AAML MN2626 E 82nd Street, Suite 270Bloomington, MN 55425

October 5 - 8th, 2017 Breezy Point Resort, Breezy Point, MN

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High Stakes: A Deck Stacked with ACESACEs science refers to the research on the prevalence and consequences of adverse childhood experiences. The impact of ACEs and how it leads to emotional dysregulation is an underlying facet in all of our practices, whether child-focused or financial. Family law professionals should be well-versed in not only the science of the phenomenon, but also in how to recognize emotional dysregulation and effective tools for managing it within the context of a case. With this lens in mind, attendees will be called to see opportunity to positively impact the health of generations and mitigate our own frustrations in our practices.

Schedule of Events:THURSDAY OCTOBER 5, 201711:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.mConference Registration

Pre-Conference Focused Skill Sessions:1:00 - 2:30 p.m.

Session A: Retirement and Cohabitation: How to Address Spousal Maintenance When Life HappensBen Henschel & Joani MobergThis discussion will focus on the challenging aspects of spousal maintenance, with a particular focus on modification requests due to retirement and cohabitation.

Session B: ADR Best Practices: The Good, the Bad and the UglyKaty Graves, Dan Van Loh, Dan O’Connell & Cary Miller-DolanExplore ADR best practices, including preparing clients, attorney advocacy and ethical considerations for neutrals.

2:30 - 4:00 p.m.

Session C: The Antenuptial Statute: What is it Good for? Absolutely Nothing!Ben Henschel & Lisa SpencerA primary purpose of antenuptial agreements is to contractually define marital/non-marital property between spouses. This discussion will include a brief history of Minnesota law, including

the legislature’s intent in enacting Minn. Stat. §519.11, and the effect of the recent Kremer decision.

Session D: Appendix B: Formalizing the Responsibilities of the Custodial Parent(s)Lori Thibodeau & Zachary KretchmerDisruption of the parent/child relationship should be addressed immediately and comprehensively. Unfortunately, court orders rarely provide a road map for what parents should do if a child refuses contact. This session will discuss a proposal for setting forth such expectations as part of every custody order.

5:00 - 7:00 p.m.Reception and Dinner

7:00 - 9:00 p.m.Welcome Ben Henschel, President of the AAML MN Chapter

“RESILIENCE: The Biology of Stress and the Science of Hope”This groundbreaking film by director James Redford explores the science, impact, and the importance of our response to ACEs.

9:00 - 12:00 a.m.Hospitality SuiteJoin your fellow campers for some Northern Hospitality hosted by the Family Law League.

FRIDAY OCTOBER 6, 20177:45 - 8:30 a.m.Yoga/Meditation (optional)Siri Garnaas & Bill Brendel($10; advance sign-up required, bring your yoga mat)

7:30 - 9:00 a.m.Breakfast

9:00 - 9:30 a.m.Opening RemarksMadeline Marzano-Lesnevich,President-Elect of AAML

Overview of WeekendLisa Spencer, Divorce Camp Chair

9:30 - 10:30 a.m.It’s in the Cards: Keynote Address

Calming the Brain on Fire: A Tale of Fear and SurvivalChris Bray, Ph.D., L.P.*Dr. Bray will explore the science of ACEs; the neurobiological effects of trauma and toxic stress on the human body; and the opportunities for building resilience.

10:45 - 12:00 p.m.What’s the Deal?Mark Schaefer & Lori ThibodeauUsing a trauma-informed approach, attendees will learn how emotional dysfunction manifests itself in any number of situations, and how practitioners can best address behaviors that may impede progress.

12:00 - 1:00 p.m.Something to Chew OnSmall group working lunch

1:00 - 2:00 p.m.The Play’s the Thing: A Dramatic InterludeModerated by Zachary Kretchmer

2:00 - 2:45 p.m.Play A Poor Hand WellTom Harjes, Kevin McGrath, Cary Miller-Dolan, & Mindy Mitnick - Moderated by Mark SchaeferThis esteemed panel will discuss their observations of the best tools used in mediation sessions to help rein in dysregulated clients or counsel.

3:00 - 5:30 p.m.Double Down on Free Time!Go for a nature hike; schedule time at the Breezy Point Spa (be sure to contact Breezy Point to register for your spa time) or sign-up for one of the following activities:

3:00 - 4:00 p.m.Meditate and Roll the Pain AwayBill Brendel & Siri GarnaasMeditate with Bill while Siri shows you how to roll out that pesky knot in your back using therapy tune-up balls - trust us, they’re fantastic! ($15; advance sign-up required)

3:00 - 5:00 p.m.Painting and Wine($15; advance sign-up required)

5:30 - 7:30 p.m.Reception and Dinner

7:30 - 10:30 p.m.Don’t Get Lost in the Shuffle - Come Play a Hand at Casino NightAll proceeds raised will go to The Center for Resilient Families

*Chris Bray is co-director of the Center for Resilient Families and Administrative Director at the Institute for Translational Research in Children’s Mental Health, both at the University of Minnesota. Her areas of interest include child trauma and recovery in systems-involved youth and the use of implementation science to create systems change within agencies that serve traumatized children. Chris retired from public service as the Commissioner for the Minnesota Department of Corrections after a career in juvenile and adult corrections at the state and local level.

SATURDAY OCTOBER 7, 2017

7:45 - 8:30 a.m.Yoga/Tune-Up Balls/Meditation (optional)Siri Garnaas & Bill Brendel($15: advance sign-up required, bring your yoga mat)

7:30 - 9:00 a.m.Breakfast

9:00 - 9:15 a.m.Announcements and Directions for the DayLisa Spencer

9:15 - 11:00 a.m.Deal Me In: Empathy Without EnmeshmentSmall group work

11:15 - 11:45 a.m.Follow Suit: Words MatterKirsten Lysne & Joani MobergA discussion of tone as a thermometer for our own self-regulation.

11:45 - 12:45 p.m.Food for ThoughtSmall group working lunch

12:45 - 1:15 p.m.Can’t Change the Cards We’re Dealt - Just How We Play ThemJoani MobergA discussion of recognizing opportunities for positive change and flipping the script.

1:15 - 1:30 p.m.Closing RemarksLisa Spencer

1:30 - 5:00 p.m.Ace in the Hole: Free Time!Golf; 5k Run; Indoor Olympics; Mixology with Jen Joseph; Breezy Point Spa (be sure to contact Breezy Point to register for your Spa time in advance)

5:00 - 6:00 p.m.Reception

6:00 - 7:00 p.m.Dinner

7:00 - 8:00 p.m.Show Us Your Hand!Can you sing? Tap dance? Tell a joke? We know Divorce Campers have talent, come prepared to show us yours at the Variety Show!Contact Tori Elsmore to sign up at velsmore@cbsh.net

8:00 - 12:00 a.m.Hospitality Suite

SUNDAY OCTOBER 8, 2017

8:00 - 9:30 a.m.Breakfast Buffet

Conference Registration FormOn-line registration available at mn.aaml.org

EARLY BIRD DEADLINESEPTEMBER 5TH!

Conference Fee:$600/person EARLY BIRD$650/person After September 5th$650/person Supporter**Social registration designated for non-lawyers who do not want to be assigned to a group during the conference. It includes participation in all general sessions, meal functions and the Divorce Camp Variety Show.

$10 Friday morning$15 Friday afternoon$15 Saturday morning

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$15 Friday afternoonPAINTING & WINE

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CLE InformationApplication will be made to the MN Board of Continuing Legal Education for approximately 11.0 standard CLE credits. The final CLE approved amount will be available in late Fall on the Minnesota Board of Continuing Legal Education’s website at: www.mbcle.state.mn.us.

Cancellation PolicyWritten notice of your conference registration must be received by September 13, 2017. A $35 administrative fee will be charged and the balance will be refunded following the Conference. Cancellations should be mailed to: AAML MN, 2626 E 82nd Street, Suite 270, Bloomington, MN 55425-1381; faxed to (952) 858-8950; or emailed to Cathy@bestmeetings.com.

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OUR DIVORCE CAMP COMMITTEE:Lisa Spencer – ChairKirsten Lysne – Facilitator

Victoria BrennerVictoria ElsmoreKaty GravesTom Harjes Ben HenschelZachary KretchmerMylene LandryBarb LouisDeanna MerdinkAlexandra MichelsonJoani MobergGloria MyreLaura Sahr SchmitMark SchaeferCathy SchmidtLori ThibodeauMichelle TraversDan Van Loh

SPECIAL THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS:Abdo, Eick & Meyers, LLPBaker Tilly Virchow Krause, LLPCarol M. Klaphake P.A.CBIZ MHM, LLCCollins, Buckley, Sauntry & Haugh, P.L.L.P.Dewalt Law OfficeFamily Law SoftwareFindLawFleming Education Group, LLCGrobe Consulting, LLCHenschel Moberg Goff, PAHenson & Efron, PAHonsa Rodd LandryJohnson MediationLaurel Wealth PlanningLinder, Dittberner, Bryant & Winter, Ltd.Lindquist & Vennum, LLPMack & Santana Law Offices, P.C.Messerli & Kramer, P.A.Moss & BarnettTuft, Lach, Jerabek & O’Connell, PLLCUBS Financial Services, Inc.Value Consulting Group

And a special sponsorship of Siri Garnaas and Bill Brendel brought to you by Kirsten Lysne, Joani Moberg and Lisa Spencer

DIRECTIONSBreezy Point Resort is 20 miles north of Brainerd/Baxter. Take Highway 371 north to Pequot Lakes, go right (east) on County Rd. 11 approximately 5 miles, through the Breezy Point front gate to the Resort Office.

On I-94, going north and west of the cities, take the Clearwater exit (Highway 24) right, across the Mississippi River to Highway 10 west (left), through St. Cloud to Highway 371 (just north of Little Falls) into Baxter. Continue on highway 371 north from Baxter, through Nisswa to Pequot Lakes, go right (east) on County Rd. 11 approximately 5 miles, through the Breezy Point Resort front gate to the Front Desk in the Conference Center.

The construction on 371 between Nisswa and Pequot may slow you down. An alternate route is to turn right (east) on County Road 18. Follow it for 9.4 miles. Turn left (north) on County Road 4 (north) also called Red Pine Drive and follow it for 4.4 miles. Turn right onto Breezy Point Drive.

9252 Breezy Point Drive Breezy Point, MN 56472

AAML – MN Chapter October 5-8, 2017

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*NO Phone Reservations Will Be Taken!* To view room types – please go to this web-site:

http://www.breezypointresort.com/vacation/lodging/index.html Please circle and number your preference! 3 nights: SINGLE DOUBLE TRIPLE QUAD BREEZY INN 720.00 498.00 LODGE APARTMENTS 720.00 498.00 BREEZY CENTER 720.00 498.00 2-bedroom Cabin/Condo N/A 720.00 579.39 498.00 3-bedroom Cabin N/A N/A 720.00 617.55 4-bedroom Cabin N/A N/A N/A 720.00 PACKAGE INCLUDES: 3-Nights Lodging (Thurs, Fri, Sat) 8 Meals, (Thurs. dinner-Sun. breakfast) Unlimited Golf with shared cart on 2 courses, Meeting space, Resort Service Charge & Sales Tax. ROOMMATE(s): _______ Please, send all reservation forms together. (If not received together, Breezy Point Resort cannot guarantee your specific requests) CANCELLATION POLICY: * 30-DAY CANCEL REQUIRED * * NO refunds given for cancellations received after September 13, 2017 or for No-shows * $25 service charge for cancellations is non-refundable

COMMUTERS: (NON-OVERNIGHT GUESTS) For guests not staying at Breezy Point Resort, meal tickets may be purchased. Indicate # of each ticket or circle the full package. * Include full pre-payment with this form * Prices include service charge & sales tax * Sorry, no refunds available * Pick up tickets at Front Desk INDIVIDUAL MEALS: Thurs. Dinner $33.00 Fri. Breakfast$15.00 Fri. Lunch ... $30.00 Fri. Dinner $33.00 Sat. Breakfast$15.00 Sat. Lunch $30.00 ____ Sat. Dinner $33.00 ____ Sun. Breakfast$15.00 FULL MEAL PACKAGE: $200.00 per person Includes: All meals above TOTAL for Commuter Meals $______________

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