TOPIC 2COUNSELOR LEADS AND RESPONSES

LEADS REFERS TO THE COMMUNICATION MADE BY THE COUNSELOR REFERS TO THE EXTENT TO WHICH THE COUNSELOR IS AHEAD OF OR BEHIND THE COUNSELEE S THINKING REFERS TO THE EXTENT TO HOW MUCH THE COUNSELOR DIRECTS OR PUSHES THE CLIENT INTO ACCEPTING THE COUNSELOR S REMARKS

3 PRINCIPLES TO GUIDE THE COUNSELOR S LEADS 1. LEAD AS MUCH AS THE CLIENT CAN TOLERATE AT HIS PRESENT LEVEL OF ABILITY AND UNDERSTANDING 2. VARY THE LEAD 3. START THE C;LING PROCESS WITH LITTLE LEAD

LEADS AND RESPONSES CLASSIFIRR C CLARIFICATION L GENERAL LEAD A ACCEPTANCE S SUMMARY S SUPPOSITION I INTERPRETATION F FACILITATION I INTERPELLATION R RESTATEMENT R REASSURANCE R REFLECTION OF FEELINGS OR MIRRORING

LEADS AND RESPONSESCLARIFICATION to make things more transparent to the counselor and the counselee - Counselor can verbalize his approval , amendment and rejection - Serves as a mirror in which the counselee can see feelings and attitudes reflected

CLARIFICATION C LEE: No matter what I do or say, she does not listen to me. She does not believe me, she sticks to her own beliefs C LOR: What do you mean by She does not believe in me ?

Examples of Clarification Feelings: How do you feel about the situation? When you say you get ____, how exactly do you feel? On a scale of 1-10, how strong is the feeling? When do you feel ___? Is it before, after or during the situation?

Examples of Clarification Physical reaction What happens to your body when you feel ___? Mind What goes through your mid before, during, after the situation? What are you afraid of? How often do you have these thoughts? How do you see the situation?

Examples of clarification Communication How do you exactly say ____? How have you attempted to cope in the past? How do you back up your words with actions?

GENERAL LEAD A response that means the counselee has to do something in a general way The counselee can choose his own way of telling the counselor any aspect of his problem

GENERAL LEAD Tell me more about it Would you like to elaborate?

LEADS AND RESPONSESACCEPTANCE OPENNES TO WHATEVER IS SAID BY THE COUNSELEE; IT IS AN ACKNOWLEDGEMENT THAT WHAT IS SAID IS UNDERSTOOD SMILE, NOD, SILENCE DOES NOT NECESSARILY MEAN AGREEMENT, CONSENT OR REASSURANCE

ACCEPTANCE C LEE: Good morning ma am C LOR:hello, have a seat. I notice you have a new bag, it is beautiful C LEE: my mother gave this to me last Christmas C LOR: uh . . . smiling

LEADS AND RESPONSES S SUMMARY Brief review of feelings and ideas expressed by the counselee A synopsis after a long monologue

SUMMARY C LEE: I am tired of talking about my grades. I am sure they will not get any better C LOR: You want to stop talking about your grades. I wonder if I can remember about some of the things we were able to talk about today. You told me that your teacher and your parents are not happy about your low grades in Math. You also told me that you gor good grades in art, but nobody thinks art is important, Let us see, what else did we talk about today

LEADS AND RESPONSES S SUPPOSITION A suggestion is not a direct advice which may motivate the counselee to further action towards the goal

SUPPOSITION C Lor: would it be better if we work together towards clarifying your feelings? C Lee: I think that is fine

LEADS AND RESPONSES I INTERPRETATION An understanding of what has been said To get the real feelings beneath the verbalization like hate, love, blame, suspicion

INTERPRETATION C LOR: so you can t sleep soundly whenever you disobey your mother C LEE:yes, I feel uneasy C LOR:you seem to be saying that you do not feel comfortable when you do that to your mother, is that it? :

LEADS AND RESPONSES F FACILITATION A statement in answer to the counselee s questions or as an explanation or tendency The counselor illustrates, enlightens, teaches Explanations may include moral issues if asked May relate own experiences

FACILITATIONC LOR: Do you think you have enough time studying at home if you are always with your barkada? C LEE: (Silence, looks at the window) Ma am I study naman at night C LOR: That is right, do you think your time is enough? C LEE:Ma am, if I can t finish my homework, I do the others in school before class C LOR: In other words, you do the other assignments hurriedly before your class begins C LEE:yes ma am C LOR:Does it do you good? C lee: Silence, looks at the window again

LEADS AND RESPONSES I INTERPELLATION Is the probing question The counselor cross checks for honesty or seeks clarity on a fact Interpellation happens to clarify the FREQUENCY, INTENSITY, DURATION OR FID Thought provoking questions will move the interview forward

INTERPELLATION C LEE: I can t face my parents C LOR:It looks as if you are really determined to go back to your parents, but you are hesitant because you do not have the courage to face the problem. What do you think will make you comfortable?

May ask probing questions to check for inconsistencies You say your kids are the most important person in your life, but you do not have time for them? You say you believe in equality of the sexes but you also feel ashamed of asking a man for a date?

LEADS AND RESPONSES R RESTATEMENT Repeats what the counselee said, may be verbatim As the counselee hears his own statement, he receives accurate feedback of his own words and this gives the counselee opportunity to clarify or reiterate for emphasis

RESTATEMENT C LEE: Oh, I do not know. I mean I read fast enough, but I can t understand fully well what I read C LOR:, you read fast enough but you don t comprehend enough

LEADS AND RESPONSES R REASSURANCE To give courage and self-confidence Non-verbal re-assurance can be a nod, smile

REASSURANCE C LEE:I will do my homework early and ask help from my auntie C LOR: well, I am confident that you can exert more effort, especially with the help of your caring auntie ( nods with a smile)

REASSURANCE Can also be shown through involvement Responding to specific disclosures I am delighted , That is great Responding to clients as people I admire your courage , I appreciate your honsety Responding to client s vulnerability I am available if you really get low ; I am very concerned about what you are going through

REFLECTION OF FEELINGS OF MIRRORING ATTEMPT TO UNDERSTAND THE MESSAGE FROM THE CLIENT S POINT OF VIEW AND COMMUNICATE THAT ACCORDINGLY so you really feel disgusted towards your self