Under the skin

Understanding the anxieties and conflicts of urban youth

1

There is a generation gap between meand my dad (parents?)

I feel disconnected with my own family. Yet there is no getting away from it

I feel a sense of inequality even within my family

2

There is a divide between what I want and what my family expects of me

I feel trapped because my dependency on family is the enemy of what I desire in life

3

DEPENDENCE DISTRESS

Dependence is the enemy of my desire

DEPENDENCE DISTRESSUnderstanding

the urban

Indian youth

I am Daddy’s pet

I love my family members from whom I have learnt something

My success is relevant only if it means something for my family

There is nothing to match family’s love especially when you are

vulnerable

6

I feel proud to be grounded

I feel worthless because my success means nothing to my family

The only people worthy of my sacrifice are my family

I want the independence but worry about losing control

8Ultimately what parents push me

for is good for me

The onus of success is squarely on me

So long as I am responsible for results I am not answerable to anyone

I feel confused about my life choices because choosing to go my way, may expose my

inabilities

“To be successful, you have to be different” (although with

a risk of getting exposed)

He joins the army against the wishes of his parents & finds

himself unable to cope initially

An IIM A pass out, he took a rather unconventional path

&chose to make a living out of his passion for cricket

Death of romance – girls want the money and boys want the trophy (girl/wife)

Real friendship is formed at school..As you grow you realize that

friendship isn’t all that it seemed

10Friends letting you down…

is the ultimate betrayal

Friends are my support system

My friends come before family

I feel betrayed because I exposed my vulnerabilities and they let me down when I

was at my most vulnerable

Death of romance – girls want the money and boys want the trophy (girl/wife)

Real friendship is formed at school.As you grow you realize that

friendship isn’t all that it seemed

11Friends letting you down…

is the ultimate betrayal

Friends are my support system

My friends come before family

I feel ashamed of myself because my friends’ success over me hurts when the stakes are

high

A reality show in which a person who doubts his/her

boyfriend's/girlfriend's loyalty, can ask for a loyalty test on him/her

“Taakiyaarikimastichalti hi rahe!”Insight: Real friendship is formed at school..As you grow you realize that friendship isn’t

all that it seemed

He/she feels bad when another participant wins at

his/her cost. Ultimately, they are all there in the battle to win

 Omkara appoints Kesu over Langda as his successor, which

makes Langda extremely disappointed & jealous of Kesu

 Result day: ”Dost fail ho jaaye to dukhhotahai, leken dost

1staajaaye to zyadadukhhotahai!”

While growing up involves giving up what I cherished, I must in order to earn my independence

Big city purposefulness over small town charm

Work and career are becoming my focus

College is my introduction to big bad world where cut throat competitiveness is life

I feel helpless because in the process of gaining my independence I end up being a slave of

society

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My ideal job would be in line with my values

I will trade off a bit of my desires for security

It’s a bad world out there, I am trying to fight it my own way

ARTIFICIAL INDEPENDENCE

Independence really means slavery of someone else

ARTIFICIAL INDEPENDENCEUnderstanding

the urban

Indian youth

HrithikRoshan’s character

I am proud of my achievements

My best is not good enough because there arehigher benchmarks around

I forever live with the fear of losing

Its no longer adequate to be merely successful unless you stand out

I fear under-achievement because everyone else uses unfair means to win

I feel scared of being powerless because the society cant be trusted to be fair

18

I want power because good guys lose

I fear under-achievement because everyone else uses unfair means to win

I feel scared of being powerless because the society cant be trusted to be fair

47%of youth think it’s ok to sleep their way to the top35%think it’s ok to cheat & lie to dowell at work60%say they would look for shortcuts to success

Deep down am alone but I would hate for this to become obvious which is why I need the pretense of relationships

I need to create a glamorous façade because the world is constantly judging me

I have things to hide and very few can be trusted withthem without judging me

I have to belong to a gang of friends and do what it does

I hate myself for what I’ve become in order to mask my vulnerability

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Deep down I know, I must bank on myself

MASK IS ME

I hate my mask but I must

MASK IS MEUnderstanding

the urban

Indian youth

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