LOVE AND RESPECT

Discussion guide to help couples be more intentional

meeting their spouse’s greatest need

Advance Preparation

• Schedule a dinner or coffee date with your spouse.

• Watch a few of Dr. Emerson Eggerichs’ videos as he

speaks to the value of love and respect in marriage. These

resources are available in Bellevue’s Library or Bookstore

or on YouTube.

• Each spouse should answer the questions on the reverse

size of this card prior to your planned date night.

During The Date

Considering both before and after marriage dates, reflect on

some of your favorite times together. Enjoy the memories of your

favorite dates while reflecting on these thoughts.

• Discuss the location, atmosphere, and activity.

• What made each one memory a favorite date night, and

what makes the memories so special?

• Did your favorite date include conversation, physical

activity, or experiencing something new together?

• Would it be possible to a recreate your favorite date while

making new memories?

Complete the appropriate category of questions prior to your date

night discussion.

HUSBANDS:

Read Ephesians 5:25–28 and answer the following:

• Do you agree with Dr. Eggerichs that your wife’s primary

marital need is to be cherished by you?

• What are some ways you try to show her sacrificial love

and prioritize her above yourself?

• What are 2–3 ways she needs or prefers that you show

love to her but that you might find difficult?

• What do you think your wife would say if invited to offer a

few “baby step” suggestions on better meeting her needs?

WIVES:

Read Ephesians 5:22–24 and answer the following:

• Do you agree that your husband needs to feel respected?

• What are some ways you try to show that you admire and

respect him?

• What are 2–3 things he would appreciate as respectful but

that might be more difficult for you to do?

• What do you think your husband would say if invited to

offer a few “baby step” suggestions on better meeting his

need for respect?

TOGETHER:

Read Ephesians 5:31–33. Ask God to help your marriage model

the relationship between Christ and His Bride as you grow in

mutual expressions of love and respect.