it’s all about me! my responsibility in building strong relationships

It’s All About MeIt’s All About MeMy Responsibility in Building My Responsibility in Building Strong Working RelationshipsStrong Working Relationships

Cooperative Extension Statewide Conference: Cooperative Extension Statewide Conference:

Connections and EngagementConnections and Engagement

Amber Rehberg, 4-H Youth Development Program CoordinatorAmber Rehberg, 4-H Youth Development Program Coordinator

Sarah Tarjeson, 4-H Youth Development EducatorSarah Tarjeson, 4-H Youth Development Educator

UW-Extension Sheboygan County UW-Extension Sheboygan County

5 Characteristics of 5 Characteristics of Effective RelationshipsEffective Relationships

1.1. Respect: The foundation of all Respect: The foundation of all relationships is respect in which relationships is respect in which value is placed on the other personvalue is placed on the other person


1.1. RespectRespect

2.2. Shared Experiences: The Shared Experiences: The connectedness that develops connectedness that develops relationships grows through shared relationships grows through shared experiences over time experiences over time


1.1. RespectRespect

2.2. Shared ExperiencesShared Experiences

3.3. Trust: Develops through respect Trust: Develops through respect and shared experiences over time. and shared experiences over time.


1.1. RespectRespect


3.3. TrustTrust

4.4. Reciprocity: Give-and-take Reciprocity: Give-and-take regarding the ability to look out for regarding the ability to look out for each other and see that others each other and see that others needs are being met.needs are being met.


1.1. RespectRespect


3.3. TrustTrust

4.4. ReciprocityReciprocity

5.5. Mutual Enjoyment: Experiences Mutual Enjoyment: Experiences satisfaction from working together, satisfaction from working together, even through unpleasant taskseven through unpleasant tasks


Respect (orange)Respect (orange)

Shared Experiences (yellow)Shared Experiences (yellow)

Trust (pink)Trust (pink)

Reciprocity (purple)Reciprocity (purple)

Mutual Enjoyment (green)Mutual Enjoyment (green)

Indicator BrainstormingIndicator Brainstorming

What would you see happening?What would you see happening? What would you hear?What would you hear? What would the environment look What would the environment look

like?like? What does it feel like?What does it feel like?

It’s just not working . . .It’s just not working . . .

Respect > Shared ExperiencesRespect > Shared Experiences

Shared Experiences > TrustShared Experiences > Trust

Trust > Mutual EnjoymentTrust > Mutual Enjoyment

Reciprocity > RespectReciprocity > Respect

Mutual Enjoyment > ReciprocityMutual Enjoyment > Reciprocity

Indicator BrainstormingIndicator Brainstorming

What would you see happening?What would you see happening? What would you hear?What would you hear? What would the environment look What would the environment look

like?like? What does it feel like?What does it feel like?

It’s All About Me!It’s All About Me!

It’s All About Me…It’s All About Me…Strategies for Building Strategies for Building Effective RelationshipsEffective Relationships

Assess RelationshipAssess Relationship


Assess RelationshipAssess Relationship Recognize Strengths/Reframe Recognize Strengths/Reframe

DeficitsDeficits



DeficitsDeficits Acknowledge NeedsAcknowledge Needs



DeficitsDeficits Acknowledge NeedsAcknowledge Needs Open CommunicationOpen Communication



DeficitsDeficits Acknowledge NeedsAcknowledge Needs Open CommunicationOpen Communication Create BoundariesCreate Boundaries

It’s All About MeIt’s All About Me

My Responsibility in Building My Responsibility in Building Strong Working RelationshipsStrong Working Relationships

Resources: Resources: Maxwell, J. (2004). Relationships 101: Maxwell, J. (2004). Relationships 101:

What Every Leader Needs to KnowWhat Every Leader Needs to Know. Nelson . Nelson BusinessBusiness

Buckingham, M., Clifton, D. (January 2001). Buckingham, M., Clifton, D. (January 2001). Now Discover Your Strengths. Free PressNow Discover Your Strengths. Free Press

Covey, S. (2004). The Seven Habits of Covey, S. (2004). The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change. Free Press 15 Anv. Ed.in Personal Change. Free Press 15 Anv. Ed.

Patterson, K., Grenny, K., McMillan, K., Patterson, K., Grenny, K., McMillan, K., Switzler, A., Covey, S. (2003). Crucial Switzler, A., Covey, S. (2003). Crucial Conversations: Conversations: Tools for Talking When the Tools for Talking When the Stakes are High.Stakes are High. American Media American Media

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