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<ul><li><p>8/4/2019 JTNews | September 16, 2011 Section B</p><p> 1/24</p><p>september 16, 2011 17 elul 5771 volume 87, no. 19</p><p>Photos: Joel Magalnick and Domiriel/Creative Commons</p><p>section B</p></li><li><p>8/4/2019 JTNews | September 16, 2011 Section B</p><p> 2/24</p><p>2B JTN . www.JTNews.NeT . friday, sepTemBer 16, 201</p><p>It promises to be a joyous 5772 for our entire communityas JFS will move into the new building, adjacent to our</p><p>existing Jessie Danz Building creating an actual</p><p>campus in the heart of Capitol Hill that will allow JFS to</p><p>better meet the needs of family, friends and neighbors,</p><p>today and well into the future.</p><p>This campus is the result of incredibly generous community</p><p>support of the JFS Family Matters Campaign in response</p><p>to the need for services that seems to grow every year,</p><p>every month, every day. You made this building possible</p><p>(as well as opening doors for enhanced and expanded</p><p>programs that are already serving community members</p><p>in need). The names of donors making gifts of $10,000</p><p>or more to the JFS Family Matters Campaign will be</p><p>inscribed on a permanent donor wall in the entrance of</p><p>the new building in heartfelt appreciation and recognition</p><p>of their commitment to communityour community.</p><p>After all, family mattersalways has, always will.</p><p>Jewish Family Service wishes youand yours a happy and healthy 5772.</p><p>www.jfsseattle.org (206) 461-3240A commitment to community since 1892.</p><p>For information about how to add your name to thedonor wall and be part of the future of JFS,please contact Shelly C. Shapiro, Major Gifts Officer,(206) 861-3148; e-mail scshapiro@jfsseattle.org.</p><p>IN THE YEAR AHEAD,</p><p>NEW DOORS WILLOPEN FOR ALL OF USHERE AT HOME.</p></li><li><p>8/4/2019 JTNews | September 16, 2011 Section B</p><p> 3/24</p><p>friday, sepTemBer 16, 2011 . www.JTNews.NeT . JTN high holid ays 3</p><p>wishes you shana Tova .cmpcctr.rg 206-447-1967 if@cmpcctr.rg</p><p>s Cmp slm scctr td</p><p>#1 J</p><p>Cmp!</p><p>Rgtrt</p><p>bg octbr</p><p>erl brd</p><p>dct lbl</p><p>Have you ever been sitting at a Rosh</p><p>Hashanah or Yom Kippur service and</p><p>asked yoursel, Why am I eeling some-</p><p>what distant rom the wording o theseprayers? Or Why do I eel so distracted</p><p>here and the service is so lengthy?</p><p>You are not alone. As a psychothera-</p><p>pist and a Jewish author, Ive heard rom</p><p>thousands o diverse Jews (rom the very</p><p>religious to the not-very religious to the</p><p>extremely not religious) who told me they</p><p>elt bored or dgety at times during High</p><p>Holiday services in previous years.</p><p>Fortunately, there are some highly</p><p>eective ways to connect more deeply</p><p>with the proound themes and lie-chang-</p><p>ing insights that can be ound in the Rosh</p><p>Hashanah and Yom Kippur services o</p><p>nearly every congregation. Here are a ew</p><p>easy-to-utilize steps on how to make these</p><p>careully choreographed Days o Awe</p><p>more meaningul to you or a member o</p><p>your amily who eels bored or discon-</p><p>nected rom High Holiday gatherings:</p><p> Let the music move you. Te services</p><p>will come alive or you i you allow the</p><p>beautiul melodies, the talented voices,</p><p>and the intense sounds o the shoar to</p><p>take you to a place o proound waking</p><p>up. Rather than ocusing on what people</p><p>are wearing or whose kids are misbehav-</p><p>ing, or even whether the rabbis sermon</p><p>is perect, let yoursel be lied up by the</p><p>soulul melodies that connect each o uswith hundreds o years o passionate and</p><p> vulnerable Jews who have poured out</p><p>their eelings o longing, sadness, joy, and</p><p>gratitude at similar services during pleas-</p><p>ant years and tragic years. As you listen</p><p>closely to the music and the call o the</p><p>shoar, imagine yoursel surrounded by</p><p>many generations o ancestors asking you</p><p>lovingly, Nu, how are you? How is your</p><p>beautiul soul navigating this complicated</p><p>world that is so challenging?</p><p> Do some personal preparation. During</p><p>the days leading up to Rosh Hashanah, pick</p><p>a phrase or a theme rom the High Holiday</p><p>prayer book that makes you curious about</p><p>the mysteries o lie or helps your soul nd</p><p>its true purpose o doing some good in large</p><p>or small ways. Rather than getting bent out</p><p>o shape by some harsh phrase rom the</p><p>prayer book you dont like, choose instead</p><p>to ocus on phrases and themes that you</p><p>select consciously to inspire and motivate</p><p>you in the days and weeks surrounding the</p><p>High Holidays. For example, what is a vow</p><p>you made in the past year (to yoursel, to</p><p>a loved one, or to someone at work) and</p><p>that you now realize you havent ully kept?</p><p>What will it take or you to change that vow</p><p>and create something new that is much</p><p>more likely to be kept? Take charge o your breathing and your</p><p>ocus. Ive ound in my own lie and in</p><p>counseling many dierent types o Jewish</p><p>women and men that one o the best ways</p><p>to enjoy the High Holiday services and get</p><p>more insights rom them is i you notice</p><p>your breathing whenever possible during</p><p>the lengthy services. Silently say Hineni,</p><p>here I am, a powerul ocusing phrase</p><p>that you can utilize whenever you eel dis-</p><p>tracted, tense, or rustrated. I you remem-</p><p>ber to breathe smoothly and ully as you</p><p>open up your creative mind with these</p><p>words, you may be surprised at how you</p><p>start to become less stressed and more</p><p>centered, not only at High Holiday ser-</p><p>vices but throughout the rest o the year.</p><p> Let your heart speak your deepest truth.</p><p>At various points during the Rosh Hasha-</p><p>nah and Yom Kippur services, you will</p><p>be given the opportunity to say out loud</p><p>or to speak silently the truths, concerns,</p><p>and aspirations you carry in your heart.</p><p>In addition, you are being encouraged to</p><p>speak these truths to the mysterious Source</p><p>o Lie that is beyond human comprehen-</p><p>sion. Yet we eel especially close to th</p><p>mysterious One at these holiday gathe</p><p>ings. Whether you are a strong believer </p><p>a loving Presence or you wrestle with mandoubts, these Rosh Hashanah and Yo</p><p>Kippur services ask you to dig deeply in</p><p>your own heart and admit honestly, T</p><p>is where I have missed the mark, Tis </p><p>what I notice and appreciate about the gi</p><p>in my lie, and Tis is what I am longin</p><p>to improve in the coming year. You w</p><p>probably nd that having the chance </p><p>slow down and connect with the still, sma</p><p>voice within as you express these prooun</p><p>truths is time well spent.</p><p> Look or opportunities or prog</p><p>ress, not perection. One o the beaut</p><p>ul things about Jewish holidays such </p><p>Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur is th</p><p>in Judaism we always have the chance </p><p>wake up anew, to ask or guidance, and </p><p>improve how we deal with our toughe</p><p>personal, amily, and work-related cha</p><p>lenges. But we are not being asked to b</p><p>perect, nor are we condemned or bein</p><p>human and having our struggles. As yo</p><p>sit in the Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kipp</p><p>services, make sure to treat yoursel wi</p><p>Fiv wys to b mor prsnt t Hih Holidysrvics this yr</p><p>Leonard FeLder, Ph.d. Specil to JTNews</p><p>X Page 6</p></li><li><p>8/4/2019 JTNews | September 16, 2011 Section B</p><p> 4/24</p><p>4B high holidays JTN . www.JTNews.NeT . friday, sepTemBer 16, 201</p><p> ShanaTova!</p><p>Follow us on Twitter:@israelin sf</p><p>Find us on Facebook:www.facebook.com/israelinsf</p><p>J. C. Wright Sales Co.is proud to be serving our customers top of the line kosher products.</p><p>We are the largest kosher food distributor in the Northwest, serving retail stores andinstitutions throughout Washington, Oregon, Idaho and Alaska.</p><p>We continue striving to offer the best selection of productswhile taking great pride i n our level of service to the community.</p><p>From all of us at JC Wright Sales,we wishyou and yours a Peaceful and Kosher New Year!</p><p>Questions or comments, please contact Chris McPherren a t 253-395-8799, or fax 253-395-8836.</p><p>since 1947</p><p>fine foods</p><p>I have been a rabbi for 50 years. For the</p><p>last 30 of those years, I have been known</p><p>as the author ofWhen Bad Things Happen</p><p>to Good People, a book that suggested a</p><p>different understanding of Gods role in</p><p>all the misfortunes that occur in our world.Between those two roles, I have had</p><p>countless conversations with people who</p><p>had reasons to be angry at God, some</p><p> because of tragedies and disappoint-</p><p>ments in their own lives, some because</p><p>of the Holocaust, some because of fam-</p><p>ines, oods or genocide in other parts of</p><p>the world. I have spoken to any number of</p><p>people who have stopped believing in God</p><p>altogether because of all the terrible things</p><p>that keep happening (its interesting how</p><p>angry people get at God for not existing),</p><p>and others who still believe in Him but</p><p>refuse to pray to him.</p><p>In the opening chapters of the book of</p><p>Deuteronomy, last of the ve books of the</p><p>Torah and the one we read in synagogue</p><p>during the weeks before the High Holy</p><p>Days, Moses does something completely</p><p>out of character. He expresses anger at</p><p>God. He complains that God has treated</p><p>him unfairly.</p><p>Moses has spent his entire life, at con-</p><p>siderable personal sacrice, bringing the</p><p>word of God to the Israelites. He has</p><p>endured their complaints and their devi-</p><p>ations from Gods ways, and instead of</p><p>rewarding him for his efforts, God has</p><p>decreed that the people who have made his</p><p>Is it sin to b nry t god?</p><p>rabbi haroLd S. KuShner JointMedi News Servicelife miserable for all these years will get </p><p>live in the Promised Land and Moses him</p><p>self will never even set foot in it.</p><p>Whenever I would read that surpri</p><p>ing outburst on Moses part, I would attr</p><p>bute it to his advanced age and fatigue. Ba few years ago, I heard a lecture by Pr</p><p>fessor Aviva Zornberg of Jerusalem o</p><p>the subject of Moses anger at God. Sh</p><p>suggests that Moses did that deliberate</p><p>as a way of giving the Israelites permi</p><p>sion to vent their anger at God, which the</p><p>promptly do.</p><p>God must hate us to have made u</p><p>wander in this desert for 40 years. If Go</p><p>loved us, He would have let us rema</p><p>in Egypt and sent the Egyptians into th</p><p>desert.</p><p>Zornberg goes on to note that, immed</p><p>ately after the people express their ang</p><p>toward God, we nd something in th</p><p>Torah that we have never seen befor</p><p>Hear O Israel, the Lord is your God, th</p><p>Lord alone. And you shall love the Lo</p><p>your God withall your heart.</p><p>We had previously been commande</p><p>to obey God, to revere and honor God, </p><p>walk in His ways, but never before to lov</p><p>Him. Zornbergs explanation: You cann</p><p>truly love someone with all your heart </p><p>you are afraid to be angry at him. Ang</p><p>need not terminate a relationship. It nee</p><p>not shatter a relationship. Anger, disap</p><p>pointment are a part of an honest, health</p><p>relationship.</p><p>For years, I wondered why the kaddis</p><p>a hymn of praise to God with no mentio</p><p>of death or loss, was the prayer we aske</p><p>mourners to recite at services. I have com</p><p>to understand that asking the one person </p><p>the congregation with the most reason </p><p>be angry at God for what has happened </p><p>his or her life to publicly praise God is n</p><p>to demand an act of hypocrisy. It is to re</p><p>ognize that a prayerful relationship to Go</p><p>remains even at a time of pain and anger</p><p>Ultimately I would like to think that th</p><p>mourner will come to see God not as th</p><p>source of his grief but as the source of h</p><p>resilience in the face of grief and the insp</p><p>ration behind the efforts of friends an</p><p>neighbors to comfort him.</p><p>I would like to believe that God is n</p><p>offended by our righteous anger at th</p><p>worlds unfairness, nor does He need o</p><p>attery. Just as in our personal lives, the</p><p>are few moments more reassuring than th</p><p>experience of getting angry at someone w</p><p>care about and discovering that our love </p><p>genuine enough to survive the anger. W</p><p>should nd it reassuring that we can g</p><p>angry at God because we expect so muc</p><p>from Him, and at the same time recogniz</p><p>how much we need and rely on Him.</p><p>Harold Kushner is Rabbi Laureate of Temple</p><p>Israel in Natick, Mass., and the author of 12</p><p>books, notablyWhen Bad Things Happen to</p><p>Good People.</p><p>DouglaS SproTT</p><p>A a g-k a h ahquak a ua aa Japa mah. ra Kuh</p><p>gu h ay ag G a ug agy a h .</p></li><li><p>8/4/2019 JTNews | September 16, 2011 Section B</p><p> 5/24</p><p>friday, sepTemBer 16, 2011 . www.JTNews.NeT . JTN whaT s your Jq? 5</p><p>Tickets: $50 in advance / $60 at the door To order, call</p><p>(206) 365-7770 Online: www.musicofremembrance.org</p><p>14th Season Mina Miller, Artistic Director</p><p>Klezmer &amp; Chocolate,</p><p>a fundraiser for Music</p><p>of Remembrance</p><p>6:30 p.m., Sunday,</p><p>September 25</p><p>Theo Chocolate Factory</p><p>3400 Phinney Ave N,</p><p>Seattle</p><p>Make plans for a night unlike anyother, at Theo Chocolate Factory. Thisfundraiser for Music of Remembrancefeatures performances by Seattlesclarinet goddess Laura DeLuca andher klezmer band, The Kvetchers, withchocolate tastings (orange, cherry andalmond, spicy chili, mint) courtesy ofTheo. Enjoy complimentary wine aswell. Space limited to just 75 klezmer-and-chocolate lovers, so get yourtickets today!</p><p>ADORE</p><p>LOVELOVE</p><p>played heroically by Seattleclarinet goddess Laura DeLuca</p><p>(John Sutherland, Seattle Times)</p><p>played heroically by Seattleclarinet goddess Laura DeLuca</p><p>(John Sutherland, Seattle Times)</p><p>Dear Rivy,</p><p>Conession: I have a love-</p><p>hate relationship with the</p><p>High Holidays. On one hand,I very much look orward to</p><p>the season o holiday meals,</p><p>get-togethers and keeping</p><p>all the amily traditions. On</p><p>the other hand I fnd all the</p><p>talk o soul-searching a bit</p><p>prickly. I am not the most</p><p>spiritual o people and am</p><p>rankly not keen on all the talk o peni-</p><p>tence. I dont think I am a bad person; I</p><p> just cant get into the be-a-better-per-</p><p>son sermons though o course, being</p><p>a better person does resonate with me </p><p>who doesnt want to be better?</p><p>It sounds like you are in need o a</p><p>more-hands-on, less-touchy-eely kind</p><p>o navigation or the demands o the New</p><p>Year. It might help you to think o soul-</p><p>searching less as an intense mystical expe-</p><p>rience and more as an enhancement o</p><p>everyday human lie.</p><p>Consider this tweak o one o those</p><p>ubiquitous sel-help pop-ups that pres-</p><p>ent themselves irksomely every time you</p><p>open your computer. One appeared on</p><p>my screen recently oering</p><p>the ollowing promise: How</p><p>to Make a Good First Impres-</p><p>sion Five Pros Share TeirMost Eective Moves. he</p><p>ve, by Anne-Marie ONeill,</p><p>are to the point and pretty</p><p>reasonable. When I rst read</p><p>them I thought, Hey, these are</p><p>good and wait a minute,</p><p>these are Jewish! Tough they</p><p>suggest quick techniques or</p><p>acing an interview, they are,</p><p>i taken truly to heart, meth-</p><p>ods o deep sel-improvement. And as our</p><p>mantra teaches, sel-improvement leads to</p><p>world improvement.</p><p>Te ve rst impression strategies are</p><p>very much in line with the classic Jewish</p><p>practice o Mussar, a path o spirituality</p><p>through inner growth. Not too righten-</p><p>ing, though denitely on the track toward</p><p>an examined lie. Here are the Five ips</p><p>to Follow to Make a Good Impression</p><p>and the internal work, the Jewish middah</p><p>ideals, needed to stretch them beyond the</p><p>interview experience.</p><p>1. Stop Talking. Ann Demarais, coauthor</p><p>oFirst Impressions, reminds us that over-</p><p>talking may make you think like you have</p><p>impressed others with your erudition and</p><p>expertise. Ironically, though, it is listen-</p><p>ing that makes others eel good and indi-</p><p>cates your interest in them. ry it; make ita practice to pause, and to process, to slow</p><p>down and to really listen. rain and dis-</p><p>cipline yoursel to vigilantly watch your</p><p>airtime are you talking too much?</p><p>Are you able to practice actively listen-</p><p>ing? Or are you rapidly thinking instead o</p><p>your response, ready to jump, the moment</p><p>the other takes a breath?</p><p>Silence suraces several times in Pirke</p><p>Avot, with teachings that speciically</p><p>emphasize keeping quiet. Shimon ben</p><p>G...</p></li></ul>