susan's queenly quiz
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Susan Brigg's quiz to find out if you are the queen of your life.TRANSCRIPT
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TAKE THE ‘QUEENLY QUIZ’ TO IDENTIFY YOUR QUEENLY PURPOSE.
Your ‘Queenly Quiz’ is waiting for you. Please remember this is for your benefit and, your growth so be as completely honest as you can and enjoy!
The results will assist you to reach ‘Queenly’ status in your life.
1. When you look in the mirror do you dislike what you see?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
2) How often do you compare yourself to others?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
3) Do you constantly wish for something more e.g. a better body, more money, a better
relationship?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
4) Do you have difficulty getting out of bed in the morning?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
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5) Do you lack the energy and motivation to get through your day?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
6) Do you find it difficult to maintain a healthy lifestyle?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
7) Are you reluctant to socialise with others?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
8) Do you feel uncomfortable in large gatherings?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
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9) Do you find it difficult to open up and share your feelings?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
10) Do you feel that you are lacking the love and support that you need?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
11) Do you having difficulty controlling your emotions?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
12) Do you feel angry, upset, guilty or resentful often?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
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13) Do you worry about your financial situation?
f) Always g) Often h) Sometimes i) Rarely j) Never
14) Do you struggle paying your bills on time?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
15) Do you wish you could live a debt free life?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
16) Do you find it difficult to live by your values?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
17) Do you find it difficult to speak up and assert yourself?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
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18) Do you hold back from trying new things because you fear failure?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
19) Do you value the opinion of others over your own?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
20) Do you worry about what people are saying or thinking about you?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
21) Do you find yourself saying ‘yes’ to things you don’t want to do?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
22) Are you overly critical of yourself and others?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
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23) Do you often search for negatives when you are praised or complimented?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
24) Do you suffer from allergies or frequent bouts of illness or colds?
a) Always b) Often c) Sometimes d) Rarely e) Never
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Now add up your score, a=5, b=4, c=3, d=2 and e=1 96-‐120 points: This is not a time for despair. This is a time for celebration because you have taken
the first step in getting yourself to where you want to be. You may be struggling internally and externally right now but help is just around the corner. Take the next step and visualise your life the way you long for it to be because if you choose the right path, it will be yours.
72-‐96 points: You know that the life you have is not what you dream of. You lack the confidence
and the self esteem to create what you desire. I acknowledge you for getting this far because now that you have the awareness you have the power to transform into the Queen and enjoy a life of happiness. It is up to you now. What will you choose?
48-‐72 points: You are on the verge of going backwards in life or forwards. What you do now will
determine whether you will enjoy the life you are creating and wear the crown or, whether you will remain stuck in a role that you do not enjoy. Your future depends on the choices you make.
24-‐48 points: You are nearly there. A few tweaks and you can be crowned Queen. Take the time
to focus on what you need to learn, do or be in order to create for yourself the life that you want.
0-‐21 points: Congratulations. You are the Queen of your life. You are in full control of your
destiny and have a good idea of what you want and where you want to go.
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THE SEVEN STEPS TO BECOMING THE QUEEN IN YOUR LIFE!
To be a queen we must begin with a great self esteem. Firstly what is self esteem? It is nothing we can visibly see or touch or feel however every time we look in the mirror, talk to ourselves or check in with how we are feeling, it is there. How we see ourselves, how we talk to ourselves and how we feel all comes down to our level of self esteem. The dictionary term for esteem is to ‘think highly of.’ An example of this would be your admiration for someone who does something of value, meaning that you would hold them in high esteem and self means just that, you! When you put the two together it means to hold yourself in high esteem. How much do you value yourself? How important do you think you are? How do you see yourself and how do you feel about your achievements? There are many factors that are a direct result of our self esteem or, the way we see ourselves and this can affect our health, our finances/wealth and our happiness. All these three components are intertwined and if one is not working for us then it will impact the other. For example, if you are in debt and worrying about how you will pay off what you owe it will compromise your health and could result in mild depression and a weakened immune system which means you will be more susceptible to colds and flu’s etc. It will also impact on you internally as the happiness you show the world may be in conflict with what you are truly feeling. Often we project a false persona because to open up to the outside world will leave us in a vulnerable position therefore; we live with a continuous internal struggle. It doesn’t have to be this way. Self esteem is all about knowing that you are worthy of being loved and accepted. It’s doesn’t mean bragging about how great you are, it’s more about knowing within yourself that you are worth a lot. This is so important to your development and to how you perceive your world. A person with high self esteem is confident, able to make mistakes and learn from them and be motivated to achieve. Developing high self esteem in one of the biggest and most valuable gifts you can give yourself. 1) What’s the big deal with self esteem?
Good self esteem will allow you to feel proud, no matter what, and you will be more willing to try new things as you won’t be afraid of getting it wrong. A person with high self esteem will know that it is ok to make mistakes as that is how they learn. Self esteem will help you to believe in yourself and will enable you to make their own decisions based on what you know is best for you. Good self esteem means you will be less afraid and more in control of your life and you will know that you are worth caring for and worth protecting. Those who hold themselves in high esteem are empowered and nothing or no one can take that away from them.
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2) How is self esteem developed?
Think back to when you were born. As a baby there was no way you would have thought of yourself as anything but perfect just the way you were yet as we get older there are many external factors that play a part in developing or reducing our levels of self esteem. For example, your family, grades at school, sporting achievements, teachers, classmates and friendships can all affect our self esteem in these formative years. If you get good grades at school and are encouraged by your teachers, friends and classmates who validate you, then this is without a doubt going to propel you forward and keep your self esteem at a high level.
3) Getting a grip on low self esteem Let’s look at some of the reasons you may develop a low self esteem. Have you ever come across a child who doesn’t think of themselves as worthy or lovable? If you have you will no doubt have noticed that these children will often be very critical of themselves and won’t consider themselves to be good enough or important enough.
We know that teachers, carers, sporting coaches and classmates can impact you in the early years however, the family environment that can contribute also. If mum and dad argued a lot or there was a lot of yelling involved this can cause any child to go within. The same goes for the trauma of divorce, moving house and schools, having to make new friends, illness such as diabetes or allergies like asthma, puberty or bodily changes. These are all factors that can be detrimental to your development as a child and more often than not the others are blissfully unaware of the damage they are causing to your inner world.
It only takes one negative comment or one upsetting incident to begin the decline in your self esteem. This is why it is vitally important to look for any warning signs that may indicate that your self esteem is being compromised. Some of the warning signs to look for are the voicing of negative comments such as;
� “Why do bad things always happen to me” � “I’m not good enough” � “I’m not skinny enough” � “I don’t know enough”
Comparing yourself with others, a decline in your work habits, a change in the way you interact with others, a want to be alone, a loss of interest in any activities and not opening up or talking as you normally would are just a few of many signs; however it will give you an idea of what to look for.
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4) Giving your ‘self’ a boost!
It is both natural and ok for you to have your ups and downs but having a low self esteem is definitely not ok. A low self esteem can make you feel sad, anxious and withdrawn. You will be less inclined to try new things and will miss out on the many opportunities that life has to offer you. Low self esteem can prevent you from making valuable friendships and enjoying the company of others.
Having a high self esteem is essential because as adults we are required to make tough choices or decisions, especially when under pressure. You need to learn to believe in yourself and what you can achieve instead of what others think. If you feel that you are suffering from a low self esteem here are a few things you could try, to boost your levels.
� Make a list of all the things you are good at. It can be anything such as playing a sport,
writing, being organised, having a kind and gentle nature.
� Give yourself three compliments a day. Learn to focus on what you do well instead of what you perceive you do badly. Focus on what you want and NOT, what you don’t want.
� Stand in front of the mirror and see as many things as you can that you love about you. It
could be your wonderful sparkling eyes, your beautiful smile, your great dress sense, your shiny healthy hair, your clear smooth skin, your manicured nails, your strong arms or legs.
� If you find yourself talking in a negative way, turn it around and into a something positive.
For example, instead of saying “I can’t” say “I can.” Give yourself permission to focus on all the good things that are happening in your life and make a point of living with gratitude and love in your heart for all things including YOU. 5) A shot of courage and a dash of praise!
Create opportunities for your ‘self’ to be courageous. For example, if you are asked to do something that takes you outside of your comfort zone, say YES. You can work out the ‘how’ later. Every opportunity you get, take it, because it will contribute to your growth, to your confidence and to your self esteem.
Give yourself encouragement by talking to yourself in a positive way and showing yourself compassion. If you make a mistake look at it as a lesson because it is by making mistakes that we learn and grow. If we didn’t make mistakes we would be stuck in a void, never going anywhere. If you wish to get out of the rut and into life then living outside of your comfort zone is a must and I honestly believe that with progress comes happiness.
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6) Lighten up Life is a roller coaster ride for everyone and we all face the good and the not so good times. It is easy to laugh, be positive and have fun when all is going well but, when times get tough it is even easier to withdraw, get angry or feel upset and negative. It is when times are challenging that it helps to remain positive and light. These moments don’t last forever and often we make them worse by engaging in negative behaviour. I’m not saying you are not allowed to cry for crying is a fabulous way to release and I’m not saying you cannot feel angry or upset. What I am saying is that it is perfectly okay to feel these things as long as you don’t dwell on them and you do not hurt anyone else in the process of releasing these emotions. Embrace all your emotions and learn to accept them as a part of you because when you do you can begin to truly love yourself. When you feel like crying, let it out, and then move on. Practice having a positive mindset and be generous and forgiving of yourself. Don’t criticise or place judgment on yourself or others for when we employ these tactics we end up experiencing blocks and we are giving our power away.
Make laughter a part of your day and enjoy the feeling of not getting too bogged down in the serious side of life. Learn to laugh at yourself and remember a smile will brighten someone’s day and enjoying a good laugh is a great way to boost your self esteem, strengthen your immune system and increase your levels of serotonin (the natural happy drug) and it creates a sense of fun.
7) All we need is love! In my opinion, there is nothing more important in this world, than the love you have for yourself and for others. We are all connected and we all have a deep desire to be loved. Self esteem begins with loving yourself. Loving yourself for all that you are and seeing the beauty instead of the perceived flaws. We thrive on love just as a plant thrives on water. The love we have for ourselves and others in our hearts helps us to grow and enjoy the beauty in everything. Love makes the world go round and the more we give love the more we will receive. I trust this quiz and report has given you an indication of what areas you may need to improve on so you can enjoy an abundance of health, wealth and happiness in your life. It is never too late to begin to lead a healthy lifestyle or to get out of the debt and into the money. Happiness is just around the corner and isn’t that difficult to find if you know where to look.
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Today is the first day of the rest of your life so how do you want to live the rest of your life? Would you choose to spend it worrying, arguing, staying angry, hating the way you look, staying stuck or would you prefer to spend it laughing, having fun, taking chances and taking on new challenges, working in a job that fulfils you, living debt free and enjoying more of a disposable income. We all have choices in life and the choices you have made so far have placed you right where you are today.
Have you made quality choices? Have you made choices based on what you want? Are you happy with the choices you have made so far?
Imagine yourself at your 90th birthday party.
What are you wearing? How are you feeling? Who is celebrating with you? What are they saying about you in their speeches? Are you looking back on life with regrets? or Are you looking back on life knowing that you have lived? Are you fit and healthy and able to walk into the room by yourself? Are you laughing and enjoying all the attention? What are you thinking?
Make your choices based on how you want your 90th birthday to be celebrated, how you want to be thought of and how you want to be feeling.
I wish you all the best and every success.
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