how to be holy in your marriage

HOW TO BE HOW TO BE HOLY IN YOUR HOLY IN YOUR

MARRIAGEMARRIAGE

I Peter 1:15-16I Peter 1:15-16But just as he who called you is holy, so But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy be holy

in all you doin all you do; ; for it is written: “Be holy, for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”because I am holy.”

I Peter 3:1-4I Peter 3:1-4Wives, in the same way be submissive to your Wives, in the same way be submissive to your

husbands so that, if any of them do not husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.

I Peter 3:5-7I Peter 3:5-7For this is the way the holy women of the past For this is the way the holy women of the past

who put their hope in God used to make who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. and do not give way to fear.

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.nothing will hinder your prayers.

I. How to Be Holy as a HusbandI. How to Be Holy as a HusbandHusbands, in the same way be considerate as Husbands, in the same way be considerate as

you live with your wives, and treat them you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. – so that nothing will hinder your prayers. – v7v7

A. What should your attitudes be A. What should your attitudes be toward your wife?toward your wife?

I. How to Be Holy as a Husband .I. How to Be Holy as a Husband .

A. What should your attitudes be A. What should your attitudes be toward your wife?toward your wife?1. Be 1. Be considerateconsiderate ( (γνῶσιςγνῶσις) = ) = have have knowledge, knowledge, understanding.understanding.


A. What should your attitudes be A. What should your attitudes be toward your wife?toward your wife?2. Live with your wives physically 2. Live with your wives physically

but also but also emotionallyemotionally..


A. What should your attitudes be A. What should your attitudes be toward your wife?toward your wife?2. Live with your wives physically 2. Live with your wives physically

but also but also emotionallyemotionally..Ephesians 5:31 - For this reason a man will Ephesians 5:31 - For this reason a man will

leave his father and mother and be united leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.flesh.


A. What should your attitudes be A. What should your attitudes be toward your wife?toward your wife?3. Treat her with 3. Treat her with respectrespect ((ἀπονέμοντες τιμὴνἀπονέμοντες τιμὴν) = ) = “to “to assign value”, so honor, assign value”, so honor, esteem, cherish.esteem, cherish.


A. What should your attitudes be A. What should your attitudes be toward your wife?toward your wife?4. 4. LoveLove your wives. your wives.

Ephesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, Ephesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ just as Christ loved the church and gave loved the church and gave himself uphimself up for her. for her.



Ephesians 5:28-29 - In this same way, Ephesians 5:28-29 - In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives husbands ought to love their wives as their as their own bodiesown bodies. He who loves his wife loves . He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church.Christ does the church.



Ephesians 5:28-29 - In this same way, Ephesians 5:28-29 - In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but body, but he feeds and cares for ithe feeds and cares for it, just as , just as Christ does the church.Christ does the church.


A. What should your attitudes be A. What should your attitudes be toward your wife?toward your wife?

B. What are the results?B. What are the results?An unhindered prayer life!An unhindered prayer life!

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so so that nothing will hinder your prayersthat nothing will hinder your prayers. - v7. - v7


B. What are the results?B. What are the results?1. It’s possible to 1. It’s possible to grievegrieve the Holy the Holy Spirit.Spirit.

Ephesians 4:30 - And Ephesians 4:30 - And do not grieve the Holy do not grieve the Holy Spirit of GodSpirit of God, with whom you were sealed , with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. for the day of redemption.


B. What are the results?B. What are the results?2. There’s power in prayer when 2. There’s power in prayer when twotwo agreeagree..

Matthew 18:19 - I tell you that Matthew 18:19 - I tell you that if two of you on if two of you on earth agreeearth agree about anything you ask for, it about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in will be done for you by my Father in heaven.heaven.


B. What are the results?B. What are the results?3. Make things right between you 3. Make things right between you

before you before you worshipworship!!Matthew 5:23-24 -Matthew 5:23-24 - Therefore, if you are offering Therefore, if you are offering

your gift at the altar and there remember your gift at the altar and there remember that that your brother has something against your brother has something against youyou, leave your gift there in front of the , leave your gift there in front of the altar. First altar. First go and be reconciled to your go and be reconciled to your brotherbrother; then come and offer your gift.; then come and offer your gift.


I. How to Be Holy as a Husband I. How to Be Holy as a Husband - v7- v7

II. How to Be Holy as a Wife II. How to Be Holy as a Wife - v1-6- v1-6

A. What should your attitudes be A. What should your attitudes be towards your husband?towards your husband?

II. How to Be Holy as a Wife.II. How to Be Holy as a Wife.

1. 1. SubmissivenessSubmissiveness ((ὑποτάσσωὑποτάσσω) = ) = to arrange to arrange yourself under, rank yourself under, rank under, obey.under, obey.

Wives, in the same way Wives, in the same way be submissivebe submissive to your to your husbands so that, if any of them do not husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their without words by the behavior of their wives . . . - v1.wives . . . - v1.


2. It’s the same word in 2. It’s the same word in relationship to the relationship to the governmentgovernment, , earthly earthly mastersmasters, & to a husband., & to a husband.

SubmitSubmit yourselves for the Lord’s sake yourselves for the Lord’s sake to every to every authority instituted among menauthority instituted among men: whether to : whether to the king, as the supreme authority. . . - 2:13the king, as the supreme authority. . . - 2:13

Slaves, Slaves, submitsubmit yourselves yourselves to your mastersto your masters with with all respect. . . - 2:18all respect. . . - 2:18


Ephesians 5:21-22 - Ephesians 5:21-22 - Submit to one anotherSubmit to one another out out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.your husbands as to the Lord.


Ephesians 5:21-22 - Submit to one another out Ephesians 5:21-22 - Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, of reverence for Christ. Wives, submitsubmit to to your husbands your husbands as to the Lordas to the Lord..


Who’s in charge?Who’s in charge?Ephesians 5:23 - For the husband is Ephesians 5:23 - For the husband is the head the head

of the wifeof the wife as Christ is the head of the as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

I Corinthians 11:3 - Now I want you to realize I Corinthians 11:3 - Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is manthe head of the woman is man, and the , and the head of Christ is God.head of Christ is God.


. . . when they see the . . . when they see the puritypurity and reverence of and reverence of your lives. - v2your lives. - v2

2. 2. PurityPurity ( (ἁγνὴν ἁγνὴν ἀναστροφὴν ἀναστροφὴν ὑμω̂νὑμω̂ν) = ) = “Your behavior that is “Your behavior that is free free from ceremonial defile-from ceremonial defile- ment”, ment”, clean, sacred, holy.clean, sacred, holy.


. . . when they see the purity and . . . when they see the purity and reverencereverence of of your lives. - v2your lives. - v2

3. Reverence - respect.3. Reverence - respect.


4. Beauty.4. Beauty.

Your beauty should not come from outward Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.

Instead, it should be that of your inner self, Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. - v3-4sight. - v3-4


4. Beauty.4. Beauty.a. Our culture emphasizesa. Our culture emphasizes

physical beauty.physical beauty.Your beauty should not come from Your beauty should not come from outward outward

adornmentadornment, such as , such as braided hairbraided hair and the and the wearing of wearing of gold jewelrygold jewelry and and fine clothesfine clothes..

Instead, it should be that of your inner self, Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. - v3-4sight. - v3-4


b. God’s Principle for Feminine b. God’s Principle for Feminine Beauty: character & attitudes Beauty: character & attitudes more than physical beauty!more than physical beauty!

Your beauty should not come from outward Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.

Instead, it should be that of Instead, it should be that of your inner selfyour inner self, , the unfading beauty of a the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet gentle and quiet spiritspirit, which is of great worth in God’s , which is of great worth in God’s sight. - v3-4sight. - v3-4


A. What should your attitudes be A. What should your attitudes be towards your husband?towards your husband?

B. What are the results?B. What are the results?Power with people & God!Power with people & God!


B. What are the results?B. What are the results?1. The most important result is 1. The most important result is your unbelieving husband com-your unbelieving husband com-ing to the Lord!ing to the Lord!

Wives, in the same way be submissive to your Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, believe the word, they may be won over they may be won over without words without words by the behavior of their by the behavior of their wiveswives . . . - v1. . . . - v1.


B. What are the results?B. What are the results?2. Who do you become like?2. Who do you become like?

Luke 22:26-27 - Instead, the greatest among Luke 22:26-27 - Instead, the greatest among you should be like the youngest, and the you should be like the youngest, and the one who rules like the one who serves.one who rules like the one who serves. For For who is greater, the one who is at the table who is greater, the one who is at the table or the one who serves? Is it not the one or the one who serves? Is it not the one who is at the table? But who is at the table? But I am among you as I am among you as one who servesone who serves..


B. What are the results?B. What are the results?3. With these attitudes you have 3. With these attitudes you have power with power with peoplepeople!!

I Corinthians 9:19 - Though I am free and I Corinthians 9:19 - Though I am free and belong to no man, belong to no man, I make myself a slave to I make myself a slave to everyone, to win as many as possibleeveryone, to win as many as possible..


B. What are the results?B. What are the results?4. You have 4. You have greatgreat worthworth in God’s in God’s

sight!sight!Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the

unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sightwhich is of great worth in God’s sight. - v4.. - v4.


Do you want to stand out from the Do you want to stand out from the world & be holy?world & be holy?

Treat your spouses with Godly Treat your spouses with Godly behaviorbehavior

and the worldand the worldwill see the difference!will see the difference!

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