personality theories - horney rcap
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This is a powerpoint about Karen Horney, taken from Theories of Perosnality textbook.TRANSCRIPT
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Karen HorneyRafael C. Salamat, MA, RPm
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Are these statements
TRUE or FALSE for you?
1. Its very important to me to please other
people.
2. When I feel distressed, I seek out an
emotionally strong person to tell my troubles
to.
3. I prefer routine more than change.
4. I enjoy being in a powerful leadership position.
5. I believe in and follow the advice: Do unto
others before they can do unto me.
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6. I enjoy being the life of the party.
7. Its very important to me to be recognized for
my accomplishments.
8. I enjoy seeing the achievements of my
friends.
9. I usually end relationships when they begin
to get too close.
10.Its very difficult for me to overlook my own
mistakes and personal flaws.
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Overview of KHs
psychoanalytic theory
Social and cultural conditions (during childhood) shape personality
Those who do not have their need for love and affection satisfied develop basic hostility towards their parents and, as consequence, suffer from basic anxiety.
We combat basic anxiety by using 3 ways of relating to others: (1)moving towards people (2) moving against people (3) moving away from people
Normal people may use all these, neurotics tend to use one kind
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Overview of KHs
psychoanalytic theory
Neurotics compulsive behavior generate an
intrapsychic conflict which takes two forms:
self-image or self-hatred
The Idealized self-image is expressed as (1)
neurotic search for glory, (2) neurotic claims
or (3) neurotic pride
Self-hatred is expressed as either (1) self-
contempt or (2) alienation
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Biography She viewed her father as a religious hypocrite
who was seldom there (sea captain)
She adored her mother
She wanted to be a doctor, and she succeeded, being one of the very first women in Berlin.
Karen Danielsen met Oskar Horney, had 3 kids
She was not faightful, and their marriage ended; She had an affair with a married Erich Fromm when he migrated to Chicago
Died of cancer at 65
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Horney against Freud
Sticking to Freuds thoughts will stagnate both
theoretical thought and practice
Freud disregard women, I dont like that
Move out from instinct (internal) and include
cultural and social forces (external)
Humans are innately good and amenable to
change
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The Importance of Culture and
Childhood Experiences Culture
Culture is the basis for neurotic and normal development; modern culture is based on competition
Competitiveness and Basic Hostility spawn from Feelings of Isolation
We avoid every opportunity of being and feeling lonely, therefore, cellphones
Feeling of loneliness needs of affection overvaluing love people see love and affection as an answer to their problems
Genuine love is different from a desperate need for love
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Before there were phones, what were people
doing during moments of loneliness?
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Childhood experiences
Similarly to other theorists, many issues stem
from Childhood experiences
Traumatic experiences in childhood root from a
lack of warmth and affection (beatings, sexual
abuse, neglect)
Difficult childhood Neurotic needs
Things are unclear, so youre never satisfied, and
you dont know what you want, but it makes you
happy for a moment. Having neurotic needs is like
a vice / addiction
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Basic Hostility and Basic Anxiety
A supportive environment provide us with feelings of safety and satisfaction, parents are not perfect
If the parents do not satisfy their childrens needs, children develop basic hostility towards their parents, which they repress
The repressed BH gives us a feeling of isolation and helplessness is this hostile world; this feeling is called basic anxiety
These two are inextricably woven
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How people protect themselves
from Basic Anxiety
Affection does not always lead to authentic love (ex. Sex, gifts)
Submissiveness people do this with other people, institutions, orgs, or religious groups. People attempt this seamless union in order to gain affection
Power tendency to dominate othersPrestige protect self from humiliation by humiliating others (belittling someone, to make self appear better)
Possession depriving others (greed); protect self from poverty
Withdrawal emotional detachment (no one can hurt me I dont care)
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Neurotic Need
Ways to combat basic anxiety; more specific than the defense strategies mentioned earlier
The 10 categories are:
1. For affection and approval lives to peoples expectations in an immature way (I will do whatever he/she says)
2. For a powerful partner dreading being alone or deserted (battered wife says no one else will love me)
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Neurotic Need
3. To restrict ones life within narrow borders - Content with very little, doesnt demand others (Chill Hayaan mo na, oks lang)
4. For power - combined with prestige and possession; control others, avoids feeling weak
5. To exploit others taking advantage of others and making sure that the self is taken advantaged for (one-way friendship, friend-zoning, user-friendly-ing)
6. For social recognition and prestige attract attention to themselves (basking in the glory, champion, showing-off)
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Neurotic Need
7. For personal admiration self-esteem is fed by admiration and approval (thanks! IKR fishing)
8. For ambition and personal achievement to be the best in everything
9. For self-sufficiency and independence a person who chooses to suffer than borrow money from family / friends, a womanizer afraid of a co-dependent relationship
10. For perfection and unassailability desperately hides weaknesses, attempts perfection as a proof of their superiority
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Neurotic Trends
We use neurotic trends to solve basic conflicts, but sometimes in a non-productive and neurotic way
1. Moving toward people not genuine, protecting oneself against feelings of loneliness, morbid dependency
2. Moving against people sees everyone as hostile, aggressive, appearing tough and ruthless
3. Moving away from people behaving in a detached manner, privacy and independence
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Neurotic Needs fall under
a Neurotic Trend
1. Moving toward people Neurotic needs 1,
2, 3
2. Moving against people Neurotic needs
4,5,6,7,8
3. Moving away from people Neurotic needs
9, 10
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Intrapsychic Conflicts
Interpersonal experiences becomes a part of our belief system develops a life of their own
Intrapsychic conflicts have become very different from Interpersonal conflicts (origin); two kinds:
Idealized self-image: painting a godlike picture of oneself
Self-hatred: despising real self
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First IC: Idealized Self-Image
Healthy person: develops security and
confidence and ultimately, self-realization
Unhealthy person: feels alienated from self,
desperate to acquire a sense of identity
forms an ISI
A person who has an unrealistic / perfect view of
self as heroic, all-knowing, saint-like, etc.
ISI has 3 aspects: (1) Neurotic search for glory,
(2)Neurotic Claims, (3) Neurotic Pride
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Neurotic search for glory the drive that moves us to actualizing our ISI; has 4 elements:
Self-idealization (thought process, imagination)
Need for perfection (molding self, sets of dos and donts; tyranny of the shoulds)
Neurotic ambition (the compulsive drive toward superiority)
Drive toward a vindictive triumph (aim to put others to shame or defeat them through ones success)
Neurotic Claims statement that together make up a fantasy of a person wherein he deserve greater than others (I deserve.because [irrational explanation])
Neurotic Pride not a realistic view of self; loudly proclaimed in order to protect and support a glorified self (likes to post p-shopped pictures, posting achievements, exaggerates ones profile)
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Second IC: Self-Hatred
If we use our glorified self as a measure of our
worth, we will end up despising our self;
there are six major ways of self-hatred:
Relentless demand of the self (tyranny of the
shoulds, basta, mali, dapat)
Merciless self-accusation (blaming self,
scrutinizing self negatively)
Self-contempt (doubting, discrediting self, self-
loathe, inability to be proud of self)
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Self-frustration (restricting self and saying I dont
deserve this; putting self in frustrating situations)
Self-torment (self-torture, starting an activity
that one can definitely fail in, exaggerating a
headache, physical abuse)
Self destructive actions and impulses (compared
to ST, SDAI are chronic, breaking off a healthy
relationship)
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Some people want to underachieve so they have an excuse to be miserable
Some people want to feel miserable so they can justify (1) how they see themselves (failures) and (2) how they feel
Some people see themselves as failures (even before trying) because working hard and then failing is disappointing and scary
Some people feel shitty because they just do (basic anxiety)
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The root of
neuroses is social in
nature, but so is the
success of human
development
Social support is
key!