Managing EmotionsMarcelo Bulk

Definition Literally, it means moving from inside out. It is a human characteristic used to deal with

external situations by choosing between many possible reactions.

Learnt from family and other sources, a healthy emotional stage can help the individual to experience the best of everything and to deal with bad circumstances in a more mature way.

But, when an individual faces a point of experiencing unhealthy emotions, it is possible that even the best situation becomes the worse experience in his life.

InfluenceEmotions are reactions to anything

that happens, so they are present at every step.

Effort, success, influence, recovery and changing, are all affected by the reactions we have towards what happens around. In other words, by emotions.

Importance

A healthy emotional state: Success or

contentment in career. Keeping friends and

using time in a worthwhile way.

Dealing with stressful situations.

A healthy mind and body.

Staying in self-esteem.

An unhealthy emotional state: Failure in career or

marriage. Losing friends, time or

reputation. Increasing stress

levels. Affecting mental and

body health quality. Decreasing self-esteem

levels.

How to manage emotions?How to manage emotions?

Repression It means to prevent the expression

of an emotion by will power or social constraints.

It works like a pressure cooker: if you don’t do something about that soon, it can explode!

Talk to someone you know. Just remember that you can’t repress what you feel forever.

Transference It is when you identify a certain wrong

emotion and you replace it with another one, or some other action.

For instance, you know you can’t shout against your boss, so you start to make ironic comments about him to other people.

It is important to acknowledge the emotion you feel and look for advise from an expert on how to deal with it in a healthy way.

EI Emotional Inteligence is the capacity to

understand, perceive and use the emotions felt by the individual and other people.

A sales manager is aware that his team lacks motivation, so he creates a program to increase sales by generating enthusiasm for new products.

EI cannot be used as a tool to manipulate other people, but it is useful to help finding solutions.

*Self-Control* It is the stage where you can manage an

emotion before it comes into action. It requires a deep knowledge of the self and an efficient tool for access.

After sometime working on the self, a manager is able to face a crisis in her company by being calm and focused.

Even though it is something apparently more difficult, it allows the person to manage emotions in a total different level.

Process

PersonaliPersonality tracesty traces

ThoughtsThoughts

Decision Decision makingmaking

Situation

A trace of personality emerges, triggered by a situation

Emotions come as a reaction to the situation, generating thoughts

Those emotions turn into an action (reaction), which needs approval by the intellect to come into reality

By chosing an action, it feeds the personality

REPRESSION

TRANSFERENCEEMOTIONAL

INTELLIGENCE

SELF-CONTROL

*F&C* Focus

Mind works better if it is focused, that is, the thoughts and emotions that emerge have a clear meaning for the self and a clear purpose.

Control The real control is on the intellect, so that the best

decision is made. Meditation

Meditation technique enables the mind to be focused in a very easy way.

Raja yoga meditation provides an interesting and effective method to control the intellect.

**Self-Leadership** After controlling the self, the individual

becomes his or her own leader. Emotions cease to exist as reactions and the leader allows his feelings to be expressed.

A mother instead of reacting towards the insult spoken by her daughter-in-law, decides to give her love and compassion.

Only by being a leader of the self, emotions will not created damage.

**Process**

PersonaliPersonality tracesty traces

ThoughtsThoughts

Decision Decision makingmaking

Situation

A trace of personality emerges, triggered by a situation

Emotions come as a reaction to the situation, generating thoughts

Those emotions turn into an action (reaction), which needs approval by the intellect to come into reality

By chosing an action, it feeds the personality

REPRESSION

TRANSFERENCEEMOTIONAL

INTELLIGENCE

SELF-CONTROL

As a leader of the self, I am the master of my intellect.

I am able to always find a good quality – a value, virtue or power – as a way to act in the world.

I don’t react; I am the one who provides spiritual, mental and physical solutions.

Conclusions Managing emotions are an important

factor in organisations. There are many ways to do it. Raja yoga meditation can help to

achieve both, self-control and mastery over the self.

Brahma Kumaris is available to help with that. www.bkivv.org marcelo.bulk@co.bkwsu.org