ARE WE ON THE SAME PAGE?

Cindy Crane Lutherans Against Bullying (LAB)

Leaders of LAB

• Rev. Cindy Crane, St. John’s• Travis Currier, Lakeview• Rev. Matthew Kruse, Redeemer Lutheran in Rio• Miriam Mueller-Owens, St. John’s• Sierra Mueller-Owens, St. John’s

What is Bullying?

Dr. Dan Olweus – Peer Abuse(not to be resolved with peer mediation)

DPI-Bullying is a deliberate or intentional behavior using words or actions intended to cause fear, intimidation or harm. Bullying may be repeated behavior and involves an imblalance of power.

Barbara Caruso - An act of contempt

Rabbi Michael Lerner - An act of desanctification.

DVD clips

What isn’t bullying?

Playful teasing that is mutually enjoyedNot inviting someone to join in unless it is part of an intentional aggressive act to isolate someoneFair, consistent, humane managing & supervision Disciplining a poorly performing employeeCriticizing performance w/o criticizing the personImplementing changes that affect everyoneLoud, but non-hostile, expressionConflict over competing interests between two people with equal power

Who gets bullied?

Where does bullying happen?

Who is affected by bullying?

Is it best to focus on the bully, the

target, or the witnesses?

Agree or Disagree with the following:

- We can stop all bullying.- Bullying is a rite of passage.- Adults should always stay out of it.- Peers should always stay out of it.- People who are bullied always bring it on themselves.

WHEN I SEE BULLYING AT WORK ORAT SCHOOL I FEEL

UNSAFEGLAD IT’S NOT MEINTERESTED IN JOINING IN INDIFFERENTCONCERNED ABOUT WHEN I’M NEXT

What can adults do for youth?

What can youth do for one another?

What can adults do for one another?

What’s my faith got to do with it?

Can one person make a difference?

Pryamid of Hate

Source: A World of Difference® Anti-Bias Study Guide (Secondary Level). New York, NY: Anti-Defamation League, 2000.

Resources

Olweus Bullying Prevention: http://www.olweus.org/public/index.page

Stop Cyberbullying: http:/www.stopcyberbullying.org/index2.html

Bishop Burnsidehttp://www.livinglutheran.com/videos/-bishop-bruce-burnside-of.html#.UHi-oCquaQg

Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls by Rachel Simmons

The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander by Barbara Coloroso

Mobbing by Maureen Duffy & Len Sperry

Letters to a Bullied Girl: Messages of Healing and Hope by Olivia Gardner with Emily and Sarah Buder

Bullying: A Spiritual Crisis by Ronald Hecker Cram

THANKS FOR THE DISCUSION

THANKS FOR THE DISCUSION

QUESTIONS?

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