trust and influence - what every successful hr professional needs to know - april 2014
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Trust and Influence:What Every Successful HR Professional Needs to KnowHRATV HR Rise Up Conference | April 2014
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© 2012-2013 Andrea P. Howe. All rights reserved. Developed in partnership with Charles H. Green
Human vulnerabilities have serious consequences
• Waste
• Lost opportunity
• Compromise
• Failure
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Trust has upside
2. Productivity
3. Leverage
4. Information sharing
1. Engagement
5. Creativity/innovation
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Today, we’ll explore what it really takes …
… to be trustworthy
… to be influential
… to make a habit of trust
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Trustworthiness starts with mindset
• Trust is personal
• Trust is paradoxical
• Trust is positively correlated to risk
The 3
P’s
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Let’s make it real
Bring to mind a “relationship situation”:
1. There’s misalignment, concern, disagreement, frustration, tension, or conflict (big or little)
2. It’s with an individual
3. You can speak about it here
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Say three things out loud
1. “My stakeholder is ___________.”
2. “The challenge as I see it is _____________.”
3. “My wish for this relationship is _______________________________.”
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Looking up “trust” is a waste of time
trust
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The Trust Equation brings clarity to ambiguity
T trustworthinessC credibilityR reliabilityI intimacyS self-orientation
C + R + I
S
T =
Source: The Trusted Advisor by Maister, Green, and Galford, The Free Press, 2000
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DependabilityPredictabilityI trust him to…
ActionsActions
Reliability
Reliability is about actions
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Reliability is the only variablethat requires the passage of time
AND you can accelerate it:
5. Make lots of small promises
6. Be on time
7. Use their terminology
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TruthfulnessCredentialsI trust what she says about…
DependabilityPredictabilityI trust him to…
ActionsActionsWordsWords
Credibility Reliability
Credibility relates to words
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Here’s how to build credibility quickly
1. Show you’ve done your homework
2. Take a point of view
3. Speak the truth ... always
4. Combine your words with presence
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TruthfulnessCredentialsI trust what she says about…
DependabilityPredictabilityI trust him to…
DiscretionEmpathyRisk-takingI trust her with…
ActionsActions SafetySafetyWordsWords
Credibility Reliability Intimacy
Intimacy relates to safety
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Even intimacy can be accelerated
8. Name the elephant
9. Listen with empathy
10. Tell them something you appreciate about them
11. Address people by name
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TruthfulnessCredentialsI trust what she says about…
DependabilityPredictabilityI trust him to…
DiscretionEmpathyRisk-takingI trust her with…
ActionsActions SafetySafety FocusFocusWordsWords
Credibility Reliability Self-OrientationIntimacy
I trust that he cares about…
MotivesAttention
Self-orientation relates to focus
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There are ways to “get off your ‘S’” faster, too
12. Give away ideas
13. Build a shared agenda
14. Steer clear of premature problem-solving
15. Relax your mind
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Let’s link this to your stakeholder…
T trustworthinessC credibilityR reliabilityI intimacyS self-orientation
C + R + I
S
T =
Source: The Trusted Advisor by Maister, Green, and Galford, The Free Press, 2000
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Walking the talk:Your stakeholder’s experience
Consider your stakeholder challenge. Which variable would he/she say earns your highest score? Lowest score?
T trustworthinessC credibilityR reliabilityI intimacyS self-orientation
C + R + IS
T =
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Next up, what it really takes …
… to be trustworthy
… to be influential
… to make a habit of trust
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Facts
Logic
Truth
Influence is as misunderstood as trust
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What drives influence might surprise you
reciprocity
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It turns out the quality of our listening also matters … a lot
“Understanding must precede advice.”
“You have to let your partner know that you fully understand and empathize … before you suggest a solution.”
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Influence, in fact, is a function of listening, not talking
empathy
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We have to earn the right to be right
Earn the Right
RATIONAL NON-RATIONAL
Paraphrase Empathize
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Consider your stakeholder situation
• What haven’t I been HEARING?
• What haven’t I been SAYING?
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Finally, what it really takes …
… to be trustworthy
… to be influential
… to make a habit of trust
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It takes practice to become natural
1. Practice everyday empathy
2. Tune out to tune in
3. Get curious – about yourself and others
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit”
—Aristotle
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Today we covered, what it really takes …
… to be trustworthy
… to be influential
… to make a habit of trust
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www.trustedadvisor.com/HRriseup
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The Virtual Goodie Bag
• Online resources for you:www.trustedadvisor.com/HRriseup
• Take the Trust Quotient Assessment http://trustsuite.trustedadvisor.com
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How will you choose …
… to set yourself apart?
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