Social Media

August 29, 2013By David S. Peck

Building bridges between parents and kids with social media

What is Social Media?

Social Media Revolution 2013

•Please pause the video at this point and follow this link to watch the YouTube video that was shown during the seminar:

•http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TXD-Uqx6_Wk

• Every two days more content is created and loaded to the Internet than was created through 2003 (Eric Schmidt, Exec. Chairman, Google)

• 94% of Americans 16+ own a cell phone, and 54% own a smartphone with data and text access (Nielson, 2013)

• 97% of American teenagers own a cell phone, texting an average of 88x a day (Pew Internet, 2013)

• Google and YouTube are the top two search engines in the world

• 99% of all teenage males have seen some form of pornography on the Internet (Youth Specialties, 2012)

“We are over-committed and under connected”Dr. Jim Burns

“We are over-committed and under connected”Dr. Jim Burns

What we will cover --

•An overview of social media

•What’s new?

•What’s our role? •Questions?

Social Media is an umbrella term, referring to all of the activities coming together in a medium using one or more

senses of sight, sound, and motion to create visual displays, picture-sharing opportunities, collective

intelligence, connection points through conversations, postings, text with pictures, and video.

An overview of social media

Just the facts: (2013)

Facebook – 1 billion users

Twitter – 150 million users

LinkedIn – 161 million members

YouTube -- 4 billion daily views

Instagram – 575 likes a second

What’s new?

What’s most used with teenagers?

Sites of concern…

What’s our role?

What’s our role?

Deuteronomy 6:4-9 “The Shema” (Shayma)

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road and when you get up. Tie them, bind them, write them…use social media to communicate God’s truth (my abbreviation).

What’s our role?

Provide a healthy environment by –

1. Modeling screen and phone use (home, car, etc.) 9 O’clock– on the dock

Family time, meal times = no screens

Healthy downtime for non-screen time activities (Sunday, school, etc.)

Blind Inattentiveness

•Please pause the video at this point and follow this link to watch the YouTube video that was shown during the seminar:

•http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ahg6qcgoay4

What’s our role?

Provide healthy boundaries by –

2. Setting parameters for screens (teenagers need 9-11 hours a night)Physical Emotional

parent controls for cell phones

Non-screen time during homework and school work

Limited social media time – encourage F2F

What’s our role?

Parent controls:

block picture messagingBlock unknown numbersLimit time of text and callsFilter web browsingGPS tracking

What’s our role?

Provide a healthy, balanced home environment by –

3. Praying, and playing as a family.

Be prayerful that the Holy Spirit would guide and direct you and your kids –We often tell them that we pray for a guilty conscience (for them)

Dreena and I frequently pray with our kids F2F, but also on text Look for opportunities to trust them – catch them doing good things(the daily bible verse– forwarded to 8-10 contacts each day)

Be engaged, and aware – keywords can be dangerous – “Whitehouse, fail”

Solicit family and friends to “follow” and “friend”

Example: Peck family guidelines and boundaries –

Cell phones – earned with a 3.5+ during their 7th grade year – have to maintain a 3.0 to keep the phone

Phone on the dock at 9:00 – even though phone doesn’t turn off until 9:30

Back to school– September/ October no TV, then no weekday TV thereafter

Facebook – 16+ years of age, similar to emotional development of dating

No computers or TV’s in bedrooms (unless studying at a desk)

Images and words matter – the mom test– would mom approve?

Other things:

1.Routers to manage home Wi-Fi time and access2.XXXChurch.com for websites and other screens3.Regularly check histories and ask questions4.Check song lyrics and delete songs with suggestive or explicit lyrics5.Time limits – some new technologies (Kindle) Homework time= playtime6.Parents need to have social media sites they allow their kids to have – and have your kids set it up and teach you7.Create a family Facebook page

Questions?