Session 9: X3pure Men’s SeriesSobriety Sheets: Part II

Review

ReviewUnwanted Sexual Behavior

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Review

White-Knuckle Change||

Abstinence||

Relapse

Real Change||

Understanding of Physiology||

Abstinence||

Acceptance of Conditional Love||

Pursuit of Unconditional Love

Unwanted Sexual Behavior||

Review

• Three Triggers

Review

• Three Triggers

Review

- Sexual

• Three Triggers

Review

- Sexual

- Non-Sexual Environmental

• Three Triggers

Review

- Sexual

- Non-Sexual Environmental

- Non-Sexual Emotional

• Three Triggers

Review

- Sexual

- Non-Sexual Environmental

- Non-Sexual Emotional

• Remedy Actions

The Nature of Abstinence

The Nature of Abstinence• Bad News: You will be triggered

The Nature of Abstinence• Bad News: You will be triggered

• Good News: The longer you have been sober, and the more you understand yourself and what triggers lead you to act out sexually, the easier remaining sober will be.

Escape Plan

Escape Plan• Mental and Physical Reminders

Escape Plan• Mental and Physical Reminders

- Remember, when you are triggered, and dopamine is released to the Prefrontal Cortex – the reasoning part of the brain – your ability to make good decisions about your behavior begins to slow down.

Escape Plan• Mental and Physical Reminders

- Remember, when you are triggered, and dopamine is released to the Prefrontal Cortex – the reasoning part of the brain – your ability to make good decisions about your behavior begins to slow down.

- The sooner you stop the flow of dopamine to your prefrontal context, the easier it will be for you to maintain your sobriety.

Escape Plan• Mental and Physical Reminders

- Remember, when you are triggered, and dopamine is released to the Prefrontal Cortex – the reasoning part of the brain – your ability to make good decisions about your behavior begins to slow down.

- The sooner you stop the flow of dopamine to your prefrontal context, the easier it will be for you to maintain your sobriety.

- The sooner you stop your exposure to your trigger, or entertaining sexual thoughts, the easier it will be to remain sober.

Mental and Physical Reminders

• Memorize bible verses

Mental and Physical Reminders

• Memorize bible verses

Mental and Physical Reminders

• List of what matters most

• Memorize bible verses

Mental and Physical Reminders

• List of what matters most

• Wrist rubber bands

Confession

• God

Confession

• God

Confession

• Accountability Partner

Focus on the “Yes”

Focus on the “Yes” • Instead of focusing on the things that frustrate you in life, or the things that tempt you, you focus on the healthy things that bring you an immense amount of pleasure, chief among these is your God-given purpose.

Other Fun Activities

Other Fun Activities• What are your passions? What do you love?

Other Fun Activities• What are your passions? What do you love?

• James 4:14 “Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.”

Revisit & Update Trigger Lists

Revisit & Update Trigger Lists• The key to discovering the peace and joy of sobriety are your triggers

Revisit & Update Trigger Lists• The key to discovering the peace and joy of sobriety are your triggers

• Sobriety Sheets

Assignment

Assignment• Start filling out “Escape Plan”