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It promises to be a joyous 5772 for our entire communityas JFS will move into the new building, adjacent to our

existing Jessie Danz Building creating an actual

campus in the heart of Capitol Hill that will allow JFS to

better meet the needs of family, friends and neighbors,

today and well into the future.

This campus is the result of incredibly generous community

support of the JFS Family Matters Campaign in response

to the need for services that seems to grow every year,

every month, every day. You made this building possible

(as well as opening doors for enhanced and expanded

programs that are already serving community members

in need). The names of donors making gifts of $10,000

or more to the JFS Family Matters Campaign will be

inscribed on a permanent donor wall in the entrance of

the new building in heartfelt appreciation and recognition

of their commitment to communityour community.

After all, family mattersalways has, always will.

Jewish Family Service wishes youand yours a happy and healthy 5772.

www.jfsseattle.org (206) 461-3240A commitment to community since 1892.

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Have you ever been sitting at a Rosh

Hashanah or Yom Kippur service and

asked yoursel, Why am I eeling some-

what distant rom the wording o theseprayers? Or Why do I eel so distracted

here and the service is so lengthy?

You are not alone. As a psychothera-

pist and a Jewish author, Ive heard rom

thousands o diverse Jews (rom the very

religious to the not-very religious to the

extremely not religious) who told me they

elt bored or dgety at times during High

Holiday services in previous years.

Fortunately, there are some highly

eective ways to connect more deeply

with the proound themes and lie-chang-

ing insights that can be ound in the Rosh

Hashanah and Yom Kippur services o

nearly every congregation. Here are a ew

easy-to-utilize steps on how to make these

careully choreographed Days o Awe

more meaningul to you or a member o

your amily who eels bored or discon-

nected rom High Holiday gatherings:

Let the music move you. Te services

will come alive or you i you allow the

beautiul melodies, the talented voices,

and the intense sounds o the shoar to

take you to a place o proound waking

up. Rather than ocusing on what people

are wearing or whose kids are misbehav-

ing, or even whether the rabbis sermon

is perect, let yoursel be lied up by the

soulul melodies that connect each o uswith hundreds o years o passionate and

vulnerable Jews who have poured out

their eelings o longing, sadness, joy, and

gratitude at similar services during pleas-

ant years and tragic years. As you listen

closely to the music and the call o the

shoar, imagine yoursel surrounded by

many generations o ancestors asking you

lovingly, Nu, how are you? How is your

beautiul soul navigating this complicated

world that is so challenging?

Do some personal preparation. During

the days leading up to Rosh Hashanah, pick

a phrase or a theme rom the High Holiday

prayer book that makes you curious about

the mysteries o lie or helps your soul nd

its true purpose o doing some good in large

or small ways. Rather than getting bent out

o shape by some harsh phrase rom the

prayer book you dont like, choose instead

to ocus on phrases and themes that you

select consciously to inspire and motivate

you in the days and weeks surrounding the

High Holidays. For example, what is a vow

you made in the past year (to yoursel, to

a loved one, or to someone at work) and

that you now realize you havent ully kept?

What will it take or you to change that vow

and create something new that is much

more likely to be kept? Take charge o your breathing and your

ocus. Ive ound in my own lie and in

counseling many dierent types o Jewish

women and men that one o the best ways

to enjoy the High Holiday services and get

more insights rom them is i you notice

your breathing whenever possible during

the lengthy services. Silently say Hineni,

here I am, a powerul ocusing phrase

that you can utilize whenever you eel dis-

tracted, tense, or rustrated. I you remem-

ber to breathe smoothly and ully as you

open up your creative mind with these

words, you may be surprised at how you

start to become less stressed and more

centered, not only at High Holiday ser-

vices but throughout the rest o the year.

Let your heart speak your deepest truth.

At various points during the Rosh Hasha-

nah and Yom Kippur services, you will

be given the opportunity to say out loud

or to speak silently the truths, concerns,

and aspirations you carry in your heart.

In addition, you are being encouraged to

speak these truths to the mysterious Source

o Lie that is beyond human comprehen-

sion. Yet we eel especially close to th

mysterious One at these holiday gathe

ings. Whether you are a strong believer

a loving Presence or you wrestle with mandoubts, these Rosh Hashanah and Yo

Kippur services ask you to dig deeply in

your own heart and admit honestly, T

is where I have missed the mark, Tis

what I notice and appreciate about the gi

in my lie, and Tis is what I am longin

to improve in the coming year. You w

probably nd that having the chance

slow down and connect with the still, sma

voice within as you express these prooun

truths is time well spent.

Look or opportunities or prog

ress, not perection. One o the beaut

ul things about Jewish holidays such

Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur is th

in Judaism we always have the chance

wake up anew, to ask or guidance, and

improve how we deal with our toughe

personal, amily, and work-related cha

lenges. But we are not being asked to b

perect, nor are we condemned or bein

human and having our struggles. As yo

sit in the Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kipp

services, make sure to treat yoursel wi

Fiv wys to b mor prsnt t Hih Holidysrvics this yr

Leonard FeLder, Ph.d. Specil to JTNews

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I have been a rabbi for 50 years. For the

last 30 of those years, I have been known

as the author ofWhen Bad Things Happen

to Good People, a book that suggested a

different understanding of Gods role in

all the misfortunes that occur in our world.Between those two roles, I have had

countless conversations with people who

had reasons to be angry at God, some

because of tragedies and disappoint-

ments in their own lives, some because

of the Holocaust, some because of fam-

ines, oods or genocide in other parts of

the world. I have spoken to any number of

people who have stopped believing in God

altogether because of all the terrible things

that keep happening (its interesting how

angry people get at God for not existing),

and others who still believe in Him but

refuse to pray to him.

In the opening chapters of the book of

Deuteronomy, last of the ve books of the

Torah and the one we read in synagogue

during the weeks before the High Holy

Days, Moses does something completely

out of character. He expresses anger at

God. He complains that God has treated

him unfairly.

Moses has spent his entire life, at con-

siderable personal sacrice, bringing the

word of God to the Israelites. He has

endured their complaints and their devi-

ations from Gods ways, and instead of

rewarding him for his efforts, God has

decreed that the people who have made his

Is it sin to b nry t god?

rabbi haroLd S. KuShner JointMedi News Servicelife miserable for all these years will get

live in the Promised Land and Moses him

self will never even set foot in it.

Whenever I would read that surpri

ing outburst on Moses part, I would attr

bute it to his advanced age and fatigue. Ba few years ago, I heard a lecture by Pr

fessor Aviva Zornberg of Jerusalem o

the subject of Moses anger at God. Sh

suggests that Moses did that deliberate

as a way of giving the Israelites permi

sion to vent their anger at God, which the

promptly do.

God must hate us to have made u

wander in this desert for 40 years. If Go

loved us, He would have let us rema

in Egypt and sent the Egyptians into th

desert.

Zornberg goes on to note that, immed

ately after the people express their ang

toward God, we nd something in th

Torah that we have never seen befor

Hear O Israel, the Lord is your God, th

Lord alone. And you shall love the Lo

your God withall your heart.

We had previously been commande

to obey God, to revere and honor God,

walk in His ways, but never before to lov

Him. Zornbergs explanation: You cann

truly love someone with all your heart

you are afraid to be angry at him. Ang

need not terminate a relationship. It nee

not shatter a relationship. Anger, disap

pointment are a part of an honest, health

relationship.

For years, I wondered why the kaddis

a hymn of praise to God with no mentio

of death or loss, was the prayer we aske

mourners to recite at services. I have com

to understand that asking the one person

the congregation with the most reason

be angry at God for what has happened

his or her life to publicly praise God is n

to demand an act of hypocrisy. It is to re

ognize that a prayerful relationship to Go

remains even at a time of pain and anger

Ultimately I would like to think that th

mourner will come to see God not as th

source of his grief but as the source of h

resilience in the face of grief and the insp

ration behind the efforts of friends an

neighbors to comfort him.

I would like to believe that God is n

offended by our righteous anger at th

worlds unfairness, nor does He need o

attery. Just as in our personal lives, the

are few moments more reassuring than th

experience of getting angry at someone w

care about and discovering that our love

genuine enough to survive the anger. W

should nd it reassuring that we can g

angry at God because we expect so muc

from Him, and at the same time recogniz

how much we need and rely on Him.

Harold Kushner is Rabbi Laureate of Temple

Israel in Natick, Mass., and the author of 12

books, notablyWhen Bad Things Happen to

Good People.

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Dear Rivy,

Conession: I have a love-

hate relationship with the

High Holidays. On one hand,I very much look orward to

the season o holiday meals,

get-togethers and keeping

all the amily traditions. On

the other hand I fnd all the

talk o soul-searching a bit

prickly. I am not the most

spiritual o people and am

rankly not keen on all the talk o peni-

tence. I dont think I am a bad person; I

just cant get into the be-a-better-per-

son sermons though o course, being

a better person does resonate with me

who doesnt want to be better?

It sounds like you are in need o a

more-hands-on, less-touchy-eely kind

o navigation or the demands o the New

Year. It might help you to think o soul-

searching less as an intense mystical expe-

rience and more as an enhancement o

everyday human lie.

Consider this tweak o one o those

ubiquitous sel-help pop-ups that pres-

ent themselves irksomely every time you

open your computer. One appeared on

my screen recently oering

the ollowing promise: How

to Make a Good First Impres-

sion Five Pros Share TeirMost Eective Moves. he

ve, by Anne-Marie ONeill,

are to the point and pretty

reasonable. When I rst read

them I thought, Hey, these are

good and wait a minute,

these are Jewish! Tough they

suggest quick techniques or

acing an interview, they are,

i taken truly to heart, meth-

ods o deep sel-improvement. And as our

mantra teaches, sel-improvement leads to

world improvement.

Te ve rst impression strategies are

very much in line with the classic Jewish

practice o Mussar, a path o spirituality

through inner growth. Not too righten-

ing, though denitely on the track toward

an examined lie. Here are the Five ips

to Follow to Make a Good Impression

and the internal work, the Jewish middah

ideals, needed to stretch them beyond the

interview experience.

1. Stop Talking. Ann Demarais, coauthor

oFirst Impressions, reminds us that over-

talking may make you think like you have

impressed others with your erudition and

expertise. Ironically, though, it is listen-

ing that makes others eel good and indi-

cates your interest in them. ry it; make ita practice to pause, and to process, to slow

down and to really listen. rain and dis-

cipline yoursel to vigilantly watch your

airtime are you talking too much?

Are you able to practice actively listen-

ing? Or are you rapidly thinking instead o

your response, ready to jump, the moment

the other takes a breath?

Silence suraces several times in Pirke

Avot, with teachings that speciically

emphasize keeping quiet. Shimon ben

Gamliel reveals that, All my days have I

grown up among the wise and I have not

ound anything better or a person than

silence, while Rabbi Akiva teaches that

the very key to wisdom is silence. Later

in the 12th century, Maimonides, in the

section o Hilchot Deot in his Mishnah

orah, lays out his approach to person-

ality development, reminding us that a

person should never rush to respond and

should not talk excessively. Tis discipline

will surely develop your humility and sel-

control. Its practice will not only help

you make a good rst impression, it will

improve your lie with minimal discom-

ort on the piety barometer.

2. Use a Persons Name, urges sociol

gist Julie Albright, and repeat it oen. D

not stop there, but also nd out the namo amily members. She goes so ar as

even suggest that we should actually ca

enough to ask aer these peoples we

being; all in the name o course, o makin

a good impression. It is here that I a

which comes rst: Caring or others

behaving as i we care or others?

Our tradition actually believes that o

thoughts ollow our deeds and thus, by

means start by trying to impress others b

requently using their name and by th

asking aer their amily members. Bu

why not allow this practice to actually ha

an eect on you? Start with that rst gree

ing o the day. Good morning, Mr. Cohe

Our tradition places pronounced estee

upon those who are the rst to greet t

other, with elders such as Shammai an

o Rabbi Yochanan ben Zakkai, o who

it is said, no one ever greeted him beo

he had already extended a greeting him

sel. Tat our sages go out o the way

prescribe this greet rst policy indicat

its signicant worth and is not merely

How to mk frinds nd imprss popl:Th Hih Holidys dition

rivy PouPKo KLeteniKJTNews Columnist

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Eastside Torah Center ChabadHeld at 1837 156th Ave. NE, Top Floor, BellevueContact Rabbi Mordechai Farkash at

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Rosh Hashanah eve: 6:45 p.m.Rosh Hashanah day 1:Shacharit: 9:30 a.m.Shofar: 11:30 a.m.Mincha followed by Tashlich: 6:15 p.m.Rosh Hashanah day 2:

Shacharit: 9:30 a.m.Shofar: 11:30 a.m.

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AdditionAl HigH HolidAy servicesThese following synagogues were not included in the previous edition

The dates for High Holidays this year are: Selichot: Saturday, September 24 nRosh Hashanah: Begins the evening of Wednesday, September 28 through Friday, September 30

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Rosh Hashanah eve: 7:15 p.m.Rosh Hashanah day 1:Morning prayer service, Torah reading and

shofar blowing: 10:30 a.m.Evening prayer service: 8 p.m.Rosh Hashanah day 2:

Morning prayer service, Torah reading and

shofar blowing: 10:30 a.m.Kol Nidre: 6:30 p.m.

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each of the Rosh Hashanah services (butplease RSVP).

loving-kindness and see i you can con

nect with the mysterious Source o Lovin

kindness that ows through your heart n

only on these holy days but throughout th

coming year. May it be a good and health

year or you and the people whose lives yo

touch with your caring and your creativit

Leonard Felder, Ph.D. is the author of 12 book

including Here I Am: Using Jewish Spiritual

Wisdom to Become More Present, Centered,

and Available for Life (Trumpeter Books/

Random House, 2011). For more information

on how to use Jewish mindfulness methods fo

daily growth and re-focusing during stressful

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With its diverse genres, dramatic mel-

odies, and timeless character, ew songs

have etched themselves into modern musi-

cal consciousness like Queens Bohemian

Rhapsody. Imagine, or a moment, that

in place o its classic guitar solo, the songpeaks with the coarse, mournul bellow o

the shoar, the rams horn instrument that

captures in its echoed cry what words ail

to articulate.

Without the shoars time-penetrating

inuence, it is possible that contemporary

music would lack undamental elements,

says John Sinclair, who during the 1970s

opened the rst 24-track studio in Europe.

It was in that studio that Queen recorded

and mixed Bohemian Rhapsody.

Now a lecturer in almudic Logic and

Jewish Philosophy at the Ohr Somoyach/

anenbaum College o Judaic Studies in

Jerusalem, Sinclair says he is not a big an

o [contemporary] Jewish music because

it sounds about as Jewish as Led Zeppe-

lin wearing tellin. Instead, he suggests

investigating original Jewish music that

o the emple period.

Over 2,000 years ago, a 12-man chorus

and a 12-instrument (including the

shoar) orchestra o Levites played music

and psalms as an inextricable component

o the emples daily worship service.

While some o the orchestras instru-

ments like the lyre have allen out o ash-

ion, the shoar has continually served an

integral role in Jewish worship since the

time o the emple. Aside rom its place

in the orchestra, the shoar was used to

announce the holidays and Jubilee year,accompany processions, signiy the start

o a war, and was blown with trumpets on

the High Holidays.

Historical musicologists, who study the

development o music styles over time,

assume that emple music was mono-

phonic, containing a single melody with-

out harmony. emple music used the

seven-note diatonic scale.

Everyone knows the diatonic scale,

says Sinclair. It was made amous by that

great musicologist Julie Andrews in her

unorgettable contribution to Western

culture: Doe, a deer, a female deer.

According to Sinclair, who in addition

to Queen recorded Elton John and co-pro-

duced a quadruple platinum album with

two op 10 hits rom the 80s group For-

eigner, says the shoars inuence made

its way into other music orms aer the

second temple was destroyed in 70 CE.

When the Romans burned the house o

God and exiled the Jewish people, they also

exiled our music, he says. Tey took it into

captivity and made it sing or a new master.

Early Christians incorporated music

they heard in the emple into their own

practice. As Christianity developed in

Rome, the orchestral psalms o the Levites

blended with Grecian inuences to orm

the Gregorian chant, which had a single

melody, based on a diatonic scale.

Te mesmerizing quality o the chant

comes rom an exquisite longing always

to return to the root note o the scale, th

tonic to return to doe, Sinclair says.

Gregorian chants laid a oundation

Renaissance music, which built on emp

musics monophonic orm by adding ha

monies and multiple layers o interwovemelodies. Te subsequent Classical perio

employed instrumental melody-dominate

homophony, adding chordal support

emple musics single-melody orm. Mo

popular music today uses melody-dom

nated homophony, with one voice accom

panied by chordal instrumentation.

Contemporary genres jazz, blue

rock, pop, hip hop blend eatures

ethnic and cultural olk rhythms wit

components o the emples, and the sh

ars, musical legacy. While it is difcult

isolate the exact eect o the shoar, it h

surely le its mark on songs like Boh

mian Rhapsody. Containing a capell

ballad, opera, and hard rock sections, th

song is an elemental depot o all mus

cal orms built upon emple music, eve

ending graceully on doe.

In the words o Sinclair, Music ca

come to us like a amiliar voice caressin

our souls with the shared knowledge

our deepest sadness, and it can y with o

highest elation. Music consoles and exal

only because it, itsel, can connect to th

two extremities o eeling.

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amiliar customs o Rosh Hashanah is the

dipping o apple pieces in honey but

what is its origin?

King David had a cake made in a pan

and a sweet cake (II Samuel 6: 15, 19)given to everyone. Hosea 3:1 identies the

sweet cake as a raisin cake.

Honey also may have been used in the

cake, but the honey o ancient eretz Yis-

raelwas made rom dates, grapes, gs or

raisins, because the land at the time had

no domestic bees, only Syrian bees. o

extract honey rom their combs, it had to

be smoked.

During the Roman period, Italian bees

were introduced to the Middle East, and

bee honey became more common.

he orah also describes Israel as

eretz zvat chalav udvash, the land ow-

ing with milk and honey, although the

honey was more than likely date honey, a

custom retained by many Sephardic Jews

to this day.

oday, Israel has some 500 beekeepers

with some 90,000 beehives that produce

more than 3,500 tons o honey annually.

Kibbutz Yad Mordechai is the largest pro-

ducer o honey 10,000 bottles a day.

Dipping the apple in honey on Rosh

Hashanah is said to symbolize the desire

or a sweet New Year. Why an apple? In

Bereshit, the book o Genesis, Isaac com-

pares the ragrance o his son, Jacob, to

sadeh shel tapuchim, a eld o apple

trees.

Scholars tell us that mystical powers

were ascribed to the apple, and peoplebelieved it provided good health and per-

sonal well-being.

Some attribute the using o an apple to

the translation o the story o Adam and

Eve and the orbidden ruit that caused the

expulsion rom paradise.

Te word honey, or dvash in Hebrew,

has the same numerical value as the words

Av Harachamim, Father o Mercy. Jews

hope that God will be merciul on Rosh

Hashanah as He judges us or our years

deeds.

Moroccans dip apples in honey and

serve cooked quince, an apple-like ruit,

symbolizing a sweet uture. Other Moroc-

cans dip dates in sesame and anise seeds

and powdered sugar in addition to dip-

ping apples in honey.

Among some Jews rom Egypt, a sweet

jelly made o gourds or coconut is used to

ensure a sweet year and apples are dipped

in sugar water instead o honey.

Honey is also used by Jews around the

world not only or dipping apples, but

in desserts. Some maintain in the phrase

go you way, eat the at, drink the sweet,

sweet reers to apples and honey.

Te recipes below will help make your

Rosh Hashanah sweet.

Chicken with Honey Fruit Sauce

3/4 cup apricot jam

1-1/2 cups orange juice

1-1/2 cups red wine

1 Tbs. ginger

2 tsp. garlic powder

1-1/2 tsp. thyme

2 Tbs. honey

2 tsp. corn starch

2 tsp. cold water

6 oz. apricots

6 oz. prunes

3 to 4 pounds cut-up chicken

Preheat oven to 350. Grease a baking

dish. Place chicken parts in dish.

Set aside.

Place apricot jam, orange juice, red

wine, ginger, garlic powder, thyme

and honey in a saucepan. Bring to

a boil. Reduce heat and simmer to

reduce to 3 cups. Stir in corn starch

and water, then blend. Add apricots

and prunes. Pour over chicken.

Bake in preheated oven 45 minutes

or until chicken is done.

Makes 6 servings

Apples and Honey Cake

2 cups four

2 tsp. baking soda

1 tsp. salt

3/4 cup sugar or sugar substitute2 tsp. cinnamon

1/8 tsp. nutmeg

1/4 tsp. cloves

3 cups grated, unpeeled apples

2 eggs

1-1/2 tsp. vanilla extract

3/4 cup vegetable oil

1/3 cup non-dairy creamer or parve whipping

cream

1/2 cup honey or honey substitute

Preheat oven to 325. Grease a bund

pan.

In a mixer or ood processor, blend fou

baking soda, salt, sugar, cinnamon

nutmeg and cloves. Add apple

Add eggs, vanilla, oil, non-da

creamer or whipping cream, an

honey and blend slightly. Pour int

greased bundt pan. Bake 45 min

utes or until a toothpick inserted int

the center comes out clean. Coo

beore removing rom pan.

Sybil Kaplan is a journalist and food writer in

Jerusalem.

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I was an advanced Hebrew school student.Mymother used to tell me how, when I was in kinder-

garten at our little Conservative shul, I walked up to

the chalkboard one day and wrote the word brother-

hood. So I got moved up to the rst grade. It was the

same class.

But rom then on, as the older kids moved on, I

went with them, through Bar Mitzvah training (hal

the kids, their parents eeling theyd ullled their reli-

gious school duties, had dropped out by the time mine

rolled around) and the 10th-grade Conrmation trip

to New York. I made out with my longtime crush

Melanie on that trip in a room lled with sleeping

sophomores. It had been her idea. She was older, ater

all. Now that were all grown up and shes living with

her dozen or so kids in an ultra-Orthodox enclave in

Israel, it makes me wonder i I was as good a kisser as

I thought I was.

But my aptitude goes way beyond the age dier-

ences o a ew months. I can recall a warm summer

day, just as I was entering the second grade (thats

grade 3 in Hebrew school years) and my parents

explaining to me that now, instead o just going to

Hebrew school on a single aternoon, I got to go three

days a week! Including Saturday mornings! So much

or cartoons. I screamed. I cried. I pleaded. For even

as a young child, I knew long beore my classmates the

one thing that eventually came to nearly every Jewish

kid: Hebrew school sucked.

Ill admit I learned plenty: How to watch the clockas the second hand turned slowly, slowly, slowly until

that hour and 45 minutes was up. The recitations o

any prayer in the siddur, though each psalms signi-

icance or what exactly those Hebrew words meant

never really was passed down to us. I learned

how to be patient and punctual as I would wait,

usually in the dark, or my dad to pick my car-

pool and me up long ater everyone elses par-

ents had carted them home or a warm dinner.

That lesson, incidentally, has not stuck with me.

But a ew things rom those interminable

classes did. We had a citywide Bible bowl when

I was 11 or 12. I wiped the foor with everyone

at that thing, even the Orthodox kids. I con-

vinced the Hebrew school principal that I one

day wanted to be a rabbi and she believed

me. I voluntarily participated in Hebrew High,

youth groups, and many years o Jewish over-

night camp. I spent a year in Israel in college

and made riends that I still talk to and see and,

in one case, wake up next to each morning. But

will you nd me at synagogue every Shabbat?

Dont count on it.

As my own son gets ready to enter the second

grade, the question o whether he should go to

Hebrew school is very much a question. Should

I actually send him and allow him to make his ow

religious choices when he reaches the age that he ca

do so, with knowledge and context to back it up? Omore important, will he hate it as much as I did?

As they say, Ldor Vdor, rom generation to gen

eration.

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Daniel Septimus, 33, has just taken on therole of director of congregational learningat Temple De Hirsch Sinai. Jew-ish manag-

ing editor Emily K. Alhadeff talks with himabout the future of education at the templeand across Reform Judaism.

Emily K. Alhadeff: Tell me about your Hebrew

school experience.Daniel Septimus: I grew up at a large Reorm con-

gregation in Houston, Texas, where they joke that we

have mega-synagogues, like mega-churches. We had

an unusually large class. It was the largest class in the

history o the synagogue and there was something

about the bond o that class that made a proound

dierence in my lie. And Im still really good riends

with everyone. It was a very positive experience. Not

to say that the instruction was o high quality 100 per-

cent o the time, or maybe even 50 percent o the time.

E: Did you have an inclination to become a rabbi

back then?D: No. When I was in kindergarten my parents

told me I used to play rabbi. I vaguely remember

doing that. But that was the end o it. And then in col-

lege when I was taking Jewish Studies courses, thats

where it began to come together. But the seeds were

planted earlier through youth group and in my syna-

gogue lie.

E: How did you decide to go to rabbinical school?

D: When I entered college I thought, I want to

help people. I want to be a part o peoples lives. And

I want something thats ullling and meaningul. I

considered medical school, but I also had this reli-gious connection and a strong Jewish identity by that

time. Things came together and I started talking to

rabbis in several movements, and landed where I am

today.

E: Whats your vision for education in the Reform

movement?D: I think the Reorm movement realizes that the

American Jewish landscape is changing. Hebrew

became more important to Reorm Jews in the last 50

years, as did the reestablishment o the State o Israel

and some o the cultural trends in America o identiy-

ing with your culture and your religion. I think those

things have pushed the movement to experiment. Is

mid-week Hebrew school the model or the uture?

Does it still make sense to ask kids to come to school

to learn Hebrew and to sit in a classroom? Is there a

hybrid out there? And the Sunday program, theres

one in Caliornia that is moving more to camp-style

experiential learning. They asked, What were the

most infuential experiences growing up in Jewish tra-

dition? Number one that came up? Camp. How do

you take that camp experience and bring it to reli-

gious education, but not use the old religious school

model? So the movement is grappling right now with

Where should we go?

E: As the new congregational learning director

Temple De Hirsch Sinai, whats your vision for th

congregation?D: I believe in a visionary approach to educatio

which means something called holistic ethos. T

parts all t together. For example, the three maj

points o entry or education are early childhood, re

gious or day school, and adult education. But ho

do all those things t together? I believe i you don

engage the parents, youre going to lose. Otherwi

Changing the Message

Temple De Hirsch Sinai Associate Rabbi DanielSeptimus at his Bar Mitzvah in Houston, Texas aCongregational Emanu El, February 15, 1992.


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youre going to have kids who say, Eh, Im doing this

because my parents want me to do this, not because

my parents really believe in it. Some kids will get

it and will love it and theyll be the exception. With

adult education, sometimes we orget that education

continues ater religion school, and there are needs

or people whose kids are growing up, versus people

who have kids in religion school or early

childhood age. My goal is to create pro-

grams that have ongoing connections, or

or people who come in at dierent entry

points, to be able to connect.

E: So, lets talk practical application.

How is this year going to be different

than other years?D: For example, were in the process

o putting together a proposal based on

an early childhood study the Federation

did a ew years ago, which talked about

the need to step outside o our organi-

zational walls, and to get into neigh-

borhoods and create a chavurah style o

programming. Like a parent education

group, where people who have babies

gather together, or to provide childbirth

classes rom a Jewish perspective and

post-birth gatherings to talk about the

experience. With questions like, what doyou want this childs Jewish lie to look

like? How can the synagogue acilitate

that or you?

In other words, we can no longer rely

on the programs inside the synagogue

walls to draw people in. We have to

go out and reach them where they are.

Thats where I think the Jewish commu-

nity is going.

Another example is our kesher pro-

gram or sixth and seventh graders. Its

a trimester program in sixth grade, so

weve got Holocaust education, toler-

ance, and healthy relationships. Each

trimester is going to have a parent-

teen dialogue component and most

likely a parent edu-

cation component to

it. We want to make

sure the parents have

the tools to respond

to the needs o their

changing teens. And

creating dialogue with

trained acilitators is

going to be helpul.E: But how is that

Jewish education?D: Each o those

p a r e n t - t e e n d i a -

logues will be related

to Jewish topics. For

example, the toler-

ance curriculum is

going to be talk-

ing about what we

learned in the irst

unit, but bringing it

to the present day.

Were ocusing on

how were created

in the image o God.

In Jewish texts we

have so many texts

that talk about while

we may have di-

erences, we respect

other points o view. The healthy relationships unit is

going to ocus much more on the concept obtzelem

Elohim [creation in the image o God] and talk about

why relationships are important in Judaism. Juda-

ism is a relational kind o religion. How do we create

healthy relationships to acilitate that kind o dia-

logue in our society that very much needs it?

E: At that age, some kids dont get why theyr

there. They feel like theyre forced into it and they

being pulled away from what they really want to b

doing. Do you have to go back to the source and r

form everyone from preschool on?D: I think its a change in what we say, in a wa

You go to Hebrew school not to train or your Ba

Mitzvah.

E: But theyre still going to think that.

D: You cant change everyone. Thats the honetruth. Thats the message some o them get at home o

rom their riends or what they come up with in the

own minds. But I think you can change more peop

i you talk about becoming a responsible adult

the community. Learning Hebrew and learning ho

to lead a service is about being a participant in ou

community. And thats not said enough. We have

change the message. It starts at early childhood. Bu

i a child enters at third grade because their paren

want them to have a Bar or Bat Mitzvah, you almo

have lost. It is very hard to change the message. An

thats why we need stronger early childhood pro

gramming that gets the parents engaged and the kid

engaged rom an early age.

E: What are the chances you can get all those pa

ents on board? A lot of adults dont want to chang

What do you do about them if they have no relatio

ship to Judaism?

D: Some o them never will engage. What h

worked in terms o strategy is building a culture

learning and engagement and ritual at an earlier stag

Its saying, this is who we are. I dont think we d

that enough. Most parents do want an entry poin

The question is, are we providing the right entry poi

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engaging them? It goes back to the relational mode

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Jew-ish managing editor Emily K. Alhadefftalks with Rabbi Olivier BenHaim of Bet AlefMeditative Synagogue about an integrativeapproach to Jewish education, and donuts

and hot chocolate.

Emily K. Alhadeff: Tell me about your Hebrew

school experience growing up.Olivier BenHaim: I was born and raised in France,

where I was part o a scout movement that is Jewish,

religious and coed. Its a group that started during the

Second World War as a Jewish resistance group and

continued as a scout movement. And it was Orthodox,

because France doesnt know o any other denomina-

tion other than Orthodox. Throughout the year we

did Sunday Jewish education, and I really loved it.

E: What did you love about it?

O: Some Sundays were indoors, some Sundays

were outdoors. For me the outdoors was really impor-

tant. At that time I was dreaming o becoming a pho-

tographer. I did that or many years, even ater my

parents divorced and we moved cities. And I was

always spiritual, as long as I can remember.

E: So now youre a rabbi of an alternative sort of

congregation. Many of your congregants hadnt been

back to synagogue since their Bar or Bat Mitzvahs.What kinds of stories do you hear from them?

O: Most o what I hear is that people elt they were

orced to go through this process. Most o the time

they were dropped o and they didnt eel that their

parents were really involved beyond you have to do

this Because. They had little to no connection with

their rabbi, little to no connection to what was going

on, or why they had to sing those prayers. Most o

the time they were challenged by the theological con-

cepts in and o themselves. They didnt have a belie

in God in any way and were not turned on by what

they heard in their synagogues.

But what I understand is that they mostly sur-

vived those years because o the riendships they

created. And thats what got people to keep on

going. There were people who told me the reasonthey kept going to Hebrew school was that their

synagogue had a youth program where they got to

play basketball. But you couldnt play basketball

unless you went to Sunday school. So they dragged

themselves so they could go and play basketball

with their riends.

A lot o our members are returning ater being

in the ashrams, ater being in the Buddhist tem-

ples, even the Su communities, the Dervish com-

munities. You name it. People have been longtime

spiritual seekers and have explored dierent paths.

Most o the people are at rst really upset when I

talk to them about the divine within and the divine

maniest in nature and culture. Their rst reaction is,

Why wasnt I exposed to that kind o understanding

growing up? Theres a lot o resentment and anger,

unortunately.

E: Whats your approach to teaching youngpeople?

O: What is critical to me is creating excitement

within the kids. My goal is when the child goes home,

they tell their olks, I like Judaism. When they think

Judaism I want them to think un. I can do a puppet

show or 20 minutes to explain the story o Purim,

then call that a day. Then have donuts and hot choc-

olate. For the younger kids, when they go home they

think puppets, hot chocolate, donuts.

E: Youre bringing the basketball game into the

classroom.O: Thats right. Make the basketball game the

place or learning.

E: What about your Bar Mitzvah program?

O: I dont like starting with the negative, but the

impetus to start that program was, How can I crea

something that is not what these people are talking

me about?

For me, the Bar Mitzvah program is lets talk

I got one book on Jewish history, one on mitzvot

tell them, Go home, read the paragraph. When yo

get into the classroom lets talk about what you rea

So we can have an hour-and-a-hal discussion abo

what does it mean to keep kosher? How do

that work in your lie? Whats the essence o kee

ing kosher? We talk about healthy eating, habits

eating, you are what you eat.

When I sit down with them to learn how to chan

the shma or the veahavta, rst we talk about wh

that means. Beore you go in ront o the communi

and chant the veahavta, I want you to be okay wi

saying words that you believe in. So we have the mo

remarkable conversations about God, the univers

what it means to love. Should we love? How do w

love? To me, thats the excitement.

Nondual school

Emily K. Alhadeff at her Bat Mitzvah candle lightingceremony, after she changed out of her dress into a supercool baggy Banana Republic t-shirt and jeans. Groton, Conn.April 16, 1994.


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E: Explain your selection process for the Bar Mitzvah

program.O: I meet with the parents and the kids together. They

interview me, I interview them. Then I have a one-on-one

with the parents there with the student. I ask them about

themselves, about school, to give me a sense o how they

are. Then I ask them, Why do you want to be here?

And when kids are 10, 11, they tell you. I they say its

because my grandather wants me to, my mother wants

me to, then I tell them thats not going to work or me.Its not something you should do with external pressure.

Because it wont work.

I tell them, you dont have to be here. Maybe youre not

ready now. Its breaking a traditional barrier, but maybe

in our day and age we might want to look at moving the

Bar Mitzvah age to later. I nd that most kids get most

o what they need when they start at 12 or 13 and go

through a two-year process. Its a rite o passage. And

sometimes youre just not ready.

E: What would you say your philosophy is?O: To me, I see the Jewish community as an oasis,

where people can let go and gather together with a com-

munity o likeminded spiritual seekers. I think thats what

matters. Thats what gets me excited. I see it as integrating

all the generations in this spiritual container that supports

everybodys evolution and healing. I dont want to start

with a place o ear, just because were so araid were

going to lose it. Because what happens? We lose it. I we

create this kind o community that is all-inclusive and all

encompassing, that would make a dierence.

E: Its kind of nondual.O: Very much.

How can I createsomething that is not

what these people are

talking to me about?

PickledBy Joelle Abramowitz

My experience as a Hebrew school student was

a little spotty, with some lessons more memorable

than others. Sometimes we would rotate through

the class reading aloud about some story rom

the prophets, and now I cant really rememberanything rom those classes. But sometimes we

would learn about a topic with more depth,

something that might actually change the way we

would think about some aspect o Judaism or our

lives more generally.

Looking back now, I regret that I didnt

come away with more rom my Hebrew school

education. Perhaps theres only so much you can

try to teach a 12-year-old kid and hope that it

sticks. At least you can hope that it piques their

interest and inspires them to want to learn more

on their own or when theyre older. As a 25-year-

old now, I have recently ound mysel recalling

experiences I had and wanting to learn more

about my relationship with God, about halachah,

and among other things, about pickles.

Growing up, we would almost always have

pickles at dinner and any trip to a Jewish deli was

not complete without pickles, but it really wasnt

something I gave much thought to. During my last

year o Hebrew school our class took a eld trip to

New York City with the rabbi and cantor to go to

the Jewish Museum, to buy halvah rom a shop on

the Lower East Side, to eat at the Second Avenue

Deli when it was still on Second Avenue, and what

no synagogue trip to New York should be without,

to eat Gusss pickles rom barrels on the sidewalk.

The trip was both a gastronomical and cultural

experience, and I remember nding it remarkable to

see so many o the oods Id grown up with in my

home to be in their natural environment in a place

where they really seemed to be in the right context.

Fast-orwarding more than a ew years, I nd

mysel recalling my previous pickle experiences

and wanting to learn more about the process,

wanting to embark on a journey into the world

o pickling. The problem was that I was a little

bit terried I had never pickled at home, the

process was unamiliar, and the ear o botulism

loomed. Nonetheless, with my handy home

canning kit, some encouraging words rom riend

with pickling experience, and an excess o CSA

produce, I set orth on my rst pickling experienc

managing to successully seal my pickles in their

jars while only splashing mysel with a marginal

amount o boiling vinegar.

Like many other ideas introduced during my

Hebrew school education, I might not have been

interested in learning about the history o pickles

or how to pickle at the time, but the introduction

has served to spark my interest later in lie.

Despite that introduction, it was still dicult to

get started learning something new in unamiliar

territory, and it might not have happened at all

had it not been or my riends pickling enthusiasm

or the vegetables accumulating in my rerigerator.

Im excited to report that ater my rst pickling

project, some spicy dill zucchini pickles, Im only

just beginning on my pickling journey. Im excited

to see where Ill end up, and Im certainly not

sad about all the pickles Ill potentially have to

eat along the way. The same goes, more or less,

or the questions about Judaism sparked during

my Hebrew school experience. And whatever

happened with the zucchini pickles, you ask?

Theyre still pickling, but Ill keep you posted on

how they turn out when theyre ready.

Joelle Abramowitz is a Ph.D. candidate at

the University of Washington in economics and

jew-ishs resident gastronomist economist. Follow

her cooking adventures on jew-ish.com and on

gastronomisteconomist.blogspot.com.



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They say that educating a child

properly takes 50 percent skill, 50

percent prayer and 50 percent tears.

This equation expresses two things:

First, my lie-long rustration with all

things math-related. Second, and per-

haps more importantly, the diculty

and struggles that go along with trying

to mold a living being into a mentsch.

Truth be told, I still revel in the

act that I do not have to go to school

today. One o my earliest extant pieceso writing is a note excusing mysel

or not doing my homework. I signed

it, Elies Mom. So while my experi-

ence in school can only be described as

Alcatrazian, I am desperately hoping

that none o my children experience

the same.

I grew up as the third o seven chil-

dren in a relatively small East Coast

community. My oldest brother was

born with cystic brosis, a nasty dis-

ease (i diseases are ever anything but

nasty). In short, I became a bit o a

lightning rod or his ears and rustra-

tions. My parents somehow managed

to shepherd me through school despite

my persistent run-ins with school

authority gures. They did this with an

incredible amount o patience, coach-

ing, and above all, awareness. They

were (and still are) eminently aware o

my strengths and weaknesses, my skills

and oibles.

I oten wonder, how much o my

struggle with authority had to do with

the stress o dealing with a deadly dis-

ease in my own home? I have no inter-

est in making excuses or mysel, but I

wonder what would have happened i

one o my teachers had considered that

as a source o the reason why this small

kid kept on running o at the mouth?

Deep inside, I desperately wantedsomeone to take me in and mentor me.

Someone to see and understand what-

ever potential I had. Unortunately,

no teacher I had ever understood that,

and as a result, I spent so much time

in detention that my mother eventu-

ally decided to become the school sec-

retary.

As a parent o our mysel, Ive

learned o the essential need to advo-

cate or and interact with my children.

Had my parents not been as involved

as they were, I shudder to think where

Id be now.

Ironically, it was precisely the lack

o mentorship in my own childhood

that led me to a career in mentorship.

Educate a child according to his

way, says King Solomon. Educa-

tion can only be successul when the

educators recognize each individual

as an indispensable individual. Edu-

cators must recognize each childs

unique challenges as springboards to a

bright uture. But we, as parents, must

embrace our job as the role models

and purveyors o Judaic values to ou

children not expecting it to com

solely rom the schools. Ater all,

a child, reality is determined by wh

is seen at home. So i you add consi

tency in messaging to a well-rounde

understanding o the childs indiviual needs, you should come up with

uture onachas, despite the bumps

the road.

At least thats an equation I ca

understand.

Elie Estrin is the rabbi at UWChabad

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the tree-lined patio o Madrids Naomi

Grill, savoring a sweet yet piquant stew

that seemed to embody the spirit o Rosh

Hashanah. When I asked restaurateur

Patricio Felsenstein where he ound therecipe or this honeyed, saron-scented

dish simmered with prunes and the prized

local Marcona almonds, he shrugged, It

could have been anywhere. Chicken tagine

has been around or 1,000 years.

Like his most requested dish, Felsen-

steins kosher Sephardic restaurant seems

a culmination o the occasionally sweet

but mostly sorrowul journey his ances-

tors took as a result o Spains inamous

Edict o Expulsion in 1492.

During that time Jews were arrested or

kashering their ood, celebrating Jewish

holidays, even practicing their religion at

all, so they dispersed to lands as diverse as

North Arica, the Middle East, the Medi-

terranean and, where Felsenstein spent his

ormative years, South America.

Perhaps the only sweet part o these

Jews journey was picking up the culinary

habits o their new homes, combining

sweet with sour, adding nuts and ruits to

meats and salads, and encouraging exper-

imentation with exotic, regional resh

ruits and vegetables. Careully adher-

ing to kosher dietary laws, they amalgam-

ated them with the best o the Spanish,

Moorish and Jewish traditions, orging

the exotic, complicated Sephardic cuisine.

Growing up in Caracas, Venezuela,

where there are ew, i any, kosher res-

taurants, Felsenstein dreamed o moving

back to the land o his ancestors and open-

ing a restaurant that served the bittersweet

Sephardic cuisine. He wanted to provide a

beautiul setting or Jews to celebrate their

heritage, and he wanted to introduce the

cooking style he was so proud o to Span-

iards and visitors looking or kosher ood.Teres a law that makes it easy or a

amily with a Sephardic tradition to return

to Spain, Felsenstein said, while sipping

a glass o sweet mint tea on the tree-lined

patio o his restaurant. And lots o Jews

are coming home.

Fieen years ago Felsenstein and his

wie, Vera, moved to Madrid.

Tere was no money to open a res-

taurant, so he worked with Rabbi Moshe

Bendahan supervising the production o

kosher products such as wine, olive oil,

tuna, cheese and candies.

Te Felsensteins were invited to weekly

barbecues at Masada, a Jewish weekend

retreat and childrens camp in the moun-

tains north o Madrid. It was there they

were served the ormerly orbidden ood.

Soon Felsenstein was barbecuing and

serving the others. He was never happier.

Te Felsensteins and a ew other am-

ilies ounded a synagogue at their chil-

drens school in the suburb o La Moraleja,

Sinagoga del Centro de Estudios Ibn Gabi-

rol.

When Veras parents moved to

Madrid, Felsenstein and his ather-in-

law, Giuseppe Gavison, decided to open

Naomi Grill.

Te name Naomi means My plea-

sure, Felsenstein said, smiling as he

showed visitors around the dining room

which embraces both modernity and

antiquity. Te tables and chairs are hand

carved by the revered artisans o oledo,

and the menus and art on the walls depict

ancient, empty Spanish synagogues,

including the tiny, jewel-like structure in

Cordoba, where the iconic Jewish phi-losopher Maimonides used to pray. o

accessorize the emotion-lled setting is

haunting Sephardic and Israeli music.

But all pales next to the impeccable,

ormerly orbidden cuisine that Felsen-

stein has succeeded in bringing back to

Madrid aer hal a millennium o absence.

When guests sit down theyre served

sweet resh mint tea, popular in Morocco

and unisia. Te decorative brass pitcher

is rom angiers, Morocco.

Beore the restaurant opened, my par-

ents went to the shouk [open-air market]

in angiers and bought all the serving

accessories or the restaurant tagine

and kebab dishes, platters and bowls

so that everything looks authentic, Vera

Felsenstein said.

But it isnt Patricio Felsenstein doing

the cooking. With all o the dedicated res-

taurateurs passion or ood, he had no

ormal culinary training.

I learned to cook in my amily, he

said. We looked high and low or a Sep-

hardic che. In our small Jewish commu-

nity there is a place where immigrants go

to nd jobs. It was ate I ound Ariel Kars,

who is an amazing che.

ry these Sephardic recipes or a beau-

tiul erev Rosh Hashanah dinner or as a

east beore the ast o Yom Kippur.

Moroccan Fresh Mint Tea

7 resh mint sprigs, plus 7 or garnish

3 Tbs. sugar

4 cups boiling water

Pour a small amount o boiling water ia teapot and swish around to warm

the pot. Place mint sprigs and suga

in teapot. Add boiling water. Stee

or 3 minutes. Remove mint springs

Pour hot water inused with the min

and sugar into glass teacups. Ga

nish with remaining mint sprigs.

Serves 4

Chicken tagine

Adapted rom Che Ariel Kars an

owner Patricio Felsenstein, Naomi Grill

Marcona almonds are available in na

ural ood markets such as Whole Food

Mediterranean or Middle Eastern Ma

kets, or in the ethnic sections o supe

markets. Whole, blanched almonds m

be substituted.

1 Tbs. olive oil

3 cups sliced Spanish onions

2 cloves garlic, chopped coarsely

1-1/2 tsp. ground coriander

1/2 tsp. ground cumin

1/2 tsp. ground ginger

1 cinnamon stick

1/4 tsp. saron threads

1 tsp. brown sugar

1-1/2 tsp. salt

1/2 tsp. reshly ground black pepper

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In a large skillet with a heat-proo handle,

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Saut almonds in oil. Drain, reserving

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Adapted rom Che Ariel Kars and

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2 lbs. chicken meat (breast and thighs)

1 cup onions, chopped coarsely

2 tsp. ground cinnamon

2 tsp. resh ginger, grated

2 tsp. cumin seeds, toasted,

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1 tsp. saron threads

2-1/2 cups mixed dried ruit

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1-1/2 cups sliced almonds,

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1/3 cup sugar

1 Tbs. cinnamon

2 Tbs. lemon juice6 eggs, beaten until rothy

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1/2 cup (1 stick) parve

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Powdered sugar and cin-

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To poach chicken:

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First, my conession. And it comes with

a slice o guilt. I never liked the High Holi-

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riend-lled Passover seders would start

to ade each year, I would begin to think

about the impending Days o Awe witha knot in my stomach and a distaste in

my mouth that even the thought o sweet

apples and honey could do little to relieve.

Whats worse is that as a Jewish educa-

tor, I am charged each September to teach

about the meaningulness o these ishrei

days: Te opportunity to reect, to return,

to become a better person.

What was really swirling through my

mind was the idea o sitting through seem-

ingly endless services, uninspiring ser-

mons and a day o asting and praying that

had a sadomasochistic eel to it.

I would ask mysel why the need or the

hours on hours o prayers, many o which

were repeated over and over. And wasnt

it enough to hear the words o Kol Nidre

once? But three times? Really? All while

standing and listening to musical notes

dragged out or what seemed like days.

And I was cynical o the whole spectacle,o synagogues having to move locations to

accommodate larger-than-normal crowds

(reminiscent o college days when on nal

exam day the lecture hall would ll up with

students who had not shown up all semes-

ter or class). And o the ashion shows and

maneuvering or the best seats that money

can buy.

But all o these thoughts changed about

a decade ago, when I was in my late 30s.

Te holidays were approaching, and I was

anything but looking orward to them.

Ten a colleague introduced me to a work

booklet called Where Are You? by Jael

Greenlea, subtitled Te Inventory of the

Soul in Preparation for the High Holy Days.

Each page included a verse rom the High

Holiday prayer Ashamnu. Following the

verse was a trigger or thinking and a hal

page or written reection. Every night I

would read the page and journal.Tat year, as I reected upon the High

Holidays just past, I realized not only

were they meaningul, but I actually elt

rereshed and empowered. I reected on it

aer the holidays and realized something

that had never occurred to me previously:

Every year until that year, I would walk

into services on the holidays and expect to

be somehow transormed. I would enter

the sanctuary on the rst night o Rosh

Hashanah and unconsciously be thinking:

Rabbi, Cantor, do your work. Make me a

better person. Make me eel something.

Only that year, on the cusp o my h

decade, did I realize that this was my

responsibility. I couldnt expect to wa

into the nal exam having not done th

work and then expect to ace the test.

Every year since I have done my hom

work. Beginning the rst day o Elul (tr

ditionally the beginning o the days preparation or the holidays) I have mad

a plan to get me into the mindset o th

challenging work o reection and se

transormation. One year I bought a boo

that included a reading or each day

the month preceding the High Holiday

One year I journalled each night, ocusin

on ways I hoped to do better in the ye

ahead. Another year I read a psalm trad

tional or this time o year each night.

A ew years ago I decided to oc

my preparations on a specic goal an

aspect o my lie that was troubling m

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We are all only human, ew o us have all

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honesty to those around you. Te lasting

impression on your soul will be immea-

surable and the relie o not having to

know everything? Incalculable.

4. Dont Take All the Credit, asserts Ben

Dattner, an organizational psycholo-

gist, workplace consultant, and the author

o he Blame Game. Being sel-serving

and exaggerating ones accomplishments

do not make a good impression ever.

Channel your inner Ben Zoma, who pro-

claims that the wise person learns rom

every person and Rabbi Chaninah, who

boldly declares he has learned much rom

his teachers and colleagues, but even more

rom his students. Tis quality o making

sure to give credit where credit is due is a

hallmark o redemption. Queen Esther is

ascribed with being privy to the perilous

plot o Bigthan and eresh due to the inor-

mation that she had learned rom Morde-

chai. Trough this action the Jewish people

were saved all because she gave proper

attribution to her source. Bottom line in

the words o Hillel: One who aggrandizes

his own name will lose that name. Redemp-

tion, a good name and humility gained in

one ell swoop a bargain.

5. Look Interested, counsels Joe Navarro,

special agent to the FBI and author o the

book, What Every Body is Saying. A slight

head tilt powerully conveys the message

that you are listening. A quick eyebrow

arch is another small but eective ges-

ture that communicates curiosity. Here is

where a good eye may come in handy.

In response to being asked by his teacher,

What is the best approach to lie? Rabbi

Eliezer answers, A good eye. It takes a

lot to be interested in the other tim

patience and generosity. It is the truly ge

erous person who can listen as the oth

speaks and communicate genuine ca

and interest. Tis stance is not easily ake

it must assuredly ow rom a person

true and sincere inclination. One mo

baby step toward being a better perso

and what more can we ask o anyone

especially at this time o year?

Rivy Poupko Kletenik is an internationally

renowned educator and Head of School at the

Seattle Hebrew Academy. If you have a

question thats been tickling your brain, send

Rivy an email at

[email protected].

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Tis November, the Washington State Jewish Historical Society will

release its cookbook, Yesterdays Mavens, odays Foodies: raditions in

Northwest Jewish Kitchens, which contains recipes and stories rom am-

ilies throughout the Northwest. Helens Chopped Herring, submitted

by Sandra Lott, was a holiday avorite.

Tis is our amilys avorite appetizer and my signature dish even my grandchildren all love it! I make it or Rosh Hashanah and all

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it straight o o a spoon!

Sandra Lott

Helens Chopped Herring2 pieces challah,

dried (or rye bread

withoutcrust,Bakeinoven200-225

for2-4hours,butbesureitdoesnot

brown)

1smallGrannySmithapple,peeled,

coredandchoppedintochunks

1mediumonion(swee

tifpossible)

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1tsp.sugar

12-ouncejarpickledherring,drained

Usingaoodprocessor,pulsethe

breaduntilitisveryfne.

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