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Table of ContentsIntroduction

Profiles

Privacy Settings

Teasing

Interests

Initiating Messages

Don’t Judge

Profile Pictures

Apps/Games

Taking Things Further

Status Updates

Flirting

Responding to Messages

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IntroductionWhat this eBook is designed to do is give you an incredible advantage in the dating game.

Facebook can especially serve two major purposes in your love and sex life:

1. It can provide an almost limitless source of meeting women, a tool for communication and connecting, and a way to screen women before you date them.

2. Women these days are going to research and investigate you if they consider dating you. Commonly called ‘Internet stalking’, if a woman is interested in you, she almost always types your name into Google and Facebook to see what comes up. You probably do the same. Think of your Facebook profile as an opportunity to market yourself online.

Like it or not, Facebook has become an almost essential part of modern day dating.

Your Facebook profile can act as either an asset or a liability. It will either help you get women, or will cause women to lose interest in you.

Having a truly world-class Facebook profile is essential if you want to get the best quality women.

Technology touches almost every aspect of our lives. Meeting women is no exception. Social networking and dating sites are common ways to meet girls. While these methods can often be successful, there are specific rules and guidelines that need to be followed.

This guide will walk you through the basics of how to successfully create and maintain a social networking profile that will help you get positive results with women. In addition, you will get insight and advice on how to initiate messages, respond to messages, and progress to in-person meetings, such as dates.

Keep in mind that Facebook itself is constantly upgrading and implementing new features into its site. This should be the same for you and your profile. Your profile is always a work in progress and needs to be treated as such. Keep it fresh and updated at all times.

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ProfilesYour Facebook profile page is the nucleus of your personal social networking strategy.

Your profile gives the reader an instant snapshot of who you are as a person and what your interests and priorities are.

Keep in mind that your average woman is a smart, above-average detective. It is in the female nature to over-analyze, be extremely cautious and study every small thing in detail. This makes them prone to assuming major things about you based on what you have on your profile.

Women’s magazines are filled with stories on how a woman can detect deep insights into you and your relationship potential through surprisingly small amounts of information; such as how you hold your drink.

Keep that in mind when creating your Facebook profile. A woman will notice and see every piece of information you put there – intentional or not. You need to have a type of microscope for making sure everything in your profile puts you in the absolute best possible light.

The same profile that you use to attract women will not necessarily be the same profile you use for professional purposes. In other words, think of your profile as bait. To catch the right fish, you need the right bait. If your online profile is professional, but you are looking for a carefree party girl, then you may not attract this type of girl with a professional profile. On the other hand, if your profile only shows you having fun and never being serious, then your professional aspirations can be harmed.

That said, it might be worthwhile to set your profile to private if there is a conflict between your professional or personal goals. Some people set up two profiles; one with their real name for showing their professional side and one using a pseudonym with their personal life on display. This is a very smart strategy.

A friend of mine is a schoolteacher and would get in a lot of trouble if his students or his colleagues found his Facebook profile. So he has his personal Facebook profile under a different name that he only tells his family, close friends and women he meets.

Design your profile to fit your needs

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A common technique is to use existing, successful profiles as a template or a model to creating your profile. For instance, guys with the top 10 profiles on dating sites get large numbers of hits and dates. These guys do not have career-focused profiles, rather they present themselves as fun and interesting. You may be a great working professional, but this does not need to be the basis of a profile that you use to attract women.

Think about what you want to achieve with your profile, and who your target audience will be.

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Profile PicturesPosting photos is absolutely necessary. For example, many social networking sites have an option that, if selected in a search, only shows profiles with pictures. Approximately 90 percent of all searches limit the results to those that have a picture. Some sites may even require a photo to join their member base.

Having no photo at all will make women question your self-confidence levels. What would your response be to a woman that contacted you, but had no profile picture? Your response would likely be negative. You would probably question her confidence and whether she is hiding something.

Make sure to include a picture, even if you are shy or worried about how women may react. Pictures are incredibly important to getting results on social networking and dating sites. Without a photo, you might as well not bother creating the profile in the first place. Post the right type of photos, and you will certainly get better results.

Be a man that can find solutions and make things happen. These types of guys tend to be far more attractive to women than the alternative. The same goes for if you are unable to set up a Facebook profile in the first place. Remember that your average young, attractive woman is very tech savvy and she’ll be turned off if you can’t level up to that.

The following guidelines will help you to select the best types of photos to post. Aim to post a combination of these types. Balance is key. You want to have a little bit of everything. Do not overdo any one category.

• Showyourface - Many guys make the mistake of not showing their face. Showing your face is important, even if you do not think of yourself as attractive. Women have different opinions of what is or isn’t attractive; no two women are the same. There are women out there that will find you attractive. Hiding what you look like causes issues and disappointment down the road, when you meet women in person. For this reason, it is also important not to post fake pictures. I’ve seen guys’ profile pictures where they only had pictures of cartoons or some other alternative photos. These guys rarely get attractive women. Once I met a girl; I liked her and added her on Facebook. I noticed that the only photos she had of herself were of her wearing a mask at a masquerade party. Immediately I assumed she had some serious self-confidence issues and never dated her again.

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Being comfortable with photos of yourself is a solid sign of high self-esteem. I met a girl once that destroyed every photo of herself between the ages of 12 and 18 – you won’t get a more obvious sign of a lack of self-confidence than that.

• Makesureyouaresmiling - Otherwise, you may seem like a guy who is too serious and not fun. Think about the top 10 guys on dating sites. Very rarely are these guys in a serious pose. Seriousness is not a winner when it comes to online profiles. If you think about someone who is warm and welcoming, the immediate image that comes to mind is a smile. The same applies online. If you are not convinced that smiling is necessary, then you should try the following experiment. Go to a public place, such as a mall or busy street. Walk for 10 minutes with a serious expression. Return the same way, but with a smile on your face instead. Smile at everyone. You can even overdo it. Smile at kids, old people, and girls. On the first run, no one will notice you. People will walk away. They may even avoid you. When you return, you will notice people smiling back, talking to you, asking you for directions, introducing themselves, or even starting conversations. This is the art of being approachable. The more approachable you are, the more likely it is that people will feel comfortable connecting with you. You can also use the last half of the experiment as a tool to help you become more approachable. The exercise demonstrates how valuable smiling is. Smiling is important for both in-person and online interactions. You can replicate the experiment online by posting a non-smiling picture for one week, followed by a smiling picture the next week. You will notice differences between the number of comments, friend requests, and random chat requests that you get depending on the type of profile photo that you have posted.

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• Includeabodyshot - Posting both a face and body picture is the best approach. You should consider including pictures without a shirt, or close ups of your best features (such as your abs). If you have a fit body, show it off. For example, a great picture to post would be one of you at the beach, which is a natural place to be without a shirt. However, only post one or two of these types of photos. If you post more, then you will seem narcissistic and conceited. Similar to men, women browsing photos are thinking about what a guy looks like underneath his shirt. When she views your photo, she does so to get an idea of what it would be like if she were to be intimate with you. Even if you are shy, are a bit bigger, a bit skinnier, or older, you should still post a body photo. This will make you look confident, which women find attractive. Avoid posting explicit photos. If she requests explicit photos, then you can decide if you are comfortable doing this. Otherwise, keep them to yourself.

• Showthatyouarefun - Include profile pictures that show you are a fun guy to hang out with. Guys with the top 10 profiles have pictures that show them having fun and doing activities, such as sports, parties, concerts, etc. You will also find these guys post many pictures of them having fun with women. The next time you are out, have your camera ready, take photos of you having a good time no matter who you are with (guys or girls). This will show you are social and can handle yourself well in a group.

• Includeapictureofyouwithotherwomen - Women do not want a guy that has no female friends or is not liked by women. Think about it from her perspective. What does it say about you if you have no female friends? Subconsciously, you send the message that you are not cool, interesting, or fun. However, if you have photos that show you having fun with women, then you seem like a fun, interesting, worthwhile guy. In other words, you have been pre-selected and approved by other women. This means a lot. However, do not over do it. If you only post pictures of you having fun with girls, then women may think you are a player.

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Photos are essential to meeting women through social networking. Simply posting a photo means that you will be included in search results that would have otherwise overlooked your profile. Even if you are shy or concerned about how you look, you should still post your picture. Use the tips provided to select the right type of photos. If you already have profile photos, then review them to ensure you have the right type and the right balance. You will definitely get much better results by posting the right pictures.

• Includepicturesthatshowyourinterests - Include photos of yourself enjoying special activities, hobbies, or interests. The top 10 guys on dating sites include pictures that show they are interesting, exiting, and fun. For example, if you are at a concert, take a photo or video and upload it. By doing this, you will not only seem like a fun and interesting guy, but you will also be attracting (and building up) your circle of friends that have similar interests. For instance, I’m quite an outdoorsy person and I like to show this in my photos. Ask yourself – what sort of guy do my photos make me look like? On the other hand, if you sit around on the couch most of the time, then you should get out more, live life, and try cool things. Women are not interested in guys who sit at home all day. Posting a picture of yourself as a couch potato will not help you attract women to your profile. Be sure to post pictures that show how interesting and fun you are.

• Includepicturesofyourchildrenifyouareafather - posting a picture of you with your children is perfectly acceptable. Many women want to see what you are like as a person, not just what you look like physically. Some women will be attracted to this, others will not. Either way, be honest, be yourself. It is safe to assume that it is a good thing to demonstrate that you love your kids by posting pictures of them. However, do not post photos of children alone. You need to be in the photo as well. Great photos to post are those of you doing something fun with your kids.

• Choosephotoswithalcoholwisely - These types of photos will appeal more to younger women and party girls (teens to early 30s). However, a woman who is looking for a mature guy, might be turned off. Think about the type of woman you are trying to attract, and then decide if it’s appropriate to post these types of photos.

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Feedback on your photos can be extremely valuable. Think about yourself when you check out a woman’s Facebook profile; usually you go to the photos before you read her profile.

Women will look at photos in a slightly different way to you. You might look to see how hot she is whereas a woman will look at EVERYTHING. She’ll aim to assess your status, success, happiness, passion, friends, family, interests and she’ll be making all sorts of assumptions. And she’ll be talking to her friends about them, asking for their opinions and approval. Be extremely smart with your photos.

Make sure that you have to approve photos that are tagged of you before they become public so you can screen photos. The last you want is a series of embarrassing photos going online and then needing to delete them.

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InterestsAnother important part of your profile is the Interests section. Make sure you include at least a few interests. When a woman views your profile, she is not only looking at your pictures, she is trying to get a better understanding of who you are. Make this section as close to the real you as possible.

• Includeyourinterests - Include interests such as your favorite music, books, movies, and restaurants. If you have a hobby, then mention it. Are you an outdoorsy or adventurous type? Then mention what it is that you enjoy doing (hiking, running, boating, camping, or biking). If you love art, then mention what type and which galleries you enjoy. Do you volunteer? If so, then include what you do. Volunteering shows that you are proactive and compassionate, which are both very attractive traits to women.

• Don’thesitate - Many guys are hesitant when completing the Interests section, because they are concerned that what they like might turn off some women. For example, guys who are into heavy metal music, are often hesitant to list it, because they believe this will turn off most girls. This is a mistake. Including your interests makes it easier for you to find girls who like the same things as you. Remember, the girls aren’t just screening you. You are screening them as well. Save yourself time (and money) by being completely honest about who you are and what you’re interested in upfront. Interests are a great way to meet women who already have something in common with you. It is better to be honest about what you like. If a girl negatively judges you based upon one of your interests, do you really want that girl? You will find it very difficult to make things work with someone who judges you this way. You deserve better. Be yourself. Remember, women look at your profile as a whole. Just because you have different interests, doesn’t mean that women will automatically be turned off. Often, opposites attract.

• Usehumor- If you are naturally a funny guy, then you can have a bit of fun completing the Interests section of your profile. You can be silly or make a mockery of the questions. The same applies to sarcasm. However, if you are a more serious type, then don’t try to be funny. Just be yourself.

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Finding someone who has the same interests as you is beneficial. A common interest will give you something to talk about. Common interests can provide many hours worth of great conversation. In addition, social networking sites often allow users to search profiles based on interests, which can be helpful.

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Status UpdatesStatus updates should be positive, fun, and interesting. It is OK to include negative messages, but only occasionally. Keep the following tips in mind when updating your status.

• Bepositive - It is important to keep your status updates positive. Positive status updates can be funny, inspiring, thoughtful, or interesting. These traits make a good impression; they will draw people to you.

• Avoidnegativity - If the tone of your status update is, “I hate the rain today,” or “my boss has been pissing me off today,” then you are being negative. These are unattractive posts. However, it is OK to vent (occasionally) about the guy in front of you wasting your time, or the rude taxi driver who almost killed you. These events can be interesting. However, do not make a habit out of posting these types of messages. Limit negative status updates to once a month or less.

• Havesomethinginterestingtosay- Are you sitting on the couch eating peanuts? No one really cares. This is not interesting. Do not make a post about this activity. If you are sitting on the couch eating peanuts, and you get one stuck in your throat and have to give yourself the Heimlich Maneuver, then this is definitely worthy of posting. While this is an extreme example, you hopefully get the point. Your status updates should be about something interesting, funny, or thoughtful.

• Don’toverpost - If you have nothing positive, fun, or interesting to say, but you update your status frequently, then you are likely over-posting with boring or negative updates. If this is the case, then stop posting until you have something worthwhile to share. Less is more...

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• Showyourromanticside - If you went on a date, don’t be shy about posting something romantic. For example, post a comment about something romantic that you did on a date. Other women will find this attractive and will want to date you as well. Simply put, romance is chick crack. You can see how women react to romance, especially around Valentine’s Day. The guys who post lovely messages about how much they love their partners usually get the warmest responses from women. Most women love this type of romantic communication.

• Avoidexcessiveswearingorarguing- Excessive swearing, bickering, and arguing publicly on any social networking platform should be avoided. These are not attractive traits. Women will be turned off by this type of behavior.

• Usepropergrammarandpunctuation- If you are an adult, using excessive exclamation points makes you look childish and unattractive. The same applies to excessive use of LOL, LMAO, and ROFL. While these expressions are OK for teens, they are unattractive for adults to use. If you are an adult, use these expressions and exclamations sparingly. You should also watch your spelling and grammar. Many guys forget to do this. Set yourself apart by paying attention to what and how you write. The better you express yourself, the more attractive you will be. For example, have you ever received an email or text from a stranger that was so poorly written (with misspelled words) that you did not take it seriously or even read it all the way through? The same can apply to you if your status updates are written poorly.

• Useemoticonssparingly- Using emoticons can make you seem immature and childish. Use these very sparingly. The most appropriate use of emoticons is during playful teasing (see section on Teasing for further tips).

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Finding someone who has the same interests as you is beneficial. A common interest will give you something to talk about. Common interests can provide many hours worth of great conversation. In addition, social networking sites often allow users to search profiles based on interests, which can be helpful.

• Avoidderogatorylanguage - Avoid saying things or using expressions that are (or can be interpreted) as racist or sexist. As a rule, do not put people down. Same goes with politics and risky topics – avoid them.

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Privacy SettingsPrivacy settings play an important role for who will be able to view your profile (or parts of your profile). If your settings are too restrictive, then girls will have a difficult time finding you. For example, you meet a girl on the street and you give her your Facebook name. However, when she later searches Facebook for you, she is unable to find you or see your profile. In this scenario, privacy settings have defeated the purpose of exchanging your information in the first place. Privacy settings can make things difficult. Being accessible and including more information about yourself gives women an opportunity to judge whether they are going to like you or not. If your privacy settings are too restrictive (or you do not include much information about yourself), then you are making things difficult for both of you.

Privacy settings may be helpful if you want to block comments from certain people posting on your page. For example, friends or family who make inappropriate or embarrassing comments may need to be restricted from commenting. However, this does not mean that you should “de-friend” them.

Some women find it attractive for men to have their family members, such as their mother, father, brother or sister posting on their wall. It is recommended that you keep family members as friends. This shows you love your family; it is a positive trait.

Of course, this also depends on your family.

You may need to advise them on what is acceptable to post, because family members can say embarrassing things. Communicate with your family. Say something to them if they make a post that puts you in a negative light. Say this to them directly, not through a public post. If this doesn’t work, then block them from commenting on your page (as a last resort).

I think some guys can be overly cautious with Facebook and this means they will never get any women using it. They might be paranoid about their identity getting stolen or about someone tracking them; these are signs of anxiety. The guys that tend to get women on Facebook (and in real life) are usually more relaxed, open and take bigger risks.

Although you have to be mindful of things that can go wrong, you don’t want to play things overly safe. Usually ‘safe’ isn’t something mentioned when women describe really hot or attractive guys. At the very least, make sure your profile comes up in general searches and women can add you as a friend.

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Apps/GamesApplications and games are annoying to most people. Women generally do not find a profile full of applications and games an attractive quality. Applications and games make you look childish. They also make you look uninteresting, because you will seem like a guy who has nothing better to do with his time. Turn off your games, notifications, and invites.

However, there are some applications and notifications that are exempt from this rule. For example, artists, performers, and musicians need a stronger online presence. Applications or notifications that help them talk to fans, notify them of upcoming shows, or announce new songs are perfectly acceptable. These types of communications are productive and show you are passionate about your career.

Ask yourself, what would an attractive, socially popular woman think of you if it all it seems like you do is play farm games all day?

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Initiating MessagesWhen you message a woman at random, avoid starting off the message with a statement about how beautiful or sexy she is. Keep the compliments about her eyes, her curves, her hair, or anything related to her appearance to a minimum. She has heard it all before, especially if she is beautiful. Instead, be original.

When I want to meet women on Facebook, I usually focus mostly on the friends of my friends. I’ll usually ask them first so I’m not upsetting my friend, and also only message single friends; however the strike rate of this compared to messaging random girls is much higher.

If I message a woman I don’t know and never met, I’ll tend to focus more on meeting her through groups or common interests. It’s much easier to spark a conversation about something you have in common than simply messaging someone out of the blue.

Being original in your messages means that you take the time to get to know what her interests are. Read her profile. Look at the books she has read, the TV shows she likes, the music she listens to, and compliment her on those. Compliment her on her tastes, style, wit, humor, or her “vibe.” This sets you apart from other guys. She is much more likely to respond, because she will feel like you want to get to know her as a person.

Always be yourself and be truthful. Do not say that you love the same director that she does, if you haven’t seen his movies or don’t like them. This will inevitably come back to bite you when she starts a conversation about the director’s other movies. You will look like an ass and a liar. Being yourself is essential.

Reconnecting with someone from your past is easier, because you likely have shared memories and commonalities that you can talk about. Start with a question like, “Do you remember me?” or “do you remember 10th grade when we were in science class together.” They may remember you, especially if you can relate a story that happened back then.

Ask what they’ve been up to, ask for an update, tell them that you were glad to have found them. Share a little bit about your story and your life. Then ask more about what they have been doing. The goal is to find topics that give you both a reason to have (and continue) a conversation.

Messaging women on Facebook is a bit of a numbers game – but don’t go overboard as Facebook will ban you if it thinks you are spamming. I’d recommend “friending” women as you meet them. With smartphones today, you can do this very easily.

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If the only way to meet women in your is by messaging “randoms” on Facebook, then you probably want to broaden your horizons.

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Responding To MessagesIt is important to appropriately respond to a woman who has messaged you. In general, you do not want to seem overeager to meet her. However, playing ‘hard to get’ should be used in moderation.

Being hard to get means that you are a busy guy, you have many things going on, and you are in demand. When a woman messages you, do not appear to be too eager. Respond by explaining that you have a lot going on, you cannot meet up for a few days, and that your week is fully booked.

If you reply to a woman’s message suggesting you meet the very next day, you will seem very overeager. This is not an attractive trait and may even appear to be a sign of desperation.

Being hard to get is not necessary for all situations. For example, you approach a woman in person, tell her how sexy she is, and give her your contact information (such as your Facebook profile name). When she contacts you later, you should not play hard to get. If you do, your response will be confusing to her, because you initially made a strong approach.

Similarly, if a woman is very forward and approaches you first, then this is another time you do not need to be hard to get. In this scenario, she knows what she wants. She has told you. She has put herself out there. If you reply to her text that says, “Hey, was nice meeting you, lets catch up,” with “I’m busy for the next few weeks, maybe later,” then this will be taken as an insult. In this scenario, you should proceed with care.

You don’t want to seem overeager, but you also don’t want to scare her away by suggesting you meet up at a bar that night. Even if she is forward, she may simply want to get to know you a bit before things move on to an official date (or meeting). You will need to find the right balance for each woman.

If you can shift gears from Facebook messaging to instant Facebook chat or phone/texting, that is highly advised. There is only so much you can convey and communicate through the email-like messaging function.

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FlirtingWomen like to hear nice things about themselves; they like to feel good. Flirting is a great way to accomplish this. Naturally flirtatious guys should not hold back. Not only does flirting make the woman feel great, it also shows how comfortable the man is with himself.

You do not need to flirt immediately if it is not your nature. However, searching for dating partners or girlfriends will require you to flirt at some point in time. Flirting will definitely be necessary when you eventually meet in person. Even if you are not naturally flirtatious, make the effort.

Flirting is important because it shows your interest in a girl. This is something she needs to know. If you only talk about interests, movies, books, etc., then she will not know that you are interested in her and that you find her attractive. She will end up going home with the next guy who flirts with her. You will be left wondering where you went wrong, because she seemed to be having a good time.

Flirting is a great habit to get into. The girl may have heard it all before, but if you have a good chat, get to know each other, and add flirtation and maybe some witty banter, then you are likely going to do just fine. Do not give up or get discouraged if you are rejected, make mistakes, or feel self-conscious. Flirting takes practice. Remember, your conversations do not need to revolve around flirtation. Simply include a bit of flirtation in your casual conversation to ensure she knows you are interested.

Occasionally commenting on photos often gets a great response rate, too.

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TeasingTeasing is another form of flirting, which can be used after you have established rapport with a woman. Wait until you have messaged back and forth enough that you have a sense of how she communicates. Keep in mind that something you say may be misunderstood, because there are no facial expressions or tonality with online communications. However, you can use emoticons to show that your teasing is fun and playful. Teasing is one of the rare occasions in which the use of emoticons is recommended.

When a girl does not respond to your teasing, this may be a sign that she did not understand you were being playful or sarcastic. She may even ignore or block you. The use of emoticons will decrease the risk of misunderstandings. Use a simple wink or smile. The emoticon, with the pokey tongue (:P), is especially useful when you are being playful or sarcastic.

Even when emoticons are used, the nature of the messages should remain light and playful. Things that could be viewed as mean, derogatory, or could potentially hurt someone’s feelings should be avoided. You do not want the girl you are messaging to cry; you want her to playfully tease you back.

Playful teasing is also a way to gage how fun the girl is. Most girls like teasing back and forth. If you meet a girl who doesn’t, then this might be sign that she will not be someone you can have a good time with. Teasing can be a way to test the waters.

I would avoid doing too much over the Facebook platform. Your end goal is not to have a Facebook relationship but a real life one. Use Facebook as a stepping stone and transitioning device to help you get to the next level with women. Don’t stay as only Facebook friends; evolve toward having a real-life connections.

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Taking Things FurtherAfter establishing communication, look for signs that she is ready to move things further by meeting in person. Signs include her giving you a compliment, mentioning that she thinks you are cool, or saying that she wants to get to know you better. Signs can be anything that gives you a hint that she is interested in you. Sending you messages (on regular basis) are good enough hints. These types of signs indicate that it is time for you to take things further.

The next step is to get her to meet you in person, either for an official date or simply to hang out or grab coffee. Either way, you should try to speak with her on the phone. Working out the logistics (where and when to meet) is easier to do by phone than by messaging. More importantly, a phone conversation will give you the opportunity to get a feel for how she is responding to your request.

Remember, don’t just call her from the cell phone number she has in her profile. Make sure she gives you her number personally.

The nature of her voice and what she says on the phone can provide valuable insight for how to proceed through the call and how to solidify plans to meet. Decide ahead of time why you will be calling her. You need a reason beyond her being hot and having chatted with her a couple of times. If you must use messaging to ask her out, be sure to get her phone number as well so that you can follow up and get in contact when needed.

The great benefit of Facebook is that you have lots of information that helps you. You can see what sort of stuff she is into, what her friends and lifestyle is like and what sort of events she will attend, with you of course. Before Facebook came into this world, a guy could only guess…

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Don’t JudgeBeing open minded is essential to successfully meeting girls on social networking sites. Even if a girl does not like the same movies or music as you, this does not mean she is not an awesome person. You can have a great time with someone who has different interests as you. The same is true with differing personalities. Perhaps you are messaging a girl who has numerous pictures of herself having fun, but you are a more serious type. Do not simply dismiss her because of this. She may have a serious side that she does not like to show online.

Even if there are numerous differences between you and a girl, keep an open mind. You can teach each other new things. You can introduce new activities to each other that you (and she) would otherwise never try. Developing a habit of being more open-minded will open doors to new experiences, which can make your dating life (as well as your life in general) much better.

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SummaryMeeting women through social networking is not rocket science. You simply need to take a few small risks and use the right approach. You have nothing to lose by reaching out to women in this way. If you get turned down, chances are, you’ll never see or speak to them again. And if they respond favorably, then even better. Just use the tips and advice in this guideline to help you.

Check that your profile is complete by posting the right types of photos, listing your interests, and being honest. Manage your status updates appropriately. Use privacy settings, applications, and games wisely. Don’t be shy to make a connection, just be sure to be original. Use flirting and teasing, even if these don’t come naturally to you. Don’t miss opportunities to move things forward and eventually meet these women in person.

Most importantly, be open-minded. Social networking allows you to meet many types of women, more so than you could through any other methods. This means that you will have the opportunity to meet new and exciting women from multiple backgrounds, with different interests and personalities. When you meet a woman who’s different from you, do not be quick to judge them, because they may have a lot to offer. New and exciting opportunities await you. Take the advice in this guide, and get started right now. Guaranteed, you will see results.

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