life positions in ta
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Berne suggested that the young child, early in the process of script formation already has certain convictions about himself and the people around him. These convictions are likely to stay with him the rest of his life.TRANSCRIPT
Life position
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Life position
• Berne suggested that the
young child, early in the
process of script formation
already has certain
convictions about himself
and the people around him.
• These convictions are likely
to stay with him the rest of
his life.
Life position
• The convictions can be
summarized as follows.
– I am OK or
– I am not OK.
– You are OK or
– You are not OK
Life position
• By putting together in all their
possible combinations, we get
four statements about self and
others.
– I am OK, you are OK.
– I am not OK, you are OK.
– I am OK, you are not OK.
– I am not OK, you are not OK.
Life position• These four views are knows
as life positions. Some writers call them basic positions, existential positions or just positions.
• They represent fundamental stances a person takes up about the essential value he perceives in himself and others. This means more than having an opinion about his own and other people’s behavior.
Life position
• Once the child has adopted
one of these positions, she
is likely to construct all the
rest of her script to fit in
with it.
• Berne wrote: “ Every game,
script and destiny is based
on one of these four basic
patterns”.
Life position
• The child who chooses “I am
OK, you are OK” is likely to
build a winning script.
• He views himself as lovable
and good to have around.
• He decides that his parents
are lovable and trustworthy,
and later extends this view
to people in general.
Life position
• If an infant takes up the
position of “I am not OK, you
are OK”, she is more likely to
write a banal or losing life
story.
• To fit with her basic position,
she will construct her script
round themes of being
victimized and losing out to
others.
Life position• “I am OK, you are not OK” may
form the basis for a script that seems on the face it to be winning.
• But this child will have the conviction that he needs to be one up and put others down.
• He may manage to do this for some of the time, achieving his wants but only with a continual struggle.
• At other times, the people around him will get tired of being one down and reject him.
• Then he will switch from apparent winner to heavy loser.
Life position• The position “I am not OK, you
are not OK” is the most likely foundation for a losing script.
• This child has become convinced that life is futile and full of despair. She views herself as being one down and unlovable.
• She believes no one will help her because they are not OK as well. Thus she will write her script around scenes of rejecting and being rejected.
Origin of Life position• There is some disagreement
among TA practitioners on how life positions originate and at what age.
• Berne believed that the position is taken in early childhood (3-7 years) in order to justify a decision based on early experience.
• For Berne, early decisions come first, and the life position is adopted later in childhood to make the world appear to justify what has been decided.
Origin of Life position• In the view of Claude Steiner, life
position is adopted much earlier.
He sees its origin in the early
months of nursing.
• He suggest that all children begin
in the position I+U+. The child
shifts to another position only if
something interrupts the mutual
interdependence between mother
and the child.
Origin of Life position
• Steiner agrees with Berne in
suggesting that the life
position justifies script
decision.
• But in Steiner’s version, the
life position is adopted first
in time and the decision
come later.
Life position - Definition
“Life position can be defined as one’s
basic belief about self and others, which
are used to justify decisions and
behavior.”
Life position in adulthood – the OK Corral
• Each of us arrives in adulthood having written a script based on one of the four life positions.
• But we don’t stay in that position every hour of the day.
• Minute by minute, we shift between positions.
Life position in adulthood – the OK Corral
• Franklin Ernst had developed a
way of analyzing these shifts.
• He calls it the OK Corral. Ernst
uses the phrase ‘OK with me’
instead of just ‘OK’.
• This helps emphasize that
Okness is a matter of my
conviction about me and my
conviction about you.
Life position in adulthood – the OK Corral
• The vertical axis of the Corral indicates “You are OK” in the upward direction, “You are not OK” going downwards.
• On the horizontal axis, we get ‘I am OK” on the right , ‘I am not OK’ on the left.
• Each of the four quadrants then corresponds to a life position.
Life position in adulthood – the OK Corral
• Franklin Ernst points out that each of the childhood positions is reflected in grown up life by a particular kind of social interaction. He calls this as operation.
• If we get into one of these operations without awareness, from our child ego state, we are likely to create a scripty ‘justification’ for the corresponding life position.
I am OK, you are OK : Get on with
• I have just arrived at my
workplace. In comes the
boss with a stack of papers.
• “Here is the report we have
been waiting for” she says “ I
have marked points for your
action. Will you see to these
and report back, please?”
• “Right” I say “I will do that”.
I am OK, you are OK : Get on with
• In agreeing to the boss’s
request, I have checked with
myself that I am competent
to do what she asks and feel
good about doing it.
• I see her being fair and
reasonable in asking me to
do it.
I am OK, you are OK : Get on with
• Thus I am in the position of “I am OK, you are OK”. In our social interaction, the boss and I are getting one with what we are both there to do.
• Each time I have an interaction from this position, I reinforce my belief that I and others in the world are OK.
I am not OK, you are OK : Get Away From
• I just settled down and opened the report at the first page.
• From the corner of my eye, I see one of my workmate coming to me.
• He wants to spend a lot of time moaning about his work situation, asking my advice and then not taking it.
• I have two options : get into script or respond from Adult.
I am not OK, you are OK : Get Away From
Scripty operation : If I get into script and adopt I-U+ position, I say to myself “ I just cant cope with this fellow’s complaints”. I mumble “Sorry Jim. Have to go out to the bathroom a minute” and make the door. I had to get away from Jim in a scripty way and reinforce my child conviction that I am not OK while others are OK.
I am not OK, you are OK : Get Away From
Adult operation : If I choose to stay in my Adult , I say to myself “ Right now, I am not willing to listen to Jim”. You tell him “ Hey, Jim, that sounds bad. Can’t stop now though. I have got to get down to the library and check some source on this report. Hope you manage to solve your problems”. With Adult awareness, I have chose the operation of getting away from.
I am OK, you are not OK : Get Rid Of
Ten minutes later, I am back in my office with a cup of coffee, well into the report. The door opens again. This time it is my assistant. He looks downcast. He says “ You know that printing job you gave me to set up? I was busy and forgot to get it off. We have missed the printer’s deadline. What do I do?
I am OK, you are not OK : Get Rid OfScripty Operation : I go red in face and snarl at my assistant: “what do you do? I don’t want to hear a word more from you till you have got the job done, understand?”. My heart rate sour and I feel heat under my collar. I say to myself “ Can’t trust anybody”. I have gotten rid of my assistant while creating a justification for believing that I am OK while others are not.
I am OK, you are not OK : Get Rid OfAdult Operation : I reply to my assistant: “Well, it is your job to get his sorted out. Right now I am doing something urgent. So go and find some way of getting this job finished as soon as possible. Come back at four o clock and report to me”. I have gotten rid of my assistant in a way that lets me look after myself and leaves us both OK.
I am not OK, you are not OK : Get Nowhere With
The Phone is rings. It is
my partner calling from
home. “Something awful
has happened. A water
pipe burst and the whole
carpet got soaked before I
could turn the water off!”.
I am not OK, you are not OK : Get Nowhere With
Scripty Operation: I may say to myself : “ I have had enough. I cant take this any longer. And my partner is no help here. It’s hopeless.” I sigh into the phone : “Look, I just can’t take this. It is just too much after the day I have had”. Without waiting for the answer, I hang up the phone. Internally, I have reinforced my view that I and others are not OK.
I am not OK, you are not OK : Get Nowhere With
Adult Operation: Deciding to
stay in Adult, I reply : “ Look,
the harm is done now6. Just
go on hold till I get home.
Then We will see what w6e
can do”. I have chosen the
operation of getting nowhere
with.
Personal change and the OK corral
Though we switch between
the quadrants on the Corral,
we each have one favorite
quadrant where we spend
most of our time while in
script. This will be the one we
decided on in childhood as our
basic position.
Personal change and the OK corral
I am OK, you are OK is the
healthy position, Here, I get
on with living and problem
solving. I act to achieve the
winning outcomes I desire.
This is the only position
based on reality.
Personal change and the OK corral
If my childhood position was I am not OK, you are OK, I am likely to play our my script mainly from the depressive position of feeling one down to others. Unawarely, I will choose my bad feelings and repetitive behavior to confirm that this is my rightful position in the world
Personal change and the OK corral
An early position of I am OK, you are not OK will mean that I live my script mostly from the defensive position of trying to stay one up on others. Those around me are likely to experience me as overbearing, insensitive and aggressive. This is paranoid position and corresponds to the psychiatric diagnosis of character disorder.
Personal change and the OK corral
If I look up basic position of I am not OK, you are not OK as an infant, my script will be played through principally from the futility position. Here I am believing that the world and others are no good, and neither am I . If I wrote a banal script, my pattern will be to get nowhere with most of the things I set out to do in life.
Personal change and the OK corral
The process of change often entails a movement through the Corral in a specific sequence. If the person starts off by spending most of time in I-U-, her next move is likely to be into I+U-. After some time, with that as her most important quadrant, she will shift to I-U+. The final goal is to increase the time spend in I+U+ until it becomes the favorite position.
Personal change and the OK corral
It may seem strange that people often need to shift through I-U+ in order to get from I+U- to I+U+. But the experience of therapy shows that I+U- is often a defense against I-U+. The infant who concluded I am OK and all others are not OK took up that position to defend against the painful realization of being one down and powerless in the face of her parents.
Activity
Draw the axis of OK Corral and
label the quadrants. Now draw
an enclosure on the axes to
show how much time you
spend in each quadrant during
an average day. Franklin Ernst
called this picture
Corralogram.
Activity• What are the circumstances
in which you are likely to get into each quadrant? What do you typically do and say, and how do you feel, when you are in each one?
• What ego states do you come from in each quadrant? (Use functional model). What ego states are you inviting in others?
Activity• What kind of strokes do you give
and get in each quadrant?• Now that you have drawn the
corralogram, is there anything you want to change about it?
• If you do want to make changes, think how you could choose any of the four Adult operations to use instead of getting into scripty responses.
• Decide on at least one occasion when you will test out an Adult operation in the coming week, and do it.
Thank You
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