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Globally recognised as ‘the man inspiring millions,’

Kevin Abdulrahman is an international author, inspirational speaker, sought after ‘mind nutrition’ expert and a mind coach to the elite.

His primary focus is to help individuals, teams and organisations attain a winning mind which in turn helps increase leadership, focus, cohesion to excel as a team, and productivity – which all in turn results in an increase of their bottom line.

Kevin’s book Winning The Game of Life is being translated and distributed in several languages around the world, including Arabic – due to be released by one of the largest Arabic book publishers in 2010.

Winning The Game of Life has received a host of support from fellow industry giants such as Dr. Denis Waitley – best selling author of The Psychology of Winning and a teacher of the mega-selling book, The Secret.

In an exclusive to Men’s Style, Kevin will be contributing regularly to spread the word of positive thinking and how to avoid pitfalls in today’s ugly economy.

Celebs detox to look good for a movie role but what can regular people do to help further their careers? Author Kevin Abdulrahman explains to Manila Chansmouth how to control your brain’s nutrition.

Detox your

brainLet’s start with a challenge:

See if you relate to any of the following statements. I want you to be honest with yourself. Each answer is a simple yes or no in your head.

You are content with your life but realize that you have the potential to achieve more.

You work hard, but you are not living the ideal life you always envisaged.

You work hard, and yet, your family is not getting the best of you.

You spend many days of the week frustrated with yourself.

Bluntly speaking, there could be more to your life than the one you are currently living.

You have realized it is time to play a smarter game.

You understand that it is insane to keep on doing the same things and expect a different result.

You are willing to do whatever it takes to win the game of life.

If your answer is yes to most of these statements, you are not alone. Most people feel like they are giving it their best but the best results are simply not there. Would you like to take your life from a state of chaos to a state of euphoria and success? A place of lasting happiness and fulfi lment?

IF you say yes, who are you expecting to change your situation?

It’s time to make a smart move. It is time for you to take control!!

Making it happen

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Successful people in all fields have acquired and mastered a vital secret weapon- taking control of their lives.

They don’t just do this during the good times; they take control all the time. If something good happens in their life, they know it is because of their direct efforts and actions. In contrast, if things don’t go as planned, they know that the finger points only to them.

Mastering this weapon means that there is no finger pointing at anyone but the person in control – you. Most people are quick to mention their contribution when something goes according to plan but they’re also the first to point fingers when things go wrong.

Those people are far from successful.

Successful people take ownership of the decisions they make; good and bad.

No one will ever want success for you more than you. People who live their life thinking that family, friends or strangers will someday give them what they want in life are delusional. Face it. You have a better chance of winning the lottery.

You are the only person who can control your life. If things are not going according to plan, change the plan. For things to change, you must change. For your results to change,

you must change what you are doing or how you are doing it. Ultimately, making a change is in your control.

Be ready, though. This does come at a cost, but that should be the least of your worries. The big concern should be the price you are currently paying by NOT taking control.

Either way, you will pay the price. You might as well choose to pay the right price and live the life you deserve. Take control.

If life was a video game, who holds the controller?

You are in complete control of your life. Sure, there are challenges flying at you, but only you are in control of the maneuvers.

Moving back, forward, up, down, or sideways, it’s all up to you. You can jump, stand still, or roll over. If you don’t like where you are in the game, then you move forward. If you stand still whilst in a combat zone, you will be killed.

You are in charge of defending yourself and moving ahead in the game. The end of the game will not come to you. You must get to the end.

You will get scared, hit, be defeated on occasion but you will survive and move forward. You are the person in control.

Taking control applies to every aspect of your life.

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Here are a few situations where many don’t practice taking control. See if any apply to you:

You wake up in the morning and, just as you decide to have a good day, you check the mailbox. Wham! There are five bills to pay, two of which are unexpected and rather large. You spend the rest of the day depressed.

You have a business appointment with a client who has agreed to make a purchase. An hour before your meeting, you get a call from your client informing you that he or she no longer will proceed with the purchase. You spend the rest of the day resentful.

You are on your way home, and the person in front of you cuts you off. You get angry and let out a few words that come from the school of frustration. You spend the rest of the day angry and annoyed.

If you answered mostly ‘yes’ to those, read on.

There are two types of people in this world—those who are controlled by their environment and those who control their environment.

The second group are the successful people. Successful people know how to take control of their environment, never letting others dictate what they do or, more importantly, how they feel.

Does your environment control you? Or do you control your environment?

Most people live life in reaction to the events and circumstances that surround them. People let their environment or circumstances dictate what, when and where they do what they do. This even affects the way they think, feel, and act.

Rather than simply reacting, look at living life based on your desires and requirements. Act based upon focusing on what you want in and the steps to

achieve it. People who are distracted by everything happening in their surroundings do not excel because they are so caught up with insignificant events.

Many people behave in a reactionary way to changes that occur in their life. They spend countless hours, days, weeks, even years dwelling on past events. Their time and energy is ill-spent.

These are the people that while driving on the highway, focus on the bugs hitting their windshield rather than the sights along the road they are travelling on.

Incidents happen all the time. Think of them as the bugs that hit your windshield. Splat! Turn on the wipers and keep driving. The key is to simply take control of the wheel and look beyond the bugs to the road ahead.

This doesn’t mean that you deny the

fact that unexpected things happen. Work on being in complete control as you come across challenging circumstances in life. It may be daunting at first, just like taking your first baby steps, but have you thought about walking lately? Very quickly, new skills become natural. Taking control should be your new skill.

The game of life must be played one way and one way only—on the offense.

Always be one step ahead of the game if you want to win. If you are going to play on the defense, you will end up watching things happen.

Successful people always make their moves and pre-empt the surrounding moves of other people and of circumstances. Playing defense will never get you the results you want.

Play the game on the offense and account for your surrounding moves in advance. Again, this will come with practice. The more you do this, the easier it will become.

If you truly learn to take control, you will be the first to forgive in any situation. You will be the first to admit your mistakes. You will be the first to make a move on a sale or sign a business deal. You will be the first to show kindness. You will create the energy and motion for others to follow.