ppl 20 unit #3 discussing conflict resolution anger management
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OBJECTIVES
• Demonstrate understanding of the varied dynamics of conflict (eg. Context, escalators, perception)
• Describe different strategies to handle conflict• Describe the impact of non-verbal (eg. Body
language) and verbal responses• Benefits of developing anger management
strategies• Techniques for dealing with angry disputants
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Conflict
In your own words define the term conflict.
n a fight; a contest; strife, quarrel; emotional disturbance
A perceived incompatibility of actions, is an almost [unavoidable] part of social relations.
Types of Conflict
• Internal – conflict with oneself
• Inter personal – conflict with another person
• Intra group – conflict in a group
• Inter group – conflict with another group
For each type of conflict give one example for each.
Causes of Conflict
Elements of conflict are much the same involving individuals, groups or nations.
Social traps – self serving behaviour when both parties pursue self-interest and mistrust one another
Misperceptions – see one’s own group as moral and one’s opposition different which fully justify whatever one does to retaliate
Response to Conflict
Avoidance
denial, attempts to please others at his/her expense, postpone, chance, humour, reject, non-communication, change the subject
Response to Conflict
Confrontation
aggression, win at all costs, criticism, manipulation, bullying, distortion, pressure
Response to Conflict
Resolution
share, compromise, get help, apologize, discussion, humour, problem solve, I-messages, active listening
What is conflict resolution?
• Characterized by cooperation, communication and conciliation [healing]
Cooperation
• Parties that used isolation and competition strategies to make strangers into enemies
• Cooperative efforts to achieve goals that override differences break down barriers between people when presented with a shared predicament
• Positive attitudes towards one another
Communication
• People unable to communicate with one another become distrustful
• Communication to discuss the dilemna to negotiate a commitment to cooperate and facilitates understanding
Conciliation
• One side announces its intent to reduce tensions and initiates one or small appeasing act which opens the door for the enemy to reciprocate
• Increasing trust and cooperation• Examples – smile, a small apology maybe
all that is needed for both people to reduce the tension
Behaviour Which Helps Diffuse Conflict
• Eye contact
• Positive choice of words
• Effective listening
• I- messages
• Calm demeanor
Effective Listening
• Listen to the full message without interrupting
• Paraphrase
• Look for signs of understanding – nod of the head, smile
I - Message
• F – Feelings – take ownership of your feelings by using I – nobody can disagree that you’re disappointed, mad, happy
• B – Behaviour – the behaviour of the other person that has made you feel the way you are feeling
• O – Outcome – from the person’s behaviour it has impacted on you
Calm Demeanor
• Breathing technique – deep breathing to help relax the body
• Cool down period prior to communication
• Collect your thoughts
Anger Management Strategies
• Physical activity
• Sense of humour
• Deep breathing
• Planning – pro-active vs reactive
Handling Angry Disputants
• Ignore• Laugh• Apologize• Count to ten• Deep breathing technique• Reframe the situation• Self talk• Body language• Self worth is intact