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    Anger Part 2: Three Lies AboutAnger and theTransforming Truth by David Powlison

    What is anger? How should we handle it? Part 1 ofthis article1 sought to provide biblical anchors forunderstanding this volatile experience. We saw thatthe Bible treats anger in rich detail. We saw that angerinvolves the whole person: body, emotions, mind,motives, and behavior. It has an interpersonal focus,always having to do with God and usually having todo with other people. It is both natural and learned,for good and ill. It is a moral matter. God gives us aworldview from which to think about anger, andwithin which to wrestle with the varied expressions ofanger that we encounter.

    In Part 2 we will critique three of the most perni-cious misconceptions about anger that dominate ourculture. As Christian counselors, we can offer the bib-lical alternative with all its depth, hope, and power topeople enmeshed in lies. The truth provides a path-way out of anger and out of the confusion that sur-rounds anger. This part of the article will concludewith a set of eight questions that aid in assessing andovercoming anger in a godly way.

    Lie #1: Anger is Something Inside MeOne crucial implication of all weve discussed is

    that anger is not a thing. It is a moral act of thewhole person, not a substance or a somethinginside you. That might sound obvious, but most pop-ular understandings of anger dont see it. Is anger ahot, emotional fluid that builds up pressure inside? Oris anger a demon that takes up residency? These com-mon ideasopposed to each other in every otherway!both agree that anger is a something.

    In Western culture at large, many theories of angersee it as an emotional fluid that builds up pressureinside and must be released. This hydraulic theoryof anger contributes to the pop wisdom that anger

    just is, neither good nor bad. Things are neutral;moral agents arent. Why does this theory seem plau-sible? Because images such as the following capturesomething of what anger can feel like: A personsanger can be pent up; his pump is primed. Peoplecan be boiling mad, filled with anger, waiting toexplode. They blow off steam. Old, unresolvedanger can be stored up inside, harbored fordecades. If you get it off your chest until your angeris spent, you feel better. All these metaphors per-suasively depict anger as a pressurized substanceinside us.

    No doubt, these colorful descriptions do capturehow anger feels. But a metaphor is not meant to over-power the thing it intends to illustrate. The writers ofthe Old and New Testaments, for example, didnt real-ly believe that an inner furnace got stoked up to makeyou hot when you burn with anger. The burningmetaphor graphically captures the sensation of angerand its effects, but its not intended to cancel out thefact that anger is something people do. Anger feelsfiery, but its not a fire. The solution to sinful anger isnot to surgically remove the furnace or to drinkenough water to quench the fire! The solution is amoral one: to turn from sin to Gods grace in repen-tant faith.

    What do I mean if I say, My angry neighborgrowls, barks, snarls, and snaps at her kids; she chewsand bites their heads off; she gets rabid and foams atthe mouth? Those are illuminating word pictures.But certainly I dont mean that she has an innerhydrophobic watchdog, and that the rabid caninewithin has taken over! In that case, the only solutionswould be to muzzle her or to put her out of her mis-ery. A mad dog is a thing that talking cant fix. ButIve known snarlers who, by hearing God, repenting,believing, and obeying, grow peaceable.

    When people believe that anger is a pressurizedsubstance, something inside, not something they do,the idea points to a solution other than repentance.The need for some kind of catharsis seems logical.Counseling will seek to release pressure by lancingthe boil (another metaphor!). You have this hot stuffsimmering inside you that needs to get out. Heres apillow. Call it your Mom. Take this baseball bat andwallop the pillow, cursing her out for everything shedid. Youll get the anger out of your system. Youll feelbetter, and youll be fixed. The scenario sounds logi-cal only if anger is a thing inside. But because anger is

    1Understanding Anger, Journal of Biblical Counseling, 14:1(Fall 1995), pp. 40-53.

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    not a thing, but a moral act of the whole person, thescenario is sinful.2 Anger is not a thing, so the truesolution is self-understanding, an acknowledgment ofwrong, repentance, faith, and new obedience by thepower of Gods grace.

    The second way in which anger is visualized as athing is seen in animistic culturesand in some seg-

    ments of contemporary Christian culture. In these set-tings, many people treat anger as a demon. Thelogic is identical to the secular hydraulic model.Again, anger is something inside you. You will be fixedby getting the thing out of you, in this case by cast-ing it out. Again, the theory seems plausible. Just asangry people boil, so anger, as much as any sin, makesus exactly like the devil. He is the accuser who usurpsthe throne of judgment, spouts half-truths and lies,and brings wrath against God and other people. Thewhole angry world lies in his power, and the devilseeks to mold us into his image. When you see (or are)a sinfully angry person, voil, the devils image is dis-played. But the devils hand in anger is no differentfrom his involvement in any other sin. He does notdemonize us into sin; he rules us. He tempts and liesin his attempt to control and destroy us. The solutionlies not in exorcism from supposed demons of rage,anger, pride, and rebellion; it lies in repentance fromrage, anger, pride, and rebellion, turning to the Lordof grace. Anger is a moral act, not an indwelling thing,and its solution is a moral act, too.3

    Because anger is something that people do asmoral agents, theres no reason that anger must bevented or exorcised to be truly resolved. Theories thatliquify or demonize anger sound plausible becausethey draw on a vivid metaphor or on the arch-accuserlurking in the neighborhood. But they misconstrue

    what they see and lead people astray.

    Lie #2: Its Okay to be Angry at GodWeve seen earlier that anger at God is common-

    place. The Bible speaks of it scores of times.4 Its one ofthe most logical human reactions, given the nature ofsin, but its a deadly wickedness. What Jobs wife saidwas terrible advice, but at least she had her factsstraight: Curse God, and die (Job 2:9).

    Many popular psychologies discuss anger at Godin a very unhelpful way. The standard advice runssomething like this: If you are angry at God you needto do four things. First, remember anger just is, itsneither good nor bad. Its okay to feel angry at God.He made us with angry emotions. Second, God oftenlets us down and disappoints us. How else can weexplain being abused, and crying out to Him for deliv-erance, yet the abuse continued? If Hes supposed tobe in control, then He could have stopped it, and Hedidnt. Third, you need to ventilate your anger at God.Hes a mature lover, and mature love can absorb thehonest anger of the beloved. So dont be afraid to tellHim exactly what you feel and think. Many Psalmsportray anger at God, so if other godly people have letout their rage at Him, you can too. Dont censor yourfeelings and language; say it like you feel it so youwont be a hypocrite. Fourth, you need to forgive God.Forgiveness is the opposite of anger, and you need tolet go of the hostility to be at peace in yourself and tobuild a trusting relationship with God. Forgive Himfor the ways He let you down. Plausible? Many findit so. Coherent? It does hang together. True? No way.

    Anger at God is profitably examined by asking,What do you want and believe?just as you wouldwith any other instance of anger. What you willinvariably find is that your heart is controlled by par-ticular cravings and lies that have been substituted forthe living and true God. For example, if I crave mar-riage and believe that God will reward my devotion toHim with a wife, my heart sets itself up for anger atGod. Anger will come when the desire is not satisfiedand the belief proves unwarranted.

    Anger at God of the sort that is frequently seen incounseling isvirtually without exception (well dis-cuss those anger Psalms in a moment)sinful

    Theres no reason that anger must bevented or exorcised to be truly resolved.

    4Perhaps most vividly in the sustained hostility towardsJesus Christ the Son of God, and towards those forerunnersand messengers of God who preceded and followed Him(especially David, Jeremiah, John the Baptist, and Paul). Inthe wilderness, grumbling expressed angry displeasurewith God. In Proverbs 19:3 a foolish man rages against theLord. In Revelation 16 it says three times that men blas-phemed God rather than repenting.

    2This is not to say that catharsis may not make people feelbetter. Many things make angry people feel temporarilybetter that provide no real solution to moral problems: e.g.,calming medication, eating junk food, orgasm, sleeping,watching TV, gossiping your story to get people on yourside, screaming and hitting things, working out in the gym,getting away to Bermuda. Such things often do take theedge off, but they dont change the heart. 3See my Power Encounters: Reclaiming Spiritual Warfare(Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 1995) for a more extensive cri-tique of the notion of demons of anger.

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    anger. It overflows with malice and mistrust towardsGod. It firmly embraces (and proclaims) lies aboutwhat He is like. It rationalizes any number of self-destructive and sinful behavi