How To Solve Marriage Matters Without Marriage Counselling?

As and when a couple is on the verge of getting divorced or there are certain issues going on in a relationship, it is not always mandatory to resort to marriage counseling for help. More than a marriage counselor, it is you both who can healthe wounds of your marriage. A wise man has said, “If your marriage is to go where it’s never gone, you have to take a path you’ve never taken.” It is about taking the entire charge of your relationship and not letting anyone else blow the winds of your marital fate or control your conjugal life.

The answers to the questions that are taking birth in your mind like “From where do I begin?”, “What should I do?”, “How can I save my marriage?” are all here.

Talk Openly About the Problems

A couple should enjoy open lines ofcommunication. It is better to be vocal than tosurrender and let your partner guess. Make a listof all the issues including the ones that yourefrain yourself from talking to your mate. To getaway with your marital issues, it is very muchsignificant to foster an open as well as honestdialogue with your partner by confronting thematters one-on-one. Moreover, it is all the veryimportant to welcome what your partner has tosay on them and let your significant halfrespond.

Ask For Forgiveness

It is not that difficult if we ask for forgiveness.The time we learn the art of realizing andconfessing for the mistakes we have committed,it becomes easier to kick away the tensions in arelationship. Even if you were not at fault, it is agreat idea to say “I am sorry”. The reasonbehind this gesture is that it showcases yourcaring nature towards your partner and his/herfeelings. And, that’s not all! It is also a proofthat more than your self-worth, you value yourcommunion.

Make Decisions Cooperatively

A wise man has rightly stated, “Relationshiptakes two people. Not one being faithful andanother acting single.” A couple can also relyon the fact that divvying up tasks, takingdecisions together and other allied things canhelp your relation be back on the right track. It isbetter if you say “We” rather than “I” and“You”. Taking decisions cooperatively doesn’tdepict that there is no individuality or you haveno stand but it is the togetherness that willeventually take birth.

Affairs, Addictions, and Anger: Cut These Craps! Say a “BIG NO” to the three A’s (affairs,addictions, and anger) of a relationship thatstraightaway destroy a communion even thestrong ones. In a healthy marriage, they are‘deal-breakers’ and ‘out-of-bounds’. Kick themout from you lives, if in case you are followinganyone of them. They are nothing but habits thatare synonym to ‘self-defeating’ and‘relationship-destroying.’ With these irrelevantA’s, all you are doing is hindering the sunshineof your lovely and romantic life. It is better ifyou get rid of these unwanted behaviors ratherbe compassionate and understanding.

Always Evade A BrawlThere is no denying that every couple fight orrather one can say every two people fight. This isbecause each and every one of us has differentviews and thought processes. Whether it is abouta husband who left his breakfast bowl by the sinkrather than in the dishwasher or it is a wife whoforgot to tell him about an important call. It’s notall the time that a wife has to scream "kind oflike the queen in Alice in Wonderland" or a manhas to destroy household things. It’s better to takea break for some time or find humor in yourquarrels. Else, try to see things from yourpartner’s point of view.

And most of all, there is no one else who can better understand your relationship than you both. There is on rocket scienceto resolve your marriage issues. You just need to follow these simple things that are discussed in this article and I hope thatyou will ignite that ‘lost romance’ in your relationship and will re-live your “happy moments” again with your significantother.