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SeekingStillness
18 Meditations on Inner Peace
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Table of Contents
Introduction! 3
1. Quiet Your Mind! 4
2. Perfect This Moment! 5
3. Live with a Clear Cup! 6
4. Practice Being Human! 7
5. Gain Some Perspective! 8
6. Stop Measuring! 9
7. Focus on the Next Step! 10
8. See Your Natural State! 11
9. Watch Your Step! 12
10. Accept Uncertainty! 13
11. Become Self Reliant ! 14
12. Understand Death! 15
13. Open Your Hand! 16
14. Give it Away! 17
15. Love the Transient! 18
16. Raise Your Consciousness! 19
17. Calm the Storm! 20
18. Give Up! 21
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Introduction!Seeking Stillnessis a collection of meditations designed to help you create more clarity, peace, and
inner stillness in your life. This guide can be like a signpost, pointing you in the direction of peace,
and helping you move away from dissatisfaction and suffering. It contains 18 short thoughts that you
can begin to apply today.
You may want to read through the entire guide at once to get a feel for the concepts presented.
Then, return to the chapters that speak most strongly to you. Take one or two and spend some time
quietly contemplating them. 5-10 minutes of contemplation can produce lasting increases in peace
and awareness.
With Love,
~ Andrew Olson
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1. Quiet Your Mind
Before you can ever hope to achieve any measure of stillness in your life, you must recognize that
there are really two parts of you. You are both the mind/body that is here now, and the eternal
conscious awareness that lives beyond the mind.
There is an easy exercise that can illustrate this point. Use your mind to think about any subject,
and then direct your mind to think about something completely different. Who was directing your
mind to change thoughts? It didnt change on its own. There was something beyond your thoughts,
something totally separate that has power to direct the mind and body.
This can be an incredibly encouraging concept for anyone who has fallen victim to their own
thoughts. We have all experienced times when our mind activity does not serve our best interests,
the mind seemingly runs wild without our consent. Those uncontrollable thoughts bring with them
anxiety, fear, anger, and other negative emotions that destroy stillness.
You can see that there is an eternally powerful Youthat has the ability to direct your thoughts. And,
with that understanding, it is easy to quiet any mind activity that does not serve you. The negative
creations of your mind are the only stumbling blocks to a life of stillness. If you remove the thought.
you remove the anxiety behind it. All that is left is the peaceful stillness of your own awareness. It
really is that simple. Every other technique for finding peace becomes unnecessary when you learn
to quiet your mind.
Quieting your mind is not automatic, however. You may have become quite skilled at holding onto
uncontrollable, detrimental thoughts. Practice is how you improve your ability to quiet your mind. A
great exercise is to sit quietly with no disruptions. Then, with your consciousness, simply notice your
own mind. When you notice a thought arising, use your consciousness to observe it and let it float
away. You will then be alone in your own mind. That place of aloneness is pure awareness, it is
perfect stillness.
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2. Perfect This Moment
Right now you are exactly where you are supposed to be.
Can you feel the perfection in that statement? In times of distress, this can be an excellent mantra. Itis words like these that bring us feelings of deep encouragement and peacefulness. They resonate
deeply with our souls because they are pure, unadulterated truth. And the deepest part of our
beings can feel truth when we hear it.
Yes, your mind might (incorrectly) see potential problems tomorrow, or remember the trials of
yesterday; but you are right here, right now. Your consciousness will always be right here, right now.
In fact, that is what consciousness is your awareness of this moment.
There is nothing random. Happenstance does not occur in our universe. This very moment is here,
exactly as it should be, and because it is as it should be, it is perfect! As you read this, you are
exactly where you are supposed to be. Everyone else is exactly where they are supposed to be.
Everything that is happening is exactly what is supposed to be happening.
Doesnt that truth bring a rush of peace into your awareness?
This isnt so much an idea of fate, as if everything has been preordained to be where it is and there
is nothing you can do about it. Rather, it is a representation of the perfection that surrounds you.
Because everything is exactly where it is supposed to be, including yourself and everyone you care
about, nothing can ever be wrong. Nothing needs to be fixed. This moment, and this moment alone,carries with it the perfection of all-that-is.
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3. Live with a Clear Cup
If you take a cup of muddy water and shake it around, it becomes even more cloudy. If you allow the
same cup of water to sit in total stillness, the dirt falls and the water becomes clear. This concept is
often used to teach proper meditation. The longer you keep your mind still, the more clarity you willgain.
The clarity that we are talking about is just another way of describing stillness. When you begin to
live with a still cup (mind), the once muddy pools of your life turn into rivers of clarity.
When we are facing a difficult problem, our natural response is to become disturbed. We worry and
fear what could happen. Feeling these thoughts causes the waters of our life to be shaken, thereby
making them muddy and confusing. When we have dirty water, our lives become unconscious and
difficult; suffering abounds.
When we approach these problems with peace and acceptance, the water becomes still and the
solutions are clear. The answers to lifes difficulties are always before us when we need them.
It pays to let go of your fears and worries. Holding onto them only makes the waters more dirty and
causes greater suffering. Have the courage the let go, to loosen your grip, and to allow the stillness
to make the waters of your life clear again. When seen through the eyes of clarity, life becomes
perfection. You recognize that the difficulties you once saw were simply mud in your cup.
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4. Practice Being Human
The last I checked, I was a human being. If you check now, you will come to the same conclusion.
Why is it, then, that we often have a desire to be something else, something more than human?
This desire can manifest itself in numerous ways. From the need to always be perfect, to holding
back our emotions, to walking or talking unnaturally when in the presence of others, and many
more. Living this way brings incredible amounts of anxiety and difficulty into ones life.
Animals dont suffer from this condition. My dog has never once been dissatisfied as a dog and tried
to act like a human or a bird. Shes happy being a dog because thats what she is. Further, she
doesnt have to try to be a dog or think about what a dog would do in a certain situation, it just
comes naturally to her.
Likewise, being a human comes naturally to us, but somewhere along the way we have replaced
what is natural and simple for what is unnatural and awkward. Somehow, we have come to think
that doing this will make us better than a lowly human.
But this isnt the characteristic of real humanity. Humanity stumbles, it falls, it cries, it hurts others, it
gets hurt, it feels anger, it smiles spontaneously, it lends a hand to someone in need, it fails
miserably, it learns, it grows. Humanity can be complex to the mind, but theres no one who knows
more about how to practice it than you.
As a human, it is not possible to be something more perfect than exactly what you are; just as a dogcould not become a better dog by trying to be a human. Indeed, to embrace the humanity that has
clothed you, that is your highest purpose.
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5. Gain Some Perspective
Consider this when you become too consumed with the challenges of life:
There are over 100 billion(100,000,000,000) distinct galaxies
in the universe each like our own
Milky Way. Each of these galaxies
contain between 100 - 400 billion
(400,000,000,000) stars each
like our own Sun.
Putting all of this into scale, each
of those specs in this picture is adistinct galaxy containing 100+
billion stars. Further, if you were to
stretch out your arm and stick up
your thumb towards the sky, the
actual size of this picture would fit
on a small corner of your
thumbnail. You would need
thousands of these pictures to
cover the size of the night sky.
If that isnt enough: The tiny specs in the back of the picture are galaxies billions of light years away
from us. A light year is the distance that a beam of light can travel in one year. That light has taken
billions of years to reach us. The pictures we are capturing today are from a world that hasnt
existed for billions of years.
Does the poor restaurant service or the parking ticket really matter so much?
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6. Stop Measuring
Small has no inside, big has no outside. This ancient Chinese proverb proves itself to be more
true every day. Science keeps looking for the smallest particle, and astrophysics keeps looking for
the edge of the universe. With this approach, the particles will keep getting smaller and the universewill keep getting bigger because that is not how it works.
In reality, big and small are both relative. So, how could we ever define biggest or smallest? In
comparison to what? What infinitely large/small ruler are we using to measure everything and come
to these assumptions? And, how do we know that this ruler is staying the same size since there is
nothing else to measure it against? It all seems a bit strange, doesnt it?
This isnt just theoretical though, this proverb can serve you in real-life application. Have you ever
found yourself in a state where you think you have just had the biggest problem ever, and then, anew one immediately showed up that dwarfed all the others? Big has no outside. If you are looking
for the absolute biggest problem, it wont be long before you find one even bigger, causing more
anxiety in your life.
As another example, have you ever tried to break a theory/idea down into bite-sized chunks? Did
you reach the ultimate simplicity? Or, did each piece of the puzzle turn into its own (smaller)
puzzle? Small has no inside. Inside each piece you will find 10 more pieces, and 10 more inside
each of those.
What is the lesson here? Relax. Stop thinking. Stop trying to measure or judge your world. When
you apply this proverb, you can stop looking for the extreme. You understand that it is a fools errand
to look for the best, worse, easiest, or hardest because they simply do not exist. You can stop
making comparisons. Perhaps most importantly, you can accept the fluidity of life that there are no
limits or edges (neither inward nor outward).
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7. Focus on the Next Step
Setting goals can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, they give you direction and focus in your
life. On the other, they suck valuable resources into an often endless cycle of thoughts, plans, and
checklists. And since we dont know the future or even how we may want to act in the future, theseplans constantly need revisions. Many times this turns into a spiral of incessant planning for the
future and never paying attention to right now. This is a problem.
The now is all we have; even when we reach some future time/place it will be the now again when
we get there. Because of that, if you want to get from here to there it can only be done through
the now. How do you do this? You simply give all of your attention to right now, to the current step of
your goal, and complete it with perfection.
Perhaps the biggest mistake when planning is to make a list of all the steps that will need to betaken in order to reach the end goal. This is foolish. It is sending a signal to the Universe that you
know every contingency of the future, which you dont. Your place is not to control the process, you
couldnt even do so if you tried.
Once you have a general idea of where you would like to be, it is your job to just take one step in
faith, right now. Then, by forces beyond your control, another step will be made available, and
another. Finally, you will be able to look back with awe at what has been created through you.
By focusing on your role of giving your attention to the current step, and allowing the Universe to
focus on Its role of bringing you the next step, you can accomplish your wildest dreams. And, you
will have a lot more fun along the way.
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8. See Your Natural State
Your original state was, is, and always will be one of joyfulness. Everything in your world is steeped
in a bliss that can only be described as perfection. This joy surrounds you, you cannot escape it. But
then, why arent you always caught up in this wonderful state? Why are there so many problems inlife? Because your ego, or mind, can pinch off your ability to see the true nature of this joy.
It is true that your natural state is joy, but with enough ego/mind, you can limit your awareness of it.
Suffering is the enemy of joy. Your thoughts create suffering in your life that removes your ability to
see the bliss that is always present. With suffering, you become blinded from the joy.
Notice an important distinction between the two. Suffering is created by you and it comes and goes
from time to time. Joy is eternal and always present, you cannot remove it even if you wanted to.
The suffering is transitory; even in its most severe cases, suffering is always short lived. The blissful
joy, however, is constantly waiting for you just below the surface of your thoughts.
You have to work for suffering, you do not have to work for joy. Joy is your birthright.
To overcome suffering, recognize that it is temporary, it will always pass. Also recognize that the joy
will never leave no matter what suffering you endure. Find that ever-present contentment even in
the midst of difficulty and the suffering will lose its hold over you. And without the suffering to cloud
your awareness, you once again return to the pure joy.
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9. Watch Your Step
It is important to become mindful of the ground on which you tread. Every step you take has an
impact. Your foot will leave a print in the ground. You may bend flowers and plants, and you may
squash bugs. None of these things are bad, they are simply the nature of interacting with our world.Becoming aware of the impact you have, before, during, and after you take the step is what is
important.
Notice the transient nature of the mark you leave. While your print may be deep, the flowers may
have withered, and the insects may have died, that is only temporary. Come back in a while and the
dust will have filled your mark, new flowers will have grown, and new bugs will have been born. In
the eternal nature of things, the ground is the same after you as it was before you. You didnt have a
very severe impact.
If you left a print that brings you joy, enjoy it with the perspective that it will soon be filled in. Absorb
the full joy of it right now.
If you left a print that you arent so proud of, take comfort knowing that the dust will soon make your
mark unrecognizable. You always have an impact, but never one that lasts.
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10. Accept Uncertainty
It is not uncommon for us to have a desire for something with no clear way to achieve it. We are
uncertain. This typically brings anxiety and stress, but it does not have to be that way. In fact, when
you accept the state of uncertainty, the world of opportunity begins to flow in your direction.
Eckhart Tolle in A New Earthsays it best: When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite
possibilities open up in your life. If uncertainty is unacceptable to you, it turns into fear. If it is
perfectly acceptable, it turns into increased aliveness, alertness, and creativity.
There is a magic that can be found when you allow the fear to dissolve from uncertainty. You can
almost feel the work of God going on behind the scenes, preparing the answers for you, but you are
in no hurry to find them. You can simply accept where you are, accept the uncertainty.
There will be times in your life when you feel like you need to grow or make a change in some area,
yet you are uncertain about what steps to take. In these situations you are faced with the question:
Can I accept this? Can I be the space for this uncertainty until it is time for answers?
Answers and insight will only come when you are in a state of acceptance. It is easy to block insight
by being in a state of resistance. If you do not like that you are not in control of your destiny, or if you
are impatient for answers, fine. Block the insight out. Each day, your world will shrink smaller and
smaller. Remember: When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in
your life.
On one hand we have acceptance of uncertainty right now and infinite possibilities are awaiting. On
the other we raise our fist and take control of our own destiny our possibilities diminish by the
minute. We are either working with the Universe or we are working against It. Taking sides against
the Universe is not a bet I would make.
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11. Become Self Reliant
You will never find inner fulfillment by looking outside of yourself. It is foolish to seek another person
who can remove all your troubles and fix all of your problems. Only you can do that.
The special someone/something in your life might make you feel GREAT... for a while. But what
happens when they leave or change (and they always will)? Then, the suffering is only stronger than
it was before they arrived. You havent made any real progress.
The message here is that you can never find true fulfillment in others until you first find it within
yourself.
If you need compassion, be compassionate with yourself. If you need love, give yourself some of
the unconditional love that you have within. If you need a friend, learn to enjoy your own company.
This rings especially true when you need advice. Why not ask the only person that really knows
your situation? Get in the habit of consulting the stillness that is within before you consult anyone
else. That stillness has all the right answers at exactly the right times, it only asks that you quiet
your mind enough to listen.
If all of this sounds too simplistic, or even trite, you are probably still searching for that other personwho will give you everything you desire. Needless to say, that position will create a great deal of
stress, anxiety, and dissatisfaction in your life, certainly not the peace that you seek.
This is not about becoming a socially awkward hermit, cut off from others. In fact, having
experiences with other people can be a great source of joy in life. The problems arise when your
meaning, worth, and satisfaction are tied to another person. Suffering will always be right around the
corner. And its not fair to the other person, either; youre really just using them to get the feelings
you want. The moment they stop giving you those wonderful feelings, you have li ttle use for them.
Rather, learn to simply enjoy others for who they are, and look inside to find the fulfillment you seek.
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12. Understand Death
It is a common practice for Buddhist monks to spend time meditating on their own death. This
contemplation isnt the result of some kind of suffering or depression. It is a way to find
peacefulness in this moment.
It might seem counterintuitive to seek peace by thinking about something as morbid as death. On
the surface, death seems so final and definite and scary. Its something we typically run away from,
as if theres a big black void looking to suck us into oblivion unless we fight it off with everything we
have. This doesnt sound too peaceful so far.
Those types of thoughts are based on an incorrect understanding of what death really is. Think
about death objectively, without the typical human fear, and you will realize that it is not the opposite
(and end) of life. It is simply the opposite of birth. Your body was born, so, it will die. Life, on the
other hand, has no beginning, end, or opposite. It was, is, and always will be. Theres really nothing
to be afraid of.
The reality is that none of our bodies will be living to see 2150. There is no denying that truth, and
there is certainly no reason to fight it. When you can understand that youthe very same
consciousness that is reading this right nowwill one day not be here in this physical body, your
problems and anxieties no longer matter quite as much. And, the things that are actually important
to you (love, experience, joy, this moment...) matter a whole lot more.
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13. Open Your Hand
Our common tendency is to grasp things as tightly as we can. Our possessions, our families, our
ideas, our beliefs. The first reaction we have is to clench our fists around them in an attempt to gain
as much control as possible.
This forceful reaction provides a false sense of power. We think that if we can always see it, and
control it, and tell it exactly what to do at all times, then everything will turn out all right. But if we let
go, or turn our backs for an instant, then all could be lost. Does this sound like the characteristics of
true power?
Instead, the tightest grip you can have is an open hand. The true power of our Universe is reserved
not for those who have the tightest stranglehold, or the most lawyers, or the biggest weapons, but
those who can let go the most freely. To this person, coercion becomes cooperation and fear turns
to freedom.
On the surface, an open hand may seem to imply passivity. Its much the opposite. Sure, others
may have more forcefulness (which is vastly different than power), but they soon become bound by
the shackles built with their own hands. When you allow yourself to let go, it becomes a sign to the
Infinite that you are willing to cooperate and accept life as it is. It is only then that you will find the full
power of the Universe on your side.
The meek shall, indeed, inherit the earth.
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14. Give it Away
The more possessions you have, the more likely you are to get caught up in the anxiety of acquiring
and maintaining all of that stuff. With this lifestyle, the majority of your time will be devoted to
protecting your possessions and thats definitely not a path that will lead to peacefulness.
Try to become a bit more of a minimalist. Learn to love the simplicity of having a little.
Instead of buying ten trinkets that you really dont want, buy just one nicer thing that you can enjoy
every day. Or buy nothing at all and do something even more productive with the money; you
probably dont need it anyways.
Go through your closet and donate the clothes you never wear. Clear all the junk off your computer.
Empty that one drawer that is always full of clutter. Give away unnecessary furniture and all the
things stored in boxes in your garage. Make eBay your new best friend.
This isnt about depriving yourself of the things you desire. But it is about learning how most of the
things you acquire really just lead to dissatisfaction and stress. The point is, you can be just as
happy, and a lot more peaceful, without so much stuff in your life. Look at monks, they own
virtually nothing. They even go into the villages each day to collect donations of food that they can
prepare for the day.
Our process is quite silly when you think about it. We create stress from our burning desire to
acquire something new. Then we do acquire it and it only creates more stress now that we have to
use and maintain it. Whats the point?
Just get rid of it all. Start with one room, one category, one aspect of your life, and begin purging
everything that is unnecessary. You will immediately feel a sense of relief.
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15. Love the Transient
Anyone who starts out with the perspective of: this is mine and I dont want to lose itwill create
suffering and anxiety in their life, certainly not peace. The reason this brings anxiety is because you
never own anything, so it is futile to try protecting what you dont even have.
You cannot really possess anything in a realistic sense. It could die, get lost, or be stolen. You can
only have stewardship over things for a period of time. Even your own body will one day die and
return back to the dust. Youre just borrowing it from the earth for a few years. Nothing will last; not
the relationships, not the money, not the possessions, not the health.
This fact might seem depressing on the surface. But remember: when do you most strongly
recognize the value of what you have? When its gone. Understand that you can never own
anything, and everything you have will become a gift to enjoy while it lasts. Let go of your need to
possess and you will find immense joy in the things you have right now.
Take a relationship for example. Many people think that they own their significant other. They say
things like youre mine or I dont want to lose you. This leads to two negative outcomes: 1) you
spend all your time anxiously trying to keep what you think is yours and 2) when you finally wake up
to the fact that your relationship will not last forever, it creates a great deal of suffering.
How much different would that situation be if each partner recognized that their relationship could be
over at any moment, and accepted the time they do have together as a gift? Their love would reach
a whole new level.
Notice the transitory nature in everything; learn to love the clouds simply because you know they will
soon blow away.
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16. Raise Your Consciousness
Consciousness and suffering cannot exist in the same place at the same time. Conscious
awareness is the light and stress is the darkness. When you mix the two together, the light
overcomes the darkness every time.
You can be sure that anyone who is experiencing suffering does not have much light to fight off the
darkness. If you are able to raise your level of consciousness, it will force the suffering, stress, and
anxiety (the hinderances to inner peace) out of your life.
One who has a very high level of consciousness cannot even notice the suffering, let alone
experience it, because it is beyond their field of awareness. Obviously, most of us have not reached
that state; we all experience suffering and stress on occasion. Your aim is to keep the
consciousness "bright" enough at all times so the suffering will never take hold.
Understanding how this works is very simple. Consciousness is the truth, suffering is the il lusion.
Raise the truth and the illusion cannot last for long. In other words, raising your consciousness will
make you aware of the truth that you are always surrounded by an eternal peace. When you see
that level of clarity, thoughts of suffering become like a silly dream and you have no choice but to
feel total joy.
Consciousness is not something that you can just leave to chance, allowing it to come and go as it
pleases. Through intentional effort, anyone can raise their consciousness and thereby raise their
level of peacefulness. The most effective way to do this is through meditation.
Find a place to sit completely still and simply be aware of your ability to be aware. Notice the
stillness that is within you. That stillness is your consciousness. While you sit, be aware of
everything that is happening right now, your breath, the noises around you, even your own
restlessness. Allow your mind to let go of thoughts of the past and future. Just allow yourself to be.
Do this for 15 minutes, 2 times per day. During this time of meditation, you will experience a raised
level of consciousness that drowns out any hinderances to peace. Ultimately, the goal is to sustain
this state even when you are not meditating. And from that place, your level of inner peace can riseto new heights.
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17. Calm the Storm
Lakes are a good analogy for people.
A lake may have a violent and stormy surface at times. We see this and think of the lake as
dangerous and unapproachable. One would have to be crazy to sail out onto it.
We fail to notice that what we see is just a few inches of the exterior, while miles of depth remain
below the surface. This depth, which accounts for 99% of the lakes mass, cannot be harmed by any
exterior storm or attack. The innermost depth of the lake is, and always will be, majestically still.
Similarly, this stillness lives within each of us. Our surface may have tremendous waves, often
caused by violent storms. But thats only the exterior. When you feel the storms brewing in yourself,
or notice them in others, have courage to dive beyond the rocky surface. There you will find an
everlasting stillness that is incapable of being disturbed. That very thought will soothe the waves inyour life.
Think back to the story of Jesus calming the sea (Mark 4:35-41). Jesus, as you may remember, was
asleep in the stern of the boat while the storm was raging. He knew that a storm is nothing to fear, it
is merely a temporary disturbance of the eternal peace that cannot be harmed.
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18. Give Up
Ironically, the quest to bring peace into your life can cause a great deal of stress if youre not careful.
When you are so passionate in your desire to achieve something, you seek out systems and
strategies and techniques that will help you get closer. These good-intentioned efforts begin to spina web around you until you are more paralyzed and confused than when you started.
Take meditation, for example. It is a great way to bring more peace and consciousness into your life.
But if you add it as an item to your daily checklist, it becomes a chore. You think about how difficult it
is going to be, how much you are dreading it, and how you dont have enough time. You have
turned something peaceful into a source of stress. Dont do that.
The most important thing you can ever do is feel joyful. None of your goals are more important than
that you feel great. In fact, it's the state of joy that allows the things you want to come into your life.
Feeling a negative emotion (stress, anxiety, anger, etc.) is like slamming the door in the face of your
desires.
But heres the problem: When those bouts of negative feelings strike, its not so easy to just say
Oh, Im going to feel joyful now. It doesnt work that way. Instead, when life has you feeling
overwhelmed, or anxious, or angry, there is only one thing to do: surrender.
Surrender is when you ease up on yourself. It is saying that nothing, not even your goal, is more
important than the way you feel right now. Surrender has the confidence to stop forcingthings to
happen and start allowingthem to happen. From this place of joyful surrender, you do not lose yourdesires, you only lose the chains that were holding you away from your desires to begin with.
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