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BULLYINGADAPTED FROM PREVENTING BULLYING AND HARASSMENT BY SALLY STOKER, MSW
Mr. Schwartz, School Psychologist
Did you know?
In the average elementary classroom, 2 to 3 students feel afraid on a regular basis.
On the playground there are on average 4.5-6.5 bullying incidences per hour.
Six out of 10 teens witness bullying and harassment at least once per day.
36% of elementary students and 5% of high school students who are bullied report it to adults.
Bullying peaks in middle school.
Cyber Bullying
42% of kids have been bullied while online. One in 4 have had it happen more than once.
35% of kids have been threatened online. Nearly 1 in 5 have had it happen more than once.
58% admit someone has said mean or hurtful things to them online. More than 4 out of 10 has happened more than once.
Definition of Bullying:
A person is being bullied or victimized when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more persons.
Normal Conflict Vs. Bullying
Equal power or friends Happens occasionally Accidental Not serious Equal emotional reaction Not seeking power or
attention Not trying to get something Remorse-takes responsibility Effort to solve the problem
Imbalance of power, not friends
Repeated negative actions Purposeful Serious with threat of physical
or emotional harm Strong emotional reaction
from victim; little or no reaction from bully
Seeking power, control Attempts to gain power No remorse-blames victims No effort to solve problems
Forms of Bullying & Harassment
Physical aggression Verbal aggression Non-verbal aggression Intimidation Racial, religious, and
ethnic harassment
Sexual harassment Sexual orientation
harassment Electronic/cyber
bullying Hazing Dating violence
Characteristics of bullies
Value the rewards that aggression can bring Lack empathy and compassion Lack guilt and blame the victim Like to be in charge and to dominate Aggressive role models Think in unrealistic ways: have thinking errors
Common thinking errors
Everyone should always go my way I don’t care if I hurt other people I shouldn’t have to follow rules or do boring things Lying can keep you out of trouble I never make mistakes and things are never my
fault Irrational thinking…
Types of victims
Most typical & recognizable type of victim
Non-assertive and submissive
Provokes others: is argumentative & aggressive
Instigates conflict to gain negative attention
Easily emotionally aroused
Poor impulse control
Passive Victims Proactive Victims
The downward spiral of victimization
Repeated bulling…
Lowered self-esteem…
More ineffective responses…
More bullying…
Increased disapproval/avoidance by peers…
Self-blaming, “I deserve it...”
Helplessness…
More bullying…
Consequences for victims…
Academic: lowered academic achievement, impaired concentration, dislike of school…
Physical: frequent illnesses, anxiety, stomachaches, sleep difficulties…
Emotional: lowered self-esteem, hypersensitivity, nervousness, worry, feelings of isolation…
Bystanders
Most ignored and underused resource in schools The silent majority (the caring majority):
approximately 85% of a school population Become desensitized over time Diminished empathy
Why don’t they get involved?
Fear of retaliation Don’t know what to do Afraid they’ll make things worse Worry about losing social status Don’t believe that adults will help Don’t believe it is their responsibility
Roles of bystanders
1. Assistants: join in the bullying
2. Reinforcers: give positive feedback to the bully
3. Outsiders: stay away, do nothing
4. Defenders: do something to stop the bullying
Consequences of bystanders
Feelings of anxiety and guilt Lowered sense of self-respect/confidence Development of a sense of personal powerlessness Diminished sense of empathy
“Get up, stand up: stand up for your rights, Get up, stand up: don’t give up the fight!” –Bob Marley
Taking a stand… Any positive behavior that supports the caring
majority or caring community…
Strategies for bystanders…
Normalize fears and worries Emphasize strength in numbers Learn skills and strategies to take a stand Brainstorm all sources of help at school: teachers,
social worker, a.p., principal… Different ways to obtain help: anonymously, by
yourself, in a group…
Self-talk
Use positive self-talk to maintain a positive self-esteem during a bullying situation
Rehearse mental strategies to avoid getting hooked by the bully
Think positive statements about self and accomplishments
Dilemmas
1. Your walking down the hallway and you witness someone shoving a friend of yours. What do you do?
3. Before class begins you hear someone making fun of the person next to you. What do you do?
5. You are hanging out with your group of friends during the weekend and your friends begin teasing a member of the group. What do you do?
Social Story
Most people have witnessed bullying during their schooling. When I see someone being made fun of I try to do something. Sometimes I tell an teacher, principal, or parent. When I feel bold, I immediately speak up and try to intervene. The more I stand up the easier it becomes.
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