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Healthy Communication with Students

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EVENT / SITUATION

THOUGHTSFEELINGS

BEHAVIOURAPPRAISAL

- EXPERIENCE

- INFORMATION

- IMAGINATION

FRAMES OF REFERENCES /PROGRAMMES / BELIEFS /SANSKARA: Raga - Dwesha

- UNDERSTANDING- RESOLUTION

BIOLOGICAL PROCESSES

THE HUMAN MIND

C O M M U N I C A T I O N

“Don’t come up-stairs because I am working with a patient.”

“Bring your assignment tomorrow. Don’t forget.”

“Don’t think about your right ear for 20 seconds from now.”

PRINCIPLE OF POSITIVITY

By the time the child grows to 18 years of age, he/she receives 1,50,000 negative instructions; as against not even 5000 instructions worded in a positive

language.

“Don’t remember monkey while taking the dose of medicine.”

PRINCIPLE OF POSITIVITY

Let all the words and the sentences be positive.

Let a negative statement (if it is necessary to make the communication specific) be followed by a positive one.

Only in very damaging or life threatening situations absolute negative statement may be used.

PRINCIPLE OF POSITIVITY

Permanence ? Pervasiveness ? Personal ?

Check the validity of the following three factors in your negative / dis-empowering statement:

GENERALIZATION OF NEGATIVITY

“AlwaysYou are forgettingEverythingIn the school.”

PERMANENCE

PERVASIVENESS

PERSONAL

“Your home-work is never completed”

M O D E L L I N G

“I know, Gujarati students are very weak in their body and mind. They are poor in studies and fall sick during exams so as to drop-out from the exams. They can’t progress academically.”

Palan, B.M. & Lakhani, J.D. (1991). Converting the “Threat” into a “Challenge”: A Case of Stress-Related Hemoptysis Managed with Hypnosis. American Journal of Clinical Hypnosis, 33 (4), 241-247.

SUBTLE TRAUMATIC COMMUNICATION

Use of “should”, “must”, or “have to” shifts the locus of control from the individual to the situation or to others.

This creates distress causing failure to follow the instruction permanently.

Use of “You may like to / love to / want to …” makes the instruction more acceptable, though it may require more persuasion.

PERMISSIVE COMMUNICATION

I DO

I LIKE I NEED

I WANT TO

HAVE TO

CONVERT “HAVE TO” INTO “WANT TO”

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