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PATHOLOGICAL GAMBLING - ANTISPIRITUALITY
November 10 (Reno) and 12 (Las Vegas), 2009
Lynnette Stilley, MFT, LADC, CPGC-S
Comprehensive Therapy Centers,
Las Vegas, NV
Agenda
Scheduling 8:30 AM – 4:15 PM Lunch 11:45 – 1 PM Breaks 10 AM and 3 PM Locations
Order of Materials 8:30 –10 AM Pathological Gambling 101 10 AM on – Spirituality and Pathological
Gambling
Outline
Pathological Gambling “101” Spirituality and Pathological Gambling
A. DefinitionsB. Importance of spiritualityC. Lack of spirituality
A. CausesB. CharacteristicsC. Gamblers’ magical thinking
Outline, cont.
Spirituality and Pathological GamblingD. Why talk about spirituality?
Values (examples) Gambling and spirituality
E. Why don’t we talk about spirituality?F. Treatment implications
A. Our new role B. AssessmentC. GoalsD. Signs of achievement
Definitions
GAMBLING: “. . .any betting or wagering, for self or others, whether for money or not, no matter how slight or insignificant, where the outcome is uncertain or depends upon chance or “skill” constitutes gambling.” Source: Gamblers Anonymous
OR:Players wager money or object of valueBet is irreversible once placedThe game’s outcome relies on chance
Definitions, cont.
PROBLEM GAMBLING: “. . .any involvement in risky gambling behaviors that
adversely affects the individual’s well being – this may include issues of relationships, family, financial standing, social matters and vocational pursuits.”
Source:
Arizona Council on Compulsive Gambling, 1995
Definitions, cont.
COMPULSIVE (PATHOLOGICAL) GAMBLING“. . .a chronic and progressive disorder in which the individual
is preoccupied with gambling and the urge to gamble to the extent that the gambling behavior compromises, disrupts or damages personal, family and vocational pursuits.” Source:
Dr. Robert Custer, M.D., 1989
ORChronic and progressive failure to resist the impulse to gamble
and such gambling behavior compromises, disrupts or damages personal, family and vocational pursuits.
Diagnostic Criteria (DSM IV)
A. Persistent and Recurrent Maladaptive Behavior (5+) 1. Preoccupation
2. Increasing bets 3. Unable to control, cut back or stop 4. Restless when cutting down or stopping 5. Escape from problems 6. “Chasing” to get even 7. Lies 8. Illegal acts 9. Jeopardize relationships, job, career, education 10. “Bail outs” from othersB. Gambling behavior not accounted for by Manic Episode
Types of gamblers
Professional Antisocial (criminal)
Casual Social
Serious Social
Problem
Pathological (compulsive)
Consequences of problem gambling
Emotional - depression, anxiety & stress
Financial - credit/personal debt, property loss
Personal - neglect, lying, arguments, abuse
Employment - lost productivity, absenteeism
Legal - bad checks, embezzlement, robbery, insurance fraud
Spiritual
Phases of compulsive gambling
Spirituality
Definitions
“Of the spirit” – “Inspiring principle or dominant influence; soul; nature of a person, disposition, attitude; essence or real meaning…” Webster’s
“The word spiritual can be said to describe those characteristics of the human mind that represent the highest and finest qualities, such as kindness, generosity, honesty, and humility”. GA, Combo Book, Page 1
Definition, cont.
Not so official: That which gives meaning, connectedness, serenity and
purpose to life Integrity of thoughts, emotions and behaviors; the whole,
not the separate parts, of a person. Being a positive, creative being.
The motivational and emotional source of the human search for meaning.
Definition, cont.
Leads to enhanced feelings of well being, inner peace and life satisfaction.
Our ability to relate to others, to ourselves and to God – as we understand Him/Her. Gamblers Anonymous, A Day at a Time
Long-term versus short term emphasis, “seeing the bigger picture”, getting perspective.
The importance of spirituality
Spirituality is:
Part of who we are
A protective factor
An enhancer of well being
Principle utilized by thousands of people recovering
from addictions
Causes of lack of spirituality
Spiritual abuse
Crisis of faith / conflicts in belief system
Limited spiritual experience
Disconnected from / conflicts with significant others
Common characteristics when spirituality is lacking
Rage at or fear of God
Loss of meaning of life
Overly rigid or underdeveloped conscience
Hopelessness
“Faith” vs ‘Luck’ attitude (Magical Thinking)
Common characteristics when spirituality is lacking, cont.
Guilt and shame Guilt: I did something bad. “I gambled far more than I
wanted to, and that action was ‘bad’.” Shame: I did something bad, therefore I’M bad. “I
gambled far more than I wanted to, and that was “bad”. Therefore I am bad. I am a compulsive gambler and will always gamble far more than I want to. I might as well not even fight these cravings, because there is no hope I can change – besides, haven’t I tried in the past?”
Magical thinkingof the problem gambler
Superstitions and rituals
Systems
Personification of gambling device
Near-Miss Belief
Hot / Cold Machines
Chasing Beliefs
Ability to influence the outcome
Why talk about spirituality to clients?
A disaster such as what has just happened to them can actually be a time of great opportunity; it can be a time, with the help of a support system, in which they can re-value their life. They can consciously adopt the beliefs that they want to believe. For instance, humility: one of the lessons to be learned from this disaster is that they are human: pretty special, but not the biggest, smartest or best thing in the universe! There IS something “bigger than you or I”. What they call that is entirely up to them. Many people call it “God” or “Higher Power”, but they can call it “tennis shoe” or “rock”, “this group” or “GA” or “wisdom” if they want.
Lynn
Examples
Humility: one of the lessons to be learned from this disaster is that they are human: pretty special, but not the biggest, smartest or best thing in the universe! There IS something “bigger than you or I”. What they call that is entirely up to them. Many people call it “God” or “Higher Power”, but they can call it “tennis shoe” or “rock”, “this group” or “GA” or “wisdom” if they want. Lynn
Examples
Tolerance and acceptance: These may be necessary as clients participate in a support system. As GA says, “Principles, not personalities”! Knowing what it is that they need and getting it from their support group is necessary for recovery, but so is being realistic. This takes walking the fine line of not ignoring messages they don’t want to hear, but also not giving too much authority to what any one person says. Lynn
Why don’t we want to talk about spirituality to clients?
Spirituality vs. Religion
This is the issue that makes most counselors avoid the whole issue!
“Religion is for those who don’t want to go to hell; spirituality is for those who have already been there.” Anon
Therefore, know: You CANNOT avoid it! It must be included in goals and treatment
planning, especially in referrals to spiritual advisors and leaders Know your religious beliefs and keep your boundaries: do NOT
impose your beliefs on others!! Redefining the word God/Higher Power may help, I.e., “Good
Orderly Direction”, the program, doing the next right thing, etc.
Spirituality and problem gambling
To a gambler: Meaning and purpose come from winning Luck and Chance are their Higher Power Winning is a proof of spiritual worth Winning defeats God, or an oppressive belief system Gambling provides an escape from grief and despair or
an oppressive belief system
Problem gambling vs. spirituality
PROBLEM GAMBLER SPIRITUALITY
EGO – edging God out – the source POWER greater than of belief is in the self self
SEPARATENESS – not being a BELONGING – part of being a part ofDISCONNECTED – from self, CONNECTION – to others,
community, universe self, others, community, universe
FANTASY and illusion TRUTH - reality about who you really are
EMPTINESS – needing more FULFILLMENT
Problem gambling vs. spirituality
PROBLEM GAMBLER SPIRITUALITY
SHAMEFUL WORTHYSECRETIVE HONESTSCARCITY ABUNDANCEATTACK & DEFEND FORGIVING &
HEALINGHIDDEN OPENARROGANCE HUMILITYFEAR LOVE
EVERYONE has spirituality. Gamblers did, even when they were gambling, and perhaps gambling WAS their spirituality – it served to provide meaning to their life, provided a connection to SOMEthing, and was the framework for making decisions about their life. However, it was a harmful spirituality, and now they may want to choose something more healthy. Gambling was about randomness and chaos, not meaning and purpose; about competition against a higher system; about control, not acceptance of one’s real place in the universe – as an important but not all-important part of it. It led to isolation, alienation, and behaviors that were the direct opposite of what they had valued in the past.
Lynn
Treatment implications
Our New Role
Encourager: Encourage the client to take action, utilize the 12-Steps
Director: Direct client towards need for spiritual awareness
Guide: Pointing out alternate routes, hazards to avoid,
milestones and guideposts Healer:
Provide a safe environment for healing, growing, balancing
Assessing spiritual coping styles
Deferring – passive, “God will handle it” Pleading – bargaining, “If only____, I promise
I’ll_________” Self-directing – active, handle it without God Collaborative – active partner with God
Spiritual goals
Develop helpful spiritual beliefs
Connect to faith community
Find a spiritual advisor: pastor, priest, rabbi
Devotional / scripture reading
Developing helpful faith rituals and practices
Connecting with family and friends
Doing a life review
Spiritual goals, cont.
Pray
Meditate
Listen to music
Get out in nature
Find/make a sacred space
Find a sense of peace
Use humor / laughter
Spiritual goals, cont.
Find value in all situations
View self in relation to a higher purpose
Seek God - not play God
Let go of expectations
Experience ‘the moment’
Feel gratitude
Spiritual goals, cont.
Most (?) important: A SPIRITUAL SUPPORT SYSTEM
Everyone grew up with some sort of spirituality in their childhood support system. They may decide to return to that belief system, or they may need to learn about and adopt another one, or they may need to revise some of either of those choices. Lynn
Spiritual goals, cont.
A SPIRITUAL SUPPORT SYSTEM, cont.How do we do so, however? WITH THE HELP OF
SPIRITUAL PEOPLE that we respect. These are people that seem to have some purpose and meaning in life, that are not egotistical (think they are a higher power!) nor a doormat (think they don’t deserve a higher power or place in the universe), are connected to others, and have a conscious set of beliefs and values. Lynn
Spiritual goals: AA promises
“If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through.
We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.
We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
We will comprehend the word serenity and We will know peace.
Spiritual goals: AA promises, cont.
No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.
That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.
We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.
Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will
change.
Spiritual goals: AA promises, cont.
Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.
We will intuitively know how to handle situations that used to baffle us.
We will suddenly realize that [God] is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us – sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them.” AA Big Book
Signs of Awakening/Protective Factors against Relapse
Finding value/fulfillment in any situation View self in relation to a higher purpose, a sense of
belonging and connection Seek God, not play God Let go of inappropriate expectations and see
truth/reality Be able to experience the moment Feel gratitude and self-worth
THE SERENITY PRAYER
GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY… Serenity means that I no longer recoil from
the past, live in jeopardy because of my behavior now, or worry about the unknown future. I seek regular times to re-create myself and I avoid those times of depletion which make me vulnerable to despair and to old self-destructive patterns.
THE SERENITY PRAYER, cont.
TO ACCEPT THE THINGS THAT I CANNOT CHANGE…
Accepting change means that I do not cause suffering for myself by clinging to that which no longer exists. All that I can count on is that nothing will be stable – except how I respond to the transforming cycles in my life of birth, growth and death.
THE SERENITY PRAYER, cont.
THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN…
Which means remembering that to give up my attempts to control outcomes does not require I give up my boundaries or my best efforts. It does mean my most honest appraisal of the limits of what I can do.
THE SERENITY PRAYER, cont.
AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.
Wisdom becomes the never forgotten recognition of all those times when it seemed there was no way out, and new paths opened up like miracles in my life.
Source: A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps, Patrick Carnes, CompCare Publishers, 1989.