Isma’ inqas u saħħaħ iż-żwieġ tiegħek Le, din mhix xi ċajta ta’ bejn l-irġiel. Irrid ngħid,

isma’ inqas minn dawk il-ħsejjes ta’ madwarek

li ma jsaħħux iż-żwieġ tiegħek. Il-kelma

“tisma’” tfisser li wieħed jagħti attenzjoni jew

jinnota u jaġixxi fuq dak li jisma’.

Illum aħna bbumbardjati minn ħsejjes li

probabbli mhux ser isaħħu ż-żwieġ tagħna.

Filwaqt li xi wħud idgħajfu ż-żwieġ b’mod

dirett, oħrajn għalkemm ma jkunux ħżiena

minnhom infushom jistgħu jkunu ta' ostaklu

sinifikanti għal-ħajja miżżewġa.

Ħsejjes ta’ tfixkil

X’jistgħu jkun dawn il-ħsejjes ta’ tfixkil? Hawn xi ftit eżempji: televixin, radju, midja soċjali, l-

internet, ħbieb, familja, irqad eċċessiv, xogħol, tfal, passatempi u vizzji oħra.

Għandna nkunu konxji ta’ dak li qed jokkupa l-parti l-kbira tal-attenzjoni tagħna, u

nikkunsidraw x’effett qed ikollu fuq iż-żwieġ u l-familja. Jekk dawn m’humiex qed

jikkontribwixxu biex insaħħu ż-żwieġ u l-familja tagħna, għandna nwarrbuhom u nqattgħu

aktar ħin nisimgħu dawk il-ħsejjes li jistgħu jmexxu ż-żwieġ tagħna ‘l quddiem.

Importanti li nammettu li wieħed ma jistax sempliċiment jieqaf jisma’ l-ħsejjes li jfixklu ... trid

tibdilhom bi ħsejjes oħra li jkunu ta’ għajnuna fiż-żwieġ tiegħek.

Intom tinsabu distratti?

Ġesù qal lil Martha (Luqa 10:41-42) “Marta, int anzjuża u mifxula dwar ħafna affarijiet. Iżda

ftit affarijiet huma meħtieġa, ...”. Inti u żewġek jew martek tinsabu distratti minn ħafna

affarijiet, anke jekk forsi dawn huma tajbin fihom infushom?

Poġġu l-affarijiet kollha fil-post xieraq tagħhom. Wara r-relazzjoni ma’ Alla, tiġi r-relazzjoni ta’

bejnietkom, u mbagħad dik mat-tfal. Hekk issaħħu ż-żwieġ u l-familja tagħkom.

Addattat minn artiklu bit-titlu “4 Ways to Make Your Marriage Marvellous” li jinsab fuq www.marriageworks.us

Leħen Familji Nsara Ġunju 2014 ● Ħarġa Nru 20 Kummissjoni Familja Naxxar

żuru l-webpage tal-Kummissjoni Familja Naxxar Għafas hawn biex tmur fil-paġna ● e-mail: familjiflimkien@gmail.com

Merħba Ħbieb!

Merħba għall-ħarġa ta’ Ġunju tan-newsletter tagħna. F’Mejju, il-

laqgħa ta’ formazzjoni kienet dwar x'qed jistennew uliedna minn

għandna fiż-żminijiet tallum. Il-kelliem, is-Sur Carmel Callus (Superjur

tal-MUSEUM tas-subien tan-Naxxar), qasam magħna bosta ideat

prattiċi u ta’ għajnuna. Fosthom semmielna s-sit

elettroniku www.kellimni.com, proġett bejn SOS Malta, is-Salesjani u

Appoġġ. Din toffri għajnuna għat-tfal u żgħażagħ permezz tal-

internet. Il-ġenituri jistgħu jużawha biex jinfurmaw ruħhom fuq

diversi aspetti taż-żgħożija bħal: l-abbuż, peer pressure, kif ukoll il-

komunikazzjoni mal-ġenituri, anke permezz ta’ filmati qosra.

żuru l-webpage tal-Kummissjoni Familja Naxxar Għafas hawn biex tmur fil-paġna ● e-mail: familjiflimkien@gmail.com

Marriage Isn’t For You

Having been married only a year and a half,

I have come to the conclusion that marriage

is not for me.

The nearer I approached the decision to

marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing

fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right

choice? Would she make me happy?

Then, one fateful night, I shared my concerns

with my dad. With a knowing smile he said,

“Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m

going to make this really simple: marriage

isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make

yourself happy, you marry to make someone

else happy. More than that, your marriage

isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family.

Who do you want to help you raise your

children? Who do you want to

influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s

not about you. Marriage is about the person

you will marry.”

It was in that very moment that I knew that

Kim was the right person for me. I realized

that I wanted to make her happy; to

see her smile every day, to make her laugh

every day. And thinking back on all the

times I had seen her play with my nieces, I

knew that she was the one with whom I

wanted to build our own family.

The Walmart philosophy

My father’s advice was both shocking and

revelatory. It went against the grain of

today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it

doesn’t make you happy, you can take it

back and get a new one.

doesn’t make you happy, you can take it

back and get a new one.

A true marriage and true love is never

about you. It’s about the person you love -

their wants, their needs, their hopes, and

their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s

in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I

give?”

Some time ago, my wife showed me what it

means to love selflessly. For many months,

my heart had been hardening with a

mixture of fear and resentment. Then, after

the pressure had built up to where neither of

us could stand it, emotions erupted. I was

callous and selfish. Instead of matching my

selfishness, Kim showed an outpouring

of love. Laying aside all of the pain and

anguish I had caused her, she lovingly took

me in her arms and soothed my soul.

I realized that I had forgotten my dad’s

advice. While Kim’s side of the marriage

had been to love me, my side of the

marriage had become all about me. This

awful realisation brought me to tears, and I

promised my wife that I would try to be

better.

No true relationship of love is for you

To all who are reading this - married, almost

married, single, or even the sworn bachelor

or bachelorette - I want you to know that

marriage isn’t for you. No true relationship of

love is for you. Love is about the person you

love. And, the more you truly

love that person, the more love you receive.

Truly, love and marriage isn’t for you. It’s for

others. Adapted from an article by Seith Adam Smith at

http://sethadamsmith.com/

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