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May 2011 EXPERIENCE A W3 L!FESTYLE Apartment Living at it’s Best Trust Your Instincts Tap into your innate wisdom Gut Feelings 5 You Shouldn’t Ignore INTUITIVE EATING A Kinder, Gentler Way to Lose Weight? SPRING YUMMINESS Crispy Smoked Mozzarella with Honey and Figs Eliminate Blame, Complaining, and Procrastination QBQ! to Include in Your Will 10 Things of Being Tired It Will Get Better! Tired LIVE! LAUGH! LOVE!

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May 2011

EXPERIENCE A W3 LFESTYLEApartment Living at itrsquos Best

Trust YourInstinctsTap into your innate wisdom

GutFeelings5

You Shouldnrsquot Ignore

INTUITIVEEATINGA Kinder GentlerWay to Lose Weight

SPRINGYUMMINESSCrispy Smoked Mozzarella with Honey and Figs

Eliminate BlameComplaining and

Procrastination

QBQ

to Includein Your Will

10 Things

of BeingTired

It Will Get Better

Tired

LIVE LAUGH LOVE

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Only a small percentage of apartment communities within a given market can hold the W3 Lifestyle designation This National Apartment Designation represents Superior Resident Services and Superior Product Quality Our community has achieved this great honor

In 2011 we have many exciting things coming up including some fantastic resident events as well as your continuing to receive this publication every month which will always be jam packed with useful information We may even have a few other tricks up our sleeves It is our goal to make sure your living experience here is the absolute best that it can be

YOU are what makes our community so special and we appreciate your desire to assist us with keeping it clean and making it a great place to live for not only yourself but for your neighbors as well Anytime you see anything that needs repaired on the community please feel free to let us know so that we can attend to it quickly

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Maintenance Tip

GARBAGE DISPOSALTurn on the cold water before starting the disposer Drop food waste slowly into the unit Let the water run a few seconds after the waste is disposed to al-low it to flush awayCorn husks celery onion skins rice potato skins artichoke leaves olive pits bones and solid or liquid grease may cause your disposer to jam or overload If a jam happens contact the office and submit a service request for our maintenance teamClean garbage disposal blades by grinding up ice cubes Freshen the disposal with baking soda and citrus fruit rinds

TOILETSToilets are made of vitreous china a material that is almost impervious to staining They may be cleaned with any commercial toilet bowl product Keep a plumberrsquos plunger handy If a clog occurs shut off the water valve located behind the toilet A few vigorous pumps of the plunger will usually free the clog If not itrsquos time to call the maintenance team Do not use harsh chemical drain cleaners These can damage the toilet seat and cause leaks

General Maintenance amp CleaningApartment dwellers can have a more energy efficient home and save money by making minor adjustments Refrigerators air conditioners and lights use the ma-jority of energy in apartments Reduce the amount of natural resources needed to create energy such as gas and coal to cut energy costs Walk through your apartment to check for wasted energy so you can plan to start conserving energy today

Replace the filter in central heating and air condition-ing units Keep your thermostat at 68 degrees when using heat If you plan to be away from the apartment for a few hours reduce the thermostat temperature by two to three degrees When you are cooling the apartment set your thermostat between 78 to 80 de-grees and increase your temperature by two to three degrees if you plan to be away for a while

Take advantage of solar energy Open blinds during the day to let the sun in your apartment to warm up your home For colder weather and nighttime close the blinds to keep the heat in the apartment If you are trying to keep your apartment cool keep curtains closed to avoid direct sunlight

Energy Saving TipCentral Heating and Air

Maintenance Tip

CARPET STAINSbull FoodFor a food stain that is still wet put club soda on the stain then soak it up with a dry white cloth For a food stain that has dried apply a cleaning fluid for oil-based stains such as Afta Carbona Energine or Everblum ndash available at hardware storesbull Wine other alcoholic beveragesWhile the stain is still wet pour rubbing alcohol on it and rub with a sponge Flush the stain with water and pat dry with a white cloth If the stain persists contact the maintenance team to apply a tannin removerbull Ball-point or fountain pen inkApply hair spray to the stain Press down on the stain with a white clothbull Chewing GumPut an ice cube on the chewing gum for 30 seconds then use your fingers to pick off as much of the gum as possible Wet white cloth with a cleaning fluid for oil-based stains (see ldquoFoodrdquo above) and rub into the stain Using another dry white cloth wipe the stain vigorously Repeat this procedure until the gum dis-appears

Carpet Stains amp CareMaintenance Tip

STAINLESS STEEL SINKSDObull Use soap and warm water dishwasher deter-gent or ammonia for routine cleaning bull Apply cleanser with a cloth or sponge then rinse the sink thoroughly and wipe it dry bull Use a small amount of mineral oil on a soft cloth to restore luster bull Use regular household cleansers to remove stubborn stains such as Comet Ajax Stainless Steel Cleaner etc bull Remove rust stains by gently rubbing with a cloth bull Protect the environment by never pouring insecticides paint or any toxic chemicals down the drainbull Remove debris from disposal then push the black or red ldquore-setrdquo button located at the base of the garbage disposal under your sink should the disposal quit working

Stainless Steel Sink Care - The Dorsquos

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Getting StartedEXPERIENCE A W3 LFESTYLE

Apartment Living at itrsquos Best

David WolfeW3 Lifestyle

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Happy reading

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A few years back two sci-entists at the University of Iowa conducted an

experiment in which research sub-jects played a game of chance with four separate card decks and stacks of play money Each card indicated whether the player had won or lost money and the goal for the player was to draw as many cash-delivering cards as possible What the players didnrsquot know is that the decks had been rigged Two of them had been stacked so they yielded high rewards but punishing losses while the other

two offered smaller rewards and virtu-ally no losses It took most players about 50 cards be-fore they started to favor the safer decks and about 80 cards before they could explain why they did so

Herersquos the curious part (and am-ateur gamblers should take note) Sensors attached to the playersrsquo skin showed that after only 10 cards a playerrsquos hand would get sweaty and nervous when it reached for the risky decks ldquoAlthough the subject still had little inkling of which card piles were the most lucrative [his] emotions knew which decks were dangerousrdquo writes Wired contribut-ing editor Jonah Lehrer in How We Decide (Houghton Mifflin 2009) ldquoThe subjectrsquos feelings figured out the game firstrdquo

Most of us have experienced the sense of knowing things before we know them even if we canrsquot explain how You hesitate at a green light and miss getting hit by a speeding truck You decide on a whim to break your no-blind-dates policy and wind up meeting your life partner You have a hunch that you should invest in a little online startup and it becomes Google

The quirky urge A funny tingle That little voice in your head These are your gut feelings talking But what are they telling you and should you listen Herersquos how to make the most of your own innate wisdom

5 Gut Instincts You Shouldnrsquot IgnoreBy Courtney Helgoe

If only you could tap into those insights more of-ten right Turns out you can especially if you learn to identify which signals to focus on mdash whether theyrsquore sweaty palms a funny feeling in your stomach or a sudden and inexplicable certainty that something is up

According to many researchers intuition is far more material than it seems Hope College social psy-chologist David Myers PhD explains that the intuitive right brain is almost always ldquoreadingrdquo your surround-ings even when your conscious left brain is otherwise engaged The body can register this information while the conscious mind remains blissfully unaware of whatrsquos going onrsquo

Another theory suggests you can ldquofeelrdquo approach-ing events specifically because of your dopamine neu-rons ldquoThe jitters of dopamine help keep track of real-ity alerting us to those subtle patterns that we canrsquot consciously detectrdquo Lehrer notes

This means if something in the environment is even slightly irregular mdash the speed of an approaching truck the slightly unusual behavior of someone at a party mdash your brain squirts dopamine and you get that ldquoweirdrdquo feeling Whether you pay attention or not can make all the difference You might meet your future spouse mdash or meet your maker Those signals carry a lot of impor-tant information so itrsquos wise to listen up

Judith Orloff PhD a Los Angelesndashbased intuitive psychiatrist and author of Second Sight (Three Riv-ers Press 2010) believes the benefits of listening to your instincts go far beyond making good on life-or-death decisions ldquoLiving more intuitively demands that yoursquore in the momentrdquo she says ldquoand that makes for a more passionate liferdquo

But she also notes that gut instincts are far from in-fallible The right brainrsquos skill with pattern identifica-tion can trigger suspicions of unfamiliar (but not dan-gerous) things or cause you to be especially reactive to people who simply remind you of someone else

So how do you choose which gut feelings to trust Orloff suggests that itrsquos a matter of ldquocombining the linear mind and intuitionrdquo and striking the right bal-ance between gut instinct and rational thinking Once yoursquove noticed an intuitive hit she says you can en-gage your rational mind to weigh your choices and de-cide how best to act on them

To that end here are five gut feelings that Orloff and other experts recommend you pay attention to mdash and some reasons why yoursquoll be glad you did

ldquoSomething feels wrong in my bodyrdquo

Listening to your bodyrsquos subtle signals is a critical part of exercising your intuitive sense says Orloff who also trains UCLA

medical students and psychiatric residents to use intu-ition when treating patients

ldquoYour body is a powerful intuitive communicatorrdquo she explains in Second Sight ldquoIntuition allows you to get the first warning signs when anything is off in your body so that you can address it If you have a gut feel-ing about your body mdash that something is toxic weak or lsquooffrsquo mdash listen to it Go and get it worked uprdquo Shersquos seen too many people ignore their sense that something isnrsquot right with their bodies and subsequently find that small problems have become big ones

Physical symptoms can also have symbolic value ldquoIf yoursquore around somebody and your energy goes down thatrsquos an intuition not to ignorerdquo Orloff says Sudden sleepiness can mean that yoursquore in the pres-ence of an energy-draining person or circumstance it can be your bodyrsquos way of communicating that these conditions are taking more energy than they give If you stay in a situation that makes you feel instantly depleted (like taking a job after you left the interview feeling exhausted) it can easily lead to a situation where you become depressed anxious and mdash not sur-prisingly mdash stuck

Ronald A Alexander PhD a psychologist mind-fulness expert leadership consultant and director of the Open Mind Training Institute in Santa Monica Calif also recommends paying close attention to any sudden physical sensations you experience during the course of an interaction He tells a story of traveling in India where he decided not to get in a cab because of a ldquoburning sensationrdquo in his gut and he later saw the driver being arrested in the train station for sus-pected robbery He says he typically feels intuitions in his chest or his stomach the latter is relatively com-mon given that the intestines house the enteric nervous system sometimes called the ldquosecond brainrdquo

ldquoThat second brain really is the intuitive brainrdquo Alexander explains and he recommends that when it

speaks you listen

ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo

Jackie Larsen was leaving her Grand Marais Minn prayer-group meeting on

an April morning in 2001 when a clean-cut young man named Christopher Bono approached her asking for help He told her that he was on his way to meet friends

1

2

in Thunder Bay and his car had broken down During their brief conversation she got a visceral feeling that something was wrong accompanied by a sharp pain in her stomach She sent Bono inside to talk to the pas-tor of the church and called the police to have them trace his Illinois license plates It turned out he was the prime suspect in a gruesome crime and was fleeing the scene

Larsenrsquos brain had likely detected subtle irregulari-ties in Bonorsquos behavior ldquoMere lsquothin-slicesrsquo of some-onersquos behavior can reveal muchrdquo writes Myers who relates Larsenrsquos story in his book Intuition Its Pow-ers and Perils (Yale University Press 2002) His un-derstanding of this capacity is more socio-historical than neuroscientific he believes that the feeling you get about a person in the first 10 seconds expresses an ldquoancient biological wisdomrdquo Early humans who could speedily detect whether a stranger was friend or foe were more likely to survive he says and they would create descendents who were able to read emotional signals in another personrsquos face almost instantly

Of course the human capacity to ldquothin-slicerdquo can go badly awry as it did in the 1999 fatal police shooting of Amadou Diallo in New York City Police fired when they thought the young Guinean man was reaching for a weapon but he was actually unarmed and digging in his pocket for his identification

Because social conditioning helps to create uncon-scious beliefs and these beliefs can produce first im-pressions and snap decisions that are utterly flawed Orloff suggests that itrsquos important to check your gut feelings against your rational mind whenever possible And there are simple ways you can attend to what feels like a warning signal in the short term she says

ldquoIf you donrsquot trust somebody even if it turns out to be inaccurate it is something to pay attention tordquo she explains ldquoIf yoursquore walking down the street at night and you get the feeling lsquostay away from that personrsquo

just cross the streetrdquo

ldquoI want to helprdquo

While you might think of our gut in-stincts as something wersquove maintained

mostly to avoid danger the human species has evolved an equally powerful capacity to sense when our fellow beings need support ldquoSympathy is one of humanityrsquos most basic instincts which is why evolution lavished so much attention on the parts of the brain that help us think about what other people are feelingrdquo notes Lehrer

Since evolution has made you a quick read of other faces and their emotional signals you donrsquot always need to wait for a verbalized cue before you reach out The sympathy instinct nudges you to change the subject when wedding talk makes a newly divorced colleague cringe or to start up a conversation with a nervous seatmate during an airplane landing mdash subtle gestures that can make a big difference in someonersquos day The capacity to empathetically identify with other faces can even be what compels you to donate money after a natural disaster Studies of humanitarian relief efforts show that people are markedly more compelled to give after seeing a photo of an individual in need than after reading statistics about damage

Finally this ability to ldquoreadrdquo other faces isnrsquot just good for those you help One recent brain-imaging study suggests that generosity makes the pleasure cen-ters in the brain light up like the Las Vegas Strip When participants were given $128 of hard cash along with the choice to keep it or donate it to charity the reward centers of those who chose to donate went wild

Multiple studies have also demonstrated a phenom-enon known as the ldquohelperrsquos highrdquo which causes indi-viduals aiding others to experience improvements in mood immunity and overall well-being Thatrsquos why following your instincts for sympathy and generosity generally turns out to be a good investment in your

own health and happiness too

ldquoI know how to do thisrdquo

Basketball announcers can be mer-ciless when otherwise talented players

choke at the free-throw line but most of us can iden-tify with the playerrsquos sense of panic You might have a well-developed yoga practice with one pose that still stumps you Or maybe yoursquore a stellar driver who forgets how to parallel park whenever your intimidat-ing sister-in-law is in the car Or yoursquore a great cook who botches your favorite dish each time you make it for guests In situations like these the can-do instinct yoursquove developed through years of experience is being drowned out by an onslaught of over-thinking

ldquoChoking [among athletes] is a vivid example of the havoc that can be caused by too much thoughtrdquo Lehrer points out ldquoSuch deliberate thought processes interfere with the trained movements of their musclesrdquo

He cites a study at the University of Chicago show-ing that while novice golfers did better when they thought carefully about their putts the performance of more experienced golfers got much worse when they reflected on what they were doing

3

4

Rational thought served the beginners it turned out because they were still developing muscle memory and technique But for those players who had already integrated all that information instinct naturally took over mdash and did a far better job Overriding instincts and neural patterning in favor of logical thought abso-lutely destroyed their performance

ldquoOnce yoursquove developed expertise in a particular area mdash once yoursquove made the requisite mistakes mdash itrsquos important to trust your emotions when making deci-sions in that domainrdquo Lehrer insists If you know you can do it trust your gut mdash not your head

Next time yoursquore tempted to think too much about something you know how to do try a little therapeu-tic distraction Say the alphabet backward when your yoga teacher orders you into the dreaded handstand or sing a favorite song to yourself at the free-throw line Briefly engaging your conscious mind with something other than the task at hand can leave your instincts free to do their job mdash and free you to enjoy the satisfaction all that practice has made possible

ldquoThis is itrdquo

Most people have a great ldquoI just knew it was rightrdquo story It might be about the time they first spotted their sweetheart or

crossed the threshold of their first house or figured out they wanted to switch careers Therersquos a reason most of us have memorable stories about the biggest and best decisions we make in life says Orloff mdash theyrsquore typically remarkable for their lack of cognitive heavy lifting

When your intuition signals that yoursquove found something or someone truly right for you the choice often becomes strangely easy ldquoIt feels healthy it feels good it doesnrsquot feel like yoursquore forcing it therersquos not a lot of conflictrdquo she says

Lehrer agrees that when yoursquore poised to make a big decision with lasting repercussions like choosing your life partner yoursquore best off deciding from the gut Based on the bulk of his research into the cognitive mechanisms of decision-making he actually recom-mends that you ldquothink less about those choices that you care a lot aboutrdquo

According to Lehrer the rational mind is really suit-ed only to limited concrete choices like deciding be-tween two brands of car insurance In situations where there are just a couple of relevant factors involved the prefrontal cortex can weigh the comparative rewards of each and yield an excellent result But there are so

many factors involved in a complex decision like say buying a house that the limited space in the prefrontal cortex gets overwhelmed In that state it becomes the wrong part of the brain for the job

Several studies support the wisdom of emotional decision-making in the realm of big choices Lehrer cites one conducted at the University of Amsterdam that simulated the experience of buying a car provid-ing research subjects with overwhelming amounts of detailed information Some car buyers were briefly dis-tracted then left to choose quickly and with their emo-tions Follow-up surveys revealed that they selected the most satisfying car 60 percent of the time Other subjects who had more uninterrupted time in which to choose were pleased with their decision less than 25 percent of the time mdash worse even than random chance

In another study the same Dutch researchers shad-owed shoppers at IKEA observing their shopping behaviors Later interviews indicated that those who spent less time making their choices ended up more satisfied overall Choosing a couch and choosing a spouse are decidedly different acts to be sure but both tend to provoke the kind of agonized over-thinking that leads to poor choices Using your intuitive brain in these situations on the other hand will almost always point you toward a lasting fulfillment

Of all the reasons to use your gut instincts to make big decisions this may be the best It leads to the choices that are most fully satisfying mdash decisions that can improve the quality of your life

ldquoIt allows you to find relationships that resonate for you instead of what looks good on paperrdquo Orloff says ldquoIt allows you to connect with people on a heart level it allows you to deeply experience life instead of just letting it wash over you and it allows you to be really smart about how you make your decisionsrdquo

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Crispy Smoked Mozzarella with Honey and FigsProvided by foodnetworkcom

Ingredients6 sheets phyllo dough6 ounces smoked mozzarella cut into 6 equal piecesVegetable oil for frying8 ounces dried figs stemmed and quartered34 cup honey plus more for drizzling3 teaspoons black sesame seeds

DirectionsIn a large pot heat the vegetable oil over medium heat to 350 degrees F

Place 1 sheet of phyllo on a dry work surface Place one slice of cheese about 5 inches from the top of the narrow end of the sheet Fold the top of the narrow end over the cheese leaving 1 inch between the fold and the cheese Next fold over 1 of the long sides then the other again leaving 1-inch between the folds and the cheese Then fold the cheese over again leaving 1-inch between the fold and the cheese Continue folding to make a package about 3 12 by 4-inches Continue with the remaining pieces of cheese and phyllo

Fry the phyllo and cheese packages 2 or 3 at a time in the oil until golden about 2 minutes per side Drain on a baking sheet lined with paper towels

Meanwhile heat the figs and honey in a small saucepan over low heat until the honey is warm Set aside until the cheese packages have finished frying

To serve place 1 cheese package on a plate Spoon some figs and drizzle some honey over the top of each cheese package Sprinkle with black sesame seeds and serve immediately

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Tired of Being Tired It Will Get Better by David Wolfe

All too often I get asked the question ndash ldquoWill things get betterrdquo The economy has affected nearly all of us in one way or another Some have had it worse and some have just had to tighten their financial belts a bit Many of us have had friends and possibly even family that has lost their homes and experienced extreme financial troubles Bottom line is - it has been a tough few years

The answer I always give to the above question is that of course it will get better It will take time and a lot of sacrifice but it will get better The economy is a crazy system and works in cycles We will rebound and once again resources will be plentiful The question I canrsquot answer is ldquowhenrdquo I wish the dream we all wish which is that it will go back to the way it was as quickly as possible However the truth is there are many factors that affect how quickly we rebound Some factors we can control and some are out of our individual control But ultimately sooner or later it will get better

The best thing we can do as individuals is simply be more conscious of our spending habits and spend less time worrying about what the different media stations are reporting As we turn the channel we hear a different story and yet another gloom and doom story Find the positive in your life and enjoy the pleasure it provides

As clicheacute as it sounds find a new hobby Now is the time to reinvent ourselves and potentially pursue dreams and hobbies we never took the time to enjoy before The positive side to financial times like we are experiencing is that millionaires are made in economic times like this A good idea a simple concept a new way of thinking and BOOM a million dollar idea comes to life Opportunities for investing in low dollar investments that will have high dollar returns as things rebound make for new millionaires So keep your eyes open for opportunities

No more negative thinking ndash it will get better Itrsquos up to us as individuals to make our own circumstances better Some things we can control and some we cannot Ultimately though your well being begins with the life you make for yourself Go have fun Go Bowling Paint Sing Read find your passion and ultimately it will get better

Intuitive Eating for Weight Loss

As an alternative to doomed diet regimens some weight-loss experts recommend tuning in to our own instincts But are our bodiesrsquo cravings always a good guide

It was more than a decade ago before the obesity epidemic had even peaked that nutritionists Evelyn

Tribole MS RD and Elyse Resch MS RD FADA noticed the stream of failed dieters traipsing through their offices many of them desperate for help

Aware that dieting pitfalls mdash from ravenous hunger to outright boredom mdash might be part of the problem the nutritionists gave their clients permission to indulge some cravings but nonetheless kept them on programs that limited food intake Eager to please the clients followed the meal plans and initially lost weight

But Tribole recalls ldquoSometime later we started getting calls from some of these people telling us how much they needed us again They couldnrsquot stick to the plan anymore Maybe they needed someone to monitor them Maybe they didnrsquot have enough self-control Maybe they werenrsquot any good at this and definitely they felt guilty and demoralizedrdquo

Looking around the two nutritionists saw the writing on the wall mdash and in the medical journals too Something like 95 percent of dieters fail to stick with their weight-loss programs from Weight Watchers to Atkins to Jenny Craig

Determined to find a different approach they first looked to the anti-diet movement which was just then burgeoning as a backlash to the war against obesity

ldquoThe anti-diet movement proposed a way of eating that allowed for any and all food choices without regard for nutritionrdquo Tribole explains It was a philosophy at loggerheads with literature linking excess pounds to cancer heart disease diabetes and more mdash and it ran counter to Tribolersquos and Reschrsquos own instincts

ldquoOur initial reactions were highly skepticalrdquo says Tribole ldquoHow could we as nutritionists trained to look at the connections between nutrition and health sanction a way of eating that seemed to reject the very foundation of our knowledge and philosophyrdquo

Eventually Tribole and Resch determined that they could resolve the conflict by hammering out a compromise of sorts They called it ldquoIntuitive Eatingrdquo

mdash a nutritional strategy that rejected dieting in favor of psychological awareness In particular it emphasized the importance of increasing clientsrsquo sensitivity to internal signals of hunger and fullness and helping them develop a greater attunement to the physiological effects of the foods they ate

Described in their influential book Intuitive Eating A Revolutionary Program That Works (St Martinrsquos Griffin 2003) the system taught users to distinguish between physical hunger and emotional need and to trust that natural urges would deliver better health and balance than any diet could

The concepts were controversial Clients in Tribole and Reschrsquos intuitive eating program were free

to eat as much as they wanted and to indulge their cravings for food While diets were all about restriction mdash calorie counting weigh-ins denial of pleasure mdash intuitive eating gave permission to eat anything A slice of cake A pizza party It was all allowed

But can a system so permissive really keep weight down To some extent the jury is still out Expert opinion has been mixed Intuitive eating clearly doesnrsquot work for everyone Yet thousands of people report losing weight based on intuitive eating and in recent years peer-reviewed studies have supported the claims

Not only did intuitive eaters in recent studies have lower cholesterol less diabetes healthier hearts better levels of fitness and lower body mass index (BMI) they achieved all that without the psychological stress and self-loathing that dieting can bring on

According to Tracy Tylka PhD a psychologist at Ohio State University whose research has lent rigor to the field the women participating in her intuitive-eating study were ldquomore likely to reject the societal stereotype that thinness is their ideal body typerdquo and were ldquoless likely to base their self-worth on being thinrdquo

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

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Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

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Letter from the Community Management TeamAwarded a National Apartment Designation as a W3 Lifestyle Community

Only a small percentage of apartment communities within a given market can hold the W3 Lifestyle designation This National Apartment Designation represents Superior Resident Services and Superior Product Quality Our community has achieved this great honor

In 2011 we have many exciting things coming up including some fantastic resident events as well as your continuing to receive this publication every month which will always be jam packed with useful information We may even have a few other tricks up our sleeves It is our goal to make sure your living experience here is the absolute best that it can be

YOU are what makes our community so special and we appreciate your desire to assist us with keeping it clean and making it a great place to live for not only yourself but for your neighbors as well Anytime you see anything that needs repaired on the community please feel free to let us know so that we can attend to it quickly

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Maintenance Tip

GARBAGE DISPOSALTurn on the cold water before starting the disposer Drop food waste slowly into the unit Let the water run a few seconds after the waste is disposed to al-low it to flush awayCorn husks celery onion skins rice potato skins artichoke leaves olive pits bones and solid or liquid grease may cause your disposer to jam or overload If a jam happens contact the office and submit a service request for our maintenance teamClean garbage disposal blades by grinding up ice cubes Freshen the disposal with baking soda and citrus fruit rinds

TOILETSToilets are made of vitreous china a material that is almost impervious to staining They may be cleaned with any commercial toilet bowl product Keep a plumberrsquos plunger handy If a clog occurs shut off the water valve located behind the toilet A few vigorous pumps of the plunger will usually free the clog If not itrsquos time to call the maintenance team Do not use harsh chemical drain cleaners These can damage the toilet seat and cause leaks

General Maintenance amp CleaningApartment dwellers can have a more energy efficient home and save money by making minor adjustments Refrigerators air conditioners and lights use the ma-jority of energy in apartments Reduce the amount of natural resources needed to create energy such as gas and coal to cut energy costs Walk through your apartment to check for wasted energy so you can plan to start conserving energy today

Replace the filter in central heating and air condition-ing units Keep your thermostat at 68 degrees when using heat If you plan to be away from the apartment for a few hours reduce the thermostat temperature by two to three degrees When you are cooling the apartment set your thermostat between 78 to 80 de-grees and increase your temperature by two to three degrees if you plan to be away for a while

Take advantage of solar energy Open blinds during the day to let the sun in your apartment to warm up your home For colder weather and nighttime close the blinds to keep the heat in the apartment If you are trying to keep your apartment cool keep curtains closed to avoid direct sunlight

Energy Saving TipCentral Heating and Air

Maintenance Tip

CARPET STAINSbull FoodFor a food stain that is still wet put club soda on the stain then soak it up with a dry white cloth For a food stain that has dried apply a cleaning fluid for oil-based stains such as Afta Carbona Energine or Everblum ndash available at hardware storesbull Wine other alcoholic beveragesWhile the stain is still wet pour rubbing alcohol on it and rub with a sponge Flush the stain with water and pat dry with a white cloth If the stain persists contact the maintenance team to apply a tannin removerbull Ball-point or fountain pen inkApply hair spray to the stain Press down on the stain with a white clothbull Chewing GumPut an ice cube on the chewing gum for 30 seconds then use your fingers to pick off as much of the gum as possible Wet white cloth with a cleaning fluid for oil-based stains (see ldquoFoodrdquo above) and rub into the stain Using another dry white cloth wipe the stain vigorously Repeat this procedure until the gum dis-appears

Carpet Stains amp CareMaintenance Tip

STAINLESS STEEL SINKSDObull Use soap and warm water dishwasher deter-gent or ammonia for routine cleaning bull Apply cleanser with a cloth or sponge then rinse the sink thoroughly and wipe it dry bull Use a small amount of mineral oil on a soft cloth to restore luster bull Use regular household cleansers to remove stubborn stains such as Comet Ajax Stainless Steel Cleaner etc bull Remove rust stains by gently rubbing with a cloth bull Protect the environment by never pouring insecticides paint or any toxic chemicals down the drainbull Remove debris from disposal then push the black or red ldquore-setrdquo button located at the base of the garbage disposal under your sink should the disposal quit working

Stainless Steel Sink Care - The Dorsquos

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Apartment Living at itrsquos Best

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A few years back two sci-entists at the University of Iowa conducted an

experiment in which research sub-jects played a game of chance with four separate card decks and stacks of play money Each card indicated whether the player had won or lost money and the goal for the player was to draw as many cash-delivering cards as possible What the players didnrsquot know is that the decks had been rigged Two of them had been stacked so they yielded high rewards but punishing losses while the other

two offered smaller rewards and virtu-ally no losses It took most players about 50 cards be-fore they started to favor the safer decks and about 80 cards before they could explain why they did so

Herersquos the curious part (and am-ateur gamblers should take note) Sensors attached to the playersrsquo skin showed that after only 10 cards a playerrsquos hand would get sweaty and nervous when it reached for the risky decks ldquoAlthough the subject still had little inkling of which card piles were the most lucrative [his] emotions knew which decks were dangerousrdquo writes Wired contribut-ing editor Jonah Lehrer in How We Decide (Houghton Mifflin 2009) ldquoThe subjectrsquos feelings figured out the game firstrdquo

Most of us have experienced the sense of knowing things before we know them even if we canrsquot explain how You hesitate at a green light and miss getting hit by a speeding truck You decide on a whim to break your no-blind-dates policy and wind up meeting your life partner You have a hunch that you should invest in a little online startup and it becomes Google

The quirky urge A funny tingle That little voice in your head These are your gut feelings talking But what are they telling you and should you listen Herersquos how to make the most of your own innate wisdom

5 Gut Instincts You Shouldnrsquot IgnoreBy Courtney Helgoe

If only you could tap into those insights more of-ten right Turns out you can especially if you learn to identify which signals to focus on mdash whether theyrsquore sweaty palms a funny feeling in your stomach or a sudden and inexplicable certainty that something is up

According to many researchers intuition is far more material than it seems Hope College social psy-chologist David Myers PhD explains that the intuitive right brain is almost always ldquoreadingrdquo your surround-ings even when your conscious left brain is otherwise engaged The body can register this information while the conscious mind remains blissfully unaware of whatrsquos going onrsquo

Another theory suggests you can ldquofeelrdquo approach-ing events specifically because of your dopamine neu-rons ldquoThe jitters of dopamine help keep track of real-ity alerting us to those subtle patterns that we canrsquot consciously detectrdquo Lehrer notes

This means if something in the environment is even slightly irregular mdash the speed of an approaching truck the slightly unusual behavior of someone at a party mdash your brain squirts dopamine and you get that ldquoweirdrdquo feeling Whether you pay attention or not can make all the difference You might meet your future spouse mdash or meet your maker Those signals carry a lot of impor-tant information so itrsquos wise to listen up

Judith Orloff PhD a Los Angelesndashbased intuitive psychiatrist and author of Second Sight (Three Riv-ers Press 2010) believes the benefits of listening to your instincts go far beyond making good on life-or-death decisions ldquoLiving more intuitively demands that yoursquore in the momentrdquo she says ldquoand that makes for a more passionate liferdquo

But she also notes that gut instincts are far from in-fallible The right brainrsquos skill with pattern identifica-tion can trigger suspicions of unfamiliar (but not dan-gerous) things or cause you to be especially reactive to people who simply remind you of someone else

So how do you choose which gut feelings to trust Orloff suggests that itrsquos a matter of ldquocombining the linear mind and intuitionrdquo and striking the right bal-ance between gut instinct and rational thinking Once yoursquove noticed an intuitive hit she says you can en-gage your rational mind to weigh your choices and de-cide how best to act on them

To that end here are five gut feelings that Orloff and other experts recommend you pay attention to mdash and some reasons why yoursquoll be glad you did

ldquoSomething feels wrong in my bodyrdquo

Listening to your bodyrsquos subtle signals is a critical part of exercising your intuitive sense says Orloff who also trains UCLA

medical students and psychiatric residents to use intu-ition when treating patients

ldquoYour body is a powerful intuitive communicatorrdquo she explains in Second Sight ldquoIntuition allows you to get the first warning signs when anything is off in your body so that you can address it If you have a gut feel-ing about your body mdash that something is toxic weak or lsquooffrsquo mdash listen to it Go and get it worked uprdquo Shersquos seen too many people ignore their sense that something isnrsquot right with their bodies and subsequently find that small problems have become big ones

Physical symptoms can also have symbolic value ldquoIf yoursquore around somebody and your energy goes down thatrsquos an intuition not to ignorerdquo Orloff says Sudden sleepiness can mean that yoursquore in the pres-ence of an energy-draining person or circumstance it can be your bodyrsquos way of communicating that these conditions are taking more energy than they give If you stay in a situation that makes you feel instantly depleted (like taking a job after you left the interview feeling exhausted) it can easily lead to a situation where you become depressed anxious and mdash not sur-prisingly mdash stuck

Ronald A Alexander PhD a psychologist mind-fulness expert leadership consultant and director of the Open Mind Training Institute in Santa Monica Calif also recommends paying close attention to any sudden physical sensations you experience during the course of an interaction He tells a story of traveling in India where he decided not to get in a cab because of a ldquoburning sensationrdquo in his gut and he later saw the driver being arrested in the train station for sus-pected robbery He says he typically feels intuitions in his chest or his stomach the latter is relatively com-mon given that the intestines house the enteric nervous system sometimes called the ldquosecond brainrdquo

ldquoThat second brain really is the intuitive brainrdquo Alexander explains and he recommends that when it

speaks you listen

ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo

Jackie Larsen was leaving her Grand Marais Minn prayer-group meeting on

an April morning in 2001 when a clean-cut young man named Christopher Bono approached her asking for help He told her that he was on his way to meet friends

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2

in Thunder Bay and his car had broken down During their brief conversation she got a visceral feeling that something was wrong accompanied by a sharp pain in her stomach She sent Bono inside to talk to the pas-tor of the church and called the police to have them trace his Illinois license plates It turned out he was the prime suspect in a gruesome crime and was fleeing the scene

Larsenrsquos brain had likely detected subtle irregulari-ties in Bonorsquos behavior ldquoMere lsquothin-slicesrsquo of some-onersquos behavior can reveal muchrdquo writes Myers who relates Larsenrsquos story in his book Intuition Its Pow-ers and Perils (Yale University Press 2002) His un-derstanding of this capacity is more socio-historical than neuroscientific he believes that the feeling you get about a person in the first 10 seconds expresses an ldquoancient biological wisdomrdquo Early humans who could speedily detect whether a stranger was friend or foe were more likely to survive he says and they would create descendents who were able to read emotional signals in another personrsquos face almost instantly

Of course the human capacity to ldquothin-slicerdquo can go badly awry as it did in the 1999 fatal police shooting of Amadou Diallo in New York City Police fired when they thought the young Guinean man was reaching for a weapon but he was actually unarmed and digging in his pocket for his identification

Because social conditioning helps to create uncon-scious beliefs and these beliefs can produce first im-pressions and snap decisions that are utterly flawed Orloff suggests that itrsquos important to check your gut feelings against your rational mind whenever possible And there are simple ways you can attend to what feels like a warning signal in the short term she says

ldquoIf you donrsquot trust somebody even if it turns out to be inaccurate it is something to pay attention tordquo she explains ldquoIf yoursquore walking down the street at night and you get the feeling lsquostay away from that personrsquo

just cross the streetrdquo

ldquoI want to helprdquo

While you might think of our gut in-stincts as something wersquove maintained

mostly to avoid danger the human species has evolved an equally powerful capacity to sense when our fellow beings need support ldquoSympathy is one of humanityrsquos most basic instincts which is why evolution lavished so much attention on the parts of the brain that help us think about what other people are feelingrdquo notes Lehrer

Since evolution has made you a quick read of other faces and their emotional signals you donrsquot always need to wait for a verbalized cue before you reach out The sympathy instinct nudges you to change the subject when wedding talk makes a newly divorced colleague cringe or to start up a conversation with a nervous seatmate during an airplane landing mdash subtle gestures that can make a big difference in someonersquos day The capacity to empathetically identify with other faces can even be what compels you to donate money after a natural disaster Studies of humanitarian relief efforts show that people are markedly more compelled to give after seeing a photo of an individual in need than after reading statistics about damage

Finally this ability to ldquoreadrdquo other faces isnrsquot just good for those you help One recent brain-imaging study suggests that generosity makes the pleasure cen-ters in the brain light up like the Las Vegas Strip When participants were given $128 of hard cash along with the choice to keep it or donate it to charity the reward centers of those who chose to donate went wild

Multiple studies have also demonstrated a phenom-enon known as the ldquohelperrsquos highrdquo which causes indi-viduals aiding others to experience improvements in mood immunity and overall well-being Thatrsquos why following your instincts for sympathy and generosity generally turns out to be a good investment in your

own health and happiness too

ldquoI know how to do thisrdquo

Basketball announcers can be mer-ciless when otherwise talented players

choke at the free-throw line but most of us can iden-tify with the playerrsquos sense of panic You might have a well-developed yoga practice with one pose that still stumps you Or maybe yoursquore a stellar driver who forgets how to parallel park whenever your intimidat-ing sister-in-law is in the car Or yoursquore a great cook who botches your favorite dish each time you make it for guests In situations like these the can-do instinct yoursquove developed through years of experience is being drowned out by an onslaught of over-thinking

ldquoChoking [among athletes] is a vivid example of the havoc that can be caused by too much thoughtrdquo Lehrer points out ldquoSuch deliberate thought processes interfere with the trained movements of their musclesrdquo

He cites a study at the University of Chicago show-ing that while novice golfers did better when they thought carefully about their putts the performance of more experienced golfers got much worse when they reflected on what they were doing

3

4

Rational thought served the beginners it turned out because they were still developing muscle memory and technique But for those players who had already integrated all that information instinct naturally took over mdash and did a far better job Overriding instincts and neural patterning in favor of logical thought abso-lutely destroyed their performance

ldquoOnce yoursquove developed expertise in a particular area mdash once yoursquove made the requisite mistakes mdash itrsquos important to trust your emotions when making deci-sions in that domainrdquo Lehrer insists If you know you can do it trust your gut mdash not your head

Next time yoursquore tempted to think too much about something you know how to do try a little therapeu-tic distraction Say the alphabet backward when your yoga teacher orders you into the dreaded handstand or sing a favorite song to yourself at the free-throw line Briefly engaging your conscious mind with something other than the task at hand can leave your instincts free to do their job mdash and free you to enjoy the satisfaction all that practice has made possible

ldquoThis is itrdquo

Most people have a great ldquoI just knew it was rightrdquo story It might be about the time they first spotted their sweetheart or

crossed the threshold of their first house or figured out they wanted to switch careers Therersquos a reason most of us have memorable stories about the biggest and best decisions we make in life says Orloff mdash theyrsquore typically remarkable for their lack of cognitive heavy lifting

When your intuition signals that yoursquove found something or someone truly right for you the choice often becomes strangely easy ldquoIt feels healthy it feels good it doesnrsquot feel like yoursquore forcing it therersquos not a lot of conflictrdquo she says

Lehrer agrees that when yoursquore poised to make a big decision with lasting repercussions like choosing your life partner yoursquore best off deciding from the gut Based on the bulk of his research into the cognitive mechanisms of decision-making he actually recom-mends that you ldquothink less about those choices that you care a lot aboutrdquo

According to Lehrer the rational mind is really suit-ed only to limited concrete choices like deciding be-tween two brands of car insurance In situations where there are just a couple of relevant factors involved the prefrontal cortex can weigh the comparative rewards of each and yield an excellent result But there are so

many factors involved in a complex decision like say buying a house that the limited space in the prefrontal cortex gets overwhelmed In that state it becomes the wrong part of the brain for the job

Several studies support the wisdom of emotional decision-making in the realm of big choices Lehrer cites one conducted at the University of Amsterdam that simulated the experience of buying a car provid-ing research subjects with overwhelming amounts of detailed information Some car buyers were briefly dis-tracted then left to choose quickly and with their emo-tions Follow-up surveys revealed that they selected the most satisfying car 60 percent of the time Other subjects who had more uninterrupted time in which to choose were pleased with their decision less than 25 percent of the time mdash worse even than random chance

In another study the same Dutch researchers shad-owed shoppers at IKEA observing their shopping behaviors Later interviews indicated that those who spent less time making their choices ended up more satisfied overall Choosing a couch and choosing a spouse are decidedly different acts to be sure but both tend to provoke the kind of agonized over-thinking that leads to poor choices Using your intuitive brain in these situations on the other hand will almost always point you toward a lasting fulfillment

Of all the reasons to use your gut instincts to make big decisions this may be the best It leads to the choices that are most fully satisfying mdash decisions that can improve the quality of your life

ldquoIt allows you to find relationships that resonate for you instead of what looks good on paperrdquo Orloff says ldquoIt allows you to connect with people on a heart level it allows you to deeply experience life instead of just letting it wash over you and it allows you to be really smart about how you make your decisionsrdquo

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Crispy Smoked Mozzarella with Honey and FigsProvided by foodnetworkcom

Ingredients6 sheets phyllo dough6 ounces smoked mozzarella cut into 6 equal piecesVegetable oil for frying8 ounces dried figs stemmed and quartered34 cup honey plus more for drizzling3 teaspoons black sesame seeds

DirectionsIn a large pot heat the vegetable oil over medium heat to 350 degrees F

Place 1 sheet of phyllo on a dry work surface Place one slice of cheese about 5 inches from the top of the narrow end of the sheet Fold the top of the narrow end over the cheese leaving 1 inch between the fold and the cheese Next fold over 1 of the long sides then the other again leaving 1-inch between the folds and the cheese Then fold the cheese over again leaving 1-inch between the fold and the cheese Continue folding to make a package about 3 12 by 4-inches Continue with the remaining pieces of cheese and phyllo

Fry the phyllo and cheese packages 2 or 3 at a time in the oil until golden about 2 minutes per side Drain on a baking sheet lined with paper towels

Meanwhile heat the figs and honey in a small saucepan over low heat until the honey is warm Set aside until the cheese packages have finished frying

To serve place 1 cheese package on a plate Spoon some figs and drizzle some honey over the top of each cheese package Sprinkle with black sesame seeds and serve immediately

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Tired of Being Tired It Will Get Better by David Wolfe

All too often I get asked the question ndash ldquoWill things get betterrdquo The economy has affected nearly all of us in one way or another Some have had it worse and some have just had to tighten their financial belts a bit Many of us have had friends and possibly even family that has lost their homes and experienced extreme financial troubles Bottom line is - it has been a tough few years

The answer I always give to the above question is that of course it will get better It will take time and a lot of sacrifice but it will get better The economy is a crazy system and works in cycles We will rebound and once again resources will be plentiful The question I canrsquot answer is ldquowhenrdquo I wish the dream we all wish which is that it will go back to the way it was as quickly as possible However the truth is there are many factors that affect how quickly we rebound Some factors we can control and some are out of our individual control But ultimately sooner or later it will get better

The best thing we can do as individuals is simply be more conscious of our spending habits and spend less time worrying about what the different media stations are reporting As we turn the channel we hear a different story and yet another gloom and doom story Find the positive in your life and enjoy the pleasure it provides

As clicheacute as it sounds find a new hobby Now is the time to reinvent ourselves and potentially pursue dreams and hobbies we never took the time to enjoy before The positive side to financial times like we are experiencing is that millionaires are made in economic times like this A good idea a simple concept a new way of thinking and BOOM a million dollar idea comes to life Opportunities for investing in low dollar investments that will have high dollar returns as things rebound make for new millionaires So keep your eyes open for opportunities

No more negative thinking ndash it will get better Itrsquos up to us as individuals to make our own circumstances better Some things we can control and some we cannot Ultimately though your well being begins with the life you make for yourself Go have fun Go Bowling Paint Sing Read find your passion and ultimately it will get better

Intuitive Eating for Weight Loss

As an alternative to doomed diet regimens some weight-loss experts recommend tuning in to our own instincts But are our bodiesrsquo cravings always a good guide

It was more than a decade ago before the obesity epidemic had even peaked that nutritionists Evelyn

Tribole MS RD and Elyse Resch MS RD FADA noticed the stream of failed dieters traipsing through their offices many of them desperate for help

Aware that dieting pitfalls mdash from ravenous hunger to outright boredom mdash might be part of the problem the nutritionists gave their clients permission to indulge some cravings but nonetheless kept them on programs that limited food intake Eager to please the clients followed the meal plans and initially lost weight

But Tribole recalls ldquoSometime later we started getting calls from some of these people telling us how much they needed us again They couldnrsquot stick to the plan anymore Maybe they needed someone to monitor them Maybe they didnrsquot have enough self-control Maybe they werenrsquot any good at this and definitely they felt guilty and demoralizedrdquo

Looking around the two nutritionists saw the writing on the wall mdash and in the medical journals too Something like 95 percent of dieters fail to stick with their weight-loss programs from Weight Watchers to Atkins to Jenny Craig

Determined to find a different approach they first looked to the anti-diet movement which was just then burgeoning as a backlash to the war against obesity

ldquoThe anti-diet movement proposed a way of eating that allowed for any and all food choices without regard for nutritionrdquo Tribole explains It was a philosophy at loggerheads with literature linking excess pounds to cancer heart disease diabetes and more mdash and it ran counter to Tribolersquos and Reschrsquos own instincts

ldquoOur initial reactions were highly skepticalrdquo says Tribole ldquoHow could we as nutritionists trained to look at the connections between nutrition and health sanction a way of eating that seemed to reject the very foundation of our knowledge and philosophyrdquo

Eventually Tribole and Resch determined that they could resolve the conflict by hammering out a compromise of sorts They called it ldquoIntuitive Eatingrdquo

mdash a nutritional strategy that rejected dieting in favor of psychological awareness In particular it emphasized the importance of increasing clientsrsquo sensitivity to internal signals of hunger and fullness and helping them develop a greater attunement to the physiological effects of the foods they ate

Described in their influential book Intuitive Eating A Revolutionary Program That Works (St Martinrsquos Griffin 2003) the system taught users to distinguish between physical hunger and emotional need and to trust that natural urges would deliver better health and balance than any diet could

The concepts were controversial Clients in Tribole and Reschrsquos intuitive eating program were free

to eat as much as they wanted and to indulge their cravings for food While diets were all about restriction mdash calorie counting weigh-ins denial of pleasure mdash intuitive eating gave permission to eat anything A slice of cake A pizza party It was all allowed

But can a system so permissive really keep weight down To some extent the jury is still out Expert opinion has been mixed Intuitive eating clearly doesnrsquot work for everyone Yet thousands of people report losing weight based on intuitive eating and in recent years peer-reviewed studies have supported the claims

Not only did intuitive eaters in recent studies have lower cholesterol less diabetes healthier hearts better levels of fitness and lower body mass index (BMI) they achieved all that without the psychological stress and self-loathing that dieting can bring on

According to Tracy Tylka PhD a psychologist at Ohio State University whose research has lent rigor to the field the women participating in her intuitive-eating study were ldquomore likely to reject the societal stereotype that thinness is their ideal body typerdquo and were ldquoless likely to base their self-worth on being thinrdquo

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

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Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

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GARBAGE DISPOSALTurn on the cold water before starting the disposer Drop food waste slowly into the unit Let the water run a few seconds after the waste is disposed to al-low it to flush awayCorn husks celery onion skins rice potato skins artichoke leaves olive pits bones and solid or liquid grease may cause your disposer to jam or overload If a jam happens contact the office and submit a service request for our maintenance teamClean garbage disposal blades by grinding up ice cubes Freshen the disposal with baking soda and citrus fruit rinds

TOILETSToilets are made of vitreous china a material that is almost impervious to staining They may be cleaned with any commercial toilet bowl product Keep a plumberrsquos plunger handy If a clog occurs shut off the water valve located behind the toilet A few vigorous pumps of the plunger will usually free the clog If not itrsquos time to call the maintenance team Do not use harsh chemical drain cleaners These can damage the toilet seat and cause leaks

General Maintenance amp CleaningApartment dwellers can have a more energy efficient home and save money by making minor adjustments Refrigerators air conditioners and lights use the ma-jority of energy in apartments Reduce the amount of natural resources needed to create energy such as gas and coal to cut energy costs Walk through your apartment to check for wasted energy so you can plan to start conserving energy today

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A few years back two sci-entists at the University of Iowa conducted an

experiment in which research sub-jects played a game of chance with four separate card decks and stacks of play money Each card indicated whether the player had won or lost money and the goal for the player was to draw as many cash-delivering cards as possible What the players didnrsquot know is that the decks had been rigged Two of them had been stacked so they yielded high rewards but punishing losses while the other

two offered smaller rewards and virtu-ally no losses It took most players about 50 cards be-fore they started to favor the safer decks and about 80 cards before they could explain why they did so

Herersquos the curious part (and am-ateur gamblers should take note) Sensors attached to the playersrsquo skin showed that after only 10 cards a playerrsquos hand would get sweaty and nervous when it reached for the risky decks ldquoAlthough the subject still had little inkling of which card piles were the most lucrative [his] emotions knew which decks were dangerousrdquo writes Wired contribut-ing editor Jonah Lehrer in How We Decide (Houghton Mifflin 2009) ldquoThe subjectrsquos feelings figured out the game firstrdquo

Most of us have experienced the sense of knowing things before we know them even if we canrsquot explain how You hesitate at a green light and miss getting hit by a speeding truck You decide on a whim to break your no-blind-dates policy and wind up meeting your life partner You have a hunch that you should invest in a little online startup and it becomes Google

The quirky urge A funny tingle That little voice in your head These are your gut feelings talking But what are they telling you and should you listen Herersquos how to make the most of your own innate wisdom

5 Gut Instincts You Shouldnrsquot IgnoreBy Courtney Helgoe

If only you could tap into those insights more of-ten right Turns out you can especially if you learn to identify which signals to focus on mdash whether theyrsquore sweaty palms a funny feeling in your stomach or a sudden and inexplicable certainty that something is up

According to many researchers intuition is far more material than it seems Hope College social psy-chologist David Myers PhD explains that the intuitive right brain is almost always ldquoreadingrdquo your surround-ings even when your conscious left brain is otherwise engaged The body can register this information while the conscious mind remains blissfully unaware of whatrsquos going onrsquo

Another theory suggests you can ldquofeelrdquo approach-ing events specifically because of your dopamine neu-rons ldquoThe jitters of dopamine help keep track of real-ity alerting us to those subtle patterns that we canrsquot consciously detectrdquo Lehrer notes

This means if something in the environment is even slightly irregular mdash the speed of an approaching truck the slightly unusual behavior of someone at a party mdash your brain squirts dopamine and you get that ldquoweirdrdquo feeling Whether you pay attention or not can make all the difference You might meet your future spouse mdash or meet your maker Those signals carry a lot of impor-tant information so itrsquos wise to listen up

Judith Orloff PhD a Los Angelesndashbased intuitive psychiatrist and author of Second Sight (Three Riv-ers Press 2010) believes the benefits of listening to your instincts go far beyond making good on life-or-death decisions ldquoLiving more intuitively demands that yoursquore in the momentrdquo she says ldquoand that makes for a more passionate liferdquo

But she also notes that gut instincts are far from in-fallible The right brainrsquos skill with pattern identifica-tion can trigger suspicions of unfamiliar (but not dan-gerous) things or cause you to be especially reactive to people who simply remind you of someone else

So how do you choose which gut feelings to trust Orloff suggests that itrsquos a matter of ldquocombining the linear mind and intuitionrdquo and striking the right bal-ance between gut instinct and rational thinking Once yoursquove noticed an intuitive hit she says you can en-gage your rational mind to weigh your choices and de-cide how best to act on them

To that end here are five gut feelings that Orloff and other experts recommend you pay attention to mdash and some reasons why yoursquoll be glad you did

ldquoSomething feels wrong in my bodyrdquo

Listening to your bodyrsquos subtle signals is a critical part of exercising your intuitive sense says Orloff who also trains UCLA

medical students and psychiatric residents to use intu-ition when treating patients

ldquoYour body is a powerful intuitive communicatorrdquo she explains in Second Sight ldquoIntuition allows you to get the first warning signs when anything is off in your body so that you can address it If you have a gut feel-ing about your body mdash that something is toxic weak or lsquooffrsquo mdash listen to it Go and get it worked uprdquo Shersquos seen too many people ignore their sense that something isnrsquot right with their bodies and subsequently find that small problems have become big ones

Physical symptoms can also have symbolic value ldquoIf yoursquore around somebody and your energy goes down thatrsquos an intuition not to ignorerdquo Orloff says Sudden sleepiness can mean that yoursquore in the pres-ence of an energy-draining person or circumstance it can be your bodyrsquos way of communicating that these conditions are taking more energy than they give If you stay in a situation that makes you feel instantly depleted (like taking a job after you left the interview feeling exhausted) it can easily lead to a situation where you become depressed anxious and mdash not sur-prisingly mdash stuck

Ronald A Alexander PhD a psychologist mind-fulness expert leadership consultant and director of the Open Mind Training Institute in Santa Monica Calif also recommends paying close attention to any sudden physical sensations you experience during the course of an interaction He tells a story of traveling in India where he decided not to get in a cab because of a ldquoburning sensationrdquo in his gut and he later saw the driver being arrested in the train station for sus-pected robbery He says he typically feels intuitions in his chest or his stomach the latter is relatively com-mon given that the intestines house the enteric nervous system sometimes called the ldquosecond brainrdquo

ldquoThat second brain really is the intuitive brainrdquo Alexander explains and he recommends that when it

speaks you listen

ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo

Jackie Larsen was leaving her Grand Marais Minn prayer-group meeting on

an April morning in 2001 when a clean-cut young man named Christopher Bono approached her asking for help He told her that he was on his way to meet friends

1

2

in Thunder Bay and his car had broken down During their brief conversation she got a visceral feeling that something was wrong accompanied by a sharp pain in her stomach She sent Bono inside to talk to the pas-tor of the church and called the police to have them trace his Illinois license plates It turned out he was the prime suspect in a gruesome crime and was fleeing the scene

Larsenrsquos brain had likely detected subtle irregulari-ties in Bonorsquos behavior ldquoMere lsquothin-slicesrsquo of some-onersquos behavior can reveal muchrdquo writes Myers who relates Larsenrsquos story in his book Intuition Its Pow-ers and Perils (Yale University Press 2002) His un-derstanding of this capacity is more socio-historical than neuroscientific he believes that the feeling you get about a person in the first 10 seconds expresses an ldquoancient biological wisdomrdquo Early humans who could speedily detect whether a stranger was friend or foe were more likely to survive he says and they would create descendents who were able to read emotional signals in another personrsquos face almost instantly

Of course the human capacity to ldquothin-slicerdquo can go badly awry as it did in the 1999 fatal police shooting of Amadou Diallo in New York City Police fired when they thought the young Guinean man was reaching for a weapon but he was actually unarmed and digging in his pocket for his identification

Because social conditioning helps to create uncon-scious beliefs and these beliefs can produce first im-pressions and snap decisions that are utterly flawed Orloff suggests that itrsquos important to check your gut feelings against your rational mind whenever possible And there are simple ways you can attend to what feels like a warning signal in the short term she says

ldquoIf you donrsquot trust somebody even if it turns out to be inaccurate it is something to pay attention tordquo she explains ldquoIf yoursquore walking down the street at night and you get the feeling lsquostay away from that personrsquo

just cross the streetrdquo

ldquoI want to helprdquo

While you might think of our gut in-stincts as something wersquove maintained

mostly to avoid danger the human species has evolved an equally powerful capacity to sense when our fellow beings need support ldquoSympathy is one of humanityrsquos most basic instincts which is why evolution lavished so much attention on the parts of the brain that help us think about what other people are feelingrdquo notes Lehrer

Since evolution has made you a quick read of other faces and their emotional signals you donrsquot always need to wait for a verbalized cue before you reach out The sympathy instinct nudges you to change the subject when wedding talk makes a newly divorced colleague cringe or to start up a conversation with a nervous seatmate during an airplane landing mdash subtle gestures that can make a big difference in someonersquos day The capacity to empathetically identify with other faces can even be what compels you to donate money after a natural disaster Studies of humanitarian relief efforts show that people are markedly more compelled to give after seeing a photo of an individual in need than after reading statistics about damage

Finally this ability to ldquoreadrdquo other faces isnrsquot just good for those you help One recent brain-imaging study suggests that generosity makes the pleasure cen-ters in the brain light up like the Las Vegas Strip When participants were given $128 of hard cash along with the choice to keep it or donate it to charity the reward centers of those who chose to donate went wild

Multiple studies have also demonstrated a phenom-enon known as the ldquohelperrsquos highrdquo which causes indi-viduals aiding others to experience improvements in mood immunity and overall well-being Thatrsquos why following your instincts for sympathy and generosity generally turns out to be a good investment in your

own health and happiness too

ldquoI know how to do thisrdquo

Basketball announcers can be mer-ciless when otherwise talented players

choke at the free-throw line but most of us can iden-tify with the playerrsquos sense of panic You might have a well-developed yoga practice with one pose that still stumps you Or maybe yoursquore a stellar driver who forgets how to parallel park whenever your intimidat-ing sister-in-law is in the car Or yoursquore a great cook who botches your favorite dish each time you make it for guests In situations like these the can-do instinct yoursquove developed through years of experience is being drowned out by an onslaught of over-thinking

ldquoChoking [among athletes] is a vivid example of the havoc that can be caused by too much thoughtrdquo Lehrer points out ldquoSuch deliberate thought processes interfere with the trained movements of their musclesrdquo

He cites a study at the University of Chicago show-ing that while novice golfers did better when they thought carefully about their putts the performance of more experienced golfers got much worse when they reflected on what they were doing

3

4

Rational thought served the beginners it turned out because they were still developing muscle memory and technique But for those players who had already integrated all that information instinct naturally took over mdash and did a far better job Overriding instincts and neural patterning in favor of logical thought abso-lutely destroyed their performance

ldquoOnce yoursquove developed expertise in a particular area mdash once yoursquove made the requisite mistakes mdash itrsquos important to trust your emotions when making deci-sions in that domainrdquo Lehrer insists If you know you can do it trust your gut mdash not your head

Next time yoursquore tempted to think too much about something you know how to do try a little therapeu-tic distraction Say the alphabet backward when your yoga teacher orders you into the dreaded handstand or sing a favorite song to yourself at the free-throw line Briefly engaging your conscious mind with something other than the task at hand can leave your instincts free to do their job mdash and free you to enjoy the satisfaction all that practice has made possible

ldquoThis is itrdquo

Most people have a great ldquoI just knew it was rightrdquo story It might be about the time they first spotted their sweetheart or

crossed the threshold of their first house or figured out they wanted to switch careers Therersquos a reason most of us have memorable stories about the biggest and best decisions we make in life says Orloff mdash theyrsquore typically remarkable for their lack of cognitive heavy lifting

When your intuition signals that yoursquove found something or someone truly right for you the choice often becomes strangely easy ldquoIt feels healthy it feels good it doesnrsquot feel like yoursquore forcing it therersquos not a lot of conflictrdquo she says

Lehrer agrees that when yoursquore poised to make a big decision with lasting repercussions like choosing your life partner yoursquore best off deciding from the gut Based on the bulk of his research into the cognitive mechanisms of decision-making he actually recom-mends that you ldquothink less about those choices that you care a lot aboutrdquo

According to Lehrer the rational mind is really suit-ed only to limited concrete choices like deciding be-tween two brands of car insurance In situations where there are just a couple of relevant factors involved the prefrontal cortex can weigh the comparative rewards of each and yield an excellent result But there are so

many factors involved in a complex decision like say buying a house that the limited space in the prefrontal cortex gets overwhelmed In that state it becomes the wrong part of the brain for the job

Several studies support the wisdom of emotional decision-making in the realm of big choices Lehrer cites one conducted at the University of Amsterdam that simulated the experience of buying a car provid-ing research subjects with overwhelming amounts of detailed information Some car buyers were briefly dis-tracted then left to choose quickly and with their emo-tions Follow-up surveys revealed that they selected the most satisfying car 60 percent of the time Other subjects who had more uninterrupted time in which to choose were pleased with their decision less than 25 percent of the time mdash worse even than random chance

In another study the same Dutch researchers shad-owed shoppers at IKEA observing their shopping behaviors Later interviews indicated that those who spent less time making their choices ended up more satisfied overall Choosing a couch and choosing a spouse are decidedly different acts to be sure but both tend to provoke the kind of agonized over-thinking that leads to poor choices Using your intuitive brain in these situations on the other hand will almost always point you toward a lasting fulfillment

Of all the reasons to use your gut instincts to make big decisions this may be the best It leads to the choices that are most fully satisfying mdash decisions that can improve the quality of your life

ldquoIt allows you to find relationships that resonate for you instead of what looks good on paperrdquo Orloff says ldquoIt allows you to connect with people on a heart level it allows you to deeply experience life instead of just letting it wash over you and it allows you to be really smart about how you make your decisionsrdquo

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Ingredients6 sheets phyllo dough6 ounces smoked mozzarella cut into 6 equal piecesVegetable oil for frying8 ounces dried figs stemmed and quartered34 cup honey plus more for drizzling3 teaspoons black sesame seeds

DirectionsIn a large pot heat the vegetable oil over medium heat to 350 degrees F

Place 1 sheet of phyllo on a dry work surface Place one slice of cheese about 5 inches from the top of the narrow end of the sheet Fold the top of the narrow end over the cheese leaving 1 inch between the fold and the cheese Next fold over 1 of the long sides then the other again leaving 1-inch between the folds and the cheese Then fold the cheese over again leaving 1-inch between the fold and the cheese Continue folding to make a package about 3 12 by 4-inches Continue with the remaining pieces of cheese and phyllo

Fry the phyllo and cheese packages 2 or 3 at a time in the oil until golden about 2 minutes per side Drain on a baking sheet lined with paper towels

Meanwhile heat the figs and honey in a small saucepan over low heat until the honey is warm Set aside until the cheese packages have finished frying

To serve place 1 cheese package on a plate Spoon some figs and drizzle some honey over the top of each cheese package Sprinkle with black sesame seeds and serve immediately

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Tired of Being Tired It Will Get Better by David Wolfe

All too often I get asked the question ndash ldquoWill things get betterrdquo The economy has affected nearly all of us in one way or another Some have had it worse and some have just had to tighten their financial belts a bit Many of us have had friends and possibly even family that has lost their homes and experienced extreme financial troubles Bottom line is - it has been a tough few years

The answer I always give to the above question is that of course it will get better It will take time and a lot of sacrifice but it will get better The economy is a crazy system and works in cycles We will rebound and once again resources will be plentiful The question I canrsquot answer is ldquowhenrdquo I wish the dream we all wish which is that it will go back to the way it was as quickly as possible However the truth is there are many factors that affect how quickly we rebound Some factors we can control and some are out of our individual control But ultimately sooner or later it will get better

The best thing we can do as individuals is simply be more conscious of our spending habits and spend less time worrying about what the different media stations are reporting As we turn the channel we hear a different story and yet another gloom and doom story Find the positive in your life and enjoy the pleasure it provides

As clicheacute as it sounds find a new hobby Now is the time to reinvent ourselves and potentially pursue dreams and hobbies we never took the time to enjoy before The positive side to financial times like we are experiencing is that millionaires are made in economic times like this A good idea a simple concept a new way of thinking and BOOM a million dollar idea comes to life Opportunities for investing in low dollar investments that will have high dollar returns as things rebound make for new millionaires So keep your eyes open for opportunities

No more negative thinking ndash it will get better Itrsquos up to us as individuals to make our own circumstances better Some things we can control and some we cannot Ultimately though your well being begins with the life you make for yourself Go have fun Go Bowling Paint Sing Read find your passion and ultimately it will get better

Intuitive Eating for Weight Loss

As an alternative to doomed diet regimens some weight-loss experts recommend tuning in to our own instincts But are our bodiesrsquo cravings always a good guide

It was more than a decade ago before the obesity epidemic had even peaked that nutritionists Evelyn

Tribole MS RD and Elyse Resch MS RD FADA noticed the stream of failed dieters traipsing through their offices many of them desperate for help

Aware that dieting pitfalls mdash from ravenous hunger to outright boredom mdash might be part of the problem the nutritionists gave their clients permission to indulge some cravings but nonetheless kept them on programs that limited food intake Eager to please the clients followed the meal plans and initially lost weight

But Tribole recalls ldquoSometime later we started getting calls from some of these people telling us how much they needed us again They couldnrsquot stick to the plan anymore Maybe they needed someone to monitor them Maybe they didnrsquot have enough self-control Maybe they werenrsquot any good at this and definitely they felt guilty and demoralizedrdquo

Looking around the two nutritionists saw the writing on the wall mdash and in the medical journals too Something like 95 percent of dieters fail to stick with their weight-loss programs from Weight Watchers to Atkins to Jenny Craig

Determined to find a different approach they first looked to the anti-diet movement which was just then burgeoning as a backlash to the war against obesity

ldquoThe anti-diet movement proposed a way of eating that allowed for any and all food choices without regard for nutritionrdquo Tribole explains It was a philosophy at loggerheads with literature linking excess pounds to cancer heart disease diabetes and more mdash and it ran counter to Tribolersquos and Reschrsquos own instincts

ldquoOur initial reactions were highly skepticalrdquo says Tribole ldquoHow could we as nutritionists trained to look at the connections between nutrition and health sanction a way of eating that seemed to reject the very foundation of our knowledge and philosophyrdquo

Eventually Tribole and Resch determined that they could resolve the conflict by hammering out a compromise of sorts They called it ldquoIntuitive Eatingrdquo

mdash a nutritional strategy that rejected dieting in favor of psychological awareness In particular it emphasized the importance of increasing clientsrsquo sensitivity to internal signals of hunger and fullness and helping them develop a greater attunement to the physiological effects of the foods they ate

Described in their influential book Intuitive Eating A Revolutionary Program That Works (St Martinrsquos Griffin 2003) the system taught users to distinguish between physical hunger and emotional need and to trust that natural urges would deliver better health and balance than any diet could

The concepts were controversial Clients in Tribole and Reschrsquos intuitive eating program were free

to eat as much as they wanted and to indulge their cravings for food While diets were all about restriction mdash calorie counting weigh-ins denial of pleasure mdash intuitive eating gave permission to eat anything A slice of cake A pizza party It was all allowed

But can a system so permissive really keep weight down To some extent the jury is still out Expert opinion has been mixed Intuitive eating clearly doesnrsquot work for everyone Yet thousands of people report losing weight based on intuitive eating and in recent years peer-reviewed studies have supported the claims

Not only did intuitive eaters in recent studies have lower cholesterol less diabetes healthier hearts better levels of fitness and lower body mass index (BMI) they achieved all that without the psychological stress and self-loathing that dieting can bring on

According to Tracy Tylka PhD a psychologist at Ohio State University whose research has lent rigor to the field the women participating in her intuitive-eating study were ldquomore likely to reject the societal stereotype that thinness is their ideal body typerdquo and were ldquoless likely to base their self-worth on being thinrdquo

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

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Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

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Maintenance Tip

GARBAGE DISPOSALTurn on the cold water before starting the disposer Drop food waste slowly into the unit Let the water run a few seconds after the waste is disposed to al-low it to flush awayCorn husks celery onion skins rice potato skins artichoke leaves olive pits bones and solid or liquid grease may cause your disposer to jam or overload If a jam happens contact the office and submit a service request for our maintenance teamClean garbage disposal blades by grinding up ice cubes Freshen the disposal with baking soda and citrus fruit rinds

TOILETSToilets are made of vitreous china a material that is almost impervious to staining They may be cleaned with any commercial toilet bowl product Keep a plumberrsquos plunger handy If a clog occurs shut off the water valve located behind the toilet A few vigorous pumps of the plunger will usually free the clog If not itrsquos time to call the maintenance team Do not use harsh chemical drain cleaners These can damage the toilet seat and cause leaks

General Maintenance amp CleaningApartment dwellers can have a more energy efficient home and save money by making minor adjustments Refrigerators air conditioners and lights use the ma-jority of energy in apartments Reduce the amount of natural resources needed to create energy such as gas and coal to cut energy costs Walk through your apartment to check for wasted energy so you can plan to start conserving energy today

Replace the filter in central heating and air condition-ing units Keep your thermostat at 68 degrees when using heat If you plan to be away from the apartment for a few hours reduce the thermostat temperature by two to three degrees When you are cooling the apartment set your thermostat between 78 to 80 de-grees and increase your temperature by two to three degrees if you plan to be away for a while

Take advantage of solar energy Open blinds during the day to let the sun in your apartment to warm up your home For colder weather and nighttime close the blinds to keep the heat in the apartment If you are trying to keep your apartment cool keep curtains closed to avoid direct sunlight

Energy Saving TipCentral Heating and Air

Maintenance Tip

CARPET STAINSbull FoodFor a food stain that is still wet put club soda on the stain then soak it up with a dry white cloth For a food stain that has dried apply a cleaning fluid for oil-based stains such as Afta Carbona Energine or Everblum ndash available at hardware storesbull Wine other alcoholic beveragesWhile the stain is still wet pour rubbing alcohol on it and rub with a sponge Flush the stain with water and pat dry with a white cloth If the stain persists contact the maintenance team to apply a tannin removerbull Ball-point or fountain pen inkApply hair spray to the stain Press down on the stain with a white clothbull Chewing GumPut an ice cube on the chewing gum for 30 seconds then use your fingers to pick off as much of the gum as possible Wet white cloth with a cleaning fluid for oil-based stains (see ldquoFoodrdquo above) and rub into the stain Using another dry white cloth wipe the stain vigorously Repeat this procedure until the gum dis-appears

Carpet Stains amp CareMaintenance Tip

STAINLESS STEEL SINKSDObull Use soap and warm water dishwasher deter-gent or ammonia for routine cleaning bull Apply cleanser with a cloth or sponge then rinse the sink thoroughly and wipe it dry bull Use a small amount of mineral oil on a soft cloth to restore luster bull Use regular household cleansers to remove stubborn stains such as Comet Ajax Stainless Steel Cleaner etc bull Remove rust stains by gently rubbing with a cloth bull Protect the environment by never pouring insecticides paint or any toxic chemicals down the drainbull Remove debris from disposal then push the black or red ldquore-setrdquo button located at the base of the garbage disposal under your sink should the disposal quit working

Stainless Steel Sink Care - The Dorsquos

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Apartment Living at itrsquos Best

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A few years back two sci-entists at the University of Iowa conducted an

experiment in which research sub-jects played a game of chance with four separate card decks and stacks of play money Each card indicated whether the player had won or lost money and the goal for the player was to draw as many cash-delivering cards as possible What the players didnrsquot know is that the decks had been rigged Two of them had been stacked so they yielded high rewards but punishing losses while the other

two offered smaller rewards and virtu-ally no losses It took most players about 50 cards be-fore they started to favor the safer decks and about 80 cards before they could explain why they did so

Herersquos the curious part (and am-ateur gamblers should take note) Sensors attached to the playersrsquo skin showed that after only 10 cards a playerrsquos hand would get sweaty and nervous when it reached for the risky decks ldquoAlthough the subject still had little inkling of which card piles were the most lucrative [his] emotions knew which decks were dangerousrdquo writes Wired contribut-ing editor Jonah Lehrer in How We Decide (Houghton Mifflin 2009) ldquoThe subjectrsquos feelings figured out the game firstrdquo

Most of us have experienced the sense of knowing things before we know them even if we canrsquot explain how You hesitate at a green light and miss getting hit by a speeding truck You decide on a whim to break your no-blind-dates policy and wind up meeting your life partner You have a hunch that you should invest in a little online startup and it becomes Google

The quirky urge A funny tingle That little voice in your head These are your gut feelings talking But what are they telling you and should you listen Herersquos how to make the most of your own innate wisdom

5 Gut Instincts You Shouldnrsquot IgnoreBy Courtney Helgoe

If only you could tap into those insights more of-ten right Turns out you can especially if you learn to identify which signals to focus on mdash whether theyrsquore sweaty palms a funny feeling in your stomach or a sudden and inexplicable certainty that something is up

According to many researchers intuition is far more material than it seems Hope College social psy-chologist David Myers PhD explains that the intuitive right brain is almost always ldquoreadingrdquo your surround-ings even when your conscious left brain is otherwise engaged The body can register this information while the conscious mind remains blissfully unaware of whatrsquos going onrsquo

Another theory suggests you can ldquofeelrdquo approach-ing events specifically because of your dopamine neu-rons ldquoThe jitters of dopamine help keep track of real-ity alerting us to those subtle patterns that we canrsquot consciously detectrdquo Lehrer notes

This means if something in the environment is even slightly irregular mdash the speed of an approaching truck the slightly unusual behavior of someone at a party mdash your brain squirts dopamine and you get that ldquoweirdrdquo feeling Whether you pay attention or not can make all the difference You might meet your future spouse mdash or meet your maker Those signals carry a lot of impor-tant information so itrsquos wise to listen up

Judith Orloff PhD a Los Angelesndashbased intuitive psychiatrist and author of Second Sight (Three Riv-ers Press 2010) believes the benefits of listening to your instincts go far beyond making good on life-or-death decisions ldquoLiving more intuitively demands that yoursquore in the momentrdquo she says ldquoand that makes for a more passionate liferdquo

But she also notes that gut instincts are far from in-fallible The right brainrsquos skill with pattern identifica-tion can trigger suspicions of unfamiliar (but not dan-gerous) things or cause you to be especially reactive to people who simply remind you of someone else

So how do you choose which gut feelings to trust Orloff suggests that itrsquos a matter of ldquocombining the linear mind and intuitionrdquo and striking the right bal-ance between gut instinct and rational thinking Once yoursquove noticed an intuitive hit she says you can en-gage your rational mind to weigh your choices and de-cide how best to act on them

To that end here are five gut feelings that Orloff and other experts recommend you pay attention to mdash and some reasons why yoursquoll be glad you did

ldquoSomething feels wrong in my bodyrdquo

Listening to your bodyrsquos subtle signals is a critical part of exercising your intuitive sense says Orloff who also trains UCLA

medical students and psychiatric residents to use intu-ition when treating patients

ldquoYour body is a powerful intuitive communicatorrdquo she explains in Second Sight ldquoIntuition allows you to get the first warning signs when anything is off in your body so that you can address it If you have a gut feel-ing about your body mdash that something is toxic weak or lsquooffrsquo mdash listen to it Go and get it worked uprdquo Shersquos seen too many people ignore their sense that something isnrsquot right with their bodies and subsequently find that small problems have become big ones

Physical symptoms can also have symbolic value ldquoIf yoursquore around somebody and your energy goes down thatrsquos an intuition not to ignorerdquo Orloff says Sudden sleepiness can mean that yoursquore in the pres-ence of an energy-draining person or circumstance it can be your bodyrsquos way of communicating that these conditions are taking more energy than they give If you stay in a situation that makes you feel instantly depleted (like taking a job after you left the interview feeling exhausted) it can easily lead to a situation where you become depressed anxious and mdash not sur-prisingly mdash stuck

Ronald A Alexander PhD a psychologist mind-fulness expert leadership consultant and director of the Open Mind Training Institute in Santa Monica Calif also recommends paying close attention to any sudden physical sensations you experience during the course of an interaction He tells a story of traveling in India where he decided not to get in a cab because of a ldquoburning sensationrdquo in his gut and he later saw the driver being arrested in the train station for sus-pected robbery He says he typically feels intuitions in his chest or his stomach the latter is relatively com-mon given that the intestines house the enteric nervous system sometimes called the ldquosecond brainrdquo

ldquoThat second brain really is the intuitive brainrdquo Alexander explains and he recommends that when it

speaks you listen

ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo

Jackie Larsen was leaving her Grand Marais Minn prayer-group meeting on

an April morning in 2001 when a clean-cut young man named Christopher Bono approached her asking for help He told her that he was on his way to meet friends

1

2

in Thunder Bay and his car had broken down During their brief conversation she got a visceral feeling that something was wrong accompanied by a sharp pain in her stomach She sent Bono inside to talk to the pas-tor of the church and called the police to have them trace his Illinois license plates It turned out he was the prime suspect in a gruesome crime and was fleeing the scene

Larsenrsquos brain had likely detected subtle irregulari-ties in Bonorsquos behavior ldquoMere lsquothin-slicesrsquo of some-onersquos behavior can reveal muchrdquo writes Myers who relates Larsenrsquos story in his book Intuition Its Pow-ers and Perils (Yale University Press 2002) His un-derstanding of this capacity is more socio-historical than neuroscientific he believes that the feeling you get about a person in the first 10 seconds expresses an ldquoancient biological wisdomrdquo Early humans who could speedily detect whether a stranger was friend or foe were more likely to survive he says and they would create descendents who were able to read emotional signals in another personrsquos face almost instantly

Of course the human capacity to ldquothin-slicerdquo can go badly awry as it did in the 1999 fatal police shooting of Amadou Diallo in New York City Police fired when they thought the young Guinean man was reaching for a weapon but he was actually unarmed and digging in his pocket for his identification

Because social conditioning helps to create uncon-scious beliefs and these beliefs can produce first im-pressions and snap decisions that are utterly flawed Orloff suggests that itrsquos important to check your gut feelings against your rational mind whenever possible And there are simple ways you can attend to what feels like a warning signal in the short term she says

ldquoIf you donrsquot trust somebody even if it turns out to be inaccurate it is something to pay attention tordquo she explains ldquoIf yoursquore walking down the street at night and you get the feeling lsquostay away from that personrsquo

just cross the streetrdquo

ldquoI want to helprdquo

While you might think of our gut in-stincts as something wersquove maintained

mostly to avoid danger the human species has evolved an equally powerful capacity to sense when our fellow beings need support ldquoSympathy is one of humanityrsquos most basic instincts which is why evolution lavished so much attention on the parts of the brain that help us think about what other people are feelingrdquo notes Lehrer

Since evolution has made you a quick read of other faces and their emotional signals you donrsquot always need to wait for a verbalized cue before you reach out The sympathy instinct nudges you to change the subject when wedding talk makes a newly divorced colleague cringe or to start up a conversation with a nervous seatmate during an airplane landing mdash subtle gestures that can make a big difference in someonersquos day The capacity to empathetically identify with other faces can even be what compels you to donate money after a natural disaster Studies of humanitarian relief efforts show that people are markedly more compelled to give after seeing a photo of an individual in need than after reading statistics about damage

Finally this ability to ldquoreadrdquo other faces isnrsquot just good for those you help One recent brain-imaging study suggests that generosity makes the pleasure cen-ters in the brain light up like the Las Vegas Strip When participants were given $128 of hard cash along with the choice to keep it or donate it to charity the reward centers of those who chose to donate went wild

Multiple studies have also demonstrated a phenom-enon known as the ldquohelperrsquos highrdquo which causes indi-viduals aiding others to experience improvements in mood immunity and overall well-being Thatrsquos why following your instincts for sympathy and generosity generally turns out to be a good investment in your

own health and happiness too

ldquoI know how to do thisrdquo

Basketball announcers can be mer-ciless when otherwise talented players

choke at the free-throw line but most of us can iden-tify with the playerrsquos sense of panic You might have a well-developed yoga practice with one pose that still stumps you Or maybe yoursquore a stellar driver who forgets how to parallel park whenever your intimidat-ing sister-in-law is in the car Or yoursquore a great cook who botches your favorite dish each time you make it for guests In situations like these the can-do instinct yoursquove developed through years of experience is being drowned out by an onslaught of over-thinking

ldquoChoking [among athletes] is a vivid example of the havoc that can be caused by too much thoughtrdquo Lehrer points out ldquoSuch deliberate thought processes interfere with the trained movements of their musclesrdquo

He cites a study at the University of Chicago show-ing that while novice golfers did better when they thought carefully about their putts the performance of more experienced golfers got much worse when they reflected on what they were doing

3

4

Rational thought served the beginners it turned out because they were still developing muscle memory and technique But for those players who had already integrated all that information instinct naturally took over mdash and did a far better job Overriding instincts and neural patterning in favor of logical thought abso-lutely destroyed their performance

ldquoOnce yoursquove developed expertise in a particular area mdash once yoursquove made the requisite mistakes mdash itrsquos important to trust your emotions when making deci-sions in that domainrdquo Lehrer insists If you know you can do it trust your gut mdash not your head

Next time yoursquore tempted to think too much about something you know how to do try a little therapeu-tic distraction Say the alphabet backward when your yoga teacher orders you into the dreaded handstand or sing a favorite song to yourself at the free-throw line Briefly engaging your conscious mind with something other than the task at hand can leave your instincts free to do their job mdash and free you to enjoy the satisfaction all that practice has made possible

ldquoThis is itrdquo

Most people have a great ldquoI just knew it was rightrdquo story It might be about the time they first spotted their sweetheart or

crossed the threshold of their first house or figured out they wanted to switch careers Therersquos a reason most of us have memorable stories about the biggest and best decisions we make in life says Orloff mdash theyrsquore typically remarkable for their lack of cognitive heavy lifting

When your intuition signals that yoursquove found something or someone truly right for you the choice often becomes strangely easy ldquoIt feels healthy it feels good it doesnrsquot feel like yoursquore forcing it therersquos not a lot of conflictrdquo she says

Lehrer agrees that when yoursquore poised to make a big decision with lasting repercussions like choosing your life partner yoursquore best off deciding from the gut Based on the bulk of his research into the cognitive mechanisms of decision-making he actually recom-mends that you ldquothink less about those choices that you care a lot aboutrdquo

According to Lehrer the rational mind is really suit-ed only to limited concrete choices like deciding be-tween two brands of car insurance In situations where there are just a couple of relevant factors involved the prefrontal cortex can weigh the comparative rewards of each and yield an excellent result But there are so

many factors involved in a complex decision like say buying a house that the limited space in the prefrontal cortex gets overwhelmed In that state it becomes the wrong part of the brain for the job

Several studies support the wisdom of emotional decision-making in the realm of big choices Lehrer cites one conducted at the University of Amsterdam that simulated the experience of buying a car provid-ing research subjects with overwhelming amounts of detailed information Some car buyers were briefly dis-tracted then left to choose quickly and with their emo-tions Follow-up surveys revealed that they selected the most satisfying car 60 percent of the time Other subjects who had more uninterrupted time in which to choose were pleased with their decision less than 25 percent of the time mdash worse even than random chance

In another study the same Dutch researchers shad-owed shoppers at IKEA observing their shopping behaviors Later interviews indicated that those who spent less time making their choices ended up more satisfied overall Choosing a couch and choosing a spouse are decidedly different acts to be sure but both tend to provoke the kind of agonized over-thinking that leads to poor choices Using your intuitive brain in these situations on the other hand will almost always point you toward a lasting fulfillment

Of all the reasons to use your gut instincts to make big decisions this may be the best It leads to the choices that are most fully satisfying mdash decisions that can improve the quality of your life

ldquoIt allows you to find relationships that resonate for you instead of what looks good on paperrdquo Orloff says ldquoIt allows you to connect with people on a heart level it allows you to deeply experience life instead of just letting it wash over you and it allows you to be really smart about how you make your decisionsrdquo

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Crispy Smoked Mozzarella with Honey and FigsProvided by foodnetworkcom

Ingredients6 sheets phyllo dough6 ounces smoked mozzarella cut into 6 equal piecesVegetable oil for frying8 ounces dried figs stemmed and quartered34 cup honey plus more for drizzling3 teaspoons black sesame seeds

DirectionsIn a large pot heat the vegetable oil over medium heat to 350 degrees F

Place 1 sheet of phyllo on a dry work surface Place one slice of cheese about 5 inches from the top of the narrow end of the sheet Fold the top of the narrow end over the cheese leaving 1 inch between the fold and the cheese Next fold over 1 of the long sides then the other again leaving 1-inch between the folds and the cheese Then fold the cheese over again leaving 1-inch between the fold and the cheese Continue folding to make a package about 3 12 by 4-inches Continue with the remaining pieces of cheese and phyllo

Fry the phyllo and cheese packages 2 or 3 at a time in the oil until golden about 2 minutes per side Drain on a baking sheet lined with paper towels

Meanwhile heat the figs and honey in a small saucepan over low heat until the honey is warm Set aside until the cheese packages have finished frying

To serve place 1 cheese package on a plate Spoon some figs and drizzle some honey over the top of each cheese package Sprinkle with black sesame seeds and serve immediately

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Tired of Being Tired It Will Get Better by David Wolfe

All too often I get asked the question ndash ldquoWill things get betterrdquo The economy has affected nearly all of us in one way or another Some have had it worse and some have just had to tighten their financial belts a bit Many of us have had friends and possibly even family that has lost their homes and experienced extreme financial troubles Bottom line is - it has been a tough few years

The answer I always give to the above question is that of course it will get better It will take time and a lot of sacrifice but it will get better The economy is a crazy system and works in cycles We will rebound and once again resources will be plentiful The question I canrsquot answer is ldquowhenrdquo I wish the dream we all wish which is that it will go back to the way it was as quickly as possible However the truth is there are many factors that affect how quickly we rebound Some factors we can control and some are out of our individual control But ultimately sooner or later it will get better

The best thing we can do as individuals is simply be more conscious of our spending habits and spend less time worrying about what the different media stations are reporting As we turn the channel we hear a different story and yet another gloom and doom story Find the positive in your life and enjoy the pleasure it provides

As clicheacute as it sounds find a new hobby Now is the time to reinvent ourselves and potentially pursue dreams and hobbies we never took the time to enjoy before The positive side to financial times like we are experiencing is that millionaires are made in economic times like this A good idea a simple concept a new way of thinking and BOOM a million dollar idea comes to life Opportunities for investing in low dollar investments that will have high dollar returns as things rebound make for new millionaires So keep your eyes open for opportunities

No more negative thinking ndash it will get better Itrsquos up to us as individuals to make our own circumstances better Some things we can control and some we cannot Ultimately though your well being begins with the life you make for yourself Go have fun Go Bowling Paint Sing Read find your passion and ultimately it will get better

Intuitive Eating for Weight Loss

As an alternative to doomed diet regimens some weight-loss experts recommend tuning in to our own instincts But are our bodiesrsquo cravings always a good guide

It was more than a decade ago before the obesity epidemic had even peaked that nutritionists Evelyn

Tribole MS RD and Elyse Resch MS RD FADA noticed the stream of failed dieters traipsing through their offices many of them desperate for help

Aware that dieting pitfalls mdash from ravenous hunger to outright boredom mdash might be part of the problem the nutritionists gave their clients permission to indulge some cravings but nonetheless kept them on programs that limited food intake Eager to please the clients followed the meal plans and initially lost weight

But Tribole recalls ldquoSometime later we started getting calls from some of these people telling us how much they needed us again They couldnrsquot stick to the plan anymore Maybe they needed someone to monitor them Maybe they didnrsquot have enough self-control Maybe they werenrsquot any good at this and definitely they felt guilty and demoralizedrdquo

Looking around the two nutritionists saw the writing on the wall mdash and in the medical journals too Something like 95 percent of dieters fail to stick with their weight-loss programs from Weight Watchers to Atkins to Jenny Craig

Determined to find a different approach they first looked to the anti-diet movement which was just then burgeoning as a backlash to the war against obesity

ldquoThe anti-diet movement proposed a way of eating that allowed for any and all food choices without regard for nutritionrdquo Tribole explains It was a philosophy at loggerheads with literature linking excess pounds to cancer heart disease diabetes and more mdash and it ran counter to Tribolersquos and Reschrsquos own instincts

ldquoOur initial reactions were highly skepticalrdquo says Tribole ldquoHow could we as nutritionists trained to look at the connections between nutrition and health sanction a way of eating that seemed to reject the very foundation of our knowledge and philosophyrdquo

Eventually Tribole and Resch determined that they could resolve the conflict by hammering out a compromise of sorts They called it ldquoIntuitive Eatingrdquo

mdash a nutritional strategy that rejected dieting in favor of psychological awareness In particular it emphasized the importance of increasing clientsrsquo sensitivity to internal signals of hunger and fullness and helping them develop a greater attunement to the physiological effects of the foods they ate

Described in their influential book Intuitive Eating A Revolutionary Program That Works (St Martinrsquos Griffin 2003) the system taught users to distinguish between physical hunger and emotional need and to trust that natural urges would deliver better health and balance than any diet could

The concepts were controversial Clients in Tribole and Reschrsquos intuitive eating program were free

to eat as much as they wanted and to indulge their cravings for food While diets were all about restriction mdash calorie counting weigh-ins denial of pleasure mdash intuitive eating gave permission to eat anything A slice of cake A pizza party It was all allowed

But can a system so permissive really keep weight down To some extent the jury is still out Expert opinion has been mixed Intuitive eating clearly doesnrsquot work for everyone Yet thousands of people report losing weight based on intuitive eating and in recent years peer-reviewed studies have supported the claims

Not only did intuitive eaters in recent studies have lower cholesterol less diabetes healthier hearts better levels of fitness and lower body mass index (BMI) they achieved all that without the psychological stress and self-loathing that dieting can bring on

According to Tracy Tylka PhD a psychologist at Ohio State University whose research has lent rigor to the field the women participating in her intuitive-eating study were ldquomore likely to reject the societal stereotype that thinness is their ideal body typerdquo and were ldquoless likely to base their self-worth on being thinrdquo

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

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Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

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A few years back two sci-entists at the University of Iowa conducted an

experiment in which research sub-jects played a game of chance with four separate card decks and stacks of play money Each card indicated whether the player had won or lost money and the goal for the player was to draw as many cash-delivering cards as possible What the players didnrsquot know is that the decks had been rigged Two of them had been stacked so they yielded high rewards but punishing losses while the other

two offered smaller rewards and virtu-ally no losses It took most players about 50 cards be-fore they started to favor the safer decks and about 80 cards before they could explain why they did so

Herersquos the curious part (and am-ateur gamblers should take note) Sensors attached to the playersrsquo skin showed that after only 10 cards a playerrsquos hand would get sweaty and nervous when it reached for the risky decks ldquoAlthough the subject still had little inkling of which card piles were the most lucrative [his] emotions knew which decks were dangerousrdquo writes Wired contribut-ing editor Jonah Lehrer in How We Decide (Houghton Mifflin 2009) ldquoThe subjectrsquos feelings figured out the game firstrdquo

Most of us have experienced the sense of knowing things before we know them even if we canrsquot explain how You hesitate at a green light and miss getting hit by a speeding truck You decide on a whim to break your no-blind-dates policy and wind up meeting your life partner You have a hunch that you should invest in a little online startup and it becomes Google

The quirky urge A funny tingle That little voice in your head These are your gut feelings talking But what are they telling you and should you listen Herersquos how to make the most of your own innate wisdom

5 Gut Instincts You Shouldnrsquot IgnoreBy Courtney Helgoe

If only you could tap into those insights more of-ten right Turns out you can especially if you learn to identify which signals to focus on mdash whether theyrsquore sweaty palms a funny feeling in your stomach or a sudden and inexplicable certainty that something is up

According to many researchers intuition is far more material than it seems Hope College social psy-chologist David Myers PhD explains that the intuitive right brain is almost always ldquoreadingrdquo your surround-ings even when your conscious left brain is otherwise engaged The body can register this information while the conscious mind remains blissfully unaware of whatrsquos going onrsquo

Another theory suggests you can ldquofeelrdquo approach-ing events specifically because of your dopamine neu-rons ldquoThe jitters of dopamine help keep track of real-ity alerting us to those subtle patterns that we canrsquot consciously detectrdquo Lehrer notes

This means if something in the environment is even slightly irregular mdash the speed of an approaching truck the slightly unusual behavior of someone at a party mdash your brain squirts dopamine and you get that ldquoweirdrdquo feeling Whether you pay attention or not can make all the difference You might meet your future spouse mdash or meet your maker Those signals carry a lot of impor-tant information so itrsquos wise to listen up

Judith Orloff PhD a Los Angelesndashbased intuitive psychiatrist and author of Second Sight (Three Riv-ers Press 2010) believes the benefits of listening to your instincts go far beyond making good on life-or-death decisions ldquoLiving more intuitively demands that yoursquore in the momentrdquo she says ldquoand that makes for a more passionate liferdquo

But she also notes that gut instincts are far from in-fallible The right brainrsquos skill with pattern identifica-tion can trigger suspicions of unfamiliar (but not dan-gerous) things or cause you to be especially reactive to people who simply remind you of someone else

So how do you choose which gut feelings to trust Orloff suggests that itrsquos a matter of ldquocombining the linear mind and intuitionrdquo and striking the right bal-ance between gut instinct and rational thinking Once yoursquove noticed an intuitive hit she says you can en-gage your rational mind to weigh your choices and de-cide how best to act on them

To that end here are five gut feelings that Orloff and other experts recommend you pay attention to mdash and some reasons why yoursquoll be glad you did

ldquoSomething feels wrong in my bodyrdquo

Listening to your bodyrsquos subtle signals is a critical part of exercising your intuitive sense says Orloff who also trains UCLA

medical students and psychiatric residents to use intu-ition when treating patients

ldquoYour body is a powerful intuitive communicatorrdquo she explains in Second Sight ldquoIntuition allows you to get the first warning signs when anything is off in your body so that you can address it If you have a gut feel-ing about your body mdash that something is toxic weak or lsquooffrsquo mdash listen to it Go and get it worked uprdquo Shersquos seen too many people ignore their sense that something isnrsquot right with their bodies and subsequently find that small problems have become big ones

Physical symptoms can also have symbolic value ldquoIf yoursquore around somebody and your energy goes down thatrsquos an intuition not to ignorerdquo Orloff says Sudden sleepiness can mean that yoursquore in the pres-ence of an energy-draining person or circumstance it can be your bodyrsquos way of communicating that these conditions are taking more energy than they give If you stay in a situation that makes you feel instantly depleted (like taking a job after you left the interview feeling exhausted) it can easily lead to a situation where you become depressed anxious and mdash not sur-prisingly mdash stuck

Ronald A Alexander PhD a psychologist mind-fulness expert leadership consultant and director of the Open Mind Training Institute in Santa Monica Calif also recommends paying close attention to any sudden physical sensations you experience during the course of an interaction He tells a story of traveling in India where he decided not to get in a cab because of a ldquoburning sensationrdquo in his gut and he later saw the driver being arrested in the train station for sus-pected robbery He says he typically feels intuitions in his chest or his stomach the latter is relatively com-mon given that the intestines house the enteric nervous system sometimes called the ldquosecond brainrdquo

ldquoThat second brain really is the intuitive brainrdquo Alexander explains and he recommends that when it

speaks you listen

ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo

Jackie Larsen was leaving her Grand Marais Minn prayer-group meeting on

an April morning in 2001 when a clean-cut young man named Christopher Bono approached her asking for help He told her that he was on his way to meet friends

1

2

in Thunder Bay and his car had broken down During their brief conversation she got a visceral feeling that something was wrong accompanied by a sharp pain in her stomach She sent Bono inside to talk to the pas-tor of the church and called the police to have them trace his Illinois license plates It turned out he was the prime suspect in a gruesome crime and was fleeing the scene

Larsenrsquos brain had likely detected subtle irregulari-ties in Bonorsquos behavior ldquoMere lsquothin-slicesrsquo of some-onersquos behavior can reveal muchrdquo writes Myers who relates Larsenrsquos story in his book Intuition Its Pow-ers and Perils (Yale University Press 2002) His un-derstanding of this capacity is more socio-historical than neuroscientific he believes that the feeling you get about a person in the first 10 seconds expresses an ldquoancient biological wisdomrdquo Early humans who could speedily detect whether a stranger was friend or foe were more likely to survive he says and they would create descendents who were able to read emotional signals in another personrsquos face almost instantly

Of course the human capacity to ldquothin-slicerdquo can go badly awry as it did in the 1999 fatal police shooting of Amadou Diallo in New York City Police fired when they thought the young Guinean man was reaching for a weapon but he was actually unarmed and digging in his pocket for his identification

Because social conditioning helps to create uncon-scious beliefs and these beliefs can produce first im-pressions and snap decisions that are utterly flawed Orloff suggests that itrsquos important to check your gut feelings against your rational mind whenever possible And there are simple ways you can attend to what feels like a warning signal in the short term she says

ldquoIf you donrsquot trust somebody even if it turns out to be inaccurate it is something to pay attention tordquo she explains ldquoIf yoursquore walking down the street at night and you get the feeling lsquostay away from that personrsquo

just cross the streetrdquo

ldquoI want to helprdquo

While you might think of our gut in-stincts as something wersquove maintained

mostly to avoid danger the human species has evolved an equally powerful capacity to sense when our fellow beings need support ldquoSympathy is one of humanityrsquos most basic instincts which is why evolution lavished so much attention on the parts of the brain that help us think about what other people are feelingrdquo notes Lehrer

Since evolution has made you a quick read of other faces and their emotional signals you donrsquot always need to wait for a verbalized cue before you reach out The sympathy instinct nudges you to change the subject when wedding talk makes a newly divorced colleague cringe or to start up a conversation with a nervous seatmate during an airplane landing mdash subtle gestures that can make a big difference in someonersquos day The capacity to empathetically identify with other faces can even be what compels you to donate money after a natural disaster Studies of humanitarian relief efforts show that people are markedly more compelled to give after seeing a photo of an individual in need than after reading statistics about damage

Finally this ability to ldquoreadrdquo other faces isnrsquot just good for those you help One recent brain-imaging study suggests that generosity makes the pleasure cen-ters in the brain light up like the Las Vegas Strip When participants were given $128 of hard cash along with the choice to keep it or donate it to charity the reward centers of those who chose to donate went wild

Multiple studies have also demonstrated a phenom-enon known as the ldquohelperrsquos highrdquo which causes indi-viduals aiding others to experience improvements in mood immunity and overall well-being Thatrsquos why following your instincts for sympathy and generosity generally turns out to be a good investment in your

own health and happiness too

ldquoI know how to do thisrdquo

Basketball announcers can be mer-ciless when otherwise talented players

choke at the free-throw line but most of us can iden-tify with the playerrsquos sense of panic You might have a well-developed yoga practice with one pose that still stumps you Or maybe yoursquore a stellar driver who forgets how to parallel park whenever your intimidat-ing sister-in-law is in the car Or yoursquore a great cook who botches your favorite dish each time you make it for guests In situations like these the can-do instinct yoursquove developed through years of experience is being drowned out by an onslaught of over-thinking

ldquoChoking [among athletes] is a vivid example of the havoc that can be caused by too much thoughtrdquo Lehrer points out ldquoSuch deliberate thought processes interfere with the trained movements of their musclesrdquo

He cites a study at the University of Chicago show-ing that while novice golfers did better when they thought carefully about their putts the performance of more experienced golfers got much worse when they reflected on what they were doing

3

4

Rational thought served the beginners it turned out because they were still developing muscle memory and technique But for those players who had already integrated all that information instinct naturally took over mdash and did a far better job Overriding instincts and neural patterning in favor of logical thought abso-lutely destroyed their performance

ldquoOnce yoursquove developed expertise in a particular area mdash once yoursquove made the requisite mistakes mdash itrsquos important to trust your emotions when making deci-sions in that domainrdquo Lehrer insists If you know you can do it trust your gut mdash not your head

Next time yoursquore tempted to think too much about something you know how to do try a little therapeu-tic distraction Say the alphabet backward when your yoga teacher orders you into the dreaded handstand or sing a favorite song to yourself at the free-throw line Briefly engaging your conscious mind with something other than the task at hand can leave your instincts free to do their job mdash and free you to enjoy the satisfaction all that practice has made possible

ldquoThis is itrdquo

Most people have a great ldquoI just knew it was rightrdquo story It might be about the time they first spotted their sweetheart or

crossed the threshold of their first house or figured out they wanted to switch careers Therersquos a reason most of us have memorable stories about the biggest and best decisions we make in life says Orloff mdash theyrsquore typically remarkable for their lack of cognitive heavy lifting

When your intuition signals that yoursquove found something or someone truly right for you the choice often becomes strangely easy ldquoIt feels healthy it feels good it doesnrsquot feel like yoursquore forcing it therersquos not a lot of conflictrdquo she says

Lehrer agrees that when yoursquore poised to make a big decision with lasting repercussions like choosing your life partner yoursquore best off deciding from the gut Based on the bulk of his research into the cognitive mechanisms of decision-making he actually recom-mends that you ldquothink less about those choices that you care a lot aboutrdquo

According to Lehrer the rational mind is really suit-ed only to limited concrete choices like deciding be-tween two brands of car insurance In situations where there are just a couple of relevant factors involved the prefrontal cortex can weigh the comparative rewards of each and yield an excellent result But there are so

many factors involved in a complex decision like say buying a house that the limited space in the prefrontal cortex gets overwhelmed In that state it becomes the wrong part of the brain for the job

Several studies support the wisdom of emotional decision-making in the realm of big choices Lehrer cites one conducted at the University of Amsterdam that simulated the experience of buying a car provid-ing research subjects with overwhelming amounts of detailed information Some car buyers were briefly dis-tracted then left to choose quickly and with their emo-tions Follow-up surveys revealed that they selected the most satisfying car 60 percent of the time Other subjects who had more uninterrupted time in which to choose were pleased with their decision less than 25 percent of the time mdash worse even than random chance

In another study the same Dutch researchers shad-owed shoppers at IKEA observing their shopping behaviors Later interviews indicated that those who spent less time making their choices ended up more satisfied overall Choosing a couch and choosing a spouse are decidedly different acts to be sure but both tend to provoke the kind of agonized over-thinking that leads to poor choices Using your intuitive brain in these situations on the other hand will almost always point you toward a lasting fulfillment

Of all the reasons to use your gut instincts to make big decisions this may be the best It leads to the choices that are most fully satisfying mdash decisions that can improve the quality of your life

ldquoIt allows you to find relationships that resonate for you instead of what looks good on paperrdquo Orloff says ldquoIt allows you to connect with people on a heart level it allows you to deeply experience life instead of just letting it wash over you and it allows you to be really smart about how you make your decisionsrdquo

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Tired of Being Tired It Will Get Better by David Wolfe

All too often I get asked the question ndash ldquoWill things get betterrdquo The economy has affected nearly all of us in one way or another Some have had it worse and some have just had to tighten their financial belts a bit Many of us have had friends and possibly even family that has lost their homes and experienced extreme financial troubles Bottom line is - it has been a tough few years

The answer I always give to the above question is that of course it will get better It will take time and a lot of sacrifice but it will get better The economy is a crazy system and works in cycles We will rebound and once again resources will be plentiful The question I canrsquot answer is ldquowhenrdquo I wish the dream we all wish which is that it will go back to the way it was as quickly as possible However the truth is there are many factors that affect how quickly we rebound Some factors we can control and some are out of our individual control But ultimately sooner or later it will get better

The best thing we can do as individuals is simply be more conscious of our spending habits and spend less time worrying about what the different media stations are reporting As we turn the channel we hear a different story and yet another gloom and doom story Find the positive in your life and enjoy the pleasure it provides

As clicheacute as it sounds find a new hobby Now is the time to reinvent ourselves and potentially pursue dreams and hobbies we never took the time to enjoy before The positive side to financial times like we are experiencing is that millionaires are made in economic times like this A good idea a simple concept a new way of thinking and BOOM a million dollar idea comes to life Opportunities for investing in low dollar investments that will have high dollar returns as things rebound make for new millionaires So keep your eyes open for opportunities

No more negative thinking ndash it will get better Itrsquos up to us as individuals to make our own circumstances better Some things we can control and some we cannot Ultimately though your well being begins with the life you make for yourself Go have fun Go Bowling Paint Sing Read find your passion and ultimately it will get better

Intuitive Eating for Weight Loss

As an alternative to doomed diet regimens some weight-loss experts recommend tuning in to our own instincts But are our bodiesrsquo cravings always a good guide

It was more than a decade ago before the obesity epidemic had even peaked that nutritionists Evelyn

Tribole MS RD and Elyse Resch MS RD FADA noticed the stream of failed dieters traipsing through their offices many of them desperate for help

Aware that dieting pitfalls mdash from ravenous hunger to outright boredom mdash might be part of the problem the nutritionists gave their clients permission to indulge some cravings but nonetheless kept them on programs that limited food intake Eager to please the clients followed the meal plans and initially lost weight

But Tribole recalls ldquoSometime later we started getting calls from some of these people telling us how much they needed us again They couldnrsquot stick to the plan anymore Maybe they needed someone to monitor them Maybe they didnrsquot have enough self-control Maybe they werenrsquot any good at this and definitely they felt guilty and demoralizedrdquo

Looking around the two nutritionists saw the writing on the wall mdash and in the medical journals too Something like 95 percent of dieters fail to stick with their weight-loss programs from Weight Watchers to Atkins to Jenny Craig

Determined to find a different approach they first looked to the anti-diet movement which was just then burgeoning as a backlash to the war against obesity

ldquoThe anti-diet movement proposed a way of eating that allowed for any and all food choices without regard for nutritionrdquo Tribole explains It was a philosophy at loggerheads with literature linking excess pounds to cancer heart disease diabetes and more mdash and it ran counter to Tribolersquos and Reschrsquos own instincts

ldquoOur initial reactions were highly skepticalrdquo says Tribole ldquoHow could we as nutritionists trained to look at the connections between nutrition and health sanction a way of eating that seemed to reject the very foundation of our knowledge and philosophyrdquo

Eventually Tribole and Resch determined that they could resolve the conflict by hammering out a compromise of sorts They called it ldquoIntuitive Eatingrdquo

mdash a nutritional strategy that rejected dieting in favor of psychological awareness In particular it emphasized the importance of increasing clientsrsquo sensitivity to internal signals of hunger and fullness and helping them develop a greater attunement to the physiological effects of the foods they ate

Described in their influential book Intuitive Eating A Revolutionary Program That Works (St Martinrsquos Griffin 2003) the system taught users to distinguish between physical hunger and emotional need and to trust that natural urges would deliver better health and balance than any diet could

The concepts were controversial Clients in Tribole and Reschrsquos intuitive eating program were free

to eat as much as they wanted and to indulge their cravings for food While diets were all about restriction mdash calorie counting weigh-ins denial of pleasure mdash intuitive eating gave permission to eat anything A slice of cake A pizza party It was all allowed

But can a system so permissive really keep weight down To some extent the jury is still out Expert opinion has been mixed Intuitive eating clearly doesnrsquot work for everyone Yet thousands of people report losing weight based on intuitive eating and in recent years peer-reviewed studies have supported the claims

Not only did intuitive eaters in recent studies have lower cholesterol less diabetes healthier hearts better levels of fitness and lower body mass index (BMI) they achieved all that without the psychological stress and self-loathing that dieting can bring on

According to Tracy Tylka PhD a psychologist at Ohio State University whose research has lent rigor to the field the women participating in her intuitive-eating study were ldquomore likely to reject the societal stereotype that thinness is their ideal body typerdquo and were ldquoless likely to base their self-worth on being thinrdquo

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

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Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

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A few years back two sci-entists at the University of Iowa conducted an

experiment in which research sub-jects played a game of chance with four separate card decks and stacks of play money Each card indicated whether the player had won or lost money and the goal for the player was to draw as many cash-delivering cards as possible What the players didnrsquot know is that the decks had been rigged Two of them had been stacked so they yielded high rewards but punishing losses while the other

two offered smaller rewards and virtu-ally no losses It took most players about 50 cards be-fore they started to favor the safer decks and about 80 cards before they could explain why they did so

Herersquos the curious part (and am-ateur gamblers should take note) Sensors attached to the playersrsquo skin showed that after only 10 cards a playerrsquos hand would get sweaty and nervous when it reached for the risky decks ldquoAlthough the subject still had little inkling of which card piles were the most lucrative [his] emotions knew which decks were dangerousrdquo writes Wired contribut-ing editor Jonah Lehrer in How We Decide (Houghton Mifflin 2009) ldquoThe subjectrsquos feelings figured out the game firstrdquo

Most of us have experienced the sense of knowing things before we know them even if we canrsquot explain how You hesitate at a green light and miss getting hit by a speeding truck You decide on a whim to break your no-blind-dates policy and wind up meeting your life partner You have a hunch that you should invest in a little online startup and it becomes Google

The quirky urge A funny tingle That little voice in your head These are your gut feelings talking But what are they telling you and should you listen Herersquos how to make the most of your own innate wisdom

5 Gut Instincts You Shouldnrsquot IgnoreBy Courtney Helgoe

If only you could tap into those insights more of-ten right Turns out you can especially if you learn to identify which signals to focus on mdash whether theyrsquore sweaty palms a funny feeling in your stomach or a sudden and inexplicable certainty that something is up

According to many researchers intuition is far more material than it seems Hope College social psy-chologist David Myers PhD explains that the intuitive right brain is almost always ldquoreadingrdquo your surround-ings even when your conscious left brain is otherwise engaged The body can register this information while the conscious mind remains blissfully unaware of whatrsquos going onrsquo

Another theory suggests you can ldquofeelrdquo approach-ing events specifically because of your dopamine neu-rons ldquoThe jitters of dopamine help keep track of real-ity alerting us to those subtle patterns that we canrsquot consciously detectrdquo Lehrer notes

This means if something in the environment is even slightly irregular mdash the speed of an approaching truck the slightly unusual behavior of someone at a party mdash your brain squirts dopamine and you get that ldquoweirdrdquo feeling Whether you pay attention or not can make all the difference You might meet your future spouse mdash or meet your maker Those signals carry a lot of impor-tant information so itrsquos wise to listen up

Judith Orloff PhD a Los Angelesndashbased intuitive psychiatrist and author of Second Sight (Three Riv-ers Press 2010) believes the benefits of listening to your instincts go far beyond making good on life-or-death decisions ldquoLiving more intuitively demands that yoursquore in the momentrdquo she says ldquoand that makes for a more passionate liferdquo

But she also notes that gut instincts are far from in-fallible The right brainrsquos skill with pattern identifica-tion can trigger suspicions of unfamiliar (but not dan-gerous) things or cause you to be especially reactive to people who simply remind you of someone else

So how do you choose which gut feelings to trust Orloff suggests that itrsquos a matter of ldquocombining the linear mind and intuitionrdquo and striking the right bal-ance between gut instinct and rational thinking Once yoursquove noticed an intuitive hit she says you can en-gage your rational mind to weigh your choices and de-cide how best to act on them

To that end here are five gut feelings that Orloff and other experts recommend you pay attention to mdash and some reasons why yoursquoll be glad you did

ldquoSomething feels wrong in my bodyrdquo

Listening to your bodyrsquos subtle signals is a critical part of exercising your intuitive sense says Orloff who also trains UCLA

medical students and psychiatric residents to use intu-ition when treating patients

ldquoYour body is a powerful intuitive communicatorrdquo she explains in Second Sight ldquoIntuition allows you to get the first warning signs when anything is off in your body so that you can address it If you have a gut feel-ing about your body mdash that something is toxic weak or lsquooffrsquo mdash listen to it Go and get it worked uprdquo Shersquos seen too many people ignore their sense that something isnrsquot right with their bodies and subsequently find that small problems have become big ones

Physical symptoms can also have symbolic value ldquoIf yoursquore around somebody and your energy goes down thatrsquos an intuition not to ignorerdquo Orloff says Sudden sleepiness can mean that yoursquore in the pres-ence of an energy-draining person or circumstance it can be your bodyrsquos way of communicating that these conditions are taking more energy than they give If you stay in a situation that makes you feel instantly depleted (like taking a job after you left the interview feeling exhausted) it can easily lead to a situation where you become depressed anxious and mdash not sur-prisingly mdash stuck

Ronald A Alexander PhD a psychologist mind-fulness expert leadership consultant and director of the Open Mind Training Institute in Santa Monica Calif also recommends paying close attention to any sudden physical sensations you experience during the course of an interaction He tells a story of traveling in India where he decided not to get in a cab because of a ldquoburning sensationrdquo in his gut and he later saw the driver being arrested in the train station for sus-pected robbery He says he typically feels intuitions in his chest or his stomach the latter is relatively com-mon given that the intestines house the enteric nervous system sometimes called the ldquosecond brainrdquo

ldquoThat second brain really is the intuitive brainrdquo Alexander explains and he recommends that when it

speaks you listen

ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo

Jackie Larsen was leaving her Grand Marais Minn prayer-group meeting on

an April morning in 2001 when a clean-cut young man named Christopher Bono approached her asking for help He told her that he was on his way to meet friends

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2

in Thunder Bay and his car had broken down During their brief conversation she got a visceral feeling that something was wrong accompanied by a sharp pain in her stomach She sent Bono inside to talk to the pas-tor of the church and called the police to have them trace his Illinois license plates It turned out he was the prime suspect in a gruesome crime and was fleeing the scene

Larsenrsquos brain had likely detected subtle irregulari-ties in Bonorsquos behavior ldquoMere lsquothin-slicesrsquo of some-onersquos behavior can reveal muchrdquo writes Myers who relates Larsenrsquos story in his book Intuition Its Pow-ers and Perils (Yale University Press 2002) His un-derstanding of this capacity is more socio-historical than neuroscientific he believes that the feeling you get about a person in the first 10 seconds expresses an ldquoancient biological wisdomrdquo Early humans who could speedily detect whether a stranger was friend or foe were more likely to survive he says and they would create descendents who were able to read emotional signals in another personrsquos face almost instantly

Of course the human capacity to ldquothin-slicerdquo can go badly awry as it did in the 1999 fatal police shooting of Amadou Diallo in New York City Police fired when they thought the young Guinean man was reaching for a weapon but he was actually unarmed and digging in his pocket for his identification

Because social conditioning helps to create uncon-scious beliefs and these beliefs can produce first im-pressions and snap decisions that are utterly flawed Orloff suggests that itrsquos important to check your gut feelings against your rational mind whenever possible And there are simple ways you can attend to what feels like a warning signal in the short term she says

ldquoIf you donrsquot trust somebody even if it turns out to be inaccurate it is something to pay attention tordquo she explains ldquoIf yoursquore walking down the street at night and you get the feeling lsquostay away from that personrsquo

just cross the streetrdquo

ldquoI want to helprdquo

While you might think of our gut in-stincts as something wersquove maintained

mostly to avoid danger the human species has evolved an equally powerful capacity to sense when our fellow beings need support ldquoSympathy is one of humanityrsquos most basic instincts which is why evolution lavished so much attention on the parts of the brain that help us think about what other people are feelingrdquo notes Lehrer

Since evolution has made you a quick read of other faces and their emotional signals you donrsquot always need to wait for a verbalized cue before you reach out The sympathy instinct nudges you to change the subject when wedding talk makes a newly divorced colleague cringe or to start up a conversation with a nervous seatmate during an airplane landing mdash subtle gestures that can make a big difference in someonersquos day The capacity to empathetically identify with other faces can even be what compels you to donate money after a natural disaster Studies of humanitarian relief efforts show that people are markedly more compelled to give after seeing a photo of an individual in need than after reading statistics about damage

Finally this ability to ldquoreadrdquo other faces isnrsquot just good for those you help One recent brain-imaging study suggests that generosity makes the pleasure cen-ters in the brain light up like the Las Vegas Strip When participants were given $128 of hard cash along with the choice to keep it or donate it to charity the reward centers of those who chose to donate went wild

Multiple studies have also demonstrated a phenom-enon known as the ldquohelperrsquos highrdquo which causes indi-viduals aiding others to experience improvements in mood immunity and overall well-being Thatrsquos why following your instincts for sympathy and generosity generally turns out to be a good investment in your

own health and happiness too

ldquoI know how to do thisrdquo

Basketball announcers can be mer-ciless when otherwise talented players

choke at the free-throw line but most of us can iden-tify with the playerrsquos sense of panic You might have a well-developed yoga practice with one pose that still stumps you Or maybe yoursquore a stellar driver who forgets how to parallel park whenever your intimidat-ing sister-in-law is in the car Or yoursquore a great cook who botches your favorite dish each time you make it for guests In situations like these the can-do instinct yoursquove developed through years of experience is being drowned out by an onslaught of over-thinking

ldquoChoking [among athletes] is a vivid example of the havoc that can be caused by too much thoughtrdquo Lehrer points out ldquoSuch deliberate thought processes interfere with the trained movements of their musclesrdquo

He cites a study at the University of Chicago show-ing that while novice golfers did better when they thought carefully about their putts the performance of more experienced golfers got much worse when they reflected on what they were doing

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4

Rational thought served the beginners it turned out because they were still developing muscle memory and technique But for those players who had already integrated all that information instinct naturally took over mdash and did a far better job Overriding instincts and neural patterning in favor of logical thought abso-lutely destroyed their performance

ldquoOnce yoursquove developed expertise in a particular area mdash once yoursquove made the requisite mistakes mdash itrsquos important to trust your emotions when making deci-sions in that domainrdquo Lehrer insists If you know you can do it trust your gut mdash not your head

Next time yoursquore tempted to think too much about something you know how to do try a little therapeu-tic distraction Say the alphabet backward when your yoga teacher orders you into the dreaded handstand or sing a favorite song to yourself at the free-throw line Briefly engaging your conscious mind with something other than the task at hand can leave your instincts free to do their job mdash and free you to enjoy the satisfaction all that practice has made possible

ldquoThis is itrdquo

Most people have a great ldquoI just knew it was rightrdquo story It might be about the time they first spotted their sweetheart or

crossed the threshold of their first house or figured out they wanted to switch careers Therersquos a reason most of us have memorable stories about the biggest and best decisions we make in life says Orloff mdash theyrsquore typically remarkable for their lack of cognitive heavy lifting

When your intuition signals that yoursquove found something or someone truly right for you the choice often becomes strangely easy ldquoIt feels healthy it feels good it doesnrsquot feel like yoursquore forcing it therersquos not a lot of conflictrdquo she says

Lehrer agrees that when yoursquore poised to make a big decision with lasting repercussions like choosing your life partner yoursquore best off deciding from the gut Based on the bulk of his research into the cognitive mechanisms of decision-making he actually recom-mends that you ldquothink less about those choices that you care a lot aboutrdquo

According to Lehrer the rational mind is really suit-ed only to limited concrete choices like deciding be-tween two brands of car insurance In situations where there are just a couple of relevant factors involved the prefrontal cortex can weigh the comparative rewards of each and yield an excellent result But there are so

many factors involved in a complex decision like say buying a house that the limited space in the prefrontal cortex gets overwhelmed In that state it becomes the wrong part of the brain for the job

Several studies support the wisdom of emotional decision-making in the realm of big choices Lehrer cites one conducted at the University of Amsterdam that simulated the experience of buying a car provid-ing research subjects with overwhelming amounts of detailed information Some car buyers were briefly dis-tracted then left to choose quickly and with their emo-tions Follow-up surveys revealed that they selected the most satisfying car 60 percent of the time Other subjects who had more uninterrupted time in which to choose were pleased with their decision less than 25 percent of the time mdash worse even than random chance

In another study the same Dutch researchers shad-owed shoppers at IKEA observing their shopping behaviors Later interviews indicated that those who spent less time making their choices ended up more satisfied overall Choosing a couch and choosing a spouse are decidedly different acts to be sure but both tend to provoke the kind of agonized over-thinking that leads to poor choices Using your intuitive brain in these situations on the other hand will almost always point you toward a lasting fulfillment

Of all the reasons to use your gut instincts to make big decisions this may be the best It leads to the choices that are most fully satisfying mdash decisions that can improve the quality of your life

ldquoIt allows you to find relationships that resonate for you instead of what looks good on paperrdquo Orloff says ldquoIt allows you to connect with people on a heart level it allows you to deeply experience life instead of just letting it wash over you and it allows you to be really smart about how you make your decisionsrdquo

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Tired of Being Tired It Will Get Better by David Wolfe

All too often I get asked the question ndash ldquoWill things get betterrdquo The economy has affected nearly all of us in one way or another Some have had it worse and some have just had to tighten their financial belts a bit Many of us have had friends and possibly even family that has lost their homes and experienced extreme financial troubles Bottom line is - it has been a tough few years

The answer I always give to the above question is that of course it will get better It will take time and a lot of sacrifice but it will get better The economy is a crazy system and works in cycles We will rebound and once again resources will be plentiful The question I canrsquot answer is ldquowhenrdquo I wish the dream we all wish which is that it will go back to the way it was as quickly as possible However the truth is there are many factors that affect how quickly we rebound Some factors we can control and some are out of our individual control But ultimately sooner or later it will get better

The best thing we can do as individuals is simply be more conscious of our spending habits and spend less time worrying about what the different media stations are reporting As we turn the channel we hear a different story and yet another gloom and doom story Find the positive in your life and enjoy the pleasure it provides

As clicheacute as it sounds find a new hobby Now is the time to reinvent ourselves and potentially pursue dreams and hobbies we never took the time to enjoy before The positive side to financial times like we are experiencing is that millionaires are made in economic times like this A good idea a simple concept a new way of thinking and BOOM a million dollar idea comes to life Opportunities for investing in low dollar investments that will have high dollar returns as things rebound make for new millionaires So keep your eyes open for opportunities

No more negative thinking ndash it will get better Itrsquos up to us as individuals to make our own circumstances better Some things we can control and some we cannot Ultimately though your well being begins with the life you make for yourself Go have fun Go Bowling Paint Sing Read find your passion and ultimately it will get better

Intuitive Eating for Weight Loss

As an alternative to doomed diet regimens some weight-loss experts recommend tuning in to our own instincts But are our bodiesrsquo cravings always a good guide

It was more than a decade ago before the obesity epidemic had even peaked that nutritionists Evelyn

Tribole MS RD and Elyse Resch MS RD FADA noticed the stream of failed dieters traipsing through their offices many of them desperate for help

Aware that dieting pitfalls mdash from ravenous hunger to outright boredom mdash might be part of the problem the nutritionists gave their clients permission to indulge some cravings but nonetheless kept them on programs that limited food intake Eager to please the clients followed the meal plans and initially lost weight

But Tribole recalls ldquoSometime later we started getting calls from some of these people telling us how much they needed us again They couldnrsquot stick to the plan anymore Maybe they needed someone to monitor them Maybe they didnrsquot have enough self-control Maybe they werenrsquot any good at this and definitely they felt guilty and demoralizedrdquo

Looking around the two nutritionists saw the writing on the wall mdash and in the medical journals too Something like 95 percent of dieters fail to stick with their weight-loss programs from Weight Watchers to Atkins to Jenny Craig

Determined to find a different approach they first looked to the anti-diet movement which was just then burgeoning as a backlash to the war against obesity

ldquoThe anti-diet movement proposed a way of eating that allowed for any and all food choices without regard for nutritionrdquo Tribole explains It was a philosophy at loggerheads with literature linking excess pounds to cancer heart disease diabetes and more mdash and it ran counter to Tribolersquos and Reschrsquos own instincts

ldquoOur initial reactions were highly skepticalrdquo says Tribole ldquoHow could we as nutritionists trained to look at the connections between nutrition and health sanction a way of eating that seemed to reject the very foundation of our knowledge and philosophyrdquo

Eventually Tribole and Resch determined that they could resolve the conflict by hammering out a compromise of sorts They called it ldquoIntuitive Eatingrdquo

mdash a nutritional strategy that rejected dieting in favor of psychological awareness In particular it emphasized the importance of increasing clientsrsquo sensitivity to internal signals of hunger and fullness and helping them develop a greater attunement to the physiological effects of the foods they ate

Described in their influential book Intuitive Eating A Revolutionary Program That Works (St Martinrsquos Griffin 2003) the system taught users to distinguish between physical hunger and emotional need and to trust that natural urges would deliver better health and balance than any diet could

The concepts were controversial Clients in Tribole and Reschrsquos intuitive eating program were free

to eat as much as they wanted and to indulge their cravings for food While diets were all about restriction mdash calorie counting weigh-ins denial of pleasure mdash intuitive eating gave permission to eat anything A slice of cake A pizza party It was all allowed

But can a system so permissive really keep weight down To some extent the jury is still out Expert opinion has been mixed Intuitive eating clearly doesnrsquot work for everyone Yet thousands of people report losing weight based on intuitive eating and in recent years peer-reviewed studies have supported the claims

Not only did intuitive eaters in recent studies have lower cholesterol less diabetes healthier hearts better levels of fitness and lower body mass index (BMI) they achieved all that without the psychological stress and self-loathing that dieting can bring on

According to Tracy Tylka PhD a psychologist at Ohio State University whose research has lent rigor to the field the women participating in her intuitive-eating study were ldquomore likely to reject the societal stereotype that thinness is their ideal body typerdquo and were ldquoless likely to base their self-worth on being thinrdquo

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

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Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

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A few years back two sci-entists at the University of Iowa conducted an

experiment in which research sub-jects played a game of chance with four separate card decks and stacks of play money Each card indicated whether the player had won or lost money and the goal for the player was to draw as many cash-delivering cards as possible What the players didnrsquot know is that the decks had been rigged Two of them had been stacked so they yielded high rewards but punishing losses while the other

two offered smaller rewards and virtu-ally no losses It took most players about 50 cards be-fore they started to favor the safer decks and about 80 cards before they could explain why they did so

Herersquos the curious part (and am-ateur gamblers should take note) Sensors attached to the playersrsquo skin showed that after only 10 cards a playerrsquos hand would get sweaty and nervous when it reached for the risky decks ldquoAlthough the subject still had little inkling of which card piles were the most lucrative [his] emotions knew which decks were dangerousrdquo writes Wired contribut-ing editor Jonah Lehrer in How We Decide (Houghton Mifflin 2009) ldquoThe subjectrsquos feelings figured out the game firstrdquo

Most of us have experienced the sense of knowing things before we know them even if we canrsquot explain how You hesitate at a green light and miss getting hit by a speeding truck You decide on a whim to break your no-blind-dates policy and wind up meeting your life partner You have a hunch that you should invest in a little online startup and it becomes Google

The quirky urge A funny tingle That little voice in your head These are your gut feelings talking But what are they telling you and should you listen Herersquos how to make the most of your own innate wisdom

5 Gut Instincts You Shouldnrsquot IgnoreBy Courtney Helgoe

If only you could tap into those insights more of-ten right Turns out you can especially if you learn to identify which signals to focus on mdash whether theyrsquore sweaty palms a funny feeling in your stomach or a sudden and inexplicable certainty that something is up

According to many researchers intuition is far more material than it seems Hope College social psy-chologist David Myers PhD explains that the intuitive right brain is almost always ldquoreadingrdquo your surround-ings even when your conscious left brain is otherwise engaged The body can register this information while the conscious mind remains blissfully unaware of whatrsquos going onrsquo

Another theory suggests you can ldquofeelrdquo approach-ing events specifically because of your dopamine neu-rons ldquoThe jitters of dopamine help keep track of real-ity alerting us to those subtle patterns that we canrsquot consciously detectrdquo Lehrer notes

This means if something in the environment is even slightly irregular mdash the speed of an approaching truck the slightly unusual behavior of someone at a party mdash your brain squirts dopamine and you get that ldquoweirdrdquo feeling Whether you pay attention or not can make all the difference You might meet your future spouse mdash or meet your maker Those signals carry a lot of impor-tant information so itrsquos wise to listen up

Judith Orloff PhD a Los Angelesndashbased intuitive psychiatrist and author of Second Sight (Three Riv-ers Press 2010) believes the benefits of listening to your instincts go far beyond making good on life-or-death decisions ldquoLiving more intuitively demands that yoursquore in the momentrdquo she says ldquoand that makes for a more passionate liferdquo

But she also notes that gut instincts are far from in-fallible The right brainrsquos skill with pattern identifica-tion can trigger suspicions of unfamiliar (but not dan-gerous) things or cause you to be especially reactive to people who simply remind you of someone else

So how do you choose which gut feelings to trust Orloff suggests that itrsquos a matter of ldquocombining the linear mind and intuitionrdquo and striking the right bal-ance between gut instinct and rational thinking Once yoursquove noticed an intuitive hit she says you can en-gage your rational mind to weigh your choices and de-cide how best to act on them

To that end here are five gut feelings that Orloff and other experts recommend you pay attention to mdash and some reasons why yoursquoll be glad you did

ldquoSomething feels wrong in my bodyrdquo

Listening to your bodyrsquos subtle signals is a critical part of exercising your intuitive sense says Orloff who also trains UCLA

medical students and psychiatric residents to use intu-ition when treating patients

ldquoYour body is a powerful intuitive communicatorrdquo she explains in Second Sight ldquoIntuition allows you to get the first warning signs when anything is off in your body so that you can address it If you have a gut feel-ing about your body mdash that something is toxic weak or lsquooffrsquo mdash listen to it Go and get it worked uprdquo Shersquos seen too many people ignore their sense that something isnrsquot right with their bodies and subsequently find that small problems have become big ones

Physical symptoms can also have symbolic value ldquoIf yoursquore around somebody and your energy goes down thatrsquos an intuition not to ignorerdquo Orloff says Sudden sleepiness can mean that yoursquore in the pres-ence of an energy-draining person or circumstance it can be your bodyrsquos way of communicating that these conditions are taking more energy than they give If you stay in a situation that makes you feel instantly depleted (like taking a job after you left the interview feeling exhausted) it can easily lead to a situation where you become depressed anxious and mdash not sur-prisingly mdash stuck

Ronald A Alexander PhD a psychologist mind-fulness expert leadership consultant and director of the Open Mind Training Institute in Santa Monica Calif also recommends paying close attention to any sudden physical sensations you experience during the course of an interaction He tells a story of traveling in India where he decided not to get in a cab because of a ldquoburning sensationrdquo in his gut and he later saw the driver being arrested in the train station for sus-pected robbery He says he typically feels intuitions in his chest or his stomach the latter is relatively com-mon given that the intestines house the enteric nervous system sometimes called the ldquosecond brainrdquo

ldquoThat second brain really is the intuitive brainrdquo Alexander explains and he recommends that when it

speaks you listen

ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo

Jackie Larsen was leaving her Grand Marais Minn prayer-group meeting on

an April morning in 2001 when a clean-cut young man named Christopher Bono approached her asking for help He told her that he was on his way to meet friends

1

2

in Thunder Bay and his car had broken down During their brief conversation she got a visceral feeling that something was wrong accompanied by a sharp pain in her stomach She sent Bono inside to talk to the pas-tor of the church and called the police to have them trace his Illinois license plates It turned out he was the prime suspect in a gruesome crime and was fleeing the scene

Larsenrsquos brain had likely detected subtle irregulari-ties in Bonorsquos behavior ldquoMere lsquothin-slicesrsquo of some-onersquos behavior can reveal muchrdquo writes Myers who relates Larsenrsquos story in his book Intuition Its Pow-ers and Perils (Yale University Press 2002) His un-derstanding of this capacity is more socio-historical than neuroscientific he believes that the feeling you get about a person in the first 10 seconds expresses an ldquoancient biological wisdomrdquo Early humans who could speedily detect whether a stranger was friend or foe were more likely to survive he says and they would create descendents who were able to read emotional signals in another personrsquos face almost instantly

Of course the human capacity to ldquothin-slicerdquo can go badly awry as it did in the 1999 fatal police shooting of Amadou Diallo in New York City Police fired when they thought the young Guinean man was reaching for a weapon but he was actually unarmed and digging in his pocket for his identification

Because social conditioning helps to create uncon-scious beliefs and these beliefs can produce first im-pressions and snap decisions that are utterly flawed Orloff suggests that itrsquos important to check your gut feelings against your rational mind whenever possible And there are simple ways you can attend to what feels like a warning signal in the short term she says

ldquoIf you donrsquot trust somebody even if it turns out to be inaccurate it is something to pay attention tordquo she explains ldquoIf yoursquore walking down the street at night and you get the feeling lsquostay away from that personrsquo

just cross the streetrdquo

ldquoI want to helprdquo

While you might think of our gut in-stincts as something wersquove maintained

mostly to avoid danger the human species has evolved an equally powerful capacity to sense when our fellow beings need support ldquoSympathy is one of humanityrsquos most basic instincts which is why evolution lavished so much attention on the parts of the brain that help us think about what other people are feelingrdquo notes Lehrer

Since evolution has made you a quick read of other faces and their emotional signals you donrsquot always need to wait for a verbalized cue before you reach out The sympathy instinct nudges you to change the subject when wedding talk makes a newly divorced colleague cringe or to start up a conversation with a nervous seatmate during an airplane landing mdash subtle gestures that can make a big difference in someonersquos day The capacity to empathetically identify with other faces can even be what compels you to donate money after a natural disaster Studies of humanitarian relief efforts show that people are markedly more compelled to give after seeing a photo of an individual in need than after reading statistics about damage

Finally this ability to ldquoreadrdquo other faces isnrsquot just good for those you help One recent brain-imaging study suggests that generosity makes the pleasure cen-ters in the brain light up like the Las Vegas Strip When participants were given $128 of hard cash along with the choice to keep it or donate it to charity the reward centers of those who chose to donate went wild

Multiple studies have also demonstrated a phenom-enon known as the ldquohelperrsquos highrdquo which causes indi-viduals aiding others to experience improvements in mood immunity and overall well-being Thatrsquos why following your instincts for sympathy and generosity generally turns out to be a good investment in your

own health and happiness too

ldquoI know how to do thisrdquo

Basketball announcers can be mer-ciless when otherwise talented players

choke at the free-throw line but most of us can iden-tify with the playerrsquos sense of panic You might have a well-developed yoga practice with one pose that still stumps you Or maybe yoursquore a stellar driver who forgets how to parallel park whenever your intimidat-ing sister-in-law is in the car Or yoursquore a great cook who botches your favorite dish each time you make it for guests In situations like these the can-do instinct yoursquove developed through years of experience is being drowned out by an onslaught of over-thinking

ldquoChoking [among athletes] is a vivid example of the havoc that can be caused by too much thoughtrdquo Lehrer points out ldquoSuch deliberate thought processes interfere with the trained movements of their musclesrdquo

He cites a study at the University of Chicago show-ing that while novice golfers did better when they thought carefully about their putts the performance of more experienced golfers got much worse when they reflected on what they were doing

3

4

Rational thought served the beginners it turned out because they were still developing muscle memory and technique But for those players who had already integrated all that information instinct naturally took over mdash and did a far better job Overriding instincts and neural patterning in favor of logical thought abso-lutely destroyed their performance

ldquoOnce yoursquove developed expertise in a particular area mdash once yoursquove made the requisite mistakes mdash itrsquos important to trust your emotions when making deci-sions in that domainrdquo Lehrer insists If you know you can do it trust your gut mdash not your head

Next time yoursquore tempted to think too much about something you know how to do try a little therapeu-tic distraction Say the alphabet backward when your yoga teacher orders you into the dreaded handstand or sing a favorite song to yourself at the free-throw line Briefly engaging your conscious mind with something other than the task at hand can leave your instincts free to do their job mdash and free you to enjoy the satisfaction all that practice has made possible

ldquoThis is itrdquo

Most people have a great ldquoI just knew it was rightrdquo story It might be about the time they first spotted their sweetheart or

crossed the threshold of their first house or figured out they wanted to switch careers Therersquos a reason most of us have memorable stories about the biggest and best decisions we make in life says Orloff mdash theyrsquore typically remarkable for their lack of cognitive heavy lifting

When your intuition signals that yoursquove found something or someone truly right for you the choice often becomes strangely easy ldquoIt feels healthy it feels good it doesnrsquot feel like yoursquore forcing it therersquos not a lot of conflictrdquo she says

Lehrer agrees that when yoursquore poised to make a big decision with lasting repercussions like choosing your life partner yoursquore best off deciding from the gut Based on the bulk of his research into the cognitive mechanisms of decision-making he actually recom-mends that you ldquothink less about those choices that you care a lot aboutrdquo

According to Lehrer the rational mind is really suit-ed only to limited concrete choices like deciding be-tween two brands of car insurance In situations where there are just a couple of relevant factors involved the prefrontal cortex can weigh the comparative rewards of each and yield an excellent result But there are so

many factors involved in a complex decision like say buying a house that the limited space in the prefrontal cortex gets overwhelmed In that state it becomes the wrong part of the brain for the job

Several studies support the wisdom of emotional decision-making in the realm of big choices Lehrer cites one conducted at the University of Amsterdam that simulated the experience of buying a car provid-ing research subjects with overwhelming amounts of detailed information Some car buyers were briefly dis-tracted then left to choose quickly and with their emo-tions Follow-up surveys revealed that they selected the most satisfying car 60 percent of the time Other subjects who had more uninterrupted time in which to choose were pleased with their decision less than 25 percent of the time mdash worse even than random chance

In another study the same Dutch researchers shad-owed shoppers at IKEA observing their shopping behaviors Later interviews indicated that those who spent less time making their choices ended up more satisfied overall Choosing a couch and choosing a spouse are decidedly different acts to be sure but both tend to provoke the kind of agonized over-thinking that leads to poor choices Using your intuitive brain in these situations on the other hand will almost always point you toward a lasting fulfillment

Of all the reasons to use your gut instincts to make big decisions this may be the best It leads to the choices that are most fully satisfying mdash decisions that can improve the quality of your life

ldquoIt allows you to find relationships that resonate for you instead of what looks good on paperrdquo Orloff says ldquoIt allows you to connect with people on a heart level it allows you to deeply experience life instead of just letting it wash over you and it allows you to be really smart about how you make your decisionsrdquo

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Crispy Smoked Mozzarella with Honey and FigsProvided by foodnetworkcom

Ingredients6 sheets phyllo dough6 ounces smoked mozzarella cut into 6 equal piecesVegetable oil for frying8 ounces dried figs stemmed and quartered34 cup honey plus more for drizzling3 teaspoons black sesame seeds

DirectionsIn a large pot heat the vegetable oil over medium heat to 350 degrees F

Place 1 sheet of phyllo on a dry work surface Place one slice of cheese about 5 inches from the top of the narrow end of the sheet Fold the top of the narrow end over the cheese leaving 1 inch between the fold and the cheese Next fold over 1 of the long sides then the other again leaving 1-inch between the folds and the cheese Then fold the cheese over again leaving 1-inch between the fold and the cheese Continue folding to make a package about 3 12 by 4-inches Continue with the remaining pieces of cheese and phyllo

Fry the phyllo and cheese packages 2 or 3 at a time in the oil until golden about 2 minutes per side Drain on a baking sheet lined with paper towels

Meanwhile heat the figs and honey in a small saucepan over low heat until the honey is warm Set aside until the cheese packages have finished frying

To serve place 1 cheese package on a plate Spoon some figs and drizzle some honey over the top of each cheese package Sprinkle with black sesame seeds and serve immediately

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Tired of Being Tired It Will Get Better by David Wolfe

All too often I get asked the question ndash ldquoWill things get betterrdquo The economy has affected nearly all of us in one way or another Some have had it worse and some have just had to tighten their financial belts a bit Many of us have had friends and possibly even family that has lost their homes and experienced extreme financial troubles Bottom line is - it has been a tough few years

The answer I always give to the above question is that of course it will get better It will take time and a lot of sacrifice but it will get better The economy is a crazy system and works in cycles We will rebound and once again resources will be plentiful The question I canrsquot answer is ldquowhenrdquo I wish the dream we all wish which is that it will go back to the way it was as quickly as possible However the truth is there are many factors that affect how quickly we rebound Some factors we can control and some are out of our individual control But ultimately sooner or later it will get better

The best thing we can do as individuals is simply be more conscious of our spending habits and spend less time worrying about what the different media stations are reporting As we turn the channel we hear a different story and yet another gloom and doom story Find the positive in your life and enjoy the pleasure it provides

As clicheacute as it sounds find a new hobby Now is the time to reinvent ourselves and potentially pursue dreams and hobbies we never took the time to enjoy before The positive side to financial times like we are experiencing is that millionaires are made in economic times like this A good idea a simple concept a new way of thinking and BOOM a million dollar idea comes to life Opportunities for investing in low dollar investments that will have high dollar returns as things rebound make for new millionaires So keep your eyes open for opportunities

No more negative thinking ndash it will get better Itrsquos up to us as individuals to make our own circumstances better Some things we can control and some we cannot Ultimately though your well being begins with the life you make for yourself Go have fun Go Bowling Paint Sing Read find your passion and ultimately it will get better

Intuitive Eating for Weight Loss

As an alternative to doomed diet regimens some weight-loss experts recommend tuning in to our own instincts But are our bodiesrsquo cravings always a good guide

It was more than a decade ago before the obesity epidemic had even peaked that nutritionists Evelyn

Tribole MS RD and Elyse Resch MS RD FADA noticed the stream of failed dieters traipsing through their offices many of them desperate for help

Aware that dieting pitfalls mdash from ravenous hunger to outright boredom mdash might be part of the problem the nutritionists gave their clients permission to indulge some cravings but nonetheless kept them on programs that limited food intake Eager to please the clients followed the meal plans and initially lost weight

But Tribole recalls ldquoSometime later we started getting calls from some of these people telling us how much they needed us again They couldnrsquot stick to the plan anymore Maybe they needed someone to monitor them Maybe they didnrsquot have enough self-control Maybe they werenrsquot any good at this and definitely they felt guilty and demoralizedrdquo

Looking around the two nutritionists saw the writing on the wall mdash and in the medical journals too Something like 95 percent of dieters fail to stick with their weight-loss programs from Weight Watchers to Atkins to Jenny Craig

Determined to find a different approach they first looked to the anti-diet movement which was just then burgeoning as a backlash to the war against obesity

ldquoThe anti-diet movement proposed a way of eating that allowed for any and all food choices without regard for nutritionrdquo Tribole explains It was a philosophy at loggerheads with literature linking excess pounds to cancer heart disease diabetes and more mdash and it ran counter to Tribolersquos and Reschrsquos own instincts

ldquoOur initial reactions were highly skepticalrdquo says Tribole ldquoHow could we as nutritionists trained to look at the connections between nutrition and health sanction a way of eating that seemed to reject the very foundation of our knowledge and philosophyrdquo

Eventually Tribole and Resch determined that they could resolve the conflict by hammering out a compromise of sorts They called it ldquoIntuitive Eatingrdquo

mdash a nutritional strategy that rejected dieting in favor of psychological awareness In particular it emphasized the importance of increasing clientsrsquo sensitivity to internal signals of hunger and fullness and helping them develop a greater attunement to the physiological effects of the foods they ate

Described in their influential book Intuitive Eating A Revolutionary Program That Works (St Martinrsquos Griffin 2003) the system taught users to distinguish between physical hunger and emotional need and to trust that natural urges would deliver better health and balance than any diet could

The concepts were controversial Clients in Tribole and Reschrsquos intuitive eating program were free

to eat as much as they wanted and to indulge their cravings for food While diets were all about restriction mdash calorie counting weigh-ins denial of pleasure mdash intuitive eating gave permission to eat anything A slice of cake A pizza party It was all allowed

But can a system so permissive really keep weight down To some extent the jury is still out Expert opinion has been mixed Intuitive eating clearly doesnrsquot work for everyone Yet thousands of people report losing weight based on intuitive eating and in recent years peer-reviewed studies have supported the claims

Not only did intuitive eaters in recent studies have lower cholesterol less diabetes healthier hearts better levels of fitness and lower body mass index (BMI) they achieved all that without the psychological stress and self-loathing that dieting can bring on

According to Tracy Tylka PhD a psychologist at Ohio State University whose research has lent rigor to the field the women participating in her intuitive-eating study were ldquomore likely to reject the societal stereotype that thinness is their ideal body typerdquo and were ldquoless likely to base their self-worth on being thinrdquo

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

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Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

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If only you could tap into those insights more of-ten right Turns out you can especially if you learn to identify which signals to focus on mdash whether theyrsquore sweaty palms a funny feeling in your stomach or a sudden and inexplicable certainty that something is up

According to many researchers intuition is far more material than it seems Hope College social psy-chologist David Myers PhD explains that the intuitive right brain is almost always ldquoreadingrdquo your surround-ings even when your conscious left brain is otherwise engaged The body can register this information while the conscious mind remains blissfully unaware of whatrsquos going onrsquo

Another theory suggests you can ldquofeelrdquo approach-ing events specifically because of your dopamine neu-rons ldquoThe jitters of dopamine help keep track of real-ity alerting us to those subtle patterns that we canrsquot consciously detectrdquo Lehrer notes

This means if something in the environment is even slightly irregular mdash the speed of an approaching truck the slightly unusual behavior of someone at a party mdash your brain squirts dopamine and you get that ldquoweirdrdquo feeling Whether you pay attention or not can make all the difference You might meet your future spouse mdash or meet your maker Those signals carry a lot of impor-tant information so itrsquos wise to listen up

Judith Orloff PhD a Los Angelesndashbased intuitive psychiatrist and author of Second Sight (Three Riv-ers Press 2010) believes the benefits of listening to your instincts go far beyond making good on life-or-death decisions ldquoLiving more intuitively demands that yoursquore in the momentrdquo she says ldquoand that makes for a more passionate liferdquo

But she also notes that gut instincts are far from in-fallible The right brainrsquos skill with pattern identifica-tion can trigger suspicions of unfamiliar (but not dan-gerous) things or cause you to be especially reactive to people who simply remind you of someone else

So how do you choose which gut feelings to trust Orloff suggests that itrsquos a matter of ldquocombining the linear mind and intuitionrdquo and striking the right bal-ance between gut instinct and rational thinking Once yoursquove noticed an intuitive hit she says you can en-gage your rational mind to weigh your choices and de-cide how best to act on them

To that end here are five gut feelings that Orloff and other experts recommend you pay attention to mdash and some reasons why yoursquoll be glad you did

ldquoSomething feels wrong in my bodyrdquo

Listening to your bodyrsquos subtle signals is a critical part of exercising your intuitive sense says Orloff who also trains UCLA

medical students and psychiatric residents to use intu-ition when treating patients

ldquoYour body is a powerful intuitive communicatorrdquo she explains in Second Sight ldquoIntuition allows you to get the first warning signs when anything is off in your body so that you can address it If you have a gut feel-ing about your body mdash that something is toxic weak or lsquooffrsquo mdash listen to it Go and get it worked uprdquo Shersquos seen too many people ignore their sense that something isnrsquot right with their bodies and subsequently find that small problems have become big ones

Physical symptoms can also have symbolic value ldquoIf yoursquore around somebody and your energy goes down thatrsquos an intuition not to ignorerdquo Orloff says Sudden sleepiness can mean that yoursquore in the pres-ence of an energy-draining person or circumstance it can be your bodyrsquos way of communicating that these conditions are taking more energy than they give If you stay in a situation that makes you feel instantly depleted (like taking a job after you left the interview feeling exhausted) it can easily lead to a situation where you become depressed anxious and mdash not sur-prisingly mdash stuck

Ronald A Alexander PhD a psychologist mind-fulness expert leadership consultant and director of the Open Mind Training Institute in Santa Monica Calif also recommends paying close attention to any sudden physical sensations you experience during the course of an interaction He tells a story of traveling in India where he decided not to get in a cab because of a ldquoburning sensationrdquo in his gut and he later saw the driver being arrested in the train station for sus-pected robbery He says he typically feels intuitions in his chest or his stomach the latter is relatively com-mon given that the intestines house the enteric nervous system sometimes called the ldquosecond brainrdquo

ldquoThat second brain really is the intuitive brainrdquo Alexander explains and he recommends that when it

speaks you listen

ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo

Jackie Larsen was leaving her Grand Marais Minn prayer-group meeting on

an April morning in 2001 when a clean-cut young man named Christopher Bono approached her asking for help He told her that he was on his way to meet friends

1

2

in Thunder Bay and his car had broken down During their brief conversation she got a visceral feeling that something was wrong accompanied by a sharp pain in her stomach She sent Bono inside to talk to the pas-tor of the church and called the police to have them trace his Illinois license plates It turned out he was the prime suspect in a gruesome crime and was fleeing the scene

Larsenrsquos brain had likely detected subtle irregulari-ties in Bonorsquos behavior ldquoMere lsquothin-slicesrsquo of some-onersquos behavior can reveal muchrdquo writes Myers who relates Larsenrsquos story in his book Intuition Its Pow-ers and Perils (Yale University Press 2002) His un-derstanding of this capacity is more socio-historical than neuroscientific he believes that the feeling you get about a person in the first 10 seconds expresses an ldquoancient biological wisdomrdquo Early humans who could speedily detect whether a stranger was friend or foe were more likely to survive he says and they would create descendents who were able to read emotional signals in another personrsquos face almost instantly

Of course the human capacity to ldquothin-slicerdquo can go badly awry as it did in the 1999 fatal police shooting of Amadou Diallo in New York City Police fired when they thought the young Guinean man was reaching for a weapon but he was actually unarmed and digging in his pocket for his identification

Because social conditioning helps to create uncon-scious beliefs and these beliefs can produce first im-pressions and snap decisions that are utterly flawed Orloff suggests that itrsquos important to check your gut feelings against your rational mind whenever possible And there are simple ways you can attend to what feels like a warning signal in the short term she says

ldquoIf you donrsquot trust somebody even if it turns out to be inaccurate it is something to pay attention tordquo she explains ldquoIf yoursquore walking down the street at night and you get the feeling lsquostay away from that personrsquo

just cross the streetrdquo

ldquoI want to helprdquo

While you might think of our gut in-stincts as something wersquove maintained

mostly to avoid danger the human species has evolved an equally powerful capacity to sense when our fellow beings need support ldquoSympathy is one of humanityrsquos most basic instincts which is why evolution lavished so much attention on the parts of the brain that help us think about what other people are feelingrdquo notes Lehrer

Since evolution has made you a quick read of other faces and their emotional signals you donrsquot always need to wait for a verbalized cue before you reach out The sympathy instinct nudges you to change the subject when wedding talk makes a newly divorced colleague cringe or to start up a conversation with a nervous seatmate during an airplane landing mdash subtle gestures that can make a big difference in someonersquos day The capacity to empathetically identify with other faces can even be what compels you to donate money after a natural disaster Studies of humanitarian relief efforts show that people are markedly more compelled to give after seeing a photo of an individual in need than after reading statistics about damage

Finally this ability to ldquoreadrdquo other faces isnrsquot just good for those you help One recent brain-imaging study suggests that generosity makes the pleasure cen-ters in the brain light up like the Las Vegas Strip When participants were given $128 of hard cash along with the choice to keep it or donate it to charity the reward centers of those who chose to donate went wild

Multiple studies have also demonstrated a phenom-enon known as the ldquohelperrsquos highrdquo which causes indi-viduals aiding others to experience improvements in mood immunity and overall well-being Thatrsquos why following your instincts for sympathy and generosity generally turns out to be a good investment in your

own health and happiness too

ldquoI know how to do thisrdquo

Basketball announcers can be mer-ciless when otherwise talented players

choke at the free-throw line but most of us can iden-tify with the playerrsquos sense of panic You might have a well-developed yoga practice with one pose that still stumps you Or maybe yoursquore a stellar driver who forgets how to parallel park whenever your intimidat-ing sister-in-law is in the car Or yoursquore a great cook who botches your favorite dish each time you make it for guests In situations like these the can-do instinct yoursquove developed through years of experience is being drowned out by an onslaught of over-thinking

ldquoChoking [among athletes] is a vivid example of the havoc that can be caused by too much thoughtrdquo Lehrer points out ldquoSuch deliberate thought processes interfere with the trained movements of their musclesrdquo

He cites a study at the University of Chicago show-ing that while novice golfers did better when they thought carefully about their putts the performance of more experienced golfers got much worse when they reflected on what they were doing

3

4

Rational thought served the beginners it turned out because they were still developing muscle memory and technique But for those players who had already integrated all that information instinct naturally took over mdash and did a far better job Overriding instincts and neural patterning in favor of logical thought abso-lutely destroyed their performance

ldquoOnce yoursquove developed expertise in a particular area mdash once yoursquove made the requisite mistakes mdash itrsquos important to trust your emotions when making deci-sions in that domainrdquo Lehrer insists If you know you can do it trust your gut mdash not your head

Next time yoursquore tempted to think too much about something you know how to do try a little therapeu-tic distraction Say the alphabet backward when your yoga teacher orders you into the dreaded handstand or sing a favorite song to yourself at the free-throw line Briefly engaging your conscious mind with something other than the task at hand can leave your instincts free to do their job mdash and free you to enjoy the satisfaction all that practice has made possible

ldquoThis is itrdquo

Most people have a great ldquoI just knew it was rightrdquo story It might be about the time they first spotted their sweetheart or

crossed the threshold of their first house or figured out they wanted to switch careers Therersquos a reason most of us have memorable stories about the biggest and best decisions we make in life says Orloff mdash theyrsquore typically remarkable for their lack of cognitive heavy lifting

When your intuition signals that yoursquove found something or someone truly right for you the choice often becomes strangely easy ldquoIt feels healthy it feels good it doesnrsquot feel like yoursquore forcing it therersquos not a lot of conflictrdquo she says

Lehrer agrees that when yoursquore poised to make a big decision with lasting repercussions like choosing your life partner yoursquore best off deciding from the gut Based on the bulk of his research into the cognitive mechanisms of decision-making he actually recom-mends that you ldquothink less about those choices that you care a lot aboutrdquo

According to Lehrer the rational mind is really suit-ed only to limited concrete choices like deciding be-tween two brands of car insurance In situations where there are just a couple of relevant factors involved the prefrontal cortex can weigh the comparative rewards of each and yield an excellent result But there are so

many factors involved in a complex decision like say buying a house that the limited space in the prefrontal cortex gets overwhelmed In that state it becomes the wrong part of the brain for the job

Several studies support the wisdom of emotional decision-making in the realm of big choices Lehrer cites one conducted at the University of Amsterdam that simulated the experience of buying a car provid-ing research subjects with overwhelming amounts of detailed information Some car buyers were briefly dis-tracted then left to choose quickly and with their emo-tions Follow-up surveys revealed that they selected the most satisfying car 60 percent of the time Other subjects who had more uninterrupted time in which to choose were pleased with their decision less than 25 percent of the time mdash worse even than random chance

In another study the same Dutch researchers shad-owed shoppers at IKEA observing their shopping behaviors Later interviews indicated that those who spent less time making their choices ended up more satisfied overall Choosing a couch and choosing a spouse are decidedly different acts to be sure but both tend to provoke the kind of agonized over-thinking that leads to poor choices Using your intuitive brain in these situations on the other hand will almost always point you toward a lasting fulfillment

Of all the reasons to use your gut instincts to make big decisions this may be the best It leads to the choices that are most fully satisfying mdash decisions that can improve the quality of your life

ldquoIt allows you to find relationships that resonate for you instead of what looks good on paperrdquo Orloff says ldquoIt allows you to connect with people on a heart level it allows you to deeply experience life instead of just letting it wash over you and it allows you to be really smart about how you make your decisionsrdquo

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Crispy Smoked Mozzarella with Honey and FigsProvided by foodnetworkcom

Ingredients6 sheets phyllo dough6 ounces smoked mozzarella cut into 6 equal piecesVegetable oil for frying8 ounces dried figs stemmed and quartered34 cup honey plus more for drizzling3 teaspoons black sesame seeds

DirectionsIn a large pot heat the vegetable oil over medium heat to 350 degrees F

Place 1 sheet of phyllo on a dry work surface Place one slice of cheese about 5 inches from the top of the narrow end of the sheet Fold the top of the narrow end over the cheese leaving 1 inch between the fold and the cheese Next fold over 1 of the long sides then the other again leaving 1-inch between the folds and the cheese Then fold the cheese over again leaving 1-inch between the fold and the cheese Continue folding to make a package about 3 12 by 4-inches Continue with the remaining pieces of cheese and phyllo

Fry the phyllo and cheese packages 2 or 3 at a time in the oil until golden about 2 minutes per side Drain on a baking sheet lined with paper towels

Meanwhile heat the figs and honey in a small saucepan over low heat until the honey is warm Set aside until the cheese packages have finished frying

To serve place 1 cheese package on a plate Spoon some figs and drizzle some honey over the top of each cheese package Sprinkle with black sesame seeds and serve immediately

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Tired of Being Tired It Will Get Better by David Wolfe

All too often I get asked the question ndash ldquoWill things get betterrdquo The economy has affected nearly all of us in one way or another Some have had it worse and some have just had to tighten their financial belts a bit Many of us have had friends and possibly even family that has lost their homes and experienced extreme financial troubles Bottom line is - it has been a tough few years

The answer I always give to the above question is that of course it will get better It will take time and a lot of sacrifice but it will get better The economy is a crazy system and works in cycles We will rebound and once again resources will be plentiful The question I canrsquot answer is ldquowhenrdquo I wish the dream we all wish which is that it will go back to the way it was as quickly as possible However the truth is there are many factors that affect how quickly we rebound Some factors we can control and some are out of our individual control But ultimately sooner or later it will get better

The best thing we can do as individuals is simply be more conscious of our spending habits and spend less time worrying about what the different media stations are reporting As we turn the channel we hear a different story and yet another gloom and doom story Find the positive in your life and enjoy the pleasure it provides

As clicheacute as it sounds find a new hobby Now is the time to reinvent ourselves and potentially pursue dreams and hobbies we never took the time to enjoy before The positive side to financial times like we are experiencing is that millionaires are made in economic times like this A good idea a simple concept a new way of thinking and BOOM a million dollar idea comes to life Opportunities for investing in low dollar investments that will have high dollar returns as things rebound make for new millionaires So keep your eyes open for opportunities

No more negative thinking ndash it will get better Itrsquos up to us as individuals to make our own circumstances better Some things we can control and some we cannot Ultimately though your well being begins with the life you make for yourself Go have fun Go Bowling Paint Sing Read find your passion and ultimately it will get better

Intuitive Eating for Weight Loss

As an alternative to doomed diet regimens some weight-loss experts recommend tuning in to our own instincts But are our bodiesrsquo cravings always a good guide

It was more than a decade ago before the obesity epidemic had even peaked that nutritionists Evelyn

Tribole MS RD and Elyse Resch MS RD FADA noticed the stream of failed dieters traipsing through their offices many of them desperate for help

Aware that dieting pitfalls mdash from ravenous hunger to outright boredom mdash might be part of the problem the nutritionists gave their clients permission to indulge some cravings but nonetheless kept them on programs that limited food intake Eager to please the clients followed the meal plans and initially lost weight

But Tribole recalls ldquoSometime later we started getting calls from some of these people telling us how much they needed us again They couldnrsquot stick to the plan anymore Maybe they needed someone to monitor them Maybe they didnrsquot have enough self-control Maybe they werenrsquot any good at this and definitely they felt guilty and demoralizedrdquo

Looking around the two nutritionists saw the writing on the wall mdash and in the medical journals too Something like 95 percent of dieters fail to stick with their weight-loss programs from Weight Watchers to Atkins to Jenny Craig

Determined to find a different approach they first looked to the anti-diet movement which was just then burgeoning as a backlash to the war against obesity

ldquoThe anti-diet movement proposed a way of eating that allowed for any and all food choices without regard for nutritionrdquo Tribole explains It was a philosophy at loggerheads with literature linking excess pounds to cancer heart disease diabetes and more mdash and it ran counter to Tribolersquos and Reschrsquos own instincts

ldquoOur initial reactions were highly skepticalrdquo says Tribole ldquoHow could we as nutritionists trained to look at the connections between nutrition and health sanction a way of eating that seemed to reject the very foundation of our knowledge and philosophyrdquo

Eventually Tribole and Resch determined that they could resolve the conflict by hammering out a compromise of sorts They called it ldquoIntuitive Eatingrdquo

mdash a nutritional strategy that rejected dieting in favor of psychological awareness In particular it emphasized the importance of increasing clientsrsquo sensitivity to internal signals of hunger and fullness and helping them develop a greater attunement to the physiological effects of the foods they ate

Described in their influential book Intuitive Eating A Revolutionary Program That Works (St Martinrsquos Griffin 2003) the system taught users to distinguish between physical hunger and emotional need and to trust that natural urges would deliver better health and balance than any diet could

The concepts were controversial Clients in Tribole and Reschrsquos intuitive eating program were free

to eat as much as they wanted and to indulge their cravings for food While diets were all about restriction mdash calorie counting weigh-ins denial of pleasure mdash intuitive eating gave permission to eat anything A slice of cake A pizza party It was all allowed

But can a system so permissive really keep weight down To some extent the jury is still out Expert opinion has been mixed Intuitive eating clearly doesnrsquot work for everyone Yet thousands of people report losing weight based on intuitive eating and in recent years peer-reviewed studies have supported the claims

Not only did intuitive eaters in recent studies have lower cholesterol less diabetes healthier hearts better levels of fitness and lower body mass index (BMI) they achieved all that without the psychological stress and self-loathing that dieting can bring on

According to Tracy Tylka PhD a psychologist at Ohio State University whose research has lent rigor to the field the women participating in her intuitive-eating study were ldquomore likely to reject the societal stereotype that thinness is their ideal body typerdquo and were ldquoless likely to base their self-worth on being thinrdquo

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

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Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

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in Thunder Bay and his car had broken down During their brief conversation she got a visceral feeling that something was wrong accompanied by a sharp pain in her stomach She sent Bono inside to talk to the pas-tor of the church and called the police to have them trace his Illinois license plates It turned out he was the prime suspect in a gruesome crime and was fleeing the scene

Larsenrsquos brain had likely detected subtle irregulari-ties in Bonorsquos behavior ldquoMere lsquothin-slicesrsquo of some-onersquos behavior can reveal muchrdquo writes Myers who relates Larsenrsquos story in his book Intuition Its Pow-ers and Perils (Yale University Press 2002) His un-derstanding of this capacity is more socio-historical than neuroscientific he believes that the feeling you get about a person in the first 10 seconds expresses an ldquoancient biological wisdomrdquo Early humans who could speedily detect whether a stranger was friend or foe were more likely to survive he says and they would create descendents who were able to read emotional signals in another personrsquos face almost instantly

Of course the human capacity to ldquothin-slicerdquo can go badly awry as it did in the 1999 fatal police shooting of Amadou Diallo in New York City Police fired when they thought the young Guinean man was reaching for a weapon but he was actually unarmed and digging in his pocket for his identification

Because social conditioning helps to create uncon-scious beliefs and these beliefs can produce first im-pressions and snap decisions that are utterly flawed Orloff suggests that itrsquos important to check your gut feelings against your rational mind whenever possible And there are simple ways you can attend to what feels like a warning signal in the short term she says

ldquoIf you donrsquot trust somebody even if it turns out to be inaccurate it is something to pay attention tordquo she explains ldquoIf yoursquore walking down the street at night and you get the feeling lsquostay away from that personrsquo

just cross the streetrdquo

ldquoI want to helprdquo

While you might think of our gut in-stincts as something wersquove maintained

mostly to avoid danger the human species has evolved an equally powerful capacity to sense when our fellow beings need support ldquoSympathy is one of humanityrsquos most basic instincts which is why evolution lavished so much attention on the parts of the brain that help us think about what other people are feelingrdquo notes Lehrer

Since evolution has made you a quick read of other faces and their emotional signals you donrsquot always need to wait for a verbalized cue before you reach out The sympathy instinct nudges you to change the subject when wedding talk makes a newly divorced colleague cringe or to start up a conversation with a nervous seatmate during an airplane landing mdash subtle gestures that can make a big difference in someonersquos day The capacity to empathetically identify with other faces can even be what compels you to donate money after a natural disaster Studies of humanitarian relief efforts show that people are markedly more compelled to give after seeing a photo of an individual in need than after reading statistics about damage

Finally this ability to ldquoreadrdquo other faces isnrsquot just good for those you help One recent brain-imaging study suggests that generosity makes the pleasure cen-ters in the brain light up like the Las Vegas Strip When participants were given $128 of hard cash along with the choice to keep it or donate it to charity the reward centers of those who chose to donate went wild

Multiple studies have also demonstrated a phenom-enon known as the ldquohelperrsquos highrdquo which causes indi-viduals aiding others to experience improvements in mood immunity and overall well-being Thatrsquos why following your instincts for sympathy and generosity generally turns out to be a good investment in your

own health and happiness too

ldquoI know how to do thisrdquo

Basketball announcers can be mer-ciless when otherwise talented players

choke at the free-throw line but most of us can iden-tify with the playerrsquos sense of panic You might have a well-developed yoga practice with one pose that still stumps you Or maybe yoursquore a stellar driver who forgets how to parallel park whenever your intimidat-ing sister-in-law is in the car Or yoursquore a great cook who botches your favorite dish each time you make it for guests In situations like these the can-do instinct yoursquove developed through years of experience is being drowned out by an onslaught of over-thinking

ldquoChoking [among athletes] is a vivid example of the havoc that can be caused by too much thoughtrdquo Lehrer points out ldquoSuch deliberate thought processes interfere with the trained movements of their musclesrdquo

He cites a study at the University of Chicago show-ing that while novice golfers did better when they thought carefully about their putts the performance of more experienced golfers got much worse when they reflected on what they were doing

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Rational thought served the beginners it turned out because they were still developing muscle memory and technique But for those players who had already integrated all that information instinct naturally took over mdash and did a far better job Overriding instincts and neural patterning in favor of logical thought abso-lutely destroyed their performance

ldquoOnce yoursquove developed expertise in a particular area mdash once yoursquove made the requisite mistakes mdash itrsquos important to trust your emotions when making deci-sions in that domainrdquo Lehrer insists If you know you can do it trust your gut mdash not your head

Next time yoursquore tempted to think too much about something you know how to do try a little therapeu-tic distraction Say the alphabet backward when your yoga teacher orders you into the dreaded handstand or sing a favorite song to yourself at the free-throw line Briefly engaging your conscious mind with something other than the task at hand can leave your instincts free to do their job mdash and free you to enjoy the satisfaction all that practice has made possible

ldquoThis is itrdquo

Most people have a great ldquoI just knew it was rightrdquo story It might be about the time they first spotted their sweetheart or

crossed the threshold of their first house or figured out they wanted to switch careers Therersquos a reason most of us have memorable stories about the biggest and best decisions we make in life says Orloff mdash theyrsquore typically remarkable for their lack of cognitive heavy lifting

When your intuition signals that yoursquove found something or someone truly right for you the choice often becomes strangely easy ldquoIt feels healthy it feels good it doesnrsquot feel like yoursquore forcing it therersquos not a lot of conflictrdquo she says

Lehrer agrees that when yoursquore poised to make a big decision with lasting repercussions like choosing your life partner yoursquore best off deciding from the gut Based on the bulk of his research into the cognitive mechanisms of decision-making he actually recom-mends that you ldquothink less about those choices that you care a lot aboutrdquo

According to Lehrer the rational mind is really suit-ed only to limited concrete choices like deciding be-tween two brands of car insurance In situations where there are just a couple of relevant factors involved the prefrontal cortex can weigh the comparative rewards of each and yield an excellent result But there are so

many factors involved in a complex decision like say buying a house that the limited space in the prefrontal cortex gets overwhelmed In that state it becomes the wrong part of the brain for the job

Several studies support the wisdom of emotional decision-making in the realm of big choices Lehrer cites one conducted at the University of Amsterdam that simulated the experience of buying a car provid-ing research subjects with overwhelming amounts of detailed information Some car buyers were briefly dis-tracted then left to choose quickly and with their emo-tions Follow-up surveys revealed that they selected the most satisfying car 60 percent of the time Other subjects who had more uninterrupted time in which to choose were pleased with their decision less than 25 percent of the time mdash worse even than random chance

In another study the same Dutch researchers shad-owed shoppers at IKEA observing their shopping behaviors Later interviews indicated that those who spent less time making their choices ended up more satisfied overall Choosing a couch and choosing a spouse are decidedly different acts to be sure but both tend to provoke the kind of agonized over-thinking that leads to poor choices Using your intuitive brain in these situations on the other hand will almost always point you toward a lasting fulfillment

Of all the reasons to use your gut instincts to make big decisions this may be the best It leads to the choices that are most fully satisfying mdash decisions that can improve the quality of your life

ldquoIt allows you to find relationships that resonate for you instead of what looks good on paperrdquo Orloff says ldquoIt allows you to connect with people on a heart level it allows you to deeply experience life instead of just letting it wash over you and it allows you to be really smart about how you make your decisionsrdquo

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Crispy Smoked Mozzarella with Honey and FigsProvided by foodnetworkcom

Ingredients6 sheets phyllo dough6 ounces smoked mozzarella cut into 6 equal piecesVegetable oil for frying8 ounces dried figs stemmed and quartered34 cup honey plus more for drizzling3 teaspoons black sesame seeds

DirectionsIn a large pot heat the vegetable oil over medium heat to 350 degrees F

Place 1 sheet of phyllo on a dry work surface Place one slice of cheese about 5 inches from the top of the narrow end of the sheet Fold the top of the narrow end over the cheese leaving 1 inch between the fold and the cheese Next fold over 1 of the long sides then the other again leaving 1-inch between the folds and the cheese Then fold the cheese over again leaving 1-inch between the fold and the cheese Continue folding to make a package about 3 12 by 4-inches Continue with the remaining pieces of cheese and phyllo

Fry the phyllo and cheese packages 2 or 3 at a time in the oil until golden about 2 minutes per side Drain on a baking sheet lined with paper towels

Meanwhile heat the figs and honey in a small saucepan over low heat until the honey is warm Set aside until the cheese packages have finished frying

To serve place 1 cheese package on a plate Spoon some figs and drizzle some honey over the top of each cheese package Sprinkle with black sesame seeds and serve immediately

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Tired of Being Tired It Will Get Better by David Wolfe

All too often I get asked the question ndash ldquoWill things get betterrdquo The economy has affected nearly all of us in one way or another Some have had it worse and some have just had to tighten their financial belts a bit Many of us have had friends and possibly even family that has lost their homes and experienced extreme financial troubles Bottom line is - it has been a tough few years

The answer I always give to the above question is that of course it will get better It will take time and a lot of sacrifice but it will get better The economy is a crazy system and works in cycles We will rebound and once again resources will be plentiful The question I canrsquot answer is ldquowhenrdquo I wish the dream we all wish which is that it will go back to the way it was as quickly as possible However the truth is there are many factors that affect how quickly we rebound Some factors we can control and some are out of our individual control But ultimately sooner or later it will get better

The best thing we can do as individuals is simply be more conscious of our spending habits and spend less time worrying about what the different media stations are reporting As we turn the channel we hear a different story and yet another gloom and doom story Find the positive in your life and enjoy the pleasure it provides

As clicheacute as it sounds find a new hobby Now is the time to reinvent ourselves and potentially pursue dreams and hobbies we never took the time to enjoy before The positive side to financial times like we are experiencing is that millionaires are made in economic times like this A good idea a simple concept a new way of thinking and BOOM a million dollar idea comes to life Opportunities for investing in low dollar investments that will have high dollar returns as things rebound make for new millionaires So keep your eyes open for opportunities

No more negative thinking ndash it will get better Itrsquos up to us as individuals to make our own circumstances better Some things we can control and some we cannot Ultimately though your well being begins with the life you make for yourself Go have fun Go Bowling Paint Sing Read find your passion and ultimately it will get better

Intuitive Eating for Weight Loss

As an alternative to doomed diet regimens some weight-loss experts recommend tuning in to our own instincts But are our bodiesrsquo cravings always a good guide

It was more than a decade ago before the obesity epidemic had even peaked that nutritionists Evelyn

Tribole MS RD and Elyse Resch MS RD FADA noticed the stream of failed dieters traipsing through their offices many of them desperate for help

Aware that dieting pitfalls mdash from ravenous hunger to outright boredom mdash might be part of the problem the nutritionists gave their clients permission to indulge some cravings but nonetheless kept them on programs that limited food intake Eager to please the clients followed the meal plans and initially lost weight

But Tribole recalls ldquoSometime later we started getting calls from some of these people telling us how much they needed us again They couldnrsquot stick to the plan anymore Maybe they needed someone to monitor them Maybe they didnrsquot have enough self-control Maybe they werenrsquot any good at this and definitely they felt guilty and demoralizedrdquo

Looking around the two nutritionists saw the writing on the wall mdash and in the medical journals too Something like 95 percent of dieters fail to stick with their weight-loss programs from Weight Watchers to Atkins to Jenny Craig

Determined to find a different approach they first looked to the anti-diet movement which was just then burgeoning as a backlash to the war against obesity

ldquoThe anti-diet movement proposed a way of eating that allowed for any and all food choices without regard for nutritionrdquo Tribole explains It was a philosophy at loggerheads with literature linking excess pounds to cancer heart disease diabetes and more mdash and it ran counter to Tribolersquos and Reschrsquos own instincts

ldquoOur initial reactions were highly skepticalrdquo says Tribole ldquoHow could we as nutritionists trained to look at the connections between nutrition and health sanction a way of eating that seemed to reject the very foundation of our knowledge and philosophyrdquo

Eventually Tribole and Resch determined that they could resolve the conflict by hammering out a compromise of sorts They called it ldquoIntuitive Eatingrdquo

mdash a nutritional strategy that rejected dieting in favor of psychological awareness In particular it emphasized the importance of increasing clientsrsquo sensitivity to internal signals of hunger and fullness and helping them develop a greater attunement to the physiological effects of the foods they ate

Described in their influential book Intuitive Eating A Revolutionary Program That Works (St Martinrsquos Griffin 2003) the system taught users to distinguish between physical hunger and emotional need and to trust that natural urges would deliver better health and balance than any diet could

The concepts were controversial Clients in Tribole and Reschrsquos intuitive eating program were free

to eat as much as they wanted and to indulge their cravings for food While diets were all about restriction mdash calorie counting weigh-ins denial of pleasure mdash intuitive eating gave permission to eat anything A slice of cake A pizza party It was all allowed

But can a system so permissive really keep weight down To some extent the jury is still out Expert opinion has been mixed Intuitive eating clearly doesnrsquot work for everyone Yet thousands of people report losing weight based on intuitive eating and in recent years peer-reviewed studies have supported the claims

Not only did intuitive eaters in recent studies have lower cholesterol less diabetes healthier hearts better levels of fitness and lower body mass index (BMI) they achieved all that without the psychological stress and self-loathing that dieting can bring on

According to Tracy Tylka PhD a psychologist at Ohio State University whose research has lent rigor to the field the women participating in her intuitive-eating study were ldquomore likely to reject the societal stereotype that thinness is their ideal body typerdquo and were ldquoless likely to base their self-worth on being thinrdquo

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

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Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

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Rational thought served the beginners it turned out because they were still developing muscle memory and technique But for those players who had already integrated all that information instinct naturally took over mdash and did a far better job Overriding instincts and neural patterning in favor of logical thought abso-lutely destroyed their performance

ldquoOnce yoursquove developed expertise in a particular area mdash once yoursquove made the requisite mistakes mdash itrsquos important to trust your emotions when making deci-sions in that domainrdquo Lehrer insists If you know you can do it trust your gut mdash not your head

Next time yoursquore tempted to think too much about something you know how to do try a little therapeu-tic distraction Say the alphabet backward when your yoga teacher orders you into the dreaded handstand or sing a favorite song to yourself at the free-throw line Briefly engaging your conscious mind with something other than the task at hand can leave your instincts free to do their job mdash and free you to enjoy the satisfaction all that practice has made possible

ldquoThis is itrdquo

Most people have a great ldquoI just knew it was rightrdquo story It might be about the time they first spotted their sweetheart or

crossed the threshold of their first house or figured out they wanted to switch careers Therersquos a reason most of us have memorable stories about the biggest and best decisions we make in life says Orloff mdash theyrsquore typically remarkable for their lack of cognitive heavy lifting

When your intuition signals that yoursquove found something or someone truly right for you the choice often becomes strangely easy ldquoIt feels healthy it feels good it doesnrsquot feel like yoursquore forcing it therersquos not a lot of conflictrdquo she says

Lehrer agrees that when yoursquore poised to make a big decision with lasting repercussions like choosing your life partner yoursquore best off deciding from the gut Based on the bulk of his research into the cognitive mechanisms of decision-making he actually recom-mends that you ldquothink less about those choices that you care a lot aboutrdquo

According to Lehrer the rational mind is really suit-ed only to limited concrete choices like deciding be-tween two brands of car insurance In situations where there are just a couple of relevant factors involved the prefrontal cortex can weigh the comparative rewards of each and yield an excellent result But there are so

many factors involved in a complex decision like say buying a house that the limited space in the prefrontal cortex gets overwhelmed In that state it becomes the wrong part of the brain for the job

Several studies support the wisdom of emotional decision-making in the realm of big choices Lehrer cites one conducted at the University of Amsterdam that simulated the experience of buying a car provid-ing research subjects with overwhelming amounts of detailed information Some car buyers were briefly dis-tracted then left to choose quickly and with their emo-tions Follow-up surveys revealed that they selected the most satisfying car 60 percent of the time Other subjects who had more uninterrupted time in which to choose were pleased with their decision less than 25 percent of the time mdash worse even than random chance

In another study the same Dutch researchers shad-owed shoppers at IKEA observing their shopping behaviors Later interviews indicated that those who spent less time making their choices ended up more satisfied overall Choosing a couch and choosing a spouse are decidedly different acts to be sure but both tend to provoke the kind of agonized over-thinking that leads to poor choices Using your intuitive brain in these situations on the other hand will almost always point you toward a lasting fulfillment

Of all the reasons to use your gut instincts to make big decisions this may be the best It leads to the choices that are most fully satisfying mdash decisions that can improve the quality of your life

ldquoIt allows you to find relationships that resonate for you instead of what looks good on paperrdquo Orloff says ldquoIt allows you to connect with people on a heart level it allows you to deeply experience life instead of just letting it wash over you and it allows you to be really smart about how you make your decisionsrdquo

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Crispy Smoked Mozzarella with Honey and FigsProvided by foodnetworkcom

Ingredients6 sheets phyllo dough6 ounces smoked mozzarella cut into 6 equal piecesVegetable oil for frying8 ounces dried figs stemmed and quartered34 cup honey plus more for drizzling3 teaspoons black sesame seeds

DirectionsIn a large pot heat the vegetable oil over medium heat to 350 degrees F

Place 1 sheet of phyllo on a dry work surface Place one slice of cheese about 5 inches from the top of the narrow end of the sheet Fold the top of the narrow end over the cheese leaving 1 inch between the fold and the cheese Next fold over 1 of the long sides then the other again leaving 1-inch between the folds and the cheese Then fold the cheese over again leaving 1-inch between the fold and the cheese Continue folding to make a package about 3 12 by 4-inches Continue with the remaining pieces of cheese and phyllo

Fry the phyllo and cheese packages 2 or 3 at a time in the oil until golden about 2 minutes per side Drain on a baking sheet lined with paper towels

Meanwhile heat the figs and honey in a small saucepan over low heat until the honey is warm Set aside until the cheese packages have finished frying

To serve place 1 cheese package on a plate Spoon some figs and drizzle some honey over the top of each cheese package Sprinkle with black sesame seeds and serve immediately

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Tired of Being Tired It Will Get Better by David Wolfe

All too often I get asked the question ndash ldquoWill things get betterrdquo The economy has affected nearly all of us in one way or another Some have had it worse and some have just had to tighten their financial belts a bit Many of us have had friends and possibly even family that has lost their homes and experienced extreme financial troubles Bottom line is - it has been a tough few years

The answer I always give to the above question is that of course it will get better It will take time and a lot of sacrifice but it will get better The economy is a crazy system and works in cycles We will rebound and once again resources will be plentiful The question I canrsquot answer is ldquowhenrdquo I wish the dream we all wish which is that it will go back to the way it was as quickly as possible However the truth is there are many factors that affect how quickly we rebound Some factors we can control and some are out of our individual control But ultimately sooner or later it will get better

The best thing we can do as individuals is simply be more conscious of our spending habits and spend less time worrying about what the different media stations are reporting As we turn the channel we hear a different story and yet another gloom and doom story Find the positive in your life and enjoy the pleasure it provides

As clicheacute as it sounds find a new hobby Now is the time to reinvent ourselves and potentially pursue dreams and hobbies we never took the time to enjoy before The positive side to financial times like we are experiencing is that millionaires are made in economic times like this A good idea a simple concept a new way of thinking and BOOM a million dollar idea comes to life Opportunities for investing in low dollar investments that will have high dollar returns as things rebound make for new millionaires So keep your eyes open for opportunities

No more negative thinking ndash it will get better Itrsquos up to us as individuals to make our own circumstances better Some things we can control and some we cannot Ultimately though your well being begins with the life you make for yourself Go have fun Go Bowling Paint Sing Read find your passion and ultimately it will get better

Intuitive Eating for Weight Loss

As an alternative to doomed diet regimens some weight-loss experts recommend tuning in to our own instincts But are our bodiesrsquo cravings always a good guide

It was more than a decade ago before the obesity epidemic had even peaked that nutritionists Evelyn

Tribole MS RD and Elyse Resch MS RD FADA noticed the stream of failed dieters traipsing through their offices many of them desperate for help

Aware that dieting pitfalls mdash from ravenous hunger to outright boredom mdash might be part of the problem the nutritionists gave their clients permission to indulge some cravings but nonetheless kept them on programs that limited food intake Eager to please the clients followed the meal plans and initially lost weight

But Tribole recalls ldquoSometime later we started getting calls from some of these people telling us how much they needed us again They couldnrsquot stick to the plan anymore Maybe they needed someone to monitor them Maybe they didnrsquot have enough self-control Maybe they werenrsquot any good at this and definitely they felt guilty and demoralizedrdquo

Looking around the two nutritionists saw the writing on the wall mdash and in the medical journals too Something like 95 percent of dieters fail to stick with their weight-loss programs from Weight Watchers to Atkins to Jenny Craig

Determined to find a different approach they first looked to the anti-diet movement which was just then burgeoning as a backlash to the war against obesity

ldquoThe anti-diet movement proposed a way of eating that allowed for any and all food choices without regard for nutritionrdquo Tribole explains It was a philosophy at loggerheads with literature linking excess pounds to cancer heart disease diabetes and more mdash and it ran counter to Tribolersquos and Reschrsquos own instincts

ldquoOur initial reactions were highly skepticalrdquo says Tribole ldquoHow could we as nutritionists trained to look at the connections between nutrition and health sanction a way of eating that seemed to reject the very foundation of our knowledge and philosophyrdquo

Eventually Tribole and Resch determined that they could resolve the conflict by hammering out a compromise of sorts They called it ldquoIntuitive Eatingrdquo

mdash a nutritional strategy that rejected dieting in favor of psychological awareness In particular it emphasized the importance of increasing clientsrsquo sensitivity to internal signals of hunger and fullness and helping them develop a greater attunement to the physiological effects of the foods they ate

Described in their influential book Intuitive Eating A Revolutionary Program That Works (St Martinrsquos Griffin 2003) the system taught users to distinguish between physical hunger and emotional need and to trust that natural urges would deliver better health and balance than any diet could

The concepts were controversial Clients in Tribole and Reschrsquos intuitive eating program were free

to eat as much as they wanted and to indulge their cravings for food While diets were all about restriction mdash calorie counting weigh-ins denial of pleasure mdash intuitive eating gave permission to eat anything A slice of cake A pizza party It was all allowed

But can a system so permissive really keep weight down To some extent the jury is still out Expert opinion has been mixed Intuitive eating clearly doesnrsquot work for everyone Yet thousands of people report losing weight based on intuitive eating and in recent years peer-reviewed studies have supported the claims

Not only did intuitive eaters in recent studies have lower cholesterol less diabetes healthier hearts better levels of fitness and lower body mass index (BMI) they achieved all that without the psychological stress and self-loathing that dieting can bring on

According to Tracy Tylka PhD a psychologist at Ohio State University whose research has lent rigor to the field the women participating in her intuitive-eating study were ldquomore likely to reject the societal stereotype that thinness is their ideal body typerdquo and were ldquoless likely to base their self-worth on being thinrdquo

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

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Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

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Tired of Being Tired It Will Get Better by David Wolfe

All too often I get asked the question ndash ldquoWill things get betterrdquo The economy has affected nearly all of us in one way or another Some have had it worse and some have just had to tighten their financial belts a bit Many of us have had friends and possibly even family that has lost their homes and experienced extreme financial troubles Bottom line is - it has been a tough few years

The answer I always give to the above question is that of course it will get better It will take time and a lot of sacrifice but it will get better The economy is a crazy system and works in cycles We will rebound and once again resources will be plentiful The question I canrsquot answer is ldquowhenrdquo I wish the dream we all wish which is that it will go back to the way it was as quickly as possible However the truth is there are many factors that affect how quickly we rebound Some factors we can control and some are out of our individual control But ultimately sooner or later it will get better

The best thing we can do as individuals is simply be more conscious of our spending habits and spend less time worrying about what the different media stations are reporting As we turn the channel we hear a different story and yet another gloom and doom story Find the positive in your life and enjoy the pleasure it provides

As clicheacute as it sounds find a new hobby Now is the time to reinvent ourselves and potentially pursue dreams and hobbies we never took the time to enjoy before The positive side to financial times like we are experiencing is that millionaires are made in economic times like this A good idea a simple concept a new way of thinking and BOOM a million dollar idea comes to life Opportunities for investing in low dollar investments that will have high dollar returns as things rebound make for new millionaires So keep your eyes open for opportunities

No more negative thinking ndash it will get better Itrsquos up to us as individuals to make our own circumstances better Some things we can control and some we cannot Ultimately though your well being begins with the life you make for yourself Go have fun Go Bowling Paint Sing Read find your passion and ultimately it will get better

Intuitive Eating for Weight Loss

As an alternative to doomed diet regimens some weight-loss experts recommend tuning in to our own instincts But are our bodiesrsquo cravings always a good guide

It was more than a decade ago before the obesity epidemic had even peaked that nutritionists Evelyn

Tribole MS RD and Elyse Resch MS RD FADA noticed the stream of failed dieters traipsing through their offices many of them desperate for help

Aware that dieting pitfalls mdash from ravenous hunger to outright boredom mdash might be part of the problem the nutritionists gave their clients permission to indulge some cravings but nonetheless kept them on programs that limited food intake Eager to please the clients followed the meal plans and initially lost weight

But Tribole recalls ldquoSometime later we started getting calls from some of these people telling us how much they needed us again They couldnrsquot stick to the plan anymore Maybe they needed someone to monitor them Maybe they didnrsquot have enough self-control Maybe they werenrsquot any good at this and definitely they felt guilty and demoralizedrdquo

Looking around the two nutritionists saw the writing on the wall mdash and in the medical journals too Something like 95 percent of dieters fail to stick with their weight-loss programs from Weight Watchers to Atkins to Jenny Craig

Determined to find a different approach they first looked to the anti-diet movement which was just then burgeoning as a backlash to the war against obesity

ldquoThe anti-diet movement proposed a way of eating that allowed for any and all food choices without regard for nutritionrdquo Tribole explains It was a philosophy at loggerheads with literature linking excess pounds to cancer heart disease diabetes and more mdash and it ran counter to Tribolersquos and Reschrsquos own instincts

ldquoOur initial reactions were highly skepticalrdquo says Tribole ldquoHow could we as nutritionists trained to look at the connections between nutrition and health sanction a way of eating that seemed to reject the very foundation of our knowledge and philosophyrdquo

Eventually Tribole and Resch determined that they could resolve the conflict by hammering out a compromise of sorts They called it ldquoIntuitive Eatingrdquo

mdash a nutritional strategy that rejected dieting in favor of psychological awareness In particular it emphasized the importance of increasing clientsrsquo sensitivity to internal signals of hunger and fullness and helping them develop a greater attunement to the physiological effects of the foods they ate

Described in their influential book Intuitive Eating A Revolutionary Program That Works (St Martinrsquos Griffin 2003) the system taught users to distinguish between physical hunger and emotional need and to trust that natural urges would deliver better health and balance than any diet could

The concepts were controversial Clients in Tribole and Reschrsquos intuitive eating program were free

to eat as much as they wanted and to indulge their cravings for food While diets were all about restriction mdash calorie counting weigh-ins denial of pleasure mdash intuitive eating gave permission to eat anything A slice of cake A pizza party It was all allowed

But can a system so permissive really keep weight down To some extent the jury is still out Expert opinion has been mixed Intuitive eating clearly doesnrsquot work for everyone Yet thousands of people report losing weight based on intuitive eating and in recent years peer-reviewed studies have supported the claims

Not only did intuitive eaters in recent studies have lower cholesterol less diabetes healthier hearts better levels of fitness and lower body mass index (BMI) they achieved all that without the psychological stress and self-loathing that dieting can bring on

According to Tracy Tylka PhD a psychologist at Ohio State University whose research has lent rigor to the field the women participating in her intuitive-eating study were ldquomore likely to reject the societal stereotype that thinness is their ideal body typerdquo and were ldquoless likely to base their self-worth on being thinrdquo

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

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Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

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Tired of Being Tired It Will Get Better by David Wolfe

All too often I get asked the question ndash ldquoWill things get betterrdquo The economy has affected nearly all of us in one way or another Some have had it worse and some have just had to tighten their financial belts a bit Many of us have had friends and possibly even family that has lost their homes and experienced extreme financial troubles Bottom line is - it has been a tough few years

The answer I always give to the above question is that of course it will get better It will take time and a lot of sacrifice but it will get better The economy is a crazy system and works in cycles We will rebound and once again resources will be plentiful The question I canrsquot answer is ldquowhenrdquo I wish the dream we all wish which is that it will go back to the way it was as quickly as possible However the truth is there are many factors that affect how quickly we rebound Some factors we can control and some are out of our individual control But ultimately sooner or later it will get better

The best thing we can do as individuals is simply be more conscious of our spending habits and spend less time worrying about what the different media stations are reporting As we turn the channel we hear a different story and yet another gloom and doom story Find the positive in your life and enjoy the pleasure it provides

As clicheacute as it sounds find a new hobby Now is the time to reinvent ourselves and potentially pursue dreams and hobbies we never took the time to enjoy before The positive side to financial times like we are experiencing is that millionaires are made in economic times like this A good idea a simple concept a new way of thinking and BOOM a million dollar idea comes to life Opportunities for investing in low dollar investments that will have high dollar returns as things rebound make for new millionaires So keep your eyes open for opportunities

No more negative thinking ndash it will get better Itrsquos up to us as individuals to make our own circumstances better Some things we can control and some we cannot Ultimately though your well being begins with the life you make for yourself Go have fun Go Bowling Paint Sing Read find your passion and ultimately it will get better

Intuitive Eating for Weight Loss

As an alternative to doomed diet regimens some weight-loss experts recommend tuning in to our own instincts But are our bodiesrsquo cravings always a good guide

It was more than a decade ago before the obesity epidemic had even peaked that nutritionists Evelyn

Tribole MS RD and Elyse Resch MS RD FADA noticed the stream of failed dieters traipsing through their offices many of them desperate for help

Aware that dieting pitfalls mdash from ravenous hunger to outright boredom mdash might be part of the problem the nutritionists gave their clients permission to indulge some cravings but nonetheless kept them on programs that limited food intake Eager to please the clients followed the meal plans and initially lost weight

But Tribole recalls ldquoSometime later we started getting calls from some of these people telling us how much they needed us again They couldnrsquot stick to the plan anymore Maybe they needed someone to monitor them Maybe they didnrsquot have enough self-control Maybe they werenrsquot any good at this and definitely they felt guilty and demoralizedrdquo

Looking around the two nutritionists saw the writing on the wall mdash and in the medical journals too Something like 95 percent of dieters fail to stick with their weight-loss programs from Weight Watchers to Atkins to Jenny Craig

Determined to find a different approach they first looked to the anti-diet movement which was just then burgeoning as a backlash to the war against obesity

ldquoThe anti-diet movement proposed a way of eating that allowed for any and all food choices without regard for nutritionrdquo Tribole explains It was a philosophy at loggerheads with literature linking excess pounds to cancer heart disease diabetes and more mdash and it ran counter to Tribolersquos and Reschrsquos own instincts

ldquoOur initial reactions were highly skepticalrdquo says Tribole ldquoHow could we as nutritionists trained to look at the connections between nutrition and health sanction a way of eating that seemed to reject the very foundation of our knowledge and philosophyrdquo

Eventually Tribole and Resch determined that they could resolve the conflict by hammering out a compromise of sorts They called it ldquoIntuitive Eatingrdquo

mdash a nutritional strategy that rejected dieting in favor of psychological awareness In particular it emphasized the importance of increasing clientsrsquo sensitivity to internal signals of hunger and fullness and helping them develop a greater attunement to the physiological effects of the foods they ate

Described in their influential book Intuitive Eating A Revolutionary Program That Works (St Martinrsquos Griffin 2003) the system taught users to distinguish between physical hunger and emotional need and to trust that natural urges would deliver better health and balance than any diet could

The concepts were controversial Clients in Tribole and Reschrsquos intuitive eating program were free

to eat as much as they wanted and to indulge their cravings for food While diets were all about restriction mdash calorie counting weigh-ins denial of pleasure mdash intuitive eating gave permission to eat anything A slice of cake A pizza party It was all allowed

But can a system so permissive really keep weight down To some extent the jury is still out Expert opinion has been mixed Intuitive eating clearly doesnrsquot work for everyone Yet thousands of people report losing weight based on intuitive eating and in recent years peer-reviewed studies have supported the claims

Not only did intuitive eaters in recent studies have lower cholesterol less diabetes healthier hearts better levels of fitness and lower body mass index (BMI) they achieved all that without the psychological stress and self-loathing that dieting can bring on

According to Tracy Tylka PhD a psychologist at Ohio State University whose research has lent rigor to the field the women participating in her intuitive-eating study were ldquomore likely to reject the societal stereotype that thinness is their ideal body typerdquo and were ldquoless likely to base their self-worth on being thinrdquo

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

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Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

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Tired of Being Tired It Will Get Better by David Wolfe

All too often I get asked the question ndash ldquoWill things get betterrdquo The economy has affected nearly all of us in one way or another Some have had it worse and some have just had to tighten their financial belts a bit Many of us have had friends and possibly even family that has lost their homes and experienced extreme financial troubles Bottom line is - it has been a tough few years

The answer I always give to the above question is that of course it will get better It will take time and a lot of sacrifice but it will get better The economy is a crazy system and works in cycles We will rebound and once again resources will be plentiful The question I canrsquot answer is ldquowhenrdquo I wish the dream we all wish which is that it will go back to the way it was as quickly as possible However the truth is there are many factors that affect how quickly we rebound Some factors we can control and some are out of our individual control But ultimately sooner or later it will get better

The best thing we can do as individuals is simply be more conscious of our spending habits and spend less time worrying about what the different media stations are reporting As we turn the channel we hear a different story and yet another gloom and doom story Find the positive in your life and enjoy the pleasure it provides

As clicheacute as it sounds find a new hobby Now is the time to reinvent ourselves and potentially pursue dreams and hobbies we never took the time to enjoy before The positive side to financial times like we are experiencing is that millionaires are made in economic times like this A good idea a simple concept a new way of thinking and BOOM a million dollar idea comes to life Opportunities for investing in low dollar investments that will have high dollar returns as things rebound make for new millionaires So keep your eyes open for opportunities

No more negative thinking ndash it will get better Itrsquos up to us as individuals to make our own circumstances better Some things we can control and some we cannot Ultimately though your well being begins with the life you make for yourself Go have fun Go Bowling Paint Sing Read find your passion and ultimately it will get better

Intuitive Eating for Weight Loss

As an alternative to doomed diet regimens some weight-loss experts recommend tuning in to our own instincts But are our bodiesrsquo cravings always a good guide

It was more than a decade ago before the obesity epidemic had even peaked that nutritionists Evelyn

Tribole MS RD and Elyse Resch MS RD FADA noticed the stream of failed dieters traipsing through their offices many of them desperate for help

Aware that dieting pitfalls mdash from ravenous hunger to outright boredom mdash might be part of the problem the nutritionists gave their clients permission to indulge some cravings but nonetheless kept them on programs that limited food intake Eager to please the clients followed the meal plans and initially lost weight

But Tribole recalls ldquoSometime later we started getting calls from some of these people telling us how much they needed us again They couldnrsquot stick to the plan anymore Maybe they needed someone to monitor them Maybe they didnrsquot have enough self-control Maybe they werenrsquot any good at this and definitely they felt guilty and demoralizedrdquo

Looking around the two nutritionists saw the writing on the wall mdash and in the medical journals too Something like 95 percent of dieters fail to stick with their weight-loss programs from Weight Watchers to Atkins to Jenny Craig

Determined to find a different approach they first looked to the anti-diet movement which was just then burgeoning as a backlash to the war against obesity

ldquoThe anti-diet movement proposed a way of eating that allowed for any and all food choices without regard for nutritionrdquo Tribole explains It was a philosophy at loggerheads with literature linking excess pounds to cancer heart disease diabetes and more mdash and it ran counter to Tribolersquos and Reschrsquos own instincts

ldquoOur initial reactions were highly skepticalrdquo says Tribole ldquoHow could we as nutritionists trained to look at the connections between nutrition and health sanction a way of eating that seemed to reject the very foundation of our knowledge and philosophyrdquo

Eventually Tribole and Resch determined that they could resolve the conflict by hammering out a compromise of sorts They called it ldquoIntuitive Eatingrdquo

mdash a nutritional strategy that rejected dieting in favor of psychological awareness In particular it emphasized the importance of increasing clientsrsquo sensitivity to internal signals of hunger and fullness and helping them develop a greater attunement to the physiological effects of the foods they ate

Described in their influential book Intuitive Eating A Revolutionary Program That Works (St Martinrsquos Griffin 2003) the system taught users to distinguish between physical hunger and emotional need and to trust that natural urges would deliver better health and balance than any diet could

The concepts were controversial Clients in Tribole and Reschrsquos intuitive eating program were free

to eat as much as they wanted and to indulge their cravings for food While diets were all about restriction mdash calorie counting weigh-ins denial of pleasure mdash intuitive eating gave permission to eat anything A slice of cake A pizza party It was all allowed

But can a system so permissive really keep weight down To some extent the jury is still out Expert opinion has been mixed Intuitive eating clearly doesnrsquot work for everyone Yet thousands of people report losing weight based on intuitive eating and in recent years peer-reviewed studies have supported the claims

Not only did intuitive eaters in recent studies have lower cholesterol less diabetes healthier hearts better levels of fitness and lower body mass index (BMI) they achieved all that without the psychological stress and self-loathing that dieting can bring on

According to Tracy Tylka PhD a psychologist at Ohio State University whose research has lent rigor to the field the women participating in her intuitive-eating study were ldquomore likely to reject the societal stereotype that thinness is their ideal body typerdquo and were ldquoless likely to base their self-worth on being thinrdquo

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

with usclick here

advertisewith us

click here

Advertising runs for 1 year and includes 4 Full Page 4 Half Page and 4 Quarter Page ads All Full Color and All Fully Interactive Pricing is as low as $150 per year The biggest ldquono brainerrdquo in advertising

After all - your current andor potential customer is reading this right now

Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

61

2

3

5

7

8

104

9

Call us today to learn more about thisaffordable office procedure with minimal downtime

4042503333wwwdrkavalicom

$15 off Your 1st and 3rd Cleanings

New Clients Only

Customized Cleanings to fit

your needs

Cleaning Is Not Just Our Job Cleaning Is Our Passion

Call for FREE estimate 770-592-1054 404-256-4207 Visit our website for services provided at wwwmetropolitanmaidservicescom

15 off SpringFall Cleanings Move InOut Cleanings 100 Satisfaction Guarantee

980 Briarcliff Road NE Atlanta GA 30306 404-872-5338 wwwcallanwoldeorg

Callanwoldersquos magnificent Gothic-Tudor mansion and exquisite grounds provide

a unique setting for all special occasions

Cal

lanw

olde

pho

tos

patt

erso

npho

togr

aphy

com

Where happily ever afters begin

NO Massage companies are supporting your community yet with Special Discounts

Whatrsquos up with that

advertisewith usclick here

Highlights

Tired Of Neck amp Back Pain Try Chiropractic New Patient Special Chiropractic Consultation Digital Posture Exam Up to 4 X-Rays if needed and Report of Findings with Doctor

678-319-9777 210 Prospect Place Alpharetta GA 30005

ldquoIrsquom convinced that these specific tests are the fastest and easiest way to find the cause of painful spinal problemsrdquo Dr Ron Redman DC Call today to schedule a appointment Present or mention this add and take advantage of this fantastic deal It may change your life

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Trust Concentra for this seasonrsquos flu shotsWhen it comes to seasonal vaccinations Concentra has you covered A flu vaccine is one of the best defenses against the flu so get yours today by asking one of our medical experts Itrsquos safe easy and no appointment is necessary Moreover the 20102011 single-dose vaccine covers both seasonal and H1N1 flu strains From preventing to treating the flu wersquore here For you

Flu shots available while supplies lastFlu shots are available as a cash pay service Cash check and most credit cards are welcome

Concentra does not guarantee the quality of the vaccine or any results of the vaccine or that any person inoculated with the vaccine will not get the flu

copy2010 Concentra Operating Corporation All rights reserved

See our other Atlanta-area locations

Concentra Urgent Care688 Spring St NW Atlanta GA 30308404-881-1155

Open MonndashFri 730 amndash800 pmSat-Sun 1000 am-400 pm

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dance writing music photography and more

Pure Inspiration

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designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

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Intuitive Eating for Weight Loss

As an alternative to doomed diet regimens some weight-loss experts recommend tuning in to our own instincts But are our bodiesrsquo cravings always a good guide

It was more than a decade ago before the obesity epidemic had even peaked that nutritionists Evelyn

Tribole MS RD and Elyse Resch MS RD FADA noticed the stream of failed dieters traipsing through their offices many of them desperate for help

Aware that dieting pitfalls mdash from ravenous hunger to outright boredom mdash might be part of the problem the nutritionists gave their clients permission to indulge some cravings but nonetheless kept them on programs that limited food intake Eager to please the clients followed the meal plans and initially lost weight

But Tribole recalls ldquoSometime later we started getting calls from some of these people telling us how much they needed us again They couldnrsquot stick to the plan anymore Maybe they needed someone to monitor them Maybe they didnrsquot have enough self-control Maybe they werenrsquot any good at this and definitely they felt guilty and demoralizedrdquo

Looking around the two nutritionists saw the writing on the wall mdash and in the medical journals too Something like 95 percent of dieters fail to stick with their weight-loss programs from Weight Watchers to Atkins to Jenny Craig

Determined to find a different approach they first looked to the anti-diet movement which was just then burgeoning as a backlash to the war against obesity

ldquoThe anti-diet movement proposed a way of eating that allowed for any and all food choices without regard for nutritionrdquo Tribole explains It was a philosophy at loggerheads with literature linking excess pounds to cancer heart disease diabetes and more mdash and it ran counter to Tribolersquos and Reschrsquos own instincts

ldquoOur initial reactions were highly skepticalrdquo says Tribole ldquoHow could we as nutritionists trained to look at the connections between nutrition and health sanction a way of eating that seemed to reject the very foundation of our knowledge and philosophyrdquo

Eventually Tribole and Resch determined that they could resolve the conflict by hammering out a compromise of sorts They called it ldquoIntuitive Eatingrdquo

mdash a nutritional strategy that rejected dieting in favor of psychological awareness In particular it emphasized the importance of increasing clientsrsquo sensitivity to internal signals of hunger and fullness and helping them develop a greater attunement to the physiological effects of the foods they ate

Described in their influential book Intuitive Eating A Revolutionary Program That Works (St Martinrsquos Griffin 2003) the system taught users to distinguish between physical hunger and emotional need and to trust that natural urges would deliver better health and balance than any diet could

The concepts were controversial Clients in Tribole and Reschrsquos intuitive eating program were free

to eat as much as they wanted and to indulge their cravings for food While diets were all about restriction mdash calorie counting weigh-ins denial of pleasure mdash intuitive eating gave permission to eat anything A slice of cake A pizza party It was all allowed

But can a system so permissive really keep weight down To some extent the jury is still out Expert opinion has been mixed Intuitive eating clearly doesnrsquot work for everyone Yet thousands of people report losing weight based on intuitive eating and in recent years peer-reviewed studies have supported the claims

Not only did intuitive eaters in recent studies have lower cholesterol less diabetes healthier hearts better levels of fitness and lower body mass index (BMI) they achieved all that without the psychological stress and self-loathing that dieting can bring on

According to Tracy Tylka PhD a psychologist at Ohio State University whose research has lent rigor to the field the women participating in her intuitive-eating study were ldquomore likely to reject the societal stereotype that thinness is their ideal body typerdquo and were ldquoless likely to base their self-worth on being thinrdquo

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

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Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

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Wersquore here For you

Trust Concentra for this seasonrsquos flu shotsWhen it comes to seasonal vaccinations Concentra has you covered A flu vaccine is one of the best defenses against the flu so get yours today by asking one of our medical experts Itrsquos safe easy and no appointment is necessary Moreover the 20102011 single-dose vaccine covers both seasonal and H1N1 flu strains From preventing to treating the flu wersquore here For you

Flu shots available while supplies lastFlu shots are available as a cash pay service Cash check and most credit cards are welcome

Concentra does not guarantee the quality of the vaccine or any results of the vaccine or that any person inoculated with the vaccine will not get the flu

copy2010 Concentra Operating Corporation All rights reserved

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Open MonndashFri 730 amndash800 pmSat-Sun 1000 am-400 pm

Find your passion in the arts at Callanwolde Classes for all ages in visual art pottery jewelry yoga

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Pure Inspiration

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wwwcallanwoldeorg

Mention this ad to receive 10 off your meal

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Tell Your Friends

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Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

Best of The Best inApartment CommunitiesExperience a W3 Lifestyle

Page 15: May 2011

These positive results make sense in light of evidence that dietary restrictions disrupt homeostasis a series of metabolic feedback loops between the gut liver brain and the bodyrsquos cells that help to maintain internal equilibrium Intuitive eating has a shot at succeeding where restrictive diets fail say proponents because it complements rather than fights the complex biology of hunger It does so by building conscious awareness of hunger cues honed by evolution over millions of years

Science Weighs In

Until recently evidence that intuitive eating promoted weight loss was largely testimonial but a group of studies published in the last few years has lent more credence to the claims

Especially influential is research from Tylka Before investigating intuitive eating Tylka specialized in people with eating disorders focusing on those who fell along the spectrum of disordered eating without being symptomatic enough to actually be diagnosed Some 40 percent of Americans qualified for this broader category she found

As a group these people were often unhappy obsessed with their weight and suffering from body-image problems whether they were overweight or not

Those who didnrsquot fall on the spectrum she discovered seemed to be intuitive eaters whose habits resembled those of the people Tribole and Resch had described in their book

By 2006 Tylka had laid the scientific basis for researching the eating style She created a scale that defined and then measured the traits of intuitive eaters Those who qualified could be defined by 21 traits in three broad categories including unconditional permission to eat eating from physical rather than emotional cues and relying on internal hunger and satiety cues

Tylka used her scale to study more than 1400 people determining that intuitive eaters have a higher sense of well-being and lower body weight and do not seem to internalize the ldquothin idealrdquo Later research on 1260 college women found intuitive eaters shared a series of empowering traits They were optimistic and resilient skilled at social problem solving and had good self-esteem

A study Tylka published in 2010 showed that parental pressure to restrict eating in childhood translated to higher BMI in adults The pressure backfired by disconnecting individuals from their natural hunger and satiety cues she posits Indeed her adult participants reported ldquoa lower tendency to eat when physically

hungry and stop eating when fullrdquo

While the studies canrsquot really prove causality mdash no one can say whether eating styles are determined by life circumstances and personality traits or vice versa mdash Tylka sees the relationship as ldquobidirectionalrdquo She sums up her findings this way ldquoAttending to physiological signals of hunger and satiety are uniquely connected to well-being and to lower body massrdquo

Hungry Hormones

No matter where experts stand on intuitive eating they universally agree that restrictive diets have failed en masse Most of the diets we tap today are still rooted in the old ldquocalories in calories outrdquo model mdash a straightforward equation in which every morsel of food and every iota of exercise is evaluated on the basis of its caloric value This mechanistic formula implies that the overweight among us must simply be too lazy ignorant or lacking in self-control to regulate themselves accordingly and are thus entirely responsible for their own plight

But important new research has proven this line of thinking quite wrong and thatrsquos one reason intuitive eating is getting a second look from experts who might previously have written it off

What the new research shows according to George Blackburn

MD PhD director of the Center for the Study of Nutrition Medicine at Harvard Medical School is that the stomach and other metabolically critical parts of the

body donrsquot just process foodborne calories Rather they are responsible for sending dozens of chemical and hormonal messages to the brain where what we think of as hunger really resides

One key hormone in this system is ghrelin the only biomolecule found to stimulate the hunger center in the hypothalamus of the brain Ghrelin is released from the stomach in response not only to physiological hunger mdash triggered when cells are short on energy mdash but also to pleasure seeking and stress

Experiments have shown that people injected with ghrelin eat 30 percent more mdash perhaps because the hormone gravitates to the same brain area responsible for addictive behaviors Conventional diets based on calorie restriction limit energy to cells boosting ghrelin and driving hunger that may be almost impossible to resist as time goes on

Ever wonder why you overeat when stressed out The stress hormone cortisol triggers the body to produce extra ghrelin That ghrelin works on the brainrsquos pleasure centers to calm you down but you pay the price in

ldquoEver wonder why you

overeat when stressed

outrdquo

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

with usclick here

advertisewith us

click here

Advertising runs for 1 year and includes 4 Full Page 4 Half Page and 4 Quarter Page ads All Full Color and All Fully Interactive Pricing is as low as $150 per year The biggest ldquono brainerrdquo in advertising

After all - your current andor potential customer is reading this right now

Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

61

2

3

5

7

8

104

9

Call us today to learn more about thisaffordable office procedure with minimal downtime

4042503333wwwdrkavalicom

$15 off Your 1st and 3rd Cleanings

New Clients Only

Customized Cleanings to fit

your needs

Cleaning Is Not Just Our Job Cleaning Is Our Passion

Call for FREE estimate 770-592-1054 404-256-4207 Visit our website for services provided at wwwmetropolitanmaidservicescom

15 off SpringFall Cleanings Move InOut Cleanings 100 Satisfaction Guarantee

980 Briarcliff Road NE Atlanta GA 30306 404-872-5338 wwwcallanwoldeorg

Callanwoldersquos magnificent Gothic-Tudor mansion and exquisite grounds provide

a unique setting for all special occasions

Cal

lanw

olde

pho

tos

patt

erso

npho

togr

aphy

com

Where happily ever afters begin

NO Massage companies are supporting your community yet with Special Discounts

Whatrsquos up with that

advertisewith usclick here

Highlights

Tired Of Neck amp Back Pain Try Chiropractic New Patient Special Chiropractic Consultation Digital Posture Exam Up to 4 X-Rays if needed and Report of Findings with Doctor

678-319-9777 210 Prospect Place Alpharetta GA 30005

ldquoIrsquom convinced that these specific tests are the fastest and easiest way to find the cause of painful spinal problemsrdquo Dr Ron Redman DC Call today to schedule a appointment Present or mention this add and take advantage of this fantastic deal It may change your life

Only $4900 ($249 Value)

wwwChiro4Sportsnet

You may have one of these 15 body signals of pinched nerves -Low back pain -Neck pain -Sciatica -Dizziness -Numb hands -Headaches -Sore elbows -Bursitis -Hip pain -Shoulder pain -Carpal tunnel -Arthritis -Herniated disc -Muscle Spasms

Donrsquot let flu bug you

ConcentraUrgentCarecom

Wersquore here For you

Trust Concentra for this seasonrsquos flu shotsWhen it comes to seasonal vaccinations Concentra has you covered A flu vaccine is one of the best defenses against the flu so get yours today by asking one of our medical experts Itrsquos safe easy and no appointment is necessary Moreover the 20102011 single-dose vaccine covers both seasonal and H1N1 flu strains From preventing to treating the flu wersquore here For you

Flu shots available while supplies lastFlu shots are available as a cash pay service Cash check and most credit cards are welcome

Concentra does not guarantee the quality of the vaccine or any results of the vaccine or that any person inoculated with the vaccine will not get the flu

copy2010 Concentra Operating Corporation All rights reserved

See our other Atlanta-area locations

Concentra Urgent Care688 Spring St NW Atlanta GA 30308404-881-1155

Open MonndashFri 730 amndash800 pmSat-Sun 1000 am-400 pm

Find your passion in the arts at Callanwolde Classes for all ages in visual art pottery jewelry yoga

dance writing music photography and more

Pure Inspiration

Callanwolde Fine Arts Center 980 Briarcliff Rd NE Atlanta bull 404-872-5338

wwwcallanwoldeorg

Mention this ad to receive 10 off your meal

throughout this month

Tell Your Friends

ONLY The Best of The Best in Apartment Communities can hold the National Apartment Desigation as being a W3 Lifestyle

designated Community Community performance is then monitored on a monthly basis

Visit Us Online wwwW3LifestylecomWant to Share your Experience Call 770-886-1881 ext 0

Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

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Page 16: May 2011

extra weight

Then therersquos leptin one of a series of ldquosatiety hormonesrdquo produced by fat cells that tell the brain itrsquos time to put your fork down There was a time when scientists celebrated the discovery of leptin hoping that supplements would suppress appetite and keep weight under control But for the overweight leptin is a dead end levels are already elevated in the obese but their cell receptors are resistant much like diabetics are resistant to insulin

The obese have plenty of leptin in other words but it no longer has an effective place to land The chemistry is complex but the takeaway message for lifelong dieters is disturbingly simple Calorie restriction elevates ghrelin driving the hunger that sparks overeating and weight gain The situation worsens as the failed diets stack up and the years go by The resulting obesity renders the brain resistant to leptin the very hormone that is supposed to help put the brakes on our appetites

Cultivating Consciousness

Greeting our desire for food with conscious awareness rather than white-knuckled self-control is an essential priority of intuitive eating mdash in part because most of us have been socially and environmentally programmed to eat without much consciousness at all

ldquoFood is everywhere in brightly colored packagesrdquo observes Lynn Rossy PhD a health psychologist who teaches mindfulness in her intuitive-eating workshops at the T E Atkins University of Missouri Wellness Program in Columbia ldquoBut what is in the food and how are we using it Are we hungry or full when we decide to eat Are we eating to disengage from our emotions or to get pleasure Are we eating when we are really hungry for something else that we would find by looking to other parts of our lives We make so many food choices every day but wersquore so busy wersquore not paying attention In order for someone to become an intuitive eater that has to changerdquo

Intuitive eaters must tune in to not just hunger and satiety but also mood ldquoEmotion can impact the digestive system and mimic the feelings of hungerrdquo explains Rossy ldquobut practicing mindfulness can help you tell the difference It gets easier over timerdquo

Susan Albers PsyD author of Eating Mindfully

How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food (New Harbinger 2003) found that intuitive eaters can often handle cravings just by slowing down As with other forms of impulse simply stopping to ponder the source of a craving can help you realize that it isnrsquot about hunger at all

Food can be a drug she explains in that it stimulates the feel-good neurotransmitter serotonin But those mindful enough to grasp that they are eating to boost mood not appease hunger can seek the fix through a healthy alternative like exercise meditation or social connection

The key says Albers is awareness ldquoIf you remove that comfort eating you must consciously put something back to take its place be it meditation or massage The

mindful eater recognizes and respects physiological hunger mdash if you are really hungry it is important to respondrdquo

Nutrition consultant Marc David MA author of The Slow Down Diet Eating for Pleasure Energy amp Weight Loss (Healing Arts 2005) has his clients focus on the quality of the food itself His rationale is simple Higher-quality food mdash real fresh flavorful and organic mdash is nutrient dense and inherently satisfying

ldquoYes many of us eat too muchrdquo says David founder and director of the Boulder Colondashbased Institute for the Psychology of Eating ldquoBut we do so to a degree because our food is nutrient deficient It lacks the vitamins minerals enzymes and all the undiscovered X-factors and energies we require The

brain senses these deficiencies and wisely responds to this absence of vital chemistry by commanding us to undertake the most sensible survival strategy Eat more foodrdquo

One key to getting such cravings under control David asserts may simply be to upgrade the quality of the food we eat then notice how we experience it ldquoStop and see how you feel following every mealrdquo he suggests

Not for Everybody

In the end only you can intuit which foods are right for you mdash and whether your cravings are driven by a nutritional need an emotional one mdash or as is often the case both To the extent yoursquore capable of discerning

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

with usclick here

advertisewith us

click here

Advertising runs for 1 year and includes 4 Full Page 4 Half Page and 4 Quarter Page ads All Full Color and All Fully Interactive Pricing is as low as $150 per year The biggest ldquono brainerrdquo in advertising

After all - your current andor potential customer is reading this right now

Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

61

2

3

5

7

8

104

9

Call us today to learn more about thisaffordable office procedure with minimal downtime

4042503333wwwdrkavalicom

$15 off Your 1st and 3rd Cleanings

New Clients Only

Customized Cleanings to fit

your needs

Cleaning Is Not Just Our Job Cleaning Is Our Passion

Call for FREE estimate 770-592-1054 404-256-4207 Visit our website for services provided at wwwmetropolitanmaidservicescom

15 off SpringFall Cleanings Move InOut Cleanings 100 Satisfaction Guarantee

980 Briarcliff Road NE Atlanta GA 30306 404-872-5338 wwwcallanwoldeorg

Callanwoldersquos magnificent Gothic-Tudor mansion and exquisite grounds provide

a unique setting for all special occasions

Cal

lanw

olde

pho

tos

patt

erso

npho

togr

aphy

com

Where happily ever afters begin

NO Massage companies are supporting your community yet with Special Discounts

Whatrsquos up with that

advertisewith usclick here

Highlights

Tired Of Neck amp Back Pain Try Chiropractic New Patient Special Chiropractic Consultation Digital Posture Exam Up to 4 X-Rays if needed and Report of Findings with Doctor

678-319-9777 210 Prospect Place Alpharetta GA 30005

ldquoIrsquom convinced that these specific tests are the fastest and easiest way to find the cause of painful spinal problemsrdquo Dr Ron Redman DC Call today to schedule a appointment Present or mention this add and take advantage of this fantastic deal It may change your life

Only $4900 ($249 Value)

wwwChiro4Sportsnet

You may have one of these 15 body signals of pinched nerves -Low back pain -Neck pain -Sciatica -Dizziness -Numb hands -Headaches -Sore elbows -Bursitis -Hip pain -Shoulder pain -Carpal tunnel -Arthritis -Herniated disc -Muscle Spasms

Donrsquot let flu bug you

ConcentraUrgentCarecom

Wersquore here For you

Trust Concentra for this seasonrsquos flu shotsWhen it comes to seasonal vaccinations Concentra has you covered A flu vaccine is one of the best defenses against the flu so get yours today by asking one of our medical experts Itrsquos safe easy and no appointment is necessary Moreover the 20102011 single-dose vaccine covers both seasonal and H1N1 flu strains From preventing to treating the flu wersquore here For you

Flu shots available while supplies lastFlu shots are available as a cash pay service Cash check and most credit cards are welcome

Concentra does not guarantee the quality of the vaccine or any results of the vaccine or that any person inoculated with the vaccine will not get the flu

copy2010 Concentra Operating Corporation All rights reserved

See our other Atlanta-area locations

Concentra Urgent Care688 Spring St NW Atlanta GA 30308404-881-1155

Open MonndashFri 730 amndash800 pmSat-Sun 1000 am-400 pm

Find your passion in the arts at Callanwolde Classes for all ages in visual art pottery jewelry yoga

dance writing music photography and more

Pure Inspiration

Callanwolde Fine Arts Center 980 Briarcliff Rd NE Atlanta bull 404-872-5338

wwwcallanwoldeorg

Mention this ad to receive 10 off your meal

throughout this month

Tell Your Friends

ONLY The Best of The Best in Apartment Communities can hold the National Apartment Desigation as being a W3 Lifestyle

designated Community Community performance is then monitored on a monthly basis

Visit Us Online wwwW3LifestylecomWant to Share your Experience Call 770-886-1881 ext 0

Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

Best of The Best inApartment CommunitiesExperience a W3 Lifestyle

Page 17: May 2011

such things and motivated to do so you may have success with intuitive eating as a weight-loss strategy

Critics of intuitive eating point out though that for many the approach has some very real limitations For one thing notes Elson Haas MD some people crave the very foods that are making them sick mdash much like an addict may crave a drug despite the overall damage that it does Indulging cravings for those foods could set you up for an inflammatory and immune response that worsens biochemical imbalances rather than ameliorating them Even nutritious foods like yogurt nuts and whole grains are not going to produce good results for those folks who have allergies or intolerances to them

Also cravings for sugar dairy products and caffeine do not typically abate with indulgence Haas notes but instead tend to drive inflammation water retention brain fog mdash and still more craving

The only way out of that rut says Haas author of The False Fat Diet The Revolutionary 21-Day Program for Losing the Weight You Think Is Fat (Ballantine Books 2001) is to heal and re-regulate the bodyrsquos disrupted biochemistry This necessarily involves a certain amount of self-control in the short term he notes but for a totally different and arguably better reason than controlling calories The goal here is to clear your system of the biochemical factors that are confounding it mdash and your weight-loss efforts

Even without an allergy or food addiction though intuitive eating may be hard to master for the

obese many of whom may struggle with imbalances in blood sugar and brain chemistry that have become entrenched by years of dysfunctional eating Such imbalances can effectively compromise the body-based intuition that individuals require to put intuitive eating techniques to work

That was part of the message when the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior held its annual meeting in Pittsburgh this July University of Illinois researchers reported that a diet consistently high in fat restricted the neurotransmitter dopamine in the striatum (the part of the brain associated with reward) The upshot was that rats on high-fat fare had to eat more than their brethren on a low-fat diet for the same sense of reward

University of Pennsylvania researchers reported that leptin mdash the fullness hormone mdash activates the hippocampus and this process may be impaired by obesity making it harder for obese individuals to muster self-control

And Yale scientists scanned the brains of human subjects exposed to the smell and taste of food The brains of normal-weight participants reacted differently depending on their level of hunger But

obese participantsrsquo brains reacted to taste and smell no matter what the status of their hunger driving them to eat long after getting full

So is intuitive eating for you Only you can decide If yoursquore out to maintain your weight or drop a few pounds intuitive eating may be an ideal strategy If yoursquove experienced little luck with restrictive dieting in the past intuitive eating may help you rethink your whole approach to food But if you are obese or dealing with disrupted biochemistry as the result of food intolerances you may want to seek some professional nutrition counseling to rebalance your body and brain before you give intuitive eating a try

Either way keep in mind that intuitive eating is a package deal mdash the practices of conscious attention canrsquot be separated from the ldquoeat what you likerdquo philosophy You canrsquot just cave in to cravings without being willing to question them first

Nor can intuitive eating be practiced effectively in a vacuum devoid of sensible food practices For example Haas notes ldquoPlanning ahead with a good menu enables you to have healthy foods available when you need themrdquo mdash something that may be tough to pull off if you always eat on the spur of the moment

All of us though could probably benefit from tuning in to our bodies more often ldquoThe body has spectacular wisdomrdquo says Marc David ldquoWe just have to listen to access itrdquo

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

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Advertising runs for 1 year and includes 4 Full Page 4 Half Page and 4 Quarter Page ads All Full Color and All Fully Interactive Pricing is as low as $150 per year The biggest ldquono brainerrdquo in advertising

After all - your current andor potential customer is reading this right now

Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

61

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3

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Call us today to learn more about thisaffordable office procedure with minimal downtime

4042503333wwwdrkavalicom

$15 off Your 1st and 3rd Cleanings

New Clients Only

Customized Cleanings to fit

your needs

Cleaning Is Not Just Our Job Cleaning Is Our Passion

Call for FREE estimate 770-592-1054 404-256-4207 Visit our website for services provided at wwwmetropolitanmaidservicescom

15 off SpringFall Cleanings Move InOut Cleanings 100 Satisfaction Guarantee

980 Briarcliff Road NE Atlanta GA 30306 404-872-5338 wwwcallanwoldeorg

Callanwoldersquos magnificent Gothic-Tudor mansion and exquisite grounds provide

a unique setting for all special occasions

Cal

lanw

olde

pho

tos

patt

erso

npho

togr

aphy

com

Where happily ever afters begin

NO Massage companies are supporting your community yet with Special Discounts

Whatrsquos up with that

advertisewith usclick here

Highlights

Tired Of Neck amp Back Pain Try Chiropractic New Patient Special Chiropractic Consultation Digital Posture Exam Up to 4 X-Rays if needed and Report of Findings with Doctor

678-319-9777 210 Prospect Place Alpharetta GA 30005

ldquoIrsquom convinced that these specific tests are the fastest and easiest way to find the cause of painful spinal problemsrdquo Dr Ron Redman DC Call today to schedule a appointment Present or mention this add and take advantage of this fantastic deal It may change your life

Only $4900 ($249 Value)

wwwChiro4Sportsnet

You may have one of these 15 body signals of pinched nerves -Low back pain -Neck pain -Sciatica -Dizziness -Numb hands -Headaches -Sore elbows -Bursitis -Hip pain -Shoulder pain -Carpal tunnel -Arthritis -Herniated disc -Muscle Spasms

Donrsquot let flu bug you

ConcentraUrgentCarecom

Wersquore here For you

Trust Concentra for this seasonrsquos flu shotsWhen it comes to seasonal vaccinations Concentra has you covered A flu vaccine is one of the best defenses against the flu so get yours today by asking one of our medical experts Itrsquos safe easy and no appointment is necessary Moreover the 20102011 single-dose vaccine covers both seasonal and H1N1 flu strains From preventing to treating the flu wersquore here For you

Flu shots available while supplies lastFlu shots are available as a cash pay service Cash check and most credit cards are welcome

Concentra does not guarantee the quality of the vaccine or any results of the vaccine or that any person inoculated with the vaccine will not get the flu

copy2010 Concentra Operating Corporation All rights reserved

See our other Atlanta-area locations

Concentra Urgent Care688 Spring St NW Atlanta GA 30308404-881-1155

Open MonndashFri 730 amndash800 pmSat-Sun 1000 am-400 pm

Find your passion in the arts at Callanwolde Classes for all ages in visual art pottery jewelry yoga

dance writing music photography and more

Pure Inspiration

Callanwolde Fine Arts Center 980 Briarcliff Rd NE Atlanta bull 404-872-5338

wwwcallanwoldeorg

Mention this ad to receive 10 off your meal

throughout this month

Tell Your Friends

ONLY The Best of The Best in Apartment Communities can hold the National Apartment Desigation as being a W3 Lifestyle

designated Community Community performance is then monitored on a monthly basis

Visit Us Online wwwW3LifestylecomWant to Share your Experience Call 770-886-1881 ext 0

Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

Best of The Best inApartment CommunitiesExperience a W3 Lifestyle

Page 18: May 2011

Please tell me what ever happened to Personal Accountability Our society seemingly has gotten more and more about pointing fingers rather than taking accountability and coming up with solutions It happens on many levels whether it is at work in our personal lives or criticizing a politician No matter at what level ndash finger pointing has become the ldquonormrdquo Aggravating to most but still happens on a daily basis

Lack of personal accountability has become a problem resulting in an epidemic of blame complaining and procrastination No organization or individual can achieve goals compete in the marketplace fulfill a vision or develop people and teams without personal accountability

The author says this book is for anyone that has heard questions like these

bull ldquoWhen is that department going to do its jobrdquo

bull ldquoWhy donrsquot they communicate betterrdquo

bull Who dropped the ballrdquo

bull ldquoWhy do we have to go through all this changerdquo

bull ldquoWhen is someone going to train merdquo

However in my opinion this book is for everyone Each and every one of us can always use a reminder of how important personal accountability is to our own personal successes The book helps the reader to recognize and ask better questions Miller points out that every question should always Focus on Action Sounds simple and obvious however take a day and listen to most questions that are asked ndash typically they focus on ldquoWhyrdquo ldquoWhenrdquo and ldquoWhordquo The answer to which almost never truly results in action to solve the challenge or opportunity at hand Another great way he refers to the ldquoWhyrdquo question is ndash Victim

Thinking Empower yourself to handle situations as they present themselves and donrsquot succumb to the situation by becoming the victim As Miller quotes ldquoThe best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselvesrdquo

This book is excellent in pointing out that communication is about much more than how we speak or what we say but even more importantly is how we listen and how we understand the person speaking to us Asking the question ldquoHow can I better understand yourdquo is a perfect example of this After all if we are talking to someone but canrsquot understand what they are telling ushellipthen what is the point

The great thing about this book is that it is an quick and easy read full of practical methods for putting personal accountability into daily action that will produce immediate results It is only 115 pages and I read 97 pages in my first sitting The pages are small and the text is large and is written in more of a conversational style rather than as an instructional manual Using this tool each of us can add tremendous worth to our organizations and to our lives by eliminating blame complaining and procrastination

Enjoy QBQ ndash The Question Behind the Question and share it with others in your life because as Alvin Toffler says ldquoThe illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read or write but those who cannot learn unlearn and relearnrdquo

QBQ The Question Behind the Question

by John MillerReview by David Wolfe

with usclick here

advertisewith us

click here

Advertising runs for 1 year and includes 4 Full Page 4 Half Page and 4 Quarter Page ads All Full Color and All Fully Interactive Pricing is as low as $150 per year The biggest ldquono brainerrdquo in advertising

After all - your current andor potential customer is reading this right now

Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

61

2

3

5

7

8

104

9

Call us today to learn more about thisaffordable office procedure with minimal downtime

4042503333wwwdrkavalicom

$15 off Your 1st and 3rd Cleanings

New Clients Only

Customized Cleanings to fit

your needs

Cleaning Is Not Just Our Job Cleaning Is Our Passion

Call for FREE estimate 770-592-1054 404-256-4207 Visit our website for services provided at wwwmetropolitanmaidservicescom

15 off SpringFall Cleanings Move InOut Cleanings 100 Satisfaction Guarantee

980 Briarcliff Road NE Atlanta GA 30306 404-872-5338 wwwcallanwoldeorg

Callanwoldersquos magnificent Gothic-Tudor mansion and exquisite grounds provide

a unique setting for all special occasions

Cal

lanw

olde

pho

tos

patt

erso

npho

togr

aphy

com

Where happily ever afters begin

NO Massage companies are supporting your community yet with Special Discounts

Whatrsquos up with that

advertisewith usclick here

Highlights

Tired Of Neck amp Back Pain Try Chiropractic New Patient Special Chiropractic Consultation Digital Posture Exam Up to 4 X-Rays if needed and Report of Findings with Doctor

678-319-9777 210 Prospect Place Alpharetta GA 30005

ldquoIrsquom convinced that these specific tests are the fastest and easiest way to find the cause of painful spinal problemsrdquo Dr Ron Redman DC Call today to schedule a appointment Present or mention this add and take advantage of this fantastic deal It may change your life

Only $4900 ($249 Value)

wwwChiro4Sportsnet

You may have one of these 15 body signals of pinched nerves -Low back pain -Neck pain -Sciatica -Dizziness -Numb hands -Headaches -Sore elbows -Bursitis -Hip pain -Shoulder pain -Carpal tunnel -Arthritis -Herniated disc -Muscle Spasms

Donrsquot let flu bug you

ConcentraUrgentCarecom

Wersquore here For you

Trust Concentra for this seasonrsquos flu shotsWhen it comes to seasonal vaccinations Concentra has you covered A flu vaccine is one of the best defenses against the flu so get yours today by asking one of our medical experts Itrsquos safe easy and no appointment is necessary Moreover the 20102011 single-dose vaccine covers both seasonal and H1N1 flu strains From preventing to treating the flu wersquore here For you

Flu shots available while supplies lastFlu shots are available as a cash pay service Cash check and most credit cards are welcome

Concentra does not guarantee the quality of the vaccine or any results of the vaccine or that any person inoculated with the vaccine will not get the flu

copy2010 Concentra Operating Corporation All rights reserved

See our other Atlanta-area locations

Concentra Urgent Care688 Spring St NW Atlanta GA 30308404-881-1155

Open MonndashFri 730 amndash800 pmSat-Sun 1000 am-400 pm

Find your passion in the arts at Callanwolde Classes for all ages in visual art pottery jewelry yoga

dance writing music photography and more

Pure Inspiration

Callanwolde Fine Arts Center 980 Briarcliff Rd NE Atlanta bull 404-872-5338

wwwcallanwoldeorg

Mention this ad to receive 10 off your meal

throughout this month

Tell Your Friends

ONLY The Best of The Best in Apartment Communities can hold the National Apartment Desigation as being a W3 Lifestyle

designated Community Community performance is then monitored on a monthly basis

Visit Us Online wwwW3LifestylecomWant to Share your Experience Call 770-886-1881 ext 0

Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

Best of The Best inApartment CommunitiesExperience a W3 Lifestyle

Page 19: May 2011

with usclick here

advertisewith us

click here

Advertising runs for 1 year and includes 4 Full Page 4 Half Page and 4 Quarter Page ads All Full Color and All Fully Interactive Pricing is as low as $150 per year The biggest ldquono brainerrdquo in advertising

After all - your current andor potential customer is reading this right now

Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

61

2

3

5

7

8

104

9

Call us today to learn more about thisaffordable office procedure with minimal downtime

4042503333wwwdrkavalicom

$15 off Your 1st and 3rd Cleanings

New Clients Only

Customized Cleanings to fit

your needs

Cleaning Is Not Just Our Job Cleaning Is Our Passion

Call for FREE estimate 770-592-1054 404-256-4207 Visit our website for services provided at wwwmetropolitanmaidservicescom

15 off SpringFall Cleanings Move InOut Cleanings 100 Satisfaction Guarantee

980 Briarcliff Road NE Atlanta GA 30306 404-872-5338 wwwcallanwoldeorg

Callanwoldersquos magnificent Gothic-Tudor mansion and exquisite grounds provide

a unique setting for all special occasions

Cal

lanw

olde

pho

tos

patt

erso

npho

togr

aphy

com

Where happily ever afters begin

NO Massage companies are supporting your community yet with Special Discounts

Whatrsquos up with that

advertisewith usclick here

Highlights

Tired Of Neck amp Back Pain Try Chiropractic New Patient Special Chiropractic Consultation Digital Posture Exam Up to 4 X-Rays if needed and Report of Findings with Doctor

678-319-9777 210 Prospect Place Alpharetta GA 30005

ldquoIrsquom convinced that these specific tests are the fastest and easiest way to find the cause of painful spinal problemsrdquo Dr Ron Redman DC Call today to schedule a appointment Present or mention this add and take advantage of this fantastic deal It may change your life

Only $4900 ($249 Value)

wwwChiro4Sportsnet

You may have one of these 15 body signals of pinched nerves -Low back pain -Neck pain -Sciatica -Dizziness -Numb hands -Headaches -Sore elbows -Bursitis -Hip pain -Shoulder pain -Carpal tunnel -Arthritis -Herniated disc -Muscle Spasms

Donrsquot let flu bug you

ConcentraUrgentCarecom

Wersquore here For you

Trust Concentra for this seasonrsquos flu shotsWhen it comes to seasonal vaccinations Concentra has you covered A flu vaccine is one of the best defenses against the flu so get yours today by asking one of our medical experts Itrsquos safe easy and no appointment is necessary Moreover the 20102011 single-dose vaccine covers both seasonal and H1N1 flu strains From preventing to treating the flu wersquore here For you

Flu shots available while supplies lastFlu shots are available as a cash pay service Cash check and most credit cards are welcome

Concentra does not guarantee the quality of the vaccine or any results of the vaccine or that any person inoculated with the vaccine will not get the flu

copy2010 Concentra Operating Corporation All rights reserved

See our other Atlanta-area locations

Concentra Urgent Care688 Spring St NW Atlanta GA 30308404-881-1155

Open MonndashFri 730 amndash800 pmSat-Sun 1000 am-400 pm

Find your passion in the arts at Callanwolde Classes for all ages in visual art pottery jewelry yoga

dance writing music photography and more

Pure Inspiration

Callanwolde Fine Arts Center 980 Briarcliff Rd NE Atlanta bull 404-872-5338

wwwcallanwoldeorg

Mention this ad to receive 10 off your meal

throughout this month

Tell Your Friends

ONLY The Best of The Best in Apartment Communities can hold the National Apartment Desigation as being a W3 Lifestyle

designated Community Community performance is then monitored on a monthly basis

Visit Us Online wwwW3LifestylecomWant to Share your Experience Call 770-886-1881 ext 0

Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

Best of The Best inApartment CommunitiesExperience a W3 Lifestyle

Page 20: May 2011

Ten Things To include in Your Will

Name a personal representative or executor

In an individual will your parent can name a person or institution to act as

personal representative called an executor in some states who will be responsible for making sure that the will is carried out as written and that the property is divvied up and distributed as directed Itrsquos also wise to name an alternate in case the first choice is unable or

unwilling to act

Name beneficiaries to get specific property

Your parentrsquos will can specify separate gifts of property mdash called specific bequests mdash including cash personal property or real estate Likely beneficiaries for such bequests are children and other

relatives but they may also include friends business associates charities or other organizations

Specify alternate beneficiaries

In fashioning their wills most people assume that the beneficiaries they name will survive to take the property theyrsquove specified for them The most thoughtful wills provide for what should happen if those beneficiaries donrsquot survive mdash either by naming a backup recipient or indicating that the personrsquos spouse or children should take the property instead

Name someone to take all remaining property

If your parent has opted to make specific bequests of property a will is also the place to name people or organizations to take whatever property is left over This property is usually called a ldquoresiduary estaterdquo

Give directions on dividing personal assets

If your parent wants assets divided among children charities or other beneficiaries the will should note precisely what property is included in that pool It should also specify whether assets are to go directly to beneficiaries or whether theyrsquore to be sold and the value divided among the beneficiaries either equally or according to stated percentages

Give directions for allocating business assets

Business assets are often separate from personal assets mdash and most business

owners have very specific ideas about what should be done with them after their deaths If your parents donrsquot have a written plan covering the windup of their business encourage them to see an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that their wishes are clearly indicated in each of their wills

Specify how debts expenses and taxes should be paid

The will should spell out your parentrsquos wishes regarding how to settle debts

and final expenses such as funeral and probate costs as well as any estate and inheritance taxes Usually a specific source such as a bank account will be tagged to cover these costs

Cancel debts others owe

A nice added touch is that people making wills can use the documents to relieve those who owed them money from the

responsibility of paying that debt mdash along with any interest that accumulated on it mdash to them or their survivors

Indicate special instructions for maintaining real estate

If your parents name someone to keep their house they should list any specific

instructions for its care and upkeep in each will

Provide a caretaker for pets

Since the law considers pets to be property the best way for your parents to assure a good home for theirs is to leave the animal to someone named in

each will who has agreed to give it a good home Many people also leave that person an amount of money to help cover the caretaking expenses

For more information please contact Arthur Benz with oXYGen Financial Inc at 678-551-7945

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Tired Of Neck amp Back Pain Try Chiropractic New Patient Special Chiropractic Consultation Digital Posture Exam Up to 4 X-Rays if needed and Report of Findings with Doctor

678-319-9777 210 Prospect Place Alpharetta GA 30005

ldquoIrsquom convinced that these specific tests are the fastest and easiest way to find the cause of painful spinal problemsrdquo Dr Ron Redman DC Call today to schedule a appointment Present or mention this add and take advantage of this fantastic deal It may change your life

Only $4900 ($249 Value)

wwwChiro4Sportsnet

You may have one of these 15 body signals of pinched nerves -Low back pain -Neck pain -Sciatica -Dizziness -Numb hands -Headaches -Sore elbows -Bursitis -Hip pain -Shoulder pain -Carpal tunnel -Arthritis -Herniated disc -Muscle Spasms

Donrsquot let flu bug you

ConcentraUrgentCarecom

Wersquore here For you

Trust Concentra for this seasonrsquos flu shotsWhen it comes to seasonal vaccinations Concentra has you covered A flu vaccine is one of the best defenses against the flu so get yours today by asking one of our medical experts Itrsquos safe easy and no appointment is necessary Moreover the 20102011 single-dose vaccine covers both seasonal and H1N1 flu strains From preventing to treating the flu wersquore here For you

Flu shots available while supplies lastFlu shots are available as a cash pay service Cash check and most credit cards are welcome

Concentra does not guarantee the quality of the vaccine or any results of the vaccine or that any person inoculated with the vaccine will not get the flu

copy2010 Concentra Operating Corporation All rights reserved

See our other Atlanta-area locations

Concentra Urgent Care688 Spring St NW Atlanta GA 30308404-881-1155

Open MonndashFri 730 amndash800 pmSat-Sun 1000 am-400 pm

Find your passion in the arts at Callanwolde Classes for all ages in visual art pottery jewelry yoga

dance writing music photography and more

Pure Inspiration

Callanwolde Fine Arts Center 980 Briarcliff Rd NE Atlanta bull 404-872-5338

wwwcallanwoldeorg

Mention this ad to receive 10 off your meal

throughout this month

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ONLY The Best of The Best in Apartment Communities can hold the National Apartment Desigation as being a W3 Lifestyle

designated Community Community performance is then monitored on a monthly basis

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Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

Best of The Best inApartment CommunitiesExperience a W3 Lifestyle

Page 21: May 2011

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4042503333wwwdrkavalicom

$15 off Your 1st and 3rd Cleanings

New Clients Only

Customized Cleanings to fit

your needs

Cleaning Is Not Just Our Job Cleaning Is Our Passion

Call for FREE estimate 770-592-1054 404-256-4207 Visit our website for services provided at wwwmetropolitanmaidservicescom

15 off SpringFall Cleanings Move InOut Cleanings 100 Satisfaction Guarantee

980 Briarcliff Road NE Atlanta GA 30306 404-872-5338 wwwcallanwoldeorg

Callanwoldersquos magnificent Gothic-Tudor mansion and exquisite grounds provide

a unique setting for all special occasions

Cal

lanw

olde

pho

tos

patt

erso

npho

togr

aphy

com

Where happily ever afters begin

NO Massage companies are supporting your community yet with Special Discounts

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Highlights

Tired Of Neck amp Back Pain Try Chiropractic New Patient Special Chiropractic Consultation Digital Posture Exam Up to 4 X-Rays if needed and Report of Findings with Doctor

678-319-9777 210 Prospect Place Alpharetta GA 30005

ldquoIrsquom convinced that these specific tests are the fastest and easiest way to find the cause of painful spinal problemsrdquo Dr Ron Redman DC Call today to schedule a appointment Present or mention this add and take advantage of this fantastic deal It may change your life

Only $4900 ($249 Value)

wwwChiro4Sportsnet

You may have one of these 15 body signals of pinched nerves -Low back pain -Neck pain -Sciatica -Dizziness -Numb hands -Headaches -Sore elbows -Bursitis -Hip pain -Shoulder pain -Carpal tunnel -Arthritis -Herniated disc -Muscle Spasms

Donrsquot let flu bug you

ConcentraUrgentCarecom

Wersquore here For you

Trust Concentra for this seasonrsquos flu shotsWhen it comes to seasonal vaccinations Concentra has you covered A flu vaccine is one of the best defenses against the flu so get yours today by asking one of our medical experts Itrsquos safe easy and no appointment is necessary Moreover the 20102011 single-dose vaccine covers both seasonal and H1N1 flu strains From preventing to treating the flu wersquore here For you

Flu shots available while supplies lastFlu shots are available as a cash pay service Cash check and most credit cards are welcome

Concentra does not guarantee the quality of the vaccine or any results of the vaccine or that any person inoculated with the vaccine will not get the flu

copy2010 Concentra Operating Corporation All rights reserved

See our other Atlanta-area locations

Concentra Urgent Care688 Spring St NW Atlanta GA 30308404-881-1155

Open MonndashFri 730 amndash800 pmSat-Sun 1000 am-400 pm

Find your passion in the arts at Callanwolde Classes for all ages in visual art pottery jewelry yoga

dance writing music photography and more

Pure Inspiration

Callanwolde Fine Arts Center 980 Briarcliff Rd NE Atlanta bull 404-872-5338

wwwcallanwoldeorg

Mention this ad to receive 10 off your meal

throughout this month

Tell Your Friends

ONLY The Best of The Best in Apartment Communities can hold the National Apartment Desigation as being a W3 Lifestyle

designated Community Community performance is then monitored on a monthly basis

Visit Us Online wwwW3LifestylecomWant to Share your Experience Call 770-886-1881 ext 0

Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

Best of The Best inApartment CommunitiesExperience a W3 Lifestyle

Page 22: May 2011

$15 off Your 1st and 3rd Cleanings

New Clients Only

Customized Cleanings to fit

your needs

Cleaning Is Not Just Our Job Cleaning Is Our Passion

Call for FREE estimate 770-592-1054 404-256-4207 Visit our website for services provided at wwwmetropolitanmaidservicescom

15 off SpringFall Cleanings Move InOut Cleanings 100 Satisfaction Guarantee

980 Briarcliff Road NE Atlanta GA 30306 404-872-5338 wwwcallanwoldeorg

Callanwoldersquos magnificent Gothic-Tudor mansion and exquisite grounds provide

a unique setting for all special occasions

Cal

lanw

olde

pho

tos

patt

erso

npho

togr

aphy

com

Where happily ever afters begin

NO Massage companies are supporting your community yet with Special Discounts

Whatrsquos up with that

advertisewith usclick here

Highlights

Tired Of Neck amp Back Pain Try Chiropractic New Patient Special Chiropractic Consultation Digital Posture Exam Up to 4 X-Rays if needed and Report of Findings with Doctor

678-319-9777 210 Prospect Place Alpharetta GA 30005

ldquoIrsquom convinced that these specific tests are the fastest and easiest way to find the cause of painful spinal problemsrdquo Dr Ron Redman DC Call today to schedule a appointment Present or mention this add and take advantage of this fantastic deal It may change your life

Only $4900 ($249 Value)

wwwChiro4Sportsnet

You may have one of these 15 body signals of pinched nerves -Low back pain -Neck pain -Sciatica -Dizziness -Numb hands -Headaches -Sore elbows -Bursitis -Hip pain -Shoulder pain -Carpal tunnel -Arthritis -Herniated disc -Muscle Spasms

Donrsquot let flu bug you

ConcentraUrgentCarecom

Wersquore here For you

Trust Concentra for this seasonrsquos flu shotsWhen it comes to seasonal vaccinations Concentra has you covered A flu vaccine is one of the best defenses against the flu so get yours today by asking one of our medical experts Itrsquos safe easy and no appointment is necessary Moreover the 20102011 single-dose vaccine covers both seasonal and H1N1 flu strains From preventing to treating the flu wersquore here For you

Flu shots available while supplies lastFlu shots are available as a cash pay service Cash check and most credit cards are welcome

Concentra does not guarantee the quality of the vaccine or any results of the vaccine or that any person inoculated with the vaccine will not get the flu

copy2010 Concentra Operating Corporation All rights reserved

See our other Atlanta-area locations

Concentra Urgent Care688 Spring St NW Atlanta GA 30308404-881-1155

Open MonndashFri 730 amndash800 pmSat-Sun 1000 am-400 pm

Find your passion in the arts at Callanwolde Classes for all ages in visual art pottery jewelry yoga

dance writing music photography and more

Pure Inspiration

Callanwolde Fine Arts Center 980 Briarcliff Rd NE Atlanta bull 404-872-5338

wwwcallanwoldeorg

Mention this ad to receive 10 off your meal

throughout this month

Tell Your Friends

ONLY The Best of The Best in Apartment Communities can hold the National Apartment Desigation as being a W3 Lifestyle

designated Community Community performance is then monitored on a monthly basis

Visit Us Online wwwW3LifestylecomWant to Share your Experience Call 770-886-1881 ext 0

Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

Best of The Best inApartment CommunitiesExperience a W3 Lifestyle

Page 23: May 2011

980 Briarcliff Road NE Atlanta GA 30306 404-872-5338 wwwcallanwoldeorg

Callanwoldersquos magnificent Gothic-Tudor mansion and exquisite grounds provide

a unique setting for all special occasions

Cal

lanw

olde

pho

tos

patt

erso

npho

togr

aphy

com

Where happily ever afters begin

NO Massage companies are supporting your community yet with Special Discounts

Whatrsquos up with that

advertisewith usclick here

Highlights

Tired Of Neck amp Back Pain Try Chiropractic New Patient Special Chiropractic Consultation Digital Posture Exam Up to 4 X-Rays if needed and Report of Findings with Doctor

678-319-9777 210 Prospect Place Alpharetta GA 30005

ldquoIrsquom convinced that these specific tests are the fastest and easiest way to find the cause of painful spinal problemsrdquo Dr Ron Redman DC Call today to schedule a appointment Present or mention this add and take advantage of this fantastic deal It may change your life

Only $4900 ($249 Value)

wwwChiro4Sportsnet

You may have one of these 15 body signals of pinched nerves -Low back pain -Neck pain -Sciatica -Dizziness -Numb hands -Headaches -Sore elbows -Bursitis -Hip pain -Shoulder pain -Carpal tunnel -Arthritis -Herniated disc -Muscle Spasms

Donrsquot let flu bug you

ConcentraUrgentCarecom

Wersquore here For you

Trust Concentra for this seasonrsquos flu shotsWhen it comes to seasonal vaccinations Concentra has you covered A flu vaccine is one of the best defenses against the flu so get yours today by asking one of our medical experts Itrsquos safe easy and no appointment is necessary Moreover the 20102011 single-dose vaccine covers both seasonal and H1N1 flu strains From preventing to treating the flu wersquore here For you

Flu shots available while supplies lastFlu shots are available as a cash pay service Cash check and most credit cards are welcome

Concentra does not guarantee the quality of the vaccine or any results of the vaccine or that any person inoculated with the vaccine will not get the flu

copy2010 Concentra Operating Corporation All rights reserved

See our other Atlanta-area locations

Concentra Urgent Care688 Spring St NW Atlanta GA 30308404-881-1155

Open MonndashFri 730 amndash800 pmSat-Sun 1000 am-400 pm

Find your passion in the arts at Callanwolde Classes for all ages in visual art pottery jewelry yoga

dance writing music photography and more

Pure Inspiration

Callanwolde Fine Arts Center 980 Briarcliff Rd NE Atlanta bull 404-872-5338

wwwcallanwoldeorg

Mention this ad to receive 10 off your meal

throughout this month

Tell Your Friends

ONLY The Best of The Best in Apartment Communities can hold the National Apartment Desigation as being a W3 Lifestyle

designated Community Community performance is then monitored on a monthly basis

Visit Us Online wwwW3LifestylecomWant to Share your Experience Call 770-886-1881 ext 0

Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

Best of The Best inApartment CommunitiesExperience a W3 Lifestyle

Page 24: May 2011

NO Massage companies are supporting your community yet with Special Discounts

Whatrsquos up with that

advertisewith usclick here

Highlights

Tired Of Neck amp Back Pain Try Chiropractic New Patient Special Chiropractic Consultation Digital Posture Exam Up to 4 X-Rays if needed and Report of Findings with Doctor

678-319-9777 210 Prospect Place Alpharetta GA 30005

ldquoIrsquom convinced that these specific tests are the fastest and easiest way to find the cause of painful spinal problemsrdquo Dr Ron Redman DC Call today to schedule a appointment Present or mention this add and take advantage of this fantastic deal It may change your life

Only $4900 ($249 Value)

wwwChiro4Sportsnet

You may have one of these 15 body signals of pinched nerves -Low back pain -Neck pain -Sciatica -Dizziness -Numb hands -Headaches -Sore elbows -Bursitis -Hip pain -Shoulder pain -Carpal tunnel -Arthritis -Herniated disc -Muscle Spasms

Donrsquot let flu bug you

ConcentraUrgentCarecom

Wersquore here For you

Trust Concentra for this seasonrsquos flu shotsWhen it comes to seasonal vaccinations Concentra has you covered A flu vaccine is one of the best defenses against the flu so get yours today by asking one of our medical experts Itrsquos safe easy and no appointment is necessary Moreover the 20102011 single-dose vaccine covers both seasonal and H1N1 flu strains From preventing to treating the flu wersquore here For you

Flu shots available while supplies lastFlu shots are available as a cash pay service Cash check and most credit cards are welcome

Concentra does not guarantee the quality of the vaccine or any results of the vaccine or that any person inoculated with the vaccine will not get the flu

copy2010 Concentra Operating Corporation All rights reserved

See our other Atlanta-area locations

Concentra Urgent Care688 Spring St NW Atlanta GA 30308404-881-1155

Open MonndashFri 730 amndash800 pmSat-Sun 1000 am-400 pm

Find your passion in the arts at Callanwolde Classes for all ages in visual art pottery jewelry yoga

dance writing music photography and more

Pure Inspiration

Callanwolde Fine Arts Center 980 Briarcliff Rd NE Atlanta bull 404-872-5338

wwwcallanwoldeorg

Mention this ad to receive 10 off your meal

throughout this month

Tell Your Friends

ONLY The Best of The Best in Apartment Communities can hold the National Apartment Desigation as being a W3 Lifestyle

designated Community Community performance is then monitored on a monthly basis

Visit Us Online wwwW3LifestylecomWant to Share your Experience Call 770-886-1881 ext 0

Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

Best of The Best inApartment CommunitiesExperience a W3 Lifestyle

Page 25: May 2011

Donrsquot let flu bug you

ConcentraUrgentCarecom

Wersquore here For you

Trust Concentra for this seasonrsquos flu shotsWhen it comes to seasonal vaccinations Concentra has you covered A flu vaccine is one of the best defenses against the flu so get yours today by asking one of our medical experts Itrsquos safe easy and no appointment is necessary Moreover the 20102011 single-dose vaccine covers both seasonal and H1N1 flu strains From preventing to treating the flu wersquore here For you

Flu shots available while supplies lastFlu shots are available as a cash pay service Cash check and most credit cards are welcome

Concentra does not guarantee the quality of the vaccine or any results of the vaccine or that any person inoculated with the vaccine will not get the flu

copy2010 Concentra Operating Corporation All rights reserved

See our other Atlanta-area locations

Concentra Urgent Care688 Spring St NW Atlanta GA 30308404-881-1155

Open MonndashFri 730 amndash800 pmSat-Sun 1000 am-400 pm

Find your passion in the arts at Callanwolde Classes for all ages in visual art pottery jewelry yoga

dance writing music photography and more

Pure Inspiration

Callanwolde Fine Arts Center 980 Briarcliff Rd NE Atlanta bull 404-872-5338

wwwcallanwoldeorg

Mention this ad to receive 10 off your meal

throughout this month

Tell Your Friends

ONLY The Best of The Best in Apartment Communities can hold the National Apartment Desigation as being a W3 Lifestyle

designated Community Community performance is then monitored on a monthly basis

Visit Us Online wwwW3LifestylecomWant to Share your Experience Call 770-886-1881 ext 0

Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

Best of The Best inApartment CommunitiesExperience a W3 Lifestyle

Page 26: May 2011

Find your passion in the arts at Callanwolde Classes for all ages in visual art pottery jewelry yoga

dance writing music photography and more

Pure Inspiration

Callanwolde Fine Arts Center 980 Briarcliff Rd NE Atlanta bull 404-872-5338

wwwcallanwoldeorg

Mention this ad to receive 10 off your meal

throughout this month

Tell Your Friends

ONLY The Best of The Best in Apartment Communities can hold the National Apartment Desigation as being a W3 Lifestyle

designated Community Community performance is then monitored on a monthly basis

Visit Us Online wwwW3LifestylecomWant to Share your Experience Call 770-886-1881 ext 0

Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

Best of The Best inApartment CommunitiesExperience a W3 Lifestyle

Page 27: May 2011

Mention this ad to receive 10 off your meal

throughout this month

Tell Your Friends

ONLY The Best of The Best in Apartment Communities can hold the National Apartment Desigation as being a W3 Lifestyle

designated Community Community performance is then monitored on a monthly basis

Visit Us Online wwwW3LifestylecomWant to Share your Experience Call 770-886-1881 ext 0

Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

Best of The Best inApartment CommunitiesExperience a W3 Lifestyle

Page 28: May 2011

Tell Your Friends

ONLY The Best of The Best in Apartment Communities can hold the National Apartment Desigation as being a W3 Lifestyle

designated Community Community performance is then monitored on a monthly basis

Visit Us Online wwwW3LifestylecomWant to Share your Experience Call 770-886-1881 ext 0

Spread The Word about W3 Lifestyle Designation

Apartment Communities cannot ldquobuyrdquo their designation they must earn it As a third party who evaluates communities as our specialty we have already done the leg work for apartment renters Tell your friends and family when they are ready to lease their new apartment home - look for the

designation of excellence W3 Lifestyle ONLY W3 Lifestyle designated communities are evaluated and then monitored monthly for excellence Experience a W3 Lifestyle

National Apartment DesignationSome of the Criteria for Initial Designation- Provide Superior Resident Services- Provide Superior Product Quality- Commit to Consistent Resident Events- Commit to Superior Resident Communication

All Designated Communities are Monitered Monthly

Best of The Best inApartment CommunitiesExperience a W3 Lifestyle