Unit 5 The Tapestry of Unit 5 The Tapestry of FriendshipFriendship

I. IntroductionI. Introduction

Do you keep in touch with your childhood Do you keep in touch with your childhood friends?friends?

What do you keep friends for?What do you keep friends for?

SongSong

　　　　 The theme song is called "I'll Be There FThe theme song is called "I'll Be There For You." It is sung by the Rembrandts. The muor You." It is sung by the Rembrandts. The music is by Michael Skloff and the lyrics by Allee sic is by Michael Skloff and the lyrics by Allee Willis. Willis. 　　

　　　　

Lyrics: Lyrics:

　　　　

　　 So no one told you So no one told you was gonna be this w was gonna be this way [four claps]ay [four claps]　　

　　 Your job's a joke, you're Your job's a joke, you're , your love lif, your love life's D.O.A. e's D.O.A.

(life,broke)(life,broke) 　　 　　　　　　

　　 It's like you're always It's like you're always in second geain second gearr　　

　　 When it hasn't been your day, your weWhen it hasn't been your day, your week, your month, or even your year ek, your month, or even your year

(stuck)(stuck)

　　 CHORUS:CHORUS:　　

　　　　 but I'll be there for you but I'll be there for you 　　　　 (When the rain starts to (When the rain starts to ) ) 　　

　　　　 I'll be there for you I'll be there for you 　　　　 (Like I've been there (Like I've been there ) )

(pour,before)(pour,before)　　

　　

　　 I'll be there for you I'll be there for you 　　　　 ('Cause you're there for me too) ('Cause you're there for me too) 　　

　　　　 Then, the extended version continues with:Then, the extended version continues with: 　　　　 You're still in bed at ten and work began at eightYou're still in bed at ten and work began at eight 　　　　 You've burned your breakfast; so far, things are goYou've burned your breakfast; so far, things are go

ing greating great 　　　　 Your mother warned you there'd be days like theseYour mother warned you there'd be days like these 　　　　 But she didn't tell you when the world has brought But she didn't tell you when the world has brought

you down to your kneesyou down to your knees　　

CHORUSCHORUS

BRIDGE:BRIDGE:　　

No one could ever No one could ever me, no one could ever see meme, no one could ever see me Seems you're the Seems you're the who knows what it's like to be who knows what it's like to be

meme Someone to Someone to the day with, make it through all the rest wit the day with, make it through all the rest wit

hh Someone I'll always Someone I'll always with with

(know only one face laugh )(know only one face laugh )

　　

Even at my worst, I'm best with youEven at my worst, I'm best with you　　

Yeah!Yeah!　　

It's like you're always stuck in second gearIt's like you're always stuck in second gear　　

When it hasn't been your day, your week, your month,When it hasn't been your day, your week, your month, or even your year, but or even your year, but　　

　　　　 CHORUSCHORUS

Friendship (famous)Friendship (famous)

"My friends are my estate.""My friends are my estate."- Emily Dickinson- Emily Dickinson

"I can never think of promoting my "I can never think of promoting my convenience at the expense of a friend's convenience at the expense of a friend's interest and inclination."interest and inclination."- George Washington, (as above)- George Washington, (as above)

"True happiness consists not in the multitude "True happiness consists not in the multitude of friends, but in their worth and choice."of friends, but in their worth and choice."- Samuel Johnston, (as above)- Samuel Johnston, (as above)

"The only reward of virtue is virtue; the only "The only reward of virtue is virtue; the only way to have a friend is to be one."way to have a friend is to be one."- Ralph Waldo Emerson- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Negative quotesNegative quotes

"A woman can become a man's friend only in the foll"A woman can become a man's friend only in the following stages - first an acquantance, next a mistress, aowing stages - first an acquantance, next a mistress, and only then a friend." nd only then a friend." - Anton Chekhov- Anton Chekhov

"Men kick friendship around like a football and it doe"Men kick friendship around like a football and it doesn't seem to crack. Women treat it like glass and it fallsn't seem to crack. Women treat it like glass and it falls to pieces"s to pieces" -Anne Lindbergh - Sent in by Sandy Macbeth-Anne Lindbergh - Sent in by Sandy Macbeth

"A friend in power is a friend lost" "A friend in power is a friend lost" - Henry Adams, sent by Troy Edwards- Henry Adams, sent by Troy Edwards

Religious quotesReligious quotes

"Friends always show their love. What are brothers fo"Friends always show their love. What are brothers for if not to share troubles?"r if not to share troubles?"- Proverbs 17:17- Proverbs 17:17

"Some friendships do not last, but some friends are m"Some friendships do not last, but some friends are more loyal than brothers."ore loyal than brothers."- Proverbs 18:24 - Proverbs 18:24

"Forsake not an old friend; for the new is not compar"Forsake not an old friend; for the new is not comparable to him: a new friend is as new wine; when it is olable to him: a new friend is as new wine; when it is old, thou shall drink it with pleasure."d, thou shall drink it with pleasure."- Sirach 9:10- Sirach 9:10

International Friendship Day International Friendship Day

        August 6August 6 is is International Friendship DayInternational Friendship Day for 2006, for 2006, time to recognize your friends and their contribution time to recognize your friends and their contribution to your life. Friendship helps to bring peace and to your life. Friendship helps to bring peace and positivism to the globe - a great reason to celebrate! positivism to the globe - a great reason to celebrate!

Friendship Day occurs on the first Sunday of August Friendship Day occurs on the first Sunday of August - only once a year - so make the most of it! :) - only once a year - so make the most of it! :)

Friends come in many shapes, sizes and guises: Friends come in many shapes, sizes and guises: school friends, work colleagues, siblings, partners, school friends, work colleagues, siblings, partners, parents, pets and neighbors. Pull out all the stops and parents, pets and neighbors. Pull out all the stops and

Men v.s.women friendshipMen v.s.women friendship

"The difference between men friends and wom"The difference between men friends and women friends is that men tend to do things togetheen friends is that men tend to do things together, women tend to just be together."r, women tend to just be together."-Art Jahnke -Art Jahnke

In childhood girls talk about school, clothes, and their In childhood girls talk about school, clothes, and their wishes and needs. wishes and needs.

Boys on the other hand talk about sports, motors, and Boys on the other hand talk about sports, motors, and locations (Fehr, Beverley 1996, p. 199). Men have a tlocations (Fehr, Beverley 1996, p. 199). Men have a tendency to avoid a high degree of intimacy with each endency to avoid a high degree of intimacy with each other, but do however acknowledge intimacy and frieother, but do however acknowledge intimacy and friendship in the form of joking and laughter. ndship in the form of joking and laughter.

Women talk about themselves, their feelings, doubts, Women talk about themselves, their feelings, doubts, fears, love relationships, families, homes, and problefears, love relationships, families, homes, and problems. ms.

Men talk about competition and aggression, and thingMen talk about competition and aggression, and things they have seen or heard. They discuss work, sports, s they have seen or heard. They discuss work, sports, politics, social issues, money, business, cars, weather, politics, social issues, money, business, cars, weather, and traffic (Monsour, p. 147) "Men's friendships are oand traffic (Monsour, p. 147) "Men's friendships are often built around shared activities attending a ball gaften built around shared activities attending a ball game, playing cards, working on a project at the office." me, playing cards, working on a project at the office." (Devito, p. 371) (Devito, p. 371)

Woman friendshipWoman friendship

"Friendship is not possible between two wome"Friendship is not possible between two women one of whom is very well dressed."n one of whom is very well dressed."-Laurie Colwin -Laurie Colwin

Girls Girls feel the strongest when leaned on.feel the strongest when leaned on. the benefit of having someone to talk to is the the benefit of having someone to talk to is the

backbone to maintaining a close relationshipbackbone to maintaining a close relationship "Communication, in all its forms and function "Communication, in all its forms and functions, seems much a much more important dimensis, seems much a much more important dimension of women's friendships." (Devito, p. 371) on of women's friendships." (Devito, p. 371)

The nurturing aspect of a woman is brought thrThe nurturing aspect of a woman is brought through the relationshipough the relationship

Their senses of nurturing follow most of the ruTheir senses of nurturing follow most of the rules of friendship just by being there and talking les of friendship just by being there and talking with their friends, which helps maintain a stronwith their friends, which helps maintain a strong relationship (Argyle, P. 120). g relationship (Argyle, P. 120).

"Women honor friendship and love their friend"Women honor friendship and love their friends; two women can be seen as open, honest, wars; two women can be seen as open, honest, warm, and helpful to each other as the best blood m, and helpful to each other as the best blood or love relations;or love relations;

most women are far more empathetic and emomost women are far more empathetic and emotionally intimate with their casual friends, and tionally intimate with their casual friends, and that is what makes them close friends." (Pogrethat is what makes them close friends." (Pogrebin, p. 280) bin, p. 280)

Men friendshipMen friendship

MenMen

storytelling storytelling

sharing them with otherssharing them with others

laughing about them amongst each other (Monslaughing about them amongst each other (Monsour, p. 144). "The one thing men do not trade our, p. 144). "The one thing men do not trade with their buddies is the truth about them," (Ruwith their buddies is the truth about them," (Rubin, p. 244).bin, p. 244).

men resist comforting their male friends men resist comforting their male friends

simply because they are too accustomed to comsimply because they are too accustomed to competing with them (Monsour, p. 145). Telling thpeting with them (Monsour, p. 145). Telling the truth would mean admitting some loss, and ne truth would mean admitting some loss, and no man can afford to reveal his losses to the coo man can afford to reveal his losses to the competitor (another man).mpetitor (another man).

By late adolescence the male emotions are welBy late adolescence the male emotions are well defended. The man can allow another man to l defended. The man can allow another man to call a man a fat ass, and not be offended. "If a call a man a fat ass, and not be offended. "If a slightly overweight friend is hurting, he takes islightly overweight friend is hurting, he takes it "like a man"; he suffers in silence (Fehr, p. 1t "like a man"; he suffers in silence (Fehr, p. 187).87).

Buddies:Buddies:chumchum companioncompanion comradecomrade friend pal friend pal

partnerpartner

1 A good friend; a comrade. 1 A good friend; a comrade. 2 A partner, especially one of a pair or tea2 A partner, especially one of a pair or tea

m associated under the buddy system. m associated under the buddy system. 3 Friend or comrade; chum. 3 Friend or comrade; chum. a bosom buddy a bosom buddy 好朋友好朋友 ,, 密友密友

Watch it,buddy. Watch it,buddy. 兄弟，当心兄弟，当心

Get out of my way, buddy! Get out of my way, buddy! 滚开，你这个家伙！滚开，你这个家伙！

Hi,buddy! good to see you here. Hi,buddy! good to see you here. 你好，老兄！很高兴在这儿见到你。你好，老兄！很高兴在这儿见到你。

Yesterday I met my ace buddy in the streYesterday I met my ace buddy in the street unexpectedly. et unexpectedly.

昨天我在街上无意之中碰到了我最好的朋友。昨天我在街上无意之中碰到了我最好的朋友。

II. Text AnalysisII. Text Analysis

The text distinguishes two kinds of The text distinguishes two kinds of friendship:friendship:

that between men and that between that between men and that between women.women.

Para 1-2Para 1-2

The author reveals what kind of film the woman haThe author reveals what kind of film the woman had just seen and what attitude she had to it.d just seen and what attitude she had to it.

Qs:Qs:1.1. What kind of film did she see?What kind of film did she see?Portrayed all aspects of friendship between two women: Portrayed all aspects of friendship between two women:

its fragility, its resiliency and its connecting functioits fragility, its resiliency and its connecting function. No car chase of fierce funfight.n. No car chase of fierce funfight.

2.What did she think of it?2.What did she think of it?

Gentle and movingGentle and moving

- It was, in many ways, a slight movie.- It was, in many ways, a slight movie.

In many aspects , it was a simple, ordinary In many aspects , it was a simple, ordinary movie.movie.

- big-budget chase scene:big-budget chase scene:

A car-chase scene that costs a lot of moneyA car-chase scene that costs a lot of money

-cosmic-cosmic

1)1) very greatvery great

Eg: The earthquake was a disaster of ~ scale.Eg: The earthquake was a disaster of ~ scale.

2)relating to the universe2)relating to the universe

What happens in their lives is influenced by ~ foWhat happens in their lives is influenced by ~ forces.rces.

Affecting: Affecting: Inspiring or capable of inspiring Inspiring or capable of inspiring

strong emotion; movingstrong emotion; moving an affecting scenean affecting scene 惨状惨状

an affecting sightan affecting sight 动人的情景动人的情景

-slowly, it panned across the tapestry of -slowly, it panned across the tapestry of friendship…friendship…

Step by step it gave an all-sided view of the Step by step it gave an all-sided view of the complex structure of friendship…complex structure of friendship…

Tapestry:Tapestry:1 A heavy cloth woven with rich, often varicolored desig1 A heavy cloth woven with rich, often varicolored desig

ns or scenes, usually hung on walls for decoration and ns or scenes, usually hung on walls for decoration and sometimes used to cover furniture. sometimes used to cover furniture.

tapestry carpettapestry carpet 用染色经线织成图案的地毯用染色经线织成图案的地毯

tapestry satintapestry satin 织锦缎织锦缎

2 Something felt to resemble a richly and complexly desi2 Something felt to resemble a richly and complexly designed cloth: gned cloth: the tapestry of world history.the tapestry of world history.

vintage tapestry pillowvintage tapestry pillow

Budget:Budget:

a family budgeta family budget家庭收支预算家庭收支预算

budget planbudget plan分期付款分期付款

You have a budget of letters on your desk.You have a budget of letters on your desk.在你的桌子上有一大堆信件。在你的桌子上有一大堆信件。

Vt.Vt.

budget one‘s timebudget one‘s time安排自己的时间安排自己的时间

vi.vi.

budget for the projectbudget for the project为工程编制预算为工程编制预算

Adj.Adj.

a budgetdressa budgetdress廉价的服装廉价的服装

drasticdrastic

adj.adj. a drastic remedya drastic remedy 烈性的药物烈性的药物

take drastic measurestake drastic measures 采取果断措施采取果断措施 [[ 激烈手段激烈手段 ]]

drastic purgativesdrastic purgatives 猛 泻药猛 泻药

a drastic debatea drastic debate 激烈的辩论激烈的辩论

make drastic changemake drastic change 做彻底的改变做彻底的改变

Flick:Flick:crackcrack flipflip jerkjerk snapsnap strikestrike

n.n. By a flick of his whip, he drove the fly from thBy a flick of his whip, he drove the fly from th

e horse's head.e horse's head. 他用鞭子轻抽了一下他用鞭子轻抽了一下 , , 将马头上的苍蝇驱走。将马头上的苍蝇驱走。

vi.vi. He flicked at the spot with a napkin.He flicked at the spot with a napkin. 他用餐巾轻轻 擦了一下这块斑迹。他用餐巾轻轻 擦了一下这块斑迹。

to flick the switch to flick the switch 轻轻地按开关轻轻地按开关

He hit the ball with just a flick of the wHe hit the ball with just a flick of the wrist. rist.

＂他只用手腕轻轻一抖，打出了那个球。＂＂他只用手腕轻轻一抖，打出了那个球。＂

He turns the pancake over with a stronHe turns the pancake over with a strong flick of his wrist. g flick of his wrist.

他一抖腕子就把饼翻过来了。他一抖腕子就把饼翻过来了。

He swished off the tops of the grasses with a He swished off the tops of the grasses with a flick of his cane. flick of his cane.

他用藤条轻轻地打掉了草尖。他用藤条轻轻地打掉了草尖。

By a flick of his whip,he drove the fly from tBy a flick of his whip,he drove the fly from the horse's head. he horse's head.

他用鞭子轻抽了一下，将马头上的苍蝇驱走。他用鞭子轻抽了一下，将马头上的苍蝇驱走。

Trendy:Trendy:Of or in accord with the latest fad or fashionOf or in accord with the latest fad or fashion

trendy clothes.trendy clothes. Look at that trendy couple - kitted up all thLook at that trendy couple - kitted up all th

e latest gear! e latest gear! 瞧那对时髦夫妇，打扮多么入时。瞧那对时髦夫妇，打扮多么入时。

The trendy rock group is only a flash - in - tThe trendy rock group is only a flash - in - the - pan. he - pan.

这个新潮摇滚乐队只是昙花一现。这个新潮摇滚乐队只是昙花一现。

Regional stereotypes have been part of AmeRegional stereotypes have been part of America since its founding.Westerners are trendrica since its founding.Westerners are trendy,Midwesterners are dull,Northeasterners ay,Midwesterners are dull,Northeasterners are brainy,and Southerners are lazy(Brad Edre brainy,and Southerners are lazy(Brad Edmondson) mondson)

地区性旧习自从美国确立起就成为它的一部分…西部人时髦，中西部人木讷，东北部人机智，南方地区性旧习自从美国确立起就成为它的一部分…西部人时髦，中西部人木讷，东北部人机智，南方人懒惰人懒惰 ((布拉德布拉德 ··埃德蒙森埃德蒙森 ))

BingeBinge

A drunken spree or revel. A drunken spree or revel. A period of unrestrained, immoderate self-indulgence. A period of unrestrained, immoderate self-indulgence. A period of excessive or uncontrolled indulgence in food or drinA period of excessive or uncontrolled indulgence in food or drin

k: k: an eating binge.an eating binge. Vi.Vi.

To be immoderately self-indulgent and unrestrained:To be immoderately self-indulgent and unrestrained:Eg: “The story is like a fever dream that a disturbed and imaEg: “The story is like a fever dream that a disturbed and ima

ginative city-dweller might have after binging on comicginative city-dweller might have after binging on comics” (Lloyd Rose). s” (Lloyd Rose).

To engage in excessive or uncontrolled indulgence in fooTo engage in excessive or uncontrolled indulgence in food or drink. d or drink.

a week-end bingea week-end binge 周末狂饮周末狂饮

a shopping binge a shopping binge 抢购抢购

a gambling binge; a gambling binge; 嗜赌狂；嗜赌狂；

An eating binge. An eating binge. 暴食暴食

an orgy of spending. an orgy of spending. 无节制消费无节制消费

They went on a binge last night. They went on a binge last night. 他们昨夜出去狂饮作乐。他们昨夜出去狂饮作乐。

University of Michigan student dies from drUniversity of Michigan student dies from drinking binge. inking binge.

密伊根大学生饮酒致死。密伊根大学生饮酒致死。

Were the players on the binge again last nigWere the players on the binge again last night? ht?

昨晚运动员们又饮酒作乐了？昨晚运动员们又饮酒作乐了？

primalprimal

Money was a primal necessity to them.Money was a primal necessity to them. 对于他们对于他们 ,, 钱是主要的需要。钱是主要的需要。

attachmentattachment

an attachment to one's motherlandan attachment to one's motherland 对祖国的忠诚对祖国的忠诚

the attachments of a bicyclethe attachments of a bicycle 自行车的零件自行车的零件

adversityadversityafflictionaffliction disasterdisaster distressdistress griefgrief hardshiphardship misfortunemisfortune troubletrouble

n. n. Mr. Huang has been a good friend to me in adMr. Huang has been a good friend to me in ad

versity or in prosperity.versity or in prosperity. 不管我处于逆境还是顺境不管我处于逆境还是顺境 , , 黄先生一直是我的好友。黄先生一直是我的好友。

A friend is known in adversity.A friend is known in adversity. 在患难之中才能看出在患难之中才能看出 (( 真假真假 )) 朋友。朋友。

A-is a good disciplineA-is a good discipline A-is a great schoolmaster.A-is a great schoolmaster. .[.[ 谚谚 ]] 逆境是锻炼人的最好场所。逆境是锻炼人的最好场所。

A-makes strange bedfellows.A-makes strange bedfellows.

[[ 谚谚 ]] 难中不择友难中不择友 ,, 饥不择食。饥不择食。 A-acquaints men with strange bedfellows.A-acquaints men with strange bedfellows.

Palpable:Palpable:

a palpable mistakea palpable mistake 明显的错误明显的错误

palpable resultspalpable results 具体可见的成果具体可见的成果

Accessory:Accessory:accompliceaccomplice additionaddition assistantassistant

contributorycontributory extraextra supplementsupplement accessory of a bicycleaccessory of a bicycle 自行车的附件（附属的）装饰品，搭配物自行车的附件（附属的）装饰品，搭配物

从犯；帮凶从犯；帮凶 (= accessary)(= accessary)

confidenceconfidence

a vote of confidencea vote of confidence 信任投票信任投票

confidence in currencyconfidence in currency 对货币的信任对货币的信任

business confidencebusiness confidence 经营信心经营信心

I'm telling you this in strict confidence.I'm telling you this in strict confidence. 我告诉你此事系绝密。我告诉你此事系绝密。

She lacks confidence in herself.She lacks confidence in herself. 她缺乏自信心。她缺乏自信心。

We have full confidence that we shall succeed.We have full confidence that we shall succeed. 我们完全有把握取得成功。我们完全有把握取得成功。

He has the confidence to deny it.He has the confidence to deny it. 他竟有胆量否认它。他竟有胆量否认它。

with (great) confidencewith (great) confidence 很有把握地， 满怀信心地很有把握地， 满怀信心地

Restraint: Restraint: incitementincitement

His rage was beyond restraint.His rage was beyond restraint. 他怒不可遏。他怒不可遏。

I am under no restraint whatever.I am under no restraint whatever. 我不受任何束缚。我不受任何束缚。

restraint of traderestraint of trade 贸易限制贸易限制

restraint on export and importrestraint on export and import 限制进出口限制进出口

Grievance:Grievance:

The trade union leader spoke about the grievanThe trade union leader spoke about the grievances of the workers.ces of the workers.

工会领袖述说工人们的苦情。工会领袖述说工人们的苦情。

have a grievance against sb.have a grievance against sb.怀恨某人怀恨某人 ; ; 对对 ...... 心怀不满心怀不满

pour out grievancepour out grievance 诉苦诉苦

I cannot be your friend and your flatterer too.I cannot be your friend and your flatterer too.朋友不能阿谀奉承。 朋友不能阿谀奉承。

Keep good men company and you shall be of the numKeep good men company and you shall be of the number.ber.近朱者赤，近墨者黑。 近朱者赤，近墨者黑。 Life without a friend is death.Life without a friend is death.没有朋友，虽生犹死。 没有朋友，虽生犹死。

He is a good friend that speaks well of us behind our He is a good friend that speaks well of us behind our backs.backs.背后说好话，才是真朋友。 背后说好话，才是真朋友。

Everything is good when new, but friends wheEverything is good when new, but friends when old.n old.东西是新的好，朋友是老的亲。 东西是新的好，朋友是老的亲。 Friends agree best at distance.Friends agree best at distance.朋友之间也会保持距离。 朋友之间也会保持距离。 Friends are thieves of time.Friends are thieves of time.朋友是时间的窃贼。 朋友是时间的窃贼。 Friends must part.Friends must part.再好的朋友也有分手的时候。 再好的朋友也有分手的时候。

Birds of a feather flock together.Birds of a feather flock together.物以类聚，人以群分。 物以类聚，人以群分。

Books and friends should be few but good.Books and friends should be few but good.读书如交友，应求少而精。 读书如交友，应求少而精。

Choose an author as you choose a friend.Choose an author as you choose a friend.择书如择友。 择书如择友。

Even reckoning makes long friends.Even reckoning makes long friends.亲兄弟，明算账。 亲兄弟，明算账。

A good book is a good friend.A good book is a good friend.好书如挚友。 好书如挚友。 A good book is the best of friends, the same today anA good book is the best of friends, the same today and forever.d forever.一本好书，相伴一生。 一本好书，相伴一生。 hedge between keeps friendship green.hedge between keeps friendship green.君子之交淡如水。 君子之交淡如水。 A joke never gains an enemy but loses a friend.A joke never gains an enemy but loses a friend.戏谑不能化敌为友，只能使人失去朋友。 戏谑不能化敌为友，只能使人失去朋友。 A man is known by his friends.A man is known by his friends.什么人交什么朋友。 什么人交什么朋友。

A friend in need is a friend indeed.A friend in need is a friend indeed.患难见真情。 患难见真情。 A friend is easier lost than found.A friend is easier lost than found.得朋友难，失朋友易。 得朋友难，失朋友易。 A friend is never known till a man has need.A friend is never known till a man has need.需要之时方知友。 需要之时方知友。 A friend without faults will never be found.A friend without faults will never be found.没有十全十美的朋友。 没有十全十美的朋友。