GROUP MEETINGS

POMC & OTHER VICTIMS OF HOMICIDE SURVIVORS - March 5Meetings are the first Monday of each month and take place at the Peace House located at: 2116 NE 18th Ave., Portland, OR (see map below). Meetings begin at 7:30pm but, doors open at 7:00pm for informal time to sign in and socialize.

Survivors of Murder and Vehicle Homicide - March 8Meetings are held the second Thursday of each month at the Port of Woodland, 141 Davidson Avenue, Woodland , WA at 6:30 p.m. For more information please contact Delores Cook at 360-425-8658 or 360-751-8658 (cell).

Central Oregon Meeting POMC Group will again be meeting as soon as the leader, Kate Rohauer, is able to restart the meetings. She is now being a contact person. Her contact number is 541-671-0372.

Roseburg POMC Meeting Group is holding meetings in Roseburg under the leadership of Janet Meyer. Her phone number is 541-671-0372 or Lydia Meyer at 541-378-2449. Please contact these ladies for meeting information.

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Mary Elledge (503) 656-8039 Or call Karen Cornwell at (971) 404-1297Board MembersMary Elledge - Chapter LeaderGayle Moffit - Co-Leader (503) 761-1304Delores Cook - Co-Leader (360) 751-8658Karen Cornwall - SecretarySteve Abeling - TreasurerShirlene Guthrie - Parent AdvisorPat Schwiebert - Professional AdvisorRick Vaughn - Parent AdvisorRobert Pfeifer - Parent AdvisorAllen Tremain - Parent AdvisorVanessa Ferraro - Volunteer Private InvestigatorLesia Kennedy - Parent Advisor

POMC Meetings are a time for sharing experiences and emotions. We share a common situation, we are free to express any emotion: anger, sadness, frustration and laughter. We begin by sharing stories, sometimes focusing on a particular topic. Occasionally, we invite a speaker. We come together to support each other, not to judge. In order to maintain a safe place for sharing, we ask that anything said at a meeting remain confidential.

WHAT HAPPENS AT A MEETING?

March 2018Volume 35, No. 38

Greater Portland Area ChapterParents of Murdered ChildrenAnd Other Survivors of Homicide Victims14427 S. Forsythe Rd.Oregon City, OR 97045(503) 656-8039 POMC.com/portland

Our Loved Ones Remembered...Aaron Blane Rakestraw3/28/1982-3/17/2003

Son of Karyn CunninghamGrandson of Nita Cunningham

Brother of Sarha Bacon &Nicholas Rakestraw Friend of

Josh Moon & Brian Clark

Alexandria Nicole Ison3/3/1982-6/2/1999

Daughter of Susan IsonSister of Sean, Ryan &

Catherine Ison, Kellie Bargnghoer

Anthony Branch Jr.3/8/1977-10/9/1997

Loved One of Monica Alexander

Anthony Gregory Miller3/24/1998-11/3/1998

Grandson of Bonnie Gordan

Austin Joe Hrynko6/7/1998-3/19/2016

Son of Lenny & Martha Hrynko

Bethanie Marie Adamson1/16/1987-3/28/2009

Daughter of Melinda Benz

Brady J. Norris (Jay)6/1/1980-3/16/1991

Grandson of Barbara Norris

Brian Todd Mitchell3/23/1971-11/15/1995

Son of Craig & Julie Mitchell

Bruce O. Yoder3/27/1963-12/20/1983

Son of Alice Yoder Pender

Bruce Sparks Kemp3/20/1975-4/11/2011

Son of Bill & Diane Kemp

Bryan Nathan Ling2/16/1956-3/10/1964

Son of Craig & Robyn Ling

Bryan Patrick Foster3/28/2011-6/14/2011

Son of Angie FosterGrandson of Judy Lawrence

Bryant Edward Morris3/31/1992-12/21/2002Son of Renee Lyn Morris

Grandson of Keith & Patricia ElmoreBrother of Alexis, Johnathan

unborn brother of Noah Daniel,

Chad Nathan Dahlgren12/18/1974-3/13/1998

Son of Larry & Moreen Dahlgren

Chance W. Friedhoff8/18/1975-3/8/1996

Son of Marie ArmstrongBrother of Samantha Friedhoff

Charles Leo McLanahan5/3/1954-3/25/1994

Husband of Blanche McLanahan

Charles Ray Johnson7/6/1985-3/20/1991Son of Jenny Bakker

Christine K. Mertens2/15/1950-3/10/1991

Sister of Linda Harrington

Cliff W. Redding3/19/1961-7/21/1982

Son of Loretta Rose

Cynthia L. Ricketts3/2/1957-10/1/1990

Daughter of Ted & Mable RickettsSister of Shirley Ann Hovda

Dale Vinal Saunders11/23/1949-3/11/1986

Loved one of Paula J. Sanders

Daniel C. Burdic9/15/1986-3/12/2002

Son of Randy & Lillian Burdic

Debra Barnett3/16/1970-7/29/2002Sister of Carol Hansen

Dena Saddler3/6/1968-10/15/1988

Daughter of Barbara SaddlerSister of Bev Bristol

Diego Aguilar7/26/1990-3/24/2006

Son of Dena Aguilar-McConnellGrandson of Mary & Bradley McConnell

Dorothy Jean Frank-Davis12/28/1956-3/13/1991

Sister of Jeff & Patricia Schlip

Doug L. Hilkey5/9/1980-3/6/1996

Son of Doug & Dana Hilkey

Eddie Lee Gibbs11/1/1966-3/6/1987

Son of Roger & Patricia HanleyBrother of Teresa Robbins

Elizabeth Kay Curran8/20/1983-3/4/1985

Daughter of Tracy Baugh

Eric Alan Walswick7/15/1985-3/3/2012

Son of Tim & Lori WalswickFriend of Melissa Springer

Erika Marrie Payne 6/7/1973-3/8/1983

Daughter of David Allen Payne

Faye Lavonne Butler5/31/1960-3/18/1981Sister of Dawn Bittler

Forest Snow Bailey3/27/1995-10/13/2012Son of Robin Loveless

Telephone & Email FriendsIf you feel you need to talk, even through tears, the following individuals are ready to listen:

Delores Cook (360) 751-8658Rick Vaughn (503) 646-0171Carolyn (Kip) Brown (503) 502-7907

Barbara Norris (Vehicular Homicide) (360) 751-2104

In Jackson County: Emma Adams (541) 774-8187In Medford: Vicki Kelly (541) 535-5284In Central Oregon: Kate Rohauer (541) 410-7395

Jean Linn: POMC_PDX@comcast.netAmanda Harris (Siblings): amanda@advancedtx.com (623)866-3189Beth Greer: www.facebook.com/POMC>PORTLAND>VANCOUVER/

In Curry County: Phoebe Krevi (541) 813-1045In Coose Bay: Jenn Shilling (541) 297-6348

Our Loved Ones Remembered...Gregory L. Walker

4/7/1964-3/2/1986Son of Aloha Nesbitt

Ian Patrick McKay3/2/1979-1/22/2014Son of Sharon McKay

Jacalyn Rose Latka3/27/1987-1/4/2006

Daughter of Ann Latka

Jacob Kelley1/25/1979-3/1/1998

Son of Michael & Lora Lee KelleyGrandson of Don & Gean Kelley

Jamil Hakeem Kemp3/1/1980-11/11/2004Son of Charles Kemp

Janet Anderson3/18/1938-9/8/1989Friend of Karen Peck

Jason Bissonnette3/25/1969-6/29/2007

Brother of Cris Bissonnette

Jason Michael Ell12/21/1981-3/8/2009

Son of Tammy Ell

Jennifer Anne Lynch3/2/1971-2/14/2006

Daughter of Pat NorlingSister of Michael & Rosemarie

Kathleen Gymkowski Rosenberger8/24/1970-3/24/2004

Daughter of Joe Gymkowski& Melissa Gentry

Mother of William, Joseph & Brian

Kathleen Lois Bauman1/11/1961-3/23/1987

Sister of Barbara Turner & Bonnie Bauman

Kaylee Anne Sawyer3/1/1993-7/24/2016

Daughter of Jamie Sawyer

Keegan Andrew Metz3/7/2007-2/7/2009Son of Cathy Metz

Kelly Lynn Disney1/16/1968-3/9/1984

Daughter of Betty KelleySister of Angie Dodds

Laura Jean Bohlen7/5/1963-3/3/1983

Daughter of Jean Humphreys

Lavell Michael Anthony Matthews12/24/1968-3/23/2004

Son of Vickie Matthews &Malcolm Matthews

Leia Kroeker3/18/2009-1/3/2017

Granddaughter of Dolores Frieberg

Lori Lynn David-Rothrock3/5/1976-9/16/2014

Daughter of Yvonne David

Marcos Juan Castillo7/10/1962-3/24/2013

Husband of Cindy Lou Castillo

Meah Vankeirsbick3/28/1981-3/10/3010

Daughter of Jannine Rose

Michael Barragan9/1/1990-3/10/2010

Nephew of Margaret Gutierrez

Miranda Diane Gaddis11/18/1988-3/8/2002

Daughter of Michelle DuffeyGranddaughter of Wesley & Vida Duffey

Sister of Marissa, Miriah & JordanNiece of Cha-Cha & Michael,Cousin of

Whitney, Kortney, Jacob, Savannah

Patrick Kelley8/4/1975-3/1/1998

Son of Michael & Lora Lee KelleyGrandson of Don & Gean Kelley

Rhonda Kristen Casto7/2/1985-3/16/2009

Daughter of Julia Simmons

Ronald James Overstreet11/22/1979-3/4/2006

Loved one of Julie & Daniel Baldie

Sahara Grace Dwight3/11/2005-7/9/2010

Daughter of Lydia MeyerGranddaughter of Janet Meyer

Sheilagh Fay Conroy8/6/1961-3/21/1994

Daughter of Graham Patrick ConroySister of Gillian Conroy

Loved one of Mary Constans

Shirry Dohman-Rice3/8/1955-2/28/2009

Sister of Ilse Schuurmans

Stephanie Browning3/14/1999-7/29/2002Niece of Carol Hansen

Stephanie Lynn Russell3/25/1973-5/5/1999

Daughter of Dianne Russell

Steven Scott Norris8/16/1956-3/16/1991Son of Barbara Norris

Tawni Loftus9/12/1972-3/7/2003

Daughter of Goldie Loftusmother of Cassandra Powell

Sister of Wayne Beres

Valerie J. Martin4/11/1972-3/3/1997

Sister of Rich & Janet MartinAunt of Katrina, Devyn, Allison,

Milo & Holly

GIFTS OF REMEMBRANCE

Premier Manufacturing Company helps to pay for our operating expenses for the running of our POMC Chapter. It is done in the memory of Billy Gianella. Billy’s mother, Jeanne Gianella, worked for Premier Manufacturing Company until her retirement. Premier Manufacturing Company has been helping our chapter each month since the murder of her son on June 7, 1992. Their continued help is greatly appreciated.

Shawn Haddock in memory of all victims of homicide.

IRENE CLARKKEITH AND PAT ELMORE

SUSAN SCHARENJ. P. MORGAN

Memorial Donations for New Wall

PANEL OF CLACKAMAS COUNTY JUDGES RULES OREGON LAWMAKERS IMPROPERLY CUT SENTENCES FOR REPEAT PROPERTY CRIME-OFFENDERS

On February 14, 2018, a three-judge panel ruled that Oregon lawmakers 2017 law that reduced sentences without required two-thirds vote of the legislature was invalidated because it reduced sentences without required two-thirds vote of the Legislature.

House Bill 3078 was narrowly passed by the legislature on a largely partisan vote. It dramatically reduced the presumptive sentences for repeat property offenders who commit ID Theft or Theft in the First Degree (over $1,000), doubles the number of prior offenses required to qualify for repeat property offender status, and increases early release programs for property offenders and many violent criminals. HB3708 also further eroded “truth in sentencing” (meaning the sentenced announced in court is the one served by the convicted defendant) by further expanding transitional leave. The sentencing changes enacted by the bill undo provisions of Ballet Measure 57.

In 2008, Oregon voters passed Measure 57, which increased presumptive sentences for offenders convicted of repeat property crimes. Over 60% of Oregon, voters supported the measure and it is likely that many of those who did not support it voted for Ballot Measure 61, a far more aggressive measure that required mandatory minimum sentences for property offenders. Measure 57 passed by a wide margin (61.4%) and Measure 61 was narrowly defeated (48.9%).

The lawsuit argued that the legislature unlawfully modified sentences established by the voters and asked the court to halt the changes that are slated to go into effect on January 1, 2008. When voters passed Ballet Measure 11 in 1994, in a separate Ballot Measure 10 they imposed a requirement that any changes to any voter approved sentence may not be altered by the legislature without a 2/3 supermajority. HB 3078 reduces sentences that were established by the voters through Measure 57and failed to receive the prescribed supermajority. Despite this failure, the presiding officers of the legislature and the governor signed the bill into law.

We would like to thank Clackamas County District Attorney John Foote for letting POMC know what is happening in the Oregon Legislature. Mary Elledge joined with District Attorney John Foote and Deborah Maples –Stice to file a lawsuit arguing that House Bill was unconstitutional. It is important that voters realize that the Oregon Legislature would seek to undo a voter-approved measure without the required supermajority. We are still not finished though it was ruled unconstitutional because the ruling can be appealed. There will be more arguments. We will keep members notified.

District Attorney Joshua Marquis, Clatsop County, commented on Measure HB 3078 in the Willamette Weekly saying:“These judges’ decision really takes the Democratic majority and their enablers, the State AG, to task for breaking the law. Voters passed a moderate, sensible repeat property crime measure (57) in 2008. In order to get it passed, they enlisted the support of Oregon’s DAs. Then the legislative majority almost immediately reneged and worse with only 33 and 18 votes (not to the 40 and 20 in the House and Senate respectively they needed.) They gutted MEASURE 57.

This takes power from judges and it benefits two groups; repeat property felons and their lawyers. Shame on DOJ for not recognizing their conflict of interest and hiring an outside firm to defend the legislature’s position. Is 7 months in prison as a Maximum the fairest penalty for someone on their third or fourth embezzlement? As John Adams said, “We are a nation of laws, not a nation of men.”

LIST OF NAMES TO BE ENGRAVED ON THE NEW MEMORIAL WALL UPON COMPLETION

(Please contact us if your loved one’s name does not appear on this paper and you would like to have it added. A form will be added to our newsletter each month to be used for adding names for the wall when it is completed. Please check the spelling of your loved one’s name and let us know if it is wrong. You can e-mail us at elledge1@gmail.com, call 505-656-8039, or mail us at POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Rd., Oregon City, OR 97045.)

Aisha Kathleen Zughbieh-CollinsAmber Rhiannon Adams

Anthony Branch Jr.Ashley Benson

Austin Joe HrynkoBenjamin Redmond

Billy GianellaBraylon Michael Duguay

Brian RomoBrian Elton Spaulding

Charlie PeraltaCheritee Yvonne VanceCheryl Elizabeth Hart

Christopher James LoftusColtin Jacob Salsbury

Coulton McComb-BuehlerCraig C. Moritz Jr.

Dale Archie BrownDaniel Guerin

David G. Swapp Jr.David Rothrock

Dean Anthony KuntzDevan Chanel Schmidt

Diego AguilarDouglas Oliver BentonGlen Edward Drysdale

Harold Sloan BlanchardIzaak GillenJared Stout

Jason Michael EllJason Dale JohnsonJason Scott Williams

Jayme Sue AustinJeffery Ray Brown

Jeffrey TowersJessica Lynn ClarkJodi Marie Brewer

Joseph Ben Peterson

Julio Cesar Marquez Jr.Kathleen Lois BaumanKaylee Anne Sawyer

Keith Ardell BenefieldKenneth Dylan Lambert

Kenzie Rose La BuyKrystal Jaye Mitchell

Kyle William PeckhamLaura Jean Bohlen

London Grey McCabeLori G. Billingsley

Marcos Juan CastilloMolly Irene McCarter

Nicolas Lamont LawsonNicolette Naomi “Nikki” Elias

Paul W. MillerRachelle “Shelly” LawRandall Leo GettmanRaymond Lee Myers

Rebekah “Becky” Selegue Johnson

Ryan Robert JonesSahara Grace Dwight

Savannah Danielle MundenSteve Leroy Johnson

Stuart M. HessThomas James Fite

William Roland Hatch IIIWindy Kim Kimball

Erin KroekerBraedon Anthony Kroeker

Leia KroekerLuke Aiden KroekerIan Patrick McKayCody W. O’Brien

Judy D. Stanfill-GourleyRaymond Charles Brandon

FORGIVING, FORGIVING, WHO SAYS THIS WORKS!

The words of others keep playingOver and Over in my mind;

They cannot understand as wellAnd this is not kind.

They think they are helping whenThey said I should forgive;

They do not realize that there are timesThey I do not even want to live.

My loved one was murderedIn the most cruelest way;

The ones who murdered himThink that they should not

Have to pay!

They lied and lied in the courtroom;They tried to paint a picture of gloom.

Though, they were the murders,They painted my son as the evil one;Yet, he was the victim, my only son.

I can see now that hating these menCauses me more pain;If we continue to hate,

It extinguishes our brain.

This is where we can give it to a Higher Power;Hate makes everything sour.

I do not worry that I should have to forgive;Each co-victims of a crime,

Does what they have to do to live.Mary Elledge

MARCH, 2018 MESSAGE FROM MARY: THE FORGIVENESS MYTH

One of the most painful dilemmas a co-victim of homicide goes through is to ‘forgive or not to forgive’. From the start of our journey through the unbearable grief and emotional turmoil, we are approached with the question, “Are you going to forgive the person or persons who murdered your loved ones?” Some people may say that God requires us to forgive. Others may tell us that if we forgive the ones who murdered our loved ones we are excusing what they did. Our heart can tell us both. Thankfully, there are other alternatives. There is a way to heal your pain, move on, and actually get to a “new normal.”

I have written before about “forgiveness” in earlier newsletters. What I felt and wrote was hard to validate by specialists in the field. Finding the book, “The Forgiveness Myth,” validates what I feel in my heart and what I feel would be a relief for so many co-victims of homicide who face or have faced this as part of their journey through grief. Gary Egeberg and Wayne Raiter have written a book that challenges the idea that there is only one way. The most important aspect of this book is that it helps us let go without feeling guilty. We do not need to focus on the abusers or murderers. It should be up to them to want and work for forgiveness and redemption.

In the start of the book, Egeberg and Raiter wrote the following paragraph and I feel that it sets the toneof what might work for so many who struggle or have struggled with “forgiveness.”

What we hope to make clear is that your willingness, or your highly conflicted desire to forgive, or your ability to forgive in certain situations is not because you don’t value the psychological or spiritual ideal and practice of forgiveness, nor is it because you are spiritually defective. Instead, you will come to recognize, perhaps for the very first time, that there are valid reasons for not always wanting or being able to forgive and that you are far from alone in your struggles.

The authors continue to write that forgiveness is for the people who have been offended and not for the offender. As co-victims of homicide, we not only have had the worst thing happen to us, we cannot give forgiveness from the person they murdered. That person is dead! We can only give forgiveness from ourselves and how can we? In many cases, the murderer will not even admit they committed the murder. They will swear they were not even by the victim when he or she was murdered. If evidence, is found to the contrary, they will find other excuses to why they did what they did. If we offer forgiveness to someone who is not even sorry, how will we be able to justify this to the

ones we loved who were murdered? If my son could offer forgiveness to the murderer, so be it. In this case, I cannot speak for him. In order to have peace for myself, I have left it up to God. This is what I hope will help others who face this dilemma.

Our family and loved ones mean more to us than our own lives. I do not think I can think of hardly any parents who would not have traded places with their child or children who were murdered if they could have. When co-victims are told they must forgive, many feel that they do not want any part of excusing the unthinkable behavior of the offender or to excuse what the offender did.

Before my son was murdered, I never thought that it would be so easy for some people to do unbearable things to others. Worst of all, they are not the least bit sorry. Some people with antisocial personalities only care about what happens to them. My son was murdered by a person who told me that he was my son’s best friend. He also said, “Rob is like a brother to me.” (I did not realize he meant Cain and Abel.) He claimed his innocence during the trial and during all of his sentence reviews except for his last review. At that time, he blamed my son for being such a terrible person. He never has taken responsibility for murdering my son or for the fact that he hired two men to help with the crime.

I have had to let go of the hate I carried for the murderer of my son. Hating can make us physically and mentally ill. It also wastes energy that can resolve other things. Hate does have its good side though. It can help us be motivated when it is used in helping others. Cruelty and injustice to others should never happen! If we tolerate murder and torture, we will become as bad as those who commit the crimes. This is why we have laws and rights for victims. We need not waste our time on people who commit these crimes with no remorse. How can you rehabilitate someone who is not sorry? Protection of society is now part of our Oregon Constitution when dealing with offenders.

When we forgive, we try to see the goodness or potential goodness in a person. When a murderer is not sorry and has not told the truth it is nearly impossible to forgive. What about the murderer, Dayton Leeroy Rogers? He tortured and murdered eight women. His behavior was incomprehensible. What he did remains forever in the minds of the families left behind. Who of us has the right to forgive what he did to eight women? However, since he had done unsurmountable damage to the victims and their families, the only peace they can possibly have is not to let his evilness hurt them further. They should be allowed to choose what they feel is best to be able to live with the scares he has left in their hearts and minds.

PERMISSION FOR ENGRAVING OF NAMES FOR THE NEW POMC OREGON AND WASHINGTON WALLPrinted name of loved one________________________________________ (Will be engraved on wall.)

Relationship to love one___________________________________________

Loved one’s birthday________________________ Death date_______________________

New member’s name and address_____________________________________________

__________________________________________________________________________

Member’s phone number__________________________ Do you want a newsletter? Yes No

Signature for permission to Engrave name and spelling approval_______________________________

Please submit one form for each loved one. Please check with other family members/friends to make sure that no more than one name is sent each for each loved one to be added to the wall. When completed, please mail, fax, or e-mail to Mary Elledge, POMC, 14427 S. Forsythe Road, Oregon City, OR 97045; Fax: 503-656-4420; phone: 503-656-8039; or e-mail: elledge1@gmail.com.

In telling people that they must forgive, we are giving them harmful advice. What we are doing is making them think that something is wrong with them. They are even told that they could go to hell because of their lack of forgiveness. I have seen the tears co-victims shed from being told they must forgive or they will go to hell.

We need to offer unconditional compassion to the one whose loved one was murdered. When people are told that they must forgive and they cannot, we heighten feelings of guilt, failure, or inadequacy according to authors, Egeberg and Raiter. It also leaves co-victims of homicide feeling misunderstood and alone. They need support in order to let go of the hate for their own physical and mental wellbeing and at their own pace. There is a difference between hate and forgiveness.

Just as it may be impossible to forgive, some co-victims are not ready to let go of the hate they feel. It is not simple when your entire life has fallen apart. What works for one person does not work for another. Humans are complex. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, PTSD, can cause co-victims of homicide to live with the scenario of the murder of their loved one playing over and over in their minds. We encourage members to look for professional help and find supportive friends who will listen to their story. Self-help support groups are also effective. Everyone’s pain needs to be respected and heard.

Forgiveness to some co-victims may mean different things to other co-victims. To some it may mean that if they forgive, they are forgetting what happened to their loved one. This is why we leave it to the co-victims left behind. The following list is some healthy alternative to forgiving from “The Forgiveness Myth.” (I have left some out since they did not deal with co-victims of homicide and have added others.)

1. Moving on as I keep the focus on myself and needs.2. Releasing the pain of the past to God, my higher power,

or the Universe.3. Taking tender care of myself, just as I would if I had

suffered a physical injury or illness.4. Grieving what I lost.5. Embrace new opportunities.6. Believe that we can get to a “new normal” without

forgetting our loved one. 7. The pain will get softer. This does not mean that I miss

or love them less.8. Remember that you are not alone. There are people

who understand “the aftermath of homicide.” (The last three are from what I have learned as a co-victim of homicide.)

It is normal to feel anger, hatred, and rage. It does not matter if you have always been against such feelings. You have suffered unbearable grief, the loss of a loved one to homicide. It takes time, love and support, and a justice system that is truly just. It is not up to anyone else to say when it is time.

Only you will know and we are here for you. Some of the greatest people I know are co-victims of homicide and the others are people who are there for us in any way possible.

In addition, I would like to add that there are people who can forgive and that does not mean they have suffered any less or they did not love their loved one as much. We all have our own beliefs and ways we can cope. Hopefully, this article will let you know that it is your choice.

All my love, Mary Elledge

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Important Notice Concerning This NewsletterEach month a number of newsletters are returned due to delivery problems. In addition to the initial postage, return postage is charged by the Postal Service. To minimize this expense, please contact Gayle Moffitt at moffittgk@comcast.net or 503-761-1304 if your address changes or you no longer wish to receive this publication. If you email, please indicate in the subject box

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Chapter Leader/Newsletter EditorMary Elledge (503) 656-803914427 S. Forsythe Rd.Oregon City, OR 97045Fax: (503) 974-9822*Deadline for newsletter is the 1st of each month.

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Mailing AddressesGayle Moffitt9701 SE Johnson Creek Blvd. Apt. O-102Happy Valley, OR 97086(503)761-1304Email: moffittgk@comcast.net

Portland POMC Websitepomc.com/portlandPOMC National Headquarters4960 Ridge Ave. Suite 2Cincinnati, OH 45209Toll Free (888) 818-POMC

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Portland Area District Attorney’s Office Phone Numbers:

Multnomah County Washington County Clackamas County Yamhill County Marion County Columbia County Clark County, WA

*These DA’s offices contain their own Victims Assistance departments. You can contact both using these numbers.

(503) 988-3162(503) 846-8671(503) 655-8431(503) 434-7510(503) 588-5222(503) 397-0300(503) 397-2261