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Foreword
“Everything starts from thought. If you master your thoughts, you learn the right words. If you master your words, you learn the right actions. If you master your actions, you adopt new habits. If you master your habits, it builds character. If you build your character, you will change your destiny.”
One of the biggest lessons we have learned in life is that it has
taught us that life is a huge social construct. We have
expectations and obligations placed upon us. We squeeze
ourselves into roles and we forget who we truly are inside.
Thoughts are a gold mine if we truly harness its awesome power
to create an extraordinary life instead of having our thoughts
being conformed by flimsy social constructs, having the power to
choose choices that liberates us instead of constricting us.
We hope that this book will bring you much joy and liberation as
we had putting this together. It took us years of learning,
experimenting and building the game called ‘life’ and all its
lessons are put together in this book.
The first step begins with your first thought – to have a better life!
Khai S. Ng & Yuenn Ng
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Power Follows Thought Table Of Contents
Introduction
Why controlling your thoughts will make or break your life Most people are slave to their thoughts Learning how to ‘catch’ your thoughts
Using thoughts to improve your personal life
Using thoughts to empower your financial life
Using thoughts to have a fulfilling career
Using thoughts to break bad habits and form new good ones
Using thoughts to improve your health
Using thoughts to strengthen your fitness level
Using thoughts to improve your spiritual life
Using thoughts to find your true love
Using thoughts to strengthen the bonds between your family
Using thoughts to find the kind of friends you want
Conclusion
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Introduction
A man who was broke all his life made a
shift in his thoughts to become a
multimillionaire.
A woman who had been in abusive
relationships all her life, changed the way
she thought about men and attracted the
lover of her dreams.
A teenage boy changed his thoughts and
went from being a scrawny body to a six-
pack muscle stacked quarterback in a year.
A depressed girl who felt rejected all her life
decide to commit herself to feeling loved and attracted friends that made her life feel
fulfilled.
These are just examples of ‘miraculous’ breakthroughs that changes a person’s life almost
seemingly overnight.
They are not special people. They are just ordinary people who made a choice to make
their thoughts their greatest allies rather than their biggest tormentors.
If you are reading this now, it is not an accident.
God, nature or the universe has aligned us to be here in this space right now and it is your
thoughts that have helped you to be here.
You probably want a change in your life. You probably want to create phenomenal results
and live the kind of life you want. You are here for a reason.
We are here for a reason too.
Since you are here, we will give our all to help you to master the most powerful tool in your
arsenal for abundance - your thoughts.
Get ready for the ride of your life.
Khai S. Ng & Yuenn Ng
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Why Controlling Your Thoughts Will Make
Or Break Your Life
Most people are slaves to their thoughts
Have you watched the movie ‘Limitless’? It is about a guy who finds a magic pill and once
he ingests it, his whole mind is ‘activated’ in such a way that he can remember all the
details of a book he read years ago, figure out complex mathematical predictions to game
the stock market, learn a new language in seconds and even do kung fu as though Neo
from the Matrix has been uploaded with every fighting technique there is.
This is a myth.
We’re not going to teach you how to access the
extra 90% of your brain.
In fact, if you can already use 1% of your brain
effectively, it is more than enough.
We sometimes beat ourselves up thinking that if
we can be ‘better’ or use more of our brains, we
can reach our full potential.
However, we can fully attest to the fact that if you can just focus on working with your
existing thoughts and harness the power of them, you don’t need a magic pill to make a
miracle happen.
This miracle is just at your fingertips and if you harness your thoughts correctly, your
miracle could manifest as quickly as the next minute.
Take a look around us:
- You hum a song in your mind and the next thing you know, the person sitting next to you
starts singing that same tune even though you didn’t make a sound
- You think about an old friend you haven’t called in a long time and suddenly your phone
rings and their name appears
- You change a small belief and judgment about people and suddenly the world opens up
with opportunities with that group as though the fog has been lifted
- Even Internet entrepreneurs ‘attract’ abundance in money and the next thing they know
is a $5,000 sale appears in their PayPal account
These coincidences aren’t coincidences.
Your thoughts brought them into reality.
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If you know how powerful your existing thoughts are, you would be careful to take care of
every thought you think.
Unfortunately, people do not do it the right
way.
Instead of making their thoughts their ally,
they become a slave to it and their thoughts
and their minds torment them incessantly.
Their thoughts run them.
It’s like they have been possessed by a force
within themselves and the worst part about it
is the more negative they are, the more they
attract the things they don’t want and they
become more and more negative attracting
even more crap into their lives.
This vicious cycle makes them worse and
worse and they wonder why god or the
universe is so unfair or that they are not
meant to succeed in anything.
Eventually, they become too afraid to even
‘think’ that they can be successful and they lock themselves up in a prison of mediocrity
and a self-fulfilling prophecy of despair and doom.
Do you see this destructive pattern?
It is all because of our thoughts.
The best example we can give about a person who was a slave to his thoughts was none
other than Jim Carrey.
This A-list actor wasn’t always smiling and laughing.
He had confessed that he was struggling with bouts of depression and he said that he was
trapped in his own mind.
He even once said, “I wish everyone could experience being rich and famous, so they’d
see it wasn’t the answer to anything...”
Obsessive thinking and repeating patterns became a part of him because he was locked in
his own thoughts because he spent most of his childhood trying to entertain his mother
who was ill all the time.
Fame and fortune brought no relief to his suffering and he sought deeper.
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After a long struggle, he finally woke up one day with a very enlightened state that he is
not his mind.
Read that line again - he is not his mind.
Most of the captivity arises because we
think that we are our thoughts.
The moment that we are able to
disassociate ourselves from our negative
thoughts, we are able to take control of
them and use them to create a miracle in
life.
It was that moment that Jim Carrey
became free from the torments of his own
mind and he experienced inner peace
like no other.
Feeling stuck in your own brain is an
objectionable feeling and one a lot of
individuals with anxiety have issues with
as well. We could provide a list of why
this is however in our opinion the principal cause is the trapped thinking about ‘us’.
If you consider the common individual walking down the street, they'll be considering what
they're going to eat for dinner, then the meeting they will have at work later that day,
meeting up with acquaintances for lunch, everything is outside of them, where as
individuals who suffer with anxiety think principally about themselves and how they're
feeling, everything is inside them, which causes a lot of the feelings of being trapped in
your own brain
We have known many people who have spent years thinking about just them, fretting and
trying to find a way out of the way they were feeling, but they found that this had exactly
the opposite happening and they started to feel more and more trapped and alone in their
mind. Naturally they would feel trapped their own mind, it adds up they never let anything
else in, being lost in thinking about the way they felt and how to get out of the predicament
had sent them down a road where ‘anxiety’ had become who they were. They were so
used to fretting and thinking about what could happen that this became a habit.
You see what they needed to do was change this process and habit.
The first step we need to do is to be aware of our thought patterns and start working with
them (you can’t fight an enemy if you don’t even believe it exists!)
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Learning how to ‘catch’ your thoughts
Now that you are aware of the nature of your thoughts, let’s begin by recognizing thought
patterns in your life. Notice how much power we give to our thoughts.
Here are some examples:
- I can’t get anything right... whenever I start something, it always isn’t perfect or it turns
bad. I don’t think I ever want to try anything big in case I will fail
- I don’t have luck with money
- My mom doesn’t love me the way I want her to love me
- My friends are all dead beat friends
- I’ll never find my true love. Most of the men I meet are scumbags hence men can’t be
trusted
- I’ll never be able to lose weight... I guess I’m just big boned or not born athletic
- Meditation is too difficult, I can never concentrate...
Do you see how these thoughts create the kind of life you
don’t want? The more you think about it, the more it
reinforces it, attracts more of it and keeps you in captivity.
Before we can understand why these thoughts work this way,
you have to realize why they are there in the first place.
It is not enough to think a different thought if your
subconscious mind does not recognize why you should not
be thinking this.
Perhaps subconsciously you believe this to be true (as
shocking as this may sound).
The first step to make your mind work with you rather than against you is to believe in the
truth. The mind’s job is to protect you and this is one of the reasons why it can often work
against you is because the truth is too painful to process and it causes the mind to quickly
reframe the truth into a lie in order to protect you.
Let’s look at a few examples of why people can often believe in a lie and hence become a
slave to their thoughts:
- A child witnesses their parents fighting over money. He decides that money is the root of
unhappiness in his family and when he grows up, he decides subconsciously that ‘never
again’ will he let money cause unhappiness in his family. His mind associates thinking
about money as ‘bad’ and he winds up avoiding issues with money hence he is broke but
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apparently ‘happy’. (Note: Money is not
the root of all evil, the love or the hatred
of money is the real cause of suffering!)
- A woman grows up watching her mom
beaten by her step-dad. Her mom
leaves her step-dad and finds a
boyfriend who does the same. This
pattern repeats itself for years and she
decides that men cannot be trusted.
This thought manifests itself in all her
relationships where she either drives
her boyfriends away by being an ‘overly
attached girlfriend’ (keeping a close
watch on their every move) and she
winds up being ‘right’ all the time... that
men just can’t be trusted. (Note: the
mind always wants to be right so it will
create the kind of result even if you
don’t like!)
- An overweight boy goes to school and
performs badly in a track and field
competition. His friends ridicule him for
losing and he decides that he just isn’t
good at anything physically related. He
brings this thought into adulthood and
becomes obese. Later on, he tries all
the diets and exercises but every time
he loses weight, he gains back even
more and this vicious cycle continues...
- A person has a friend that they have
asked to help them with a project that
really means a lot to them and has to
be done at a particular time. The friend that is asked to help swears up and down that
they will finish their part of the project on time. The day rolls around when the important
project is due and the friend has not even started on their part. The person that asked for
help now feels as if all his friends will fail him and he will never again trust any of his
friends with things that are important.
All these examples have one thing in common - a false belief rooted in a past experience.
Once you identify the childhood difficulty or past trauma and recognize that you have a
choice to choose differently based on truth, then you have the power to change your future.
If you are unhappy about the results in your life, make a list of these false belief systems
by ‘catching’ these thoughts, write them down, and choose the opposite.
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Exercises
Area Of Your Life False Belief Truth
Personal Life
Financial Life
Career
Good and Bad Habits
Health
Fitness Level
Spiritual Life
Love Life
Family Life
Friendships
Here is a chart you can fill in with the following questions below to realistically
examine the various areas of your life.
1. If you are unhappy about your personal life, write down a belief about it and choose
the alternative (e.g. I am not a confident person versus I can be a confident person)
2. If you are unhappy about the amount of money your bank account, write down a
belief about it and choose the alternative (e.g. Wealthy people are greedy versus
wealthy people are one of the most giving people)
3. If you are unhappy about your job or career, write down a belief about it and choose
the alternative (e.g. I’m not good at running a business versus I can do meaningful work
by myself)
4. If you are unhappy about your habits, write down a belief about it and choose the
alternative (I’ll never be able to quit smoking versus I can choose a healthier habit)
5. If you are unhappy about your health, write down a belief about it and choose the
alternative (I always fall sick at this time of the year versus I am healthy all the time)
6. If you are unhappy about your fitness level, write down a belief about it and choose
the alternative (I can never lose weight versus it’s only a matter of time before I lose
weight)
7. If you are unhappy about your spiritual life, write down a belief about it and choose
the alternative (Spiritual people are financially poor versus you can be spiritual and be
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rich at the same time)
8. If you are unhappy about your love life, write down a belief about it and choose the
alternative (I’ll never find true love versus it’s only a matter of time before I find my true
love)
9. If you are unhappy about your family life, write down a belief about it and choose
the alternative (My family will never change versus I love them just the way they are)
10. If you are unhappy about your friends, write down a belief about it and choose the
alternative (I only have deadbeat friends versus I choose positive and empowering
friends)
Have you uncovered your self-limiting beliefs?
Time to set some better ones based on truth and we’ll go into the specifics in the next 10
chapters to help you to get a better breakthrough.
We go even more in depth in our Master Course with these exercises as well.
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Using Thoughts To Improve Your
Personal Life
“A young child is often inquisitive about the world and the way they express their curiosity is by asking questions. A parent grows sick and tired on his child’s incessant questioning and tells the kid to shut up. That same child tries different things are gets punished for making a mistake. Very soon, the child stops asking questions and grows up afraid to learn something new for the fear of making a mistake because the pattern is reinforced.”
Imagine the scenario that you’re with the way your body looks. What happens to you
because of this? Well, you could be envious of others (who, you should realize, are
likewise not pleased with their bodies). You may be concerned that you’re not attractive so
you won't meet anyone, and consequently weaken your chances at a relationship. If you’re
already in a relationship, you may believe your partner will leave you for somebody who
looks better. You may then behave badly, and do things out of jealousy that in reality leads
to your partner becoming unhappy, and maybe finally leaving you.
If you’re not happy with your body, you may not want to see it. You may stop eating to the
point you become unhealthy, and then as you are starving, gorge yourself, and then feel
worse about the situation. You may avoid exercise, as you don’t want to even entertain the
body image issue. You may cram your face with junk food as a comfort, and then make
the health issues worse.
You could have anxiety about all of this, your body, your wellness, your partner leaving
you. Then you use more food to alleviate the anxiety, and it spirals downward. Or you go
shopping to make yourself feel better, and you and scrounging to pay bills and have all
this stuff you don't need. Or you drink excessively or numb yourself with other things so
you don’t have to consider all this.
At work, you’re not happy, as you aren’t self confident about you or your body, so you
don’t accomplish the items that demand confidence and that would boost your career. You
may not search for work you’re more passionate about, because you don’t believe you’re
adequate. Even with the job you are doing, you do what you can to not consider how
unhappy you are, so you procrastinate with social networks, games, and other diversions.
There’s much more that’s possible, but you get the idea.
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In life, your relationship with yourself is the most
important relationship in the world.
We are often nicer to other people compared to
ourselves. A good example is the way we treat our
guests when they come to our house compared to the
way we sometimes treat the family members who live
in the same house.
We are also more prone to keep our word to others
(fear of breaking a promise to others because of what
they might think of us) versus keeping a promise to
ourselves.
Pretty soon, we stop working on ourselves and start
focusing on the problems of other people.
The biggest reason individuals aren’t more self-
compassionate is that they're frightened they will get to
be self-indulgent. They think self-criticism is what keeps them on the straight and narrow.
A lot of individuals have gotten it wrong since our culture states being hard on yourself is
the way you are supposed to be. So our "little voice" inside is keeping us in line, so they
believe. But it's really hurting us in the long run.
If you want to have a breakthrough in this area, it is time to start examining your thoughts
about your personal life.
Here’s how you can examine your thoughts about yourself:
Write down 5 qualities about yourself. There’s no good or bad - just write them down if it is
the first thing that pops up in your head.
1. ___________________________
2. ___________________________
3. ___________________________
4. ___________________________
5. ___________________________
The next step is very important. What are your thoughts about these qualities? Why did
you wind up with these thoughts in the first place?
Examine them by looking back in your life - why did you decide that this was who you are?
What is the meaning that you give to these qualities?
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For example: If you wrote that you are ‘lazy’. Why do you call yourself lazy? Was there an
incident in your life that made you decide that you are a lazy person? Is this quality true
about you or is it because someone else decided that for you?
As you go deeper, you realize that the power over your personal life is not so much about
the word you ascribe to yourself but rather the thoughts about it. The more you think about
those thoughts, the more power you give to it.
Do you realize that this is how you view yourself?
This is the summary of your relationship with yourself.
Imagine that there are two of you. You are sitting opposite yourself and you are telling that
person (which is you) who you are.
When you look at yourself from a 3rd person point of view (outside of yourself), you will
start to reclaim your power by looking at yourself objectively versus the subjective nature
of the mind.
You become free to choose the way you see yourself - the same way we choose to see a
person in a different light and you will get a different result.
Remember that you are NOT your thoughts.
Your thoughts are a tool in your toolbox that you can use to manifest a certain outcome in
the world.
But first, you must recognize that you are the captain of your ship. You (your control over
your thoughts) tell the ship where the ship (your life) wants to go.
Learn how to strengthen your relationship with yourself by being kind to yourself because
the kinder you treat yourself, you will enjoy your relationship with yourself.
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These are a few tips about strengthening your personal life.
Power Follows Thoughts Lesson:
1) Tell yourself that you are your own best friend. Understand that you are the one who will
always be there for you and the one that you can always count on.
2) Be patient. It's crucial to be patient with yourself if you're going through a hard time.
Impatience leads toward decreased self-respect and a general foul mood. It's likewise
something we tend to sulk over; becoming stuck in the negative past rather than treasuring
the here and now. Remain patient and you'll be certain to have additional peace in your life.
3) Watch the negatives. Everyone uses self-talk. Occasionally it's favorable and
occasionally it's negative (or very damaging). Do you say things to yourself like: “you
moron” or “how stupid are you?” Do you say things to yourself that you would not say to
other people? Are your words to yourself kind?
For a lot of reasons it's good to attempt to be aware of negative self-talk and to change it.
With awareness one may change things. With “kindness to self”, it's crucial to shift ugly to
words and tones into other statements that you'd feel comfortable using with somebody
else. Courteous words, kind words, make you feel great or better or even like you are
accepted.
4) Encouragement. When things are hard or you're fighting with something,
encouragement is a fantastic way of giving you a boost. However, does encouragement
have to come from somebody outside. We ought to constantly have enough favorable
belief in ourselves to see us through. Belief is empowering.
5) Forgiveness. Forgiveness is frequently not easy. Among the steps in achieving
forgiveness for others is self-forgiveness. So, if we don’t get that correct, we're “doomed”
in trying to forgive other people. Forgiving yourself is crucial.
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Using Thoughts To Empower Your
Financial Life
“A man works hard all his life struggling with money issues. He dabbles in all kinds of opportunities ranging from network marketing to investment schemes. Some ventures fail while he makes some here and there and often burns his profits on other unprofitable schemes. After years repeating this pattern of making and losing money, he finally throws his hands up in the air and decides that he’s just not cut out to be financially free”
Why do some people seem to have the Midas touch when it comes to money while others
seem to struggle with it all their lives? The answer is all rooted in their belief systems about
making money.
Know that it is not about having money per se that determines our wealth or status but
rather our thoughts about money that determines our true wealth.
Money is not the cause, it is the effect. It is merely a result of what our thoughts fixate
upon.
Chances are, when you are young, you were programmed with a set of beliefs (whether
true or false, beneficial or detrimental…), and these belief systems are stuck in your
subconscious mind. By uprooting these beliefs, you will be able to clear the money blocks
or financial blocks that will help you to prosper in your financial life.
Here are a number of financial beliefs you may or may not have:
Money doesn’t grow on trees
Wealthy people are all greedy and selfish
If I become rich, my friends will start asking me for money
Managing money is difficult, if I start having more money,
I’ll have lots of work
It is much better to have a steady job that pays
consistently (although less)
Money is the root of all evil
If I want to become wealthy, I’ll have to take more from others
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If I am rich, it is very hard to be spiritual
The more money I have, the more problems I’ll have
Robbers will rob me if I buy an expensive car
He/she probably inherited a large sum of money to get that…
I despise rich people… they make me sick
You need to have lots of money then only you can earn lots of money
It is better to give than to receive
In order to be rich, I’ll need to sacrifice time from my family and work till I die
God does not want me to be rich
I just don’t have what it takes to be rich
Do you see how difficult it is to become rich with this kind of mindset?
Consider one of the wealthiest men in the world, Donald Trump. He filed for bankruptcy 4
times in his life. He could have fallen back on the “money is bad” mindset. But instead he
has a core belief system that he will be abundant regardless what. This belief system
drives his thoughts, feelings and behaviors. And when these match up and work together,
the then what you desire, believe and center on manifests.
I try to learn from the past, but I plan for the future by focusing exclusively on the present. That's where the fun is. Donald Trump
The first thing you need to do is to recognize that these incorrect belief systems we talked
about above are not helpful. We’re not saying that you cannot be a good giver to give to
others, it’s just that people self-righteously believe that it’s bad to be a good receiver (on
the contrary, it is better to BE in a position to give rather than receive only… there’s
nothing wrong with receiving per se)
If you are having any of these thoughts, a quick way to take the first step towards
changing your destiny is to think the opposite of them.
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Try this:
- Money grows because of great ideas
- Wealthy people are generous and they are great givers that’s why they are wealthy
- If I become rich, I’ll be in a position to help others
- Managing money is fun and I have more choices
- Job security is a myth… I can create my own income anytime
- I love money and money gives me more choices to help others
- If I want to become wealthy, I’ll have to give more value to others
- I can be rich and spiritual at the same time
- The more money I have, the more units of choices I have
- Only jealous people curse others who drive a luxurious car. I’ll have one soon…
- Bless that person who has money for he/she can use it to help others
- I love rich people and I’ll become one of them
- You can make money out of thin air with creativity, great ideas and working smart
- I love receiving and it is better to BE in a position to give than to just receive only
- I might have to work hard for awhile, but in future, I’ll have all the free time I want
- God wants to bless you and make you rich!
Do you see how important it is to reprogram your thoughts with empowering words and
sentences?
Even if your mind resists the notion of these wealthy mindsets, at least know that it is
better to try something new and become rich than believe the same stuff and become
broke.
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Start repeating the wealthy mindset every single day to train your thoughts and see what
happens.
Power Follow Thoughts Lesson:
1) Tell yourself that true financial riches come from being rich and giving value before your
bank account can be rich.
2) Center on long-term goals. Simply because you go through a small setback doesn't
imply that you won't finally get where you wish to go. there will be freshly chances for you
to work towards your goals.
3) Remind yourself of the things you already have and personal strengths if you're tempted
to consider your weaknesses, needs or things you have failed at. The polar reverse of
abundance is called "scarcity." Don't let yourself to get into a hard to escape way of
thinking negatively. When negative thoughts spring up, instantly replace them with
favorable reminders.
4) Forge and maintain relationships with other people who share a good attitude about
money and abundance. Others who have a positive mentality will help to encourage you.
You don't have to totally shun those in your life who don't share this mentality, however do
not surround yourself with mostly negative thinkers. A bit much negative input will likely
make training a positive outlook harder.
5) Write evidence of opportunities and favorable events every day. Start a personal journal.
Make it as brief or as elaborate as you wish. Maintaining this sort of record helps you to
review and reflect on real world examples of your reformed mentality taking shape.
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Using Thoughts To Have A Fulfilling
Career
“Daniel is an artistic person who dreams of starting his own art showroom. Unfortunately, he is stuck in a dead end job as an engineer. Even though he is doing good work, his heart does not want to be one and he longs to fulfill his passion but he is too afraid to break out from his unfulfilling career for fear that his parent’s hopes and wishes that he makes good use of his engineering degree would be heartbroken. As a result, he feels stressed, burned out, strained because his spirit hates his job and feels depressed…”
There are many societies in the world that believes that either you become a doctor,
lawyer or an engineer, you are a ‘nobody’.
Of course, not everyone can become a doctor, lawyer, or engineer – it just wouldn’t make
sense!
Who’s going to cook in a restaurant to make sure the doctor, lawyer or engineer has food
on the table? Who’s going to become a policeman to keep them safe? And the most ironic
of all – who is going to start a business or a practice for the doctors, lawyers and
engineers out there?
If a fish is judged based on his aptitude to climb a tree, that tree would be the most
useless thing in nature…
Take the case of Steve Jobs. He began his life as an adopted
child, which is not a bad thing, just a fact that could have
shifted his mental attitude if he had let it from the beginning.
The father showed Steve how to work on electronics in the
garage, showing his son how to dismantle and rebuild
electronics like radios and televisions. As a result, Steve got
interested in and developed a hobby of technical monkeying
around.
The mother Clara was an accountant who taught him to read
before he attended school.
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Job’s youth was riddled with problems in school. In grammar school, he was a cut-up
whose fourth-grade instructor had to bribe him to study. Jobs tested so well, all the same,
administrators wanted him to skip over 2 grades and enter high school—a proposal his
parents said no to, allowing him skip over only one grade.
Jobs then went to junior high school and senior high and met a computer whiz kid named
Steve Wozniak which sparked his interest in computers. Jobs dropped out of college after
6 months and spent the following 18 months checking out creative classes, including a
course on calligraphy. He continued this path while sleeping on the floor in friends'
dormitories, taking back Coke bottles to buy food, and getting weekly free meals from a
temple. Jobs later stated, "If I had never dropped by that single calligraphy course in
college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts
when it was designed.
You see even though he had a rough go of it, he finally made his way to what he was
passionate about.
Do you see a possible belief system that could be holding you back?
A career is not something you do simply just
to earn money – it is an expression of your
spirit.
Your work defines who you are (after all, we
spend a third of our lives in the workplace or
in the marketplace so learning to enjoy it is
the key).
Make a list of stuff you like to do and see
which of these you can correlate into a
career. It doesn’t matter if you can’t do it
now… fill in the list first and you’ll see. Ask
yourself:
The first thing I think about in the morning is:
1. ___________________________
When I get back home from work, the first thing I reach for is:
2. ___________________________
When the weekend comes, I will:
3. ___________________________
My dream life consists of:
4. ___________________________
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I lose track of time when I:
5. ___________________________
6. ___________________________
Time flies when:
7. ___________________________
Tomorrow is the day I can’t wait to start:
8. ___________________________
If money weren’t an issue, I’d be doing this for the rest of my life:
9. ___________________________
My greatest passion is:
10. ___________________________
Did you see how your spirit lights up when you
fill up these blank spaces?
That’s the power of your thoughts.
Think about these day in and day out.
Even if your passion doesn’t make you money,
at least you will be even more motivated during
your job to generate more money to fund your
passion.
Another way to ‘program’ your thoughts is this:
Take a leap of faith and trust that if you hate your current job so much and you leave it to
do something else; your job-hopping on each stop will take you from one milestone to
another milestone instead of feeling stuck in one place where you will not feel any sense
of fulfillment.
Your work is an expression of your soul. Remember that the more you tell yourself that
you hate your job, the more it creates a downward spiral of mediocrity to the universe.
Start by training your mind to say that I love my job or I love to learn. At the very least, it
will give you the courage to move towards the next step with a leap of faith.
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Power Follows Thoughts Lesson:
1) Tell yourself that when you love what you are doing, you will have a fulfilling career and
money will soon follow.
2) Specify your goals. Ask yourself in which areas of your career you want success. In
order to accomplish your goals, you have to first know precisely what they are. Remember,
you're reprogramming your brain, so answer your questions positively.
Draw up a list of positive questions and replies. If you wish to program your brain to help
you acquire a new job, for instance, grand statements like: "I can get that job," are likely to
be declined by your subconscious, as you don't truly believe what you've written. Rather,
compose questions like: "Why am I able to that job?" Then, answer the question with a list
of your favorable talents and skills. be positive as you answer your questions. Then study
the list each day. After a couple of days, add a fresh question, like: "Why am I getting to be
more positive?"
3) Think positively. If you perpetually assume that a negative thought is real, like "I'll never
pass that test," your subconscious will think you. When you have a damaging thought,
attempt to shift it to something favorable, like: "I will study really hard."
4) Discover a place to meditate where you feel comfy and relaxed. Meditate. You don't
need to sit cross-legged on a mountain to accomplish this. Merely discover a calm,
relaxing space where you won't be distracted. Shut your eyes, center on breathing and
relaxing and consider the success you've accomplished in your life or career thus far.
Think positive thoughts like "I'm a great person and love my life," and meditate about times
you've proved this.
5) Begin a diary of gratitude. Sustaining a gratitude diary may produce a huge shift in the
way you think and feel. Throughout the day, watch for items that make you thankful, like a
beautiful flower or the comfy chair at your desk. When you go to sleep every night, write 5
of these items in your diary. Observe any troubles you experience throughout the day, and
attempt to add a favorable angle to these obstacles.
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Using Thoughts To Break Bad Habits And
Form New Good Ones
“Jesse has been smoking all his life. He comes up with every excuse under the sun why he fails to quit every year. The worst thing is, he beats himself up in his mind every time he takes a cigarette. He confesses that sometimes, the guilt of hiding his smoking habit from his wife is often more painful than the damage he is doing to his lungs… ”
Everyone is a creature of habit.
The stuff that you do every single day for 2-5 minutes will become a lifelong pattern that
often will have a tremendous impact on your destiny.
Take for example: a computer game that you decide to play after work…
It starts off as a casual hobby – clicking here, clicking there, then back to work.
The next day it starts again and you can get more and more interested in it.
Later on, it goes from five minutes into an hour and maybe even two hours.
Pretty soon you are hooked and it consumes your life.
Of course, we have nothing against computer games… but rather the habit that makes you
unproductive.
No thought occupies your mind rent-free and because it is
in your mind, you will constantly think about it until the
thought of not thinking about it is like a withdrawal
symptom.
From our experience, we have learned that it is very hard
to ‘break’ bad habits, but if you were to spend your time
replacing it with a new better habit, your mind will be less
occupied with the bad habit.
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Here is a way to deal with the example of computer gaming addiction – instead of working
at home, start going out to Starbucks and working in an environment where everyone else
is working as well. You will be more compelled to work on your stuff there.
Here is another example.
As individuals who become used to firing up a cigarette
whenever they enter their car or are on the phone, the
sheer action of driving or speaking on the phone may make
you want to smoke. This accounts for a couple of reasons
to smoke, and smokers get a lot of triggers that spread
throughout their lives. Likewise, smokers who resort to
smoking while coming across stressful conditions often lose
their self-belief in their ability to tackle such conditions
without smoking.
Actually, these people are under the belief that it would simply be unimaginable for them to
act on situations if they quit the habit of smoking cigarettes. This is a chief case of the
psychological aspect of smoking behavior – employing smoking as a means to keep one's
distance from the roadblocks and challenges of life. If smokers become conscious of their
triggers that might vary from person to person and attempt to adopt appropriate
techniques to tackle the situation, they face a particular degree of hardship in doing so.
But habits can be changed.
To start off your new chain of good habits, make a list of bad habits you would like to
replace with a good one:
Bad Habit Desired Good Habit
Focus is the key – don’t try and change too many habits at once.
The key is to implement this habit for a full 30 days. Don’t focus too much on getting it
‘right’, as long as you get into the habit of creating a habit, you will learn to shift out of your
comfort zones and your mind will start to reprogram itself to ‘lock in the new habits’.
The mind can be very tricky and will start to feed you lies.
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If you think about breaking your bad habits ‘permanently’, you will crack under the
pressure of the thought of never doing it again.
Don’t think like that – think that you’ll be
reinforcing a new good habit and it is only for
5 minutes a day. These 5 minutes could be
anything from reading a personal
development article to taking a 5-minute walk
or calling up an old friend just to keep in touch.
Anything you do for 5 minutes over a long
period of time will help you to install new
habits and when you enjoy your good habits
so much, you won’t have time for your bad habits.
Try it today and tell yourself, that it is just 5 minutes.
Power Follows Thoughts Lesson:
1) Tell yourself that you love to create good habits every single day for 5 minutes.
2) For every habit, distinguish your triggers. What conditions spark your smoking habit
(waking up, drinking coffee, drinking alcohol, nerve-wracking meetings, going out etc.) or
whatever habit it is? Distinguish all of them, for every habit.
3) For each trigger, key a favorable habit you’re going to do as an alternative. When you
first get up, rather than going through with your bad habit, what will you do? What about
when you become strained? If you go out ? A few favorable habits may include: exercise,
meditation, deep breathing, organization, de-cluttering, and more.
4) For, at any rate 30 days, center solely on being as uniform with your triggers as you can.
That means, each time those triggers surface, do the favorable habit you identified rather
than the negative one. The more orderly you are, the better the good habit will come into
play. If you occasionally engage the fresh habit when the trigger happens, and
occasionally don’t, the fresh habit won’t form really well. Try to engage it each time. If
somehow you fail, carry the one-month period a bit longer and attempt to be really
consistent from then on..
5) Keep away from conditions where you normally will execute your bad habit, at least
awhile, to make it a little easier on yourself. If your bad habit pops up when you go out with
friends, think about not going out for a bit. If you commonly go outside to smoke with
colleagues for instance, keep away from that activity. This applies to any foul habit —
whether it be consuming junk food or addictions, there are a few situations you will be able
to avoid that are particularly hard for someone attempting to modify a bad habit.
Recognize, though, that when you go back to those conditions, you'll still get the old urges,
and when that occurs you ought to be prepared.
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6) Recognize that your urges will be mighty, but they'll disappear after a couple of minutes.
They pop up in waves, however just outride the wave. Discover techniques for coming
through the urges Like deep breathing, self-massage, eating good food, walking,
exercising, calling a acquaintance who will support you.
7) Invite help. Get your loved ones and friends and colleagues to support you. Find a
group in your area (if this is an addiction of some sort). Join Net forums where individuals
are attempting to give up a bad habit. When you have truly mighty urges or a truly hard
time, turn to your support network for help.
8) Thinking positive is the key! You'll have damaging thoughts — the crucial thing is to
recognize when they're occurring, and get them out of your brain. Squeeze them like a bad
bug! Then substitute them with a favorable thought. “I can accomplish this!"
9) Remember if you bomb (and some will, at least once), don’t throw in the towel. It may
take several tries to successfully quit a bad habit. Work out what failed, and plan
techniques to defeat that obstruction the next time. Keep your favorable mental attitude
and continue trying. You’ll get it sooner or later.
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Using Thoughts To Improve Your Health
“Jessica is ill most of the time… or so she thinks. What happens is an endless cycle of headaches and colds followed by migraines and stomach aches. The list of sicknesses never ends and over time, she even thinks that it’s more convenient to be sick rather and gain the sympathy of others rather than get well and face reality… ”
Most people often confuse health issues with fitness related issues.
The truth is both of these areas of life are completely different. A fit person might not be
healthy. He could be building a body of ripping muscles but because of inadequate sleep,
he could be facing a number of health issues. Likewise, a health nut might not be able to
do 20 push-ups in a row.
Many experts define health as a state of utter physical, mental and social welfare and not
simply the absence of disease or frailty. To amply answer what the difference is, then, you
might decide to fine-tune it to "What's the difference between physical wellness and
fitness?"
Even inside these parameters, fitness is only one component of wellness. And on the
other hand, fitness has a bunch of factors: "fit to do what?" Endure, have strength, and
flexibility are 3 elements of fitness. Commonly, though, fitness may be outlined as the
capability of doing effort, work or exercise. Physical wellness may be defined as being able
to resist illnesses; the capability of your immune system, however even inside the confines
of physical wellness, it isn't simply "the absence of disease or frailty.
Health may be considered as the power of your body to recuperate from diseases like a
cold, however it is so much more than that. Alternately, physical fitness may be seen as
your power to recuperate from doing arduous exercise, however it, too, is much more than
that. Physical fitness is one facet of wellness, commonly mediated through the fitness of
your heart and cardiovascular system, lungs, and muscles.
You are able to be fit but not healthy, you will be able to be healthy but not fit or you are
able to be both.
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If you want to take a closer look at your health issues, you have to consider the following:
Your body is like a car, the better you take care of it, the further you can go
The organs in your body all have a lifespan. Just because you don’t feel any pain
doesn’t mean that it is not close to its expiry date
Sleep is very important. Your body sends chemicals to your brain depending on
how much sleep you get. It changes everything. You even lose weight when you
have enough sleep!
Your mind is stronger than your body! What you think actually manifests in your
body…
If a person constantly says stuff such as:
- This really makes me sick
- Looking at this makes me wanna puke
- This looks disgusting
You will start manifesting sickness in your body because you keep repeating these works
over and over again.
The mind cannot tell the difference between figurative speaking and literal speaking.
By changing the vocabulary of your words you will reprogram your mind to give you fewer
diseases.
Here are a number of words you can replace:
(Say this first thing in the morning) I love my life!
I am healed and I am fully charged!
I have nothing to worry about!
Life is good!
This is my life and I’m going to make every day
count!
Now you might be thinking… this sounds really weird or
pointless.
But in actual fact, the thought vibration that it sends to your body is really powerful!
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If you don’t believe me, just try looking in the mirror and
repeating to yourself for an hour, “you make me sick, you ugly
piece of ****, you are a disgusting person and I feel like
puking…”
We guarantee that you’ll feel like crap afterwards – the fact is,
people program this kind of thinking with their work
colleagues and friends sometimes more than an hour a day
and these thoughts circle inside their head when they are
alone.
It’s no wonder people are manifesting diseases.
Another advantage of programming your mind with good thoughts is that it will also help
you to sleep better.
Power Follows Thoughts Lesson:
1) Tell yourself that you are healthy, healed and happy!
2) If you wish to have an utterly healthy body, center your attention on that. Does it truly
matter how you aim it? If you'll let it, the Universe will manifest your want in a form that you
may accept. For some individuals that might be powerful pills, needles, amazing
physicians, or surgery choices. For other people, the manifestation might be a heaven-
sent, unexplainable shift in the body’s condition. Instead of limiting the resolutions
available to you, work on letting the manifestation of your want to come in whatsoever form
it might come. Remember, you aren’t in a state of letting things happen if you're interesting
about the when and the how of manifestation. Let it in it as it shows up.
3) One crucial thing is to remember that your favorable mentality is the key to a favorable
result. Become patient with yourself and pay attention to each improvement. If you take a
big dose of medicine that removes the pain for a while, utilize that time to advance your
thought vibration. Stop and establish appreciation for the advances that you're feeling.
Write or discuss how your body is feeling in this moment instead of fretting about the
moment when the pain comes back. The key is to capture each chance to allow the
manifestation of improved health for you. The more you value and center on your body
feeling great, the more you're drawing in the healthy body that you want.
4) The Universal laws of attraction support each thought, therefore you ought to never feel
weak. You may strive to enjoy life or you may fret about loss of life. The decision is yours.
If you trust that you're dying a slow and misfortunate death, you might indeed be miserable
for the remainder of your life. And that isn't living life in the least. If the physicians don't
have an answer, their reality doesn't have to be your reality. You may offer a favorable
thought vibration that produces your own truth in a heaven-sent way. Even if you do want
to believe that you're failing, must you live out your final days as the walking dead? Feeling
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sorry for yourself will merely put you on a downward spiral. So, do whatsoever you have to
do in order to feel a bit better. Recognize that if you're living you are passing away.
Sickness and disease might be produced from thoughts of fret, concern, anger, or
frustration. If you doubt the fact that you have produced ill health in your body, you have
simply to analyze your thoughts. Ask yourself if the thoughts that you believe are
commonly offering a favorable or damaging thought vibration to the Universe.
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Using Thoughts To Strengthen Your
Fitness Level
“Samuel is the king of diet products and weight loss routines. In fact, he knows everything under the sun about dieting except how to really lose weight in it. The fact of the matter is not his ability to keep on the diet plan but his thoughts about his weight. Deep down, he knows that his motivation didn’t come from within and using gimmicks as a crutch is only a quick fix to a long term solution…”
If you want to be fit, you have to find a reason that is stronger than just the results (of a fit
body).
Most people think that diet gimmicks, fads, workout routines and other quick fix ways will
help a person to get a fit body. It is only a temporary solution.
The key is to keep your mind loving the workout itself.
Exercise and workouts are not a means to an end. The exercise and workouts are
supposed to be the things that a fit person looks forward to.
Why do you think fitness enthusiasts keep coming back to the gym to do their workouts?
You may reason that workouts are painful and tiring, but the fact is, as our bodies sweat to
our workouts, it produces endorphins that make us feel good. Even the pain is a good pain.
The greatest muscle you need to work out is not your abs or your biceps but rather your
mind.
We found this kind of intriguing: When we asked ten individuals what their number 1 New
Year’s resolution was this year,80 % of individuals responded, “Get in shape and work out
more.” Now, how many of these individuals really stick to their New Year's Day resolution
is a different story.
However getting in shape isn't that hard a resolution to get done. You simply have to set
your brain into goal-mode, and physical exercise will come naturally to you. You have to
train your brain.
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The fitness habit is very important to start but people often let their minds take them out of
the game early in the game.
If you can keep up the fitness habit for 30 days, you will fell like going for another 30 more.
Most people who have a healthy fitness routine for 1 year will most likely keep it up for the
rest of their lives. Even if they stop for a while, it will help them to get back in shape easily.
Here are some thought programming words
that you can use:
I only need to do this for 5 minutes
TODAY
I look really good doing this
I enjoy this workout
It’s only for 5 minutes a day
Remember to start with a few simple habits and learn to like them over a period of time.
Don’t expect too much in the beginning and your mind will work for you rather than
against you.
Power Follows Thoughts Lesson:
1) Tell yourself that you can’t wait to start working and enjoying your workout. Believe it
and tell yourself often.
2) Arrange honest expectations. Prior to you actually beginning your exercise routine,
arrange a goal for yourself. What precisely do you wish to accomplish—slimming down,
toning, maintaining weight, or fitness? When you're new to exercising, don't deluge
yourself.
Attempt to stick to one little physical goal, and keep a list of targets. If you arrange honest
expectations for yourself, you'll be able to obtain them. Then, you can work at the harder
objectives. It’s that easy. If you're thinking about joining a gym, a lot of gyms have
personal trainers available to assist you in setting a goal for yourself. If you're unsure
about what you wish to accomplish, or even how to physically do so, personal trainers are
key to bettering your outlook. They'll provide you that extra push that you some of the
times need to stay focused.
3) Find a buddy. With 80 % of individuals having the same concerns about getting in
shape, it shouldn’t be too hard to find yourself someone to work out with. As you exercise
with a fitness partner, you're more motivated. Whether you're merely having more fun, or
you feel more competitive, hinges upon your personality. Either way, having a friend to
exercise with proves beneficial.
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4) It doesn't matter what it is… just do something! It doesn't matter if you can't afford an
expensive gym club. Simply because you don't have access to all the hoopla doesn't mean
you can't exercise efficiently. Exercise doesn't have to be formal. Go up and down the
stairs a bunch of times a day. Take your dog for a walk. Anything that makes your heart
rate go up and your body utilize oxygen more rapidly is a form of exercise. So, don't let
anything deter you from your goals.
5) Eat the right stuff. In order to become physically fit, exercising is one-half the battle. You
have to eat right. If you are able to afford it, consult a dietician. Remember, even though
you might exercise consistently, if you don't offer your body adequate nourishment, all of
your hard work will be for nothing. You have to eat healthy in order to properly get the
benefits of exercise. You may also find info about nutrition on the Net.
6) Have some fun. You're not alone! There are many others who wish to exercise regularly,
but find it hard to stay motivated or interested. the opening move to any sort of exercise is
your mental state. It's crucial to remember that you exercise, not to torment yourself, but to
make yourself feel great. So, do things that you love. For instance, yoga is a fantastic way
to cleanse your brain and become fit too. Or, join a team of some sort, and forget that
you're really exercising while having a good time! If you start your new exercise routine
with a negative attitude towards exercise, itself, you won't be able to exercise regularly.
Remind yourself that exercise may be fun. It feels great to work out.
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Using Thoughts To Improve Your
Spiritual Life
“Growing up in church, a young man was told that it was easier to put a camel through the eye of a needle compared to a man focused on riches to enter into the kingdom. He grows up feeling spiritually inadequate because he inherited a vast estate from his late father. Week after week, he felt tormented by his thoughts because he thought he wasn’t spiritual enough.”
Fundamentally, religion is designed to be our spiritual source of consolation and advice, a
social structure to provide moral guideposts, a caring community and assistance for those
in need. And in a lot of ways it is. However, religion is likewise the cause of violence, wars,
favoritism, bigotry, pain and suffering in many parts of the world, all of which are a long
way from kindness, compassionateness, comfort and spiritual reassurance.
Pursuing a spiritual life is very important and it is not to be confused with religion.
Although some form of spirituality can be found in some
religious organizations, most of the time, people who
ascribe to a form of lifeless religious dogma will often fall
prey to legalism and rules and regulations that sucks the life
out of spirituality.
That is why it is important to remove all forms of dogma out
of your spiritual pursuit because these thoughts will corrupt
your true spiritual nature.
Another way to look at spiritual pursuit is that it is not
designed to take you out of the world.
A lot of people who pursue spirituality might even have the
mindset that being spiritual means that you cannot be rich
or well rooted in the world.
This is a scarcity kind of thinking that sucks the life out of a true spiritual person as well.
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Programming your thoughts the right way includes:
Practicing meditation for 5
minutes a day every single day
Feeling your inner guidance or
listening to the still small voice
of god
Allowing yourself to have faith
in the universe
Creating a life of serenity,
tranquility and acceptance for
others
Realizing that we are all part of oneness and connected to everyone else
Spiritual pursuits also strengthen the inner man (or woman). When you are focusing on
your inner being, you will look beyond the flesh and body to reveal a deeper you.
Practice the following mantras each day to reprogram your thoughts and become a more
spiritual person:
Being grounded in the world is good for my spirituality
I am not separate, I am with the world
I am here and it is good
God, make me an instrument of your peace
Great spirit, guide me today for the decisions I’m about to make
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to
change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
I am being renewed day by day
Liberation and letting go is the path to enlightenment
Today I will focus only on my karma
Speak these mantras to yourself as you do your meditation or your quiet time with god.
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Power Follows Thoughts Lesson:
1) Tell yourself that you are calm, peaceful and serene.
2) Meditate to discover inner peace. Frequently in the turmoil of day-to-day life, individuals
forget about the real meaning of life and what's truly crucial. Sit on a pillow or mat in a
calm place and get rid of all the distractions. This will be difficult at the start, however with
practice, you will be able to do away with outside thoughts and unwind.
3) Study spiritual writings. This may mean anything from the Scripture to the texts from
pop culture books. Explore a broad assortment of spiritual and religious writing* to
determine what appeals to you.
4) Assist other people. Behaviors speak louder than words, so think about volunteer work
for your preferred charity or merely baby-sit a neighbor's youngster so she may go to
school. A spiritual human thrives on turning kind words and feelings into truth. Reciting
Scripture might calm the nerves, but assist other people to accomplish real spirituality.
5) Compose and create by keeping a journal of daily feelings and observances. You are
able to include drawings, photographs and additional artwork in it. Utilize the diary as one
part healing therapy, and one part spiritual quest. By mixing the two, you'll learn how
inside observation and self-sacrifice may make you live a more tranquil, more centered life.
6) Pay attention to your manners--and your words. Get to be kinder to individuals every
day, in your personal life and career situations. Be well aware of others thoughts and
feelings, and provide help to them when you are able to do so. This will produce good
karma for you- but naturally, that shouldn't be the motivation for being kind.
7) Communicate with nature. Go on a walk in nature rather than going to a crowded health
spa. Hike a nature trail or take in an alley cat or two. Abandon the common materialistic
pursuits and you'll feel better and get to be more spiritual in the end.
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Using Thoughts To Find Your True Love
“Christy has been fearful that her boyfriend is cheating on her. She keeps a close eye on him while hiding her true intentions. On the surface, everything seems okay because she hasn’t found any evidence yet. Yet somehow, she can’t shake that thought because she is too afraid if it would come true. Because she keeps thinking about it, the universe gave her what she attracted in the end – a cheating boyfriend…”
Here is a very powerful truth about people who often seek to find their true love.
People keep attracting the same types of people with their thoughts.
A woman who gets abused will keep on attracting abusive men subconsciously (unless a
drastic change happens in her thought habits).
A man who keeps attracting cheating girlfriends will keep on manifesting that over and
over again (could be issues of self worth playing out in the relationship).
The fact of the matter is this – most people attract them based on the frequencies of their
thoughts. The reason why some people just can’t find their true love or their soul mates is
because they are not manifesting the kind of person they want. They just keep on
manifesting the people they don’t want.
For those individuals who are yet fighting with loving themselves, getting reassurance and
support from a loving mate is really crucial in the healing process. Reminding somebody
who's fighting with self-acceptance that he or she merits love is a real gift from the heart.
If must continually ask your mate if he or she loves you, or if your mate is never able to
take in the love you want to share, both of you might need to seek some added support.
If you let the pattern go forward, your relationship won't have the power to or ability to grow.
Trusting that you're loved might be hard for somebody who's suffered an injury or
significant loss. For those individuals we advise patience and persistence. we believe that
the heart only has so much room and if it's filled up with damage, there's less room for love.
Love really thrusts out the sadness in our hearts, so by letting it in you not merely get to
feel the fantastic gift of being loved by some other person, you likewise get to release a
few old pains you might be holding on to.
Recall the story of the princess and the frog. We may all turn into something charming if
we let ourselves be loved.
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The moment you change the thoughts about yourself you
will be able to attract someone different. These emotional
blocks are the reasons why you might attract all the wrong
people and you have to clear them out:
Ask yourself these questions:
Did something happen that made me decide that men
cannot be trusted?
How do I feel about my mom and dad’s marriage?
Am I ready to commit to this person for the next 50
years?
Do I have what it takes to give without asking for
anything in return?
You have to dig deep and ask yourself what these blocks are and once you train your
mind to speak the opposite of the stuff you identify as a problem.
At the end of this day, remember this principle: Don’t look for the right person – BE the
right person.
Power Follows Thoughts Lesson:
1) Tell yourself that you can be the best person for my future mate.
2) Trust that you're lovable. It's sad that we're supplied so many reasons to detest
ourselves in our culture: not rich enough, not bright enough, not attractive enough, not
notable enough, simply just not good enough. Remember, there's no perfect individual.
We all have defects, and we're all yet worthy of love in spite of those defects.
3) If someone states, "I love you," hear them and amply absorb the meaning behind those
terms. For a lot of us, our inborn reaction to receiving love, "No," because, whether
consciously or subconsciously a lot of us think that we're unlovable. Thus, we set about
attempting to prove that we're unlovable by ignoring, belittling, brushing aside or denying
anyone who expresses love towards us. You are able to start to break this formula merely
by listening and being open to expressions of love that are directed towards you.
4) Keep your body open and ready to obtain love. Most of us have kind of a cave dweller
posture. You recognize the look. Its slumped shoulders, head down and eyes looking
down and it comes from spending a lot of time in front of our PC's and digital devices.
Modern cave dwellers keep their hearts closed. They simply can't get love when they
have a posture like this. so open your body and your heart by putting your shoulders
back, raising your chin and eyes.
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5) Learn to distinguish acts of love. Everyone shows love differently. A few individuals
provide compliments, a few write eloquent love letters, a few cuddle, a few execute
practical acts like house cleaning. Learn to read how your loved ones convey their love for
you. Then, be certain to accept this love.
6) Be hospitable to love in all its forms. Don't put "should haves" on love. Don't be simply
open to love when it comes from the exact individual you want in the precise way that you
wish. Say to yourself, "I'm open to all the love that comes my way in all its assorted forms."
Don't be frightened. Don't back away. Don't sabotage love. Be courageous. Be open. Be
tender.
7) Give love first of all and return what is supplied to you. You know what they say about
love: It's like a magical coin and the more you give, the more you get back.
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Using Thoughts To Strengthen The
Bonds Between Your Family Members
“Marvin grew up hating his dad. He complained that his dad told him that would not grow up to become a useful human being. He told himself that ‘never again’ will he be a useless person and he made up his mind that he will be a successful person and a successful father – at least more successful than his father ever was. As he fathered his own son, Marvin’s inadequacies made him work his son
very hard to make sure his son is successful and thought it would make him a successful father too. When his son cracked under pressure, they got into an argument and he scolded his son saying that he would not grow up to become a useful human being. Marvin froze at that moment stunned that he repeated the exact same words his father told him and he hid in his room and cried…”
Family upbringing has a very profound effect on every human being.
We find that family does play a chief role in the way we act in society. As we develop, we
learn a lot of things from our loved ones that are advantageous to our society. Nearly
everything that we learn as a youngster comes from parentage and how we respond with
our parents. Our parents experienced the concepts of life, and they went through society
as a youngster and a grownup, which we learn as we become older too. Our families,
particularly our parents, have much wisdom about what happens in life, as they've already
experienced a lot of it. They're the ones who may teach us what they've learned, and they
may show us how we ought to act, feel, and think of our contemporary society.
Likely, the heaviest influence in our lives is the loved ones we grew up with. Our birth order,
the personality's of our parent(s), the way we were handled by our siblings, the economic
status of the family unit, their schooling, the place they lived — all of these formed us at
the time when we were tenderest to being shaped. Besides these silent influences, our
parents showed us all the basics of "suitable" behavior.
When we were little kids, we acted out whatever impulse got into our heads. We didn't
understand that it was socially unacceptable to scoop up food with our fingers, to play with
the pretties on the coffee table, to hit our siblings, to break our toys. These and many other
rules were beat into our heads by our parents. Some of this is all right, some not so all
right. Either way, it's frequently hard to shift things infused at an early age.
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But remember that what happens to you is not your fault, but what happens after you grow
up is all your responsibility – you have the ability to choose and decide what you want to
do with your life and not to blame your childhood.
Regardless of whether you have a good childhood or not, you have to consider these
principles about family life:
Your parents
made the best
choices they
could make
raising you
Your parents’
parenting is
flawed because
they are not
perfect and they
are raised by
people their
parents who are
flawed as well (a
carbon copy of a
carbon copy is
never perfect)
You can’t blame
yourself for what
you went
through because you didn’t know any better. Beating yourself up about what
happened to you in your childhood does not help
There are many different types of languages of love. Different parents with different
personality types express love in the only language they know how to even though
this language may come across as something else (due to different perception of
what love is)
Looking into your life is very important if you don’t want to repeat the same problem over
and over again.
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Power Follows Thoughts Lesson:
1) Tell yourself that you are happy to have a family that got me to where I am today.
2) Get a fresh life story. There are 2 ways for you to look at your childhood. In one, you're
an individual who's so unloved and unwanted, that no one cared. In the other, you were
born, had a look around at , and said, "I can altogether do better than this. In one you're a
victim, in the other, you're in power. Guess which viewpoint is best?
3) Recognize fault = like. Fault is amazing. It feels great, right? It feels righteous. It feels
mighty. It feels like somebody’s going to be in trouble what they did to you. The only issue
is—provided you're faulting—nothing may ever change. How come? Because in order for
your life story to shift, you have to want things to be changed. And if it feels great to fault,
you have to accept that you love it. And if you love it, you have to accept that you don't
truly want it to shift. Which is why fault just gets you more of the same.
4) Accept the reality that a few do not genuinely wish to see you win. This sounds brutal,
and it is. However, it's true. A few of your loved ones and friends "support" you by falsely
being in line with all your b.s. about how difficult you have it, as if you win, 2 things will
occur: 1) you'll leave. And 2) they'll be left behind. This doesn't mean you have to do away
with your friends and loved ones, you simply have to remember that they love you so
much, they're absolutely happy for you to remain precisely where you are today.
5) Save your cash. The number 1 way to end your bad childhood is to save cash. There's
a really easy rule about cash: If you save, you'll always have cash. And cash is power. All
those commercials you see are a big, rich company's try to get you to give them your
power. Don't do it! Consider every buck you save as one-step away from the individuals
and places that have kept you down.
6) Accomplish something hard. Get a grueling/crappy job and do it till the voices in your
brain stop telling you that you can't take it another moment. Everything following that will
be cake, and your bad childhood will look like less.
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Using Thoughts To Find The Kind Of
Friends You Want
“Kelly has lived her life trying to please her friends. Her friends weren’t particularly negative people; they were kind people who would always be there for her. One day she decided that she would take a leap of faith and moves to another town and start a new career. She made the fatal mistake about telling her friends about it, but their concerned stares and words made her feel that she is leaving the group and making a big mistake ‘in case’ something bad happens. After a few days of swinging to and fro like a pendulum, she decides that it’s not worth it and her dream dies as she accustoms herself to mediocrity.”
Sometimes, your friends might change your future even more so than your parents.
Having a realistic assessment on your friendships is very important.
There is a very powerful theory called the sum of five.
If you take a look at the five people you spend the most time with, your future is the sum
average of these five people!
If you want to see your future in your company, just look at your immediate boss.
If you want to know what you will be talking about in the next 5 years, just take a look at
the conversations you have with your current friends.
It is said that you can choose your friends but you can’t choose your relatives. The good
news about friendships is because you are not tied with blood and you can freely choose
better ones (and to a certain extent, you can actually limit the time you spend with
negative family members as well).
Now your mind might be thinking, “This is not right – what about loyalty to my friends?”
Think about it this way… if your deadbeat friends are truly loyal to you, they would be
seeing you in your best light in your best possible future. (Think of the movie Good Will
Hunting where Will’s best friend said that he would give anything to knock on Will’s door to
see him actualize his full potential by making good use of his intellectual abilities instead of
being a construction worker).
That is what we call a true friend.
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Do you have these kinds of true friends?
Are you keen to become like your five
friends? Only you will know the truth
and you will have to start finding new
ones if you have any doubts about
your current batch of friends.
The average individual interacts with a
lot of individuals every day, but this
social interaction is far from great
friendship. Even chatting with
colleagues and loved ones every day
might not equate to a real friendship
connection. If you're looking for ways
to discover great friends and establish rewarding social relationships, there are a lot of
ways to achieve your goal.
Power Follows Thoughts Lesson:
1) Tell yourself that you have friends that will take you to the next level.
2) Sign on for classes (like photography, clayware, or music) through a rec center or local
community college. look for and make small talk with other grownups that are there alone.
3) Put in your time at a local library, at a hospital or for a charity. Find a friend from a field
of individuals who share like values and viewpoints.
4) Talk to and offer to help your youngster’s teacher in the schoolroom. Discover her
outside interests and get to know her better while seated on the bus on the way to a field
trip. You might remain friends long after your youngsters have gone onto a different grade.
5) Nurture friendships by asking fresh acquaintances out for coffee or lunch to bond and
learn some more about them. Be accessible at all times. You never know when somebody
at a coffee bar, bookshop or supermarket will start a conversation with you.
6) When you make a great friend, keep up with the relationship in spite of how busy you
are. Meet for a fast cup of coffee, chat on the phone on the way to your youngster’s soccer
game or send a couple of e-mails in the course of the day. Friendships will not remain
when they're lost in the shuffle.
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Conclusion
One of the reasons why we covered so many areas of life to look at is that at the end of
the day, the most important thing about your thoughts is that you will function your best
when you are well balanced in every area of your life.
In our Master Course, we cover in depth strategies on how to further improve the 10 areas
of your life so that the changes will be permanent. It is all about building the habit.
Although most of these lessons here are quite simple, do not be fooled by the simplicity
because everything that you practice in your mind for 5 minutes will have a really profound
effect on your mind.
The words you tell yourself daily will change your thoughts and you will reclaim all that
power in your life.
So start training your thoughts now and we can’t wait to hear your wonderful stories of
success!