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Where Does My Job End and My Life Where Does My Job End and My Life Begin?Begin?

Presenter:Presenter:Helen B. GarrettHelen B. GarrettAssociate Dean of Student Affairs, Enrollment and Student Associate Dean of Student Affairs, Enrollment and Student Financial ServicesFinancial ServicesLane Community CollegeLane Community CollegeEugene, OR 97405Eugene, OR 97405

11/0711/07

Where Does My Job End and Where Does My Job End and My Life Begin?My Life Begin?

Purpose of session:Purpose of session:To start you on a journey to help To start you on a journey to help you take better care of your life you take better care of your life and to find a balance betweenand to find a balance betweenand to find a balance between and to find a balance between your work and your lifeyour work and your lifeHelping you to achieve Helping you to achieve emotional, physical, financial emotional, physical, financial and spiritual well beingand spiritual well being

Where Does My Job End and My Where Does My Job End and My Life Begin?Life Begin?

What do I know? I What do I know? I know what I have know what I have learned so far and learned so far and what I’ve readwhat I’ve read

Take Time for Your Take Time for Your Life:Life:

A 7A 7--Step Program for Step Program for Creating the Life Creating the Life you Wantyou Want

Cheryl RichardsonCheryl Richardson


“Give yourself permission to take good “Give yourself permission to take good care of yourself and to make your selfcare of yourself and to make your self--care care a top priority over anything else”a top priority over anything else”“Creating a life that you love takes “Creating a life that you love takes courage, commitment, and hard work”courage, commitment, and hard work”“One of the gifts that surviving a personal “One of the gifts that surviving a personal crisis gives you is the motivation to crisis gives you is the motivation to reevaluate your life and take note of what reevaluate your life and take note of what really matters.”really matters.”My leave of absence story and the My leave of absence story and the challenge that changed my life.challenge that changed my life.


“If work has taken over your life, “If work has taken over your life, finding a way to manage your finding a way to manage your time won’t solve the problem. time won’t solve the problem. Instead you’ll need to manageInstead you’ll need to manageInstead, you ll need to manage Instead, you ll need to manage yourself, get your priorities yourself, get your priorities straight and focus your attention straight and focus your attention on what really matters”on what really matters”


Obstacles from living a life that Obstacles from living a life that you love:you love:

1.1. Thinking “selfish” is a dirty Thinking “selfish” is a dirty wordwordwordword

2.2. Your schedule does not reflect Your schedule does not reflect your prioritiesyour priorities

3.3. You feel drained by people,You feel drained by people,places, and thingsplaces, and things

Where Does My Job End and My Where Does My Job End and My Life Begin?Life Begin?4.4. You feel trapped by moneyYou feel trapped by money5.5. Adrenaline has become your Adrenaline has become your

main source of fuelmain source of fuelY ’ i i tiY ’ i i ti6.6. You’re missing a supportive You’re missing a supportive community in your lifecommunity in your life

7.7. Your spiritual wellYour spiritual well--being gets being gets last place in your busy life.last place in your busy life.


Your life is not your work:Your life is not your work:Couples spend an average of 12 Couples spend an average of 12 minutes a day talking to each minutes a day talking to each other.other.Families spend an average of 40Families spend an average of 40Families spend an average of 40 Families spend an average of 40 minutes per week playing with their minutes per week playing with their childrenchildrenVacations have become Vacations have become recuperation periods instead of recuperation periods instead of time for leisure and recreation.time for leisure and recreation.

Where Does My Job End and My Where Does My Job End and My Life Begin?Life Begin?Your life is not your work:Your life is not your work:

Are you working crazy hours Are you working crazy hours because you don’t know what else because you don’t know what else to do with your time?to do with your time?What would you do if you weren’tWhat would you do if you weren’tWhat would you do if you weren t What would you do if you weren t working? Can you answer this?working? Can you answer this?Of the 24 hours a day: Average Of the 24 hours a day: Average time spent:time spent:7 hours sleep, 12 hours working, 4 7 hours sleep, 12 hours working, 4 hours life maintenance, 1 hour for hours life maintenance, 1 hour for yourself, 0 hours left over.yourself, 0 hours left over.


Take joy in having nowhere to beTake joy in having nowhere to be

Eliminate what drains you and make Eliminate what drains you and make space for what’s really importantspace for what’s really important

Allow yourself to feel guilty only Allow yourself to feel guilty only when it will help to motivate youwhen it will help to motivate you

“Work like you don’t need the “Work like you don’t need the money, Sing like nobody’s listening, money, Sing like nobody’s listening, Dance like nobody’s watching, Love Dance like nobody’s watching, Love like you’ve never been hurt” like you’ve never been hurt” --Mark TwainMark Twain


Stop rushing the experience of Stop rushing the experience of living:living:

1.1. Decompress between tasksDecompress between tasks2.2. Take a power nap Take a power nap -- 20 minutes20 minutes33 Really listen no I mean reallyReally listen no I mean really3.3. Really listen, no, I mean really…Really listen, no, I mean really…4.4. Focus on the now, be presentFocus on the now, be present5.5. Check your inner speedometerCheck your inner speedometer6.6. Lower your own bar/expectationsLower your own bar/expectations7.7. Enjoy your meals moreEnjoy your meals more8.8. Find a relaxing hobby and do itFind a relaxing hobby and do it9.9. Look for what is right in front of youLook for what is right in front of you


Make Room and Time for JoyMake Room and Time for Joy1.1. Visualize a great dayVisualize a great day2.2. Find your source of joyFind your source of joy3.3. Be thankful, express gratitudeBe thankful, express gratitude

Listen to your heart and soulListen to your heart and soul whatwhat4.4. Listen to your heart and soulListen to your heart and soul--what what is it really saying to you?is it really saying to you?

5.5. Let go of being rightLet go of being right6.6. Choose a mantra: It’s all goodChoose a mantra: It’s all good7.7. Smile when you are aloneSmile when you are alone8.8. Sing in your carSing in your car


Take care of the physical youTake care of the physical you1.1. Drink water: 1/2 oz per pound you Drink water: 1/2 oz per pound you

weighweigh2.2. Switch out soda for waterSwitch out soda for water33 Analyze how you feel after eatingAnalyze how you feel after eating3.3. Analyze how you feel after eating Analyze how you feel after eating

different foods and adjustdifferent foods and adjust4.4. Sleep 7Sleep 7--8 hours a night and no 8 hours a night and no

alcohol before you go to sleepalcohol before you go to sleep5.5. Breathe and go to your happy Breathe and go to your happy

placeplace6.6. Exercise: even if for just 1 minute!Exercise: even if for just 1 minute!7.7. Find a listening buddy and just you Find a listening buddy and just you

talktalk


Invest in your Financial HealthInvest in your Financial HealthDon’t deny and avoid this any longerDon’t deny and avoid this any longerChange your beliefsChange your beliefsDevelop an attitude of gratitudeDevelop an attitude of gratitudeGet comfortable with moreGet comfortable with moreAsk for helpAsk for helpKnow where your money goesKnow where your money goesEliminate debt, pay your bills on time Eliminate debt, pay your bills on time and repair your credit reportand repair your credit reportAction ignites the magic of more moneyAction ignites the magic of more money


Take care of yourself. Do it!Take care of yourself. Do it!Transfer the task to someone Transfer the task to someone else. Hire it!else. Hire it!Th it t Ch k it!Th it t Ch k it!Throw it out. Chuck it!Throw it out. Chuck it!

David Irish song “The Toys are Put Away”


Some tips to take back with you:Some tips to take back with you:1.1. If possible, have someone else answer your callsIf possible, have someone else answer your calls2.2. Leave the office by 5:30 p.m.Leave the office by 5:30 p.m.3.3. Schedule fewer meetings and arrive on timeSchedule fewer meetings and arrive on time4.4. Schedule time to travel to and from meetingsSchedule time to travel to and from meetings

S h d l ti t d d d tS h d l ti t d d d t ilil5.5. Schedule time to read and respond to eSchedule time to read and respond to e--mails mails and phone callsand phone calls

6.6. Don’t give out your phone number, unless you Don’t give out your phone number, unless you can respond to the number of calls coming incan respond to the number of calls coming in

7.7. Don’t be afraid to ask for helpDon’t be afraid to ask for help8.8. Meet less often, for less time than beforeMeet less often, for less time than before9.9. Say no, unless it absolutely meansSay no, unless it absolutely means yesyes


Some tips to take back with you:Some tips to take back with you:10.10. Talk slower, write slower, stop rushing from Talk slower, write slower, stop rushing from

appointment to appointmentappointment to appointment11.11. Stop, breathe in, breathe out, notice what isStop, breathe in, breathe out, notice what is

around you and ask how you feel right nowaround you and ask how you feel right now1212 Pay attention to your dreamsPay attention to your dreams12.12. Pay attention to your dreamsPay attention to your dreams13.13. Put yourself at the top of your “to do” listPut yourself at the top of your “to do” list14.14. Don’t let the energy of not taking action drain youDon’t let the energy of not taking action drain you15.15. Shut the ringer off of your phone when you need Shut the ringer off of your phone when you need

to be creativeto be creative16.16. Schedule time to handle paperworkSchedule time to handle paperwork


Some tips to take back with you:Some tips to take back with you:17.17. Exercise by doing something that was fun when you Exercise by doing something that was fun when you

were a childwere a child18.18. Give yourself the gift of massage more than once a Give yourself the gift of massage more than once a

yearyear19.19. Go to bed when you are tired and do not watch the Go to bed when you are tired and do not watch the

newsnewsP i d d lfP i d d lf l il i20.20. Put up encouraging words and selfPut up encouraging words and self--loving mantras at loving mantras at home and at workhome and at work

21.21. Laugh and cry oftenLaugh and cry often22.22. Admit that you are running on adrenaline and kick the Admit that you are running on adrenaline and kick the

habithabit23.23. Don’t work through lunch, walk and breathe outsideDon’t work through lunch, walk and breathe outside24.24. Hug your partner, spouse, kids and pets every dayHug your partner, spouse, kids and pets every day25.25. Look for relationships that support you, excite you,Look for relationships that support you, excite you,

inspire you and challenge you to be your bestinspire you and challenge you to be your best


Herding Cats (aka managing Herding Cats (aka managing your eyour e--mails)mails)

Send fewer outSend fewer outNever respond with just “thanks”Never respond with just “thanks”p jp jAre you in the TO:? If so, read Are you in the TO:? If so, read and respond. CC: It can waitand respond. CC: It can waitLess is more, the more you know Less is more, the more you know the person the fewer formalities the person the fewer formalities and words should be usedand words should be usedSort and create a “read” folderSort and create a “read” folder


What have you What have you done for done for youyou that that was fun lately? was fun lately? Tell the personTell the personTell the person Tell the person next to younext to you


Letter to you exerciseLetter to you exercise

Where Does My Job End and My Life Begin?Where Does My Job End and My Life Begin?

Questions or want to see if I am really living a Questions or want to see if I am really living a balanced life?balanced life?Helen’s contact information:Helen’s contact information:

Helen B. GarrettHelen B. GarrettLane Community CollegeLane Community College4000 East 30th Avenue4000 East 30th AvenueEugene, OR 97405Eugene, OR [email protected]@lanecc.edu

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