mastering your inner game - lesson 8 - neuro-tap...

MASTERING YOUR INNER GAME An Owner’s Manual For Your Mind

Lesson 8

THE NEURO-TAP Change Protocol

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The NEURO-TAP Change Protocol

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Dr. Robert Anthony

© 2012 In the previous lessons we talked about the preliminary steps we must take to remove and replace our “negative trances”. What we want to do is remove and replace any experience, memory, or self-limiting belief that is creating a negative trance state. Perhaps in the past you have honestly tried to make positive changes through therapy, self-help programs or other methods. You are committed to making your relationships work, doing well at your job, being an effective parent, and most of all, to enjoy your life. But no matter what you do, you keep taking one step forward and two steps back. If you have gotten this far I am convinced that you are seriously committed to making these changes, but obviously you haven’t been able to attain what you most passionately want for yourself, your family, or your company. You wonder “What’s wrong with me? Why can't I consistently achieve what I think I am capable of achieving, and what can I do about it?” Perhaps you wake up feeing depressed. You feel out of control. You lack motivation. You think the world is a mess. Your are exhausted at the end of the day. All that is about to change. I created the NEURO-TAP Change Protocol after years of observing that people couldn't seem to INITIATE and then SUSTAIN positive change. Many of my clients have spent countless hours and thousands of dollars on various self-improvement programs with little effect. What this says is that for most people the problem isn’t a lack of commitment to making changes, it is the inability to SUSTAIN them. Moreover, even if things improve for awhile, their results are short-lived. The NEURO-TAP Change Protocol is designed to remove virtually any dysfunctional emotional behavior pattern. It is not just another self-help method. Instead, it is a paradigm-shift approach that allows individuals to re-create themselves by eliminating

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memories, experiences and self-limiting beliefs that cause them to behave in self-defeating, self-destructive ways that limits their ability to change permanently. The model used in most self-improvement books, audio and video programs or seminars is: more information + motivation + action = change. This approach makes sense to most people, whether they are therapists, parents or individuals. If you know WHAT to do and HOW to do it and if you are motivated (positively or negatively) and you take ACTION, isn't that all you need? Obviously “NO”, otherwise everyone would be wearing seat belts, which they don’t. Everyone would keep their New Year’s resolutions instead of giving up in a few days or a few weeks. People who drink alcohol, smoke cigarettes or have poor diets would be changing their behavior. But the information + motivation + action model isn't enough to change behavior patterns because our behaviors are rooted in our EMOTION. Also the negative internal representation or patterns have not been eliminated. The information + motivation + action model does not deal with emotional beliefs or DRIVERS, so permanent change is not possible.

What is Really Driving You? The “evidence” you offer for not making a change in your life is not usually the reason behind it. Your “evidence” usually consists of recent observations that appear to substantiate your self-limiting belief. The real source of your self-limiting belief, however, is your perception or internal representation of circumstances earlier in life. Your perception or internal representation shapes your emotions. Your emotions shape your beliefs. Your beliefs determine your behavior. For example, using the dog analogy again, if you believe dogs are friendly and a happy and excited dog jumps up on you, it will produce joy. You will probably pet the dog and enjoy the affection he is giving you. But if you are like me and were bitten by a dog when you were age 10, and you believe dogs can harm you, that same action will produce fear.

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However once you change the internal representation and the limiting-belief, your emotional reaction to the same circumstances automatically changes. This is what I did with this belief and now I love dogs and they can sense it when they are around me. So it is the same circumstance with a different internal representation. Another example is if you have a belief that “I deserve success, things usually work out the way I want them to and I can do anything I set my mind to.” you will have an optimistic outlook about life and it will be fairly easy to attract whatever you desire. On the other hand, if you believe “I don’t deserve success, I lack confidence, I have to work hard to make anything happen. Things don’t usually work out for me, and it is difficult to get what because of… (you fill in the blank)”, those beliefs will form a pessimistic outlook about life. Again, it goes back to our perception or internal representation.

Nothing Has Meaning Until You Finish The Sentence We have talked a lot about internal representation and perception during this training. However, it is important that you “get” that nothing exists without meaning. There is no meaning to anything in life until we give it meaning. These meanings are only perceptions which forms our beliefs or opinions. When you say things like “I am…”, or “Life is…” or “People are…”, none of them have meaning until you finish the sentence. You are not…, people are not…, and the world is not… anything unless you attaching meaning to it. What this boils down to is if you want to change anything, you just need to change the meaning, the perception or internal representation and you will AUTOMATICALLY change your life without any effort whatsoever! It’s that simple!

When You Create a Belief You Create Your Reality. In other words, whatever we say is “out there” is a distinction that exists in only in our mind. Creation is the act of making distinctions. So nothing “is” until you make it so. But once you do, trust me, it will drive your behavior!

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When you change a memory, experience or a self-limiting belief, you can change your reality and you can create new possibilities. When you hang on to a memory, experience or a self-limiting belief, you keep your reality and you eliminate any new possibilities because any belief other than yours is not the “truth”. What we are doing is changing our inner perception which changes the way we view the world.

Beliefs Create Survival Strategies Let’s suppose you have a belief that “There is something fundamentally wrong with me.” or that “Life will make it difficult, if not impossible, to succeed”. Any time you have a self-limiting belief like the ones above, it will create anxiety or stress within your emotional system and your body. I have discovered that most people have two basic ways of dealing with emotional stress or anxiety. The first is to use DISTRACTIONS such as alcohol, food, drugs, watching TV or listening to loud music to cover up the feeling, numb themselves and make themselves feel better for awhile. The second way is they develop SURVIVAL STRATEGIES that help them deal with the emotional stress or anxiety. For example, John is an executive in a large corporation and earns over $100,000 a year. His core belief is “I am not worthwhile”. His SURVIVAL STRATEGY is “What makes me worthwhile is being successful and important to others”. As a result, he becomes anxious and emotionally stressed when someone he works with or a colleague gets praise, or he hasn’t been included in a business meeting, or his boss doesn’t acknowledge him after he has competed a project. Christine’s SURVIVAL STRATEGY is “Being beautiful makes me desirable”. For most of her life she has lived comfortably with that belief. Her beauty has earned her attention, admiration and even love. Now she is approaching fifty and she is frightened. Age is beginning to catch up with her. She is losing the one thing she thinks makes her acceptable and desirable.

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The consequence of being run by a SURVIVAL STRATEGY is that instead of living out of choices and pleasure – doing things because you want to do them – you have do them primarily to survive. In other words, the need to fulfill the terms of your SURVIVAL STRATEGY determines your life. When we a use a SURVIVAL STRATEGY instead of changing our core belief, eventually it will catch up with us and take away our power.

From Victim to Creator In any given moment you either experience yourself as a Creator or as a Victim. The victim says ‘I can’t help it. Things just happens to me”. In other words, they have no control. When you take on the victim role you are permanently stuck. There is no way out because you hold on to the belief that you have no control, so you lose control of your life. You must see that any belief you hold is simply an interpretation. It does not matter if it is true or false. The question you have to ask is, “Is this belief getting me what I want?” “Is it moving me toward or away from what I want? Once you realize that none of your beliefs are "true” and that you make up the “truth”, you can ditch any belief. In other words, your belief has no power over you unless you want to keep it. It no longer defines you. Here is the important part – once you see you are not your beliefs, but instead YOU CREATE YOUR BELIEFS, you have a tremendous ability to shape the direction of your life. Using the NEURO-TAP Change Protocol you literally re-create yourself as a person who is able to eliminate experiences, memories and self-limiting beliefs and invent new possibilities for your life. You are in the driver’s seat. You are the rider, not the horse. So let’s follow this line of logic. If your life is consistent with your beliefs, and you make up your beliefs, what does that make you?

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The Creator of Your Life! Once you realize you have lived with a belief that you think is “the truth” and you finally realize it not “the truth”, because you made it up based on your past experiences, the belief disappears because you are in charge now.

Interpretation Modification The NEURO-TAP Change Protocol is a process of Interpretation Modification. You are modifying your interpretation of past experiences that forms your current beliefs. You can not only use it with past beliefs, but with current ones as well. For example in sports. Let’s say you play a sport with a ball. It can be any sport. How many times have you hit, kicked or thrown a ball and it did not go where you wanted it to? What did you feel? What did you think? Perhaps you thought and felt “I’m getting worse”. Or “I have blown it again”, or “I’ll never get this right”. Pause now and get in touch with one of these moments and the accompanying feeling or thought. Now understand that when you threw, hit or kicked the ball, it was nothing more than one event. The one event really doesn’t mean anything, but once you say it means something, you have formed a belief. And you once you believe you will “never get it right” guess what? You have literally created that belief for that day and possibly beyond. Get in the habit of watching your thought process when you play sports or do any activity and notice the meaning you place on any one event and how it carries over to the next event, etc. This is something I try to get across to every person I work with whether it is a business executive, a dancer, an actor or anyone who has to “perform” in front of others. When they start judging their performance and attach meaning to one event and then use that event as an excuse why they cannot succeed in the future, it is a self-reinforcing cycle. However, once they understand this principle, it makes a huge difference in their ability to do better the next time.

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In the future, when you interpret, when you judge your performance as “bad”, stop for a moment and realize that you have just reached a conclusion based on the interpretation of one event. Can you see that what you concluded about your ability is only an interpretation of that event or those events and is not the “truth”? The only “truth” is the meaning you give it. Change the meaning and you will change the future events. If you practice this technique you can eventually get to the point where you will catch yourself making a judgment and reaching a conclusion at the very moment it occurs. Then you begin to realize nothing has meaning. Everything that happens to you is only an event and the meaning you give it is merely an interpretation in your mind. Once you fully internalize this and realize nothing has meaning unless you give it a meaning, you can eliminate self-limiting beliefs as fast as they are created. Let’s use an example. How about a phobia such as “Flying on an airplane is dangerous.” Have you ever had an experience and concluded flying on an airplane is dangerous? If not, think of another scary situation you have experienced. What happened that led to that belief? It could have been a number of things A near plane crash, reading about a crash in which many people died, etc. However, there are other interpretations. One is that plane travel is much safer than traveling by automobile. So, is flying really dangerous or is that your interpretation? Is it really the truth? It is the truth if you choose to believe it. But what about the other 200 - 300 people on the plane that don’t believe it and know plane travel is one of the safest ways to travel? Their risk of crashing in a plane is the same, but their trip is much more enjoyable because they choose to interpret the facts differently. Once you see that your belief is not the “truth” but your interpretation of the “truth” and that you can change it any time you want, then belief will be gone forever!

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Training Your Mind To Do What It’s Designed To Do You have already learned that the Subconscious mind is the emotional mind where all our experiences, memories, perceptions and self-limiting beliefs are stored. When we use the NEURO-TAP Change Protocol we are addressing the mind that created the problem. We address the Subconscious mind and then we let it make all the changes. We want 100% resolution In order to SUSTAIN change, meaning a belief is changed forever, we have to be very clear on how our mind works. I know you have heard some of this before, but please read this carefully in case you missed anything important. There are fundamental differences between the Conscious and Subconscious in regard to making changes. The Subconscious emotional mind is where all our experiences, memories, perceptions and self-limiting beliefs are stored. However, it is equivalent to a tape player. It records experiences and then plays them back. So you have the Conscious thinking mind and the Subconscious tape player mind. The main difference between the Conscious and Subconscious mind is the Subconscious mind when viewed as a processor or as a computer, is a million times more powerful than the Conscious mind. Here is what is really happening. Let’s say you want to make some changes in your life. You want to remove perceptions, internal representations of past experiences, or self-limiting beliefs that are keeping you from being healthy, building your business, having a loving relationship, or losing weight. Your start off thinking positive about it. The problem is while you are having all these wonderful positive thoughts in your Conscious rational mind, your Subconscious emotional mind is running the show! In the Subconscious there is a tape player going. The programs on the tape are either working for you or sabotaging you. These programs, rooted

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in our past experiences, memories and internal representations, limit our ability and take away our power Now the relevance about positive thought is this; Positive thought is a creative thinking process that comes from the Conscious rational mind. So as I sit here and have all these wonderful positive thoughts and visualize all these wonderful things in my Conscious mind, my Subconscious mind is running the show. Now stop and think about the mechanical character of it. I am having these thoughts with a tiny little processor – the Conscious mind, and I am competing with the programs that are recorded in the mega-processor Subconscious mind. So, I am having these positive thoughts about being healthy, building my business, having a loving relationship, losing weight, etc. However, at the same time, I have a tape recording or program in my Subconscious that says “It is difficult to overcome your illness, or the economy is bad and building business is very difficult, or you are not worthy of a loving relationship, or you have failed at every relationship you have been in.” What is happening is my positive thoughts are competing against my Subconscious programs, because they are opposite. Go back to the lesson on Conflicting Mind – Conflicting Life and make sure you understand this. My positive thoughts work on a tiny processor and my competing thoughts work on a mega-processor that is a million times more powerful. Which one do you think is going to win that challenge? Of course, the Subconscious is going to win – hands down, every time. The Conscious mind or positive thought may win through sheer willpower, but willpower is always temporary because it takes too much energy to SUSTAIN over a long period of time. So while I can try to maintain positive thoughts in my daily life, my Conscious mind only operates on those thoughts less than 5% of the day. 95% of the day I am operating from the Subconscious, or the other belief system. Do the math. How powerful are positive thoughts? The answer is they are useless unless the Subconscious has the same program and agreement as Conscious mind.

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So the Subconscious is equivalent to a tape player. It records experiences and then plays them back. Many of these programs, rooted in our past memories, experiences and internal representations, limit our ability and take away our power to change our circumstances. Here’s the catch. The nature of the Subconscious mind is it runs everything in the background while the Conscious mind is busy paying attention to whatever is happening in the moment. If the Conscious mind is busy and not paying attention, the Subconscious will run our default program. For example, let’s say you know someone named Mary. You know her parents and you think Mary and her mother have pretty much the same behavior. So one day you say. “Mary you are just like your mom”. As soon as you say that, you had better back away, because she is not going to take that as welcoming news! She is going to say “How can you say that?” To her, she is not like her mom at all. Now it is interesting that everybody else can see Mary is like her mom, but Mary can’t. So the question is why not? The answer is when she is playing the past programs she got from mother, she is not paying attention. She is playing her default program. So when these programs play she doesn’t see them and she is surprised when people say that she is like her mom. The conclusion of why this dialog is important is we do not consciously see when the Subconscious is playing our recorded default programs. We think we are thinking, but we are on autopilot. Our Subconscious has programs in it that we primarily got from other people. The significance about that is when we are operating from these default programs and not seeing it, we are also not seeing we are playing programs that may not be supporting who we are and what we want. Those programs are in the Conscious mind. So when we are operating from our default programs, the Conscious mind says “I want” and the Subconscious mind says “You can’t” and you know which one will win! Also, when life doesn’t seem to work, when you don’t find that relationship you are looking for, or when you don’t get the healing you’re looking for, even though you are thinking positive, you will have a tendency to blame something or someone outside of you because as far as you know, your positive thoughts and intention is for all these wonderful things to happen.

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And when they don’t happen or you don’t get what you want, it can’t be your fault because you have all these wonderful positive thoughts and intentions. What you don’t see is while you are having those positive thoughts and intentions using your Conscious mind, your Subconscious programing is still running the show. Why is this important? Because we all generally cop the attitude that there are forces outside of us that control our life. We often feel “I am a victim of this world, the economy, my relationships, my physical problem, my past etc. and I can’t do anything about it”. And as soon as you buy into that - you declare yourself a victim. And nothing will change until you change that program because it’s your internal representation or perception that is controlling the outcome of your life. We also bought into this idea that there is somebody in the Subconscious we can talk to. Meaning if my Conscious mind finds my Subconscious mind behaving in some way that is not supporting my conscious intention and desires, my Conscious mind can talk to my Subconscious mind and say something like, “You can do better than that”, or “Don’t do that” and my Subconscious will respond. You think you are having this inner dialog. Then you get upset because you keep doing the same thing over and over, or your behavior is out of control. But the question is who are you talking to? The answer is you are talking to a tape recorder!! The reality is we think we are talking to ourselves and believe this is going to fix or change things. But how can this happen if our tape program or internal representation is in our Subconscious? So when you try to use the Conscious mind to change, what you are really doing is talking to a tape player. The problem is there’s nobody in there! Let’s try an experiment and you will see what I mean. If you have a mobile phone you probably have a voice recorder built in to it. Most Smartphones these days have one. I want you to turn it on and record a short message that says “You are stupid and you will never amount to anything.” Repeat this two or three times.

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Now play back the message. As the recording is playing, if you don’t like the message, here is what I would like you to do. Talk to the recorder. Talk to it and suggest it change the program. Even tell it what you want it to play. Say, “No, I want you to say “I am intelligent and I can do anything if I set my mind to it”. Once you realize the old program is still playing and it hasn’t changed after you told it to, you will get more frustrated and upset with yourself. Why? You used your Conscious mind to ask this program to change and it’s not changing yet. If you keep doing this, you will get even more upset at yourself because you can’t control the tape or the recording. Then if that doesn’t work, the last step is you have is to bring God into it, because obviously YOU tried to change your life or your recording and it didn’t work, so God has to come in it and change the recording. So let me ask you a question, “How much talking to tape player does it take before tape changes the message? The answer is none! It can’t be done! It is not that you cannot change the tape or the recording. However, you cannot do that with the Conscious mind. You have to learn how to push the record button instead of the play button. And then you can record a new program in the Subconscious and that will be the new recording it will act on. You have to put the Subconscious in the record mode, not the play back mode. So the issue is if you want to make permanent changes then you have to learn how to engage the tape player in the record mode and not just talk to it while it is playing. The NEURO-TAP Change Protocol is like pushing the record button in the Subconscious mind, meaning we take out the old recording and replace the experiences, memories, internal representations and self-limiting beliefs so it will pay something else. The NEURO-TAP Change Protocol is designed to quickly transform our relationship to our past, creating shifts in our emotional and physical well-being in the present.

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It is also designed bypasses the “Critical Faculty”. It breaks the negative trances and allows you to dehypnotize yourself by literally TAPPING into your Subconscious. Here is the protocol we will be using.

INSTRUCTIONS FOR THE NEURO TAP CHANGE PROTOCOL The NEURO-TAP Change Protocol is very easy to do. In fact, you cannot do it wrong because it is simply a set of “signals” designed to help both your Conscious and your Subconscious to work together. The tapping instructions below are for a right-handed person. If you are left-handed just reverse it. When we tap we will use the three middle fingers of our right hand. Unlike EFT and other tapping procedures, we only tap in TWO places. TAP BETWEEN THE EYES - The first is a gentle tap on our forehead between our eyes. This is similar to EFT, however when we tap on the forehead between the eyes it is symbolic of tapping at door of the Subconscious mind. When your fingertips touch your forehead it alerts the Subconscious that you ready to make a change. It puts the Subconscious in the “record” mode. This is where we tell it what tape we want to erase and replace (rerecord).

TAP THE HEART AREA – The second tap in in the heart area. This is on the upper part of your chest on or near the heart. This doesn’t have to be precise, because once again, it is symbolic. You will see why in a moment. When we tap on the heart area we are addressing EMOTIONAL aspect of the Subconscious where we want the changes to occur. The tapping process is also designed to create a new neural pathway in the brain. The more you do it, the more your Subconscious associates the process with immediate change.

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“BRUSH OFF” – LETTING GO OF NEGATIVE ENERGY After you tap the heart area simply slide your three fingers on your right hand on top of your left hand, between the left wrist and the tips of your fingers in a brushing motion. This allows you to literally “brush off” the negative energy around the memories, experiences or self-limiting beliefs you want you want to LET GO of. After you do the “brush off”, take a DEEP BREATH IN, EXHALE and just say the word “PEACE”. What this signifies is that you have made peace with it. You’re okay to let it go. You don’t need it anymore. Also, when you take a deep breath and exhale your body relaxes, so it naturally feels good. Just a quick review. When you tap your forehead area you are sending a message to your Subconscious mind that “I am ready to make a change”. When you tap the heart area you are indicating that you want to change your internal representation of this experience, memory or self-limiting belief and by neutralizing it and removing the emotion attached to it. When you do the “brush off” by sliding your fingers on your right hand from the left wrist to the end of your left hand, take a deep breath, exhale and and say the word “PEACE”, you are LETTING GO of any negative ENERGY attached to this experience, memory or self-limiting belief. This step indicates you have had enough of it and you are getting rid of it for good. That’s all there is to it! Every step is symbolic and designed to build new neuropathways. You will see why this works in a minute. The problem with a lot of “change” techniques is they require you to play an audio program while doing the process. The NEURO-TAP Change Protocol just requires you to close your eyes, tap and brush off the negative energy around the memory, experience or self-limiting belief and let it go. You can do it anytime, anywhere. In fact, anytime you experience any negative emotions you can use the NEURO-TAP Change Protocol immediately. When you do this you will

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get instant relief and then it goes away – permanently because you have both a cognitive and emotional shift that is permanent. How can we be sure we are making progress? Because when we use the NEURO-TAP Change Protocol we test our work. When I work with a client I spend about 40% of the session on “fixing” the problem and 60% testing to make sure the changes have been made. Most therapists and hypnotherapist spend 90% of their time on the problem and 0-10% actually testing their work to make sure there is a congestive shift. Meaning, when the client tries to recreate the symptom or the feeling he or she can’t, or it’s very difficult. Congestive shifts are when you have a change in your thinking or internal representation about a past situation, memory or self-limiting belief. When a congestive shift occurs, our past experiences, memories and self-limiting beliefs will be experienced in a different way. Here is why this is process is so important. Past trauma, mental and emotional stress along with negative thinking burns out our neural circuitry. This circuitry becomes almost useless. So when we use the NEURO-TAP Change Protocol and create a new neural connection we are getting a fresh start so to speak. The event or trauma or past experience still happened and the thought or belief is still there, but our representation of it is different. (It would be a good idea to read this paragraph again.) What we are doing is we are collapsing the negative images, thoughts memories and self-limiting beliefs. As we do this we reach a positive tipping point where we change our internal representation which changes our belief, and then things start to go the other way, The NEURO-TAP Change Protocol works for neutralizing resistance or any negative emotion you experience. The process of healing your body with the NEURO TAP Change Protocol is the same—regardless of the condition. When you eliminate, experiences, memories, thoughts and beliefs that are limiting you, you create new possibilities for action. This is where you benefit the most from this process.

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Let’s go through the process and it will all come together for you. WHAT CHANGE DO I WANT TO MAKE? Conventional psychology or “insight” therapy says if we want to change our feelings and behavior the first step we need to take is to find out WHY our life is the way it is. My mother did this. My father did that. I was abused, etc. Now I know WHY I am the way I am. The question is, does that change the recording? The answer is “NO”. The NEURO-TAP Change Protocol is about changing the recording. FIND THE UNDESIREABLE PATTERN. The first step is to select a past experience, memory or self-limiting belief you want work on. One of the easiest ways to discover what you need to work on is to look at the things you DON’T WANT in your life. Make a note of them, because these are the things you want to change. You will find that behind everything that you DON’T WANT in your life there is always a self-limiting belief. This is what is keeping you from getting what you DO WANT! For example, if you are having money problems take a look at your thoughts around money or the economy or your business. Remember it is not the economy, your job, lack of job or business that is running you. It is your internal representations around them. Or, perhaps you had an experience in the past that you keep playing over and over in your mind. This is affecting your emotional state and in turn will affect your beliefs about yourself and the world. It is time to let this go no matter how horrible the experience. You will never be able to change what happened, but you can change your internal representation, which is the key to changing the direction of your life. Said another way, you cannot change what is happing TO you or AROUND you until you change what is IN you. (It would be a good idea to read and internalize the above paragraph again.)

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When you focus on what you DON’T WANT, it will produce a self-limiting belief. The belief is based on past experiences. Here are some examples of self-limiting beliefs based on past experiences: I am unlovable. I am flawed. I am insignificant. I want everyone to like me. I am hopeless. I have no control over what is happening to me. I must be in control at all times. I can’t do this. I am a bad person. Something bad will happen. The world is a dangerous place. People take advantage of me. People don't understand me. They are out to get me. It’s is not fair. What I have done is unforgiveable. What they have done is unforgiveable. Something or someone must change for me to be OKAY. I am not good enough. I must be prefect to be loved. I feel out of control. Can you see how any of these beliefs will limit your ability to have a happy and successful life? Now, you may be “right” about them, but the question you have to ask yourself is “Would I rather be “right” or be happy?” I say, let’s go for happiness! You may also want to eliminate and release a past memory, trauma or experience in your life that has impacted you negatively. This could be what someone said or did, or something you said or did that you never forgave yourself for. All you need to do is recognize currently, right now that your internal representation of these experiences or the recording you are playing is not serving you.

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CLOSE YOUR EYES After you have decided on a past memory, experience or core self-limiting belief you want to change, take a deep breath, exhale and close your eyes. CREATE AN EMOTION OR FEELING This is a very important step. Without it you will not experience significant change. You must create a negative emotion around that experience, memory or self-limiting belief. If possible, look back on your life and find the source of the past memory, experience or self-limiting core belief. What past experience to led to this conclusion about yourself or other people? Go back in time as far as you can and try to remember when you first came up with this belief. Perhaps it was a past experience with your parents or some other trauma or a personal experience that is causing you to feel and act the way you do now. If you cannot do that, then really think about how BAD this self-limiting belief about yourself makes you FEEL. You not only want to remove the self-limiting belief, you also want to remove the emotional pain or discomfort around it. The reason this is so important is that the trauma, experience or self-limiting beliefs creates emotion which forms the internal representation that is driving you. To INCREASE your emotional state think about the worst case scenario if you don’t change or fix this. Think about how miserable you are and how miserable you will continue to be if you don’t let this go or change it once and for all. I know this part is not much fun, but you must do it. Other change techniques have you pile positive thoughts on negative emotions and they do not work. You have to build up the negative emotional pain or discomfort this trauma, experience or self-limiting belief is causing you before you can finally let it go. The good news is once you do this and release it, you will never have to do it again. It will be gone and you will be free to replace it

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with a core belief that brings you the freedom, happiness an success you desire, so it’s a small price to pay to get rid of it for good. To reinforce what I have just said, let me say it another way. If you don’t create any emotion or negative feelings about what you want to change, you will only be working with the Conscious mind, which is why you have failed to resolve your mental and emotional blocks up until now. It is also why all those self-help books and program have not worked for you. So you have everything to gain and absolutely nothing to lose. The reason you are stuck in any area of your life is you may have intellectually let go, but you have not emotionally let go of what is holding you back. The problem we face is that we are driven by emotion, not logic. No matter how logical you THINK you are, you are EMOTIONALLY DRIVEN. Even Spock had to learn that lesson! DETERMINE YOUR “SUD” LEVEL While you are in this emotional state you are going to give how you feel a SUD level. SUD stands for Subconscious Units of Distress. The SUD level is how much this memory, trauma, experience or self-limiting belief is a problem for you right now. I use a SUD level of 0 - 10. So 10 would be “I totally believe this self-limiting belief, thought or feeling is true for me”. And 0 would be “It is not a problem, or only a slight problem”. As you build up this emotion, give it a number from 0 - 10 and make mental note of that number. By determining your SUD level you can then chart your progress because as you work on releasing it, your SUD level will noticeably reduce. So, as you are feeling the emotion concerning a past experience, memory or self-limiting belief you want to remove, you put a SUD level on it.

THE 3 STEP NEURO-TAP PROCESS Step 1 BEGIN TAPPING BETWEEN THE EYES ON THE FOREHEAD Now we can begin the tapping process. Close you eyes. As you focus on the experience, memory or self-limiting belief and feel as much negative

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emotion as you possibly can, start tapping on the forehead between your eyes to open the connection to you Subconscious mind. While you are tapping, name the problem or symptom and say, This EXPERIENCE of.. Example – “When my father (or mother) said or did…..” “Losing my job or business”, “When (name) left me.” etc. or…. This FEELING of..” Example – “I am never good enough”. “I am not attractive enough”. “Not being confident…. “Sadness about….” “This BELIEF that…” Example - “I have to struggle” “My finances will never get much better”. “I cannot find a new job”. “I cannot start a new business’. “It is difficult to find someone to have a relationship with”. So you are choosing a past EXPERIENCE, a FEEELING or a SELF-LIMITING BELIEF Then say “I Let it go. It no longer serves me”. If you have built up enough negative emotion you will want to let it go, just to get relief. So really get the FEELING that you want to let it go because it is severely blocking your success and happiness. Step 2 - TAP THE HEART AREA Next tap the heart area and make these three statements: “TIME to let it go” “SAFE to let it go”. “DON’T NEED it anymore.” Step 3 – “BRUSH OFF”, DEEP BREATH EXHALE – “PEACE”.

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After you tap the heart area and make the above 3 statements slide your fingers on top of your left hand, between the left wrist and the tips of your fingers in a brushing motion. This symbolically allows you to brush off the negative energy around the memories, experiences or self-limiting beliefs you want you want to LET GO OF. After you do the brush off, take a DEEP BREATH, EXHALE and say “PEACE” and just enjoy the feeling of release. Again, I want to emphasize this is purely symbolic, but your brain beings to associate this FINAL “brushing off” step with completely LETTING GO. You are making PEACE with it. The following is not necessary but after I say “PEACE” I like to say, “This feels so good.” It just emphasizes the good feeling. NOW TEST Now go back to the memory, experience or self-limiting belief and try to build up the negative emotion again. Check your SUD level. If it is not at or close to “0” or you feel any negative feelings, fears, doubts or worries, repeat the process again. If you are working on a past trauma, experience or memory, go back to it. Notice when you think about it or picture it in your mind how you feel now. If it is a visual memory look at the faces or the expression on faces of the people involved. Notice what expression is. If there is an emotion or an expression on someone else’s face that made you feel bad, notice how you feel. For example, let’s say your father made you feel bad and called you “stupid”. You picture him doing that and you keep repeating the process until he is no longer yelling at you. Whatever it is or whatever happened, just keep changing how you choose to represent this in the future. Keep in mind that you logically know you cannot change what happened, but emotionally you can change the way you choose to represent it.

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In order to help you to completely let it go, please keep running this thought through your head. Whatever happened in the past was because the other person or yourself was running a Subconscious program that caused them or you to do what they did. THEY could not have done anything different and YOU could have not done anything different. IT WAS NOT POSSIBLE AT THAT TIME. < Please read this again! That does not mean it was “fair” or “right”, but if you understand that there was NO OTHER CHOICE AT THAT TIME because of the program they were running or you were running, you can finally let it go. When you do this you will not longer be a victim of your past. The reason you have not been able to let it go and forgive yourself or “them” up until now is you wish the past was different or wish you could do it over again. That is not possible and you are only delaying your happiness by holding on to that internal representation. The key is to focus on what is going on inside of you as you are doing the NEURO-TAP. What you want to do now picture the past event and decide you are going to change the belief or past memory and create a new picture in your mind of the way you would like to represent it because this is what is driving you. Remind yourself that everything that happens to us are just events. Look at it and think to yourself, “This event can either take me down or it can show me what I don’t want in my life and allow me to go after what I do want. I now choose to use it to my advantage”. In other words change the way you represent it. Change your mindset from a Victim to a Creator. If there is still some emotional attachment to the memory, experience or self-limiting belief do the NEURO-TAP Change Protocol again. At this stage you are making new neural connections or pathways in your brain and that creates the healing effect in you mind, in you body and in your life. Keep repeating the process a few times until you feel calm and relaxed about it. Keep using the SUD level and measure the difference from how you felt when you started.

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If something comes up other than what you are working on, then work on that as well, because there may be layers. Your mind may open up and give you answers or clues to other issues that need to be removed and replaced. Go wherever your mind leads you as long as you keep releasing whatever come up. So you go to all the memories, experiences or negative self-limiting beliefs and NEURO-TAP them to 0 or as close to 0 as possible where you feel relief. Usually with a few SERIES of taps most of the negativity will be gone, or mostly gone. However it may take several sessions or a few days. When people ask me how long will it take my answer is “I can’t tell you that. My rule is to keep doing the NEURO-TAP it until either it is gone, or you pass out from doing it! J Either way you come out ahead”.

REPLACE – PUTTING IN THE GOOD STUFF Remember we said we not only want to remove the problem or symptom but we want to replace it. This is an important step as well. When your SUD level is as low as it will go, which will be 0 or close to 0 as possible, the next step is to fill that space with a good feelings or thoughts about how you want to represent it in the future. After you say “PEACE” and feel a cognitive shift, and your SUD level is reduced, relax and just get a good feeling going. If you NEURO-TAPPED on a past memory or experience, just close your eyes and go back to the memory or experience you just released. Do your best to replace it with a positive representation. In other words, when you think about it in the future you see that it was just an event in your life. Nothing could have been different at the time and you are safe now. Keep in mind you have many more positive and happy events in your life than negative ones. So the question you have to ask yourself is “Am I going to be defined by this event or experience or am I going to define myself by other positive experiences in my life? Forgive yourself and forgive anyone else involved because in reality no matter how horrible a situation was, it always boils down to good people running bad programs. And while you are doing this, keep reminding yourself, you are doing this for YOU, not for “them”.

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If you NEURO-TAPPED on a feeling or self-limiting belief then choose how you want to represent it in the future. Tell yourself “This is the way I choose to look at it (represent it) NOW”. The idea is when you let go of something or change something, (a feeling or self-limiting belief) you replace it with positive feeling or belief that makes YOU feel good when think about it in the future. This interrupts the pattern. When you are done, especially if you are working on a past memory or experience, say these 6 “Test Statements” and FEEL the response inside your body: It happened. Its over. It is not happening again. I am safe now. Holding on to this experience no longer serves me. I am ready to move on. I am so grateful for this. There will be evidence of a change or a cognitive shift when you can confidently make these statements. At that point you can be assured the problem or symptom is gone forever. Cognitive shifts (evidenced by a SUD level of “0” or close to it) are a great indication that you are ready to move on. The key is to be persistent. It may take a little while to get it exactly the way you want it, but you will have a major shift and improvement after you do the initial NEURO-TAP Change Protocol. The more you do this process of challenging every aspect of your life, the more you set yourself free from the old “stories” and past traumas that are keeping you stuck. And the reason is this; Memory is not permanent. The truth is you have memories inside your mind that you THINK are permanent and you cannot get rid of them. That’s because you keep going back and replaying them. As you learned in an earlier lesson, every time you think about a past experience and play it over, your Subconscious thinks it is happening

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AGAIN! So you never get rid of it and it happens to you again hundreds, if not thousands of times instead of once. When you take the time to do the NEURO-TAP Change Protocol and change you internal representation and your default mode you will get the release and the freedom you have always wanted. I know I sound like a broken record, but it is important to emphasize that you don’t need to change the memory, experience or self-limiting belief - only the meaning. It’s the meaning or the emotions that are attached to it that are driving your bus. But you have to make PEACE with it and LET IT GO. The Subconscious mind, the “Decision Maker” helps us to focus on what we already hold to be true. The only way you are going to get something different in your life is you have to change the references or internal representations for the “Decision Maker”. That is the part of your Subconscious mind that handles all your automatic responses. If you change your internal representation of anything your “Decision Maker” changes your point of focus to what you want instead of what you don’t want.

TAKING IT TO THE NEXT LEVEL You might be thinking, “Can I do this process without actually tapping?” Of course you can! The tapping is only symbolic. But before you can do it mentally, you need to create the neurological pathway using the actual physical tapping. Then when you have it internalized within your system you can do the exact same procedure by mentally tapping. I have done this for so long now I can just mentally tap and the problem is resolved immediately. The negative stuff no longer gets into my Subconscious because I have removed and changed the old memories, experiences, internal representations and self-limiting beliefs and I work on the new one as they come up. The true reality is that you will never solve all your problems at once because new ones will keep coming up. However, you can use the NEURO-TAP Change Protocol anytime, anywhere and can heal your self-limiting beliefs by neutralizing them as they arise. For example if a thought of resistance comes in your mind about anything, you tap on the forehead and say “This resistance, I let it go. Then the heart and say, “Safe to let it go”. “Don’t need it.” Then brush the top of

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your left hand between the wrist and the end of your fingers, take a deep breath, exhale and and say “PEACE”. If a thought of hate comes in, you tap and say “This feeling of hate, I let it go. Then the heart and say “Safe to let it go”. “Don’t need it.” Then brush the top of your left hand between the wrist and the end of your fingers, take a deep breath, exhale and say “PEACE”. If a thought of anger comes in, you stop and tap and say, “This anger, I let it go. Then the heart and say “Safe to let it go”. “Don’t need it.” Then brush the top of your left hand between the wrist and the end of your fingers, take a deep breath, exhale and say “PEACE”. If you feel anxious you stop and tap and say “This feeling of anxiousness, I let it go”. Then the heart and say “Safe to let it go”. Then brush the top of your left hand between the wrist and the end of your fingers, take a deep breath, exhale and say “PEACE”. You simply counter the negativity of the mind by neutralizing it right then and there. This is very powerful! Here is another way I use the NEURO-TAP that is very effective. When I am learning something new and I get frustrated, I NEURO-TAP right then and there. For example, I enjoy dancing. When I am learning a new dancing step and I get frustrated I NEURO-TAP when I start saying something like “This routine is hard to learn”. I change my internal representation (“This is getting easier”.) and therefore change my self-limiting belief right on the spot. In other words, the difficulty of learning the routine at that moment it is only one event and I can give whatever meaning I want to give it. Let’s say someone frustrates me or disappoints me and I start thinking negative thoughts about the person. First I remind myself, my interaction with them is just an event. I am the one who gives meaning to every event in my life, so I can change the meaning. Then I NEURO-TAP and change the meaning. I say something like, “This is just and event. It has no meaning to me. I just let it go”. Then “no meaning” is the program I am running when I think about this in the future. This is SOOOO POWERFUL! If you get nothing else from this lesson, take this idea away with you and you will see a noticeable change in your life.

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The NEURO-TAP Change Protocol will heal and transform both your Conscious and Subconscious programming. Eventually your mind becomes your friend—working for you—rather than against you.

Changing Your Point of Attraction Now here is even more good news when you use the NEURO-TAP Change Protocol. As you already know, your thoughts are the most powerful creative energy you have at your disposal. Until you learn to control your thoughts and emotions you will create your life by default. Again, I want you to use some logic here. If your life is consistent with your beliefs, and you make up your beliefs, what does that make you? The Creator of Your Life! NOW YOU GOT IT!!! Creation is happening all the time. Either consciously or unconsciously. We want to be a Deliberate Creator, and we want it to be effortless and easy. Part of why the Deliberate Creation process is so easy is we have physiological and psychological hard-wiring within our nervous system that makes creation an effortless process. Our nervous system is designed so that the more we repeat a pattern, the easier it gets. Neuropathways only grow through repetition. With consistent repetition your body makes a neuropathway. Once a neuropathway is built, repetitive thoughts and even actions happen without conscious thought. The major benefit, besides not having the problem, is when we remove and replace memories, experiences, thoughts and self-limiting beliefs it dramatically alters our point of attraction at the same time. It brings us back to our natural, healthy base-line vibrational frequency. This ensures that the vibrational energy you are sending out into the Quantum Field or the “Matrix” matches your desires.

TIPS FOR GETTING STARTED As you begin using the NEURO-TAP Change Protocol why not train your brain that using this process is an enjoyable experience. Letting go of anything we do not want in our life that is holding us back is always

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enjoyable. Once again, it is how you represent it internally that will determine whether it is an enjoyable process of letting go, or you are “working” on yourself. Also, please don’t complicate this. If you tend to operate predominately from the “left brain” your natural inclination will be to have a lot of questions about the process, like “what about this” and “what about that” etc. Also, you will focus on doing it correctly. That’s the way your brain works. I understand that. However, I will let you in on a little secret. You don’t have to do it correctly. Why? Because I designed it that way! Let me explain. What you are going to discover is at least half and sometimes all of the change you are looking for is going to happen just by consciously changing your default mode. This is actually the “secret” behind the NEURO-TAP Change Protocol. So it is not about doing the process correctly. It is about consciously taking a few moments to change your default mode. (The one that has been running your life up until now.) When you do that, you are taking control of your mind and your life. And trust me, this is something that most people rarely do. They let their mind run them instead of running their mind. They are in their negative default mode 95% of the time! So it is just a matter of doing it. Here’s why. In a previous lesson I mentioned that when I work with my clients I see my role as a “pattern interrupter”. In other words, my job is to change the client’s unconscious patterns by interrupting them, even if it means getting in their face sometimes. Unless they change their unconscious pattern or their default mode, their problem or symptom will not go away. When you use the NEURO-TAP Change Protocol you are acting as your own “pattern interrupter”. You literally are taking control and changing the default mode that is keeping you stuck where you are. When you do that you are VIRTUALLY GUARANTEED to change because you making cognitive changes and shifting your energy. Remember, each self-limiting belief you have is powered by its own energy source. Nothing can operate without an energy source, but the only power a belief has is what it receives from the PERSON that created it.

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The PERSON has to supply the energy or emotion for the belief to keep operating. Although the belief is energy, just as the PERSON is energy, when the belief gains more energy than it’s Creator, it is like a ball of snow rolling down a hill. It starts off no bigger than your hand and then as it rolls it keeps getting bigger and bigger and will eventually grow so big you cannot move it. In other words, you do not have enough power to overcome the inertia. Exactly the same applies to any belief. The more you use it and live it, the stronger it becomes. It also becomes your default mode. The NEURO-TAP Change Protocol is simply a way to train your brain to do something different. The tap on the forehead signals your Subconscious and tells it you want to remove a self-limiting belief, memory or experience from your past. Then when you create a negative emotion around it and tap the heart area you release the negative emotion around it. Then you let go of the negative emotion around the self-limiting belief by brushing it off and then you make PEACE with it by taking a deep breath, exhaling and saying “PEACE”. If you do that a few times, that memory, experience or self-limiting belief doesn’t stand a change of replaying over and over again. Especially if you do it until you feel nothing. It won’t come back! In other words, just by doing the process you are neutralizing the power or energy behind the memory, experience or self-limiting belief until it is gone. So doing it correctly is not the secret. The secret is just DOING IT! I use the NEURO-TAP Change Protocol all the time in my personal life and in my work. When I designed this my intent was to come up with a simple but effective process that people would actually DO - not just read about it, listen to it, or have to play a recording. When I put this together I was faced the challenge in how to present this in such a way that people like yourself could see that there is a new possibility in their lives. More importantly to realize that they no longer need to be stuck in an old patterns that make certain aspects of their lives dysfunctional. I hope I have accomplished that goal. Please take the time to read this over until you realize that everything in your life is about how you represent it. It is about the meaning you give to EVERYTHING. And if you don’t like what you see or experience, then all you have to do is change the meaning or your internal representation.

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The NEURO-TAP Change Protocol, whether you do it physically or mentally, is easy to do. You can do it anytime, anywhere and it will work like magic. It shifts your cognitive beliefs, aligns your energy and changes your default mode to getting MORE in life of what you WANT and LESS in life of what you DON’T WANT. How good is that!

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