What is Anger ?What is Anger ?What is Anger ?What is Anger ?

Anger is a basic human emotion Anger is a basic human emotion that is experienced by all people. that is experienced by all people.

Typically triggered by an emotional Typically triggered by an emotional hurt, anger is usually experienced as hurt, anger is usually experienced as an unpleasant feeling that occurs an unpleasant feeling that occurs when we think we have been when we think we have been injured, mistreated, opposed in our injured, mistreated, opposed in our long-held views, or when we are long-held views, or when we are faced with obstacles that keep us faced with obstacles that keep us from attaining personal goals. from attaining personal goals.

What is Anger ?....2`What is Anger ?....2`What is Anger ?....2`What is Anger ?....2`Anger is a completely normal, Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful unpredictable and powerful emotion. This brochure is meant emotion. This brochure is meant to help you understand and to help you understand and control anger. control anger.

I feel…I feel…

FuriousFurious

SpitefulSpiteful GrouchyGrouchy

FrustratedFrustrated EnragedEnragedAnnoyedAnnoyed IrritatedIrritated

MadMadIrateIrate

ANGRYANGRY

Myths about angerMyths about anger

Anger is dangerousAnger is dangerous We should not express our We should not express our

angeranger Anger is badAnger is bad Anger is goodAnger is good Anger is sinAnger is sin

What causes Anger?What causes Anger?What causes Anger?What causes Anger?

Anger can be caused by both Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. external and internal events. You could be angry at a You could be angry at a specific person (Such as a specific person (Such as a coworker or supervisor) or coworker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a canceled event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight), or your anger could be flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or caused by worrying or brooding about your personal brooding about your personal problems. Memories of problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings. can also trigger angry feelings.

How does the Body React To Anger?How does the Body React To Anger?How does the Body React To Anger?How does the Body React To Anger?Anger doesn’t make the “blood boil” or your Anger doesn’t make the “blood boil” or your eyes “see red”. But it does cause certain eyes “see red”. But it does cause certain changes in the body. Here’s what happens:changes in the body. Here’s what happens:

THE HEART pumps faster.THE HEART pumps faster.

BLOOD PRESSURE rises.BLOOD PRESSURE rises.

BLOODFLOW quickens.BLOODFLOW quickens.

MUSCLE tense.MUSCLE tense.

IN OTHER WORDS, the body shifts into higher IN OTHER WORDS, the body shifts into higher gear, generating energy needed for action. Learn gear, generating energy needed for action. Learn how this energy can work to your advantage or how this energy can work to your advantage or disadvantage.disadvantage.

Danger!! Danger!! Danger!!Danger!! Danger!! Danger!!Danger!! Danger!! Danger!!Danger!! Danger!! Danger!!Failing to deal with your anger Failing to deal with your anger may lead to:may lead to:

Health ProblemsHealth Problems

TensionTension

AccidentsAccidents

Interpersonal ProblemsInterpersonal Problems

Uncontrolled Anger can be Uncontrolled Anger can be DANGEROUS.DANGEROUS.

It may lead to:It may lead to:

CRIME-ABUSE-MORE CRIME-ABUSE-MORE VIOLENT BEHAVIORVIOLENT BEHAVIOR

Anger …..Anger …..Anger …..Anger …..It is important to understand anger It is important to understand anger because the way you express it can because the way you express it can be:be:

HELPFUL:HELPFUL: Venting anger can get you Venting anger can get you “fired up” so you can overcome “fired up” so you can overcome obstacles and Achieve Goals.obstacles and Achieve Goals.

HARMFUL:HARMFUL: When you ignore anger When you ignore anger or express it in a negative way, it can or express it in a negative way, it can hurt you and others.hurt you and others.

How does Anger effect Relationships…??How does Anger effect Relationships…??How does Anger effect Relationships…??How does Anger effect Relationships…??

Anger can result in domestic violence.

People who are around the angry person tend to shut down in order not to anger that person.

Others get their feelings hurt.

Other people become defiant, become indifferent, avoid you, or lose respect for the angry person.

ANGER MANAGEMENTANGER MANAGEMENTANGER MANAGEMENTANGER MANAGEMENT

Anger management does not involve getting Anger management does not involve getting rid of all anger, but using anger to enhance rid of all anger, but using anger to enhance your life. We can look at the purposes of your life. We can look at the purposes of anger in both a positive and negative light. anger in both a positive and negative light.

ANGER MANAGEMENTANGER MANAGEMENTANGER MANAGEMENTANGER MANAGEMENTThe positive aspects The positive aspects of anger are that of anger are that you have increased you have increased energy, are able to energy, are able to communicate your communicate your feelings, able to feelings, able to solve your problems solve your problems and can take charge and can take charge of of the situation. `the situation. `

ANGER MANAGEMENTANGER MANAGEMENTANGER MANAGEMENTANGER MANAGEMENTThe negative aspects The negative aspects of anger are that you of anger are that you can have disruption can have disruption of your thinking, of your thinking, unnecessarily defend unnecessarily defend yourself, become yourself, become aggressive and aggressive and become known as an become known as an angry person.angry person.

ANGER MANAGEMENTANGER MANAGEMENTANGER MANAGEMENTANGER MANAGEMENT

Anger management Anger management would be seen then as would be seen then as increasing the positive increasing the positive aspects or functions of aspects or functions of anger and decreasing anger and decreasing the negative functions the negative functions of anger.of anger.

Importance of ANGER MANAGEMENTImportance of ANGER MANAGEMENTImportance of ANGER MANAGEMENTImportance of ANGER MANAGEMENT

The goal of Anger The goal of Anger Management is to reduce Management is to reduce both your emotional both your emotional feelings and the feelings and the physiological arousal that physiological arousal that anger causes. anger causes.

You can't get rid of, or You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, people that enrage you, nor can you change them, nor can you change them, but you can learn to but you can learn to control your reactions. control your reactions.

Identify stressors and learn stress-Identify stressors and learn stress-management techniques and management techniques and relaxation skills.relaxation skills.

Take steps to establish Take steps to establish real communication skills.real communication skills.

Identify the emotional baggage Identify the emotional baggage from childhood from childhood issues.issues.

Learn to recognize your Learn to recognize your body’s reactions to anger.body’s reactions to anger.

Learn Learn to to state state youryourtrue true feelings.feelings.

Attempt to see things from Attempt to see things from the other person’s perspective.the other person’s perspective.

How to deal with angry feelings effectivelyHow to deal with angry feelings effectively

The following are some TIPS The following are some TIPS to prevent/control an Angerto prevent/control an AngerThe following are some TIPS The following are some TIPS to prevent/control an Angerto prevent/control an Anger

Learn more about your triggering event Reduce your expectation Learn self-control- delay your response Check the way you think, feel Forgive and accept others mistakes Exercise regularly Reduce alcohol, smoking, coffin Talk to someone you love Get adequate sleep

Ways to Keep Cool:1. Get exercise every day.2. Eat right.3. Get enough sleep.4. Learn to relax.5. Know your feelings.6. Write about those feelings.

Ways to Keep Cool:7. Find a quiet place.8. Take a time out.9. Find fun distractions.10. Make good decisions about what you see

and hear.11. Choose friends who make you feel good.12. Learn to forgive and forget.

1. Calm down2. Name the

problem3. Find solutions4. Pick the best

solution5. Congratulate

yourself6. Evaluate the

solution7. Make changes if

necessary

When you are ANGRY and UPSETWhen you are ANGRY and UPSETremember…remember…

1-2-3 TURTLE1-2-3 TURTLE

1 – Go inside your shell1 – Go inside your shell THINK before you ACTTHINK before you ACT Take a “Time Out”Take a “Time Out”

Time to RELAXTime to RELAX Calm yourself downCalm yourself down

2 – Take 3 Deep Breaths2 – Take 3 Deep Breaths

Think of a good solutionThink of a good solution

3–Walk Away3–Walk Away

Finally……….Finally……….

Control Your Anger Before it controls you Control Your Anger Before it controls you Since…Since…

Anger is one Anger is one letter short ofletter short of D..A..N..G..E..R!D..A..N..G..E..R!