Why ‘Equallyoked’?Why ‘Equallyoked’?A few motives of ‘equallyokedtarian’ couplesA few motives of ‘equallyokedtarian’ couples

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Social MotivesSocial Motives

• ‘Equallyokedtarian’ couples claim to select mates and marry for a variety of reasons.1

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Some reasons are - Beliefs:Some reasons are - Beliefs:

(1.)…about life,…..couples living in a complex multicultural society choose

equallyoked relationships as the best personal security to provide psychosocial stability and social resilience.1

(2.)…self-image,… ..individuals in an ‘equallyoked’ relationship usually have ‘excellent’

insight into ‘self-image’ thus affecting their ‘good self esteem.’ 2

(3.)…truth,….. usually have - a clear self-image of ‘who I am’ as a human being

not merely a ‘robot’ in a mix of multicultural confusion.3

(4.)…God,… .. ‘equallyoked’ couples honor God – ‘who created me as I am.’3

(5.)…death..…unequallyoked is a sin,.. by not sinning,.. …having an afterlife.4

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BondingBonding

Bonding (identifying and personal attaching):

(1.) ...for long term love,…– ..by heartfelt ‘falling in love’ with someone of similar

‘civil identity’- in accordance with ‘social mores’…1

(2.)…romance,…– ..a feeling of loveliness, as an ‘equally yoked’ couple,

affirmation of gender identity, and mutually pleasant interactive affection for each other…2

(3.)..sex…– ..phermonal and physically intimate arousal. 3

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MarriageMarriage

Marriage:

(1.) …family,…– …his and her families ‘accept’ one another in

accordance with valuable established ‘social mores’.1

(2.) …children,… – .. An equallyoked couple - planned pregnancy, having

a baby together, …or a ‘blended’ family.2

(3.) …financial goals…– ..each of equallyoked individuals have a family with

with financial security in an economic community.3

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Self EsteemSelf Esteem

Self image and Self esteem:

• ..individuals as ‘equally yoked’ couples.. ..with a clear sense of “Self” marry a partner of a ‘like’ (or similar) civil identity.1

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Family IdentityFamily Identity

• Family identity: to properly maintain the integrity of the extended family identity.1

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Social MoresSocial Mores

• As social mores –

...a preserved standard in a multicultural society for the sake of community (biopsychosocial) health. 1

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Some “Suggested” SchoolsSome “Suggested” Schools

• Liberty U., Lee U., Houghton Coll., Southern Adventist U.,Liberty U., Lee U., Houghton Coll., Southern Adventist U., Johnson U., Johnson U., California Lutheran U., Northland Coll., Milligan Coll., Coll. of the Ozarks, California Lutheran U., Northland Coll., Milligan Coll., Coll. of the Ozarks, Cedarville U., Anderson U., Samford U., Bryan Coll., Corban U., Hendrix Coll., Cedarville U., Anderson U., Samford U., Bryan Coll., Corban U., Hendrix Coll., Southwestern U., Centre Coll., Bethel Coll., Central Coll., Eastern U., Belmont Southwestern U., Centre Coll., Bethel Coll., Central Coll., Eastern U., Belmont U., Luther Coll., Eastern Mennonite U., Southern Methodist U., Macalester Coll., U., Luther Coll., Eastern Mennonite U., Southern Methodist U., Macalester Coll., Muhlenberg Coll., Gustavus Adolphus Coll., George Fox U., Southeastern U., Muhlenberg Coll., Gustavus Adolphus Coll., George Fox U., Southeastern U., Emory U., St. Olaf Coll., Hope Coll., Roberts Wesleyan Coll., Concordia U., NE, Emory U., St. Olaf Coll., Hope Coll., Roberts Wesleyan Coll., Concordia U., NE, DePauw U., Whitworth U., Lafayette Coll., Wittenberg U., Taylor U., Abilene DePauw U., Whitworth U., Lafayette Coll., Wittenberg U., Taylor U., Abilene Christian U., Sewanee-U.of the South, Valparaiso U., Texas Christian U., Ohio Christian U., Sewanee-U.of the South, Valparaiso U., Texas Christian U., Ohio Wesleyan U., Franklin Coll., Ouachita Baptist U., U. of Mobile, Gordon Coll., Wesleyan U., Franklin Coll., Ouachita Baptist U., U. of Mobile, Gordon Coll., Covenant Coll., California Baptist U., Millsaps Coll.,, Goshen Coll., Allegheny Covenant Coll., California Baptist U., Millsaps Coll.,, Goshen Coll., Allegheny Coll., Union U., Westmont Coll., Union U., Westmont Coll., Waynesburg U., Coll., Union U., Westmont Coll., Union U., Westmont Coll., Waynesburg U., Biola U., Wheaton Coll., Regent U., Presbyterian Coll., Baylor U., Davidson Biola U., Wheaton Coll., Regent U., Presbyterian Coll., Baylor U., Davidson Coll., Rhodes Coll., Transylvania U., Pepperdine U., Wofford Coll., Oklahoma Coll., Rhodes Coll., Transylvania U., Pepperdine U., Wofford Coll., Oklahoma Baptist U., Indiana Wesleyan U., Trinity U., Asbury U., Hanover Coll., Chapman Baptist U., Indiana Wesleyan U., Trinity U., Asbury U., Hanover Coll., Chapman U., Messiah Coll., Nebraska Wesleyan U.,, Illinois Coll., Augustana Coll. – SD, U., Messiah Coll., Nebraska Wesleyan U.,, Illinois Coll., Augustana Coll. – SD, Point Loma Nazarene U., Erskine Coll., Augsburg Coll., Calvin Coll., Azusa Point Loma Nazarene U., Erskine Coll., Augsburg Coll., Calvin Coll., Azusa Pacific U., Concordia Coll., U. of Evansville, North Central Coll., Vanguard U. of Pacific U., Concordia Coll., U. of Evansville, North Central Coll., Vanguard U. of SoCal, Seattle Pacific U., Oklahoma Christian U., Patrick Henry Coll., Albion SoCal, Seattle Pacific U., Oklahoma Christian U., Patrick Henry Coll., Albion Coll., LeTourneau U., Oral Roberts U., John Brown U.John Brown U., Coll., LeTourneau U., Oral Roberts U., John Brown U.John Brown U., Oklahoma City U., Wartburg Coll., Alma Coll., U. of Tulsa, Grove City Coll., Oklahoma City U., Wartburg Coll., Alma Coll., U. of Tulsa, Grove City Coll., Belhaven U., American U. Belhaven U., American U.

““Be ye not unequally yoked…” Be ye not unequally yoked…”

II Corinthians 6:14II Corinthians 6:14

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