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Interpersonal Relationship:
Definition and Importance
Relationship as Transaction
Types of Relationship
Communication Climate in
Relationship
Tips to Improve
Myself
Suwarn Kr. Singh
MCMIS- Netherlands, EMBA-Pokhara University,
MscIT-Manipal University
Director of Studies, NASC
10 + yrs of work experience as an IT and Management
Professional
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No matter what we do, we do it with people. People create technology. People implement the technology. People make it all happen. People ultimately use whatever it is we create. No matter how small your organization or how technical its process, it takes people to be successful.
Harry E. ChambersAuthor, The Bad Attitude Survival Guide
Forethought
Interpersonal Relationship
Definition:
o An interpersonal relationship is a strong, deep, or close
association or social contract between two or more people
that may range in duration from brief to enduring.
o This association may be based
on inference, love, solidarity, regular business interactions,
or some other type of social commitment.
o Interpersonal relationships are formed in the context of
social, cultural and other influences.
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Source: https://en.wikipedia.org
Interpersonal Relationship
Definition:
o The context can vary from:
family relations, friendship, marriage, relations with
associates, work, clubs, neighborhoods, and places of
worship.
o They may be regulated by law, custom, or mutual
agreement, and are the basis of social groups and society
as a whole.
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Source: https://en.wikipedia.org
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Best-managed organizations:
o understand work is done through
relationships
Interpersonal relation is the study of why
beliefs, attitudes, and behaviors can
cause problems in personal and
professional relationships
Purpose Interpersonal Relationship
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Interpersonal skills essential for success in
most jobs
Technical competencies not sufficient for
success
Recent trends in the workplace give new
importance to human relations
Importance Interpersonal Relationship
Relationship as Transaction
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Because it has stages to follow and has association time to justify the bonding
Structural Model:
Parent Ego State: thinking,feeling, behaving taken in formparents, teachers or parent-figure
Adult Ego State: thinking, feeling,behaving as a direct response tothe here and now
Child Ego State: thinking,feeling, behaving, replayedfrom childhood
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Theories of Relational Development14
Initiating
Experimenting
Intensifying
Integrating
Bonding Differentiating
Circumscribing (limiting)
Stagnating (Decaying)
Avoiding
Terminating
Source: Knapps’s Developmental Model
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Acquaintances (Connections/Links)
Romantic Relationships
Work Relationships
Family Relationships
Friendships
Relationship Types
Communication Climate
The emotional feelings that are present when peopleinteract with one another
Communication climates are metaphors for the feelings wehave when interacting with others
Possible relational climates:
-stormy
-cold
-sunny
-warm
How is communication climate determined?
By how communicators speak and act toward one
another
By how much communicators feel that they are valued
by the other person
The way another person treats us is often an indicator
for how they feel toward us
We interpret other’s behaviors in order to determine
how important we are to them
Confirming responses
Messages that tell you that you are
valued by the other person
Examples of confirming messages:
“you matter to me”
“you are special”
Confirming messages may be displayed
verbally or nonverbally
Three types of confirming messages
Recognition- showing recognition of
another person’s presence
Acknowledgment- to recognize and
validate another’s ideas and feelings
Endorsement- recognizing another’s ideas
and feelings and showing agreement for
them.
Disconfirming responses
Messages that deny the values of another
person
May take the form of disagreeing with or
ignoring another person’s message
Challenges of Today’s Workplace21
Wide range of interpersonal skills are
needed
People must manage three types:
Relationships with ourselves
One-to-one relationships
Group relationships
Tips to Improve 22
Put on a big happy smile
Communicate Clearly
Don’t Complain
Listen
Put yourself in someone else’s shoes
Gibb’s six pairs of Defensive and Supportive
behaviors:
Defensive Supportive
Evaluation vs. Description
Control vs. Problem Orientation
Strategy vs. Spontaneity
Neutrality vs. Empathy
Superiority vs. Equality
Certainty vs. Provisionalism
Evaluative Communication
Statements that come across as judgmental:
Often involve an accusatory tone
“you” statements
Put the other person on the defense
Descriptive communication
Focuses on the thoughts and feelings of
the speaker instead of judging the
listener
Describe how the other person’s behavior
has effected him or her, rather than just
judging it
Often involve “I” statements
Control vs. Problem Orientation
Control- when sender tries to impose a
solution on the receiver with little regard of
how that person feels
Problem orientation- involves both
communicators seeking a solution that is
equally satisfying
Strategy vs. Spontaneity
Strategy- involves the use of manipulation
in order to get someone to behave a
certain way
Spontaneity- the use of honesty to get
others to behave a certain way
Neutrality vs. Empathy
Neutrality- a neutral attitude shows a lack
of concern for the other
Empathy- showing an understanding for
what the other person is going through
Superiority vs. Equality
Superiority- when people act as is they
are better than others
Equality- when people behave as though
they are equal to everyone else
Certainty vs. Provisionalism
Certainty- messages that tell the receiver that the
sender’s mind is already made up
-not open to suggestion
Provisionalism- willing to acknowledge other points of
view even if they feel they have already made up
their mind
- involves keeping an open mind