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Rethink Your Wayto the Good Life

Dr. Kristen Lee

@TheRealDrKris

KristenLee.com

Guiding Questions

•How do you define success?

•What types of “unlearning” can help you spiral UP?

•What strategies can help you cultivate mindfulness?

“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those

who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn”.-Alvin Toffler

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Performance (Me) Purpose (We)

Destructive mindsets:

• “Commodity complex”/human doing

• Sensitivity to mistakes

• Contingent self-esteem

• Compulsiveness

• Need for attention, admiration

• Hyper-perfectionism, imposter syndrome

• +Anxiety, depression, distress

Protective mindsets:

• Impact mindset/human being

• Curious, risk tolerance

• Disorienting moments expected

• Sense of belonging, identity

• Skill and growth focused, developmental/strengths-based lens

• Move from self-efficacy to collective efficacy

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Cultivate metacognition• Don’t trust gut instincts, 1950’s psychology or what

you’ve always been told-it’s likely to be erroneous!

• Mine for strengths- don’t get stuck on weaknesses

• Unlearn and Pivot=Spiral UP during chaos-stay agile

• Retrain your brain (metacognition and plasticity)

• Rethink it-Chaos does not necessarily=disruption

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Cultivate mindfulness• Spiral UP-unlearn always-on, commodity mindsets

• Pivot towards presence, not performance

• Emphasize learning is everything, not perfectionism

• Retrain your brain-creating awe, gratitude

• Focus on self-care, self-compassion, “human being”

• Good life versus ”goods life”

Cultivate global citizenry &intersectionality

• Spiral UP-unlearn insularity and groupthink

• Pivot towards dynamic “squads” and community

• Embrace each other and seek common ground across “different” social identity groups

• Relationships are protective factors

• Engage multiple perspectives

• Move from “me” to “we”—”collective efficacy” (presence and purpose over perfectionism, individual “success”

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Reimagine success

• Spiral UP-unlearn individualistic, always-on mindsets

• Pivot towards sustainability

• Align strengths and values to behavior

• Promote choice architecture

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Get to the Good Life• Spiral RECAP- Wield metacognition to reframe, stay

agile, create new repertoire

• Everything is learning; learning is everything-experience is the best teacher and best done in safe community/relationships

• Focus on strengths; avoid deficit lens

• Remember: There is always “double dip” for us and those we serve!

• Sustainability relies on community, supervised skill practice, and advocacy for ongoing unlearning and social change

Discussion

Break into small groups and discuss takeaways for spiraling UP and getting to the Good Life.

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