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Pick me up - what happens when you put a group of amazing and talentedpeople into a room and they start inspiring each other.Wow. It is amazing what happens when a group of empowered and talentedindividuals are put together into the same room. Magic happens. And it isscarcely predictable that a compassionate act done years ago passed on couldresult in such wonderful, creative and powerful energies harmonizing. Andlooking at the result of the efforts, it is amazing.

Pick me up - When an aspect of your life is expanded and you experience anuplifting in your conditions and circumstances. Over the years, I have metindividuals who looked for assistance with an aspect of their lives or another.As a function of livelihood by necessity and contribution by choice, I have hadthe opportunity to work with these individuals to coach with them on theirsituations and work with them. Coaching, of course, is a slow but progressiveroute. So we slowly pieced together solutions, breakthroughs, new paradigms,new opportunities, and new lives. Whenever there was a new accomplishment,a mark of their progress, there would be celebration of triumph, anacknowledgement of possibilities and the successful coordination of skill, effortand probabilities.

Pick me up- When your life suffers a setback and you need a helping hand.Everyone deserves a chance at happiness. After all, didn't the US constitutionpromise us the pursuit of happiness? (We're Asians here, so we are not actuallyentitled) Most of us find ourselves in the overwhelming circumstances of our

lives, and however valiant the efforts of our parents and teachers, oureducation prepares us for the real-life situation poorly, for much of real lifelies outside the domain of simple theories. Armed with a roadmap that doesn'treally make practical sense, we march down the road of life only to find that itisn't quite what we expected. We struggle to make sense of things, and turnour eyes to the models and solutions that are offered and thrown around, thatmake vague promises of happiness, possibility and success, and never knowingreally what works.

Once in a while, for some people, they discover something that makes senseand fits, and when they apply these answers that they have found to their life

circumstances, they produce results. When these results are accumulated, theycreate stories of victories over circumstances, the realization of deeper aspectsof themselves, the fulfillment of intended dreams, and produce a purpose tothe meaninglessness around. I want to acknowledge the individuals whogenerously offered their stories of their journeys, the team that put it together,


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and to the spirited efforts that made this possible. And in 24 hours no less.Amazing.

This book is the collection of the journeys these people undertook, and thelessons they learnt. May they inspire you to greater experiences of your

extraordinary.

Kelvin LimMaster Certified CoachFounderExecutive Coach International Pte Ltd


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KELVIN LIM For being the source of these stories

For taking those leaps in your life such that youre able to pave the wayfor others to follow. For sharing, for just being there, and in this case, forstaying the night:

Alex AndrewBenjamin DidiDave En YungDionis EileenEnghao EstherHung Jada

Jannis JoanneJohnson JourdanLai Cheng LinMerry RanvirRichard RosliSimon Siong CheeSoon Teng NgingXing Jian YixinYuan Teck ZeoaneKhim - For feeding our hungry Gobbs For the fantastic book cover!

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delicious breakfast that www.forestcreative.comraised our energy level!

Others who contributed to this 24-hour Pick Me Up Book:

Bharad Pei YingChee Hong VickiChun Liang Wei LingClarieEric

HalimahJoseph GanJulzLena


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Introduction

- Story One -ALT + CLARITY + CHANGE 1By Eric Feng

- Story Two -Good use of Boredom 4By Eileen Feng

- Story Three -Long Lost Love 9By Soon Loo

- Story Four -

What I Really Want For Myself 13By Julia Ng

- Story Five -Blind To The Love That Was Always There 16By Jannis Wah

- Story Six -The Fall I Learnt to take 19By Alex Tay


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- Story Seven -The Gift of Depression 23By Anonymous

- Story Eight -Giving With My Heart 27By Esther Zheng

- Story Nine -To Love Again 30By Khim Erh

- Story Ten -Self-Searching 33By Giam Lai Cheng

- Story Eleven -My Gift to Mankind 36By Simon Tan

- Story Twelve -The Search of Inner Peace 40By Vicki Lew

- Story Thirteen -Lovingly So 43By Weiling Lin

- Story Fourteen -The Shocking Truth 46By Tan Xing Jian


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- Story Fifteen -Getting My Family and Myself Back 49By Ye Yi Xin

- Story Sixteen -Courage to Take the First Step 53By Zeoane Goh

- Story Seventeen -The Death That Brought Life 56By Andrew Zhan

- Story Eighteen -Searching For Something More 60By Ben

- Story Nineteen -More Efforts More Results! 64By Joanne Lee

- Story Twenty -How I Ditched My Game Console 67By Johnson Tan

- Story Twenty-one -The Greatest Love in Life 70By Jourdan Soh


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- Story Twenty-two -Not Giving Up 74By Lena Goh

- Story Twenty-three -The Second Child Syndrome 77By Lin Tan

- Story Twenty-four -Possibilities 81By Merry Tay

- Story Twenty-five -Gratefulness 86By Mohammad Rosli

- Story Twenty-six -Growing Up 89By Bharad Satyavolu

- Story Twenty-seven -The Prodigal Son 92By Didi Fardi Bandi

- Story Twenty-eight -The Return 95By Peh Eng Hao


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- Story Twenty-nine -Appreciation 99By Chew En Yong

- Story Thirty -My Family Miracle 102By Halimah Rahmat

- Story Thirty-one -Getting Up and OUT!! 106By Ranvir Singh

- Story Thirty-two -Rewarding Reunion 111By Richard Chua

- Story Thirty-three -Led and Lost 114By Loke Siong Chee

- Story Thirty-four -Letting Go 117By Teng Nging Tan

- Story Thirty-five -All For the Family 121By Lim Yuan Teck


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- Story Thirty-six -If Only I Wasnt So Shy 124By Goh Ee Hung

- Story Thirty-seven -Confidence 127By Lim Pei Ying

- Story Thirty-eight -All It Takes Is Just A little Courage 127By Dionis Chiua

- Story Thirty-nine -Finding Myself 127By Dave Tan

- Story Forty -Barrier Breakers 127By Jeda Seet

- Story Forty-one -Abnormal People 127By Claire Kwa


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5 Lessons to Pick Me Up 149- Overcoming Barriers and Blind Spots- Clearing Clutters- Performing Acts of Courage

- Being Discipline- Putting in Actions

About ECI 153


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ALT + CLARITY + CHANGE

Throughout my life, people around me have always complainedabout their lack of money. I always struggled with a different kindof problem my lack of time.

I have always been an ambitious person; ironically, I was also verylost in my life. I spent my time doing meaningless things fordifferent people, so much so I hardly have time to spend on myself.As I strived to keep that up, I soon forgot what I wanted for myself.

I was drowning in my busyness, and started to forget what wasimportant to me. Like my ambitions, for example. However I couldnot completely let go of them. I ended up so lost and torn that Istarted to tumble into a state of despair and confusion. My lifeturned chaotic and devoid of any meaning. I wanted so much tobelieve that there has to be something that I could do about this Ifound myself asking numerous questions that remained unanswered.

The answer came to me when a kind acquaintance introduced me tocoaching. Through the process, I got real with myself and had ahard look into what I kept myself so busy all the time for otherpeople. The answers were hard to swallow the truth always is. Ihad a fanatical need for approval and I somehow made that themeaning of my life. Sure enough, that was about as useful as I couldbe.

Knowing this gave me the chance to fix my life as it is. My mind was

filled with all the possibilities of what my life can be about, and nodoubts can prevent me from taking this chance. The passion that Iused to have come back with fervor and, coupled with my newfound clarity, I learnt to focus it on the things that really matteredto me. I carried on pursuing the ambitions that I once neglected.


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Within a short span of time, I started to make marked achievementsin the area of public speaking and eventually emerged champion in

several regional speech competitions, including the ToastmastersHumorous Contest (Division). I was short-listed and invited to befeatured in The Straits Times under the Top 25 Alternate Achieversin 2006. Just a few months after, I authored and launched a book The FAQ Book on Public Speaking. And I dare say I have only justbegun!

Most importantly, these achievements are only secondary to what Inow realize really matters to me my relationship with my family.

They say loving someone gives you courage - I started opening up tomy parents. I told them how much I love them. I made efforts to bewith them when possible and spend quality time with them. Allthese allowed me to achieve a level of intimacy with my parents Inever thought possible.

I found myself falling in love with life itself and my days startingfilling with joy and excitement. I was living my life for MYSELF! Yes,

life started to feel glorious! My dreams and ambitions were beingfulfilled and with every achievement, new dreams started to unfoldfor me. Life is never boring now, and it just gets better every stepof the way.

Eric Feng, 26Professional Star SpeakerAssociate Certified Coach, ICFProgram Leader, AdvantEdge


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COMMENTARY FROM MASTER COACH

When one is young and talented, many opportunities tend to cometo us and sometimes we fall into a frenzy of trying to fall upon all ofthese opportunities at the same time. And if u are talented, it iseasy to attain gains in several areas and get caught in a trap ofmultiple successes. While this can be considered to be an enviableposition, being torn between two promising roles can be painfulbecause we could find it difficult to even consider letting go of anyof them. When one chooses to go right back to ones core onewould be able to find what really matters the source of whatmade you successful andtalented in the first place. And when we find the core it will be a

relatively smooth journey to begin to establish oneself in thedirection of ones true talent.

Sometimes ambition is in fact a running away from a sense offailure or a fear of failure and hence a person tries to cover up theemptiness inside by acquiring things on the outside. After all, doesnot the triumphant cry of a successful man ultimately result in lookat how much money I have, dont you envy me? Am I not better

than you? Look at the 10 thousand people Im talking to? Do youlove me enough now? and it all come down to one thing Im doingthis to prove to myself and the world how good I am. Dont youthink somebody can now pick me up?


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GOOD USE OF BOREDOM

I remember when I was younger; I was doing pretty well in class. I

scored As in exams; I was the president of my debating club. Lifewas smooth for me. However, I had a big issue unresolved!!!

I got bored very easily!And I had to create excitement for myself.

Every afternoon when I returned from school, I would make newfriends on internet relay chat (IRC). Soon after, we met at Orchard

Road to chill out. Problem is, I could never really get theirconversations they were always boring. They would complainabouttheir teachers, school work, exams I got so bored hearing theircomplaints that overtime, I shunned them.

Soon after, I met another group of friends. They were training hardfor national competition in counterstrike. I never joined a gaming

competition before, so I wanted to join them! They took me in andtrained me up. I was never as hardworking in my school tests incomparison. We trained day and night and we won! It was excitinginitially, but after the competition, there was nothing to lookforward to.

I started to hang out with them less. And I got myself into arelationship. Life was so romantic. We would search for our favoriterecipe and cook together, sneaked into pubs together. I even ranaway from home to stay with him for awhile. I love these miniadventures! However after some time, life became routine again.


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Even in school, Id get very bored easily. I cannot understand whyteachers read word-by-word from the textbook! I was frustratedand I didnt want to waste my time in school. So I pretended to besick and took medical certificates. However, after a few weeks, I

still went back to school not because the teachers werecomplaining, but because if I did not go school, there was no whereelse better for me to go! So I back to school I went.

One afternoon while sitting in my school auditorium, I lookedaround, and was shit by this strange feeling. There seemed to be noone whom I could connect with. I felt very lonely and I realized ifthis was how my life would look like for the next 20 years, I wouldbe devastated! I began to ask Why am I here for?

I went home and shared my feelings with my brother. My brother isa coach. He shared with me about coaching and asked if I wasinterested. As there was nothing better for me to do in December, Ithought this would be a good opportunity to meet new friends!

Never would I have expected that this was the turning point of my

life! I had so many realizations about myself - one of which was thatI didnt dare to dream. And where did that come from? When I wasyounger, my dad always told me not to dream.

You must study hard, work for a company first to gain yourexperience and earn enough money! Those words left a deepimpact in me. At that point of time, my dad was the eldest and theman I respected most, so I always thought he must be right. Thismindset has been implanted in my mind for a long time- and whatsmost unbelievable was that I was not even aware of how it hasinfluenced my goals in life. Ever since the conversation I had withmy dad, I never wanted to waste my time dreaming. All I did was


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to focus on my studies so that my good grades can land me in acompany to work and gain experience.

When I realized how this mindset has influenced me, I saw how itwas possible to achieve my long lost dreams. This breakthroughallowed me to regain clarity and energy!

With that newfound inner energy, I went back home to generate along list of my wish list. I showed my dreams to my coach, and hewas surprised by the dreams that I have always blocked myself fromachieving. He looked at me, told me to pick one goal to work onfirst!

I worked with my coach to develop a plan to raise $30,000 for myfashion business. With this amount of money, I can set up myfashion boutique. The day arrived when I shared my business planwith my investors. To my surprise, they asked If we give you 5times the amount, would you be able to create 5 times the result?And I replied Why not? With that, they invested 5 times theamount of money to my business!

I had $150,000 to set up my fashion boutique. I expanded myfashion boutique from one storey to two stories. I also created myown menswear label, which is housed in Singapore, Kuala Lumpur,Hong Kong and USA. As the finishing touch, I organized a fashionshow in St James Power House, with over 900 tickets sold. In oneyear, the fashion boutique was featured in 7 local and overseasmagazines.


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Its not only the results that are amazing, but it is how I am able tocreate an exciting life for myself! I get to do real big things in mylife, such as traveling to different countries to visit clients. Also,this frees me up in my relationships with my mum and dad.

Currently, my expression of love to my mum and dad has becomevery open at home. Being able to connect with my parents and sayI love you to my mum and dad was one of the biggestbreakthroughs in my life that I will always cherish.

Eileen Feng, 21Entrepreneur


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Why is it that human beings are always running? When we are not

running away from our fears, we could end up running away fromour boredom. Boredom is a scary word. Boredom haunts a lot ofpeople with gifts but who have no channels to express them through.Why does one get bored? Mostly I believe we are afraid. Afraid ofwhat is to come, afraid of what I could be. When we get bored, it isoften because our environment has no idea of how to make use ofus. That we are not called upon for our talents and we cannotbecome the best that we can be. On the other hand, boredom couldbe a fear of what we could become. That our whole lives we havebeen told that we have to do so much to be worthy and the better

lot is not meant for us, but reserved for some other privilegedperson.

Maybe we are all meant to be great in some way, big or small. Andin a world view that we live in currently, that tells us we are notgood enough, that we are equal yet there are other people that aremore privileged, we end up trapped in the paradox of knowingsomething is inside us but yet believing we have no claim to that

greatness. A human being needs worthy opponents either in theform of people or in the form of circumstances. The greater thechallenge the more we rise to the occasion. Sometimes all we needis a dream bigger than what we believe we can handle to breakwhat we were told that we couldnt be. Is there a dream that youare afraid to even begin?


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LONG LOST LOVE

To my peers, I may be considered as successful with a Harvard MBAto boot. I am in my early thirties and was a vice president with AXAone of the worlds largest financial and insurance institutions inSingapore. I had a staff strength of 42 people and was managing ageneral insurance portfolio worth S$120M in annual premiums.

Despite all that, I was not happy. Because I could not get the mostimportant thing that I want in life: to be able to love deeply.

You see, a long time ago I was able to truly love deeply. She was myuniversity sweetheart and we shared many of our firsts together:first kisses, first love poems written, first practice job interviews,first paychecks and more. However, when good things happen, Itook it for granted. 10 years into the relationship, I gave up it upwhen I returned to Asia from North America. I had many excuses:she has changed, I have changed, and the relationship is not thesame as before. The truth is: I am just being plain stupid.

Back in Asia, I went into new relationships and advanced well in thecorporate world. However, something inside me changed: I was notable to love anymore. Deep down inside, my conscience keptreminding me that I do not deserve to love because I have given upon a lovely ten year relationship. If I could break it up once, whatmake me think that I would not do it again?

If life is supposed to be colorful, then my world was gray. That wasthe kind of life I was living for years a life of pretense and acts.

All that changed the day I met my coach.


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The funny thing is, I was looking for ways to further my career andget more money. Instead, in all my conversations with my coach, Icame face to face with this relationship that I have abandoned andcame to terms with the fact that it was me who broke up the

relationship, and that I was not as good as the person whom Ithought I was.

After two weeks of coaching, I flew back to San Francisco to themini locker where I stored all my belongings ever since I left forAsia 4 years ago. As I went through the lockers content, my historywith this past relationship and the weight of the life that I wasrunning away from bore down on me. I broke down and cried andcried. I needed

her forgiveness. Saying sorry deeply was never easy for me. I tookup all my courage and I called her in Hong Kong on the spot to askfor her forgiveness. And she did. I also found out that she hasalready moved on to a new relationship for the last 2 years.

So it was just me who was stuck in my guilty state!

In getting her forgiveness, I forgive myself. In forgiving myself, mywhole world opened up. I could love again, and I was finally able tolive my life happy again! Great things started to happen. I found arenewed devotion into my career and was promoted to regional vicepresident position of AXA in Japan and Asia Pacific managingregional projects for 11 countries in the region subsequently. A fewmonths down the road, I then took on a further act of courage. Ifound the courage to quit the corporate world and joined the boardof directors of a large real estate company that will soon be listedon the Singapore Stock Exchange.


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One year four months, I am still living the courage to create journeyto continuously create the life that I truly deserved and desired.And yes, I am in love!

Soon Loo, 34EntrepreneurDirector of a Singapore Real Estate Investment Trust


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In our acquisitive world, drive is a very powerful tool to push. We

run, we fly and by doing so we receive the envious looks of peoplewho long for that kind of power. When things slow down, we usethe ability to whip ourselves into creating the results that arebeyond extraordinary. Indeed this is the stuff of legends, of howheroes are made. And in some way, some of us long to become ahero, or hang out with one. Hoping some of that magic would ruboff on us. Nietchzhe once said verily polluted a stream is man.And in the end we are human, all too human. Our heroes are flawed.We are flawed. And so we strive to mend that flaw even if it costsus our lives. Our gurus have clay feet. Our parents arent

impeccable. And our drives are tainted. Why would a person pushhimself so hard? Something we run towards would mean there issomething we are running away from. To drive oneself really hardagainst the odds of the world requires courage. To turn back andface our shadows to see what is really pushing us takes greatercourage. When we dare to face what we run away from thatpunishes us so relentlessly, perhaps we could like in this story, gobeyond what we ran away from. And find the very thing that ismissing in us. And when a man is fulfilled, and he chooses to fly,

what a glorious sight.


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WHAT I REALLY WANT FOR MYSELF

I was at the peak of my design career 10 years ago in 1998 andunclear of which path to take when choices opened up, due to alack of clarity on my part to make any decision on what I want to dowith my life. One day, as I was going through the everyday motionsof life - going to work, arriving at the office, settling down with acup of coffee in my hand and looking at the view outside my office.As I looked out of the window to the nice view outside, it suddenlyhit me that I have been going through this mechanical routine foryears! All this time I hadnt even noticed! That got me thinking andI started questioning myself about what I could be doing, what isreally important to me and where I wanted to go. I was looking at

the life that I had lived and I wondered what other aspects of lifethat I had not considered. I wanted more. I wanted a direction.

Through coaching, I realized why I am driven the way I am, how Ibecame someone who only knows about going for appointments andnever stopping to question my way of life. One other majorrealization that I got was that Ive always been seeking my mumsapproval, to get a good job and climb the ranks, following in the

footsteps of my parents. All my life, I had been living my parentsdream for me. What about my dream for myself? With all thisawareness and realization of myself, there was a shift in paradigm,I found the direction that I wanted and I set on to create the changein my life.

In the past, I had many creative ideas but was unable to implementthem into the work I was doing. But this time round, after observingthe many gaps in the design industry, I found the courage and

started my own design business, taking on direct creative projects,in which gave me better control of my work, enabling me to pickand choose my own clients, which opened a window of biggeropportunities to do the things that I truly enjoy. Finally, I was livingmy dream after all these years.


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My relationship with my family has since improved tremendouslyand I am now so much more present to the world, noticing thethings around me and enjoying life and the beauty and pleasures ithas.

I am now the Creative Director at Sightworks and also the ManagingDirector of Advantage Coaching, I am set on grooming the nextgeneration of creative designers. While this sense of fulfillment thatI have in my life can never be returned to those who made itpossible, I can and am paying it forward with my contributions tothe world.

Julia Ng, 41Associate Certified Coach, ICFProgram Leader, AdvantEdge


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BLIND TO THE LOVE THAT WAS ALWAYS THERE

For many years of my life, I did not know why I am here. During my

schooling years, I knew I had an education I had to achieve.However, over the years, I did not know what I was studying for. Ithit me harder especially in university years when my mind wasoften preoccupied with questions about life and I was just driftingthrough life. I became anguished in the process. This feeling wasaccentuated by thoughts of my dad not caring about me. Hence, toprotect myself, I decided to shut him out of my life. However, onthe other hand, I yearned for acceptance by him. These led to mymind and emotions being in turmoil. Through the years, I got wornout and subtly rejected my life. In order for me to protect myself, I

told myself that I had to be strong and try not to display my sadness,especially tears, in front of others.

One day before entering the working society, I decided that it wasprobably time to get my life back so I took joined a seminar.However, it did not give me the clarity I wanted. It was not until mybest friend, shared some of her experiences with me.

The coaching that she introduced to me caused a paradigm shift inthe way I see things. I realized that all this while I misinterpretedmy Dads actions. You see, I always thought that he did not care formy well-being, but it turned out that he was actually showing mehis care and love in a different form! Let me explain... Since young,my dad has always been asking to look at my grades and how Iperformed at school. I always saw him as being strict; and since hewas away from home often he should not be asking me suchquestions.

But in the coaching program, I saw that that was actually his way ofshowing concern for me all these years. However, back then, I was


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marred by the thought that he was often away from home andfailed to realize that his concern for me was actually through hisquery about my grades, etc. This cleared up my relationship withhim. I no longer had an emotional turmoil with regards to my

relationship with him. Now I am able to speak with him morewillingly.

Not only that, I found out that there was more to my life. I have aclearer idea of what I want to do with my life, which is to give backto society by doing missionary or charity work. And eventually Iwant to set up a charity foundation.

As I expanded myself, other transformations happened. Before, Ioften tend not to convey my thoughts on certain matters for fear ofsaying the wrong thing hence being rejected. However, I realizedthat my past impression of my father created this fear I had. Withawareness about the history I had with my father, I now do not haveas much self-doubt. I have more courage to express my thoughtsand feelings. As my relationships got better, it contributed to mycareer too. Im am connecting with my clients now and maintainingmy relationships with them. Theres a higher probability of getting

more deals than before. When things are bothering me, Im able tolet them go faster and focus better. Not am I starting to connectwith people, but most importantly, with myself.

Finally, Im starting to live my life.

Jannis Wah, 24Financial Advisor


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Preparation. There are many ways to prepare oneself for life. Mostof them insufficient. For theory and practice is never the same as

real time situations. But it takes courage to realize that one isntready and it takes even more courage to prepare oneself well sothat one can move at the pace and in the direction that one desires.Sometimes the preparation is missing because we dont knowenough. Sometimes it is because we feel we are not supportedenough. And until we have enough of both venturing out can oftenlead us to bad decisions that eventually trap us. We need a kind oflove and support either from ourselves to ourselves or from thepeople who love us to us. We need someone to hold our handssometimes, and more importantly we need someone to hold our

hearts. And armed with that kind of certainty, its not too hard toimagine how we can face the unknown.


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