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Creating the Life You Want Robert J. Peters, LCSW, CEAP, IHF, OMCC February 8, 2017

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Creating the Life You Want

Robert J. Peters, LCSW, CEAP, IHF, OMCC

February 8, 2017

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Robert J. Peters, LCSW, CEAP, IHF, OMCC

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WWW.COACHIC.COM/LEADERSHIP

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What area(s) of your life do you want to change?

Health

Romance

Family

Social

Finances

Business/Career

Spirituality

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Objectives

1. Outline the three step process to create the life you want

2. Examine why we do what we do

3. Describe the six different areas of our thinking

4. Invite you to take the next step to create the life you want

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Key questions

1. What kind of life do I want to create?

2. What steps/tools do I use to get there?

3. How do I walk the walk?

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Journey: Destination to ______________

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Step 1: Identify where you want to go

Step 2: Get the right map

Step 3: Get in the car and

drive!

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What will you create?

• What DON’T you want?

• What does your IDEAL day look like?

o (Thoughts, Emotions, Actions, Physical feelings)

• What do you want a friend, family member and co-worker to say about you at YOUR FUNERAL?

• Remembering back to when you were 10 YEARS OLD, what did you want to be when you grew up?

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Step 2: Get the right map

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What is the first thing you do in the morning?

Breakfast

Brush my teeth

Get dressed

Hit the snooze button

Wash

Toilet

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Stretch

Check phone

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Why do you do that?

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What do you do that for?

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It worked . . .

• . . . for SOMEONE

• . . . at SOMETIME

• . . . under a certain SET OF CIRCUMSTANCES

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Why do we do what we do?

Thoughts

Emotions

Actions

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Thoughts -- Emotions -- Actions

Thought: “Why me? People always cut me off…everyone is out to get me!!”

Emotion: Victim….Fear…anger…distrustful…blaming…paranoid

Action: Attack, obscene gesture…

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Thoughts -- Emotions -- Actions

Thought: “People do the best they can, given the situation…”

Emotion: Trusting…optimistic…

Action: Friendly wave…cooperative…helpful…collaborative

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Why do we do what we do?

Thoughts

Emotions

Actions

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Six Thinking Categories

1. Thoughts about myself: Self-Esteem

2. Thoughts that drive where I’m going: Mental Creation

3. Thoughts about my life: Joy in the Journey

4. Thoughts about other people: Connection with People

5. Thoughts about getting things done: Physical Creation

6. Thoughts about my thinking: Disciplined Thinking

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Step 3: Get in the car and

drive!

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Working with your tendencies

1. Know your tendencies

2. Trigger situations: When……………………………….happens,

I’m likely to think ……………………………………………………

3. Self-observations: How’s this working for me?

4. Moment of choice: A more adaptive thought is……...........

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Successful people are not gifted. They just

work hard, then succeed…….

on PURPOSE.

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Objectives

Outlined the three step process to create the life you want

Examined why we do what we do

Described the six different areas of our thinking

Invited you to take the next step to create the life you want

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WWW.COACHIC.COM/LEADERSHIP

Robert J. Peters, LCSW, CEAP, IHF, OMCC

• Licensed Clinical Social Worker

• Certified Employee Assistance Professional

• International Hypnosis Federation

• Og Mandino Certified Coach

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Call toll-free or visit us at

www.MagellanHealth.com/member

24 hours a day/7 days a week

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about a company or its affiliates from purchasing or selling securities of such company or from the communication of such information to any other person under circumstance in which it is reasonably foreseeable that such person may purchase or sell such securities with the benefit of such information.

The information presented in this presentation is confidential and expected to be used for the sole purpose of considering the purchase of Magellan’s services. By receipt of this presentation, each recipient agrees that the information contained herein will be kept confidential. The attached material shall not be photocopied,

reproduced, distributed to or disclosed to others at any time without the prior written consent of the Company.

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