Personal Reflection Exercises...I am building a strong foundation with myspouse based on love, trust, and respect.

I am building a strong foundationwith my spouse based on love, trust,and respect.

I love being married to the person I havechosen to spend the rest of my life with. The storms of life may rock ourhome, but the strong foundation ofour marriage keeps our familystanding tall.

The benefits of having a strong marriagefar outweigh the hard work and effort ittakes to maintain. I am selflesslycommitted to making my marriage workbecause my partner and family are worthit.

I love my spouse even when we disagree. The strength of our relationship isnot dependent on anything mypartner does, but on a commitmentthat I made to love them until the end.The love I feel grows every day, regardlessof how my spouse changes with age.

My heart enjoys peace because I believethe word of my spouse and I am truthfulwhen I speak to my partner. We arecommitted to maintaining our marriagefree from secrets and lies. When making

important decisions, I seek the input of myspouse in order to get another point ofview.

My respect for my spouse is unwaveringregardless of the circumstances. I amquick to listen and slow to anger. Even when I am upset at my spouse, Ishow my respect because my spouse is anintelligent human being worthy ofadmiration.

Today I choose to honor my spouse withrespectful words, loving actions, andtrustworthy character. I build ourrelationship by being a person of integritybecause I am devoted to making mymarriage last.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What is my spouse's best quality?2. How can I be more open and honest

with my spouse?3. What can I do today to help my

partner feel appreciated?

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Personal Reflection Exercises...I appreciate and respect my spouse.

I appreciate and respect my spouse.

My spouse brings love and enjoyment tomy life. Not only do I feel this gratitude, Iam also sure to let my spouse know aboutit, too! I strive to find new ways to showmy appreciation. And the best thing is, themore I show it, the more I receive itin return!

When my one-and-only does somethingnice for me, the first thing I say is, "ThankYou!" This gives them instant gratificationand we both make an effort to do evenmore.

Every day, I find different ways ofshowing my gratitude. I leave lovingnotes where they can find them; I surprisethem by doing one of their chores; Ischedule special time for them; I come upwith little presents I know they'll enjoy,and more.

I respect my spouse for how good they areand all they do. They make a supremeeffort to make everything better for theentire family. They work hard and, yet,still make special time for us. I also letthem know how much I respect them.

Communicating my appreciation andrespect strengthens our relationship.Our love deepens and life is just a lotmore fun!

My partner is always there for me, throughthick and thin. We share the joys of lifeand shore each other up when times aretough. We are partners together throughlife's journey and I wouldn't have it anyother way!

Today, I intend to plan something reallyspecial for my spouse to show myappreciation and respect.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Why do I appreciate my spouse?2. What am I grateful for today?3. What can I do to demonstrate my

appreciation more on a daily basis?

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Personal Reflection Exercises...My words are soothing to my spouse.

My words are soothing to my spouse.

Language has the power to build up mypartner or tear them down. I choose touse my voice and words as a sourceof encouragement for my spouse.

I speak to my life partner with gentlewords that soothe the spirit. I maintaincontrol of the tone and volume of myvoice so as to always honor my spouse.The fact that I respect my partner morethan any other person in this world isevident in the way I address them.

When I am upset at my spouse, I wiselyask for a few minutes alone so that I cangather my emotions. I choose to remainsilent until I can calm down enough tospeak words of love.

I refrain from lashing out at my lifepartner in the heat of the moment, asthis can cause immense and lastingdamage to their heart. I love them toomuch to cause that type of hurt. When Imake a mistake, I quickly ask my spousefor forgiveness and I reassure them of mylove.

Throughout the day, my partner may hearnegative, nagging, or even belligerentwords from others. But I speak to myspouse differently. Talking with me is atreat because I speak with admiration,trust, respect, and love. My spouse looksforward to our conversations as thehighlight of any day.

Today, I embrace my partner with mysoothing voice.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What tone of voice do I normally usewith my spouse?

2. Is the way I address my partner anaccurate reflection of how I feelabout them?

3. Why should I refrain from lashingout at my spouse?

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Personal Reflection Exercises...I support my partner's decisions.

I support my partner's decisions.

I am a take-charge kind of person and Itruly believe that my assertiveness is oneof my best personality traits. However, Irealize that my opinionatedcharacter may sometimes beoverwhelming to my spouse.

For this reason, I make a conscious effortto support the decisions of my partner. Rather than hearing what mypartner has to say and then chimingin with a suggestion, I simply listen and try my best to be supportive.

I admit that, at times, I may not fully graspwhy my other half makes certaindecisions. And the method behind themadness often remains a total mystery tome. But, if it makes my partner happy andit is a safe and responsible decision, it isbeneficial to support him and thedecision he wishes to pursue.

Relationships thrive when a concretesupport system is in place. I make myspouse feel safe to share with me even thecraziest ideas. I accept him as a personand feel that his input is valuable, evenwhen he disagrees with me.

I seek to create an environment where mypartner feels secure. We share ideasopenly and avoid overly judgmental orcritical comments. When I must disagree, Ido so in a respectful manner thatcommunicates that my partner is valuableand important to me.

Today, I realize that supporting my partneris more important than getting my ownway. I am an innovative thinker and amtrusted to make decisions that affect usboth. It is only fair that I reciprocate byshowing genuine support for my partner'sdecisions as well!

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I actively build my partner's selfesteem, or unintentionally tear itdown?

2. Why do I feel as if I must call themajority of the shots in thisrelationship?

3. How can I express more support formy partner's judgment?

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Personal Reflection Exercises...My marriage is fireproof.

My marriage is fireproof.

I enjoy a fireproof marriage because myspouse and I commit to each otherthrough thick and thin. We take our vowsto each other very seriously. My marriageis not always a fairytale, but it is alwaystransparent.

I am truthful with my spouse at all times.My spouse forgives me when I am honestabout my mistakes. Our respect for eachother grows each time we are open aboutour feelings.

I am holding on to my marriage with allmy strength. When my spouse is weak, Iam strong. When I am weak, my partnerlifts me up. We persevere by remindingeach other that what matters most isour love.

Life brings its own set of storms and trials.We may disagree about a lot of things, butwe always know that we choose to loveeach other to the end. Our love andcommitment to each other helps us to getpast our differences.

My spouse and I are a team that workstogether for a common goal. We give upselfishness and embrace each otherso we can succeed together.

I look after my spouse and my spouselooks after me. I have deep concern forthe welfare of my spouse, and I know thatmy spouse feels the same way about me. Itrust my spouse to put me first.

Today, I choose to embrace a selflessattitude toward my spouse. Instead ofthinking about how my spouse can makeme happy, I focus on what I can do for myspouse. With love, honesty, andselflessness, my marriage withstands theflames of adversity.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Why is it important to be honest inmy marriage?

2. How does selflessness disarm anger?3. When was the last time my spouse

and I weathered a storm together?

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Personal Reflection Exercises...My marriage is worth the work.

My marriage is worth the work.

Marriage is the sweetest institution evercreated when it is lived in peace andharmony. To build an unbreakable bondtakes effort on the part of both spouses. Iam willing to work on my marriagebecause my marriage is worth the work.

Finding a mate is the easy part; stayingtogether is what takes effort. Anythingworth having has a cost attached to it, andI am willing to pay the price. The recipefor a happy marriage is made up ofunselfish partners willing to worktogether.

To get along with my spouse, I must learnto communicate with them in a way thatthey understand. I have to study myspouse and figure out how to meet theirneeds.

I am willing to give up my will for thebenefit of my marriage. When faced withthe option of being right or beinghappy, I choose to be happily atpeace with my mate rather thanwinning a fight.

I promised my spouse to be there insickness and in health, for richer orpoorer. Life is not a downhill slope; it is aprogression of hills and valleys. If I workhard enough through the hard times, I getto enjoy the happy times.

Anyone can give up and escapehardships, but I am better than that.My vows mean more to me than prettywords spoken like poetry at a ceremony.My vows are an unbreakable covenant Imade with my spouse.

Today, I embrace my responsibility to givemy all to making my marriage work. WhenI leave selfishness behind, I reap thebenefits of a joyful marriage.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Why is my marriage worth the work?2. What sacrifices am I willing to make

for the success of my marriage?3. How can I be more selfless in my

relationship?

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