Perfecting Our Parenting

Paradigm for Parenting Ages 1-12

Proverbs 22:6

An Experiential Exegesis of the

Parenting Challenge1. There is so much to know and do, it can

leave you feeling tired

and run-down, and if you’re

not careful run-over.

An Experiential Exegesis of the

Parenting Challenge2. There is an incredible

value to children

An Experiential Exegesis of the

Parenting Challenge2. There is an incredible

value to children

3. Bible principles push against your soft spot, and go

against the experts and their

books

Thesis:

•The Bible has an impact to your

advantage and in your behalf when

you simply follow what it

says.

In the First Decade to a Dozen Years

1. Your loving control

Definition:

•The Hebrew word translated “betimes” means to be early and earnestly at something.

Point 1.

• Every child has natural bents that are both good and evil.

Definition:•The word train means to

dedicate and inaugurate; to create thirstand to

stimulate a child’s feeding instinct

Definition:

•Authority is the right to define limits rules and consequences through the balanced application of direct control and appeal to conscience.

Four Overlapping Stages of Growth

A. Discipline Stage6 mos-2 yrs

B. Relationship Stage 3-12 yrs

C. Fellowship Stage13-18 yrs

D. Responsibility Stage 18+ yrs

In the First Decade to In the First Decade to a Dozen Yearsa Dozen Years

1. Your loving control2. Your Godly example

A Word to the Mamas & the Papas

A. Parents are not in charge just because they are bigger, smarter, or got to the planet first, but because God has made the adult his agent in the lives of children

The Divine Trinity of Parenting

1. Guardian2. Guide3. Governor

A Word to the Mamas & the Papas

B. Perfected parental authority is expressed as a combination of control and influence

In the First Decade to a Dozen Years

1. Your loving control2. Your Godly example3. Your routines, rules and

boundaries

A Word to the Mamas & the Papas

C. Expect them to both disobey and try to get around the rules regularly

A Word to the Mamas & the Papas

D. If you didn’t say it, they can’t obey it

A Word to the Mamas & the Papas

D. If you didn’t say it, they can’t obey it

E. Be willing to talk about it

but never willing to

argue over it

Definition.:

•Spanking is the measured use of physical pain to change the mind of your child in their determination to be disobedient.

A Word to the Mamas & the

PapasF. Train them by

telling them only once, because you establish the limit by what you allow early on

In the First Decade to a Dozen Years

1. Your loving control2. Your Godly example3. Your routines, rules

and boundaries4. Your effective

follow-through on promised consequences

Point 2.

•Parenting impacts more than just the present, because you are preparing them to enter eternity from this life.