Lorette, who is now 54, recognizes her path to motherhood was uncommon, she said that network was equally important in her deci-sions and was never anything but supportive.

“They were very open. I feel very fortunate in that way,” she said.For many years, she had been the “fun aunt” and when the time came

for her to be the one setting limits, she says her family was thrilled at the role reversal.

Setting those limits was something Lorette knew she would be confront-ed with. As a social service professional, she has experience with children and felt prepared to address the issues that come along with being a mom. What she wasn’t prepared for was the aching loss she would feel when her daughter left for college.

“That point where they leave is so much sooner so I had a hard time letting her go,” she said, reflecting for a moment before she added with a laugh, “It was traumatic.”

Jess is currently studying wildlife care at a small college in Maine. As her three cats wind their way around her legs, Lorette is not surprised that is the path her daughter chose. The two traveled to Africa last spring, where

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It’s not New Years without a New Years toast, but what about the people pouring the drinks? They’re the ones working late on weekends and holidays, and the lone sober

faces at last call. From a relative newcomer to a seasoned vet, read his and hers perspectives on life behind the bar.

Photos by Darcie Di saia

Shauna GreenPouring a beer without looking, Shauna Green flashes a broad smile as college students and South County seniors pour into the Mews Tavern in Wakefield for a weekday happy hour. Sliding the drink onto the bar, the perfect sized head topping it off, her personality is engaging and interaction genuine. She’s only been behind the bar for five years, but it looks like she’s got the hang of it.

HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN A BARTENDER? Five years

WHAT’S YOUR SPECIALTY? Chambord margaritas, martinis and Stoli cocktails

WHAT’S IN YOUR GLASS ON A FRIDAY NIGHT? Leinenkugel

WHAT BROUGHT YOU BEHIND THE BAR? I just started waiting tables and I just thought it’d be a better way to meet people, make money and have a good time.

WHAT ARE THE PERKS OF THE JOB? Being able to meet new people and your time with your coworkers. It’s interesting; you get to learn a lot about people and life that way. It makes you look forward to work.

WHAT’S THE MOST BIZARRE THING THAT’S HAPPENED TO YOU AT WORK? One time I had this older woman come in and she was just really eccentric. She had a huge bag of items and just proceeded to place them all on the bar. That was probably the weirdest experience I’ve ever had.

IS THE PERCEPTION TRUE; DO BARTENDERSDOUBLE AS PSYCHIATRISTS? It’s more just listening. People want to know that you’re listening. If they know you’re listening and you care, it helps

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Paul IzzoA fixture at Providence’s Capital Grille for the past 14 years with a resume twice as long, Paul Izzo has seen it all. He’s slow to talk about himself, shifting the conversation back to the customer, and sure enough you’ll find yourself right at home before the first martini is drained. Park it on a stool in the dimly lit, posh bar long enough though, and you might get a glimpse of what makes Izzo a beloved member of the Grille’s service team.

HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN A BARTENDER? Thirty five years

WHAT’S YOUR SPECIALTY? Stoli doli, and a lot of people like the way we make our espresso martinis

WHAT’S IN YOUR GLASS ON A FRIDAY IGHT? Vodka on the rocks or tequila

WHAT BROUGHT YOU BEHIND THE BAR? My friend owned a bar and I wasn’t happy where I was. I just got into and it went from there.

WHAT ARE THE PERKS OF THE JOB? I think it’s just meeting a bunch of people from all different walks of life. You really learn that people you think are in high financial and powerful positions are the same as everyone else. If you anticipate their wants and their needs, they’re going to enjoy themselves and you will be rewarded

WHAT’S THE MOST BIZARRE THING THAT’SHAPPENED TO YOU AT WORK? It was New Years Eve and I was working in a hotel bar at the time. This woman was frantic with hotel security that they couldn’t find her husband. She wanted them to start knocking on doors looking for him. The next day during the buffet, a hand came up from under the table and pulled a roll down. He got so drunk that he fell behind a partition and passed out. He must have been in trouble the next day.

IS THE PERCEPTION TRUE; DO BARTENDERSDOUBLE AS PSYCHIATRISTS? There’s no question. People really do let their hair down. They don’t put their walls up with us. People will say something about their life to a bartender that they might not tell anyone else n

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auxiliary puts volunteerson the water

The Coast Guard was officially created in 1915 as an armed service, but it wasn’t until the summer of 1934 that a yachtsman named Malcolm Stuart Boylan planted a seed that grew into the U.S. Coast Guard Auxiliary.

By 1941, Congress passed the Auxiliary and Reserve Act to designate civilian volunteers as members of the Auxiliary. The Auxiliary has members in all 50 states and beyond, and is open to men and women. That force has played a major part in American history. When America entered World War II, 50,000 Auxiliary mem-bers joined the effort.

Today, those members carry on the group’s cornerstone of member services, recreational boating safety, operations and marine safety and fellowship. The Auxiliary is divided into four organizational levels, one of which, the Flotilla, is crucial at the local level.

Public education is especially important to the Flotilla. Here in Rhode Island, volunteers work through the North Star Flotilla. They offer short courses and workshops for children, basic seamanship, sail and advanced navigation courses. Safety days are held for the public, and the Flotilla is always looking for instruc-tors in various areas of boating safety. After training, members can serve as crew or captain on weekend safety patrols in Narragansett Bay, or can assist at other events and locations. Vessel examination training is available, and a 16-week safe boating course will be held starting Monday, Feb. 1 at Toll Gate High School in Warwick. There are even opportunities to help out at different Coast Guard sta-tions on the radio.

For anyone interested in joining the local North Star Flotilla, visit www.NorthStarFlotilla.com, e-mail [email protected] or [email protected], or call Roz or Nick at 739-6028. n

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Star for the SeniorsSeniors love entertainer Ginny Loring… and she loves performing for them.After all, she’s a senior too.“I took dancing lessons when I was four years old, growing up in the Boston area,”

she said. “I did the local talent shows when I was 14. I looked a lot older. Back in those days there were lots of night clubs in Massachusetts and Rhode Island. I used to open for a lot of acts. Yes, I was under the legal age.”

Ginny remembers playing the El Morocco in Johnston.

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“Would you believe it. It’s now a Senior Citizen Center,” she laughed. “And I was a regular at the 1025 Club. I got an agent and went on the road. One week here; one week there. I had to eat. But the night club acts were drying up, so I headed for Montreal, where the floor shows lasted a little longer.”

She also performed for the military in New York and traveled everywhere from Alabama to Washington to perform.

Loring teamed up with the Lordly and Dame Agency in Boston, where they booked her as the opening act for many performers on cruise ships. From there, she was a tour guide with Collette for a decade, worked for Paragon and served as a social director on motor coach tours all over the United States and Canada.

The combination of tour escort, social hostess and director, and professional entertainer kept Loring busy for over 30 years.

She settled in East Woonsocket over 20 years ago, and now does most of her entertaining for senior groups, organizations and conventions.

“I love to perform for seniors,” she said. “I sing, dance, tell stories, and involve the audience in my act. I love to get them up dancing with me. I like to think that I am an inspiration to them.”

Loring says that through it all, she’s collected some great stories. When she learned that famed jazz musician Dizzy Gillespie loved cornbread, she would bring it to him whenever he was playing.

Comedian Charlie Callas was one of her favorites as well. Loring and Callas stopped at a diner outside of Framingham after his second performance once night.

“Charlie would get up on the table and do his third performance for the late night diners. He was always on,” she said. “In the early nineties, I was perform-ing in Atlantic City, when I got a call at 3:00 a.m. It was Charlie, wanting to meet me for coffee.”

Most recently, Loring has performed at Senior Centers in Dedham, Mass. and Woonsocket, R.I. She has a 45-minute show, bringing her own music, sound sys-tem and microphone.

“My fees are reasonable … and negotiable” she said.Ginny Loring enjoys East Woonsocket, but heads for Florida during part of

the winter. When in Rhode Island, she is always looking for senior groups to perform for. Give her a call at 769-4418, or on her cell at 954-815-1240. You can also write to her at 1203 Brookhaven Lane, East Woonsocket, RI 02895. n

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The good ol’ daysRetirees reunite to remember years of hard work, easy friendships

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If you are looking for Joe Valentim, there is one place you’re sure to find him - the Miss Cranston Diner on the first Saturday morning of every month.

Joe and up to 15 of his fellow retirees have gathered at the Route 5 diner for breakfast and camaraderie for the past 20 years, remembering the years spent working at Sunbeam Bread and bringing their old pals up-to-date on what is happening in their lives.

They come from Warwick and Cranston, East Providence and Coventry, Narragansett, Connecticut and Massachusetts, and range in age from 54 to 85.

The oldest of the group is Nate Lury of Warwick, the man who started it all.

“We usually get a dozen or so each month,” he said. “I send out post-card reminders, and they show up.”

Richard Oliver of Scituate has been retired for 25 years but still makes most of the informal gatherings. The men sit around a table in the diner’s back room, reminiscing about the old days when there were a number of different bread company trucks on the road.

“Today, one company distributes all the bread,” Valentim said. “We all worked for My Bread Baking Company, which was a three generation-owned business. The fourth sold out.”

Valentim worked for Sunbeam for 32 years, and even still, has few complaints

“Back in those days, people stayed in one place. The guys were all terrific. And they were dependable,” he said. “We delivered in all kinds of weather. It was a steady job. No layoffs.”

Lury remembers getting up at 2:30 in the morning to go to work. The drivers hit the road at 4 a.m. and seldom got home before dark.

“There were drivers, salesmen and garage men,” he said. “No women. Women didn’t work in those types of jobs 20 years ago.”

Earl Medeiros travels from Glen, N.H. for his bacon, eggs and home

fries with his former co-workers. When asked why make the journey, Medeiros shrugged it off - it’s just what he does.

“Why not?” he replied. “I’m not doing anything, and I don’t mind the four-hour trip. And we all like to eat.”

I sat back and listened to the half dozen conversations and it was obvi-ous why these men keep showing up every month. They developed deep bonds and have fond memories of their jobs and the people they worked with.

When I asked who had any funny stories, I heard a couple I couldn’t repeat.

“Many of the old timers we buried had some good stories,” quipped Kevin Haley of East Freetown, Mass.

They talked about everything from family and politics to sports and current events. They poked fun at each other, with one yelling out, “Who’s the sissy who ordered decaf?”

Valentim squirmed in his seat, aware that everyone knew he was the culprit.

The waitress cleared the tables and presented Lury with the bill, letting everyone know that they got a 10 percent discount.

“That’s for being a senior citizen,” Nate said, as everyone threw in his contribution. “No separate checks here.”

Three of the men brought their wives, but the women sat in a booth in another section of the diner.

“We’ve heard all the stories,” one said. “We come along for the break-fast.”

Besides, they have their own stories to tell. “My husband left home in the dark and came home in the dark. He

expected his supper to be on the table when he got home, and his uniform to be washed and pressed for the next day,” another said, not wanting to give her name.

The three women all laughed and used the same word when asked what it was like having them home all day now: terrible. n

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A new law that went into effect Nov. 6 extends the first-time homebuyer credit five months and expands the eligibility requirements for purchasers.

The Worker, Homeownership, and Business Assistance Act of 2009 extends the deadline for qualifying home purchases from Nov. 30, 2009, to April 30, 2010. Additionally, if a buyer enters into a binding contract by April 30, the buyer has until June 30, to settle on the purchase. The maximum credit amount remains at $8,000 for a first-time homebuyer – that is, a buyer who has not owned a primary residence during the three years up to the date of purchase.

But the new law also provides a “long-time resident” credit of up to $6,500 to others who do not qualify as “first-time homebuyers.” To qualify this way, a buyer must have owned and used the same home as a principal or primary residence for at least five consecutive years of the eight-year period ending on the date of purchase of a new home as a primary residence.

For all qualifying purchases in 2010, taxpayers have the option of claim-ing the credit on either their 2009 or 2010 tax returns. A new version of Form 5405, First-Time Homebuyer Credit, will be available in the next few weeks. A taxpayer who purchases a home after Nov. 6 must use this new version of the form to claim the credit. Likewise, taxpayers claiming the credit on their 2009 returns, no matter when the house was purchased, must also use the new ver-sion of Form 5405. Taxpayers who claim the credit on their 2009 tax return will

not be able to file electronically but instead will need to file a paper return.The new law raises the income limits for people who purchase homes

after Nov. 6. The full credit will be available to taxpayers with modified adjusted gross incomes (MAGI) up to $125,000, or $225,000 for joint filers. Those with MAGI between $125,000 and $145,000, or $225,000 and $245,000 for joint filers, are eligible for a reduced credit.

For homes purchased prior to Nov. 7, existing MAGI limits remain in place. The full credit is available to taxpayers with MAGI up to $75,000, or $150,000 for joint filers. Those with MAGI between $75,000 and $95,000, or $150,000 and $170,000 for joint filers, are eligible for a reduced credit.

There are also several new restrictions on purchases that occur after Nov. 6 that go into effect with the law. Dependents are not eligible to claim the credit. No credit is available if the purchase price of a home is more than $800,000.

Members of the Armed Forces and certain federal employees serving outside the U.S. have an extra year to buy a principal residence in the U.S. and still qualify for the credit. An eligible taxpayer must buy or enter into a binding contract to buy a home by April 30, 2011, and settle on the purchase by June 30 of that year.

For more details on the credit, visit IRS.gov. n

Rhode Island in picturesThe Newport Art Museum showcases “Focus on Four,” an exhibit that spans seven decades of photography. The show shines a light on the different approaches, intentions, techniques and levels of critical success these photographers achieved and draws our attention to links between past and present, and between society and art. It will be on display now through Feb. 18, from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. during the week and on Sunday from 12 to 4 p.m. For details, call 848-8200 or visit www.newportart-museum.org.

In the time of LincolnThe Rhode Island Historical Society continues celebrating the bicenten-nial of President Abraham Lincoln’s birth with an exhibit that takes a look at life in Rhode Island during the 1860s. Housed at the Museum of Work & Culture in Woonsocket, the exhibit tells the stories of the people, places, and attitudes of the times. It is sponsored by the RI Foundation and the RI Abraham Lincoln Bicentennial Commission, and will be on display now through Feb. 14 from 9:30 a.m. to 4 p.m. daily. Call 769-9675 or go to www.rihs.org for more informa-tion.

Inexpensive artThe Pawtucket Arts Collaborative (PAC) is pleased to announce that over 56 artists have committed to exhib-it in the wildly popular 10”x10”x10” Exhibit, which closes on Jan. 9. Now in its third year, this annual exhibit has become a special show and possibly the best sale during the holiday sea-son because every piece is for sale for only $150. Grab your inexpensive art at the PAC Gallery at 175 Main Street in Pawtucket. Details can be found at www.pawtucketartscollaborative.org or by calling 724-2200.

Getting craftyAlthough it started in November, Rhody Craft 100 will be available until Jan. 30. Rhody Craft 100 presents a one of a kind shopping venture in a former mill with unique and original crafted wares from locally based artisans. To shop, go to the Hope Artiste village in Pawtucket. For details, call 626-1833 or check out their blog at http://rhody-craft100.blogspot.com.

On the waterfrontThe exciting, annual Providence Boat Show attracts over 20,000 visitors from throughout New England, looking to purchase everything from popular brand name powerboats and small

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size sailboats to electronic naviga-tional systems and fishing gear. The Annual Providence Boat Show is one of the finest boat shows to take place during the winter season, and will be at the Rhode Island Convention Center until Jan. 10. Cal 458-6000 or visit the Web site at http://www.providence-boatshow.com/pbsnew/index.php.

Princess Katie & Racer StevePick up the grandkids and check out Providence Performing Arts Center’s Princess Katie and Racer Steve, which will launch their seriously rockin National Tour in Rhode Island. Tickets are $15 and are on sale now for the Jan. 17 show, which will take place at 2 p.m. For tickets, call 421-2997 or go to www.ppacri.org.

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leading a healthier lifestyle doesn’t have to mean making dramatic changes. it means making smarter choices.

looking and feeling better starts by making conscious choices every day that may be small, but will add up in the end. Here are some simple tips and recipes that will help you make smarter food choices so that you can truly live better.Add a Fruit or Vegetable to Every Meal. When you add a little bit here and there, before you know it you’ll be eating your five cups of fruits and veggies a day without even thinking about it. Here are some simple ways to increase your intake:n lighten up your cheese omelet by adding fresh tomatoes, onions and avocado.n Fill your sandwich with crunchy veggies such as green peppers and cucumber

slices and add a pickle on the side.n Keep mid-afternoon cravings at bay by stashing a bag of baby carrots or sugar

snap peas in your office refrigerator for a healthy snack.

n satisfy your sweet tooth by tossing a handful of frozen berries on top of your frozen yogurt.

Choose Smart Staples. many families have a set of go-to ingredients they purchase on each trip to the grocery store. it only takes small adjustments to your current grocery list to achieve a better-for-you mix of foods and beverages. try these easy tips: n low fat or fat-free plain yogurt is an ideal choice because it’s often higher in

calcium than other dairy products and is a good source of protein and potassium.

n When buying deli sandwich meat, going all natural is a great way to cut down on additives and preservatives. For example, Hormel Natural Choice deli sandwich meats are free of preservatives and artificial colors and flavors so they taste the way meat is supposed to taste: fresh and full of flavor.

n instead of drinking sugary sodas and juices, quench your thirst with tea. Whether you drink it hot or cold, unsweetened tea is calorie-free and loaded with antioxidants.

Lighten Up Lunch. start a “lunch Bunch” at work where members take turns bringing in a healthy lunch item for the group. Healthy lunch clubs are an excellent way to experience foods that are new and different and also good for you. share recipes and make sure you know ahead of time about any food preferences or allergies that group members may have.

For more tips and recipes visit http://www.hormelnatural.com.

Simple and delicious

ways to enjoy healthier meals

Chicken Tacosserving size: 2 2 spinach or whole wheat tortillas 1 package Hormel Natural Choice oven roasted carved chicken breast strips 1/2 cup whole kernel corn, cooked, drained 1/4 cup shredded cheddar cheese 1/4 cup shredded lettuce 2 tablespoons low-fat ranch salad dressing layer each tortilla evenly with chicken, corn and cheese. Drizzle each with dressing; top with lettuce.

For child-size portion, use 1/2 spinach or whole wheat tortilla, 1 ounce chicken (size of average adult ring and little fingers) and 1 tablespoon each corn, cheese, lettuce and dressing.

Panzanella Saladserving size: 4 8 slices Italian or rustic bread, 4 to 5 days old, crusts removed 3 medium tomatoes, coarsely diced 12 Kalamata pitted olives, quartered 1 medium red onion, minced 1/3 cup vinaigrette 12 large fresh basil leaves, shredded 1 (8-ounce) package Hormel Natural Choice smoked deli ham, cut into strips tear bread into pieces; soak in bowl of cold water 2 to 3 minutes. Drain; squeeze bread dry, removing all water. in large bowl, tear bread into smaller pieces with fork.

in small bowl, combine tomatoes, olives, onion and vinaigrette; stir gently.

add vinaigrette mixture to bread pieces; mix well. and basil and ham; mix gently to combine.

California Turkey Wrapsserving size: 4 4 9-inch burrito size flour tortillas 1/2 cup ranch dressing, divided 1 9-ounce package Hormel Natural Choice oven roasted deli turkey 1 tomato, thinly sliced 1 small cucumber, peeled, thinly sliced 1 avocado, peeled, sliced and drizzled with 1 tablespoon lime juice 1 cup alfalfa sprouts 1 cup baby spinach leaves or arugula lay tortillas on clean surface; drizzle each with 1 tablespoon dressing. layer each tortilla with equal amounts turkey, tomato, cucumber, avocado, sprouts and spinach. Drizzle with remaining dressing.

roll up tortillas tightly; cut in half diagonally. secure each half with wooden pick.

Savory Smoked Turkey and Blue Cheese Saladserving size: 2 1 8-ounce package Hormel Natural Choice smoked deli turkey, cut into strips 4 cups bite-size pieces red leaf lettuce 4 cups bite-size pieces romaine lettuce 6 ounces blue cheese, crumbled 1 tart, crisp apple, thinly sliced 1/2 cup candied pecans Prepared vinaigrette Freshly ground black pepper In large bowl, combine first 6 ingre­dients. add vinaigrette to taste. season with pepper. toss well.

California Turkey Wraps

Savory Smoked Turkey and Blue Cheese Salad

Panzanella Salad

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don’t let winter drafts Get you down

Are you shivering and bundling up inside your house? If your thermostat is set at the de-sired temperature, your furnace runs continuous-ly, your utility bills are ridiculously high, but you are still cold, it is probably because energy is es-

caping your house.As it gets colder

outside, here are some clues that will indicate if your home has air leaks:

• You feel drafts or air moving even when all of your windows and doors

are closed.• The floor directly in front of the sink feels

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over again.

Outside air typically enters the home where building materials meet and where wires and pipes penetrate through the walls.

The EPA estimates that homeowners can typi-cally save up to 20 percent of heating and cool-ing costs by air sealing their homes and adding insulation in attics, floors over crawl spaces, and accessible basement rim joists. Sealing and insu-lating these areas add up to an average of $200 worth of savings a year on energy costs.

There are several easy and cost-effective ways to eliminate drafts.

• Replace weather-stripping around doors, including the garage door.

• Add extra insulation in your attic.• Insulate perimeter walls in your basement.• Insure that the chimney flue is closed.Filling gaps and cracks with an insulating

foam sealant is an easy, fast solution that any-one can undertake. Sealants such as Great Stuff form an airtight, water-resistant seal that cures rigid. The foam is sandable, paintable, and can be trimmed with a utility knife afterwards.

Some common and effective places to seal in-clude the holes where the HVAC ductwork en-ters the living space from the basement and attic, the attic hatch frame, plumbing stacks and shafts, and pipe, wire and conduit penetrations.

For a full list of places to use foam sealant, visit http://greatstuff.dow.com/pdfs/checklist.pdf.

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Would you know where to turn if you needed to assess your options for skilled nursing care or rehabilita-tion following an accident or illness? Unfortunately, care decisions often need to be made under duress and with a sense of urgency. It’s hard for many consumers to know where to turn to find the information they need to make informed choices.

There are many public reports on nursing home quality issued by state and federal agencies but as is often the case with government reports, they can be complicated and difficult to understand. There is, however, a “new” national benchmark that reports satisfaction levels straight from those who know the service

best: residents and their families. Who better to judge the quality of their experience and help guide oth-ers to the nursing facility right for them?

In 2005, My Innerview, a nation-al research company, issued the National Survey of Resident and Family Satisfaction in Nursing Facilities. The annual survey was the first of its kind to establish a national database to benchmark cus-tomer satisfaction, helping to pro-vide valuable insight to consumers in need of skilled nursing or reha-bilitation. The survey answers two substantive questions: How would you rate your nursing facility; and

would you recommend it to others? In addition to measuring overall sat-isfaction, the My InnerView survey measures three distinct areas: quali-ty of life, which assesses such things as social relationships with staff and other residents, safety, meaningful activities and dining; quality of care, which measures the adequacy, com-petency and attitudes of the staff; and quality of service, which rates meals, laundry services, cleanliness and management responsiveness.

Since its inception five years ago, Rhode Island has scored exception-ally well on the My InnerView sat-isfaction surveys. Last year, Rhode Island scored equal to or better than

the national average on all 24 assess-ment areas. In 2009, not only did Rhode Island’s facilities achieve the same feat, but also stayed the same or improved in every single category from the year before. The latest sur-vey results show 92 percent of all Rhode Island nursing home resi-dents and their families rated their nursing home excellent or good, compared to 86 percent nationally. The same numbers hold true for those who would recommend the facility to others.

“The 2009 My InnerView results show the public what those of us in the profession have known all along,” said Virginia Burke, president and CEO of the Rhode Island Health Care Association, a non-profit trade association of skilled nursing and rehabilitation facilities comprised of approximately 70 percent of Rhode Island’s nursing homes. “The care-givers in our long term care facilities are exceptional. Rhode Island’s nurs-ing home community is viewed as one of the leaders across the country in term of proactive quality care.”

Consumers can find satisfac-tion survey scores on the Rhode Department of Health’s Web site at www.health.ri.gov/chic/perfor-mance/nursinghome.php. The site also has several other clinical mea-sures as well as a variety of informa-tion and resources to aid consumers in choosing a nursing home. n

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Know Your numbersAs you may already know, your cholesterol level is the amount of fat in your blood. If

it’s too high, you’re at a greater risk of having a heart attack or stroke. Ideally, you want your total cholesterol reading (that includes your LDL and HDL cholesterol) to be below 200, and your “bad” LDL cholesterol below 129 - less if you’re at risk for heart disease. If your total level hits between 200 and 239, or your LDL reaches 130 to 159 you’re con-sidered borderline high. And if your total is above 240, or your LDL is over 160 you have high cholesterol.

On the other hand, a higher number is better when it comes to the “good” HDL cho-lesterol. Most men range between 40 and 50 HDL, and women range between 50 and 60. Anything below 40 for men and 50 for women is too low, and anything above 50 for men and 60 for women is great, because it provides extra protection against heart disease.

Cholesterol-lowering FooDsLot’s of research over the past few years has shown that certain foods can help lower

your LDL cholesterol and/or boost your HDL.Oatmeal and oat bran, for example, are loaded with soluble fiber. Oatmeal or oat bran

is a great way to start the day and shave five percent off your LDL. Five to 10 grams per day are recommended. Other good sources for soluble fiber are apples, pears, prunes, citrus fruits, kidney and lima beans, barley, psyllium, carrots, broccoli and brussels sprouts.

Studies have also shown that a daily dose of walnuts and almonds can lower your LDL by 10 percent, and raise your HDL by as much as 20 percent. Peanuts, hazelnuts, pecans, some pine nuts and pistachios have also been shown to lower cholesterol. But be careful because nuts are high in calories, so a handful (no more than two ounces) will do. The best way to add nuts to your diet is to substitute them with foods that are high in saturated fats like cheese and meat. That way you’re gaining the benefits of nuts without adding more calories.

Sterols and stanols are substances found in plants that help prevent cholesterol from being absorbed into your bloodstream. A recommended dose of two grams per day

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Have a happy theatre New Year

Chestnuts are roasting on open fires, and Tiny Tim is still blessing every one of us as we look for-ward to better times in 2010. The New Year shows great promise on theatre stages in Providence and nearby communities, with a number of plays never seen in Rhode Island, and a few of those old chestnuts returning.

So make a New Year’s resolution to support the arts, and get out your 2010 calendar to fill it with theatre dates.

trinitY rePertorY ComPAnYSpeaking of old chestnuts, Trinity kicks off the New

Year with William Shakespeare’s “Twelfth Night,” one of his funniest comedies. It is a classic tale of young love and mistaken identities and will be showing in the Chace Theatre from Jan. 29 to March 7.

Remember Sarah Ruhl’s hilarious “The Clean House,” which played at Trinity a couple of years ago? The talented author is back with “Dead Man’s Phone.” It is a modern comedy about our grown-up toys (cell phones, iPods, GPS and PDA) with a twist involving secrets of the afterlife. Sounds like fun. Check it out in the downstairs Dowling Theatre from Feb. 19 to March 28.

For tickets, call 351-4242.

ProViDenCe PerForming Arts CenterBack by popular demand, and playing for nearly a month at PPAC is

the smash Broadway musical, “Wicked.” It continues through Jan. 10, and tickets have been going fast, with many people planning to see it for the second time.

The National Tour of “Beauty and the Beast” opens in Providence on Feb. 9 and will run for eight performances. We’ve seen the show twice, and loved it. Bring the grandkids.

Remember the movie, “Xanadu?” It is now a lavish, campy Broadway hit, and it is coming to PPAC from Feb. 16 to 21. The romantic musical com-edy has great songs, and a bit of roller disco thrown in.

Lynn Singleton has certainly not forgotten the young folks in planning this season. “101 Dalmatians: The Musical” is a family show with some great messages. I’ve seen some clips on the show, and the dog actors should be up for some awards.

2nD storY theAtreAlan Ayckbourn’s “Comic Potential” received great reviews from New

York critics, and you can see the satirical romantic comedy from Jan. 22 to Feb. 21 at the intimate theatre, which now has an elevator to take you upstairs.

“Comic Potential” is followed by another new play to Rhode Island: Harley Granville-Barker’s Edwardian-era “The Voysey Inheritance,” which is as current as theatre can get. Even back then they were cheating people with Ponzi schemes. Artistic Director Ed Shea says it is part love story, part drawing room comedy, and part business-and-finance drama, involving a family in the midst of a moral dilemma. The dates are March 12 to April 11. For reservations, call 247-4200.

sAnDrA Feinstein gAmm theAtre“4:48 Psychosis” by British playwright Sarah Kane has

penned “a harrowing journey into the depths of clinical depression,” according to Artistic Director Tony Estrella. The title comes from the time in the early morning when Kane regularly awoke to a brief period of clarity amid her despair. Estrella says that the play is “perhaps as inti-mate an exploration of mental illness as one can find.”

This was Kane’s fifth and final play, and has “flashes of dark humor.” It will be at Gamm from Jan. 14 to Feb. 7.

Tennessee Williams’ classic from 1945, “The Glass Menagerie” will be at Gamm for one month from March 4

to April 4. For reservations, call 723-4266.

the PlAYersI have recently rediscovered The Players, America’s oldest little theatre,

now celebrating their 101st season at the Barker Playhouse at 100 Benefit St. on the East Side.

A Flex Membership in the Players gives you three plays for only $60, and a guest ticket is only $20.

I saw a first-class production of “The Rabbit Hole” recently, and recom-mend the theatre to you.

Arthur Miller’s classic American play, “All My Sons” will be produced Jan. 29, 30 and 31, and Feb. 5, 6 and 7.

The hilarious “Tale of the Allergist’s Wife” will be presented March 19, 20, 21, 26, 27 and 28.

For more information on the Players, call 273-0590.

newPort PlAYhouse AnD CAbAret restAurAntNewport Playhouse is famous for its bountiful buffet, cabaret, and light,

fluffy plays.Avoid the tourists and visit them between Feb. 11 and March 29, when

they present the comedy, “Wally’s Café,” about a couple who open a diner new Las Vegas.

For reservations, call 848-PLAY.

College theAtre: riC, PC & brownRhode Island College has an active and renowned arts and theatre

program.Shakespeare’s contemporary, Christopher Marlowe wrote the moving

“Edward II” at the end of his brief life, and it is considered a classic. RIC has the advantage of students of all ages in their productions, and some excellent direction.

“Edward II” will be performed at their Mainstage Theatre from Feb. 17 to 21. Call 456-8144 for reservations.

Providence College presents “The Effect of Gamma Rays on Man in the Moon Marigolds” (long title; great play) at the Blackfriars Theatre from Jan. 29 to 31 and Feb. 6 to 8, followed by Eric Bogisian’s “Talk Radio” at the Bowab Studio Theatre from Feb. 12 to 14. “Little Women,” adapted from the Louisa May Alcott novel, will be presented both from March 26 to 28 and April 9 to 11. Call 865-1000 for reservations.

Brown University presents “lulu - a pandora’s box” by Frank Wedekind from March 4 to 7 and 11 to 14 at the Stuart Theatre on Waterman Street. Call 863-7529 for reservations. n

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It started with a casual conversation about vacations between St. Elizabeth Community CEO Steven Horowitz and Assistant Director Sarah Bowater. One month later, however, an out-of-the-box idea turned into a summer get-away for seniors who thought their traveling days were over.

“It was like a dream. It was something you never expected to do anymore,” said Barbara DiMaio, a resident at St. Elizabeth Home in East Greenwich.

DiMaio was one of six residents who trav-eled to Cape Cod at the end of September for a nursing home vacation, something that is unheard of in Rhode Island and required approval on both the state and federal level through the Rhode Island Department of Health and the Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services.

Despite the paperwork and research required, nurse Janelle Hackett says the powers that be were supportive of the nursing home’s efforts.

“They’ve been very helpful with us trying to do a culture change,” she said. “There was a plan for anything that could happen.”

Hackett has worked at St. Elizabeth for 29 years, but said nursing home residents are often unfairly categorized as invalid. By planning a vacation for a group of seniors, she believes her company has started a shift in these beliefs.

“It was a big learning experience for all of us. Most of the residents didn’t believe it was going to happen,” Hackett said.

DiMaio was one of those skeptics. She said she was afraid of the idea at first because she too wasn’t sure she could handle the trip. With a little encouragement from the staff and her daughter, however, she was soon on board and ready with four suitcases for the four-day vaca-tion. In the end, she was only allowed two.

“I was the troublemaker,” said DiMaio, who also suggested the women on the trip take photos on the beach for a calendar. Although that idea was shot down, she said their time by the water was perfect.

“I had the time of my life. I sat like a kid in the sand,” she said.

DiMaio was handpicked for the vacation by St. Elizabeth staff who were cautious of what types of residents would be best for this inaugu-ral venture. They matched each resident with a staff member and went over details of medica-tions and emergency scenarios time and again before setting off.

“Because it was the first trip we tried to get the appropriate people to come but I think what we found is that anyone could enjoy the trip,” Hackett said.

In fact, after a day in their rented seven-bedroom Falmouth house, the nurse, who also

serves as the life enhancement coach at St. Elizabeth, said many of the participants had put their walkers aside and were moving around with more confi-dence than usual. In addition to excursions on the beach, they went for walks around their waterside neighborhood, went shopping, and had a day trip to Martha’s Vineyard, where they arrived by boat.

“I never thought we could do it but we were able to do everything,” said Mafalda “Muffy” Jackvony.

Jackvony, joking around with St. Elizabeth Administrator Matt Trimble, said if she found a bet-ter place to live in the Cape, she wouldn’t be return-ing to Rhode Island. Speaking from the armchair in

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A vacation from the usualher East Greenwich room, she says she could live nowhere else.

“St. Elizabeth is sort of a place where they try everything out first,” she said with a laugh.

On the final night of the trip, Jackvony said Trimble ensured his esteem with the group, tak-ing them out to an elegant dinner.

“Matt said we could have anything we wanted. That was a highlight,” she quipped.

Residents incurred no cost for the trip with the exception of shopping expenses. The staff estimates it cost approximately $4,500 between transportation, staffing and the house, all of which was covered through money raised at Rose Bids, the community’s annual fundraiser.

Regardless of the details of the trip, Hackett said it sparked a change for staff and residents.

“It wasn’t about the location, it wasn’t about the house, it was just about being a family,” she said.

That’s exactly what the trip meant for Anton and Margaret Langhammer. Married for 62 years, Margaret became a resident in March while Anton still lives independently. The couple used to travel to the Cape for two weeks each sum-mer, so the chance to be together was one they couldn’t miss.

“This gave us a chance to revisit the scene of the crime so to speak,” Anton said as he visited his wife at the facility that has now become her home. “We couldn’t believe it. It didn’t take us long to say, ‘why not?’”

When asked what the highlight of the trip was for Anton, the only non-resident senior to make the trek, he said, “Three or four solid days with my wife. Being with my wife, that meant a lot.”

“They smiled the whole time,” Hackett said of the Langhammers.

Residents also said that for the first time in a long time, they felt like regular people on a vaca-tion, rather than patients who were under scru-tiny of outsiders. That was an exciting feeling for several residents who have been in nursing home care for an extended period of time.

For resident Rose Haid, the best part of the trip came with the relationships with other seniors, in particular one woman who stayed behind near the house while the others ventured to the Vineyard.

“We got talking and we got close,” she said.

That same woman that Haid became close with died two weeks after returning to Rhode Island.

“It was almost like, what a gift, we were able to give her,” Hackett said.

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With many people realizing that a group outing to the local cinema (with snacks and treats) can easily exceed $100, a $20 board game at the kitchen table seems a bargain. Because of that, board game sales have improved since 2008, and Roberta Humble is hoping to cash in on the trend.

She is the creator of Rhode Test, a trivia game on all things Ocean State.“The game is always easier to play if you know the answers,” said

Humble, “and some questions are harder. But they all relate to places in Rhode Island.”

Humble started selling the game this fall and said it has been an almost instant bestseller in the area.

“The game is now on sale in 15 Rhode Island cities and town but it has also sold to people out-of-state,” she said. “I got an order from Florida form a woman who got the game as a gift and she wanted three more to give to her friends.”

“I assembled around 680 of the games and have already sold around 270,” Humble continued. “I even got a call from the Boarders bookstore to send them some more.”

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There’s little chance of the Rhode Test becoming a national hit because of it’s inside jokes and questions.

“I was called by the tourism people who said they wanted to use the game to promote tourism but I told them it would be of no interest to travelers coming to Rhode Island,” said Humble.

Still, given the economy it provides residents in this state an afford-able way to enjoy a Friday night. People of a certain age may remember that Monopoly, the most successful board game in America was patented in the middle of the Great Depression and, ironically, it allowed the hard-pressed working family to amass imaginary fortunes.

At its core, Rhode Test is an educational tool that makes the state’s history, geography and popular culture facts fun to learn. There are four clues on each card and Humble expects that even the sophisticated citi-zens of the state will guess the answers before they get to the last clue.

For example: “A British schooner 4; Even before ‘the shot heard ‘round the world’ 3; Prior to the Boston Tea Party 2; ‘To express displeasure with the King of England 1.”

If you didn’t figure out that the answer is the “burning of the Gaspee,” you should consider buying the game or Humble’s already published book, “Something to Crow About.” The book delineates all of the “firsts” and “only” in the state that goes way beyond Slater’s Mill.

A portion of the money raise with the game will be forwarded to the Westerly Armory, of which Humble is a dedicated officer and booster.

“We had 30,000 visitors this year, but we still need money to main-tain the Westerly Armory and other armories around the state,” she said.

Aside from preserving armories as artifacts, Humble sees the remain-ing armories as civic recourses, especially for the storing of state archives and historic objects.

“We have already made the Westerly Armory a museum of sorts,” said Humble.

Looking ahead to the future of her creation, Humble says she is con-fident Rhode Islanders will appreciate the game, which can be placed anywhere with any number of players. The box for the game is no bigger than a brown paper lunch bag.

“It would be ideal for on long trips,” she said. “I will educate and entertain them.”

To order Rhode Trip, go to www.westerlyarmory.com or e-mail Roberta Humble at [email protected]. n

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I call her “the mudlark.” I looked up the word in a dictionary I keep on a stand in the parlor by the fireplace. Sometimes it just means a meadow-lark, because it nests in moist places. And the lady I am writing about has a name that sounds almost exactly like “mudlark.” She is a tiny soul, but she stands straight and tall, like a royal personage; like Helen Hayes playing a deposed queen or Helen Mirren, or even Judy Dench.

But the grande dame I am thinking of lives just a short block away from my homestead on the East Side, in that village of numbered streets from first to twelfth. Mrs. M. came to us from Poland in the post-war period. She had lived in an open grave, a dugout of relative safety in the woods, in the land of the dead where one might perhaps find life. When she emerged from that muddy shelter, she thought maybe she was the very last person of her family, her people, her faith, upon the entire earth. I visited my mudlark years ago, for tea. Her kitchen is absolutely immaculate, scrubbed and polished, proud and pristine, and the china she used was of excellent quality. Yes, the cups with saucers and spoons, in the dining room.

We were there, with a tape machine, to record the story of her life dur-ing the occupation and the deportations. She brought out some candid snapshots of her daughter who lives in Israel. Mrs. M. has been a widow for a long and lonely time, but she strolls Hope Street - aptly named - and strides with a certain European élan, a poised carriage, neat and indeed rather elegant.

If I am driving by, I pull my little coupe over to the curb and turn the engine off. I make straight for my neighborhood friend, kiss her politely on both cheeks in the Parisian style I once knew, and greet her with a bless-ing.

For me it is an honor to share this little world with a regal heroine of survival itself. I never forget to send her New Year’s greeting cards, and she answers them courteously in her own handwriting.

I guess you could call me a sort of monarchist, an elitist, a classist. But not of birth or wealth. In Humphrey Bogart’s American usage of the word “class,” meaning dignity earned through cheer, style, and upright behavior toward others as well as toward oneself. Actually, the French occasion-ally borrow it and translate the word into “chic.” Not meaning dress or demeanor or jewelry, but kind. That’s class, doing for others, or knowing who you are inside, not outside.

I have treasured the “survivors” I have known here in Rhode Island. I directed and produced a documentary movie about those like Mrs. M who made their way to our shores. I titled it “Here, We Live Again.” Mrs. “Mudlark” appears in it, briefly, but she doesn’t share her story with us. She has even lived beyond others who figured more fully in our movie. I sketch her, again, just a few jots of goodwill, because each time I glance at her on her errands, I feel a special happiness about being here in Rhode Island, in this 10-year-old century.

I hope she stays safe and well in her nest ... forever and a day. n

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By the end of the Revolutionary War, Silas Talbot, at age 32, had already accomplished more than most people hoped to achieve in a long lifetime. He had proven his bravery by attaching his fireboat to a British vessel in New York Harbor as well as in a number of battles. He won high praise from General George Washington for his defense of Fort Mifflin, near Delaware, and from General Nathanael Greene for his significant role in the Battle of Rhode Island in 1778. General Sullivan, in charge of the state’s attempt to oust the British from Aquidnick Island, was grateful to Talbot for ferrying the American Army to the safety of Tiverton during that action.

Against all odds, Talbot captured a British vessel on the Saconnet River that was much larger than his small craft. With a small sloop, Argo, he then proceeded to harass the British Navy along the American coast. This was accomplished despite relentless pursuit by larger British vessels. During much of his early life, Talbot suffered from numerous burns and wounds and a horrific term as a British prisoner of war.

When hostilities ended, Talbot became a successful landowner and politi-cian and retired to his several thousand acres of land in Kentucky. For nearly six years, he lived the life of a gentleman farmer. By 1792, however, he sold his land to return to a more active life that included politics and land speculation.

silas talbot 1751-1813The bitter and the sweet

His tenure as a United States Representatives ended in 1794, and he once again assumed a military career. When relations with Algiers had deteriorated, President George Washington appointed Talbot as one of the six captains of the newly created United States Navy. On May 28, 1799, he was ordered to take command of the ship Constitution (later known as Old Ironsides). This large, 44-gun frigate’s successful early career began under the capable command of the Rhode Island hero. Talbot’s duties included protecting American commerce from French privateers. He was fortunate in capturing a number of French vessels and showing the might of the fledging American naval forces. When the hostilities with France ended, Talbot sub-mitted his resignation to the Navy on Sept. 12, 1801 to pursue his interests in land speculation.

His second wife, Rebecca Morris Talbot, died in 1803, leaving the semi-retired captain a widower once again. In 1808, Talbot, now 57 years old, married Eliza Pintard, the divorcee daughter of U.S. Representative William Cooper, a well-known land speculator. Eliza was the sister of the famous James Fennimore Cooper. It is believed that Cooper’s writing on naval his-tory was very much influenced by Talbot’s career. With his connections to the Brown family of Providence as well as the wealthy Morris and Cooper entrepreneurs, Talbot was successful in his business ventures. This was a time when land speculation made many Americans wealthy and many Revolutionary heroes found that this was a means of recouping the losses they encountered during the War for Independence. Many Rhode Island heroes, such as Nathanael Greene and General James Mitchell Varnum, found it necessary to leave Rhode Island for lands to the south and west to recoup their financial losses. Talbot and his sons were among those who did well in acquiring land in the Northwest Territory and in New York. Charges have been made that Talbot and his associates made huge profits by gaining inside information of where roads and canals were going to be built. This seems especially true in their accumulation of land in New York along what later became the Erie Canal.

Unfortunately, the marriage to Eliza Cooper Pintard was a stormy one that ended in 1809. One of Talbot’s biographers commented that “If Talbot’s lengthy account of complaints against his third wife presents an accurate portrayal of their marriage, he is certainly to be pitied.”

Silas Talbot, after escaping death on a number of occasions in his long and brilliant career, died at age 72 on June 30, 1813. This ends the story of Silas Talbot. n

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CelebratinG 50 years toGetherA Guide for Adult Children (and their parents . . . who expect them to plan a party)

family – Jess plans to return for an intern-

ship in May. That sense of adventure is just one of the commonalities she sees between the pair.

“I think we both enjoy a sense of humor. We can be very silly together,” she said.

More than that, though, Lorette has learned a lot from Jess.

“She has the ‘don’t sweat the small stuff’ attitude so I’ve learned resiliency and letting things go,” she said.

Looking back on her experiences, Lorette shrugs off the impact she has made on Jess’ life. From the beginning it just felt right.

“There’s no part of me that ever thought, ‘why did I do this?’ It was just an amazing experience,” she said.

Moreover, age has never been a factor. When asked if the experience is one she would recommend for adults nearing, or in, their retirement years, she did not hesitate to say yes.

“I think if you’re at retirement age, then this is the perfect time to do it because you have the time to give to these kids. I think this is something to do at any age,” she said.

While she says anyone interested in becoming a foster parent or adopt-ing needs to be willing to “let things get messy,” Lorette believes the experience is life-changing.

“What you get in return is family,” she said. n

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Rich with omega-3 fatty acids, eating fatty fish (mackerel, lake trout, herring, sardines, salmon and albacore tuna) a few times a week can help boost your good HDL cholesterol by as much as 10 percent, not to mention lower your triglycer-ides and blood pressure, and reduce inflamma-tion. If you don’t like fish, other food sources that provide omega-3s are walnuts, soybeans, flaxseed and canola oil, or take a fish oil supplement.

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Fifty years of marriage is a rare achievement these days, and one that is deserving of a special celebration. Those of us who are surrounded by friends and family, and have grown children close by, are especially fortunate.

Our forty-something daughter, Robin, wanted to throw us a “surprise party”, but let’s be honest - How do you surprise your parents when they are expecting some sort of celebration?

There are a few prerequisites that have to be considered. When selecting the date, can the party fall on the actual date? Will the couple be avail-able?

Robin was concerned that we would be at the theatre or a hockey game on Nov. 20.

When selecting a place, what is the couple’s favorite place? Is it affordable? Is it available? Is the private function room the right size and atmo-sphere for the number of guests?

We anticipated about 50 people and wanted an informal, friendly, unpretentious restaurant with an affordable buffet. We chose our favorite, Lemongrass, in Warwick.

The invitation list is the most difficult task of all. Who do you invite? Do you assign tables and seats?

We provided Robin with a list. She designed an attractive invitation on her computer, with responses sent to her. We ended exceeding our original number because only two couples couldn’t make it. We left the seating open, with tables of eight. We were also honored with the presence of our Best Man and Maid of Honor, both who came from out of town.

Another important issue is dealing with gifts. What do you give a couple who have been married 50 years? Who needs a golden toothpick holder?

But it is a golden opportunity to ask attendees to contribute to your favorite charity. We chose the Rhode Island Food Bank and the Food Pantry in our neighborhood, asking people to bring a couple of food items. Some even sent checks.

The program, again, must be entrusted to whoever plans the party. The couple must leave the details to the planner and not interfere.

We wanted an opportunity to acknowledge our guests, letting them know what an important

part of our lives they played.Robin did the rest, from balloons, flowers and

a cake to setting up flat screen TV’s showing pho-tos of us, our family and friends over the past 50 years. It provided many

moments of nostalgia… and lots of laughs. Robin even recorded the Top 100 songs of 1959 and played them softly in the background, along with a collection of events and prices of the year.

Robin asked everyone to write down on a spe-cial form where they first met us, words of advice and a funny story about us, all of which became a part of a bound memory book.

Needless to say, it was a memorable evening, one that we will always remember. We didn’t want it to end. The joy of knowing about the party is being able to be there as everyone arrives and greet them. With most surprise parties, the guests arrive late to what they pretend to believe is an intimate dinner with their children, with everyone jumping up and yelling, “Surprise!” Being a small part of the planning, knowing who is coming, and being there through the entire evening, makes for a most enjoyable celebration.

Now what do we do for our 51st? n

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your HDL. A good way to work olive oil into your diet is to substitute it with butter or other cooking oils, or mix it with vinegar as a salad dressing. About two tablespoons a day are recommended.

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and raise HDL include reducing the saturated fats (fatty meats, butter and whole dairy products) and trans fats (found in store-bought cookies, cakes, crackers and many fried foods like french fries) you eat; lose excess weight (even five to 10 pounds can make a difference); exercise regularly (at least 30 minutes, five days per week); quit smoking; and monitor your alcohol consumption (no more than one drink per day for women and two for men).send your senior questions to: savvy senior, P.o. box 5443, norman, oK 73070, or visit www.savvysenior.org. Jim miller is a contributor to the nbC Today show and author of “The Savvy Senior” book. n

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vaCation –As the fall faded, residents at St. Elizabeth are

still buzzing with excitement about their vacation. DiMaio pulls her walker close, taking out a stack of photographs from the trip. Each resident was given a disposable camera, in addition to a photo album and bottle of sand and shells as mementos.

“I don’t know where a nursing home would go this far to make patients so happy. I think I talked about it for weeks,” DiMaio said.

The Cape group invited family members to see a slideshow and video of their experience, and often share memories as they pass one another in the hall-way. Looking forward, Trimble says the trip showed him how crucial relationships and intimate settings can be in the long term care equation. He now plans to advocate for similar initiatives statewide.

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