We invite and encourage EVERYONE to come together for cocktails, dinner and dancing to a live band at thebeautiful Mountain Ridge Country Club as we honor our special friends from three generations for their

dedication and love of temple. Our Honorees:

5th Annual Dinner Dance Fundraiser5th Annual Dinner Dance Fundraiser5th Annual Dinner Dance Fundraiser5th Annual Dinner Dance Fundraiser5th Annual Dinner Dance Fundraiser

HERE IS WHAT PEOPLE HAVE SAID ABOUT PAST GALA DINNER EVENTS:“In our temple’s long history there has always been theONE event, the Annual Dinner Dance — in one form or another— that brings us together as a family, that spans thegenerations and becomes our communal simcha. Come becausewe honor our members who work so hard to make us who we are.Come to support our congregation. But most of all, come becauseit’s a delightful, gracious exciting evening and a heck of a lot of fun.”Annette and Harold Littman

“As a group of 4 couples we bid TOGETHER on the cookingclass at the auction and WON. We all had a great time at thedance and that evening was further enhanced by cooking andeating together on another evening with our TSTI friends.” Ellen and Irv Barocas

Breena Fishback Barbara and David Stoller Mimi Braun

“A great pick me up on a week night—we always go and have agreat time socializing with all of our temple friends!!!!!” Cindy Sobelman

“We look forward to the Annual Dinner Dance each year, as it’s awonderful way to reconnect with friends from TSTI in a festiveenvironment, with great food, lively dancing and a chance totake home something fun from one of the auctions! Andrea Baum

We are always thrilled to be able to share this special night withour Temple friends and support our Congregation. This is animportant part of our role as dedicated members and lay leadership.Gail Barry

CONGREGATIONAL MEETING Wednesday, May 18 at 7:30 P.M.Be part of the Conversation about TSTI’s Future Plans

Thursday May 19th at Mountain Ridge CThursday May 19th at Mountain Ridge CThursday May 19th at Mountain Ridge CThursday May 19th at Mountain Ridge CThursday May 19th at Mountain Ridge Country Clubountry Clubountry Clubountry Clubountry Club

Great Live and Silent Auction Items -- Incredible Bargains!Golfers . . . Participate in a Tournament in the Afternoon on the Renowned,

Donald Ross Designed Mountain Ridge Country Club Golf Course.

ClergyRabbi Daniel M. Cohen, D.Min.Rabbi Ellie Lynn Miller, M.A.R.E.Rabbi Harvey S. Goldman, EmeritusRabbi Herbert Weiner, EmeritusCantor Theodore AronsonCantor Joan Finn

Lay LeadershipHope Pomerantz, PresidentGail Barry, VPMax Weisenfeld, VPJay Rice, VPWendy Ferber, VPRobert Ozer, VPDavid Leit, VPNancy Fogel, VPJesse Bayer, TreasurerLynne Crawford, Secretary

Executive DirectorLeslie Y. SpornSchool DirectorsCarol Paster, PreschoolPia Kutten, Religious SchoolProgram DirectorTracy Horwitz, LSWJFS Social Worker at TSTIBeth Sandweiss, MA, MSWBulletinSunny Seglin

Phone: 973-763-4116

MEMBER CONGREGATIONUNION FOR REFORM JUDAISM

Schedule of ServicesSchedule of ServicesSchedule of ServicesSchedule of ServicesSchedule of Services

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Contact us at info@tstinj.orgVisit our website at www.tsti.orgPh: 973-763-4116 Fax: 973-763-3941

Sunday, May 1Interfaith Holocaust RemembranceService at Congregation Beth El,7:00 P.M.

Friday, May 6EmorShabbat Service, 7:30 P.M.Bass Sanctuary Building

Saturday, May 7Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M.Gross Bet MidrashBar Mitzvah of Zachary Gold 10:30 A.M.

Friday, May 13BeharShabbat Service, 6:00 P.M.Bass Sanctuary Building

Saturday, May 14Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M.Gross Bet MidrashBat Mitzvah of Jamie Cutler, 10:15 A.M.Bat Mitzvah of Julia Kaufmann,10:30 A.M.

Friday, May 20BechokotaiShabbat Service, 7:30 P.M.Bass Sanctuary Building

Saturday, May 21Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M.Gross Bet MidrashBar Mitzvah of Desalegn Aronson, 10:15 A.M.Bar Mitzvah of David Nadel, 10:30 A.M.

Friday, May 27BamidbarShabbat Service, 6:00 P.M.Bass Sanctuary Building

Saturday, May 28Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M.Gross Bet Midrash

CARING COMMUNITYVOLUNTEERAPPRECIATION NIGHT

Please join us on Tuesday May 24, 7:30 pm for our annualVOLUNTEER APPRECIATION night. This is a wonderfulopportunity for our volunteers to get together to talkabout their experiences from the past year, enjoy somerefreshments, and meet other volunteers. This event isalso a perfect opportunity to learn more about theCARING COMMUNITY and the valuable work we do. Weare always in need of more volunteers and welcome you tojoin us.Please RSVP to Ellen Blake at citygirl15@verizon.net orJde60@aol.com.

Torchlight March of Remembrance 6:15 p.m.Assemble at Flagpole on South Orange Ave. & Irvington Ave. in South Orange

Remembrance Service 7 p.m.Congregation Beth El222 Irvington Avenue, South Orange, NJ

Please bring canned goods and paper products for the Interfaith Food Pantry of the Oranges.

Co-Sponsored by South Mountain Lodge of B’nai B’rithSouth Orange/Maplewood Clergy AssociationHolocaust Council of MetroWest

For further information, contactrememberandtell@yahoo.com

Congregation Beth El (973) 763-0111

The South Orange/Maplewood Interfaith Holocaust Remembrance Service Fundis an Advisory Council Fund of the Jewish Community Foundation of MetroWest NJ.

South Orange/Maplewood

The 34th Annual Interfaith

Holocaust Remembrance Service

GUEST SPEAKER: Harry Ettlinger

MOMENTS IN HISTORY THAT CHALLENGE OUR HUMANITY

Sunday, May 1, 2011

HOLOCAUST

COUNCIL

Confirmation ServiceThe Slucker Religious School’s 10th graderswill be confirmed at Shabbat Services onFriday, June 10 at 7:30 P.M. Please join us forthis joyous and meaningful service.

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The President’sPoint of View

(cont. on page 8)

From theRabbi’s Study

In March, I described many of the movesafoot to sustain and advance ourcongregation, re-structure some of our

staffing and processes and achieve a balanced budget indifficult times. Together with the senior staff, dozens ofdedicated, creative and persistent volunteers put the manypieces of this huge puzzle together – and they truly deserve ourgratitude. It has been an arduous process – but the end resultwill surely be worth the effort.

We have looked at all aspects of operations and made some harddecisions. We are asking our staff to do more with less,encouraging volunteers to invest more time at Temple,expecting the congregation to forego some things to which wehave become accustomed. Equally as important, we havealready begun several new revenue raising projects. Innovativeguidelines and processes are in place for collections and duesadjustments. They will infuse renewed consistency, continue tomaintain confidentiality and ensure fairness with respect to theway in which dollars are allocated for reduced dues. Newmembership ideas, events, categories and plans (both long andshort term) are in the works, all of which should contribute to amuch stronger bottom line for the coming years.

Our organizational effectiveness, finance and executivecommittees brought budgets, plans and policy changes to theBoard of Trustees over the last two months. These suggestionsfocus on providing Temple with continued financial stabilitywithout altering our congregation’s unique character. Whilesome of these initiatives may not be what you would havechosen, we trust that you will respect the decisions of those youchose to help lead the congregation this year (who had so muchinformation before them); and ask questions aboutthese solutions before formulating youropinions.

This was a complex task. No one piece of thismulti-faceted set of solutions exists in a vacuum.Like the Rubik’s Cube, each twist and turn impacts another –andnone is made without consideration of the next steps. No singlechange or policy modification was embraced without asubstantive review of its contribution to the whole — and itsripple effect. And none of these decisions is forever.

Our plans, changes and policy decisions (now firmly in place asa result of the Board of Trustees’ approval) will all be discussedat the annual meeting. We have a lot to report, much to beproud of and many tasks to tackle.

This sermon was delivered on theShabbat before Passover. We’re tryingsomething new -- each week duringMay there will be a mini bulletin articleon the website. To read it please visit www.tsti.org and click theRabbinic Blog

This Monday evening Jewish families around the world will sittogether and share a meal. In and of itself this is a huge dealconsidering the fact that in today’s society, far too many of ustend to grab our meals on the go and connect with our familiesvia e-mail and phone.

Of course we won’t be sitting down for just any meal on Monday.Rather, we will be sharing a meal that celebrates the Exodusfrom Egypt, the freedom we gained and, growing out of that, ourcommitment to doing good in the world.

A study a number of years ago indicated that the Passover sederis one of, if not the, most observed traditions throughout theJewish world. This is apparently the case across observant andmore culturally Jewish homes alike. The richness of the story andthe important place it takes in our community is, in part, due tothe powerful message it contains. As my Duke Prof. Carol Myersputs it in the Nova program “The Bible’s Buried Secrets”:

Freedom is a compelling notion, and that is one of the ways thatwe can understand the story of the Exodus: from being controlledby others to controlling oneself, the idea of a change fromdomination to autonomy. These are very powerful ideas thatresonate in the human spirit, and the exodus gives narrativereality to those ideas

Yes, ours is a story of slavery to redemption, difficulty toobligation, mere survival to covenant and holiness. There are somany elements of the Passover Seder that we could discuss. Thatis part of its richness. There is the importance of the specificorder with which the meal unfolds and what we learn from that.There are the Four Questions which they remind us that, withinJudaism, the questions we ask are often more important than theanswers to which we arrive. There is the story of the rabbis whoare so involved in studying the narrative of the Exodus that theydid not even know that they had worked through the night andthe lesson on commitment it teaches.

Yes, the Passover seder is a powerful story with elements thatspeak to different individuals and groups at different times. Thisyear the lesson of one aspect of the seder stands out above allothers.

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The Iris FamilyThe Iris FamilyThe Iris FamilyThe Iris FamilyThe Iris Family

We are a staff of teachers in the preschool who are clearly in themiddle of the sandwich generation; caring for our elderlyparents while caring for our own children all while dealingwith our own health issues and perhaps our marital instabilities.In every classroom of the preschool there is a teacher with a‘secret’ that they may not want to share: a recent diagnosis ofcancer, a parent showing signs of dementia, elementary schoolchildren with learning disabilities, teens rebelling against ourdesire to protect them from the influences of peer pressure.

Day after day they return to the preschool with smiles on theirfaces, even if they are crying on the inside. This preschool wingis a safe haven for their fears, concerns and worries. They canleave the fight with their children at the door. They can leavetheir anxieties about college applications at the front lobby. Theycan be nurtured, inspired, supported and comforted by theircolleagues yet they rarely receive positive feedback for theirclassroom efforts from preschool parents.

It is frustrating and defeating to have spent weeks planningunits of study, to see growth and excitement in children’s eyeswhen they have their ‘ah-ha’ moments or to take special carewith a prized project and then have not one parent comment onthe efforts made. Not that teachers expect a pat on the back.Quite the contrary. They get used to being taken for granted afterawhile. We create projects and new experiences. We teachmanners and morals. Sometimes we don’t know if it’s worth theeffort. So when the following email was sent to a teacher lastmonth, it’s no wonder that we passed it around to remind us ofwhy we do what we do. We’re reminded that we rarely knowwhom we touch. The fact that one parent was kind enough totype an email while her daughter dictated, and that this childfelt compelled to express this in writing and couldn’t wait untilthe morning to tell the teacher directly, speaks volumes.

So let me set the stage. It’s late Monday night, the lead teacher ofthe class had called in sick, the assistant had to take over after arough emotional weekend visiting her ailing elderly father wholives out of state. The group of 15 VERY active children was lessthan cooperative on this particular day and to make mattersworse, this exhausted assistant had made the trip back and forthto a borough of New York yet again. She hasn’t eaten dinner, justwants to crawl into bed but needs to check her email for schoolupdates. When she sees an email from a parent, her first thoughtis, ‘now what?’ (Keep in mind as you read, these are the words ofa 4-year-old.)

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Vegetable PaellaIngredients½ Cup Water¼ teaspoon Saffron2 Tbsp. Olive Oil1 Red Bell Pepper, diced1 medium Onion, diced1 Cup frozen Artichoke Hearts, thawed, quartered3 Garlic Cloves, minced1 Cup uncooked Arborio Rice3 Cups low-salt Vegetable Stock1 Cup Canned Fire-Roasted Diced Tomatoes1 tsp. Paprika1 tsp. Kosher Salt¼ tsp. Cayenne Pepper1-15oz can Cannellini Beans, rinsed and drained½ Cup Frozen Peas2 Cups Chopped Escarole1/3 Cup Pimento-Stuffed Olives, coarsely chopped (Optional)Garnish: Chopped Parsley, Roasted Pepper, cut in strips

Preparation instructions

1. Bring water to a boil in small saucepan. Add saffron, cover &remove from heat. Let stand 10 minutes.2. Heat oil in large pan over medium-high heat. Add red peppe& onion & sauté until onion is golden, about 6 minutes. Addartichokes & garlic and sauté 2 minutes.3. Reduce heat to low. Add rice and stir to coat with oil. Addvegetable stock, tomatoes & bring to boil, stirring frequently.Add saffron water, paprika & salt. Reduce heat to medium-low,cover pan & cook 15 minutes.4. Mix beans, escarole & peas into rice, cover & continue cookingmixture until liquid is absorbed and rice is tender, about 5minutes.5. Remove pan from heat. Let stand 5-10 minutes & serve.6. Garnish with chopped Parsley.

Serving Ideas: Serve with gazpacho soup, mixed green salad,crusty bread. Can add protein to the paella-sauteed tofu,vegetarian chorizo sausage, and for non-vegetarians- chicken,shellfish/fish.

A Recipe from theA Recipe from theA Recipe from theA Recipe from theA Recipe from theGrGrGrGrGreen Teen Teen Teen Teen Teameameameameam

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Rabbi Ellie Miller

During the month of March my childrenwere thrilled to put on costumes, hearthe reading of the megillah and make

shalach manot in celebration of Purim. In April they practicedsinging the four questions, ate matzah and held competitivepyramid building contests in celebration of Passover. Now thatMay has arrived, I find myself hard pressed to come up withactivities that will help our family to feel connected to theholiday of Shavuot which arrives in early June.

Shavuot happens to be a deeply meaningful one-day holiday, butsince there are no mandatory foods to eat (traditionally we eatdairy foods but we are not commanded to eat blintzes), and veryfew rituals to follow, it is easy to feel disconnected from thisholiday and its meaning.

What exactly are we celebrating? First, Shavuot is a harvestfestival. The ancient Israelites brought the first fruits to theTemple in Jerusalem and offered them to God. Second and mostimportantly Shavuot is the day that we celebrate the giving ofthe Torah. Torah is our very essence. As Jews, our levels ofobservance may differ, interpretations and acceptance of thelaws vary. We may not agree on whether Torah is fact or myth orhow exactly how we got it, but when we ask ourselves the

SHAVUOTWhat is its meaning? How do we celebrate?

Hebrew High School GraduationFriday, May 6 at 7:30 P.M.

Our graduates have studied together for12 years and continue to enjoy eachother’s company both in school and out.Top row:Kyle Patterson, Zach Angoff,Aidan Pomper, Megan Okin andGabby Miller.Bottom row:Taylor Rosenbaum, Hannah James,Ilana Langsam, Hannah Epstein,Jake Silberg, Ben Donald andSarah Bernstein.We wish them much success in the yearsto come and look forward to seeing themoften at TSTI.

question: What do all Jews have in common, the answer issimple and clear. We have the Torah. It tells the story of ourpeople, gives us a common vocabulary, and offers the key to anethical and moral way of life. It reminds us how to care for oneanother and how to live in covenant with each other and withGod. Torah is the one element of Judaism that all Jews embrace.

So how can we celebrate Shavuot in a way that is meaningful?Some observe the practice of Leil Tikkun Shavuot and spend thewhole night studying Torah. Some read from the book of Ruth,which reminds us of the blessings in our tradition, and yes, someeat dairy foods. Our Confirmation service, celebrated on theShabbat closest to Shavuot, (Friday, June 10, at 7:30 P.M.) is anacknowledgement of our 10th graders’ study of the TenCommandments and acceptance of Judaism in their lives.

This year my family will celebrate Shavuot by dressing up andreenacting the giving of the Ten Commandments. At bedtime Iwill take out our childrens’ Bible and read them Torah storiesand the lessons of our people. And for myself, I will reread thebook of Ruth and feel grateful for my family and the traditions ofour people.

Zachary GoldMay 7, 2011Zachary is the son of Brenda and Bill Gold, brother ofDaniel and Chloe, and grandson of Gil Gold and Harrietand Ron Weinfield.Mitzvah Project: Zach donated over 500 children’s booksand dozens of toys and arts and crafts materials toHarmony House, a halfway house for women and childrenin Newark.

Julia Vail KaufmannMay 14, 2011Julia is the daughter of Randi and Jeffrey Kaufmann, sisterof Adam and Lauren, granddaughter of Dorothy Leibowitzand Lillian and Donald Kaufmann and great granddaugh-ter of Hilda Shapiro.Mitzvah Project: Julia is creating artwork for Color aSmile, an organization that collects and distributesstudent drawings to nursing homes, Meals on Wheels andothers.

Jamie Valentine CutlerMay 14, 2011Jamie is the daughter of Corey Cutler and Marian Cutler,sister of Ashley, Sasha and Charlotte, and granddaughterof Philip Cutler and Dorothy and Patrick Feenaghty.Mitzvah Project: Jamie helped to organize a bone marrowdrive for the Gift of Life registry in honor of her aunt.

Desalegn Lucas Leo AronsonMay 21, 2011Des is the son of Jane Aronson and Diana Leo, brother ofBen and grandson of Selma Aronson.Mitzvah Project: Des went to Mexico and helped build ahouse for a family.

David Norman NadelMay 21, 2011David is the son of Ellen and Ken Nadel, brother of Ericand Lauren, and grandson of Lois Feinberg and Tobi andGene Nadel.Mitzvah Project: David volunteers at Friendship Circleevents and enjoys knowing that he makes a smalldifference in the lives of children with special needs.

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Sunday, May 15 at7:00pm

(NEW DATE!!!)

Enjoy snacks and a movie, followed by aninteractive discussion moderated by Dr. EricGoldman. Free for members, $5 per film for nonmembers.

Gloomy Sunday(Germany/Hungary, 1999)

A new generation of German filmmakers hasbeen struggling with the Holocaust these lastfifteen years, providing us with well-directed andpowerful films. This film, set in Budapest, justprior to the war, is about the pianist/composerAndras, who wrote the song “Gloomy Sunday”(made famous here by Billie Holiday), Ilona, thewoman for whom he wrote it, the Jewishrestaurateur who loved her first, and the Germanwho falls for her. This powerful film touches onlove, war and obsession. With Erika Marozsánand Joachim Król.

RSVPs are required in order for us to providesnacks and ample seating. Emailthorwitz@tstinj.org.

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Environmentalismas a Jewish Value

Monday, May 16 7:00pm

Join Rabbi Cohen for an evening of exploring theBiblical and rabbinic roots of the JewishEnvironmental Movement. Yes, environmentalismIS a Jewish value and we will examine why. Thisprogram is part of our congregation’sparticipation in the joint Greenfaith/URJSynagogue Greening Certification program

RSVPs are requested. Email thorwitz@tstinj.org.

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The Women’sConnection

A Walk Through Time & NatureMay 13, 10:00-1:00 (Raindate May 18th)Start & End at Tulip Springs

Please join us for a guided 3-hour hike at a moderate pacethrough our own South Mountain Reservation, the oldest countypark in the US. Dave Hogenauer from the South MountainConservancy will be taking us to Hemlock Falls, Ball’s Bluff,mining and mill sites from the 1800s, and also some of therecent areas devoted to reforestation. Along with the history ofthe reservation, Dave will be sharing his knowledge of theplants and animals that make these lands their home. Pleasebring water and a snack. Space is limited, so please RSVP toRandi ButcherRandi ButcherRandi ButcherRandi ButcherRandi Butcher (randi_butcher@yahoo.com) or Robin KahnRobin KahnRobin KahnRobin KahnRobin Kahn(rockin62@gmail.com).

Save the Date:2nd Annual Summer Soiree! Wednesday, July 13, 7:00-9:00 pm,Temple Mansion & Terrace

Mark your calendars now for a fun evening with your friends attemple. Sangria, Sweets, and Light Snacks will be served. Allwomen members of TSTI are cordially invited.

STISYAttention: Incoming 9th-12th graders

Be a Temple Leader…STISY Board is a great opportunity!

Our very first seder held at Georgio’s Restaurant in South Orangewas a wonderful experience. We shared a special haggadahcompiled by Muriel B. Fielo, who along with Alice Forman, co-chaired this very meaningful evening.

We will close out the year with our last trip on Sunday, May 22chaired by Linda Kirsch and Harriet Felper. We will leave thetemple parking lot at 1:00 P.M., traveling by coach bus to FortFulton ferry landing in Brooklyn. We’ll have time to stroll thewaterfront of “Dumbo”, a very scenic area, before attending abarge concert performance by the Shanghai Quartet. After theconcert, we will enjoy a delicious four-course dinner at Seven OldFulton Restaurant and return home about 9:00 P.M. What awonderful culmination to a great Renaissance year!

Enjoy the summer months and we’ll see you at our opening eventof the 2011-2012 year on Sunday, October 16.

Dennis Percher, Carol Paster, Ed Reichman and daughter, Maddie,Tony Robinson and crew captain, Kathryn Kennedy havecompleted a day’s work on a home for a deserving family.

Mimi Braun

Renaissance Group

Habitat for Humanity

Dear Miss Robin,I want you to know that I like when I’m with you. When you takeus to the playground I like talking with you & when I talk to youit makes me feel like I am at home and that my favorite toy, mylamb, is close by. When you’re around I feel like I’m not alone. Iwant you to know that I like you and I love you.Love,Sarah

This child is already a mensch with much to teach us. I hope youwill follow in Sarah’s footsteps and take the time to thank theeducators in your life be they your rabbis, your religious schoolteachers, your early childhood educators or even your ownchildren and grandchildren.

Carol PasterPreschool Director

(cont. from page 4)

Please email or call Tracy Horwitz (STISY Advisor) at

thorwitz@tstinj.org or call 973-763-4116 ext. 286 to learnabout the process of becoming a board member.

The due date to run for a position is May 11.

Positions available for the 2011-2012 year are: President,Programming VP, Social Action VP, Religious and Cultural VP,Membership VP, Publicity VP, Fundraising VP, Secretary.

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In Memoriam

All in the FamilyAll in the FamilyAll in the FamilyAll in the FamilyAll in the FamilyMazel tov to:

May their memoriesbe for a blessing

(Pomerantz, cont.from page 3)

SAMUEL COLEMANFather of Steven Coleman

LEONARD FINGERFather of Judy Krandel

DOUGLAS HELLERFather of Alison Auerbach

PEARL LOWENSTEINMother of Renee Furst

DAVID MENGDENBrother of Paul Mengden

ROBERT TURKHusband of Joan Turk

EMANUEL YESKELFather of Jane Decter

Doris and Jeff Spector onthe marriage of their son,Josh, to Lauren Tejeda.

Joanna Perlman on beingnamed Metropolitan “Y”’sAdult Member of the Year.

This bulletin article is only the “teaser,”as it simply cannot take the place of opendialogue.

Join us at the annual meeting atJoin us at the annual meeting atJoin us at the annual meeting atJoin us at the annual meeting atJoin us at the annual meeting at7:30 on May 187:30 on May 187:30 on May 187:30 on May 187:30 on May 18ththththth for a comprehensiveconversation about the year we arecompleting, changes and exciting newprojects for the year ahead, and theproposed slate of officers and trusteeswho will ensure our success over the nexttwo years. We have a lot to discuss…don’t miss out!

Looking forward to seeing you all at theannual meeting.Warm regards,

How Much Water Does It Take?

Guilty as charged! I use way too much water and Ihave decided to really focus on this. Typically, anaverage residence uses about 80 gallons of watereach day. Here is a summary of how much water isused on average for common household tasks:

Washing Machine 20-40 gallons per loadHand Washing Dishes Up to 20 gallons per loadAutomatic Dishwasher 6-12 gallons per loadBath 20-50 GallonsShower 2-10 gallons per minuteToilet 3-7 gallons per flushFaucet 2-4 gallons per minuteGarden Hose (1/2 inch) 300 gallons per hour

SueHochTSTI Green Team

Toward the beginning is the Seder thereis a line that is actually in Aramaic, thecommon shared language of Jewishantiquity. It states: “This is the bread ofaffliction. Let all who are hungry comeand eat all who are down trodden findrespite.”

This statement speaks to one of thecentral missions of the Jewish people –having been slaves we know thedifficulties that an individual or groupendures and we are called upon to helpalleviate suffering no matter where it is,no matter what the cause. It is, I suspect,the reason why Israel is often first to offerhelp when disaster strikes, be it in Haiti,Sri Lanka or Japan. It is why Jews were onthe front lines of the civil rightsmovement and while we continue to be apowerful voice in Washington throughthe Religious Action Center of ReformJudaism. And it is why these words – “thisis the bread of affliction and let all whoare hungry come and eat” are soimportant and troubling this year as ourleaders struggle with the US deficit andbudget.

The Hagaddah reminds us that, the RACpoints out, “The moral impact of a budgetis measured by its effect on the personmost in need and if adopted, wouldfundamentally and unjustly restructureour commitment to seniors and low-income families.” Deuteronomycommands, “Do not harden your heart andshut your hand against your needykinsman.”

But that is exactly what some areproposing. In 1981 our Reform Movementpassed a resolution that stated, “It is apernicious idea that somehow the poor, orpublic assistance to the poor, is the causeof our economic problems and thatsolutions at their expense arepermissible.”

Most recently the RAC issued a statementthat noted that at times such as this, “ . . .it is particularly incumbent on us toensure that our federal budget reflects thegovernment’s responsibilities to all itscitizens, especially those most in need.”The statement continues,“We support tax policy that reflects ourdeep Jewish commitment to theachievement of a just society in which allpeople can live with dignity and respect.We welcome the restoration of fundingfor the Supplemental Nutrition AssistanceProgram . . . And the $200 millionincrease for the Individuals withDisabilities Education Act . . . At the sametime, we are deeply concerned by cutsthat will leave the most vulnerableAmericans with less assistance in thistime of need. Among these cuts is a fiftypercent reduction in funding for the LowIncome Home Energy AssistanceProgram...”

In other words, while some in ourgovernment are calling to move towardfiscal responsibility on the backs of thosewho are most vulnerable in society thereare, thankfully, those who remember thewords from the Hagaddah. Words that

remind us that the measure of who we areas a community, or a nation, is found inthe care of those whose needs aregreatest.

The Aramaic statement from our Passoverseder must be more than mere words. Thepurpose of the seder is not to simply tell asweet story and then finally get to a meal.No, the purpose of the seder is to remindus that we have been bequeathed a legacythat calls us to aspire to something great.Having known slavery in Egypt we are toseek out those who are enslaved, whetherby lack of rights or lack of food, andredeem them as well.

(Cohen, cont.from page 3)

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TRIBUTESContributions in memory of loved ones and in honor of the simchas in our lives are acts of loving kindness.

We are grateful for your generous support of Temple through various Temple Funds.

TEMPLE TRIBUTES

IN MEMORY OFSylvia Baron

Arnold & Gert ZorefRaymond Fersko,brother of Jack Fersko

Estelle & Elliot BaumgartThe Bernstein-Donald FamilyDan & Matty GoldbergJules & Susan NissimHelene & Rob Sorin

Bernard Fink,husband of Gloria, brother of Leon

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