empath basics, 2011

By Sandra Martinez, MS

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Table of Contents

First words… ........................................................................................................................................ 6

Introduction ........................................................................................................................................ 9

When empathy is taken to the next level... .................................................................................... 9

Empaths and awareness ............................................................................................................... 10

Ignorance is a curse ................................................................................................................... 10

Traits of an empath ....................................................................................................................... 11

Permission to be different............................................................................................................. 12

The empathic instrument .................................................................................................................. 13

Models for Emotional Empathy .................................................................................................... 14

A Mechanical Model.................................................................................................................. 14

The Chakra Model ..................................................................................................................... 14

The Huna Model ........................................................................................................................ 16

Empaths and shielding ...................................................................................................................... 17

Empaths and crowds ..................................................................................................................... 17

Why Empaths and HSP need to shield .......................................................................................... 18

How Empaths can shield ............................................................................................................... 18

Bubbles and cloaks .................................................................................................................... 18

Crystals ...................................................................................................................................... 19

Aromas ...................................................................................................................................... 19

Empaths and Flushing ....................................................................................................................... 20

Empaths and distress... ................................................................................................................. 20

Recovering the balance ................................................................................................................. 21

Simple Flushing Techniques .......................................................................................................... 21

Light Meditation Flushing Techniques .......................................................................................... 22

The tree technique .................................................................................................................... 22

Root chakra flushing .................................................................................................................. 22

Whirlpool effect ........................................................................................................................ 23

Salt Lamps and Flushing ................................................................................................................ 23

Empaths and grounding .................................................................................................................... 25

Empaths and expectations ............................................................................................................ 25


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The power of grounding ................................................................................................................ 26

Grounding, Flushing and Myths .................................................................................................... 26

Grounding Techniques .................................................................................................................. 27

Spend time in Nature ................................................................................................................ 27

Yoga greeting technique ........................................................................................................... 28

Walk barefoot............................................................................................................................ 28

Grounding with Crystals ................................................................................................................ 28

Some Black and Gray Stones for Grounding ............................................................................. 29

Some Red Stones used for grounding ....................................................................................... 29

How to Ground with Crystals .................................................................................................... 29

Working with energy ......................................................................................................................... 30

How to balance energy ................................................................................................................. 30

The two energies ....................................................................................................................... 30

The chakra model ...................................................................................................................... 31

Cleaning the chakras ................................................................................................................. 31

Cleaning the chakra channel ..................................................................................................... 32

How to know if we are where we are supposed to be ............................................................. 32

Cutting the cords ........................................................................................................................... 33

My personal method to cut the cords ...................................................................................... 33

How do you know it is working? ............................................................................................... 34

Cutting thicker cords ................................................................................................................. 34

What can you expect after cutting the cords? .......................................................................... 35

Dealing with parasites ................................................................................................................... 35

What is a psy-vamp? ................................................................................................................. 35

Getting rid of unwilling vamps .................................................................................................. 36

Getting rid of willing vamps ...................................................................................................... 36

Staying away from trouble ........................................................................................................ 37

Filling the contradiction gap ...................................................................................................... 37

Final Words: The Empathic Epidemics .............................................................................................. 39

Appendix 1:Joining an Empath Community ...................................................................................... 40

I know I´m an empath... now what? ............................................................................................. 40

The three main empath communities ........................................................................................... 40


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When empaths gather... ............................................................................................................... 41

Goodies and problems you might find ...................................................................................... 41

Communities´ personalities .......................................................................................................... 42

Appendix 2: Empath Resources ......................................................................................................... 45

Squidoo Lenses about Empaths .................................................................................................... 45

Empaths links ................................................................................................................................ 45

Some readings ............................................................................................................................... 46

About ................................................................................................................................................. 48


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First words…

If you are reading this, it is probably because you know or you think you are an empath. And if you

know or you think you are an empath, you might have gone through some emotional turmoil in

your life. And one day, you had that aha moment and realized that some emotions were foreign.

There is a fancy name for an empath´s skills: clairsentience. It is a clair ability, and many people

who have one, have more than one…

So without having the slightest idea of who you are, I can tell you that there have been some very

rough days where you felt completely overwhelmed for no reason whatsoever, you had a

childhood where you didn´t fit in, you have been used or abused at some point, and maybe you’ve

had some weird illnesses becoming one of those cases that leave the doctors scratching their

heads…

But it does get better. For example, maybe you also understand animals, have precognitions, feel

presences here and there (or see them), or intuitively know the answers for questions. …

Ah those days... confusion, pain, feeling overwhelmed and out of control. Do you want to hear the

news? You are not doomed; you CAN be a happy empath.

Empathy is a gift, and a wonderful one indeed. It is the ability to feel with the other, but not only

with those suffering. We feel the good emotions, too. This makes our internal life richer and

deeper. We have the first seat in the theater of life and we are able to understand at a much

deeper level what is going on, or at least have the ability to do so.

You can be a happy empath, but does take some work. What does it take? Knowledge and

practice, there is no way around it. We are born with a built-in tool that is a power tool plugged in,

working by itself. If we don´t learn to use it, we can hurt others, we can hurt ourselves, we can be

messed up big time. If we do take the time to learn to use it, we can have a normal life, and use

this tool whenever we want (instead of being used by it). And yes, we can choose to lock the tool

in a socket when we don´t need it. It even comes with a dial so we can put the volume down. It

will be working nonetheless, but it will whisper instead of yelling.

What do we have to learn? Where? These are the questions I´m trying to answer in this ebook. I

am giving you a set of tools to deal with everyday life. Is this all there is? Not at all. But you can´t

chew an elephant all at once.

In my previous life- that is before motherhood- I used to be a researcher and teacher at the

university. One of the subjects I taught was Calculus. I was teaching it for the toughest careers -

like Mathematics, Physics, Astronomy, Geophysics– so it was the toughest version you can imagine

(actually the toughest we were able to create). The way I found to help the kids to actually get

through it was to teach it thinking as if it were an onion. Each layer covers the whole, but at a

different level of awareness.


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The process in each layer is:

What -> Why -> How

This ebook deals with the first layer, the most pressing issues. In practical terms you are going to

find:

Introduction: the tool. What you could do with it, basic maintenance instructions (a “don´t put the

tv inside the bathtub” sort of thing).

The empathic instrument: how it works. Three different models.

Think about models as a “let´s pretend game.” You don´t need to believe or not believe to follow

the game. Do the same here. Each model is a different game with a different set of rules, and

different consequences. By playing pretend, you will start to perceive emotional reactions and

your own awareness waking up, your own truths (for this layer) coming to you. That is the

practical purpose of the information I present here: to help you know who you really are, to get to

see your own truths. That exercise will let you access the “empathic muscle” so to speak and start

working out.

Back to the ebook organization:

Everything can be reduced to energy movement (another model). That is the scope. When dealing

with the external world, there are seven very basic actions we need to master. And those are

covered in the ebook one by one:

Shielding: strengthening your aura. A strong aura can break apart undesirable external energies,

before they get to your perception areas.

Flushing: moving energy along the chakras from Sky toward Earth. Here you put your own names,

depending on your main spiritual beliefs. It is a yin->yang movement.

Grounding: moving energy along the chakras from Earth toward Sky. It is a yang -> yin movement.

Balancing: attaining the best possible energy state for your situation.

Cleaning the chakras: to move energy through the meridians, they need to be clean. The chakras

are the main pumps along the way; make friends with the concept and keep them clean.

Cutting cords: cords are created every time we emotionally interact with someone. They can

become draining points.

Stopping psy-vamp attacks: people have the bad habit of stealing energy from others, instead of

creating their own or gathering it from the environment. And we are usually easy targets.


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This ebook is born out of collective knowledge, time and effort of an outstanding group of people,

the members of Empath Zone community. This is not a single person´s act. I am just the librarian,

as I´m just the gatekeeper of the community. Thanks to all.


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Introduction

When empathy is taken to the next level...

Picture this...Sally wakes up dizzy, her head is

too light and she doesn´t feel quite herself. Her

stomach feels bad too.

“Not this morning”, she thinks. She has an

appointment with a new client and wants to be

at her best. The client seems like a nice person.

She tries to eat something, but everything smells

weird this morning. Finally, she settles for some

fruit and goes to work.

While she drives to work, things get better when she crosses her favorite wooden area. It is a

beautiful morning; she can see the trees and some birds and squirrels playing around. The sun is

already up and the feeling of the place is just wonderful. Her window is closed, but she could

swear she knows how the place sounds and smells too.

She arrives at work, grabs some coffee, and gets ready to start the day.

At about 10, the new client arrives. She is a lady in her early thirties with fine completion. Sally

sees her arriving and has an aha moment... so that was it! The lady has the "pregnancy halo". Sally

can´t explain very well how it works, but she can always tell when someone is pregnant. She just

feels it.

Sally calls her secretary: “Please bring some coffee for me and some chamomile tea for the lady,

she is expecting...” The lady´s eyes open wide...


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Empaths and awareness

Ignorance is a curse Life is full of choices, and we are all the time looking

for reasons and patterns to explain what happens

around us. We just can´t help it - it is part of human

nature.

See Sally´s case for example... she woke up with

pregnancy symptoms. She purposely decided to go

on with her life and go to work that morning. She

purposely drove through a place that uplifts her and

"cleans her aura". She could have called in sick. She

could have made an appointment with a doctor.

She could have taken over the counter medication.

She could have rushed to the pharmacy and buy a

pregnancy test, as she was clearly having all the

pregnancy symptoms. But Sally was not pregnant, she is a physical empath.

She could have interpreted the situation in many different ways, as the situation actually had

many possible causes.

What made her take the decisions that leaded to the best outcome? Self knowledge and

awareness.

Awareness is so important for an empath that there is a before and after - a qualitative change in a person´s life - when that person realizes that some feelings or physical states are foreign.

For some it is a hard bone to chew, while some take it easier.

Physical empaths are among the empaths that have it harder, as they suffer all kind of ghost pains

and aches. But once acknowledge hits, the physical pain is unattached from the emotional pain it

usually brings. At that point is when the curse becomes a blessing.


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Traits of an empath

The most common definition of an empath is

someone who can feel with the other. That is,

an empath feels the physical or emotional state of other person as if it were his or her own.

This is only the tip of the iceberg though.

Empaths have their neuro-system in tune with

incoming waves of any type so to speak. And

there are as many types of empaths as

empaths themselves.

So, some can feel emotions, but others can feel animals, and yet others can feel atmospheric

disturbances. Some will process them as emotions, others as physical disturbances. Some will

acknowledge the source, some can´t. Some can feel remnant emotions in places (for example

where battles took place), some can feel electromagnetic waves.

Some can tell the emotional state of the writer when reading a text. Some transport themselves so

easily when they see images, tv, or movies that they just can´t see thrillers, terror movies... or the

6 o clock news.

And to make things even more interesting, the traits are not set in stone. They change and evolve

depending of the emotional state of the empath and the life he or she chooses.


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Permission to be different

Blue eyes can be beautiful, but they don´t tolerate the tropical sun too well. Dark skin can be

under the sun without getting burned, but the cold... that is a different story. A poet in an artists´

family is very welcome; a poet in the war is dangerous.

Each special trait has a particular environment where it flourishes and other environments where

it suffers. Empathy is no different.

An empath is blessed with the ability to feel with the other. A trait like this can make a difference

in many cases, but empaths need protection from emotional overload or it can destroy them.

Needless to say, a poisoned and super-populated planet is a challenge for empathic people, and

this is probably one of the reasons why so many are waking up.

After the wake up call, it is the empath´s job to take care of his or her health. An overloaded

empath is of no use. Sometimes this simple fact becomes a challenge, but the challenge has to be

taken and embraced nonetheless.

As people with blue eyes need sunglasses even in winter, empaths need emotionally uncluttered moments on a daily basis. Yes, I´m talking about being alone.

This is something that kids and hubbies don´t take happily, so be it.


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The empathic instrument

Everyone (or almost everyone) has a certain

degree of empathy - the ability to feel with

the other. Empathy is the target of

advertising and art. In the theatre or a

movie, the viewer feels to certain extent

what the characters feel. That identification

is empathy. In advertising they trigger the

identification to an ideal situation, and force

a connection with the product.

So what is an emotional empath? Let’s say it

is someone who has the "empathic

instrument" a couple of notches better tuned.

Where do we draw the line? That is a tough question and brings much debate among sensitives.

Draw the line in the awareness. Sometimes quantitative changes induce qualitative changes. So

that better tuning of the empathy instrument will have consequences. When empathy is strong

enough to make itself apparent repeatedly (usually crossing the pain threshold), we come to

realize that some of those feeling are foreign.

Before that moment of awareness, the sensitive person will be in a very messy situation, like a leaf

in the wind floating around and moved by other people´s wants and desires. In that second of

awareness is when we start recovering the power.

In this chapter we are going to explore different models that explain emotional empathy from

different perspectives.

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Models for Emotional Empathy

A Mechanical Model Let’s assume that the body can work as a tuning

fork. In fact it does. If you´ve ever gone to see live

music, you know that it is more than the ears at

play. We feel it with the whole body.

If we feel the vibrations around us at a physical

level, and all those "waves" travel around the body

and get together "somewhere" (the “assembly

point”1 for example), then the initial signal is

reconstructed. Now suppose you are in front of a

person that is highly upset for any reason. Unsettling emotions drain us because we emit tons of

energy to release them. Those emotions travel in electromagnetic wave form and arrive to your

body in different places. They travel in your body electromagnetic field and get together

somewhere – for some is around the heart chakra and for others the third chakra (the “gut”). At

the moment of getting together, you reconstruct the wave and feel exactly or almost exactly what

the emitter felt.

Imagine it as a membrane similar to the tympanum; an empath would be the emotional

equivalent of someone with absolute ear. On the other hand, "normal" people have high

boundaries. They have natural shields created by their own thoughts and emotions. So the

external signals get "absorbed" and changed by the person's fields. This way, the amplitude of the

signal has to be very strong, or the environment needs to be setup in a way to lower the

boundaries (turn off the lights in the theatre and require silence for example) to trigger empathy.

The Chakra Model The Chakra model has been around for a couple of thousands of years. The image you see here

corresponds to the Indian model of seven chakras. Chakras are the energetic pumps that move the

energy flow around the body and work as broadcasting centers with the environment. They can be

closed, open or awake. And you have specific colors and sounds associated with them.

Each chakra has a function where the open/close switch is connected with your relationships. Each

chakra also has another function when it is awaken - this is where the clair abilities and other

fancy stuff come from.

1 The assembly point is on the chest, pretty much over the heart chakra, it is the point where all the electromagnetic currents of the body converge.


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El Collie was a very special lady who was subject

of a spontaneous Kundalini process. A Kundalini

awakening happens when the chakras undergo

awakening - not the most common of processes,

but it is getting more common now.

She says that Clairsentience (the sound name for

what empaths do) comes with the awakening of

the third chakra. Have a close look at what she

says, it might ring a bell:

"The awakened Chakras are more complex. An

awakened 3rd chakra produces clairsentience -- the ability to feel within oneself the physical and

emotional state of others. This is a "no-boundary" condition in which one becomes like a psychic

sponge, taking on every sensation and emotion in the vicinity. If the heart or upper Chakras are not

also awakened, this can present great difficulties. Without awareness that these physical and

emotional feelings are not all our own, we can

become overwhelmed, confused and panicky.

An awakened 3rd chakra also makes one

extremely sensitive to any manipulative,

dishonest or malevolent intent from others. The

awakened individual will feel queasiness,

stomach pains, nausea or may even vomit in the

presence of such people. These stomach

disturbances -- which can include tightness or

pressure in the solar plexus region -- are an

instant barometer which allows the awakened

3rd chakra person to know when she is being

deceived or imposed upon.

Sometimes these 3rd chakra disturbances are a reaction to collective atmospheric energy rather

than to a specific individual. I have felt nausea and tension in my solar plexus during periods of

strong public controversy, i.e., the week preceding the California execution of Robert Anton Harris

and the weeks leading up to the U.S. presidential election. A person with an awakened 3rd chakra

simply cannot afford to tolerate abuses of power. The instant and often severe visceral reaction

mandates resolution of conflict. Likewise, when one's own 3rd chakra is fully open, ruthless

competition is no longer a viable avenue for establishing one's own uniqueness. It becomes too

painful to lie, cheat or dominate others. A person with an active 3rd chakra can be the worst kind

of power-monger, but a person with an awakened 3rd chakra is forced to learn to use his will only

in the healthiest and most life-affirming ways. (Failure to recognize this lesson brings much

suffering to the individual in terms of chronic, serious physical and emotional disturbance.) "


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The Huna Model

Hawaii is very well known for its paradisiacal beaches and waterfalls, the hula dance, and the

coconut drinks. But Hawaii is also the home of an ancient culture with traces going further back

than the Egyptian era.

The Huna culture is not completely known. However, Max Freedom Long provides light over it in

his book “The secret science behind miracles;” thanks to his research we have access to this

culture that wisely mixes practical spirituality and psychology.

How does this connect with the building of an empath?

The Huna culture believes the soul is created of three parts: the high self (the drop of God in us),

the middle self (what we think as we), the low self (similar to the subconscious, takes care of

automatic behavior and holds memories and structures, in other models it is called the inner child,

it is the part easier to hypnotize). It actually goes further and considers them different spirits - in

the sense that they work as a team but can be separated in special occasions.

The literal translation for the low self is "sticky." It is believed that it is made out of a substance

that can be imprinted in things. It is also believed to replicate all the organs and cells of the body

at an ethereal level. This spirit has the ability of creating cords as well. Cords are created and reach

out connecting the person with his/her environment. So information is retrieved and replicated in

the inner system.

Under this model, empaths have a very nosy low self that rambles around spreading cords and

getting feedback of the surrounding (I usually call it to let the antenna roam lose), and a mid self

developed enough to gain awareness of the meaning if the retrieved information.

This model actually explains in a very simple way all the clair abilities, which is more than modern

psychology has done so far. And it has been validated by hypnotists working at the deepest levels.


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Empaths and shielding

Empaths and crowds

Let´s think of a typical day at the mall. Some

people hurrying around, some just having a

good time, some bored employees, and some

worried business owners. Some guilty because

they bought something they can´t afford, some

upset because they want to buy something they

can´t afford. Some feeling really good about

themselves and their new acquisitions... some

anxious about what that special person will

think of the present.

And there goes Mary to do some shopping.

Mary is wise and kind, she has those deep eyes

that can read your soul; she has a bit of a

healing aura, it feels good to be around her. She is the kind of person you feel compelled to share

your secrets with, even being total strangers. You can see how kids and animals gravitate toward

her.

But Mary has a little problem. When she enters the mall, her heart pounds and her emotions

swing wildly. You could say she is having a panic attack. It doesn´t really make sense and she

doesn´t understand why, but big crowds are an issue for her.

Do you want to know what is going on? Mary is an empath and she is not shielding. Shielding is a

process used to create a protective energetic skin in empaths and HSP (Highly Sensitive People).

This allows them to move normally in highly emotional places without feeling overwhelmed.

In this chapter I´m going to explore some of the methods and shortcuts used to shield. This is

knowledge developed by the contribution of many members of the Empath Zone Community.

Here's my favorite link:

Shielding talk at Empath Zone Community


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Why Empaths and HSP need to shield

Highly Sensitive People are highly sensitive for a reason

Of course none of this is set in stone, so take my words for what they are: an opinion. Or better

said, the result of a debate and cross of opinions of several people who not only want to cope with

the gifts, but own them.

Before an empath trains the gifts, empathy works like a

passive sense - think hearing. You can´t avoid hearing

everything around you and loud noises can drive you

crazy. This is how empaths and HSP perceive the

emotional fields around them. And this explains Mary´s

panic attack in the mall. You can actually drive an empath

crazy by emotional overload.

After training, empathy can develop into a sense more

similar to sight. It is not completely passive, but active. At

this stage an empath can actually identify the source of the emotion, choose to put the antenna

inward and not be bothered (unless the emotions run too high), and do all kind of neat tricks.

You can say that with shielding, you put a headset on to lower the noise. With training, you gain

control of the remote control to choose the radio station you want to hear.

How Empaths can shield

Most Shielding techniques include visualization

of some kind. Some say visualization

is just training wheels, but it is a good starting

point. Other methods include external help, like

crystals and essential oils.

Bubbles and cloaks

The most broadly used shield is the bubble. You


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picture a bubble surrounding you that repels unwanted energies. This is easier to say than do, as

to keep the image in the mind for long periods of time is daunting. But, for short periods of time it

is pretty easy to do and efficient.

Some go further and create a full featured cloak

under the bubble. They start with a golden skin,

and then add different layers with the different

colors of the rainbow. The big finale is a white light

bubble. This is a good shield for those interested in

leaving an impression in others. It is mostly used

by some professional psychics or speakers.

There are different cloaks: some use mirror cloaks,

invisibility cloaks, smoke cloaks; whatever you can

imagine works.

Most empaths are crystal consciousness and able

to condense reality2; so this is more than a silly game, it does affect reality – it will not affect the

way people see us, but the way what they perceive us at an emotional level. And as a

consequence, it will affect our relationships further than it was intended.

Just make sure you understand or have your awareness very high when experimenting with

shields and cloaks. People might get a wrong impression about you and act consequently.

Crystals

Some crystals, like zirconite, have a shielding effect. It is not very strong, but it helps. A zirconite

pendant can be used as an extra layer of protection.

Aromas

The sense of smell can be a good shielding helper. Essential oils can be carried around in oil

pendants and smell every time we feel overwhelmed. Blends that contain minty elements will help

with dizziness, and blends with bergamot have an uplifting effect.

2 Reality condensation has been widely explained by Abraham-Hicks as the Law of attraction in its simpler form, for empaths it can have some interesting side effects

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Empaths and Flushing

Empaths and distress...

Picture this... it is 3 am and the phone rings. Paula

wakes up and sees who´s calling. The name in the

phone is Sharon; she answers.

Her best friend, Sharon, is having a very hard time

with her hubby. A call at 3 AM means something

bad happened. Sharon and her husband had a

horrible fight and she asked him to leave, which he

did. Now, four hours later he hasn´t come back.

Sharon is very upset, anxious and worried about

him.

Sharon dedicates the next hour and a half to tell Paula about all the issues with her hubby (again),

plus her fears, reasons why he should not return, reasons why he should be home by now, what

she plans to do when he comes back, and what she is going to do if he doesn´t.

The monologue ends as abruptly as it started when he actually gets home. “He is here, I have to

go, bye.”

Paula looks at her clock, it is 4:30 am, and now she is feeling noxious. She did more than just

lending an ear. She absorbed a lot of the energy her friend was releasing and now all that distress

is in her system roaming around and causing damage.

This can happen to anyone, but empaths seem to attract relationships where they are something

like walking emotional dumpsters and Paula is no exception.

The question is: what to do next? How can she release all that energy that is clogging her system?

The answer is flushing.


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Recovering the balance

What Paula needs to do now is to take that energy

out of her system - fast. There are two ways to solve

the problem: flushing and grounding. But grounding

implies a different type of action, so let´s stick to

flushing and talk about grounding later.

Flushing is to take energy out from the body and

send it out into the material world. In particular, you

can send the energy deep into the Earth. During the

flushing process you lose energy and can be drained.

To solve this you replenish the energy by closing the

circuit bringing in white light energy from spirit.

After the flushing is done, we need to ground to recover the balance. Flushing and grounding work

as movement and counter movement in yoga.

I can´t stress enough how important this is:

balance is not an accident, it is a conscious act.

An empath will never be at peace unless the

search for balance becomes a priority.

There are many methods to flush and ground. Some very simple, some more complex and some

use helping elements like crystals or essences.

In this chapter I´m going to give some of the techniques, you can read the general discussion in

the Empath Zone Community.

Simple Flushing Techniques

-Have a bath

-Put your wrists under water

-Walk barefoot

-Hug a tree

-Hold a salt lamp


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Light Meditation Flushing Techniques

The tree technique Imagine you are a tree and from your feet,

roots dive deep into the ground. Now picture

your energetic body (aura) with your third

eye (it doesn't matter if you don't really see a

thing because the fifth chakra is closed, just

picture it). Imagine or look for grey or muddy

areas -which represent the unwanted energy.

Now use intent to push that energy down

your body toward your feet. Keep pushing

through the roots until the energy gets lost

deep in the ground.

Now you can use the same exercise to

replenish yourself: dress yourself up with

strong branches full of leaves. Feel the sun

over the leaves and feel how that energy

flows through your body invigorating you.

Root chakra flushing

The root chakra is the first one, located in the base of the spine. It is the lowest one and it deals

with survival and group relationships. It is usually assigned the colour red.

Chakras are vortexes of energy, so we can channel from them. One of the channeling techniques is

via cords. To use the root chakra to flush, create a cord from the chakra and stick it in the ground.

Make it go as deep as you can.

Then picture again the dirty energy as a grey or muddy and use intent to push it down to the root

chakra and out of the body through the cord.

After you are done, release the cord.

The first time I did this, it felt as a slow moving mud river. Now that I do it regularly, it is like clear

water running fast - carrying some dirt here and there.


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Whirlpool effect This is probably the easiest method and most efficient, because you don´t need to have the chakra

canal clean to move energy and works faster in most cases.

Think about the centrifugation cycle in the dryer machine (or a tornado), that is what we are after.

Find a calm spot to center, this is light meditation, and once you get the grip of it you can do it,

even while talking with someone else.

Focus on the energy in your body and start circling it around you, if it is clockwise or

counterclockwise doesn´t matter. Find the way it works better for you each time as it might

change. You should see a circle looking down from the crown of your head.

Now find the foreign unwanted energy, picture it as balls of energy carried by the stream. See how

the centrifugal effect pushes them toward the external border and out of the stream.

Now picture a wall of energy just out of the whirpool without touching it, that captures the balls

and send them to the ground so the planet can recycle them.

This method is not only efficient, it is fun.

Salt Lamps and Flushing

Empaths feel other people’s emotions, because

the chemical processes induced by the actual

feeling take place. When exposed to negative

emotions, many of those processes induce the

liberation of free radicals. Free radicals are

positively charged ions that move around the

body combining with negatively charged ions and

stopping their natural functions.

When touching a salt crystal lamp, you feel how

the unwanted vibes seem to be flushed,

generating a sense of peace and wellbeing. From

the chemical standpoint, it is related with the

presence of negatively charged ions combining

with the free radicals and taking them out of our

electromagnetic system – this can be seen as grounding then.

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the ions that make it to the walls will take care of some of the stored emotions in them. So, salt

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Empaths and grounding

Empaths and expectations

Meet Peter and Paul, they are brothers

and they are both empaths. Paul is two

years older than Peter. Sons of an attorney

and a yoga teacher, they inherited the

empathic predisposition from their

mother.

Paul was the first born, and their father

"claimed" him. Paul was going to follow his

father´s footsteps. When Peter was born,

they were happy, but the father´s main

expectations were already on Paul so Peter

took over the responsibility to be the

messy one, and mama´s boy.

Their parents never actually talked with them about their expectations. But being both empaths,

and crystal children with the ability to condense reality, they actually grew to meet those

expectations.

Paul received straight A´s while Peter lived in detention. Paul hardly drank and Peter... well, his

weekends were blurry for a while...

Paul read all day long, studying and becoming informed; while Peter spent most of his days

outdoors playing with his dog, swimming in the lake or riding anything he could find.

When they finished high school, Paul went right to college, while Peter took a sabbatical year to

cross the country on his bike (and find out what he wanted to do with his life).

They met again after that year... Peter discovered his passions: he decided to become a ranger and

wild life photographer. While Paul discovered he was trapped in a life that was made out of left

over dreams.

What is the real difference between the two? Grounding.

Here's my favorite link:

Grounding techniques´ conversation at Empath Zone

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The power of grounding

At first glance, we can infer that the main

reason why Paul is so unhappy while Peter

found his true place is the difference in

expectations. But actually it is not. The

expectations over Peter could have led him to

gang life, drugs or who knows what. What

made Peter able to use the expectations on his

advantage while Paul fell completely in the trap

was Peter´s love for the outdoors, and his dog

(animal empath, maybe?).

To spend so much time outdoors gave Peter regular time away from emotional contamination and

natural grounding, while toning his body so he could hold bigger amounts of energy. Another side

effect, that is actually very important, is that he had the opportunity to hang out with himself.

That is what made the difference. If the boys had grown up in an apartment building, with no

green around, Peter might have ended up in very bad shape.

Grounding, Flushing and Myths

Grounding and flushing use similar

techniques. The main difference between

them is the direction of the flow. This is

something that took me some time to figure

out, and I actually had it all wrong for a long

time.

Still, you will find that many people make the

same mistake. They use flushing and

grounding as the same thing - that is to flush

energy toward the material world. While at

the same time you will find the term

“grounded” related with the process of being

in contact with Earth as a reservoir which

implies flow in both directions.

This confusion arises because “grounding” neutralizes some of the unwanted energies in our

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I wouldn´t bother about the direction of the flow if it didn´t have very clear consequences. The act

of grounding brings in healthy material frequencies into our systems. They are low vibrational

frequencies and affect the health of the lower two chakras. To dismiss the importance of the

lower chakras´ health and these frequencies could result in lack of wealth, lack of physical health,

abusive relationships, lack of survival instinct and/or untidiness (whether this is to ourselves, our

home or our planet).

Another common misconception is to make a connection between low frequencies and distressing

patterns. There is not such connection: distress comes from frequencies out of sync. We are a big

wave package and contain a continuum of frequencies. The lower frequencies represent the

material world (chakra 1) while the higher frequencies represent the spiritual world (chakra 7). We

need both of them as we are the result of the union of both realms. To be happy and healthy we

need to have our lower frequencies synchronized with Earth, and the higher frequencies

synchronized with Source.

Grounding Techniques

Spend time in Nature This is the simpler and better of all techniques. Find a favorite spot where you can be in awe of the

beauty of nature. Preferably not full of manmade nature mutilations. The more authentic the

location, the better it will be.

Relax, clear your mind and let the feeling of "awe" guide you. That is the signal showing you the

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Yoga greeting technique If you put your intent into moving energy around and bringing grounding energy to your body, the

yoga greeting pose (the more basic of them all) will do the trick. I do change it a bit when

grounding is the intent and start it as low as I can (joining the tips of my fingers at belly button

height). The palms are facing down when they finish the circuit in a round movement along the

sides.

Walk barefoot In the grass or concrete/tile floor, just take your shoes off and feel the ground. If you walk

barefoot, the Second law of Thermodynamics3 will come to the rescue and you will be flushing and

grounding naturally depending on your body´s needs (almost without any active action from your

part). Carpet or vinyl will not be good in this case. As for wood... well, it will do something, but not

as much as concrete or grass. Plus, the closest you are from Earth the better. Watch out for

buildings, grounding on floor 25 is not very efficient.

If you want to setup a scale of effectiveness from most effective to least effective:

grass (bare nature, dirt, the real thing) – concrete/tile - wood - carpet/vinyl

Grounding with Crystals

The base chakra is identified with the color red.

While the second chakra is associated with the

color orange. To ground these chakras to Earth

think of red, brown and dark colors like black

and grey. Most people I talked with find the

pure black stones too strong and distressing to

be in contact with for long periods of time.

3 The Second Law of Thermodynamics says that if you put two bodies in thermodynamic contact they will evolve until having the same resulting values for the variables allowed to evolve. It was designed for temperature as measure, but it applies to any other type of energy besides heat. Being the Earth an energy reservoir, to enter in contact with her moves our ground frequencies´ energy to her values.


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Some Black and Gray Stones for Grounding Black obsidian - This stone increases awareness of personal illusions, so we can push past those

illusions and be more grounded in reality.

Hematite - This stone is an iron ore that often comes as a metallic gray but can also be black and

red. It acts over emotional grounding, balancing opposing energies. It helps in focusing the mind

and bringing peace to deal with emotional situations.

Onyx - Onyx provides strength in times of turmoil. Use it to stand your ground when principles are

being threatened.

Smoky quartz - This crystal aids in grounding without losing the ability to see past physical survival

issues to more spiritual concerns.

Black Kyanite – This crystal is a favorite of healers and see-ers, as works for grounding but it also

resonates with higher frequencies. It can also be used for aura repairing and chakra attunement.

Some Red Stones used for grounding Bloodstone - Also called heliotrope, bloodstone is a form of quartz that is dark green with red

flecks. It's used for purification of the self and surroundings.

Garnet - This stone ranges in color, but red is the most popular. It has a stabilizing effect by

breaking through chaotic thoughts, behavior and surroundings.

Red jasper - Besides being a good stone for protection, red jasper provides a sense of calm and

gentle grounding. It also helps in completion of projects.

Ruby - Ruby crystals are used to release blocked energy, clean clogged chakras and for protection

against psychic attack.

How to Ground with Crystals To ground with crystals, just have them around you, use them as jewelry, carry them on your

pocket or apply them over the skin when meditating. Be careful of keeping crystals around you

while you are sleeping. Sometimes they have way too interesting effects.

Crystals are like a little piece of Earth we can carry around. But being small in size they can

contaminate with our energies (or the energies of those around us). Leave them outside under the

full moon, the sun, wash them or use the method you feel is best to clean them up regularly.


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Working with energy

It is very common for non trained empaths to go through life in a very sad energetic state.

We get all the yucky emotions from everyone else. Our own emotions go to the roof and we

release too much of our energy processing it or releasing it ecologically. Yes, empaths – except for

those who go very wrong – are usually very ecological with others emotions.

And it gets even better. When we manage to be balanced, we shine bright and attract emotional

parasites. How fun is that? :D

To deal with all this, we need to learn some energy kung fu techniques: how to balance energy,

how to cut the cords, and how to deal with energy parasites.

How to balance energy

We are spiritual beings having a physical experience. This implies a balancing act, at times difficult

to keep. I´m going to introduce a model here, you don´t need to believe it, just play pretend and

see if the results work for you.

The two energies Let´s suppose you have a droplet of the spiritual source inside of you – let´s name it the highest

self. Call the spiritual source God, if you want, or whatever you prefer. And let´s suppose you have

a physical body made out of material that comes from the planet (not much to argue about it,

hum?). That physical body - while alive - has an energy field (you feel the heat coming out of your

skin? That is part of the emitted radiation). Now, let´s suppose the planet is alive - emotions,

spiritual self, energy field, the works. And let´s suppose that our physical energy field originates

from our low self – which is a drop of the planet energy field. As crazy as this might sound for

some, our brain has the same main frequency of the Earth (Schumann Resonance).

To be balanced, we need to make sure of keeping our crown chakra (the 7th one) vibrating in

phase with source energy and our base chakra (the first one), vibrating in phase with Earth. And

the whole energy conductor along the chakras, clean. This concept is not new, it has been stated

by Chinese medicine since the longest time, using yin/yang. But I am actually taking it a step

further.

To replenish ourselves, we use a combination of what I introduced as the complete cycle for

flushing and grounding. We flush the unwanted energy out and we complete the cycle by

introducing energy from our crown. And as a counter movement we ground bringing in energy


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from Earth and complete the circuit emitting energy from our crown. It doesn´t need to be in this

order. For example if you ground first, much of the unwanted energy will dissolve and you don´t

need to flush it. You still need to do the counter movement.

The chakra model In the most basic level, the energy field resembles the physical body side by side, to the last organ.

This mirroring effect is used for healing when you don´t want to pump too much energy to the

body itself.

On a more ethereal level, we have the

chakras´ system. The chakras are the main

energetic pumps in the body. Think about the

energetic system as resembling the blood

circulation system, but the resemblance is just

to have an image.

As with everything else, lately the chakra

model has evolved to accommodate different

ideas and facts. And by now you have systems

with a couple of dozens of chakras over the

crown chakra. Also some people add another

one between the years to explain clairaudio.

But for the sake of simplicity, I will keep the old 7 main chakras´ system, which works nicely for

what we are trying to accomplish. Besides the main seven chakras, this system talks about smaller

chakras all around the body in key junctures. And we also have fast lines connecting different

points of the body; this is what acupuncture and EFT techniques take advantage of.

Each chakra has a double function as pump and as connection to the environment. So those are

points where we have energy clogging, and from where we receive or release energy toward the

outside world. Besides the clogging, some chakras could be closed and cutting the flow. The

open/close state of our chakras is related with our personality, our moment in life and our

spiritual journey.

This ebook only deals with coping and understanding. So I will not give in depth information about

the meaning of chakras from the spiritual path perspective.

Cleaning the chakras To clean the chakras we use imagery over a light meditative state. You are going to notice that this

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I don´t personally do a big deal to get into that state. I just look for a comfortable place with no

interruptions, close my eyes and pretty much I´m there (a great moment is in bed before sleeping

or just after waking up). Other people use chanting, music, instruments like singing bowls, dancing,

etc. How do you know when you get there? Well, you managed to cut out most of external

distractions and you are just with yourself. This is light meditation.

Once you are comfortable in your inner world, find your base chakra. It is in the base of the spine,

more or less bellow the genital level. Visualize it even if you don´t see, and put the red color to it.

Now, pay attention at what your “imagination” brings in response. Is it a bright red? A dull red?

Wine color? Moody red? Is it swirling or still? Do you see a cord coming in or out of it? What are

the emotions you feel arising when visualizing your root chakra? Is it loving? Confident? Do you

feel fear or a suck feeling? Does it bring any memories?

Find a source of white light (it will appear as soon as you think about it), and clean your chakra

with that light as if you were cleaning a glass bowl with water. Feel it as a sphere. Feel the light

cleaning and purifying it The light comes in and out and takes anything wrong with it on the way

out. If the chakra is “broken” or damaged in any way, feel how the health is recovered. After

cleaning it, fill it with this loving light until it is full and healthy. It should look like a bright red ball,

and you might see it swirling or pulsing. You will probably also have physical sensations and a

feeling of joy.

Repeat the procedure with all the other chakras going up one by one, using the respective colors.

Cleaning the chakra channel Visualize the chakra channel as a cord that connects all the chakras together. Most of the dirt and

clogging goes to the chakras, but the channel also needs to be cleaned from time to time.

Start by creating a cord from the base chakra to the Earth like we do for flushing. Actually the

flushing technique will work much more efficiently if our chakras and channel are clean. Find your

light source and start pumping energy to your second chakra, feel how the clean energy carries all

the dirt in the channel between first and second channel and release it deep into the Earth. Once

you are satisfied, repeat feeding energy to third chakra, and heart chakra. Release the cord.

Now create a cord from the crown chakra to the source.Send light to the third eye and release it

from the crown chakra. Repeat this until the you reach the heart chakra.

Finally, replenish with source and ground energies as we talked about in the two energies sections.

How to know if we are where we are supposed to be It is actually pretty simple to know. The central point is the Heart chakra. When the chakra channel

is working right and all chakras open, both energies get together in the heart chakra. At that


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instant we feel in love with life and everything in it. We feel that everything is connected. It is the

feeling of awe for everything there is. Sometimes it is a second, or it can be our everyday life. It is a

choice and a challenge.

Cutting the cords Every time we make emotional contact with

someone, we create a cord. Some people see it in

a different way, like a single thin cord connecting

two persons from the heart or the gut chakras...

But this is how I see it, or better said, feel it as I'm

not much of a see-er yet...

The cords have many uses. For example, they

allow us to just Know the emotional state of

someone by thinking about him/her.

Every time we share experiences with a person a

new cord is created that will reinforce the

connection.

Unfortunately, we know that people are more expansive when it comes to sharing bad emotions

than good ones. So many times we create cords and connections with people we could go

without. Or sometimes we create cords with people and there comes a time where a relationship

is no longer creating a space where two add to more than two, but it becomes less than one...

On those cases we might want to cut those cords, because they are exit points that drain our

energy. Every time we remember a certain person and a non happy emotion arises we are feeding

energy to that person (dirty energy, but energy nonetheless) and it is not good for anyone in the

equation.

My personal method to cut the cords I usually go for a walk. A park is a good place, the more natural the better... Just make

sure you are not going to meet anyone and have to cut the line of thought.

I clear my thoughts and centre my attention in the breathing, entering is a soft

meditation state. I take a memory that joins me to this person and say:

I thank you for this memory, because it brought me to where I am now. Now I release

you... follow your path, I'll follow mine.

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Please remember: thoughts have power.

Anything you think about will start walking its way toward

existence (whether you like it or not).

And imagine a thin silver cord that represents that connection. I run over it with my hand

and cut it clean. It is easy to cut, like a spider web.

I repeat it with all the memories I have that are painful about this person--letting

him/her go.

At the end I use a general statement on the form of:

Now, I release all those painful memories that I am not recalling, but that are still inside, I

thank you for your actions as they brought me to where I am today, but it is time to let

you go.

I am clean from you and your shadow. You will no longer affect me in any way in the

future. Be at peace.

At the same time, I ask your forgiveness for all the pain I might have caused you, I free

you from it. Be at peace.

May this moment be blessed and these actions be the best for the highest good of

everyone involved.

How do you know it is working? I feel it is working when I have that blessing feeling during the process. It is the signal of a process

that is actually working. Sometimes it might not work, especially if we have unfinished business

with this person and we know the pain will go on in the future. But we always can let go of part of

the emotional burden, and strengthen ourselves for what will come.

Cutting thicker cords It is funny how imagery works, as some cords refuse to

get cut, and you need to go heavy duty and use

scissors or even swords. Some people have asked for

angelic help to cut some particularly persistent cords.

Most cords are there by common agreement. But in

some cases the cords exist as a result of parasitic

relationships. In those cases the cords usually enter

from the back, not the front, they are darker (black most of the times) and yucky feeling.

Those cords are difficult to cut, but if you cut memory by memory, it is usually easier than trying to

cut the whole set at once. Sometimes I just change the imagery and make them evaporate, instead

of cutting. If you have any of those heavy duty cords attached, after cutting them you will need to

“wrap” your aura to avoid leaking.


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What can you expect after cutting the cords? Some feelings will disappear. You will note a change in the way you relate to the other person, and

the way the other person relates to you. It is a fresh start. If the relationship implies some type of

parasitism, you can expect the other person to try to reconnect the cord one way or another.

Dealing with parasites

Picture this. Helen just found out she was an empath and she is starting to walk her way in this

new world. She is wide open while she reads everything she can to understand her gifts and to

learn how to take advantage of them instead of suffering them.

She enters in a related group and starts reading. The feeling is a bit off, like distress going high. But

she is sympathetic to those who are worse than her and keeps going. There is a post from

someone asking for help. The post includes a lot of caps and exclamation marks, really attracting

attention. Actually the caps are as if someone were yelling in her heart chakra, but she feels she

has to help if she can, so she sucks it up and opens it.

What happens when she opens it and starts reading is like walking in the twilight zone… She starts

feeling dizzy and confused; her ability to think lowers; she feels numb. She reads but can´t make

much sense of it after a while and she feels very weak. After reading a couple of answers she can´t

do anything but look at the monitor with the eyes wide open and nothing else. After a while, her

energy reserves go so low that her alarm system sounds (yes, we have one): “something is going

on, get out of there!”

“I need fresh air”, she thinks. She goes to the bathroom, washes her face and her hands and feels

a bit better. She goes outside and as soon as she feels the wind in her hair and the sun in her face

she is herself again. What was that? That was a psy vamp attack.

Even the most unprepared empaths usually come with a natural system to cope with the

consequences of being drained (as it happens so often, sigh…), so it is not such a big deal.

On the other hand, if the attack is targeted and while sleeping, things can get more complicated.

So there are some measures to be taken before going to sleep to add a layer of protection.

What is a psy-vamp? I´m not going enter in detail about what a psy-vamp is because all descriptions give them power.

Let´s just say that psy-vamps are energy parasites:people who are unable to create their own

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way we treat all parasites: cut the parasitic relationship and make them understand they are

better somewhere else.

Let´s classify them in two groups: unwilling and willing parasites.

Unwilling parasites are those guys or ladies that are undergoing a very distressing moment (that

sometimes extend for all their lives) and use sympathy, fear or other emotions to drain those

around them. You have probably met more than one in your life. Empaths seem to attract them as

if we had a neon sign saying: free food, come and serve yourself…

Willing parasites are mostly empaths that went very wrong. They use their empathic abilities to

track, find and attack. They even use rituals and other type of jamba-bamba.

Getting rid of unwilling vamps The easiest way to rid yourself of unwilling psy-vamps is to cut the cords and cut communication.

If that is not possible, still cut the cords (again and again if they get re-attached), and shield when

in their presence. Parasites usually don´t have much patience; if the victim is not easy, they move

on. An even best form - but that takes some discipline - is to move yourself to a different main

frequency where they can´t enter in sync anymore to leach. In easy world language: you need to

learn to laugh about them, you and the whole relationship. This implies spiritual growth.

Getting rid of willing vamps The most difficult part of dealing with a psy-vamp attack is to identify it in time to do something

about it.

Once you identify the attack (it can be a headache, dizziness, inability to think clear, etc), the next

step is to find where you are leaking. The energy is getting out from one of the chakras, usually the

heart chakra.

At that point, enter into light meditation and cut the energy flow with your hands bringing the

energy in. Once you cut the flow, create a bubble shield or surround the attacker with an energy

bubble. If you have a guardian or you are part of a network, this is a good moment to ask for help

too.

You can use an extra boost by interlocking the fingers while creating the protection bubble. You do

it by touching together the tips of both thumbs and middle fingers to form two circles interlocked.

If you are new to the gifts or if you need it, add an affirmation: “Now I am fully protected and

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There is a more advanced method that creates real transformation and healing in them (more or

less permanent, not completely). But you need to have access to your spiritual heart or another

source of energy, as you need tons and tons of energy.

Staying away from trouble The easier way to deal with all parasites is to stay away from their reach. Empaths have the

instinctive compulsion to try to save the world single handed. This is part of the awakening of the

third chakra. We just can´t help it.

But even when a person clearly needs help, it doesn´t mean that you are the one to help him/her.

Don´t try to help anyone that is drowning until you learn to swim. It is just common sense.

Parasites usually show themselves as very needy people with endless problems that are always

someone else´s fault. Even those that do it purposely will use sympathy as one of the easiest entry

points. They knock on your heart, you open it, and they put the straw.

Other tool they use is to destroy your self-value. It is these people that make you feel like an ant in

front of them, and for some reason they seem to take as a natural part of existence that you will

comply with any request... and you buy it. Even if they never do anything in the physical world,

they are taking your energy.

Still another method is to break in with an energy “bullet” and make an opening in your aura. You

will feel physically attacked even if they don´t lay a finger on you, like an unbearable pressure.

After the attack, you feel completely drained. This is usually related with verbal violence. You think

that the problem is the words, but the words are just a vehicle for the energy that is breaking you

up. If you are in a relationship with someone and does this one time, it is time to say good bye or

accept that there will be more.

The last one I want to talk about here is stress. Have you ever felt your schedule, activities or life in

general is managed by someone else? Have you felt there is some weird sadistic game going on

that forces you to be always beyond your possibilities? It is because you are being put in a highly

emitting regime where you never recover to find out what exactly is wrong. Unfortunately, many

employers use this as rule.

These are different tools parasites use; you might find them using more than one tool to get to

you.

Filling the contradiction gap Most empaths have a very good “intention radar”, we can read emotions and know what is going

on. But we fall victims to parasites, repeatedly I might add.


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How is that possible? Well, one of the reasons is that these people have a real need. Some

parasites are so cut off from their humanity, that might even die if they don´t find a victim. Like

headlice… if they don´t drink your blood they die. Have you ever felt sympathy for the poor

crawlers and let them live in your head because of that?

Other parasites only need to experience the distress to learn new ways and become vegetarian,

learn to take energy from the environment, or even evolve spiritually and learn the methods we

taught here to balance ground and source energies.

The bottom line is that when we comply with the parasite’s needs and feed them our energy, we

are robbing from them the possibility of spiritual growth. If you want to really help them, pray for

healing but stay away from their reach.


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Final Words: The Empathic Epidemics

There is an undeniable awakening--empaths and psychics are crawling out of the shadows in all

corners of the World. We are not alone. Around 4% of the population is empathic, and those

numbers are growing fast as we head toward a global awakening and a new cycle of the wheel.

This fact is twofold. It is a natural process as we get exposed to the higher frequencies of the dark

rift, but it also entails a responsibility. If you are an Empath it is because you chose it that way

before arriving here. It is because you´ve got it in you: the ability and need to help others.

If you are still trying to “cope”, the only thing I can tell you is: get over it. Yeah, I know… doesn´t

sound too empathic. Believe me, it is. In this ebook you have all the practical techniques to cope

and protect yourself. Use them, practice them, own them.

Once you do, there is job to do. We need to raise the general energy around us. We do it by

praying, channeling or whatever you choose to name it; and by being in contact with other people

with the antenna in emitting mode (not receiving). It is our responsibility to take care of our own

energy levels - we can take energy from any place, it is among our gifts - and redistribute it for the

highest good, it is among our jobs.

Notice that this can and should be done, no matter your situation.

I know you had it hard, I KNOW. We all have, it is part of the path. It is part of the path you chose.

We needed all the teachings we received, each one of them. So learn, own them and move on.

Believe me when I tell you this: things get much more fun after you do.


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Appendix 1:Joining an Empath Community

I know I´m an empath... now what?

The natural next step after finding out you are an

empath is to connect. Empaths are usually lonely

wolves, not exactly by choice, but to avoid the

emotional overload.

There are three communities dedicated to empaths,

that I know of. I´m going to go over pros and

contraries of the three.

Please note: I own one. I will try to be as fair as

possible under the circumstances nonetheless.

There are also other types of communities that have

sections or groups for empaths. I also provide a list

of them, but can´t go further as I haven´t been around them yet.

The three main empath communities

Empath Zone Community It is the new kid on the block, but growing fast. The population is around 200 members. It gathers very spiritual people exploring empathy as a gift.

Elise Lebeau´s Community It is the biggest and the oldest Empath community. It´s population is over 4,000 members right now and growing. It dedicates mainly to people very new to the gifts and coping.


http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/


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Empath Chat Community It is the smallest of the three and the second one created. The population is around 175 members. It gathers a good mix of personalities, interesting conversations and support.

When empaths gather... Goodies and problems you might find

The goodies

You are in a place where you are normal

for a change.

If interested in learning, the growing

process skyrockets.

Real communication.

Emotional support.

The problems

Risk of emotional overload.

Those places attract some parasites, psy-vamps and unbalanced people.

http://empathchat.ning.com/


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Communities´ personalities

The three communities I mentioned have distinctive personalities and do their best to increase the

goodies and compensate for the problems in their own particular way. They are also careful with

monetization.

Empath Zone Community Personality It gathers people who walk the spiritual path. There are many developed empaths and light workers. The system is horizontal in the sense that there are no leaders--each person is assumed to have the potential to be the biggest authority in something--and the search of that uniqueness is encouraged. From the same perspective, philosophical, and religious plurality is accepted and respected (as long as they are under the light). Everyone adds their own gifts to help others in their personal development. Goodies They have starting documentation (Empath basics groups and this ebook). There are different groups actively developed for self awareness (Empath games, Meditation room, etc) The community is very active from the growing encouragement perspective. Problem solving Encourage people to enter the site in the right mindset (library or garden) Discourage advertising Discourage activities leading to vertical systems (leader/follower type of relationships) Encourage respect for plurality in terms of ideas and beliefs They have a strong set of moderators You will get into Trouble if You whine or vent too much, not looking for a solution (just to release stress). You are an emotional parasite of any type. You are using the community as platform for a business (advertising, whether it is spelled out or hidden). And of course... if you spam, get into fights too often or show a disruptive behavior. Monetization First Store for Empaths




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Elise Lebeau´s Community Personality The community has a maternal style. It targets mainly empaths who are new to the gifts (or its awareness) and still trying to cope with them. There are some developed empaths and very talented people, but growing is not encouraged from the structure. Goodies They have starting documentation (Empath survival program) and EFT videos. They provide emotional support for people in distress. Problem solving They discourage religious/spiritual talk in the main forum. They prohibit mentions of parasites, psy-vamps, and attacks in the main forum. They encourage people with strong opinions to leave. You will get into Trouble if You have a strong presence. You talk too much about your personal beliefs. You mention you have been attacked in the forum. And of course... if you spam, get into fights too often or show a disruptive behavior. Monetization Paid courses Intuitive consultation Gift shop

Empath Chat I asked Tammie, Empath Chat owner, for help. These are her words Personality Bold for an empath community. We are not as fluffy as most empath sites. We take a very realistic view of empathy, for day to day issues, to survival type skills. The only rule on the site is that you have no right to tell another what faith or path they should walk. Because of this we have a lovely blend of people that respect each other’s views. Goodies Information on nonconventional empath skills. Most use the site as a step up site, we have very few newbies. We help each other learn and grow, sharing and trading what we have learned. There is an online store available to everyone. Problem solving Because of the free thinking on the site, problems are almost tackled till a solution is found. There is nothing over looked. There are brilliant folks that are very helpful.




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Trouble? : lol Its hard to get into trouble, all we ask is for honesty. Unkindness is dealt with on an individual basis. Monetization Community marketplace.

Visit Us!


Empath Zone Store




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Appendix 2: Empath Resources

Squidoo Lenses about Empaths

Empaths and shielding

Lets think of a typical day at the mall. Some peop more...

The Joys and Pitfalls of Being an Empath

Can you feel what others around you are feeling? A more...

What is an empath?

Picture this...Sally wakes up dizzy, her head is t more...

Joining an Empath Community

The natural next step after finding out you are an more...

How To Thrive As An Empath

An intuitive empath, is a special individual who h more...

The Empath Next Door

The popular book 'The Sociopath Next Door' paints more...

Empaths and grounding

Picture this... it is 3 am and the phone rings. Pa more...

Online Resources for Empaths and Intuitives

We all have empathic abilities, but some of us hav more...

Emotional empaths

Everyone (or almost everyone) has a certain degree more...

Empaths links

Empath Zone - your empath friendly store

Empath Zone Store - Unique store for the empath ne more...

Empath Zone Community - A place where Empaths can be themselves :)

Join our Empath Community! Find a place of belongi more...

The complete empath toolkit

Ebook with 44 tricks to thrive as an empath.

Empathy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Elise Lebeau Empath Community

Join our supportive Empath community! Ask question more...

http://www.squidoo.com/shielding-techniques-for-empaths

http://www.squidoo.com/empath-and-hsp-lenses

http://www.squidoo.com/joys_pitfalls_Empath


http://www.squidoo.com/what-is-an-empath


http://www.squidoo.com/joining-an-empath-community


http://www.squidoo.com/empath-intuition-dr-michael-smith


http://www.squidoo.com/the-empath-next-door


http://www.squidoo.com/empaths-and-grounding


http://www.squidoo.com/empathonline


http://www.squidoo.com/emotional-empaths






http://empathzone.com/emtoolkit

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy




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What is an Empath? Tools and Resources for Empaths | EliseLebeau.com

Discover basic survival tools to manage your Empat more...

Empath Chat - A place to be yourself

Empaths have varied gifts, and here is a place to more...

empaths - About.com : Holistic Healing

Articles about empaths in About.

Hubs about empaths

Empaths in Hubpages: Collection of hubs about empa more...

Empath Group at Experience Project

"I am an empath" group in Experience Pro more...

The Book Of Storms | Empath 101

Rose Rosetree: Aura Reading, Empath Skills, Face Reading, Cut Cords of Attachment

A leader in the field of reading auras, Rose Roset more...

ADVICE COLUMNS: Psychic Advice by Psychic and Spiritual Healer

Some readings

Dancers Between Realms-Empath Energy, Beyond Empathy by Elisabeth Y.

Fitzhugh

The Empath. The word has found its way into our consciousness

accompanied by ideas of healing, sharing emotion and pain. Empaths are

sensitive, caring, responsive people who have at the core of their nature an

innate ability to receive energy, information and awareness from others

with a depth and intensity that is beyond our customary understanding of

empathy. Yet, this very receptivity and permeability brings its own

challenges. It is vital for empaths to recognize themselves as such and to

consciously explore, understand and address this energetic flow in their life.

The book explores in depth this receptivity, as well as tools, concepts and approaches to support

understanding and how to flourish with this heightened sensitivity. This book is a shared journey,

edited from years of workshops and sessions with Elisabeth Fitzhugh and the Orion group.

Becoming an Empath by Karla McLaren

Did you ever know that someone was upset, even when no one else seemed to notice? Or felt that a loved one far away was in trouble, only to learn that you were right? If so, teaches Karla McLaren, you have already demonstrated the gifts of an empath - a person who uses the skill of emotional intuition to understand and connect more deeply with others. On Becoming an Empath, Karla McLaren brings together her

http://www.eliselebeau.com/empaths




http://healing.about.com/lr/empaths/25137/1/

http://hubpages.com/search/include:hubs%20empath


http://www.experienceproject.com/groups/Am-An-Empath/31230


http://mysilentecho.com/dreamtongue1.htm

http://www.rose-rosetree.com/


http://www.askgrace.com/

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0047T7BDO?ie=UTF8&tag=golare-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B0047T7BDO


http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/159179322X?ie=UTF8&tag=golare-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=159179322X


http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/159179322X?ie=UTF8&tag=golare-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=159179322X


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thirty years of work with emotional intuition to offer this practical course for discovering and using one's empathic abilities more effectively. In four guided training sessions, listeners will learn how to create healthy emotional boundaries, navigate their own emotions more skillfully, and tune in to the feelings of those around them with unprecedented depth and clarity. "Empathic awareness," says McLaren, "is essential for psychotherapists, health care providers, teachers, and parents - or anyone else who must rely on this instinctual power of perception every day." With Becoming an Empath, listeners now have a way to master this vital inner skill.


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About

Hi, I´m Sandra. I´m supposed to give you a reason to believe that I have some authority to write this ebook. Well, I will leave that up to you. There are many things that came together to make this ebook happen.

For starters, I was born an empath and to make it even more fun, claircognicient. I am very lucky. Being a second generation empath made things easier. I have no issues with the gifts or the self esteem problems. For me, any new ability that unfolds deserves some good Champaign and a toast!

Claircognicience is a weird gift. You almost look normal, but the gift tends to make you annoying to others. This gift allows me to see past the emotions and have the correct answer without knowing where it came from or being able to explain my reasoning. Imagine being 5 years old and interrupting an adult conversation with the right answer. :-)

It does come in handy though. School is really easy from an academic perspective--and university, too… I had my Degree in Physics without buying one book (it was not that easy though). When I was finishing my PHD, my biological clock started ticking and I dreamt that I had a talk with my baby girl-to-be. The good news: if I had a child it would be her. The bad news: I would have to throw my life in the toilet to make it happen. That dream started my quest to find a man with the same face as my baby girl-to-be. It was not easy and I had to cross half the world to find him. There went my PHD… The translation of my title to the US system gave me a Master's Degree, which is where the MS comes from.

For 6 years, I lived the typical "married-from-the-second-chakra" empath life; not good.

After my divorce, I returned home with a burning desire to create my own life. One thing led to another and I discovered that there was a name for what I was: it was Empath.

Then things started to happen quickly. I searched for others like myself to connect to and asked for help when the Gulf oil spill was too much for my gifts to manage alone (go figure, I was channeling energy over there and trying to solve it all by myself :D). I succeeded in finding others like myself but I also found certain basic issues that we all shared. The community where I found other empaths puts the accent into coping and I am not good at coping… I want to OWN it.

More things led to other things and I ended up building a new community: Empath Zone. My focus was to take things to the next level. We work together to develop the gifts and walk the spiritual path. We help each other to become what each one planned to be before jumping into this life. There are no leaders or followers, just people becoming specialists.

And it is working; and it is happening. The information for this ebook was developed in less than six months, and there is much more. If I had to do it all by myself with clients for example, it would have taken me years. But here, we are many heads thinking together, and many hearts feeling together, so we arrive at conclusions and clean knowledge much faster.



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I hope you liked the ebook, I tried to present the basic tools to help you deal with the main side effects of empathy from the awareness perspective. There is much more info in the forum though; this is only an introduction. If you have ideas, corrections, subjects you would like to see included, or would like to join us, jump into the community and let your voice be heard.

Sandra

empath basics, 2011

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