life skills-part 1

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WELCOME

LIFE SKILL MANAGEMENT PROGRAMME


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LOOKING AT LIFE AFRESH

OBJECTIVES OF THE SESSION

Self discovery and Awareness


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Dusting off deep-rooted beliefs creating road blocks in our path

Taking a Flight

OBJECTIVES


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Looking at the whole scene from Aboveto find out the truth

OBJECTIVES


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Getting to know ourselves

OBJECTIVES


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SUCCESS?


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WHAT , ACTUALLY , BR INGS US SUCCESS ? ?


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QUESTION TIME


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WHAT IS THE MOST BASIC ASPIRATION OF HUMAN BEINGS??

If it is achieved, success is achieved!!??

LIFE SKILL MANAGEMENT PROGRAM

Free wheeling session>>>>>>>


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Wewillexploreaboutourselves,andwewill

exploreaboutthethingsaroundus,

thethingswelivewitheveryday.

Whenwelookintoourselves,itturnsoutthat

weultimatelywantissomethingobvious:

Wewant

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Happiness,ProsperityandtheirContinuity.


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SO MOST BASIC ASPIRATIONS OF

HUMAN BEINGS ARE:

HAPPINESS

PROSPERITY (is it wealth?)

AND THEIR CONTINUITY

SUCCESS = HAPPINESS + PROSPERITY+ (THEIR CONTINUITY)



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N O W L E T U S F I N D O U T W H AT I S H A P P I N E S S ? ?


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Wemadetremendousprogressandadvancementsin

Science&Technology,Convenience,andComforts..

Let us raise a question!!!

Are we satisfied (Happy) with the state of affairs today?


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Referringtofollowinglevels:

Atthehumanlevel

Atthehumanrelationshipsinthefamily

AtthehumanrelationshipsinthesocietyAtthelevelofnature


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At the level of human being

At human level, therere issues in

individuals w.r.t. lack of clarity onLife goals, contradictions & stress


@ the level of human being



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Allwell-plannedhumanactivity(carriedinthenameofprogress)

Alltheseproblems

Led to

Where,then,liesthesolution?Whatexactlyisamiss?

Thisisanimportantquestionintriguingthehumanmindtoday?


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To get down to the root cause of this

Problems, Let us take a backward journey

From school level till college level

to have a closer look at our lives


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Life in School and College

Through our educational subjects, we have explored

our world in certain ways & these have opened our

eyes to many dimensions of our lives and of theworld we live in.


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Whataremygoals?

HowdoIunderstandwhatisimportantforme?

HowdoIusemyeducation?

WhatamIgoingtodoaftermyeducation?

WhatisSuccess?WhatsitmeantobeSuccessful?

DoIknowwhatIreallywant?MyTrueCalling?

Havingstudiedatschoolandcollegelevels,CanIanswerthesequestions?

InwhateverIhavedonesofar,didIdecidethesethingsformyself,orwasImerelyactingunderexternalinfluences?

Do I understand lifes true meaning?


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Assumed learning to merely be an aid towards finding a job.Making a career, getting a job,summarizes

total purpose of all our education so far!!

Is this why we have been studying??

Is the education of children just about rote, memorization and eventually

Getting plum jobs,

OR. is it possible to have an educational alternative that not only helps

children become thinking individuals but also better human beings

d h h d d


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"The PROBLEM that faces US is the problem of AWAKENING. What we LACK is not an ...ideology

or doctrine that will SAVE the world. What we lack is MINDFULNESS of what we ARE, of what our

situation REALLY is. We need to WAKE UP in order to rediscover our human sovereignty. We are

riding a horse that is running OUT of CONTROL. The way of salvation is a NEW culture in which

human beings are encouraged to REDISCOVER their DEEPEST nature.

~ Thich Nhat Hahn ~

Decode this picture, what does it indicate?


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This basic contradiction has to be resolved

which is the basic cause for our unhappiness.

Let us start a process of dialogue between

What you are and What you really want to be !!!!

What we are today is the result of our pre-conditionings,our predispositions, our impressions and our beliefs.


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Life with family and Friends

Atthesametime,besidesspendingalotoftimeinschool,studying,andpreparingforexaminations-wehavebeenlivingagoodpartofourlivesatourhomeinrelationshipwithourfamilyandourfriends.

Thisnetworkofrelationshipwithourparents,grandparents,oursiblingsandourfriendsisanimportantaspectofourlivesandbringstousalotofSupportandJoy.

Each one of us value the Beauty and Joy of growing up together

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Butmanyatime,theserelationshipsturnunpleasantandwefindourselvesinconflict

withtheotherperson.Atthatpointwebecomeunsureandbegintoblame,criticizethe

otherandsometimesevenourselves.

Sometimes,wearefrustratedatthebehaviorofotherhumanbeingsandevenour

behaviorwithothers.Manyatime,weareatalosstoknowhowtohandlethese

relationshipissuesproperlyanditendsupdisturbingus.

Why does such contradiction happen amongst us

leading to disharmony in our Relationship?

How do we understand relationships?

Is it important to to understand Relationships?

Life with family and Friendscontd.



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Wealsoliveinthemidstofawidevarietyofanimalsandplants.

Thesoilwewalkon,thewaterwedailyconsume,theairwebreathe.

Wemaynotpayattentiontothesethingsaroundallthetime

buttheyneverthelessformanintegralpartofourlives,and

wearerelatedto,anddependentonthem.

Wekeephearingofissuesintheenvironment

andwordslikepollution,deforestation,globaletc.nowadays.

Howdoweinterprettheseissues?Whatroledoweseeourselvesinhelpingtoresolvetheseissues?

LifearoundUs...contd.

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Our relationship with Nature

We have increasing problems of environment degradation, extinctionof various species due to our apathy and callousness, global warming,Deforestation, floods, irregular rain Pattern, and so on.



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The Earth Song


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What I am What I really want to be

Thisisaseriousmatterworthyofourattention.

Whatwehaveassumedarereallytrue


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To enable Human being

To Live A Healthy life..

in Harmony with

Self, Family, Society and Nature

Role of Education:

To Create an Enduring value

To Work for Excellence and not unhealthy competition


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Let us investigate which factors are responsible for our present state

Which does not let us coincide What I am and What I want to be


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We never used education to be empowered to Think Beyond

And

Develop understanding to differentiate between Right and Wrong.


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Beliefs::

1. A corporate job is the best job in the world 2. Money can bring happiness

3. Success is the ultimate thing by hook or by crook

4.If we have enough money, all relatives and friends will respect us

wrong beliefs/ad-hoc values.

Absence of correct understanding of universal value set

leads into


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In the absence of correct understanding of universal human values, we are

Driven by our ad-hoc values and beliefs.

If we look deep into ourselves, we find that each one of us believes in something,and we base our Values on these beliefs, be they false or true which may or maynot be true in reality. For example some one may believe that:

Infinite Money can bring Infinite happiness ???????

Success, Money, is the ultimate thing by hook or by crook ????

If we have enough money, all relatives and friends will respect us ?????

Our life is insignificant and we should remain self-focussed????

It is the world of competition????


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BeliefsHear

See

Parents tell us

Friends talk about

Media says

A whole body of belief-system constitutes our world-view.


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Living our lives based only on beliefs can not ensure Happiness .

Value of one belief system Value of second belief systemcontradi

ction

Conditioned beliefs are not based on

Right understanding and Universal values


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What we really want to be What we actually are

Why are We in this state?---Living with Wrong Assumptions

In Relationships: Wrong assumptions

Living on the basis of that wrong assumption leads to contradictions and disharmony.

Assumptions:

We can become close to someone by being authoritative with them

or taking decisions for them.

By shouting/aggression we can get others round to our point of view.

Respectcanbeelicitedbyspeakinginderogatorymannerwithlowerstaff.

"When we were born, we were programmed PERFECTLY. We had a natural tendency to focus on LOVE. Our


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imaginations were CREATIVE and flourishing, and we KNEW how to use them. We were CONNECTED to a world

much richer than the one we connect to now, a world full of ENCHANTMENT and a sense of the miraculous.

So what happened? Why is it that we reached a certain age, looked around, and the enchantment was GONE?

Because we were TAUGHT to focus elsewhere. We were taught to think UNNATURALLY. We were taught a very BADphilosophy, a way of looking at the world that CONTRADICTS who we are.

We were taught to think thoughts like competition, STRUGGLE, sickness, finite resources, limitation, GUILT, bad,

death, SCARCITY, and loss. We began to think these things, and so we began to KNOW them. We were taught that

things like grades, being good enough, MONEY, and doing things the RIGHT way, are more important than love. We

were taught that we're SEPARATE from other people, that we have to COMPETE to get ahead, that we're not quite

GOOD enough the way we ARE. We were taught to see the WORLD the way that others had come to see it. It's asthough, as soon as we got here, we were given a SLEEPING pill. The THINKING of the world, which is not based on

love, began POUNDING in our ears the moment we hit shore.

LOVE is what we were BORN with. FEAR is what we LEARNED here. The spiritual journey is the relinquishment, or

UNLEARNING, of fear and the ACCEPTANCE of love back into our HEARTS. Love is the ESSENTIAL existential fact. It is

our ultimate reality and our PURPOSE on earth. To be consciously AWARE of it, to experience love in ourselves and

others, is the MEANING of life.

MEANING doesn't lie in things. Meaning lies in US."

~ Marianne Williamson ~


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On daily basis, we are bombarded with hundreds of ads

which mislead us into believing and misconstruing many fakes

Role of media is under scanner for such Mass Brain Wash


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The Question is is it Aloo patty which is going to ensure happiness everyday??


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Catching them young


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Khatey Raho


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OPEN HAPPINESS


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Myths


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E V E N S E E I N G I S N O T B E L I E V I N G


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We have to look at the whole picture from outside the box to find the truth, if we

only concentrate on what we are told and taught then we are blinded by

ignorance.

Buddha


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Existing Assumptions:


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1. Money is central to all human pursuit (Greed is Good)

2. Competition is necessary

3. Unlimited wants- limited resources ( freedom to consume)

4. Time is money

5. Networking, not family, friends

6. Caring and sharing only with a few

7. Survival of the fittest ('Winner Takes All' )

8. Nature to be Conquered

9. Success is a measure of excellence


Towards a New World View (Paradigmatic Shift) Proposed


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1. Needbased conscious consumption

2. Realization & Understanding are the point of departure

3. Existence = Co existence = Relationship of mutual fulfilment

4. Self knowledge (human Being = Self + Body)

5. Primacy of continuity of happiness (Harmony = Happiness)

6. Clarity of goals at every level of existence

7. Relationship ... in mutual fulfillment with all

8. 'Excellence' is understanding harmony in existence and living accordingly

9. Education: Selfexploration of the harmony in existence

10. Relationship with nature : Mutual fulfillment



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Life is Need-basednot Want-based.

Desires have no ends. Simplicity is way of life.

'Legs down to the Earth and Eyes looking beyond the Sky'


Legs down to the Earth

&

Eyes looking beyond the Sky


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PREVAILING NOTIONS OF HAPPINESS & PROSPERITY


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1. By maximizing accumulation and consumption of physical facilities.

accumulation

This is an attempt to achieve happiness through pleasant sensory interactions


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This has resulted in wrong assessment of want for Physical facilities as

being unlimited>>>>>


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being unlimited>>>>>

This pursuit is self-defeating. Neither

can we hope to achieve continuous

happiness through sensory interactions

nor can we have prosperity. This effort

is engendering problems at all thelevels:

It is becoming anti-ecological and anti-

people, and threatening the human

survival itself.

Some of the consequences of such a

trend are summarized: >>>>


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1. At the level of individual ----

Rising problems of depression, psychological disorders,

suicides, stress, insecurity, psychometric diseases, loneliness

.

h l l f l


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2. At the level of Family ------

Breaking of joint families, mistrust, conflict between older and younger

generations, insecurity in relationships, divorce, dowry tortures, family feuds,wasteful expenditures in family functions


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3. At the level of society ---

Growing incidences of terrorism, naxalism and communalism

racial & ethnic struggle, genocide, fear of nuclear and generic warfare, etc.


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4. At the level of nature ---

Global warming, water, soil, noise etc. pollution, Resource depletion of

minerals, and mineral oils, sizeable deforestations, loss of fertility of soil.


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It is therefore, calls for an urgent need for human beings

to correctly understand Happiness and Prosperity as well

as the sustainable way to achieve these.

U n d e r s t a n d i n g t h e H u m a n


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B e i n g a s C o - e x i s t e n c e

o f

S e l f ( I )

a n d

B o d y


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Human Being is more than just the Body

Human Being

Body Alive-ness( I )

In co-existence with


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RELATIONSHIPS

with human beings

and Nature

PHYSICAL FACILITIES

with rest of nature

RIGHT UNDERSTANDINGin the self

MUTUAL HAPPINESS MUTUAL PROSPERITY

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For human beings:

necessary but

not complete

For animals:necessary &

complete


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RELATIONSHIPS

with human beingsPHYSICAL FACILITIES

with rest of nature

RIGHT UNDERSTANDINGin the self

MUTUAL HAPPINESS MUTUAL PROSPERITY

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Human Consciousness

Animal Consciousness

Transfo

rmation

Pro

gress

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2nd Basic Aspiration: Prosperity


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Myth: It is related to material things or physical facilities only (physical concept).

When we are able to cater to our physical needs infinitely, we feel prosperous.

Difference between ..Wealthiness and Prosperity???

Basic needs (line)

prosperity

Shirts in cup borad

Prosper

Wealthy

butNot prosper

Prosperity is a mental concept


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Purpose of education:

Afulfillinglife,inharmonywithoneself,withfamily,societyandnature.

Henceitbecomestheprimaryresponsibility

oftheteachingcommunity/educatorstoenable

theresolutionoftheseissues,sothathumansociety

canachievethecherishedgoalsofpeaceandharmony.


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What do you want to be?

Wealthy or Prosperous


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Desires have no ends. Simplicity is way of life.

'Legs down to the Earth and Eyes looking beyond the Sky'


Legs down to the Earth

&

Eyes looking beyond the Sky


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Lost ring/keeping tigers away LIFE SKILL MANAGEMENT PROGRAM

Proper connectivity at following levels will ensure happiness

Atthehuman(Self)level

Atthehumanrelationshipsinthefamily

Atthehumanrelationshipsinthesociety

Atthelevelofnature

And Prosperitywhich will be ensured by taking the steps in the right direction

Towards achievement of worthy goals and inculcating feeling of richness.


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EXISTENCE ALONE IS NOT SUCCESS!

PROSPERITY

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