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VOLUME 20 / ISSUE 3

Magazine

A ParentThoughtGetting Rid of the Gloom

and Guilt

HukillBurgers

Family Camp

is on the Way

Fall 2010

UnexpectedVisitor

Whos There?


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On the

Coveraking burgers can be dan-

rous work!

m from Camp Daniel slaves

the grill for the campers at

is years camp.

2

3

Editors Letter

6

Fitness

9

Outdoor Adventures10

Moms Moments

12

Crafting Community

14

Community Lifts

16

A Parent Thought

18

Caregiver Conversations20

Life on the Horizon

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One of the things I miss most about living in the Midwest is the leaves swirling athe yard and the piles we would create as we raked the leaves together. The entertainment for hours to any child with an imagination.

Here at Lift we try hard to be creative in thinking of new ways to entertain our familidisabilities. I am so excited to announce to you that this month we have launched

those new ideas. Check out the article on page 14 to nd out about a new adventure

away, for families that will be in J uly 2011. Registration opens in November so dont m

You can nd out more about Breakaway on our website at www.liftdisability.net/brea

Along the lines of creative we have added a new column for all you crafty folks. Chec

on page 16. Crafting Community is a new program of one of our partners, Access Lif

for craft groups in your area to be opening soon. To nd out more check out their wwww.access-life.org

Whether you are crafty or just enjoy creation we hope you have a fall that is lled withof fun and moments to remember. ENJOY!

Rhonette

Editor i

regular features

Editors Letter

The leavesare swirling...


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EDITOR IN CHIEFRhonee HukillSENIOR EDITOR Mike Beates

CONTRIBUTING EDITORS

Caregiver Conversations Rhonee HukillCommunity Lifts Jim Hukill

FitnessHeather PenningtonLead Jim Hukill

Life on the HorizonChris MaxwellMoms Moments Nicolee Samuel

Outdoor Adventures Doug GoddardSibling Sidelines Lile Tony Piantine

The Lighter SideJane Petrak

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dont know about you, butfall is one of my favoritemes of the year. Breath-

g the fresh crisp air, hear-g the fallen leaves crunch

nder wheels or feet, seeing

he absolutely vibrant colors

hat God displays in once true

reen colors is fascinating.

he heart of Godnd His love for

s is illustrated

such a beauti-

ul time of sea-on change.

This heart of

od is the life-

ving Gospel ofesus, just like

he human heart

the center of

he cardiovas-

ular system

nd our source of life. When

e trust God with our whole

eart and lean not on our

wn understanding like Prov-

rbs 3:5-6 says, our lives linep much more with living for

od. After all, Jesus says the

rst and greatest command-

ment is to, Love the LORD

our God with all your heart

nd with all your soul and

ith all your strength (Mat-

Guard Your Heart for Fall: Wellspring of LifeY HEATHER PENNINGTON

thew 22:37). So what does it

mean to involve our whole

hearts in the physical act

of worship in caring for ourTemples the house of God

in us? It means exercising

and challenging that heart to

be its absolute best so that

we may live to glorify Him.

To set our hearts on thingsabove is our tness focus for

this issue (Colossians 3:1).

In the fall, as the days are

shorter and the weather getscooler, we tend to be less

active. It is important, when

we think about our bodies

being Temples of the Holy

Spirit, that we continue to

stay physically active so that

we can continue to chal-

lenge that life-giving source

of our lives: the heart. We

dont want it to get stagnant

and have our cardiovascularhealth diminish during the

fall and winter. This is true

also in our spiritual lives as

Proverbs 4:23 reminds us,

Above all else, guard your

heart, for it is the wellspringof life.

The heart is a muscle like

every other muscle in our

body. In order to improve

and ward o decline, it

must be challenged or over-

loaded. But, we also know

that it is very important notto overload the heart too

much. Every person has

an age-determined target

heart rate that helps deter-

mine intensity. I t is a simple

calculation based on age

that allows a person to know

their Predicted Maximum

Heart Rate (PMHR), or the

maximum beats per minuteour heart should pump for

maximum health. Once this

is determined, percentages

of this maximum can be

gured to make sure that we

are exercising safely and ef-

fectively to benet our heart

health for overall wellbeing.

Typically, a healthy heart rate

range is between 55-85%

of your Predicted MaximumHeart Rate and is expressed in

beats per minute (bpm).

Here is the calculation with

an example of someone whois fty years old:

Calculate: 220 age (50

years) = 180 beats per minute

(bpm) PMHR

Multiply 180 by 0.55 to get55% of the PMHR which is

about 100 beats per minute.

Multiply 180 by 0.85 to get

85% of the PMHR which is

about 150 beats per minute.

Therefore, the target heart

range for a fty year old is 100

150 beats per minute. The

simplest way to monitor this

is during activity of any kind is

to stop and count your heart

rate for 6 seconds, then add azero to the number that you

counted. You have arteries

to the right and left of your

Adams apple and this is usu-

ally a good place to check

your pulse by placing yourrst and second ngers on

your neck. This is a simple way

to ensure you are challenging

your heart enough for benetbut being careful not to exert

too much. Some individuals

wear a heart monitor that can

FitnesFitness

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PENNIN

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be purchased inexpensively

to help monitor intensity for

activity.

So lets get out there

and enjoy this magnicent

season and the cool crisp

air. Here are some tips and

suggested activities for car-diovascular activity dened

as any repetitive movement

that involves your largest

functioning muscle groups:

Cycling (leg or arm),walking, pushing a wheel-

chair, swimming, station-

ary arm or leg bike, raking

leaves, jogging, simple arm

swings or movements, danc-

ing, and much more!

Set a goal of 3-5 times

per week, starting with 10

minutes a day and work-

ing up to 30-45 minutes per

day.*

Remember to calculate

your target heart rate range

and then keep moving to

make your heart happy and

healthy for the fall. Let us

turn our hearts and minds

to continually followingJesus so that our spiritual

and physical health has our

hearts set on HIM.

*See a physician before beginningan exercise program if you have anyquestions or concerns with specichealth conditions or medications.


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las Lake. None of them were

worthy of mounting on the

wall, but they were rsts forme just the same. Ive caught

plenty of 5, 6, and 7 pound

bass in my lifetime. This was

a season of resting in Gods

outdoors not conquering it.

Often times God presses us

through lifes events, situa-

tions, and circumstances so

we have to take time to stop

and rest. That, my friend, is

a good thing. It is a bless-

ing to be enjoyed. There is

joy in the journey and in the

seasons of life. God is therein each one, always with us.

Rest in Him every day and

along the way.

This summer has been abusy one for Leanne andme but also a very reward-

ing one. I have not been

able to get out and sh as

much as Id like or as much

as I normally do because of

our ministry travel schedule.However, the times I have

gone shing I have enjoyed

myself thoroughly. Ive qui-

etly delighted not in the size

or quantity of sh caught

but in the time spent with

family and friends.

During June, July, and

August, while preparing for

our community outreach in

East Tennessee, we went out

shing with my dad several

times. Before going any fur-

ther, you should know thatmy dad is not a huge sher-

man like me. He does own

a pontoon boat but loves

taking folks out and show-ing them the local birds,

trees and coves on the lake

as much or more than trying

to catch the sh in it.

In turn, our outings on

the boat were very dier-

ent from my normal sh-

ing trips. They were not the

usual focused intense time

on the water I spend guid-

ing the trolling motor to and

through every piece of wood,

grass or rocks that might

hold a lounging bass. Rather

we enjoyed leisurely tripstrolling for whatever might

bite and even engaged in

sightseeing! Yes, thats right!

I sat on the deck holding

my rod in the water while

we trolled and looked at the

scenery.

This left me feeling a bit

like a sh out of the water at

rst. But as I breathed in the

fresh crisp morning air and

felt the cool breeze blowing

across my face, I settled into

the new routine. This relaxedapproach gave us time to

talk about the weather, foot-

ball, and friends. Often times

we were all simply silent andstill, basking in Gods beauti-

ful outdoors.

Now dont get me wrong

here, we shed. In fact, I

caught my rst walleye,

drum, and smallmouth bass

while trolling around Doug-

Outdoo

Adventu

Taking TimeBY DOUG GODDARD

Outdoor

Adventures

DOUG

GODDARD

is a c5/6 quad-

riplegic from

a 1983 diving

accident the

summer be-

fore his junior

year in high

school. He came to know the Lord

through this experience and be-lieves that God not only has a plan,

but a good plan for folks aected by

disabilities. One of the many bless-

ings Doug enjoys, on top of being

married to his best friend Leanne,

is that of Gods great outdoors. He

loves to sh, hunt, explore, and just

be outdoors. Despite his disability,

with Gods help, he does!

He makes me lie dowgreen pastures, he leadsbeside quiet waters

restores my s(Psalm 23


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COUNTRY APPLE DUMPLINGSServes 16

2 large Granny Smith apples, peeled and cored

2 (10 ounce) cans refrigerated crescent roll dough

1 cup butter

1 1/2 cups white sugar

1 teaspoon ground cinnamon

1 (12 uid ounce) can or bottle Mountain Dew

Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease a 9x13 inch baking dish.

Cut each apple into 8 wedges and set aside. Separate the crescent roll dough into trian

Roll each apple wedge in crescent roll dough starting at the smallest end. Pinch to seaplace in the baking dish. Melt butter in a small saucepan and stir in the sugar and cinn

mon. Pour over the apple dumplings. Pour Mountain Dew over the dumplings. Bake

to 45 minutes in the preheated oven, or until golden brown.


NICOLETTE

SAMUEL has been

married 12 years

to her husband

Shaker. Combinedthey have 3 chil-

dren. With her

husband as Pastor,

Nicolette nds

herself very involved in chur

istry. Over the years she has

many lessons, many of whic

from her daughter, Hannah

has Down syndrome.

As I walked behind her into

the living room, I saw a man

standing there just inside

the open front door. It took

me a little while to realize

that it was a police ocer. Atthis point just let me inter-

Unexpected VisitorY NICOLETTE SAMUEL

ms Moments

m really not certain if there

is any lesson or teachingpportunity in the following

ory. But, like most stories

volving my daughter Han-

ah, it is just really funny. At

ast it was after the initial

hock wore o. So, let me be-

n with a little background

f the events leading up to

he incident in question.

It was a hot summer day.

had just nished mowing

he lawn and was in dire

eed of a shower. Hannah

as watching a movie in

he living room, which iscated at the front of our

ome. After informing her

f my intentions, I headed

o the guest bedroom in

he back of our home to

emove the sweat that had

my clothing plastered to

my skin. After a short, but

vigorating shower, I went

riey to check that Hannahas still where I had left her,

nd then returned to blow

ry my hair. I n what seems

ke a very short amount of

me, because only half of

my short hair was dry, Han-

ah was calling to me from

he door of the guest room.

When I shut o the dryer,

she informed me there was

a man who wanted to talk to

me. I was a little confused

so I asked, On the phone?

No, come she said as shemotioned for me to follow.

Moms Mom

ject that, yes, I was dressed.Although, Im sure that the

look on my face and the

stream of incoherent words

that came out of my mouth

would be enough evidence

to cause an ocer of the law

to question my mental state.

Before he could say a word, I

spewed a multitude of ques-

tions. Was she outside?

How did you get in here?

Did you open the door?Whats going on?

When I nally let him

speak, he told me the follow-ing. Maam, Im just follow-

ing up on a phone call, its

standard procedure. We re-

ceived a call from a telemar-

keter who claims that theycalled this number intending

to sell insurance, and a small

child answered the phone.

The child informed the caller

that they were all alone and

hadnt eaten anything for

2 weeks. At this point the

ocer looked over at my

daughter, who was content-

edly watching her movie and

munching on peanuts. Then

he looked back at me andsaid, Obviously, shes ne.

After the ocer left, and

my heart was back whereit belonged, I was over-

whelmed with the hilarity of

the whole situation. Life is

just never boring. So, now

I have replaced the chisafety door knob cover

double-keyed deadbol

I always take both my c

phone and the home p

with me whenever I tak

shower. Just in case!


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ver wonder what to

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Hukill BurgersY JIM HUKILL

They were called HukillBurgers. Each eveningfter a hot, humid, evening

Worship service everyone

n the rustic campground

ould ock to a little shack.

was not much more than

n old work shed suspendedn cinder blocks, but people

ould line up at the counter

nd start barking out their

rders. Everything from ice

cream cones to soft drinks

were shouted out. Some-

times one would be in

complete awe that some of

these people had just left an

electrifying, spirited camp

service. It must be how God

feels at times as we all em-phasize our wishes.

The top order of any night

was a greasy burger paddy

sandwiched between two

precisely toasted buns. The

completion of any great day

of camping activities was to

sit with family and friends

while consuming an old

fashion Hukill Burger. They

were called that becauseeach year my family would

sign up to man the snack

shack for a week of fam-

ily camp. As others would

mmunity Lifts

sit listening to an exuber-

ant, demonstrative speaker

waving and proclaiming

the Word of God, my family

would slide out of the ser-

vice to prepare for the com-

ing rush of appetites.

To this day I remember the

exhilaration as my dad lifted

my wheelchair into that old

snack shack. I was positioned

against the counter, given an

order pad and instructed asto what inventory we had.

Soon the grill began to heat

up and the air was saturated

with the aroma of grease.

What great childhood mem-

ories come rushing in as

these images are replayed.

Ever since my teen years,

those days of having the

family gather for a week of

fun, fellowship, and a faith

renewal have held a trea-

sured place in my heart.

These deposits of life-chang-ing moments motivated me

passionately to pursue God

and passionately to pursue

relationship with others.They are truly moments I

want others to share.

Lift is delighted and enthu-

siastic to announce an op-

portunity for families facing

disabilities to join my wife,

Rhonette, and I for our rst

family Breakaway week of re-

freshment July 6-10, 2011 at

Lake Yale Baptist Conference

Center in Leesburg, Fla. This

is a dream come to life for

the Lift team and we want

our readers and families to

share in this moment.

There is much planning

ahead, more announce-

ments to come, but we just

couldnt wait to share this ex-

citing news with you. Thereis a place for your family to

participate, so mark your

calendar and begin to make

plans to attend Breakaway

July 6-10, 2011. Unfortunate-

ly, there is no snack shack,

but there are many other

opportunities for folks to vol-

unteer and serve. So contact

us and join us for this greatweek.

I can still smell those burg-

ers fryin.

Community

JIM HUKILL is the Founder and

Director of Lift Disability Network.

Throughout hislife Jim has rolled

his wheelchair

past one bar-

rier after another

and the result is

a schooled life

in overcoming

limits.


9/12

BARB

DITTRICHis

the Executive

Director and

Foundress

of SNAPPIN

MINISTRIES. To

hear her speak

on Grace

Amidst the

Gloom of Guilt contact SNAPPIN

to schedule an engagement.

A Paren

Though

Getting Rid of the Gloom and GuiltY BARB DITTRICH

t happened one Tuesday

morning. I was lamenting

ow guilty I felt for not being

ble to care adequately formy family because of ongo-

ng knee surgeries. At the

ame time, my girlfriend, Sue

was feeling bad about some

eople conicts she founderself caught in the middle

f. We were both comforting

ach other and realized how

lly we were for the guilt

we felt. Then we wonderedoud, Why is it that women

ways feel so guilty ? Were

o good at beating ourselves

p!

ts true! We can be incred-

bly hard on ourselves, es-

ecially as special needs

arents. There is a k ind of

uilt you cant just laugh o.

uestions haunt us: What if

had just done something

ierent in my pregnancy? Is

od punishing me? And forhose of us whose childrenave a genetic disorder: Is it

l my fault?

Once we get through the

iagnosis phase, the guilt

oo often remains. We feelke we can never do enough

for our special kids. As de-

pleted as we may feel, we

even feel remorseful aboutentertaining the thought of

taking a small break.

Here are some insights to

help you begin to address

the onerous emotion of

guilt:

1. Take a step backward. Un-

til you get out of the forest,

you often cant see the trees.Perspective is often essential

to determine if your guilt is

truly warranted or not. Ask

yourself: What would I say to

a friend who was in exactlythe same position that Im

in? Often, you will nd that

A Parent

Thought

youd go easier on the friend

than you are on yourself.

2. Adjust your expectations.

Stop expecting perfection

from yourself. You are a hu-

man being like every other

person in the world. The

future of the world does not

hang on your every action,even where your child is

concerned. God can and will

cause everything to work out

for the best, often in spite of

you (see Romans 8:28).

3. Forgive yourself. If God

sees t to forgive you (and He

tells us so numerous times in

His Word such as Colossians

3:13), shouldnt you cut your-

self the same slack?

4. Humble yourself to re-

ceive help. You may live un-

der the delusion that you can

handle everything on your

own without the interven-

tion of others. That is simply

foolhardy. Besides, we robothers of the blessings they

receive when they serve us

out of the kindness of their

heart.

5. Be practical about your

guilt. Did you make a mis-


take? What do you plan on

doing about the mistake

now? Simply stewing in guilt

will not solve a problem.Come up with an action plan

for addressing any serious er-

rors you have made. This will

liberate you and help you to

move on.These are just a couple of

ideas to get started on deal-

ing with that overwhelm-

ing nag of regret. No matter

what, guilt needs to be root-

ed out of its dominant role in

order for a parent to be eec-

tive.

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of those loops is placed or

twisted onto a needle, but it

is never really secured untilthe garment is completely

nished and tied o. Until

then, the loops must always

remain on the needle. That

is why dropping a stitch is

so scary. If you ever let one

stitch o the needle with-

out having one beside it to

hold it together, you might

eventually unravel the entiregarment!

Caregiver

Conversations

a scary process. As I com-

pleted my rst few rows, I

was amazed to see that, rst,I had done it correctly, and

second, the garment was ac-

tually going to stay together.

As I continued with myproject I began thinking

about the knitting process.You see, this age-old craft

uses needles to intertwine

a series of loops using yarn

or thread. The thing that

amazes me is that each one

Most people knowthat I tend to be attle loopy. Sometimes

my thoughts are slightly

beat, but that is not re-

ly the kind of loopy I was

hinking of. Those who know

me know that I love to knit.

fact, I usually have a basket

ull of half-nished yarn proj-

cts at the side of the couch.

Recently I started a gar-

ment that requires you to

rop stitches. This can be

m a Little LoopyY RHONETTE HUKILL

RHONETTE HUKILL has

been a full-time caregiver to

her wonderful husband, Jim,

for nearly 17 years. Together,

by Gods grace, they face the

everyday challenges of life with

disability.

Caregive

Conversati

The Bible uses the word knit a few

times. Some, I am sure, you can recall

o the top of your head. There is one,however, that caught my eye the other

day. In 1 Samuel 18 it says Now when he

had nished speaking to Saul, the soul

of Jonathan was knit to the soul of Da-

vid, and Jonathan loved him as his own

soul. It is said that David and Jonathan

had such a special relationship that they

were almost one heart and one soul. This

is also how we should be with Christ.

Our hearts should be joined or knit with

His so that we become one.

When I think about that loop ready to

be dropped o the needle, I cant help

but think of myself and the challenges

I face managing a life of disability. I twould be so easy for me just to drop

o the path God has for me. I am most

thankful for the secure loop next to me,

Jesus, who keeps me from unraveling

my whole life. In the end, if I trust that

secure loop and the pattern that is be-

ing formed, I will become a garment that

can withstand wear and tear. I will be a

loop among many being knit together to

create a beautiful piece of art.


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Compassion: A Month for LoveY CHRIS MAXWELL

Matthew 5:23, 24

Therefore, if you are oering your gift

t the altar and there remember that your

rother has something against you, leave

our gift there in front of the altar. First

o and be reconciled to your brother; then

ome and oer your gift.

February reminds us of romance. Songs,

ommercials, and cards inform us of the du-

es and delights we label as love. Valentines

ay gifts go on sale right after Christmas.

ets not wait until January for a resolution or

ebruary for love. Lets begin today.

This time, well leave o the songs, the

cenes, the stories. Instead, here is a Love

st. Glance at the assignment. See possibili-

es for acts of k indness. Choose to live in

ve, replacing missed opportunities with

ministry moments.

Smile at a friend. Thank them for the

many blessings they bring your way.

Smile at a stranger. A glance from eyes

f one displaying Gods love is such a con-

ast to the common looks of l ust or anger.

Forgive someone who hurt you. Real-

e how the loving God has forgiven you.

Write a note. Make a call. Send a check.

erve a meal.

Engage in conversation as the one

stening.

Do to others as you wish others would

o to you.

Life on

the Horizon

CHRIS MAXWELL is an Author,

Speaker & Director of Spiritual Life

www.chrismaxwellweb.com

Life on

the Horiz

Do something for someone who has

been kind to you.

Do something for someone who has

done wrong to you.

Verbally thank someone who has

cared for you, confronted you, corrected you,

cautioned you, and continued to love you

despite your mistakes.

Pray for someone. Keep it betweenyou and God. Believe He will bless them in

amazing ways.

Refuse to let a problem about an-

other person stay with you in this year. Loveenough to really, really, really forgive.

Resentment, bitterness, and a lack of

forgiveness anchor us to a past that cannot

be changed. We cannot go back and undothe damage of yesterday, but we can undo

the damage it i s causing us today. We do

that with t he act of forgiveness (Stephen

Arterburn: Healing is a Choice).

(From Chris Maxwells latest book Unwrap-

ping His Presence: What We Really Need for

Christmas. To order the book, visit his website

at www.chrismaxwellweb.com.)

Every good

and perfec

gift is from

above, coming down

from the

Father of

the heav-

enly lights

who does

not chang

like shiftinshadows

James 1:


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