management tips to effective communication
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HBR MANAGEMENT TIPS EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
Build a Climate of Trust Humans “read” body language and facial expressions to discern if others are trustworthy, but some situations – like change or confusion – prime us for distrust. In the absence of information, the brain works overtime. After all, we’re programmed to anticipate harm and protect ourselves from it. But even when your team lacks clarity on a situation, you can still build a trusting environment. Think about a time when your boss and a colleague starting meeting regularly and you didn’t know why. You probably started wondering if you’d been left out of an important project. Leaders can shift people’s thoughts away from threats by fostering an open, transparent environment in which everyone shares and discusses as much as they can about what’s really going on. This sends a strong signal to everyone’s lower brain that “trust is in the air.” Adapted from “How to Dispel Distrust at Work,” by Judith E. Glaser. Stop Talking About Yourself When You Apologize Admitting a mistake can fall flat if you apologize the wrong way. The victim of your screw-‐up does not want to hear about you. Instead ask yourself: Who am I talking to, and what is he or she looking for in my apology?
• A stranger or mere acquaintance wants you to offer compensation or some redeeming action. Compensation can be tangible, like paying to repair your neighbor's fence when you accidentally back your car into it, or emotional, like being extra thoughtful.
• Your colleague or friend wants empathy. When you recognize and express concern over the suffering you caused, the victim feels understood and valued, and trust is restored.
• Your team wants an acknowledgement of the rules and norms you violated. Basically, you need to admit that you broke the code of behavior of your social group or organization, and that you recognize you let them down.
Adapted from “The Most Effective Ways to Make It Right When You Screw Up,” by Heidi Grant Halvorson.
Avoid the Pitfalls of Positive Feedback Praise should motivate your employees, but in some cases it does just the opposite. Here’s how to make sure positive feedback actually works:
• Don’t cushion the blow. Don’t routinely say something “nice” before giving criticism. Doing so conditions people to hear positive feedback as a hollow preamble to your real message. Lead instead with your investment in the relationship and reasons for having the conversation.
• Praise effort, not personal attributes. Intelligence, talent, or abilities are mostly innate and cannot be actively replicated. Instead, compliment effort and explain exactly what actions prompted your approval. If you’re specific, you’ll reinforce the desired behavior.
Adapted from the HBR Guide to Coaching Your Employees.
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3 Tips to Build Better Relationships with Your Employees When people feel connected to you, even difficult conversations feel less threating. Here are three tips to forge stronger bonds with your employees:
• Relate whenever you can. View every interaction as an opportunity to get to know someone a little better. Make a habit of asking employees one question about their work or their personal lives each time you encounter them.
• Take note of subtleties. People seek emotional connection through countless small “bids” for attention—questions, gestures, or looks. Take stock of how much you notice these cues . You might also solicit some feedback from friends and family on how well you listen and respond to social cues in general.
• Regularly express appreciation. Research shows that the ratio of positive to negative interactions is 5:1 in a successful relationship. You don’t need to pay someone five compliments before offering criticism, but do be mindful of the ratio. Adapted from the HBR Guide to Coaching Your Employees.
Lower Resistance by Listening When you encounter opposition to an idea or suggestion, you can strong-‐arm your challenger into getting what you want, or you can reinforce your relationship by listening. When you coerce an employee into doing something – even if he complies with your demands – his initial resistance will fester over time and may come back to bite you later. When someone doesn't agree with you, it’s natural to repeat yourself, often more loudly. Instead, if you are getting pushback, listen. Repeat back what you've heard to make sure you truly understand what the other person means. When you stop trying to convince someone and instead focus on listening to his point of view and respecting it, his resistance will often disappear. Adapted from “Practical Tips for Overcoming Resistance,” by Mark Goulston. Give Feedback Like a Sports Coach As a manager, you play different roles at different times – but the job of a manager, just like that of a coach or teacher, is to inspire people to be better. Most people respond better to encouragement than to criticism, so give praise when you can. According to Sir Alex Ferguson, one of the most successful coaches in sports history, nothing is better than hearing: “Well done.” He says, “Those are the two best words ever invented. You don’t need to use superlatives.” At the same time, giving clear criticism is important when your team members don’t meet expectations. If you are too soft in your approach, you won’t be effective – but showing your anger all the time doesn’t work, either. There’s no point in harping on criticism; pick your moment, do it right away, and consider it done. Your timing and tone matter. Adapted from “Ferguson’s Formula,” by Anita Elberse with Sir Alex Ferguson. How to Ask Productive Questions If you’re like most team leaders, you probably make more statements than you ask questions – and some of your “questions” are in name only. When you are genuinely curious, you want to learn what others are thinking – but when you aren’t, you ask rhetorical questions; not for a real answer, but to make a point. For example: “You don’t really think that solution will work, do you?” This communication style leaves team members feeling insulted or defensive. They will trust you less, withdraw, and withhold information that you need to make good decisions. If you already
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know the answer to your question or you could easy tack on the phrase “you idiot” to the end of it, it’s rhetorical. If this is the case, change your inquiry to a transparent statement that shares your view, including your reasoning and feelings. Then add a genuine question that helps you learn more about the situation and helps increase your team’s curiosity in the answer. Adapted from “Increase Your Team's Curiosity,” by Roger Schwarz. Maximize Time When Meeting with Senior Leaders A meeting of multiple time-‐starved executives is a massive commitment of resources. Focusing on low-‐stakes issues, like updates or presentations, often wastes valuable time. Instead, meetings among senior leaders should tackle the organization’s most critical issues. Whether you’re a top executive or just meeting with fellow managers, try to concentrate on:
• Fundamentals, not incrementals. Measure importance by the number of zeros involved: Is this a $5,000 decision or a $5,000,000 decision? If there aren’t enough zeros, the decision isn’t strategic enough to absorb time.
• Future leadership. Current leadership must engage the organization’s up-‐and-‐comers to grow the company. Develop succession plans and include promising leaders in strategic discussions to foster their high-‐level decision-‐making.
• Undiscussables. Whether it concerns a division’s performance, the CEO’s leadership style, or a conflict among the senior team, important topics not being discussed can hold your organization back. Broaching these tough topics is a proven way to improve performance.
Adapted from “Four Areas Where Senior Leaders Should Focus Their Attention,” by Peter Bregman.
Good Leaders Get to Know Their Emotions Being too emotional can create problems, but it can be far less of a problem than holding back all of your feelings. You may hide emotions in an attempt to stay in control and look strong, but doing so diminishes your control and weakens your capacity to connect and communicate with others. If you struggle with sharing your true feelings, it might help to know that people often don’t show emotion because they’re not aware of what they’re feeling. You might suppress your anger or temper your excitement without even realizing it. So pay attention to your emotions. At least a couple of times a week, ask yourself, “What am I feeling right now?” Write it down if you can; keeping a regular journal can help you understand your moods and what changes them. Then let loose a little: Let your emotions out, and let people in. Both are critical to effective leadership. Adapted from “Good Leaders Get Emotional,” by Doug Sundheim. Tailor Your Coaching to Specific Learning Styles An effective coach meets people where they are. As you coach your employees to develop their skills or improve their performance, set them up for success by understanding how they learn best and adjusting your methods accordingly. Some people may prefer learning in the moment, through intense experience and goal-‐directed action. Others may favor retaining information reflectively, through sustained meditation and analytical thinking. Coaching will likely involve some combination of these two approaches. With people who prefer an active style of learning, for example, communicate dynamically and encourage on-‐the-‐job experiments. With reflective
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learners, communicate thoughtfully and allow adequate time for them to rehearse quietly on their own. By tapping into their preferred styles, you will engage employees more deeply and find an approach to learning they feel motivated to follow. As a result, they’ll make greater—and faster—progress toward their goals. Adapted from The HBR Guide to Coaching Your Employees. Build the Right Team Behaviors Even though most management systems focus on individual performance, it’s critical to reward and recognize your team collectively. As a team manager, support the right group behaviors by:
• Encouraging collaboration. Talk about your people as a team, not as a set of individuals. Instead of talking about individuals’ contributions, praise the common behaviors that contribute to the team’s overall success.
• Evaluating team performance. Every six months or so, take a close look at the group’s progress. Don’t mention individuals in this appraisal but focus on what the team has done—and can do—together.
• Using rewards. If you are able, tie a portion of your organization’s discretionary compensation to team performance. If you don’t control the purse strings, try recognizing your team’s hard work in a public way—through a departmental email or even displaying their picture in a common space—or giving them exposure to senior leaders. Adapted from “How to Reward Your Stellar Team,” by Amy Gallo.
Language Is an Obstacle to Change Language can be a shortcoming. Think about “TV show.” It’s a term that’s been around since the 1940s, and has survived into the multi-‐platform present. But, in some cases, the term just doesn’t cut it. Netflix, for example — i.e., not a major TV network — produced House of Cards, and allowed fans to stream the political drama to a host of digital devices. But Netflix received some push back for releasing the “episodes” — language, again — in one fell swoop instead of episodically. Why? Well, that’s not the status quo for a TV show. Do you see the problem here? Outdated language has a way of clouding our judgment. And if it weren’t for our insistence on hanging onto old terms, we’d probably be more open to change.
SOURCE: Can You Invent Something New If Your Words Are Old? by Deborah Mills-‐Scofield Be Yourself, but Don’t Overshare A rise in team-‐based workplaces has heightened the demand for managers who are “authentic” and “instantly intimate.” But sharing your thoughts, feelings, and experiences at work can sometimes backfire. Here are a few pointers for effective—and authentic—self-‐disclosure:
• Consider relevance. Before sharing personal information, ask yourself if it’s germane to the situation. Make sure it contributes to the overall goal of building trust and engendering better collaboration.
• Understand the context. Some societies are more inclined than others to disclose personal information. Investigate regional and organizational norms about sharing so that you’ll know when it’s best to keep quiet.
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• Delay or avoid very personal disclosures. In some workplaces, you will eventually find it safe and helpful to share; in others you’ll realize it’s unwise to do so. Adapted from “Be Yourself, but Carefully,” by Lisa Rosh and Lynn Offermann.
Don’t Put Off Tough Decisions When it comes to organizational change, making big decisions is cognitively and emotionally taxing. But when team leaders fail to decide which old directions need to be sacrificed in service of the new direction, the tradeoff doesn’t magically disappear – it simply slides down the ladder. Trickle-‐down tradeoffs create two major problems for change efforts:
• Team misalignment: When a team leader avoids the discomfort of deciding priorities, each team member has to decide what her priorities are – and it’s highly unlikely that everyone will independently arrive at the same conclusions.
• Poor judgment: Making tradeoffs depletes our overall mental capacity. When your team has to spend a long morning making the tradeoffs that leaders haven’t, it easily leads to long afternoons of making poor choices for their customers, their workloads, and their budgets. Adapted from “To Move Ahead You Have to Know What to Leave Behind,” by Nick Tasler.
Don’t Extend the Deadline—Plan Better You may want to rethink postponing that deadline. Although it’s a relief to be “given” more time, we rarely use extensions wisely; instead, we lose motivation, procrastinate, and wind up facing the same situation again later. Address poor time planning with these tips:
• Shorten the distance to your ultimate goal. This will keep motivation high, and keep the pressure on for procrastinators. Impose interim deadlines, breaking a larger objective up into mini-‐targets spaced out strategically in time. These deadlines need to be meaningful, though— if it’s no big deal to miss the deadline, then it’s not a real deadline.
• Become a realistic judge of how longs things will take. Consider how long it’s taken to complete similar projects in the past, and try to identify the ways in which things might not go as planned. Break the project down in detail, estimating the time needed to complete each step and allowing for snags in your schedule.
Adapted from “Here’s What Really Happens When You Extend a Deadline,” by Heidi Grant Halvorson. How to Manage Someone You Don’t Like If you’re like most leaders, you probably gravitate towards direct reports who act nice and don’t deliver bad news. But it’s often those who provoke or challenge you—the people you like less—who prompt new insights and help propel the group to success. When you dislike an employee you might—consciously or not—mismanage him, treat him unfairly, or fail to see the real benefit he can deliver. To get the most out of someone you don’t like:
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• Learn how to handle your frustration. Don’t let your distaste show. Everyone wants their boss to like them, and your employee might presume that any disapproval has to do with his performance. Remain fair, impartial, and composed.
• Check your bias. If you’re having trouble being fair, seek counsel from another manager who is familiar with the employee’s work. Ask whether your evaluation matches the outsider’s.
• Keep an open mind. It might help to spend more time with the problem employee, perhaps by collaborating on a difficult task. Remember that perspectives change, and your favorite employee today might become your least favorite tomorrow.
Adapted from “How to Manage Someone You Don’t Like,” by Amy Gallo.