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LOVE AND MARRIAGE AFFAIRS IN BANGLADESH

ByNilufar Rahman Rukhshana

ASTE ASTE Cooperation and Partnership with Bangladesh

Yamaguchi, Japan

November 28, 2009.

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•LOVE IS UNIVERSAL

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•LOVE IN THE VILLAGES

-SECRECY

-RARE SCOPE FOR DATING

-TRADITIONAL CUMUNICATION

-LIMITED EXPRESIONS OF LOVE

-A FEW SUCESSFUL ENDING

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LOVE IN THE URBAN AREAS

-GUARDIANS ARE RELATIVELY LESS CONSERVATIVE-SOME SCOPE FOR DATING-INFLUENCE OF ELECTRONIC MEDIA -MOBILE PHONE AND ONLINE CUMMUNICATION-VALENTINES DAY IS BEING POPULAR-RELATIVELY MORE SUCESSFUL ENDING

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LOVE MARRIAGE

-GUARDIANS USUALLY DON’T ALLOW, FRIENDS PRESENT AT THE MARRIAGE

-MARRIAGE IS HAPPENED AT KAZI OFFICE OR COURT

-VERY SIMPLE AND LESS EXPENSESIVE

-DOWRY IS USUALLY NOT REQUIRED

MARRIAGES IN BANGLADESH

• ARRANGED MARRIAGE

• LOVE MARRIAGE

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ARRANGED MARRIAGE

- GUARDIAN/RELATIVES WITH MATCHMAKER CAN TAKE DECISION

-AFTER MARRIAGE BRIDES` RESIDENCE CHANGED

-IN HINDU CUMMUNITY, NO REGISTRATION SYSTEM AND SUFFICIENT DOWRY REQUIRED

MARRIAGE IN RURAL AREAS

-REGISTRATION (NIKKAHNAMA ) IS BEING MENDATORY

-DOWRY IS ALL MOST FORMAL

-MARRIAGE FESTIVALS ARE DIVERSE,BUT TRADITIONAL IN NATURE

MARRIAGES IN CITIES-DOWRY IS APPARENTLY INFORMAL-EXCESSIVE UNNECESSARY EXPENSES-ARRANGED BY PROFESSIONAL COMMUNITY CENTER

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WEDDING RETUALS

-PRE-WEDDING RETUALS (ASIRBHAD, GAYE HOLUD, ETC.)

-MAIN WEDDING RETUALS (BOR JATRI, BOR BORON, NIKAHNAMA, MALA BADAL, ETC. )

-POST WEDDING RETUALS (BIDDAY, BOU BAHT AND BODHU BORON,PHOOLSAJJA, ETC.)

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GAYE HOLUD

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REGISTRATION

(NIKKAHNAMA)

BLESSING THE COUPLE

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WEDDING FOOD

BIDDAY

PHOOLSHAJJA

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MUSLIM BRIDE/BRIDEGROOM

HINDU BRIDE/BRIDEGROOM

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CHILD MARRIAGE AND

UNPLANNED BABAY

DOWRY AND REPRESSION

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Discussion